Journey through the Storm: Lessons from Musalaha - Ministry of Reconciliation

In a world of division, hostility, anger, and violence, we wonder about and ache for hope. What might hope look like? What would it require? Who are the people who might be hope’s agents? What must they do or not do? Why?

For decades now, Dr. Salim Munayer, Founder and Executive Director of Musalaha, has lived, breathed, and enacted responses to such questions. Not only that, he and those who have joined him have done so in the context of one of most intensely divided and hostile regions in the world. In Palestine, religious, political, social, and economic conflicts are rife and the mood is either hot or hotter.

This collection of essays about reconciliation couldn’t be more important. They are expressions of sobering hope. These writers’ voices and angles of wisdom arise from living into the fierce intersection of layered, protracted conflict, and doing so as ministers of reconciliation.

I urge you to absorb these essays, to pray that you will think carefully and critically about them, and that you will let your life and actions become manifestations of such justice, reconciliation, and hope.

Mark Labberton, PhD

President,

Fuller Theological Seminary, Pasadena, California, USA

This book is essential for any person who is interested in reconciliation, peace-building, and the Palestinian-Israeli conflict. The experience, insight, and reflection of Musalaha is relevant to any context. The concept of stages of reconciliation, which I have used in my teaching and in my personal life, is particularly helpful. Moreover, this book truly challenges us to view the other in a different way, encouraging us to question our identity construction in relation to those around us. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to make a positive change to situations of conflict, be that in the Holy Land or elsewhere.

Shireen Awwad Hilal

Director of Community and Development Outreach,

Bethlehem Bible College, Palestine

The stages of reconciliation addressed in the book have been profoundly transformative in my life. From the initial exhilaration of finding brothers and sisters from the other side, to the frustration and despair of confronting disparate narratives, the experience has been deepening and enriching, while providing a healthy dose of humility. Moreover, I have found a treasure of friends and confidants with whom I share the challenges of living within the tension of both/and rather than either/or. I will go so far as to say that this journey may provide hope for our shared futures. This book is highly recommended.

Rittie Katz, MEd

Life Coach and Author

Teacher, Jerusalem Academy of Music and Dance

Journey through the Storm is a must-read for all who work for reconciliation in our troubled world. Being in the ministry of reconciliation for decades in one of the most critical areas on earth – Israel and Palestine – is a reason in itself to account for God´s blessing. The model which Musalaha developed through the years has proven to be both successful and challenging at the same time. And the experience of Musalaha generates hope at all checkpoints of conflict and war throughout the world. I hope the book will be read by many.

Johannes Reimer, DTh

Director of Peace and Reconciliation Network,

World Evangelical Alliance

Journey Through the Storm

Lessons from Musalaha Ministry of Reconciliation

Edited by

Salim J. Munayer

© 2020 Musalaha Ministry of Reconciliation

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Contents

Cover

Foreword

Preface

1 Introduction to Musalaha: A Conversation

2 An Interview with Salim J. Munayer

3 The Stages of Reconciliation

Stage One: Beginning Relationships

Stage Two: Opening Up

Stage Three: Withdrawal

Stage Four: Reclaiming Identity

Pivotal Point: Who Remains?

Stage Five: Committing and Returning

Stage Six: Taking Steps

Conclusion

Stage One Beginning Relationships

4 Conflict

What Is Conflict?

Intergroup Conflict

From Intergroup Conflict to Intractable Conflict

Conflict Transformation

5 The Voice of Vision

6 The Transformative Power of Conflict

7 Listening

Listening: Tell Me Again, I Want to Hear You

Attending: Try Me Again, I’m Listening

Hearing: I Want to Hear; I Want to Be Heard

Leveling: I Want Equality; I Will Hear You Equally

Risking: I Want to Know You; I Want to Be Known

Caring: I Will Value You as I Want to Be Valued

8 Women’s Narrative: The Art of Listening

Stage Two Opening Up

9 Identity in Conflict and Reconciliation

What Is Identity?

What Are the Main Components of Identity?

Why Is It Important?

Conclusion

10 Mixing Oil and Water: A Messianic Jewish Perspective

11 History and Narrative

What Is History? What Is Narrative?

Elements of Narrative

Bridging the Gap: Narrative and History in Conflict

12 Fellowship: Breaking the Taboo

13 Obstacles to Reconciliation

Ideological Obstacles

Physical Obstacles

Emotional Obstacles

Psychological Obstacles

Conclusion

Stage Three Withdrawal

14 Forgiveness

Understanding Our Complicity in Contributing to the Conflict

Understanding the Function of Hurt and Anger

Intrapsychic/Therapeutic Forgiveness

Intergroup Forgiveness

When Forgiveness Is Not Offered or Accepted

15 Teaching Israelis and Palestinians Forgiveness

16 Fighting the Fear: What Are We So Afraid Of?

17 Vengeance Is Mine? Breaking the Cycle of Violence

18 Healing Brokenness

Stage Four Reclaiming Identity

19 Returning to Identity

Identity in Conflict (or How Conflict Distorts our Identity)

Learning to Embrace the Other

Conclusion

20 Imposing, Expressing, and Enlarging Identity

21 Remembering Rightly

The Importance of Remembering

The Shortcomings of Memory

Redemption in Memory

Truth in Memory

Remembrance and Non-Remembrance

Conclusion

Stage Five Committing and Returning

22 Dealing with Discouragement

Practical Steps for Dealing with Discouragement

Conclusion

23 Patient Hope for Reconciliation

24 Justice from a Biblical Perspective

Biblical Justice: Some Terms

The Attributes of Justice

Justice in the New Testament

Application of Biblical Justice

Stage Six Taking Steps

25 Christian Perspectives on Change: Personal and Societal Change

Personal Transformation and Individual Change

Sociocultural Transformation and Change in Society

God’s Desire for Community Change

Barriers to Change

Practical Inhibitors to Change

Process of Change

26 From Arm-Wrestling to Shaking Hands

Prophecy

Justice

Conclusion

27 The Cross and Reconciliation

The Cross as Atonement for Sin

The Cross as Liberation from Roles of Victim and Oppressor

The Cross as Solidarity with the Human Condition of Suffering

The Cross Changes and Transforms Identity

The Cross Transforms Our Attitude toward the Other

The Cross Creates a New Community

28 Blessing and Cursing

Contributors

Bibliography

About Musalaha

About Langham Partnership

Endnotes

Foreword

In the latter part of 1988, while we were studying together in a program designed to sharpen ministry skills among indigenous leaders, Salim Munayer approached me with the details of a vision he sensed God had given him. As he shared in broad strokes the biblical call for reconciliation between our two conflicted peoples, something resonated deeply. When he asked me to join him in developing the concepts into practical initiatives involving our respective faith communities, my answer was almost an immediate yes! Soon after, Musalaha was brought into being. A basic infrastructure was established with Salim as director, and an equal number of experienced leaders from the Palestinian Christian and Messianic Jewish communities formed a board of oversight. This same model of leadership was to quickly become the hallmark of all Musalaha initiatives.

Twenty-five years ago, the term reconciliation was not a central issue for the local body of Christ. The Arabic and Hebrew speaking communities enjoyed only minimal fellowship with each other. However, the challenges of the First Intifada changed everything[1] – young Messianic servicemen were embroiled in the civil unrest, and young Palestinian Christians, suffering the frustrations and indignities of checkpoints and military occupation, became involved in the resistance. The polarization between the two groups deepened, and Jesus’s call to his body for unity became more and more urgent.

Musalaha responded with desert encounters – first bringing together young adults from both sides, and then older, experienced ministry leadership, both men and women. Stepping out of the comfort and safety of our homes, the harsh environment of the desert became our classroom where we faced one another (often for the first time) on level ground. These early days presented a very steep learning curve for us all as we learned to worship, study, and pray together, forming the relationships that would become a vital basis for the manifold ministries that Musalaha now represents.

The desert encounters, lasting three to five days, and the various seminars held during those first years would hone our skills at providing a safe environment where these new relationships could withstand inevitable challenges as we attempted to deal with hard issues such as the roots of the conflict, obstacles to peace, and the theology of the land. Those who chose to persevere would form, in time, a broadening circle of leaders committed to the vision and willing to stand firm in the face of intercommunity opposition to unity and peace. People from both sides were now willing to take the courageous step from being involved in the conflict to being active in reconciliation and peacemaking. This new dynamic provided impetus for Musalaha to create a model, specifically suited to our conflict zone, for training leaders in reconciliation – and the resulting curriculum is bearing significant fruit in our and other contexts of conflict.

Youth leaders from both communities now receive high-quality professional training together. Musalaha summer camps and youth initiatives (including missions abroad) are among the best the local body has to offer. Children who have participated in the camps often return to serve as counselors, creating a healthy continuity. The women’s section has grown quickly into the largest and most active department.

It has been a tremendous privilege to see Musalaha’s credibility steadily develop in the eyes of the international Christian world. The testimonies of our successes (and heartbreaks) and the methodologies that have been tried and tested in the fire of one of the world’s most complex conflict zones are now providing models for others. As a result, we are able to invite foreign study groups to learn from us and to raise awareness of our conflict by encouraging people to partner with us in reconciliation activities.

For all this, God alone deserves the glory as he demonstrates the power of his grace and his word to change our lives and our communities. The Middle East is volatile and the new covenant community here in Israel/Palestine is not immune to its painful struggles. Has Musalaha risen to the challenge of providing an alternative paradigm? I sincerely believe so. The fruit of these labors will lay down solid foundations for generations to come.

Evan Thomas

Chair of the Musalaha Board (1991–2019)

Preface

This is the third edition of Journey through the Storm, an accumulation of Musalaha’s nearly thirty years of work in the field of reconciliation – thirty years during which we have accrued significant expertise with which to enrich the reconciliation journey in this land and in other regions as well. Along with personal stories and reflections, this edition also includes material from the Curriculum of Reconciliation. The full curriculum is available as Musalaha: A Curriculum of Reconciliation, written by Salim Munayer and published in 2014.

Throughout the years, we have developed, taught, modified, and refined our model of reconciliation within the context of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. We have shared this curriculum in different locations around the world and found it universally applicable to different situations of ethnic conflict. The stages of reconciliation comprise the unique and personal process undergone by individuals and groups as sincere friendships are made, enmity is overcome, and controversial issues which divide communities are explored. In response to demand, we have created this condensed, easy-to-read version, which incorporates essays and reflections to accompany the reader through the stages.

Empowerment is a central element of Musalaha’s methodology, and we strive to embrace a variety of different voices – male, female, Israeli, Palestinian, Jewish, Christian, Muslim. This book highlights contributions mostly from the Messianic Jewish and Palestinian Christian communities.

As a consequence of the 1948 and 1967 wars, those in the Palestinian community found themselves under different sovereignties: there are those who are citizens of the Palestinian Authority (PA), those who hold Israeli citizenship, and those who are residents of Israel but not citizens. Since the Oslo Accords, Palestinians in the West Bank live partially under Israeli military rule, with passports issued by the PA, while those living in Gaza, who have been under Hamas rule since 2007, also hold passports issued by the PA. While Israel withdrew unilaterally from the Gaza Strip and four settlements in Samaria in 2005, Gaza is still under siege.

Most Palestinians remaining in Israel were granted citizenship following the 1948 war but were subject to military rule until 1966, and they suffer inequality in the spheres of citizenship, property rights, education, and more. The passage of the nation-state law in 2018 created further inequalities, declaring, The exercise of the right to national self-determination in the State of Israel is unique to the Jewish People.[1]

Following the annexation of East Jerusalem and the occupation of the West Bank and Gaza in 1967, East Jerusalem Palestinians are residents of Israel but not citizens. They have the right to vote in municipal elections but not in the Knesset. Depending on where they reside and their vocations, Palestinian Israelis often have daily contact with Jewish Israelis. However, the majority are separated by their neighborhoods, their communities, and their educational systems. Palestinians in the West Bank have limited if any contact with ordinary Jewish Israelis unless they have permits to work in or visit Israel.

In this book, we provided an intimate glimpse into the encounters Musalaha facilitates, striving to provide the most neutral and equal environment possible in order to develop trust, to address the issues, and to allow the voices which you find in this book, especially their grievances, to emerge and be heard. Musalaha hopes that the outcome of the process described here will be that some of these grievances will be addressed in a concrete manner, by means of collaborative endeavors which will impact the surrounding societies.

I would like to take this opportunity to thank Jessica White and Gilah Kahn for their work on this edition. It would not have come about without their tireless efforts.

In many ways, this new edition is an ideal introduction to Musalaha, as it presents our process of reconciliation with both the highs and lows of this journey on full display. I hope that it encourages and inspires all who read it. Jesus urges us to be peacemakers (Matt 5:9), and this work is dedicated to all who respond to his call. Whether you consider yourself an expert on the Israeli-Palestinian conflict or are just beginning to make sense of past and present events in the Holy Land, it is our sincere desire that, above all, you will experience hope and purpose as you move through our story.

Salim J. Munayer

Executive Director, Musalaha

1

Introduction to Musalaha: A Conversation

Salim J. Munayer and Evan Thomas

Salim: When discussing our attitudes and feelings about the conflict, the feeling of frustration immediately comes to mind. We are frustrated by the senseless loss of life and property and the indifference of each side toward the other’s aspirations, suffering, and loss. Some of us are frustrated by the ease with which we may enter a cycle of revenge that harms the innocent. Despite knowing that vengeance will not resolve the conflict, many are drawn into the cycle of retaliation which is difficult to break.

Evan: Rather than frustration, my overriding emotions following these years of escalating conflict are sadness and disillusionment.

I guess I had hoped beyond reason that our peoples would choose peaceful solutions to the enormous problems we face. It has been heartbreaking to see the effect on the people of my city. A few years ago, there was a high degree of mobility (for business and social reasons) between Netanya and the large West Bank towns that are only fourteen kilometers away. Since October 2000, and the beginning of the intifada, our communities have been open in their hatred and fear of one another. We are now separated by a huge concrete wall, and this open hatred and fear of one another has continued to this present day.

My family and I used to regularly visit Palestinian Christian friends in the West Bank. They too would visit us, and we spent weekends in one another’s homes. It is now very difficult and often impossible to do so due to security considerations. We still cherish the friendships, but an enormous effort is required to maintain them. It’s just not the same.

Salim: Yes, in this situation we experience a strong sense of powerlessness. We see wave after wave of events that, as individuals, we cannot control, so we feel powerless to change the situation. We are overwhelmed by the rise of hatred and dehumanization on both sides. The main area where we can hope to have an impact is in people’s hearts, by challenging their attitudes toward each other. However, sometimes we feel that we take one step to reduce the violence and come to a resolution, and then events generated by governments or individuals take us many steps backward.

Evan: Like you Salim, I too struggle with a sense of powerlessness to affect the situation. I truly believe in the power of prayer, and I continually encourage my community to exercise faith that peace will be achieved between our societies. It doesn’t seem like God is in too much of a hurry to answer those prayers. The reality I have to live with is a visible deepening of the rift and