There Is a Completely Different Way to Live Your Life: The Optimistic Future

Copyright © 2021 Karin Boucher.

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ISBN: 978-1-9822-6595-3 (sc)

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Balboa Press rev. date:   03/22/2021

Contents

Introduction

1 I chose another way of living my life.

2 I try to live as I learn.

3 We need each other

4 To have courage, to want to, and an ability to move forward are essential requirements to continue the process.

5 The self begins to exist again.

6 What does it mean to live in honesty?

7 Basics for getting the life puzzle together.

8 To be in empathic neutrality.

9 To become genuine?

10 I now want to communicate and become integrated.

11 The body knows, starts to communicate, and you listen.

12 I dare to grow up.

13 Healthy self-love.

14 My own helper - my own observer.

15 What happens next?

16 I am forever a student.

17 I now meet myself.

18 I have stopped fighting.

19 There are no given answers

20 To have an inner trust

21 I am allowed to be happy.

22 Life constantly feels new to experience

23 I’m never alone.

24 There is no quick fix

25 I’m always subjective.

26 I can now sleep

27 Behaviors are just behaviors.

28 When emotions become pitfalls

29 I can take full personal responsibility for myself

30 Stop having tentacle behaviors

31 I am free, a human and a fellow human being

32 I am naked.

33 I like my fellow human beings

34 I stop hiding behind my sensitivity

35 Are you a parasite or a fellow human?

36 I have found happiness in life

37 I’ve stopped being scared

38 I see the world with new eyes

39 The collective

40 Belief or knowledge - that is the question

41 To fit in or exist

42 Five steps towards another way of life

43 I can exist for real

44 I feel existential happiness

45 To be constructive naive

46 Something happens when I do the job

47 A lot happens when I do nothing

Introduction

The book is for the person that has done a great deal of work for personal growth and knows that there is much more to learn and want to continue. Through the process, you are led to how you can view your existence in a completely different way.

The simple isn’t always easy, as you will notice when you experience how your awareness can change.

When you do change, your perception changes, and with that, all of you will process life differently. By following the book, you can, through personal reflections, experience a transformation, and gain another awareness and conciseness.

A transformation process where codes of life are there to crack, and you obtain a changed existential awareness and will integrated within you. A new knowledge might be the structural changes that the world needs in the paradigm changes that are going on.

In the process, you will learn how to release old self-centered defense patterns and behaviors. You will create a platform for a completely different way of looking at and lead your life. With total accountability for your acts and you will able to exist for yourself and then for others with a natural humanity.

Over the years, I have tried to find out what it means to take full personal responsibility for myself. What personal responsibility means in a broader context, and when I started to understand what it meant, a new world opened up and a completely different way of looking at life.

Everything can change as nothing is carved into the stone, not at least the knowledge about you function. When you accept that you can change and that your subjectivity can continuously be revised, it is when you stop being governed by your own and others’ limitations.

1

I chose another way of living my life.

Questions asked from a 6-year-old.

During dinner, my daughter asked:

- Mom, if you say you’re kidding, are you lying?

- What do you mean?

- Well, if you say - you will get ice cream from me and then say - no, I was kidding. Is that a lie?

I had never reflected over this, and I felt that it was a very relevant question and answered:

- Yes, as you lie both to yourself and with the person you are kidding. Where does your question come from and that you ask bout this?

- My friend often says something first, and then she says that she was joking and laughs, and this makes me confused. I don’t know what is real, what is accurate, or not correct. But now, I know. When my friend is kidding, it is not for real.

The next day, at the dining table, she asked:

• Mom, if somebody is fooling you. For example: If I say that you can get 100 dollars from me, and then I say: I am just fooling! Do you lie for yourself and others at the same time?

• Yes, you do.

• Okay, thank you, mommy.

Perhaps some people would like to have the same and straightforward, uncomplicated approach in life and be able to know what is real and act from this without being defensive.

To live defenseless might be, for some, a naive way of looking at life, but by living a less complicated life and an inner sense of justice and this can change lives. As we know, simple is not always easy. To let go of the known and to learn new ways of thinking takes commitment. To eliminate the old and innate and learn to process information in a new way can result in being able to experience how different life can be. Then I mean all areas of life.

Most people have no idea that it is our unconscious way we perceive our reality or prevents us from living fully. They live their everyday lives without questioning it or having no desire or need to change what they know. But a lot of people recognize there is something out there and know what and they want a change.

Many try out what they think will help in the arias of self-growth and scrape a little bit on the surface. It can help in the short run, but it is by deleting your innate and learned patterns that give results. It is first by clearing up in the pretend reality you live, the one who has taken over and consolidated within your being. It is then something that happens, and with that, you have obtained the ability to simplify your existence.

If you feel that now is the time, it is to start where you are in your present, where you are just now, as the one you are.

There are concrete approaches to learning and making use of which quickly yields noticeable results. To begin this process can give you fundamental changes that will mean you will have a completely different way of life.

One knows that it is possible to live more healthily, and now I’m not talking about food and exercise, but mentally. Not only through positive thinking but also in-depth, your core, and suspect there is another way to exist. They are already searchers and get stuck in the latest craze and hope on that is what they were looking fore. Or travel the other side of the globe and think that is where you can find your way back home to yourself.

You can often feel that there is another way to relate to your existence, but don’t know what it can be, or how to get there.

There are many options for you; it is essential to find where there is a reality-based and with substance. Whatever you choose, there must be a willingness to make a real change. It is vital to be open to the fact that there are other ways of approaching life and dare to think a different way because there is so much that is just waiting to discoverer.

All ways that lead forward are good, and it is crucial to allow yourselves to experience that you can change again and again. And when you make a real change and accept that it may mean that you are not part of the general norm anymore and know that there are several ways to look at one’s existence.

When the Dalai Lamas was in Malmö, several visitors stated that the Dalai Lama had illuminated and delivered solutions to issues in a different way. It had felt exciting and had opened up to a new way of thinking.

There are several ways to highlight the significant issues we people face. Everyone’s perception, characterized by his or her subjectivity and how you look at existence, is individual. Some are open to new ways of thinking, and others are more restricted and remain in their devices. When you begin to accept your history, on an existential level, that you experience how life is automatically can change. Life will become so much easier, and you become more opportunity-oriented, and this will be the incentive to carry on your journey. Slowly, a sense of existential security will come and begin to find your way back home.

As you become more accepting of what was your history, you can learn to get rid of all your defenses. You can start to deal with old patterns you have had every time they show up. Slowly you will stop being governed by your history.

You can release what you used to believe in and which made life difficult. Instead, you create entirely new experiences that are without the old limitations. You will experience the world as new again and again.

I remember when one of the participants I had in a workshop suddenly sat and stared straight ahead as if he were in a different world. Suddenly he smiled, breathed deeply, and looked around. He looked directly at each of the other participants. When our eyes met, he nodded, and I saw how his eyes sparkled with a new insight. He had just cracked the first code of life. With that, he now sees the world with a new perception and can absorb a new way of perceiving life.

It is when you break the various codes of life, and you begin to experience a more transparent self-awareness. What happens in this process is that old thought patterns change, and with this, you will change with every new insight you get. As your perception changes, you will continuously process information differently and look at your surroundings with brand new eyes.

During the process, it can sometimes feel lonely, and this is before you have gone deeper into your existential insights.

This type of work is a lonely work as it is, after all, only you who can come to your insights and at your own pace. It is you who decides how you want to live and continue to let go of the old and step into the new world.

By knowing that nothing needs to be forever, changes can always happen, and sometimes they will happen very quickly, and this opens up to endless opportunities.

All research of the brain points to how the brain’s plastic ability allows it to be able to change continually gives people infinite possibilities to be able to replace the old with something new through an altered perception.

Everyone goes through all the natural stages of life. It is important not to get stuck but to continue and be open to what the course life can bring with it and do this without drama. To embrace everything that life can bring with it.

What can you gain from choosing to live differently than you do now?

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I try to live as I learn.

It will be much easier to live my life if I am true to myself. But how should I know when I am true to myself or not, when I don’t know how to be true to myself? I can only be as honest as I can be, and that is okay.

We are still living in an individualistic society where the ego governs and will do so until we learn to become individuals with an empathic neutral self. It is then we will have an