SURE-FIRE

Ice-Breakers
& Group Games

by Mark Collard

Introduction

Hello, my name is Mark Collard.

On behalf of your group, I want to thank you for
downloading this article.
Because, if youre looking for a bunch of sure-fire,
high-energy, interactive, leave-themwanting-for-more activities for your school,
conference, training, camp or youth-based
program, then you've come to the right place.
If you enjoy the energy and sheer craziness that only group games
can give, you are also about to embark on a wonderful journey.
After thousands of programs with people all over the world, I can
assure you that the extraordinary ice-breakers and group games
contained within this ebook sit at the tippy top of the enormous list of
group activities that I know and love.
These activities are the ones I always call on whenever I feel that my
group is a little too 'cold' or needs to 'loosen up' a little. Within
moments of introducing these simple, easy-to-present ice-breakers,
you too, will visibly see your group start to relax, interact, smile and,
most importantly, laugh.
It doesn't matter if you're a novice, an experienced facilitator, or work
with children, adults or young people. These activities have universal
appeal, require no equipment and are totally success-oriented.
Be sure to check out the seven 'Secret Tricks of the Trade' that
will make you look like an expert. And, discover the four words that
explain why most ice-breakers and group games fail, and what you
can do to prevent this from happening to you.
Have fun,

Mark Collard
International Group Facilitator
Author of top-selling 'No Props' & 'No Flops' books
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Contents
Introduction ............................................................... 1
The Seven Secret Tricks of the Trade
or What The Experts Don't Want You To Know ................. 3
Having FUNN?
or, Why Most Ice-Breakers & Group Games Fail ............... 9
The Ten Easiest & Most Successful
Ice-Breakers and Group Games Ever! .......................... 11
Categories ............................................................... 12
Clapping Game ........................................................ 14
Clumps .................................................................... 15
Cocktail Party .......................................................... 17
Gotcha! ................................................................... 19
Let Me Introduce ..................................................... 21
Paired Shares .......................................................... 23
Psychic Handshake .................................................. 25
Spectrums ............................................................... 27
Thumb-Wrestling In Stereo ..................................... 29
Too Much Fun Is Never Enough ................................... 30
About Mark Collard ..................................................... 31
Contact Details............................................................ 32

Illustrations by Michelle Dybing

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The Seven Secret Tricks of the Trade

or What The Experts Don't Want You To Know

Many years ago, I started to record a list of all the activities I had
been exposed to mostly as a participant during my many years of
program leadership experiences. Reflecting my fastidious inclinations,
I grouped like activities together, so that as the list grew longer and
longer, I would find it easier to access them when I needed a good
idea. Ice-breakers, de-inhibitizers, warm-ups, initiatives, trust
exercises, games I recorded the lot.
Twenty years later, the list has grown into what I refer to now as my
'Book of Tricks,' or, when feeling particularly enamoured, my 'bible.'
There are simply hundreds of great activity ideas contained between
its seriously dog-eared covers. Yet, as much as it represents a
chronicle of what I have played over the years and continue to draw
benefit from it would fail to inform even the most learned of my
colleagues or YOU for that matter - the slightest glimpse of what I
have discovered along the way. Most
importantly, what I believe to be more
significant than the games themselves
the tricks of the trade.
I know for a fact that my briefing,
presentation and understanding of many
of the earliest recorded activities has
changed significantly for the better
since I first played these group activities. Its true, I have added
many new and wonderful variations to my list of games, but this is
not the difference I speak of. Rather, I refer to the philosophies and
general comprehension of how play can develop positive relationships
that now envelop my facilitation style and overall program delivery
approach.
As an international facilitator and author of literally thousands of
programs world-wide, I often muse about these differences for the
benefit of training participants. Now, I think its time to write them
down...
(The full text of this conversation can be found in my most popular
group games and activity publication titled 'No Props: Great Games
with No Equipment' www.InspireYourGroup.com/noprops.htm )

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1. Frame, Frame, Frame

In other words, prepare, prepare, prepare. Appropriately framing an
activity that is, 'setting the scene,' or providing a context in which
the activity will take place is one of the most valuable tools I
employ to help groups achieve their goals, i.e., be successful.
Otherwise, your group may be emotionally under-prepared for what is
about to happen.
People have a natural proclivity to want to know why they are doing
what they are doing. Framing goes a long way toward answering
these questions, as well as reducing anxiety, providing clarity, and
generally coaxing people forward into your program.
Everything you do programmatically provides the context in which the
next activity is framed. For example:

Your language its not just what you say, but how you say it
check out the next paragraph for a more thorough discussion.
Lead-up activities like building blocks, every activity should
aim to complement the next, rather than subvert it. To
illustrate, leading into a serious discussion with a very
energetic, bounce-off-the-wall type of activity is unlikely to
result in a settled, composed or focused group of people.
Your general approach to facilitation if you operate under the
premise of Challenge by Choice (a universal philosophy of
allowing people to participate at their own comfort level), but
your overall demeanour says there is no choice, you are likely
to turn people off.

Ask yourself, Have I done everything to prepare my group

emotionally and physically for this experience? Do they know
what they are getting into, and why? If not, think about what leadup activities you could use to prepare the way, or perhaps what
introduction / briefing might be necessary to soothe the group into
the activity.

2. Its All In How You Say It

As a participant, which would you prefer to hear?
.and if youre too slow, or get the wrong answer, you're 'out' and
you have to come into the centre of the circle..
Or, and if the time expires, or you make a gaffe, you are invited to
take your turn in the centre of the circle and have some fun..
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Perhaps each statement is saying the same thing, but for many
people, they will hear a big difference. The first implies that I have no
choice (you have to), so I might feel under pressure because I dont
want to be 'slow' or 'wrong.' This may manifest itself as, I dont want
to make a mistake, so perhaps I wont play. While the second
statement is all about options (you may decline the invitation), and
fun is introduced as an integral part of the consequence of going
out.
As program providers, our language is one of our most potent tools.
It can work for us or against us, and I dont just mean the use of
'politically correct' terms. Beware that everything you say, from the
moment you introduce yourself to the moment that you wave goodbye will fan the flames of invitation and play, or snuff them out.
Ask yourself, Have I introduced this activity in the most appealing,
inclusive, way? Provide choices to people so that they can find a
level of participation that is comfortable for them.

3. Inject Lots Of Humour

This is such a critical element of delivery, and the key to opening up
your group. Observe the crazy, menial little things people do, and
serve it back to them in a manner that says, Have you ever noticed
this? Of course, they have, they just dont want to admit it.
For example, the insistence some people have for tagging one
another after the game has stopped, or the understated crawling on
knees when a simple pivot in place was called for. Or, at a more
serious level, the subtle glance over the shoulder to check that your
spotters really are there behind you to catch your fall, even though
the command Ready, fall away! was given. What about the way we
(notice, Im using the royal 'we' here, so as to not draw attention to
myself) avert our eyes and attention away from someone whose
name we have once known, but now that they are coming our way,
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cannot for all the rice in China remember it? I could go on and on.
Suffice it to say, people love this stuff it was the essence of the TV
show Seinfeld. Our programs are made up of so much normalness,
perhaps nothingness, it can be hilarious to sit back and look at it for
what it really is at times. Of course, how you deliver these moments
is key what could appear to some as a diamond in the rough, may
just be a rock to others. Focus your humour so that you encourage
your group to laugh with rather than at others.
Oh, and inject tons of FUNN too it will act as a magnet for many
more moments of people simply being human! See a later section
about this dynamite programming tool.

4. How Not To Pick A Partner

Have you ever noticed how the seemingly innocuous
words Okay, everybody pick a partner... can strike
terror into the hearts of many participants? In my
experience, it is one of the most frightening things you
can ask a group to do. Questions such as Should I
pick someone, or wait to be picked?, What if I pick
somebody, and they dont want to play with me?,
Does she really want to play with me, or is she just
being nice, or If I pick him, will he think Im coming
on to him? will be roused among many others.
Sadly, the instruction to pick a partner is too-oft interpreted as find
someone you are attracted to. This thought is as embarrassing as it
is open to the anxiety-laden prospect of people feeling left out. There
are just too many other ways to ask people to get into smaller
groups, including pairs, to risk these outcomes.
Now, Im not suggesting that you should never use the words pick a
partner again. Certainly, as a program develops and your group
becomes more comfortable with one another, the panic-inducing
reaction to simply picking a partner will diminish. But, with most
groups, especially if they have just met each other, you are well
advised to avoid the typical pick a partner suggestion.
Check out activities such as Categories, Psychic Handshake and
Clumps later on for some amusing, often random methods to help in
the selection of partners or small groups.

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5. Always Ask For A Volunteer

There is always, no matter how long you wait, someone
willing to step into the ring of fire, and help you do whatever
you need. Perhaps you need help to demonstrate the next
move, or need someone to break the ice and start the
activity, whatever it never fails, there is always someone
willing to step forward.
But why bother, you might ask, when you can often save time and
potential embarrassment by doing it yourself, or asking a colleague to
step in? The value is hidden in the invitation.
It can be as simple as observing the initial humour of no one stepping
forward, or everyone but one poor soul stepping back. However,
beyond the humour, there is extraordinary value in using a volunteer
from your group. Having one or more of your group step forward says
I am willing to take a risk, have fun, give it a go, look silly, etc,
etc. These are huge transformative messages that are broadcast loud
and clear yet subtly to the rest of the group. It will frequently
open up further opportunities for more of this, from more of your
group.
Asking for volunteers is part of the fun, its suspenseful (whats
he/she gonna do?), and its a true adventure, especially if you dont
telegraph what they are going to be doing. Besides, I get to be upfront all the time. I want to share the limelight from time to time.

6. Stop An Activity Before It Wanes

Leave them wanting for more. Stopping an activity just as it reaches
its peak, and perhaps a tad further will give you many useful
programmatic starting points. Moving on at this juncture
keeps the energy of the group up, and their spirits high.
Its easier to slide into the next activity if you have their
attention, even if they are complaining that you stopped
too soon. Better this than having no complaints because
everyone left the scene on account of eventual boredom!
You can always go back to the activity if it really is that good (and it
fits your program goals), but its often better to move onto something
new while you have them in the palm of your hand.
And my advice, if at the end of the day you have waned more often
than you waxed, Get a new job.

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7. Play On
Ever been left out of a group? Ever felt that everyone else was having
fun, but you werent? Youre not on your own Ive been there, and
done that, especially when I was younger. So I make it a point not to
introduce too many activities that eliminate people, especially early in
a program.
Games that eliminate folks can be great fun; I still use many of them
today. But when used at the wrong time, or in the initial stages of a
groups development, it risks alienating certain people, not to
mention losing a lot of useful energy. Also, it is not unusual to watch
the same people get eliminated over and over again. Beware of the
message this may send to the group and the individual if this
does not occur within a safe and supportive atmosphere.
Clearly, the more people you have involved, the more energy and
good times you can develop which is my next point...
(Okay, I know this will be the eighth 'Trick of the Trade,' but it's really
important, so I just had to squeeze it in.)

8. Keep People Bunched Together

The wall-flower syndrome you know, those folks who
like to stand with their backs to the wall is a real killer
of energy and enthusiasm, especially in the beginning
stages of your program (when it seems everyone is
reading the same script). Always invite people to come
closer to you, get them to bunch up a little. Circles work
fine, but when you dont need a circle, collapse them in,
and invite them to move closer to you. You and they will
bristle with energy, which is a wonderful way to kick-off.
My style is very much Hey, come over here. Ive got a
secret to tell. People move in. They lean closer. Their attention is
piqued. I love that. They are now primed, and ready to rock-n-roll.
Yet, at the same time, the group has started to unconsciously break
down some barriers, not to mention, trust and share. This is all good.
Try speaking a little softer. That often works a treat. Your group will
have to bunch up together simply to hear you. And all those folks
who cant hear you because they are too busy talking, will suddenly
gasp when they realise the group has gone quiet! I love the humour
of that moment too.

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Having FUNN?
or Why Most Ice-Breakers & Group Games Fail

Obvious fun is very hard to stand away from, and so the FUNN a
whimsical acronym for Functional Understanding Not Necessary element of a program goes a long way towards involving everyone's
participation.
FUNN is THE most critical element of every group experience in which
you want people to mix, share and laugh. Applied liberally throughout
your program, it says If it's fun, I want to be a part of it.
FUNN means that it's okay to be involved in an activity for no other
purpose than to enjoy it. You, or your participants, do not need to
have a special reason to do an activity. Do it for the laughs, the play
and the good feelings it creates. You will be surprised by the results.
We should take fun more seriously!
On the face of it, having fun during the course of a
series of group ice-breakers and activities can appear to
some people (dare I say, many decision makers) as
folly; a serious waste of time and resources. Or, in other
words, Why are we playing childish games when we
should be ... [ feel free to add whatever serious intent
you care to name here ]? This school of thought would have us
believe that playing and learning is tantamount to throwing a bucket
of dollar bills into the wind, and trying to catch as many of them as
you can with oven mitts. You cant be serious, and I rejoin thats
exactly the point.
It is absolutely essential to inject a heavy dose of FUNN style
activities into your 'ice-breaking' program for, ironically, lots of valid,
intrinsic reasons. I can not stress this enough. Programmatically,
there are many reasons for injecting FUNN into your program to
invite people to laugh, to share, to play, loosen up, set the tone, or to
change the pace, etc all of which contribute manifestly to your
overall group objectives and the development of trust. Full stop.
Yes, FUNN is good, agreeable, contagious, its own
reward, etc, etc. But it will also help facilitate your
program goals and, the beauty is, your participants
dont need to understand that this is whats happening.
It just goes on around them.

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I often remark that If in the midst of having an outrageous time

today, you should stop and ask yourself Why are we doing this?, I
suggest that you dont work too hard to find an answer simply
enjoy it for what it is.
You see, I want the budding trust to sneak up on them. Theyll see it
as just having fun, but I know better. The old you-have-to-trusteach-other while I wag my finger trick just doesnt work. Oh, and its
no fun either.
Injecting FUNN into your program will give your participants the
permission they crave to play truly play and happily for you, the
motivation to generate a safe place, which inspires good sharing
which leads to trust which can stimulate learning. Voila!

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The Ten EASIEST & MOST SUCCESSFUL

Ice-Breakers and Group Games EVER!
Okay, if youre looking for dozens of sure-fire, high-energy,
interactive, leave-them-wanting-for-more activities for your group,
then you have everything you need in the pages which follow.
To make it easy for you, all of the activities I will describe can be
played right now because they require no equipment whatsoever.
Heres what else youll discover:

Dozens of fun, innovative ways to split your large group into

smaller groups;

A bunch of the most contagious, interactive games that will

break the ice and energise your group; and

THE ten most successful, proven and funnest group activities I

know, each accompanied with at least one variation.

These ice-breakers, energisers, and interactive games work because

people love em.
It was difficult to whittle my 'Top 200' activities down to such a small
list of ten. But, no matter. you're still be getting a treasure trove of
totally fun and proven group programming ideas.
So now, listed alphabetically, I proudly share my Top Ten Easiest and
Most Successful Ice-Breakers and Group Activities...
Categories
Clapping Game
Clumps
Cocktail Party
Gotcha!
Let Me Introduce
Paired Shares
Psychic Handshake
Spectrums
Thumb-Wrestling In Stereo
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Categories
The perfect ice-breaker ideal for mixing people in a fun and nonthreatening manner

AT A GLANCE
Your group splits into a variety of smaller groupings, according to a
series of categories you announce.
WHAT YOU NEED
10 20 mins
WHAT TO DO
Ask your group to separate according to the
categories or groupings you are about to
announce. For example, if the category is
Colour of your pants, everyone wearing
blue jeans will group together. Sometimes,
individuals may find themselves alone, but in
most cases, small groupings of commonality
will develop. Upon identifying each of the
groups, announce the next split. You can
keep splitting folks for as long as they are
having fun, or you run out of ideas.
For mixing purposes, alternate between two-group splits and multigroup splits. The idea is to invite your group to meet as many new
people as possible. To this end, if you have the time and the
inclination, as soon as the groups have formed, give the participants
a few moments to say hello to one another, or perhaps share
something of relevance to the category, e.g., What was so cool
about being the oldest / youngest / in-between child in your family?
Here are just a few sample and fun group categories. There are
simply hundreds of them out there, so please, don't hesitate to make
up your own, or tempt them from your group.
Simple half-half splits:

Arm that ends up crossed over the top of the other, when folded
on your chest.

Leg you put into your pants, shorts, underwear, etc. first when

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dressing.

Preference for cooking or cleaning up.

Preference for washing or drying dishes.

Position of your thumbs, that is left or right on top, when you

clasp your hands together so that your fingers interlock.

Last digit of your home telephone number. All the odd numbers
1, 3, 5, 7 or 9 get together, and the even numbers do the
same.

When presented with a good news / bad news story, which do

you prefer to hear first?

Preference for the way toilet paper spills off the roll like a
waterfall, over the top and forward, or against the back towards
the wall.

Number of street you live at odds and evens.

Simple multi-group splits:

Month / zodiac sign in which you were born.

Number of continents you have visited.

Number of siblings in your family, including yourself.

Colour of your eyes, hair, socks, etc.

Type of shoes you are wearing (not necessarily their brand).

Which shoulder(s) you hold a carry-bag right, left or both

shoulders.

How often you shave each week?

Distance you have travelled to get here (use clumps of

distances, such as 0-5 km, 5-10 km, etc.

Number of items you recycle at home, e.g., plastic, glass, tin,

paper, etc.

VARIATION

Use to divide a large group into roughly random and even

teams. If you are looking for an even split, and just dont seem
to find a category that fits, simply use the old scientific method
of indiscriminately moving a few people (Hey, you and you,
move over here.) to even out the groupings.

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Clapping Game
A sure-fire energiser that will raise the energy of your group, and
make em laugh

AT A GLANCE
Standing in front of a group, one person passes their hands in front of
themselves in a repeated back and forth motion asking everyone to
clap only when his or her hands pass.
WHAT YOU NEED
1 2 mins
WHAT TO DO
You need one person to stand in front of your group. Maybe thats
you? Explain that you want everyone to watch carefully as you move
your hands back and forth in a particular pattern. Perhaps alternating
left and right, or up and down, it doesnt matter much. Just make
sure that at some point your hands cross during the journey.
The fun part is that you ask your group to clap every time they see
your hands cross. Its at this point, I rediscover how much I love this
game, energiser, diversion, call it what you like. The intense focus
and concentration on peoples faces is priceless.
So you start passing, slow at first, then in rapid succession. And then,
I suggest, you get tricky. Make out like your hands are about to
cross, but they dont. Guaranteed, money in the bank, this lark will
cause your group to clap, and then quickly realising their mistake,
laugh out loud.
You need only present this exercise for minute or so, and it will
produce the desired effect. Your group will now be bubbling with more
energy, and there will be smiles and laughter aplenty.
VARIATION

Structured as an elimination game, same rules apply. If

someone makes a mistake, for example, a person claps when
they shouldnt, or is late, etc, they are asked to step aside, sit
down or whatever and enjoy the continuing action. Keep going
until one person remains, and give them a round of applause!

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Clumps
Zany, fast-paced energiser designed to mix people frequently

AT A GLANCE
People quickly form a series of temporary groups matching the
number called by the leader.
WHAT YOU NEED
5 - 10 mins
WHAT TO DO
This is so simple, yet so good.
Gather your group around, and
explain that in a moment you will
shout out a number any number
from, say one to ten (the bigger
your group, the bigger you can
make the top end). Immediately,
everyone must form a group
consisting of that number of people. In my experience, groups get
very huggy at this point, and form little fortresses with their bodies to
prevent others from joining their little huddle.
Naturally, you will often get a few poor souls left over, the so-called
remainder, if we speak in the language of long division. At this
moment, you have several options. You can eliminate these folks,
move them to the side, and continue with the next shouted number,
and so on until you get the lucky winners. This is fine; however, I
think its best to simply shout another number. It keeps the energy
up, is much less competitive, and more fun for everyone. And the
look on the faces of the 'dejected' when they hear the next number
called (Im saved) is priceless.
Move from five to three, then up to nine and back down to four so
that a high degree of mixing occurs. Shout ONE! just to see what
happens.
VARIATIONS

Add the proviso that every time a new number is called, a

person cannot form a new group with anyone who was in their

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previous group (as much as is possible). This tweaking of the

rules will spoil the plans of those crafty individuals who prefer
to stick together, simply opting to ebb and flow in terms of their
membership number at any point in time.

Form a group according to a simple, easily-accessible category,

such as dark-coloured tops, brand of running shoes, gender,
colour of eyes, etc. Similar to Categories on page 12.
Once formed, instruct the newly-created groups to use their
collective bodies to make the shape of a letter of the alphabet,
or numeral, or object, e.g., table, house, care, etc.

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Cocktail Party
A quick name reinforcer, and welcome segue to a drinks break
AT A GLANCE
In a limited time frame, people mingle about shaking hands and
greeting as many people by name as possible.
WHAT YOU NEED
1 - 2 mins
WHAT TO DO
Looking for a quick way to wrap up a session, perhaps reinforce a few
names people may have just learned, or want to simply cut to a
drinks break? This is it.
Invite people to bunch around you, capturing the image of palatial
surroundings, evening gowns, black ties and cocktails. Suggest that
each person holds in their left hand an imaginary drink, or cocktail if
they choose. Then, on your signal, everyone is encouraged to meet,
shake the hands of and greet as many people at the party as
possible, in say, 43.5 seconds (this is not a magic number!).
On GO, it will sound something like, Oooohh, darling, so good to
see you!. Im having a frightfully good time... Chat for a few
moments, discuss drinks, recent holidays to the Swiss Alps, and then
in typical cocktail party fashion, interrupt the conversation with a
Well, Doris, I must keep moving. Air kiss, kiss (these are not
mandatory), and ...Bye bye!and off you go to greet another party
guest.
Suggest to your group that they should use the other persons name
as often as possible, enquire about the other persons drink
(remember, they are holding on to it), but not spend too long with
any one person. For a bit of fun, ask someone for the time and see if
they spill their drink!
When you feel like the heat has started to dissipate from the party,
quell the action and ask your group what is odd about the activity.
Someone will usually remark that Theres nothing in my hand,
which is your cue to say.Lets remedy that situation time for a
drinks break.

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VARIATIONS

For kids, suggest they are holding their favourite (soft) drink.
Imagine you are in a swanky Food Hall. Invite people to mingle
as they treat themselves to the extraordinary array of fine
foods available on peoples trays.

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Gotcha!
Never fails to produce raptures of laughter
AT A GLANCE
Standing in a circle with their index fingers pointing downward into
their partners open palms, everyone tries to catch the juxtapositioned finger at the same time.
WHAT YOU NEED
5 - 10 mins
WHAT TO DO
Ask your group to form a circle, facing inwards and standing side by
side. Note, this next bit is best if you demonstrate as you explain it.

Holding your right hand out to your right hand side (about shoulder
height) with your palm facing upwards, extend the index finger of
your left hand, and place it into the open palm of the person on your
left.
Look around, and you should all be inextricably linked. Now, on the
command GO! which works pretty well to start a game
everyone tries to catch the finger of the person on their right, that
which is pointing downward, touching the centre of their palm. Of
course, jocularity prevails, because everyone is also trying to avoid
being caught by the person on their left. I just love that bit. Ask
people to shout out GOTCHA! when they catch a finger.
Now, you could try to move on, but I doubt you will want to. There
are ample moments of humour here. Observe the way in which the
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palms of some people, which first started out as flat, are slowly
curling with each round. Or the proclivity of folks to not want to touch
their finger tip on their neighbours palm, lest they get caught!! Its
all so funny.
My biggest Gotcha group? Two-hundred and fifty! Spectacular.
VARIATIONS

Try this again several times, switching palms from the right to
the left (to benefit our left-brained friends), i.e., the left palm is
facing upwards, and a right index finger is extended.
Cross your arms as you play, i.e., extend the right palm in front
of your chest to point toward the person on your left, and place
your left index finger into the waiting palm on your right.
Try all variations with your palms upside-down, and index
fingers pointing up.
Regular set-up, but this time each person attempts to catch the
finger sitting in their right palm with their left hand. Try it.
Hilarious.
Original set-up, add a further challenge. Instruct people to
place their right foot directly above, but not touching the left
toes of their right-hand side partner. On GO, you try to tag
the foot of your partner, whilst trying to avoid being tagged and
performing the usual finger and palm routine.
Everything above, but groups of only two or three or whatever.

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Let Me Introduce
An exercise where you introduce everyone else but yourself
AT A GLANCE
Each person approaches as many people as possible within a
specified time limit, introducing each of them to another person in the
group.
WHAT YOU NEED
2 5 mins
WHAT TO DO
Ive found this simple re-working of the traditional form of
introductions a brilliant way to rid my group of a lot of that tension
that most people experience when they first get together. It wont
evaporate all of the awkward feelings, but it is fun and is guaranteed
to create a ton of energy.
With your group milling about, ask them to casually approach any
other person in the group whether they know their name or not
greet them, and ask for their name. Embodied with a lively
demonstration, it will sound something like this. Hi, whats your
name? The doe-eyed person you have just approached says
Simon, and you reply with Hi Simon, come with me, Id like to you
to meet somebody. At which point you lead Simon with you over to
another unsuspecting group member, and say Hi, whats your
name? and it might be Vijay this time. Hi Vijay. Id like you to meet
Simon. Simon this is Vijay.
Having done the job of the Introducer, explain that each person now
moves on to either seek a new person to greet, or submit to another
persons invitation to be part of their introduction, and so on. Get the
idea?
In principle, the person arranging the introductions need not say their
name, but we are so accustomed to doing so in our culture, it often
happens anyway!
To give the exercise a little vivacity, announce that your group has
three (or whatever) minutes to introduce everyone to everybody else.
Wont happen, but thats not the point.

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VARIATION

Following on from the basic set-up, one of the two people who
have just been introduced to each other, now leads the other to
a new person. For example, Simon leads Vijay over to meet and
greet with Rachel.

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Paired Shares
One of my most potent tools for spicing up any ice-breaker
AT A GLANCE
At appropriate intervals, you ask the members of a pair or small
group to share their thoughts on a particular topic.
WHAT YOU NEED
1 - 5 mins
WHAT TO DO
This ice-breaker is a star because it can be integrated into any one
or all of the other activities in this ebook. When you invite people to
share, you build energy, while the process of sharing itself goes a
long way towards chipping away at the ice that is often present in
groups, especially when they first meet. Like American Express, I
never leave a program without using this technique at some point to
help me break the ice. Works like a charm.
Pepper your program, especially at the
start, with some well-placed 'paired
shared opportunities. Works best when
you have designed lots of mixing and
interaction into your program, moving
from pairs to threesomes, half-half splits,
back to pairs, etc. But, pick your moment
dont bog down every level of
interaction as a time to share, or it will
get old.
Activities such as Categories (page 12),
Spectrums (page 27), and any of the
partner activities I present are ideal for
dropping in a couple of paired-shares
along the way.
What to share? Skys the limit. Sometimes, it makes sense to invite
conversation around the topic at hand. For example, if you asked
your group to split according to who is the eldest, youngest or inbetween in their family, invite conversation about the good, the bad
and the ugly of this relative status.

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Or, try some of my favourites below.

VARIATIONS

What did you want to be when you 'grew up?'

What was your most memorable adventure experience?

The way I would describe my family is

My fondest memories of another person are

What was your most embarrassing moment?

Describe the most irritating driving habit you see on the roads
today.

What is the one talent or skill you wish you had?

Describe the naughtiest thing you did as a kid.

Name one famous person (dead or alive) you would love to

have dinner with tonight.
If you were 20 years old again, and knew what you know now,
what would you do differently?

Name three of your most important values.

Describe the best kiss you ever had.

The thing that makes me different to other people is

If you could ask God just one question, what would it be?

If you could be invisible for just one hour, what would you do?

Some of the things that make me happy are

If you had to forgive one person who wronged you in your

lifetime, who would it be and why?
If you could eliminate one hereditary trait in your family, what
would you choose?
If you had a tattoo on your body, where would you put it, and
what design would it be?
If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do?

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Psychic Handshake
A really FUNN, random method of forming a specific number of
groups
AT A GLANCE
People shake hands a fixed number of times to determine the group
they belong to.
WHAT YOU NEED
3 - 5 mins
WHAT TO DO
Begin by asking everyone in your group to think of a number, and
keep it to themselves. Your choice of number will be determined by
the number of small groups you wish to create. So, if you want four
groups at the end of this exercise, ask them to think of the numbers
1, 2, 3 or 4.
The idea is for everyone who is thinking of the same number to find
each other and gather in one spot. But, unless your group has some
sort of extra sensory perceptors at work, I would suggest they will
need some further instructions to help them find their designated
group. This is where the fun is.
With a number in mind, invite each person to approach another and
immerse themselves in a very friendly shaking of hands. Each person
will literally shake their own hand (read, arm as well) corresponding
to the number they are thinking of, and so will their partner. The key
to this banter is for each person to hold their arm firm when he or
she accomplishes the required number of shakes. So, if you are
thinking three and Im thinking two, we will happily shake one
anothers hands for the first two shakes, and then suddenly my arm
and hand will go stiff, and prevent any further mutual shakes. At this
juncture, it will be obvious from the level of grunts and laughter that
emanate from you as you struggle with my 'holding firm' position,
that we are not on the same wave-length and belong in different
groups.
Its a good idea to demonstrate what the shaking-of-hands and
holding-firm positions look like in front of everyone before you say
GO to give everyone a clue and a chance to giggle at what is really
a very FUNN exchange.
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Suggest to your group that it is most effective if they remain silent

throughout the frenetic shaking period. That is, no talking, but
laughter is permitted.
Also, a few smart folks will think to indicate with their out-stretched
fingers, or by clapping, the number they are thinking of. Applaud
their ingenuity, but suggest that its more fun to stick to the shaking.
VARIATION

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Spectrums
A passive get to know you more game
AT A GLANCE
People respond to a series of questions by standing between two
imaginary points of a spectrum.
WHAT YOU NEED
10 - 15 mins
WHAT TO DO
Create in the minds eye of your group the concept of an imaginary
line that stretches between two points be it two walls, a couple of
trees, whatever. Describe this space as a spectrum, suggesting that if
black was at one end and white the other, all the shades of grey
would be in between.
Having created this metaphor, announce to your group that you
would like each individual to place him or herself along this spectrum
according to their responses to a series of questions and scenarios.
They can choose to be anywhere along the imaginary line, but stress
that it is their decision, and they should try to not be influenced by
where their peers and / or friends are standing.

For example, explain that the spectrum represents how we, as

individuals, typically view waking up in the morning. On the left-hand
side of the spectrum, we have the early risers, those folks who just
cant wait to get out of bed, and are pumped as soon as their feet hit
the floor. Then, at the extreme right-hand side, we have those poor
souls who hit the snooze button twice and need three cups of coffee
to remember even what day it is. And of course, everyone else fits
somewhere in between.

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Upon announcing each scenario or question, ask people to move

where they belong within the spectrum. There are no right or wrong
answers. But the depth and breadth of the spread will reflect a
number of characteristics about the group.
From time to time, invite the group to observe where the group is
generally situated, and perhaps even ask them to share with a few
neighbours or with the larger group what this might mean. Or, of
course, you could simply move people from one spectrum to the next
solely for the purposes of mixing, getting to know one another and
having fun.
Here are a few spectrums to start with, then make up a few of your
own.

Your exercise regime never to several hours a day.

Job preference totally indoors to totally outdoors.

Car security never lock your car to always lock your car, even
if you are gone for 30 seconds.

Preferred home deep inner-city to remote wilderness.

Preferred landscape mountains to sea.

Time of year born January to December.

Favourite sport A to Z.

VARIATION

Use this technique to process or debrief a group experience, for

example, create a spectrum of How well the group
communicated where one end is woeful and the other is
without fault.

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Thumb-Wrestling In Stereo
Fantastic variation on an old favourite
AT A GLANCE
Partners form a monkey-grip with their hands, and each tries to pin
the other persons thumb under their own first.
WHAT YOU NEED
5 - 10 mins
WHAT TO DO
Ask your group to separate into pairs. Using the same hand, instruct
each person to hold their partners hand as if in the typical monkeygrip position, i.e., fingers curled into the palm of the other. At this
juncture, you could simply launch into wrestle mania, but try these
two fun adaptations to add a little pizzazz to an otherwise I-can-seewhats-going-to-happen activity:

Ask each person to grasp the free hand of their partner to form
a second combat zone situated on top of or below their
already coupled hands. Their arms should now looked crossed,
to give that peculiar stereo look.

Suggest that before play commences, the partners should join

in a quick preparative ditty of One, two, three, four; I declare
a thumb war, during which the opposing thumbs alternate side
to side across their respective corners of the playing field.

You are now primed to engage in

mortal thumb combat. The object is to
pin your partners thumb under your
own first. Note: Slipping out from
under your partners thumb, after
having been momentarily pinned, is a
breach of the International Thumb
Wrestling Convention! Let the games
begin.
VARIATIONS

Swap the set of hands that

appears on top of the other.

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Try it with three or four people. Continue to apply the monkeygrip posture, but this time all wrestlers curl their fingers in one
big clump of palm propinquity. Opportunities to form alliances
(i.e., Lets work together to pin HIS thumb first.) adds
another level of excitement to the game.

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About Mark Collard

Mark is one of Australia's most experienced and qualified adventure
educators, and one of a small number of international facilitators who
work with Project Adventure Inc a global non-profit organisation
that trains others in the use of group-based activities and facilitation.
Mark is the author of the top-selling activity publication 'No Props:
Great Games with No Equipment' published in 2005 and sold
worldwide. He worked as a Senior Trainer for Project Adventure
Australia for 10 years, and now operates as a freelance facilitator
throughout Australia, USA and south-east Asia.
During the summers of 2000 to 2004 he managed a large residential
camping program for 200 boys in North Carolina, USA. Mark also
lectured two subjects for the Diploma of Recreational Leadership at
Victoria University for seven years. He is listed as an 'expert witness'
for group activities on the Victorian County Court register.
Mark has just finished his latest activity book 'No Flops: Sure Fire
Activities for BIG Groups' which is due to be released in late 2008.
On a personal note, Mark earned his Bachelor of Business and MBA
degrees in the mid-80's, has been struck by lightning twice, cant
back-up a car towing a trailer to save himself and has camped on the
lawns of Australias Parliament House for three days (as part of a
logging protest). He calls Melbourne home, and counts his time
devoted to group programming as some of the most rewarding and
funnest times of his life!

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