Understanding Emotional Healing: Experiencing Freedom by Changing Our Perception!

Chapter 1:

What is Emotional Healing?

True emotional healing is seeing things from God’s point of view, and allowing God to heal any wounds of the heart that are keeping us from trusting Him. To do this, we need to start where people are, not where we want them to be.

Emotional healing is taking an honest look at what is going on in a person’s heart.

• What are the things that are happening to us that should never happen to anyone?

• What are the things that we are not receiving that everyone needs?

• How am I being influenced in my life?

• How can we process life from the heart rather than being stuck in the mind?

• Why is it important to engage our heart rather than just live from the mind?

• What are the unanswered questions that are going on in the heart?

Four basic areas to address in order for healing to happen:

• Sin needs to be repented of

• Lies need to be replaced with truth

• Demons need to be cast out

• Wounds need to be healed

Things That Should Never Happen to Anyone

Unfortunately many people suffer from abuse or pressure patterns in their life. Abuse can happen in many different ways. Some examples of abuse are:

• Physical abuse

• Emotional abuse

• Verbal abuse

• Psychological abuse

• Sexual abuse

• Spiritual abuse

• Spousal abuse

What is abuse? It is when a person in a relationship uses a pattern of behaviors to control the other person.

Abuse is when someone is:

• Pushing, hitting, slapping, choking, kicking, or biting

• Shaking, burning, pinching, throwing, or beating

• Inflicting actions that cause physical injury, leave marks, or cause pain

• Threatening you, your children, other family members, or pets

• Threatening suicide to get you to do something

• Using or threatening to use a weapon against you

• Using finances to manipulate and control

• Putting you down or making you feel bad

• Using guilt trips, humiliation, intimidation, or mind games

• Name-calling, making threats, or yelling

• Forcing you to have sex, or to do sexual acts that you do not want, like, understand, or that are wrong

• Keeping you from seeing your friends, family, or from going to work

Some people have trouble recognizing when they are being abused. A person might think that is just the way things are and that there’s nothing that can be done.

Sometimes abusers will convince the person being abused that it is their fault that they are being abused. Sometimes abusers manipulate those that they are abusing by telling them that they did something wrong, or asked for it.

Keeping the abuse a secret doesn’t protect anyone from being abused – it only makes it more likely that the abuse will continue (to others if not to you.)

What are pressure patterns? It is the pressure that is put on someone to perform, in order to get the acceptance and affirmation that is needed for survival.

Most of us have not been loved according to who we are, but we’ve been loved according to what we can perform or do.

Things Often Withheld That Everyone Needs

Many people have never heard their father say, I love you. Because of this, they may have a hard time trusting God. We were designed by God to receive love freely and to give it away. If this action is hindered in our lives, we will have a hard time trusting God, others, and even ourselves.

Every living person needs:

• Affirmation

• Attention

• Affection

• Love

• Acceptance

• Power

• Fun

• Freedom

• To belong

A person who can get his needs met directly from God will experience the ultimate freedom. Until this can happen, it is important for us to be able to supply this to our children, and to those who have been extremely hurt and traumatized when they were children.

Separating the Person from the Influence

Many people believe that there are three influences in our life. God’s kingdom, the devil’s kingdom, and ourselves.

We believe there are only two influences¹, God’s kingdom, and the devil’s kingdom. We always come into agreement with one or the other of these two influences.

If the Spirit of God is working in us, we will be influenced by the Holy Spirit and will manifest good fruit².

If the enemy is working in us, we will be influenced by demonic forces and fleshly desires³ and will manifest evil fruit.

We are created in God’s image but we do things according to which spirit influences us.

Processing from the Heart Vs. the Mind

The heart processes information many times faster than the mind. However, many people have their heart shut down and are trying to figure life out from their brain. This can be the cause of much stress, confusion, and frustration, etc.

Our hearts are designed for relationship. It is impossible to have a relationship without engaging the heart. This is why it is so important to trust in the Lord with all our heart, and lean not on our own mind (understanding⁴).

Emotional pain is always caused by unanswered questions of the heart. These questions are usually connected to personal identity questions.

In order to open up the heart, it is necessary to be willing to take an honest look at the questions of the heart and to be willing to address any blockages or hindrances that prevent the flow of healing.

Remember, love opens up a heart⁵, and the truth will make you free⁶.

Chapter 2:

Identity

Every emotional issue is connected to an identity question. These are questions such as Who am I?, Why am I here?, Where am I going?, and Who cares?.

Our true identity is exactly who God says we are. The enemy comes in and tries to make us believe that we are something we are not. This causes a lot of problems and allows the enemy to put things on our lives, based on our own belief system in the wrong identity.

It is important to resolve these identity questions and to reconcile them with God.

Who Am I

We are who we are because of who God made us and what Jesus did, not because of what we can do. This is the reason we are called human beings, and not human doings. If we get that in order, we don’t have to worry about who we are. We can love each other for who God made us to be.

We are spiritual beings. We are invisible spiritual beings.

What you see here is not me, it is a vehicle that I get around in. It is my earth suit. When we go to space, we need a spacesuit. To live here on earth, we need an earth suit.

It is easy for us to get focused on the vehicle, instead of the person. We can get focused on how things look, or how people act, instead of who people are.

There are very few people who, as little children, were loved exactly for who they were. To really fully experience love, we have to experience love for who we are, not because of what we did or didn’t do. We are loved because we were made in God’s image. For example, God so loved the world...⁷

I am persuaded⁸ that neither life, nor death, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, can separate us from the love of God.

If we are running from God, we can never run anywhere that He can’t find us. We can love people, whether they want it or not. God is everywhere, and perfect love casts out all fear.

Perfect love is not only an experience, because it is actually a spirit. For God has not given us the spirit ⁹ of fear, but the Spirit of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

The mental institutes are full of people who do not have a sound mind. The way we understand this is they have a spirit of fear.

We were working at a faith based program where people had to go through counseling to get evaluated before they could receive the free medication provided by this program.

A man came in to participate in the program. He was upset because we were in the room ready to counsel him, instead of the doctor that he was expecting.

We asked him a few questions, but he was not interested in being counseled. He only wanted to see a psychiatrist and receive his medications. He tried to intimidate us by saying, Don’t ask me questions. It makes me want to kill somebody.

We knew that if someone is angry, they are fearful, and perfect love will cast out all fear. Anger is always an attempt to keep others away from our pain.

This guy actually looked like he wanted to kill somebody. We asked him, What is your fear? What are you afraid of?

He emphatically said, I'm not afraid of anything.

We knew by him saying, I'm not afraid of anything, he turned the valve off to his fear.

Then we asked him, Why won't you answer our questions?

He said, I'll answer your questions.

We were then able to talk with him, and connect with his heart, and within a few minutes he connected to his own heart and started to cry. He was set free that day. In a matter of a few minutes, he went from wanting to kill us, to crying.

A few weeks later we met him again and he was a completely different person.

The secret to setting him free was to get him to connect with his heart and identify his agreements with the enemy.

We then got him to break his agreements with the enemy, and to come into agreement with God, and be willing to do things God’s way.

Jesus died on the cross so that the whole world could be saved. Our mission on earth is to help people to break their agreements with the devil, help them to receive what Jesus died and paid for, help them to trust God, come into agreement with Him, and live their life according to God’s plan for them.

Why Am I Here

Our general purpose in life is to establish the Kingdom of God here on earth, and to influence earth with the culture of Heaven. We are to do this by displaying the fruit ¹⁰ of the Spirit, and by demonstrating the gifts¹¹ of the Spirit.

God wants to express his glory here on earth. He put us in these earth suits (human bodies), so that when we submit, He can manifest Himself through us and magnify His glory.

When the disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray, he showed them the heart and the purpose of the Father. He taught them to pray for the Father’s Kingdom to come, and the Father’s will to be done, in earth¹² (in us) exactly the same as it is in Heaven.

If God’s Kingdom is to be manifested here on earth as it is in Heaven, that means we need access to His Character and to His Spirit. Jesus came to give us access. He said, "I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life¹³." That means we can be fully alive and live at our full potential here on earth.

On everyone’s tombstone there is a dash (-) between the date they were born, and the date they died. It does not matter how many years they were alive, the dash (-) is the same size.

The dash (-) is the determining factor of what was accomplished in someone’s lifetime. God has a plan for everyone here on the earth, and we have the time between birth and death to accomplish God’s plan and purpose for our life.

If we don’t accomplish the plans and purposes that God has for our life, in the dash (-) of time that we have here on earth, then it will not get done by anybody.

We are called to do specific things, and every person has a unique Godly purpose and plan. Are we going to fulfill that purpose and plan, or will it be unfulfilled when we go to our grave?

The graveyards have a lot of unfulfilled purpose that people took with them to the grave when they died, instead of releasing their God given gift to the world.

We are here to represent God’s people. God is interested in a group of people working together as one. We are to represent God to the world and to other Christians.

In the same way the Father (God) sent Jesus into the world, Jesus is now sending¹⁴ us into the world to represent the Father. We are to represent Father God to everyone we meet, so that the world may know that the Father has sent Jesus, and has loved us the very same way¹⁵ that He loved Jesus.

Where Am I Going

Many people have this question, Where am I going?

Jesus said, "Go ye into all the world¹⁶... He also said, Go ye therefore, and teach all nations¹⁷..."

He did not say, Sit ye in a pew...

Jesus went to prepare a place for us in His Father’s house. When He is ready for us there, He will come to receive¹⁸ us to be with Him.

The purpose of becoming a follower of Jesus is not to go to Heaven. The purpose is to take back ground from the enemy, and re-establish the Kingdom of God while we are still living on earth.

Who Cares

Many people are asking the question, is there anyone who cares about me? Does anyone understand what I struggle with or what I am going through?

Jesus cares about every person and so should His body. If we do not