Women are Weak

Never ever think that a woman is weak. Never !!

I am a firm believer that Women are strong. There are instances in history and also in our day to day life, in and around us; on how a woman can toil greater than man and achieve greater success. They are a manifestation of love, care and strength. For a man, she comes in many forms – Mother, Sister, Wife and daughter. A mother is the greatest support for her son, a sister is the greatest affection for brother, a wife is the greatest love for husband and a father-daughter relation is just electric. It is this support, affection and love; that makes a man a little more protective of their woman in their life; so much that more often then not it forms of weakness around her. Subconsciously state she starts developing a feeling that if she is alone she cannot handle any untoward situation.

This blog of mine is dedicated to the strength of each and every woman, and a belief that she needs no support from anyone. She need not fear anyone to lead life the way she wants. She does not need to be in the shelter/protection of anyone. This blog comes from the belief that God has made everyone equal in his image and He has given each and every one the intellect/capability to come out of any challenges that life brings. I am of a firm belief that no women in this world need empowerment. They already have a hell lot of power within them.

The word empowerment in my understanding means giving power to some who do not have power. Before going into further details of the understanding, I would like to give a little insight into the subconscious state of mind and how does it work by giving you some examples. Since our childhood, we have heard a lot of ghost stories, seen a lot of ghost movies. This brings a sudden surge of fear in us and is mostly is associated with darkness. In the subconscious state, we have created a relationship between darkness and ghost. Whether the ghost exists or not the moment we see darkness around we have an emotion of fear. Let's take another example. Say you are driving your car at 100 kmph. Suddenly you hear a noise not related to you in any way but you immediately apply breaks. The road is clear in the front and behind but just because you associate a loud noise with danger you apply the brakes.

Empowerment works in a similar fashion. The word empowerment has been positioned in such a way, that subconsciously, it is creating a feeling of the need for support from external factors when the solution to a problem lies within. In the many articles that I have read, movies that I watched, videos I have seen on the tube, most of the times a man or empowerment cell comes to a rescue of women in distress. Why most of the promotion projects woman as someone who always needs help. I think 18 out of 20 communication on women empowerment exhibit, a woman in distress, asking for help exhibiting her fragility.

Let's take situation. A girl about 18 years of age is on her way back from work. Suddenly she realises that she is being followed by a group of 3 guys. Instead of facing them, she started running away. She was under an emotion that the 3 guys are too big in number to handle. She was under the cast of fear. While escaping she lost her control and fell down. There were some other guys who saw her falling and they came to her rescue. All during this episode, she was crying. Now lets us look at it from a different perspective. What if the upbringing of this girl were such that she is a symbol of strength and can face any situation bravely? Do you think she would have run away thinking she is weak or she would have behaved differently? What if she faced and handled the situation on her own, or atleast made a good fight? I believe that there is every reason in which she can fight but it is us and the society that has given this notion that you can't fight you need support. It's time that we have to change this thought and it has to be done immediately.

I have always seen live examples where when a woman has decided to do something, she has left no stones unchanged to get to her goal. She is the biggest protector of her family. She needs no backup; she needs no support. Infact in many ways they are much much stronger than men.. What I promote is instead of creating empowerment based on supporting women against domestic violence, corporate scandal; the strength of the women should be projected. The real picture of her strength should be shown. She has the capacity of handling any situation on her own, through her own creative ways.

There are two women who have changed my life. First my mother and then my wife. My mom during her days was an all-rounder and she completed all her task on time. I have very faint memory of my childhood. But I can definitely talk about my wife. She is a robot. She gets up at 05:30 am make tiffin for the entire family. Then she wakes the children up, gets them ready for school. She leaves for her work at 08:30 am and returns at 02:00 pm. Then the domestic help comes to clean the home. One child comes home at 03:00 pm. But she has to go to the pick the other one at 03:30 pm who is doing extra circular classes. Then 05:30 pm is footfall for both the child and 07:00 pm for dance class of one of the child. During this time she has to manage food, manage her office work and take care of the entire family. This is almost every day. The best part she does it with a lot of dedication, devotion and high spirit. I am sure that this is not my story but the story of most of us. No man in this world can do such a multi-tasking. Incredible.

I believe everyone should build up women around the strength she has. She should be let free to take her own decision and find a solution to the problem. God has given her enough ways to find out how to tackle the god-damm world.

In my opinion, you need no empowerment. You have some much of strength.

Lastly, thank you for being one of the biggest inspiration for every man in some form or the other.

Disclaimer: This is work of fiction and has not intended to hurt any one’s view and thought.

Best Regards

Vijay Sokhi - Founder Director

Sharp Consulting and Implementing Company