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Complete Idiot's Guide To Amazing Sex.: Sexual

The document summarizes recent research on the phases of sexual arousal and orgasm for both men and women. It discusses strategies for each phase, including taking 11 minutes to reach peak arousal, focusing stimulation on a woman's clitoris during plateau, using distraction techniques to delay orgasm, and ways to shorten refractory periods between rounds.

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Complete Idiot's Guide To Amazing Sex.: Sexual

The document summarizes recent research on the phases of sexual arousal and orgasm for both men and women. It discusses strategies for each phase, including taking 11 minutes to reach peak arousal, focusing stimulation on a woman's clitoris during plateau, using distraction techniques to delay orgasm, and ways to shorten refractory periods between rounds.

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In 1966, the four-phase theory of 

sexual arousal debuted with the publication of Masters and


Johnson's Human Sexual Response. That seminal playbook still applies—but recent research
makes your job of charting a course to the top even easier. Read on, and bone up.

Excitement

Her: Turns out that both men's and women's bodies need 11 minutes to reach peak arousal,
according to a Canadian study. But the mind is more fickle. At the University of Las Vegas,
researchers found that women are 11 percent more prone to distractions than men. Her number
one sex buzz kill? Seeing her own body. "Free her mind of insecurities with specific
compliments, and her body—and passions—will follow," says Sari Locker, Ph.D., author of The
Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex.

Him: Take it slow now to buy time later, says Patti Britton, Ph.D., author of The Art of Sex
Coaching. Use your hands and lips to awaken her neck, back, and inner thighs before moving
toward her erogenous zones. And let her bring your body into the game instead of seeking
stimulation yourself.

Plateau

Her: The plateau phase is her arousal base camp. The trick is to prepare properly for the ascent.
"If you race through this phase, you won't build up tension, so her orgasm will be less intense,"
says Emily Nagoski, Ph.D, a sexuality educator at West Chester University. Use this stage to
deliver focused, steady attention to her clitoris. "Stimulating anywhere else at this point is like
going to Minnesota to get a tan," Nagoski says.

Him: At this stage, your diaphragm muscles start tensing, which speeds your arousal momentum
toward orgasm. "Negate by focusing on slowing your breathing. This relaxes your diaphragm
and prolongs your stay in the plateau phase," says Nagoski.

Orgasmic

Her: The closer a woman is to orgasm, the easier it can be for her to lose it. Changing positions
or altering your rhythm and depth at this point might send you back to stage one.

Him: Buy time by concentrating on what your other body parts are doing (your arms holding
you up, your legs flexing). This doesn't just distract, it ramps up your body awareness and
control, says Nagoski. "But," she says, "once you cross the point of no return, climax becomes a
reflex, just like sneezing."
Resolution

Her: Women can jump into round two almost immediately, says Locker. If she's up for it, move
your finger in wide circles just surrounding her now supersensitive clitoris until she's ready for
more direct stimulation.

Him: Stress and orgasm trigger the release of the hormone prolactin, which stalls your ability to
rise again. Once the prolactin level in your blood ebbs, the refractory period ends. This can take
minutes or days: The more stressed you are, the longer it'll take. So, at the very least, don't sweat
your postsex downtime. Instead, start satisfying her and soon you'll be ready for a rematch.

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