Should I Get Married? 10 Questions to Answer Before You Say I Do

SHOULD I GET MARRIED? 10 QUESTIONS TO 
ANSWER BEFORE YOU SAY I DO

Jennifer Jessica

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction: Getting Married

1. How Well Do You Communicate?

• Communication Builds or Inhibits Emotional Intimacy

• The Importance of Good Communication Skills for Conflict Resolution

o Poor Conflict Resolution:

- Builds Resentment

- Creates a Me Against You Mentality

- Can Be Dangerous

• Warning Signs

o Criticism

o Stonewalling

o Contempt

o Defensiveness

• Poor Communication Habits to Break

• Good Communication Habits to Develop

• Conclusion: How Well Do You Communicate?

2. Are You Financially Compatible?

• Comparing Credit Histories:

• What Career Goals Do You Have?

• What Are Your Financial Expectations?

• What Are Your Financial Goals As a Couple?

• What Sort of Financial Partnership Do You Envision?

• What is Your Spending History?

• What About Charitable Giving?

• Conclusion: Are You Financially Compatible as a Couple?

3. Do You Work Well Together?

• Household Responsibilities

• Joint Projects

• Level of Sacrifice

• Conclusion: Do You Work Well Together?

4. Are You Sexually Compatible?

• Attraction

• Frequency and Quality of Love-Making

• Are You Normal?

• Can You Improve Your Sex Life?

• Sexual Morals

• What if You Haven’t Had Sex Yet?

• Conclusion: Are You Sexually Compatible?

5. Are You Best Friends?

• Trust

o Signs of Distrust

o Ways to Improve Trust

• Respect

o Signs of Disrespect

o Ways to Improve Respect

• Companionship

o Signs That You Need to Improve Your Companionship Level

o Ways to Build a Healthier Companionship Level

• Emotional Intimacy

o Signs of Distance

o Ways to Improve Emotional Intimacy

• Conclusion: Are You Best Friends

6. Are You Philosophically and Culturally Compatible?

• Religious Perspectives

o Do You Respect Each Other’s Religious Views?

o Are You Okay With Worshipping Separately?

o Will Your Religious Views Affect You in Any Way?

o Will Your Religious Differences Affect Your Families?

• Cultural Expectations

• Political Views

• Conclusion: Are You Philosophically and Culturally Compatible?

7. Do You Share Complementary Goals and Dreams?

• Having Children

o Sooner or Later?

o Just One Please? Or the More the Merrier?

o Identifying Your Parenting Styles

• Career

o Climb the Ladder or Just Pay the Bills?

o Purposeful Employment or Funding Your Passion?

• Family

o Sunday Dinners? Or See You Every Other Christmas?

o Looking Ahead

• Lifestyle

o On the Go? Or on the Front Porch?

o Neat Freak or a Clutter Bug?

o Social Butterfly? Or Only Private Party of Two?

o Do It Yourself or Hire It Out?

o Traditional Goals? Or Out to Change the World?

o Conclusion: Do You Have Complementary Goals and Dreams?

8. Are You Mature Enough to Commit?

• Age

• Character

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