Infidelity: A Compact Guide for Coping With Its Aftermath (Guidance for Couples Dealing With the Aftermath of Infidelity and Rebuilding Trust)
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Inside, you'll discover:
- A deeper understanding of betrayal to give you a broader perspective on your partner’s affair, and the importance of addressing betrayal trauma
- The role of honesty after you discover your partner’s betrayal — and how to prevent yourself from falling into the cycles of obsession and depression
- How to rebuild trust — and ways to deal with fear, doubt, hesitation, and other relationship issues
- The critical process of grief — and why you must first let yourself grieve over the infidelity before granting forgiveness
- Tips on restoring emotional and physical intimacy — and why you must rekindle your sexual relationship to build a stronger bond
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Infidelity - Michael Thurman
Infidelity
A Compact Guide for Coping With Its Aftermath
(Guidance for Couples Dealing With the Aftermath of Infidelity and Rebuilding Trust)
Michael Thurman
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Table of Contents
CHAPTER 1: THE TRUTH ABOUT THE NATURE OF INFIDELITY
CHAPTER 2: BIOLOGY VS. SOCIETY
CHAPTER 3: THE NEUROCHEMICAL IMPACT OF BETRAYAL
CHAPTER 4: THE MANY FACES OF INFIDELITY
CHAPTER 5: INTERNAL DIAGNOSIS
CHAPTER 6: THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-PERCEPTION
CHAPTER 7: DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS
CHAPTER 8: UNDERSTANDING THE DISTINCTION
CHAPTER 9: MINDFULNESS TOOLS
CHAPTER 10: REESTABLISHING EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL INTIMACY
CHAPTER 11 FIVE STAGES OF MOURNING POST-INFIDELITY
CHAPTER 12: THE SCIENCE BEHIND RAPID THERAPY
CHAPTER 13: SETTING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
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Chapter 1: The truth about the nature of infidelity
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For many years infidelity has been the object of intrigue, pain and sometimes even fascination. What is the reason it is so important to comprehend this subject? Because nearly all societies have dealt with the subject with a degree of reticence and stigma. You may consider that infidelity an easy concept to define but is it? Beyond the simple act of infidelity there is an range of feelings, motives and consequences that are associated with it.
I would like to invite you to place yourself for a second, into the archaeologist's shoes. searching to find answers. Imagine that every piece of earth that you dig up is a legend and an old belief that you have believed without any doubt. When you complete your dig and dig, what will you discover at the bottom of the matter? The truth about infidelity or more questions?
In this section, we'll embark on a journey to find out what exactly defines infidelity. Ask yourself what you consider an act of betrayal? A stolen kiss or text message, or a lengthy dialogue with someone who has been in the past? As you'll discover the range of infidelity is wider and more complicated than people realize.
Comedy legend Woody Allen once said, Sex is only dirty if it's done right.
While it might bring you to laughter, this quote illustrates the complex and frequently contradictory relationship that our society has with intimacy and infidelity. It's like a film that everyone wants to watch, but nobody wants to admit they committed a crime.
Have you ever wondered why infidelity is an enduring theme in our society? Books, films, songs... it seems that we are all obsessed with the act, and particularly, the process of discovering it. But what do is really important to know? The actual betrayal or the manifestation of our personal fears?
It is certainly easy to dismiss and make infidelity appear to be the act of betrayal but here's my challenge to you to think differently. I challenge you to broaden your view and look beyond the stereotypes and myths. For, dear reader in a deep understanding is the first step to healing.
And before we go on I'd like to propose a short task. You can close your eyes for just a few seconds. Imagine yourself as a younger you perhaps when you were an adolescent or in college. Now imagine that you meet someone you like. What are you feeling? You may recall the thrill, the fear and the excitement. What if you found yourself in a relationship with a significant other when you were in that moment? The situation changes and the positive feelings can become feelings of anxiety and guilt. These are the nuances and complexities that we will examine.
Are you ready to begin this journey of discovery and question your beliefs? The journey is only getting started, and I promise you that what you learn will alter your view of infidelity for good.
It appears there was a slight mistake or a miscommunication in your response. If you have any concerns or questions, or would like to proceed I would appreciate your feedback! I'm here to help.
Resuming our investigation of the root of the issue, a fundamental question is raised what drives an individual to break up with their partner? It's tempting to think that the answer is straightforward but, as the well-known sociologist Zygmunt Bauman demonstrated in his book Liquid Love
(2003) human relationships, even in the modern time, are always in changing and what was once thought to be taboo is now seen with more tolerant and critical eyes.
If we look into the most recent research, we discover that the reasons behind infidelity are as diverse as the individuals themselves. Some, such as Helen Fisher in Why We Love
(2004), claim that it is due to our nature and an ongoing conflict between our desire for stability and our desire for diversification. Others, such as Esther Perel in The State of Affection
(2017) believe that in some instances, infidelity is an attempt, even if it is misguided to find oneself, but not necessarily to harm the other.
Let's make this more concrete by using a concrete example. Imagine Clara is a woman in her 40s married for more than two decades, with kids who are already enrolled in college. She has had a quiet and fulfilling life alongside her husband Juan. On an official trip, she meets Raul and feels a bond she hasn't had in a while. Clara isn't looking to hurt Juan however she is facing the possibility of a vacant home, the anxiety of getting older and the desire to feel loved again. Her attitude towards Raul isn't so much about Raul as a person however, it is because of what Raul represents: youth, excitement, and a way to get away from the routine of her life.
There is a key aspect to consider in this. Clara's actions, we are trying to understand the situation. Understanding isn't the same as allowing. As Bauman stated that ours is a time where everything is a temporary thing and long-term commitments can be difficult to keep. Is this really the sole factor in play?
Perhaps at this point you're asking yourself, Can society really influence our personal decisions that much?
Remember when I spoke to you the relationship between the relationship between biology and society in earlier conflicts. Here's the place to really get into