Collaborating in the Workplace: A Guide for Building Better Teams
By Ike Lasater and Julie Stiles (Editor)
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Collaborating in the Workplace - Ike Lasater
Collaborating in the Workplace
A Guide for Building Better Teams
© 2019 PuddleDancer Press
A PuddleDancer Press Book
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Author: Ike Lasater
Editor: Julie Stiles
Cover and Interior Design: Shannon Bodie, Lightbourne.com
Cover source photo: www.istock.com, Peopleimages
Manufactured in the United States of America,
1st Printing, April 2019
inline-Image Printed on recycled paper
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ISBN: 978-1-934336-16-8
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Lasater, Ike, author. | Stiles, Julie, author.
Title: Collaborating in the workplace : a guide for building better teams / Ike Lasater ; with Julie Stiles.
Description: Encinitas, CA : PuddleDancer Press, [2019] | Includes bibliographical references and index.
Identifiers: LCCN 2018035906| ISBN 9781934336168 (trade paper : alk. paper) | ISBN 9781934336229 (ePUB) | ISBN 9781934336281 (ebook pdf) | ISBN 9781934336342 (mobi/kindle)
Subjects: LCSH: Teams in the workplace. | Violence in the workplace--Prevention. | Communication in personnel management.
Classification: LCC HD66 .L373 2019 | DDC 658.4/022--dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2018035906
Endorsements of Collaborating in the Workplace
"I have used the exercises in this book with the participants of my Leadership Development Training and have witnessed the dramatic impact empathy has in a successful collaborative balancing act. I highly recommend Collaborating in the Workplace as a tool to improve both your team’s management and its relationships. This book has the power to develop the vision and the skills necessary to achieve team cohesion and the dream of unity to which more and more organizations aspire."
—GIOVANNA CASTOLDI, Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer, Founder of School of Feedback
Recently, the business press has been telling us to build empathy and ‘emotional intelligence’ into our organizations’ cultures, promising us more effectiveness through empowerment, trust, and mutuality. Sounds great in a workshop, but … conflict often is a daily reality in business, and people soon fall back into their old patterns. Finally, here’s a book that provides a clear and actionable approach that you can start using right away. Ike Lasater has a lifetime’s experience helping organizations and individuals learn how to navigate conflicts. Ike presents specific techniques and practices to help team members become more open to one another’s creativity, so that—together—they can harness the energy that conflict often dissipates. Use the wisdom of this book to make your culture more resilient, your team more effective, and your work more satisfying.
—ED NIEHAUS, Chairman, Collaborative Drug Discovery, Inc.
Business people understand the importance of effective teams, but often aren’t clear about how to develop the actual skills of collaboration. Ike Lasater provides this clarity. His many years of teaching the art of connection have resulted in this groundbreaking book. Once a team learns to communicate by connecting with self and others, they will never want to go back to functioning at a lower level. Every company would be wise to permanently place this book in the middle of their conference table and refer to it daily!
—RITA MARIE JOHNSON, CEO, Rasur Foundation International Creator of the Connection Practice, Author, Completely Connected: Uniting Our Empathy & Insight for Extraordinary Results
"Ike and I have been close colleagues and collaborators for over fifteen years, and this book is a powerful distillation and integration of the work for organizations. Ike and Julie lay out in clear, practical, and doable ways the core, and I believe universal, skills and maps for navigating interpersonal conflict and developing highly effective teamwork. Collaborating in the Workplace: A Guide for Building Better Teams provides skills and practices that will make any organization more successful and employees more fulfilled. This work will be common practice in organizations of the future."
—JOHN KINYON, CNVC trainer and cofounder of Mediate Your Life training, coaching, and mediation, Author, From Conflict to Connection: Transforming Difficult Conversations Into Peaceful Resolutions, www.mediateyourlife.com
Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Part I inline-Image Foundations
Fight-Flight-Freeze (The Stress Response)
Universal Human Needs
Feelings
Faux Feelings
The Self-Connection Process
Part II inline-Image Applying the Foundations to Conversation
Listening and Being Listened To
Making Requests
Preparing for a Difficult Conversation
Practicing Difficult Conversations
Debriefing for Resilience
Part III inline-Image Further Collaboration Applications
Interrupting
The Need Behind the No
Giving (and Receiving) Feedback
Expressing Appreciation
Flight Simulator Practice Guidelines for Dyad Practice
Appendix: Faux Feelings
The Four-Part Nonviolent Communication Process
About Nonviolent Communication
About PuddleDancer Press
About the Center for Nonviolent Communication
Trade Books From PuddleDancer Press
About the Author
Books by Ike Lasater
Acknowledgments
Icould never have gotten these ideas to print without Julie Stiles. She and I have been working together as a writing team since 2005. I also want to thank all of the participants in my workshops, where I work out these ideas.
American psychologist Marshall Rosenberg, PhD, developed much of what underlies the approach in this manual, particularly the terminology and processes related to needs and requests, as part of a communication process he named Nonviolent Communication
or NVC.
Rosenberg distinguished among four components of communication, all of which will be referenced and explored within the following pages:
inline-Image Observations (versus judgments)
inline-Image Feelings (versus faux
feelings)
inline-Image Needs (versus strategies)
inline-Image Requests (versus demands)
He made suggestions as to how to think of these components in our communication in order to create connection with ourselves and with others. He developed the following terms:
inline-Image Self-Empathy: When