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Welcome To A Changed Perception of Forgiveness

This document discusses the concept of forgiveness over multiple sections. It begins by acknowledging that forgiveness can be difficult but is important for well-being. It then explores some of the challenges with forgiveness, including fear of being hurt again. The document advises that the first step to forgive is to stop seeking revenge or punishment. It poses questions about safeguarding oneself while being forgiving, how to begin forgetting, and what forgiveness actually means. Finally, it shares an example of someone who fully forgives and forgets as soon as asked, allowing them grace and strength.

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Welcome To A Changed Perception of Forgiveness

This document discusses the concept of forgiveness over multiple sections. It begins by acknowledging that forgiveness can be difficult but is important for well-being. It then explores some of the challenges with forgiveness, including fear of being hurt again. The document advises that the first step to forgive is to stop seeking revenge or punishment. It poses questions about safeguarding oneself while being forgiving, how to begin forgetting, and what forgiveness actually means. Finally, it shares an example of someone who fully forgives and forgets as soon as asked, allowing them grace and strength.

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Welcome to a changed perception of

forgiveness

I Tied One Yellow Ribbon


I am going with my gut feeling it’s all I really have. It tells me stuff I
know is for my well being. It is equipped to help if I do decide to act on
its advice. The wins are striking. And I cannot but help love the
accuracy of its pitch. It’s the feeling that nudges you to do, often what
you drag your feet about.

“Help” shouted the voice in my head.


Forgive me?
What is that?
What do you need help with?
The narration is set in motion.
No matter the content the reply is cool and swift. “Forgive and forget”
“WHAT?” That is not an option I gather from the volume of the
horrified rejoinder.

Rapidly the volley of questions tumbled out and back to the beginning I
suddenly arrived. It was painful and I did not like it there. Forgive and
forget is a very hard concept to identify with. It strikes a passion in the
heart of the giver and the receiver in equal measure but in different
spheres. The giver does not desire to be the one to give and the
receiver so wants to be doing nothing but receiving a brush with the
unmentionable and most unlikely to be received. Mercy!
The huge stumbling block likely to encounter is fear. Fear of being hurt
again hinders most creative, willing minds. Fear of inviting unwanted
stress. Fear of feeling exposed and vulnerable confuses and limits
thoughts into a whirlpool making a monster out of a manageable
situation. The spin is real and the dodge appears far from doable.

FIRST THINGS FIRST!

The primary step to forgive is to fail to remember the individual in so


far as plotting and planning to get back or teach a lesson is concerned.
Then, stop seeking and waiting and finding happiness only if you hear of
the downfall for the person who is the target of your resentment.
Remaining in this frame of mind is like living in a battlefield with
unvarying gun shots all around. This emotion needs to be addressed in
you naked thoughts. Clear of justification and any excuses of buts and
ifs!

That’s all for now folks. Tomorrow we may delve into the easily
identifiable questions about the act of forgiveness.

To be continued…………………………

Love always

Joscelyn

Some Questions which have many


Answers
How does one safe guard oneself and yet open up to being
magnanimous?

Hurts caused by another’s way of thinking and being falls into variety
wherein you have to save guard yourself. Initially as far as possible,
exclude yourself from situations where you are likely to come in more
than necessary contact with the achiever of the hurt or failing. Till you
get stronger. Focus instead on getting better despite the apparent
setback created by the injury. I find making the best of what is there is a
start that is often underestimated.

How does one begin to forget?

At first forgetting will seem like a struggle not worth going through. It
appears excruciating to let go of what you think is just punishment for
an act such as that. However, as time goes on you start to reap the
peaceful benefits and this thorny concept becomes more and more
straight forward and simple.

Forget as not to bring to mind events, memories, imaginations and


anxious thinking related to any of it. Forget so as not to breathe only to
contradict and get your own back for every move and every word of the
offender.

If thoughts do come to mind make a deliberate effort to not dwell on


those thoughts and imaginations that would be a good start. If you can
last an hour without those thoughts or the thread of them you will
know that the healing has begun.
People say it’s easy to forgive but hard to forget. I find to not recall is a
conscience, tough choice and to excuse is equally hard only if you
desire it to be. Both, forgiving and forgetting are doable, both are
tough, both are a gift you give yourself.

What is forgiveness?

Forgiving means nothing more than changing your view and


perspective on events happened. Excuse the cause and understand the
action. Make it a diminutive deal. Recall occasions of your deeds. We all
have hurt someone at sometime. Hope to be given in equal measure
clemency and approval.

Letting go of stuff like this is not the fragile choice as subsequently you
have to look at yourself squarely. But it’s the only way to live in the
dignity you are born with which is lost along the rugged road of a life.
Sometimes tossed and turned by the very act of a self–righteous and
self-justified conscience.

I know someone who forgives the moment it is


asked for. From that moment it is completely
forgotten and never brought to mind. And the
bonus is that you are then in the path of
unending grace, strength and courage to bear
the consequences if any and improve your life
to a degree far beyond your imagination and
desire. Do you want to experience this too?

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