What a Narcissist Does at the End of a Relationship: Dealing With and Understanding the Aftermath of a Narcissistic Relationship

Breaking up in normal circumstances is hard enough. If you throw a narcissist into the equation, it makes it all the more difficult. Not only are you left heartbroken from the separation, but the actions and behaviors of the narcissist post-break-up are nothing short of cruel, confusing, and downright crazy-making. You feel like your world has ended and you don’t know how to rebuild it.

Amongst all of the heartache, you’re also left wondering just how your narcissistic ex is feeling about the break-up. Has the narc discarded you and appears to have moved on without so much as a second thought about you? Or did you initiate the break-up, only to find your ex isn’t prepared to let you go that easily? After all, when you break-up with a narcissist, you’re essentially damaging their fragile ego; and they won’t accept that without retaliating cruelly.

Regardless of how the relationship ended, narcissists all tend to behave and react in very similar ways when a relationship ends. Either their frail ego and narcissistic supply have both been shattered, or they’ve discarded you and need to reap the egotistical benefits of that: both ways mean you’ll be the target of their emotional warfare.

This book will explain what the narcissist wants to achieve from their post-break-up behavior, why they act the way they do, and how their premeditated actions are supposed to make you feel and react. By knowing this, you’ll be better prepared to deal with the separation, and you’ll understand exactly why the toxic behavior you’re being exposed to by the narc is directed at you.

I’ve endured the emotional tornado of a break-up with a narcissist, and I know first-hand just how devastating it is. Not only do you need to contend with the mending of your shattered heart, but you also need to deal with the bewildering and distressing mind-games your ex is putting you through.

​Why A Narcissist Discards You: Revisiting The Demise Of The Relationship

A narcissist will always end up discarding you. It doesn’t matter if it’s you that left, or if they left, or how the relationship was severed. Regardless of how it went down, it’s undeniably hard to deal with the realization that the narc can live without you (almost too easily) and doesn’t care how you’re feeling. In fact, not only do they not care about hurting you, they actively strive to do it - they want you to feel low, worthless and pining after them.

Our post-break-up pain comes from their hurtful words and upsetting actions. This includes their complete lack of understanding, zero empathy from them, and no accountability or any remorse for what they’ve done to us. We have to confront the shattering realization that our feelings mean next to nothing to the narc; they may even appear to have nothing but hate for us now, and are acting like they’re hell-bent on completely demolishing us.

I really do feel for you if you’re suffering through the trauma of this. I know that until healing takes place, the heartache and emotional trauma are unspeakable.

Narcissistic Discard - The Heavy Shock Of The Discard

Falling from the pedestal you once were placed upon