A Woman's Guide to Get Mr. Right Without Being a Doormat

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Dating Secrets Most Women Would Never Know

SpiderLove

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Getting His Attention

How to get him to like you?

How to get his attention?

How to keep his attention?

How to get him really interested in you right off, interested in being with you, and then interested in the long haul, sticking around to get to know you as a woman and as a person?

The main thing about what I’m going to be talking is noticing.

The thing about getting a man to notice you, and feeling compelled to be with you is really about attraction.

The trick though is to get him to be compelled to be with you forever, without you doing any work at all to make it happen.

It is about being strong on the inside and being soft on the outside, is what I call strong surrender. You already have this naturally, because you’re a woman.

Now, I know we really don’t believe that most of the time, but it’s so true. Just because you’re a woman, you’re a magnet, you are a siren. But, the way to unlock that, the big tool chest that I use call strong surrender, strong on the insider, soft on the outside.

So, strong on the inside is like your core confidence. It’s that feeling that you’re centered, you’re grounded, you can do anything, you could say anything, and a man would love you just for who you are as yourself, no matter what.

The soft on the outside is like I’m a melty marshmallow on the outside so a man can reach in and touch my heart. This whole idea of being able to be open on the outside, because I feel so strong on the inside is where this is all about.

Most women are terrible with men. Some of them are like crumb takers. They do not know anything about their own power. Mostly, they do not know anything about men. Basically, they are so clueless, sometimes being in relationships for years with guys where it is all about friends with benefits for them. These women have no idea.

Sometimes men told me they were just friends, but I couldn’t believe that. I thought I could change that. No, they weren’t into me in that way. But, I was so closed up that I had no idea what romance and relationships were about.

You need to begin creating patterns in your my life that may turn into a big tool of yours, which I call circular dating.

So, what happens is, if we start to cave in to all the voices out there on TV, movies, billboards, our friends, and all those voices inside our heads that keep beating us up, telling us we don’t know what we are doing, that we are stupid, that we don’t look right, we don’t act right.

As soon as we start to cave into those voices, what happens is our fears get the better of us. We all have these fears, but the fears start to become more intense, and what happens is they start to cripple us, they start to paralyze us.

Then what happens to us is we do the one thing that is a death blow to love and relationships.

It sort of guaranteed wreckage in your love life. And that is, we shut down.

We close down our feelings.

We close down our hearts.

We shut down our apparatus, and we put the bright smile on when we are feeling angry, and we pretend to be together when we are not, and we do things that we think are going to be great for the relationship, but they don’t work at all, because they are not really us.

So, when we get paralyzed and shut down, we close up our hearts, we are basically cutting off all the connection possible between us and a man, because we have to go first, we have to open up our hearts first.

Asking a man questions about whom he is and what he finds important. That’s not going to help.

Why should he trust us?

Why should he open up his heart?

What makes him want to open up?

What makes him want to open up is when he realizes that you can open up your heart, because you are comfortable with who you are, you are okay with who you are, you are strong on your inside and willing to