Guide in Prayer
Guide in Prayer
If someone asked you to give another word for 'God', you could use the word 'Presence', for
that is what God is. When Moses asked Yahweh his name, Yahweh replied, 'I am who am' and
this means 'I am present'. God is really saying, 'I shall be there for you.' God is intimately
present to everything, and especially to us. Jesus' name is Emmanuel, which means 'God is
with us'. Matthew's Gospel ends with the marvelous statement: Know that I am with you
always; yes, to the end of time.(from Finding God in All Things by Brian Grogan SJ)
Some things that may help you with this part of the prayer:
Sit in your chair, upright but comfortable, with your back supported. Let your body relax
(without slouching), with your feet on the floor in front of you and your hands at rest on your
thighs or joined in your lap.
Close your eyes, or fix them on some point in front of you. Now let your whole attention focus
on what you can feel in your body. You may start at your feet and work upwards, letting your
attention dwell, perhaps only for a few seconds, on whatever part of the body you can feel,
shifting attention from one part of the body to the other, although the longer you can hold
attention on one part, the better. Your attention is on what you are feeling, not on thoughts
about feeling. If you are uncomfortable, or itch or want to move position, just acknowledge
the discomfort, assure yourself that it is all right and, without moving, continue to focus
attention on what you can feel in the body.
The mind rarely leaves us long in peace to do this, but begins to demand attention with
comment and questions: This is a waste of valuable time. What has this to do with prayer? Is
this some kind of Hindu thing? What is the point of it? Deal with the questions and comment
as you dealt with the itch; acknowledge them, then return to feeling the body.
You can, if you like, move into more explicit prayer by repeating to yourself St Paul's phrase,
In him I live, and move, and have my being.
1. 2. Breathing Exercise (adapted from God of Surprises by Gerry W Hughes SJ)
This exercise involves concentrating all your attention on the physical feelings of breathing in
and breathing out, without deliberately changing the rhythm of your breathing.
Focus attention on feeling the cold air entering your nostrils and the warm air when you
exhale. At first you may become self conscious about your breathing and find it becomes
irregular, but this does not, as a rule, continue. If it were to do so, and you find yourself
becoming breathless, then this exercise is not for you at present.
Most people find that on doing this exercise the pattern of their breathing changes, the breath
becoming deeper and slower, and they begin to feel drowsy. In itself, it is a very good
relaxation exercise, but if you care to use it for more explicit prayer, then let the inbreathing
express all that you long for in life, however impossible it may seem in practice, and let the
out-breath express your surrender of everything to God, all of your life with its worries, sins,
guilt and regrets.
Now just notice the sounds that you can hear, sounds far away. Just hear them, don't
even try to name them.....
Notice fainter sounds, then sounds which are nearer. Just listen, become aware of
them.....
And the sound of your own heartbeat, faint, but your own rhythm of life....
And the sound of silence in your place of prayer, the silence within yourself....
God's Grandeur
This prayer helps us to put ourselves at God's disposal. St Ignatius describes this
'Preparatory prayer' as asking for the grace that all my intentions, actions and
operations may be directed purely to the praise and service of the Divine Majesty. (The
Spiritual Exercises, no. 46) You might try these words:
If it is true that God is at work in every detail of our lives, how do we begin to recognise
his action and our reaction?
At the end of the day, especially before going to sleep, the mind, without any conscious
effort on our part, tends to play back some of the events of the day so vividly that if the
day has been particularly eventful we can find it difficult to get to sleep. We may find
ourselves re-enacting a quarrel, thinking of the clever and cutting things we might have
said if we had been more quick-witted, and so on.
The Review of Consciousness is based on this natural tendency of the mind. It can help
us to be more aware of God's presence and action in our daily lives, and to be more
sensitive to where we are cooperating with God's grace and where we are refusing it.
How to do a Review of Consciousness
Let your mind drift over the last 24 hours, refraining from any self-judgement, whether
of approval or disapproval, attending to and relishing only those moments of the day for
which you are grateful. Even the most harrowing day includes some good moments, if
only we take the trouble to look - it might be the sight of a raindrop falling, or the fact
that I can see at all. When people attempt this exercise, they are usually surprised at the
number and variety of good moments in the day which otherwise would have been
quickly forgotten - obscured, perhaps, by any painful experience in the day. Having
remembered the events for which you are grateful, thank and praise God for them.
After thanksgiving, the next step is to recall your inner moods and feelings, noting, if you
can, what led to them, but again refraining from any self-judgement. Be with Christ as
you look at these moods and beg him to show you the attitudes which underlie them. The
important thing is not to analyse our experience, but to contemplate it in Christ's
presence and let him show us where we have let him be in us and where we have refused
to let him be. Thank him for the times we have 'let his glory through' and ask forgiveness
for the times we have refused him entry. He never refuses forgiveness. He knows our
weakness far better than we do. All we have to do is show it to him and he can transform
our weakness into strength. We can conclude with a short prayer, that also looks forward
to the day to come, and asks for God's help.
Read over the passage, slowly, several times and see if any word or phrase stands out for
you, and stay with that phrase for as long as you like before turning your attention to any
other.
The process is a bit like sucking a boiled sweet (for US readers, hard candy). Do not try to
analyse the phrase, just as you would not normally break up a boiled sweet and subject it
to chemical analysis before tasting it.
Often a phrase will catch the attention of our subconscious mind's needs long before our
conscious mind is aware of the reason for the attraction. That is why it is good to remain
with the phrase for as long as possible without trying to analyse it.
I may find all sorts of distractions running through my mind, but some thoughts, far
from being distractions, can become the substance of my prayer. It is as though the
phrase of Scripture is a searchlight which plays upon my stream of consciousness,
thoughts, memories, reflections, daydreams, hopes, ambitions, fears, and I pray out of
the mixture of God's word and my inner thoughts and feelings.
Dealing with 'Distractions'
Trying to pray like this, it may well happen that the mind begins to fill with questions
and apparent distractions. How do I know that I am not deceiving myself? How do I
know these words are true, that God really does communicate himself through them?
Do I really have faith in God? These are valid questions, but for now let them wait.
When a child is frightened in the night, mother goes and lifts the child and says, 'It's all
right,' and the child gradually quietens. But if she has a prodigy on her hands who
replies, 'But mother, what epistemological and metaphysical assumptions are you
making in that statement and what empirical evidence can you adduce in support of your
contention?' then mother really has a problem in her arms. In prayer we are like that
impossible child if we refuse to listen to God until he has measured up to whatever
criteria we may care to lay down. We communicate with him first with our hearts. The
heart is not mindless: it has reasons, deeper than we can see at first with our conscious
minds.
Having left the questions aside for now, what do I do with all the other distractions
which flood my mind? I may begin to wonder if I left the gas on, or remember an Email I
forgot to send. If it is urgent, like the gas, the safest thing is to go and check. With
matters that can wait, perhaps jot them down for later. Anything else which comes to
mind, far from being a distraction, can become the substance of my prayer.
Scripture as a Searchlight
The opening verse of the Bible, Now the earth was a formless void, there was darkness
over the deep and God's spirit hovered over the water, is describing a present state of
affairs, not a past event, and when I pray from the Scriptures I am letting the spirit of
God hover over the chaos and darkness of my being.
When I allow the word of God to hover over my preoccupations, then anything can
happen, for he is the God of surprises. It is important that I do not hide my inner chaos
from the word of God or from myself. We are often so trained that we think it wrong to
allow any negative feelings entry into our prayer, especially negative feelings about God.
We have to learn to grow out of this training, expressing our feelings and thoughts freely
before God and trusting that he is big enough to take our tantrums. There is no point in
pretending before God, who knows us better than we know ourselves.
There is no thought, feeling or desire within you which cannot become the substance of
your prayer in the light of God's word, when you know that God loves the chaos that is
you and that his Spirit working in you can do infinitely more than you can think or
imagine.
Imagine you see Jesus sitting close to you. In doing this you are putting your imagination
at the service of your faith. Jesus isn't here in the way you are imagining him, but he
certainly is here, and your imagination helps to make you aware of this. Now, speak to
Jesus .... if no one is around, speak out in a soft voice .... Listen to what Jesus says to you
in reply, or what you imagine him to say .... That is the difference between thinking and
praying. When we think, we generally talk to ourselves. When we pray, we talk to God.
(Anthony de Mello SJ, Sadhana ps 78-79)
St Ignatius calls this conversation a 'colloquy', and says: A colloquy is made, properly
speaking, in the way one friend speaks to another, or a servant to one in authority -
now begging a favour, now accusing oneself of some misdeed, now telling one's
concerns and asking counsel about them. .... In the colloquies we ought to converse and
beg according to the subject matter; that is, in accordance with whether I find myself
tempted or consoled, desire to possess one virtue or another, or to dispose myself in one
way or another, or to experience sorrow or joy over the matter I am contemplating.
And finally I ought to ask for what I more earnestly desire in regard to some particular
matters. (The Spiritual Exercises nos 54, 199)
Mindfulness Prayer
By Rev. Warren Lynn
Director of Search and Call
Disciples Home Missions
Often our prayers become confined to only what we have to say to God. But prayer, like an
incarnation of our relationship with God is about more than what we say; it is also about what God
might have to say to us. Still more, it is about what we do that facilitates an awareness on our part, as
to the reality that God is already and always present in our lives, and would like us to embody an
awareness of such by what we do and what we leave undone, how we relate to others, how we simply
decide to be present, ourselves, in this relationship throughout every circumstance of our lives. Be
aware, such a powerful attentiveness to God’s presence as this is wonderfully dangerous, because it is
in such intimate relationship as this that God will transform us, even radically, but slowly, until who
we are can be nothing but the person God wants us to be.
It is also important to know, though, such a way of being on our part requires a life-long, consistent
and ongoing practice. One of the wonderful ways to enter into such a life of prayer is to intentionally
schedule appointments with God on your calendar. Do it weekly, at least. Start with just ten minutes at
a time. Make sure you can be undisturbed during these moments. Find a quiet place, even if it means
closing the door to your office, placing a “do not disturb” sign on the door, and dimming the lights.
Take off your shoes for you are about to become more aware of the holiness of your relationship with
God in which you are grounded. Sit comfortably in your chair; good posture, both feet flat on the
ground, hands held together and turned upward in your lap in a cupping position, as if you are about
to receive a full measure of God’s grace. Close your eyes.
Then, simply begin to breathe. Let any stampede of thoughts and distractions move freely through
your mind. It is alright they are there, but do not block them. As they flow in one side let them move
freely out the other, like a fast flowing stream scouring out the silt of decay. Do not dwell on these
thoughts; simply breathe.
As you breathe, and with each breath, think to yourself, “breathing in God feeds my spirit; breathing
out God cleans my soul.” Breathe through all the distractions that attempt to steal your focus.
Acknowledge your own agenda for this time and then let go of it. Breathe deeply. Let God’s presence
become present to you. Don’t dwell on what might be said, or how God’s presence should be, rather
enjoy simply being aware of God-with-you. Each time you get distracted, don’t dwell on your
distraction, it is alright; simply breathe back into awareness of God’s presence: “Breathing in God
feeds my spirit; breathing out God cleans my soul.” Let your breathing be slow, but natural. Let your
breathing be relaxed and deep. Enjoy being present to God; enjoy your awareness of God’s presence
with you.
Just remember, you will never be the same again. And, remember, if you are changed, so will your
church be changed, in wonderfully, dangerous, ways.