Single Mom And The City: Create Time, Money, And A Rich Life

Introduction

What do you want?

We can all be the best mom, yet it will always look different.

Takiyah

Single Mom And The City was created for the Mom who desires more than a life of mediocrity. This book is for the woman who is motivated to become the best version of herself and live a happy, fulfilled, successful life, while growing children into happy, healthy, fabulous little beings. Let’s embark on this journey together.

There are more than ten million single moms in the United States alone. If I help even one Mom through knowledge gained over the years from education, research, and life’s lessons compiled throughout the pages of this book, then it all would have been worth it.

The Foundation of Creation

Every great thing that has ever happened in this world began with a thought. So what do you want in life? What do you want out of life? We all have the ability to dream and create—the grander and more palatial the dream is, the better. What’s most amazing about dreaming is that it’s not necessary to know how it will be accomplished. There are just three requirements. 1.) Set your intentions, 2.) Have faith that it will happen, and 3.) Begin moving in the direction of your dream.

Consistency is the key to accomplishing goals. Ask yourself every single day: What can I do today, that my future self will thank me for? This puts things into perspective when you want a better life for yourself and your family. A fabulous life is created by small, simple routines we do every day and night. These rituals become our habits, and eventually our lifestyle.

Nothing will work, unless you do.

Maya Angelou

Lights. Camera. Action!

Targeted Action

Is what you say you want, lining up with your daily actions?

From infancy, we talk and act like those around us. If English were the sole language spoken in the home, then that is what would be learned. If there were four additional languages spoken, we would learn those as well. We model and adapt to our environment. If one spends a large amount of time with those that are articulate, confident, intelligent, productive and successful, we begin to mimic those traits. Conversely, if you spend much of your time with those that watch television all day, drink alcohol excessively, curse incessantly and are always negative, you will too, begin to imitate those traits. We are often a reflection of what we see, hear, think, and do.

As you go about your daily life, be sure to ask yourself the following. Am I moving in the direction of my dreams, or am I moving further away from my dreams? Allow your answer to guide your actions. Ask and you shall receive. Seek, and you shall find. It’s really as simple as that.

You will find that when you are moving in the direction of your dreams, blessings and opportunities will arise. If you are reading this book right now, it is not by coincidence. It’s just the beginning of a positive, impactful change in your life. Opportunities, favorable circumstances, and people will begin to enter your life, to guide, support, and assist on your journey. You may also enter the life of someone you could be of service to, even if only for inspiration. In the world and in the universe, we are all connected and intertwined in some way. No one lives on an island alone; we all need human connection and assistance. Humans are the most evolved animals on the planet, complete with our infinite complexities. Our ability to create and achieve is unlimited.

Creation begins in the mind, next your belief system, followed by targeted action.

Mahatma Gandhi said, The future depends on what you do today.

As you read this book, may each word bless you with health, happiness, and abundance beyond your wildest dreams.

With love and appreciation,

Single Mom And The City

Chapter One

Create the Life You Want

Thoughts are the greatest vehicle to change, power and success in the world. Everything begins with thought.

Oprah Winfrey

Don’t talk, ACT.

Don’t say, SHOW.

Don’t promise, PROVE.

7 Secrets to Creating the Life You Want.

1. Believe in yourself. You must believe in yourself, or no one else will. Motivation comes from within. Allow your children and ancestors to be the driving factors that propel you to greatness.

2. Believe it is possible. All throughout history the impossible has been made possible. Your dreams are no different.

3. Be Positive and Optimistic. Like attracts like. Our circumstances are often a reflection of our attitude, be it positive or negative. Bless your surroundings with your radiance and positive attitude. Your experiences are often a mirror image of what you project to the world.

4. Expect the best, and you will attract the best. People will treat you as well as you treat yourself. Never lower your standards or apologize for having them.

Keep your standards and heels high.

~ Coco Chanel

5. What you need, you will attract. Be in alignment with what you want. You want to start a business. Have you begun researching? Are you attending networking events among people in your field of interest? Or are you watching reality television in your free time, or scrolling social media, watching other people live their best lives through a screen, instead of living your dream life? Ask yourself, As I hang out with my friends who smoke and drink all day, will I be likely to hang out in elite circles and attend fancy events, like I said I wanted to do? Most importantly, ask yourself, Am I being the role model I want to be for my children? Am I setting a good example?

Whatever you consume, will consume you.

~ Ralph Smart

6. Don’t let your circumstances program you. There is a very small percentage of people who grew up with a perfect life. If we choose to remain in circumstances we are unhappy with; then we have only ourselves to blame. Create the life you want to live. The answers are at your fingertips, within this book.

7. Take calculated chances. There is so much growth outside of your comfort zone.

Beware of those who have failed or haven’t accomplished their dreams. They will use the two words that should be stricken from the dictionary and erased from your vocabulary: can’t and impossible. The most successful people in the world have been told you can’t or it’s impossible. Remember. Someone else’s opinion doesn’t make it true.

Keep your dreams and desires close to your heart.

It can be very tempting to want to shout your dreams/goals from the rooftop. It’s super exciting! However, some may not understand why you have such goals. Everyone will not bask in your enthusiasm. Believe it or not, everyone will not have the best intentions for your desires toward wanting a better life. They may be vocally or silently spreading negative energy upon you—friends and family included. Who does she think she is! She thinks she’s better than us! People will try to poke holes in your ideas, and tell you that it has never been done before, or say it’s not realistic. It is not your job to get non-believers on board. Simply show them with your actions.

Being realistic is the most common path to mediocrity.

Will Smith

What Research Says About Announcing Your Goals.

There is a common misconception that sharing your goals with the world helps you achieve them. However, the research shows otherwise. Let’s say you are going to write a book! When you share this news with a friend, let’s assume they congratulate you and tell you how amazing you are. As you describe in detail your vision, it causes an endorphin rush. You receive an emotional reward, a premature win! This tells your unconscious mind that it has already happened, which causes loss of motivation, making your goal more difficult to achieve.

Who can I share my goals/dreams with?

1. Journal

2. Mentor

3. Accountability Partner

4. Personal/Business Advisor

5. Cheerleader (an enthusiastic and vocal supporter: someone that openly wants to see you succeed)

7 Simple Action Steps to Take Now

1. Guide your life in the direction you choose. There are no do-overs in life. Get in the driver’s seat and live the life that you want. Ask yourself, What is the most effective and efficient use of my time now?

2. Write it down. Write down a detailed description of exactly what you want.

3. Speak it into existence. Read it aloud three times a day; when you wake up, in the afternoon and right before you go to bed.

4. Visualize. If you can see it, you can be it. Envision yourself having obtained your wildest dreams. Feel the feelings and emotions as if you were experiencing and living what you are visualizing. Put imagery of your goals around your home. Keep a picture in your wallet or phone. We become what we think.

5. Meditate and Pray. Sit still in a quiet place and meditate and/or pray. Quiet your mind and focus on taking slow controlled deep breaths. Do this twice a day, preferably when you wake up in the morning and before you go to bed at night. Keep a notepad close by. Wonderful ideas tend to flow while sitting in silence alone.

6. Act. Do something every single day that will bring you closer to your dreams. Your cumulative actions will result in your outcome. Little things become big things.

7. Learning is perpetual. Read books. Attend workshops or classes