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This document provides tips and advice for fathers going through a divorce, including maintaining involvement in children's lives, establishing financial independence, and being wary of lawyers prioritizing their own interests over achieving a fair settlement. Key steps include getting separate bank accounts, gathering important documents, planning for single life, and maintaining a presence in children's activities to support future custody arrangements. Lawyers are cautioned against letting legal representation control the process, as their goal is often to prolong negotiations for additional fees rather than reach the best outcome. Overall, the document offers a pre-divorce checklist for fathers to consider various legal, financial, child-related, and personal privacy matters.

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This document provides tips and advice for fathers going through a divorce, including maintaining involvement in children's lives, establishing financial independence, and being wary of lawyers prioritizing their own interests over achieving a fair settlement. Key steps include getting separate bank accounts, gathering important documents, planning for single life, and maintaining a presence in children's activities to support future custody arrangements. Lawyers are cautioned against letting legal representation control the process, as their goal is often to prolong negotiations for additional fees rather than reach the best outcome. Overall, the document offers a pre-divorce checklist for fathers to consider various legal, financial, child-related, and personal privacy matters.

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“Even when you cannot commence play on the 50-yard line, you can still often win.

You simply have to work harder


than your opponent. Besides, if you are a determined dad, throwing down your helmet and walking off the field is not
an option. The game will go on without you.”

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Joint Accounts. This is very important! At some early point you must actually close all joint credit card
accounts and other credit accounts that were in use during your marriage. It is not enough to simply have
your name removed. Open new accounts and get new credit cards in your separate names. Give written
notice to all creditors that either party might have dealt with during the marriage-tell them that you are
separated and will no longer be responsible for your partner's debts. Important!

Parenting. If you have children, keep a log of time you spend with them and things you do for them and
also track your spouse's child visits and child-related chores. If your current parenting activity is on the
low side, increase your contact and contributions. You may never need this information, but it might be
useful if there's a disagreement over the parenting schedule.
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Withdraw funds? If you are sure that your spouse is going to fight you over your share of family assets,
consider withdrawing half of the money in joint accounts before you inform your spouse that you have
done so. This will be correctly understood as a hostile act that will create upset and undermine trust, so
only do it if you feel you have no better choice.

Student loans after divorce are not typically treated any differently than they were before the
marriage. Most student loans are incurred prior to a couple is legally married, and they remain the
sole responsibility of the debt holder during the marriage and after. If the loans happened to be
incurred as joint debt during the marriage, then the debt will have to be split once the divorce occurs. 

Costs of Education. Like other marital debts, the classification of a student loan


depends upon the purpose for which it was incurred. When the purpose of the loan was
to pay the costs of attaining a specific degree, a large majority of states hold that the
degree is not marital property. Turner, supra, 6.20. Since the purpose of the loan was to
obtain something which was not marital property, one court reasoned that the loan is a
separate debt of the student spouse. 
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Stop Subsidizing Her Lifestyle!


Hot Tip: Insist that a portion of your child support be set aside for the children's
education. If you're paying $800 per month in child support, insist that $150 of that be
deposited directly into an education account for the kids each month. Suggest that your
ex-wife match your $150 with $150 of her own each month.
This will show you to be a caring father and if she objects, it'll expose her as a greedy
woman and an uncaring mother. At least you'll know a good portion of your child
support payments are benefiting the kids and not her.
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Pre-divorce checklist-
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Father’s pre-divorce checklist-


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Finances
 Begin severing all financial ties. Get a separate bank account and cancel any credit cards in
both names. Take catalog of any belongings of value. If something has great personal value, store it
somewhere else. Important documents, such as tax information for the last three years, birth
certificates and bank statements, should also be kept in a safe place. Consult a financial planner to
prepare for single life, taxes, legal fees and any other monetary concerns.
Legal
 Gather any titles to property either independently or jointly owned, especially vehicles or real
estate. Look into employment benefits, like health care. Most importantly, obtain a lawyer and
discuss the situation with her thoroughly.
Children
 Maintain a presence in the lives of the children. Make sure to attend PTA meetings or school
activities as well as any social activities, like baseball games, that the kids participate in. This will
help lay the groundwork for custody arrangements.

Privacy
 Get a new cell phone and cell phone service. Change passwords on email accounts or get a
new email account. Get a P.O. Box address until a new home is acquired in order to keep personal
correspondence, such as communication from lawyers, from falling into the soon-to-be ex's hands.

The Future
 Plan for single life. If the current job doesn't pay enough, look into school, job training and
advancement. Look for a place to live. Gather together a support system; a divorce can sometimes
be a battle, so make sure that there's someone to lean on.
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Tips about lawyers:

 One of the biggest mistake men make is letting their lawyer run the show.
Lawyers are in business to make money for themselves, not help you reach a fair
settlement or get custody of your kids.
 Divorce lawyers handle 100's of cases per year. They don't care about you
personally. They don't care whether you win or lose because they get paid either
way.
 To those in the billion dollar divorce industry, you're just another clueless rookie
sitting down at their poker table...we all know what happens to clueless rookies.
 Many lawyers want to avoid court and negotiate...the problem is they want those
negotiations to drag on forever.
 Divorce attorneys are experts at separating you from your money.
 Remember: All those lawyer jokes exist for good reason
Website for men (dads):

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