Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better (updated with two new chapters)

This book really challenged me and blessed me. Plus it was easy to listen to. I don't love Christian books that are overly preachy or academic so this book was an easy favorite because it felt like the author was having a conversation with you instead of preaching to you.

Radical, reorients those constantly having to forgive the same people. Comical and light approach is refreshing.

I loved it, very thought provoking. There were some parts that rubbed me wrong but I genuinely believe that's because there's heart work to be done within me

What a wonderful perspective.
I happened upon this book after I felt God telling me to forgive in advance.
This was a step forward.
Thank you.
Well written.
Well read.
I love the dry sarcastic humor.

What an amazing book. Brant laces his work with the kind of humor that does not take away from the weighty things he discusses - I thoroughly enjoyed this book.

Wow, this book was such a joy and challenge to listen to. I laughed, I cried, felt convicted of sinful attitudes and was reminded in very powerful ways of the inconceivable wonder of God's grace and the amazing love of Jesus.

Phenomenal book. Impacted me greatly. I recommend it to everyone I know.

I love this book! The relational style in which it written is perfect. The way that the author continually makes the case for being unoffendable is powerful but yet never comes across self righteous. He often shares his own struggles in this area. In a lot of ways this concept has revolutionized my heart in the way I look at things and it has called me to a deeper trust in God. A phenomenal book, a very easy read, but challenging to the core.

Definitely makes you think about how you look and think and talk to people around you

Definitely worth the read! Definitely will be relistening to it as well!

So, I'm not even religious, really, but this really hits home for me. The idea of giving up the right to be offended immediately sounded like such an excellent way to quit being miserable. I'm thinking about buying a physical copy so that I can reference this book more readily. It's tiny but packed.

Thank you for writing the book unfundable. You’re right it help me to just let go of things that offended me. As a Christian it makes me think of living as Christ, not that I’m Christ. I’m far from it but it gives me hope. Thank you.
I’m passing the book along in hopes that it may help a few others

Wow what a wonderful book thank you Author great job #lotsoflove

This book is a must read! It is life changing!

I found this book very helpful, particularly the Ch he didn't want to write

Great great audiobook I Love Brent Hanson Boo!! Keep up the good work Brent

What a powerful message, if I could, we could live like this - the world would be a better place.

This book was life-changing for me. Brant's humility and humor make it bearable to hear the truths about anger that we try so hard to ignore. Even if you don't agree with every point, this book is still a must read!

This is a book everyone should read. I will definitely reread.

This is a great book. I'll listen again some time, and I highly recommend it!

“Life changing” is so overused but truly this book WILL.CHANGE.YOUR.LIFE if you let it…. So unbelievably funny, honest, refreshing, and TRUE. thankful thankful thankful to the Lord that he allowed me and my husband to find this book/ author 5 years ago because now we read it (listen to it) over and over again and it continues to bless our marriage and family and relationship(s) with Christ as we live freely completely different from our anxious, depressed, angry world. Thank you Lord!

Worth reading and rereading regularly. The revised edition has some good bonus content.

Mr Hansen, I listened to this book twice and am about to go back for thirds. So grateful that God used you to address this as I have lived so much of my life offended. God has helped me realize who He made me to be, and being able to forgive and be unoffendable is integral to that. This book helped me see it in a real and practical way. I love that you handle this topic in such a down to earth way, like talking to a friend.

This is such a refreshing call to forgiveness! Brant has a friendly way of getting in the back door of your thinking and flipping what you thought was right on its head, and he really loves Jesus which is the best part.

With a dedication like, "To all those who want grace for themselves but struggle to extend it to others. Wait: that's everybody." I wasn't quite sure what to expect. But with each turn of the page, I enjoyed Brant's storytelling and how he shared what living an unoffendable life looks like and why we should be living that way. I was very introspective and reflective as I read, even going as far as challenging myself t recognize the areas where I was being offended and then flip the script to be unoffended. Now that I've finished, I'm very much a believer that everyone should read this book. I am very excited to reread this book again one day.

Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better by Brant Hansen is very highly recommended life changing book. Today I am choosing to not be offended.

Hansen, in a very accessible, conversational style full of self-deprecating humor, draws the attention of Christians to a Biblical truth that we may be ignoring. We need to deliberately choose to not be angry, even righteous anger, and not take offense. We need to take a step forward in our faith and walk with God and choose to be unoffendable.

Hansen writes, "Not only can we choose to be unoffendable; we should choose that. We should forfeit our right to be offended. That means forfeiting our right to hold on to anger. When we do this, we’ll be making a sacrifice that’s very pleasing to God. It strikes at our very pride. It forces us not only to think about humility, but to actually be humble."

As humans we actually like to be angry. Anger offers us a sense of moral superiority. The problem is when anger takes up residence in our hearts. We need to do what Dr. Martin Luther King recommended: "recognize injustice, grieve it, and act against it - but without rage, without malice, and without anger." Learning to let things go, not take offense, not make it personal, is the biggest hurdle we face. Often whatever we are scandalized over or upset about doesn't even have anything to do with us; it's someone else's behavior.

If we can manage to not be offended and keep a mindset of gratitude life will go much better for us. "Because that’s the thing about gratitude and anger: They can’t coexist. It’s one or the other. One drains the very life from you. The other fills your life with wonder. Choose wisely." And if you are constantly being offended it might be time to honestly evaluate your inflamed ego. If you can have an attitude of gratitude and humility, you will quite naturally be less easily offended.

Hansen summarizes that, "Choosing to be unoffendable means choosing to be humble. Not only that, the practice teaches humility. Once you’ve decided you can’t control other people; once you’ve reconciled yourself to the fact that the world, and its people, are broken; once you’ve realized your own moral failure before God; once you’ve abandoned the idea that your significance comes from anything other than God, you’re growing in humility, and that’s exactly where God wants us all." "When we surrender our perceived “rights,” when we let go of our attempts to manipulate, we find—surprise!—joy." And wouldn't anyone choose joy over being angry and offended all the time?

This would be an excellent resource for a small group study or any individual who wants to break the easy-to-take-offense cycle that seems so common today. And, although this is firmly a Christian book, the world at large could do with a dose of being unoffendable. This is an eye-opening look at something most Christians know at some level but need to take that knowledge to heart. It's time to be unoffendable and acknowledge that God is in charge.

Disclosure: My Kindle edition was courtesy of Thomas Nelson Publishers for review purposes.