Honorable Heritage: A Book of Family Folklore

HONORABLE HERITAGE

A BOOK OF FAMILY FOLKLORE

Copyright © 2015 Billy Boyd Lavender.

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Contents

The Football Tree

Foreword

Preface

Acknowledgments

Introduction

•   De LaVinder, an Honorable Heritage

•   A Cherokee in the Woodpile

•   The Handsome and Haunting

•   The Innocence of Lon J. Aycock

•   Get the Right Ones

•   The Straw That Broke the Camel’s Back

•   The Actions of the Mob

•   Phillip Hardigree’s Lineage

•   A Short Biography of Phillip Hardigree

•   Stocks of Hay and Hands of Fodder

•   The Merging of Two Families

•   The First and Last Washwoman

•   A House Becomes a Home

•   Out of the Nest

•   Retirement

•   Ms. Ruby Today

•   Room 6117

•   Room 5136

•   Hospice at Home

Bibliography

The Football Tree

If one accepts that we descended from a single man and woman, the family tree begins with this single pair of parents at one end and widens in scope and number into the thousands. Then at some point and at some setting in the world, each of our family trees narrows back to a single pair of parents, our mother and father. In a written profile, this would produce a side view in the shape of a football. This notion would mean, of course, that we all have a common origin and are, in fact, tiny fractions of the vast whole, yet as different as individual snowflakes.

Dedication

Foreword

Honorable Heritage is an appropriate title for the following story of an honorable family. The story is intriguing; it’s about family people of yesterday and today who have learned and guided themselves and others. The story is well written and well organized to show the challenging and appropriate actions of generation after generation.

Read it carefully and thoughtfully. It is exciting to read about significant people who kept going through thick and thin times, and this story can inspire each of us to be aware of the needs and opportunities around us. A book can become a guide for each of us in our thoughts, decisions, and actions. This particular book is unique; it is thorough, personal, and insightful in its depiction of the lives lived and the decisions made.

For those who remember the days of walking to school, milking cows, plowing the garden, building fires around wash pots, bathing in a tin tub, drawing water from a well, feeding chickens in the yard, slopping the hogs, canning sausage, and lighting the house with kerosene lamps, there will be moments of memory and excitement. We learned a lot, and we have come a long way.

As we read this book, we are reminded that the strength and success of America is directly proportional to the strength of its traditional families. Our nation, states, and communities are the products of the lives of individuals and their families. We all have challenges and opportunities, and the decisions we make guide us during each phase of life. These stories may inspire us to stay positive, productive, and useful for the remaining years of our lives.

New efforts continue to be important to individuals and families. Settling into a home, beginning a job away from home, purchasing a first car, learning to play guitar, and adjusting to retirement are among the experiences that individuals and families might experience as they grow in years. There are interesting stories of firsts to be found in this book.

Yes, read it thoughtfully and relate to the experiences personally. We all have these phases in our journey from childhood to retirement to walking into the sunset of life. We can be grateful for the honorable heritage we have, and we have learned from the frustrations and failures we have faced. For those who are young, read the following pages and use them for guidance in the experiences to come.

—Dr. Franklin Shumake, friend and neighbor

Preface

Like a novel, narrative nonfiction imposes structure, theme, and subtext to events, places and character. Unlike novelists, authors of narrative nonfiction must live with the fact that real people and real facts seldom conform to these conventions. Reality is messy, and sometimes you have to put up with unsatisfying turns to the story.

—Edward Humes

It is impossible for anyone to write an interesting true story that has not first become history. The way the story is then presented becomes very important. The murder mystery found in Honorable Heritage has been challenging to present. Though the research has been thorough, research material has been limited to newspaper reports, leaving short gaps that I will try to bridge with the utmost integrity. For obvious reasons, because of those who survived the era, this story could not have been written any sooner. I hope that attempting this informative feat a century later will provide me some latitude.

My awareness of how incredibly quickly technology has advanced, changing our world, causes me to reflect upon the lives and lineage of my elderly parents. It became obvious to me during my research that the turning point in all this change came with the increased use of electricity and the combustion engine.

Each of us represents a microcosm of our common ancestry. All classes of those early ancestors who settled in America essentially acquired food, shelter, and clothing in the same manner as those who had come before them. The methods used to obtain basic needs created a much slower and more deliberately paced lifestyle than we have today. Each generation brought with it a past riddled with folklore, and each had its own historical records of origin.

The main characters in Honorable Heritage are related to me. Some play a more dominant role in the chronological chapters than others. However, each generation of people lived out their lives with honor on their stage of American history. Whether it was George Griffith in the French and Indian Wars of 1755, or his only son, John Griffith, of George Washington’s Guards in 1780, each character had a role to play. Other key ancestors of this same era were Charles Lavender of Amherst, Virginia, and his two elder brothers, all of whom served honorably in the American Revolution.

Farther along the time line and entering the setting of Honorable Heritage was the Holbrook family. It was not a large family—just Frank, Lou, and my mother’s grandma, Lula, their only child. Their role on history’s stage was to become the victims of a sad but true murder mystery. The mystery began when eight individuals were lynched before justice could prevail. Three of the eight had been tried and were awaiting sentencing or execution; the remaining five were presumed innocent and awaiting trial. At least one of the eight was likely innocent, but that was an argument that would never come before a jury.

Other attacks—perhaps not murder, but nevertheless damaging—have come against the traditional American family over the past century. These subtle attacks on the family are not the focus of Honorable Heritage. However, it is my hope that, through this book, the strength of one traditional American family will be brought to the forefront. The American dream was staring each member of this family square in the face. It is also my hope that the fruits of love, keeping vows, and understanding commitments will prove attainable for others.

The conception of Honorable Heritage came about after I spent decades collecting genealogical records from close as well as distant relatives. Some of my materials are simple notes that I decided to jot down some years ago. I failed then to see their future significance to this work. I narrowed my focus to this title in 2010.

Ruby Neal Hardigree Lavender is the central character of Honorable Heritage. The scope of her life in rural America has been lived within a few miles of where she still lives today, at age ninety-six. It qualifies her as a member of the Greatest Generation, and my interview with her was invaluable to this book.

In many American families, social class or monetary worth is not a measure of a successful life. I believe history will prove that the strength and success of America is directly proportional to the strength of its traditional families.

Acknowledgments

Different authors often need various kinds of assistance. For me, as it applies to this work, the assistance came in the form of encouragement as well as financial and technical help. In recognition of this much-needed help, I would like to thank my brother Jimmie B. Lavender and my first cousins Ronnie Hardigree and June Hardigree Dooley for providing me with constructive and encouraging criticism in addition to financial aid. Mary Ruth Moore, Millie Suttles, and Evelyn Brown are three fine, educated ladies who have helped me immensely with grammar and punctuation.

Now that I’ve retired from the telecommunications field, I have become more a user than a provider of technology. The technical assistance I have received from my wife, Cheryl, my granddaughter Jessie M. Guerra and Pastor Sid Fields has been much needed and appreciated as new information technologies continue to abound in the twenty-first century.

Introduction

Winston Churchill once said that a literary work should be like a woman’s dress: short enough to be interesting but long enough to cover the subject. The readers of Honorable Heritage may feel comfortable while reading the covered subject matter. In the mind’s eye, they may form a picturesque view into the lives of two families living next door to each other. The setting is in rural Georgia during the Great Depression. Watkinsville, Georgia, like every hometown community in America, has its own personal history and genealogy. The surnames of its citizens exemplify this statement, and they vary accordingly. Some people never settled in one region but popped up in another. Along with the varied surnames comes a varied history.

The basic historical facts taught in the state schools of the nineteenth century came from these pilgrims, colonists, and settlers. Consequently, the history textbooks were less than two hundred pages long, and very small—not much larger than seven by four inches, and about three-eighths of an inch thick. They included surnames of the primary settlers, which are often common names among the families living in those same communities today. The early textbooks documented the settlers’ exploits with the Native Americans, and history has recorded the various types of land grants they received from our young government.

Throughout my childhood, many stories of the old days were told on the country porches of my relatives, accompanied by the fragrant breeze of honeysuckle and the late-evening songs of the whippoorwill. It’s little wonder that I grew interested in and intrigued by history, genealogy, and attention to detail. In some cases, the stories provided dots along a time line that seemed to dwell in another dimension, just beyond the generation of the Great Depression. These stories—which came forth from the 1920s and 1930s with great clarity and veracity, though they were just outside my relatives’ recollection—rode the winds of folklore, and the medium from which they emerged was my relatives’ mothers and fathers.

One of the most intriguing stories comes from my family’s recent folklore. It is the mystery of the murder of two of my direct ancestors on the farm where I grew up, and the mob lynching that followed.

Much of recent history seems more like current events, and much of it has been left out of the history textbooks entirely. In Honorable Heritage, it is quite permissible for the reader’s imagination to ramble freely. A remarkable transition took place in the lives of my parents. One might wonder if some people living today will ever know or care how a mother and father, and millions of parents like them, raised their families through the rapid changes of the twentieth century.

At the turn of the twentieth century, much of day-to-day life was just as it had been since the founding of our country. The rapid changes brought forth by motorized automobiles, tractors, farm mechanization, and the modern marvel of electricity improved everyone’s lives for the better. In 1900, the American Dream was becoming a real possibility for every citizen.

Honorable Heritage attempts to