79a33knapp Stages of Relationship
79a33knapp Stages of Relationship
Experimenting: Get acquainted by making small talk, learn about each other; pleasant & uncritical Intensifying: Integrating: Truly interpersonal relationship; expression of feelings, more touching, familiar forms of address Take on an identity as a social unit: we/us; take on each others commitments, share common property, spend holidays together, develop own customs & habits for daily routines to intimacy Symbolic public display of relationship, weddings, legal ties, declaration of exclusivity
Bonding:
2. Stages of Coming Apart Differentiating: Reestablish individual identities; maintain commitment to the relationship while creating the space for being an individual; appears when relationship experiences first inevitable stress Circumscribing: Communication decreases in quantity and quality; restrictions and restraints characterize this stage; rather than discuss a disagreement, opt for withdrawal; interest & commitment wane Stagnating: Unenthusiastically have the same conversations and follow the same routines without any sense of joy or novelty; no growth; relationship is a shadow of its former self Create distance when stagnation becomes too unpleasant
Avoiding:
Terminating: Summary dialogues about where the relationship went and the desire to dissociate.