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Guide on How to Persuade Women



The Jake Hollow

Guide on How to
Persuade Women







By Jake Hollow


Copyright 2007 - 2012 The Jake Hollow Guide on How to Persuade Women

By Jake Hollow

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CONTENTS

Introduction .... V
Acknowledgments .... /I
Prologue . /F

Social Engagements

Chapter 1: Four (4) Steps ..1
I Charmer..5
B Charisma ..8
F The Persuader.15
I Eight Reasons for the Calm ..17
V Why Me? ...20
V Misconception .21
V Quotes to Remember ..22

Chapter 2: Assuming .23
I Analyze ..27
II Real No! ...32
F Women Want It Too ..36
I History ....37
V Plan Forward.....39
V Managing Your Time ....40

Chapter 3: Negative Aspects ..43
I Determine and Process ..49
B Rejections .51
F Viper Women ...53
I Viper Men ....55

Chapter 4: With Women ...57
I Suggestion ....62
B Clarify the Memory ....64
F The Kiss ....69
I To Lead .......70
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Chapter 5: Ninety-Nine Percent (99%) Approach ...71
I Practice ..76

Chapter 6: Scope ..81
I Separation .....85
B Perplex ...86
F The Aftermath ..87
I Unconditional ...88
V Validation ....91
V Helping Hand ...92
V Being in Control .94
V Chemistry .95

Chapter 7: On Daughters and Women 99
I We Change ..105
B Toadying ...106
F Younger Days....108
I Gifts .109

Chapter 8: Disbelief ...113
I Sei Italiano ..114
B Picasso ...120

Chapter 9: Helpless ....123
I Offended ...127
B Reprogramming Yourself ..129
F Your Status ....130
I Where Are You? ..134

Chapter 10: Facing Myself ...137
I Defensiveness ....144
B Know-How .147
F Suspicion .....153

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Chapter 11: Learn From Others 157
I Humor with Empathy ...161
B What Impact Is Greater? ....163
F It is A Game ...165
I Commit to Yourself ....166
V Be Selective ...168
V Making Sure ...170

Chapter 12: The Present..173
I To Receive .175
B The Fulfillment .176

Chapter 13: What Is Real? 179
I Independence ..182
B Bonding ..183

Chapter 14: Which is Stronger? ..185
I Sims and Diffs ..189
B Performance ..190
F Guys ..191

Chapter 15: Positive Thinking .195
I True Freedom .....197
B It is All Up to Us .200

Chapter 16: Collaborator ...203
I Fish Catching ....204
B To Have Passion .205

Chapter 17: Your History 207

Chapter 18: Behaviors Habit ..211
I Reckoning Not Revenging Myself ..212

Chapter 19: Pickin Up ..215

Chapter 20: Talkers, Dumpers, and Listeners ..219
I Signs to Learn ...221

Epilogue: Revised... /V
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Introduction

This is the way I look at sex scenes: I have basically been doing them for a living for years.
Trying to seduce an audience is the basis of rock 'n roll, and if I may say so, I'm pretty good at
it. - Jon Bon Jovi

ome of you might find my book inappropriate because it
seems to treat the subject of success with women as an
objective. However, you live in a world where people
want to see results; you expect, maybe even demand, a return
on your effort so that you benefit from it. I follow this since I am
the same way. There is nothing wrong with having an objective
or a goal that you would like to achieve.

I recently began teaching how to connect with women, build
relationships, and develop a higher quality life in general, as well
as how to be positive in all aspects of life. This is how I work
since I have a very strong sense of authority. Some see this as a
weakness while others see it differently.

This is an all-in-one (1) formula that I hope you will use while you
digest my book and use it as your own personal guide in all
aspects of your life. My formula should be used as a reference
tool not only on how to meet women, but also as a way to be
successful in relationships, control your emotions, or acquire
financial freedom.

I feel that I now truly understand my role in life and why guys,
for years, have respected as well as looked up to me for advice
and help in how to pick-up women. Now, I am here for YOU.

I am assuming you singled out this book because you are at a
turning point in your life. Maybe you are dissatisfied with how
you deal with life in general, or with women specifically, and
believe there must be a better alternative to improving your
dating method.

My book will help you change; it will affect everything you do in
every aspect of your life.

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I am not interested in telling you what to do. Instead, I will
introduce you to a process that works and that will be useful in
your life. I will provide you with information, but ultimately the
answers must come from you because only you know what will
suit you best.

I will strongly emphasize that you cannot be me any more than I
can be you. You have to see this as a collaborative effort in which
I supply the expertise and experience, and you supply the
essential information about yourself. Together we will be
successful in finding the best possible solution. You will come to
understand your own personality more profoundly; you will
gradually become who you were always meant to be.

Ask yourself:

What works for me in a What works for me in a What works for me in a What works for me in a fulfilling way? fulfilling way? fulfilling way? fulfilling way?

As my nephew Niro would say, Once you know who you truly are
and what you want, you can make things happen instead of just
watching things happen, or showing up late and asking, `What
happened? NOW, rather than reading that sentence silently, I
want you to read it ALOUD and really feel it. Do this throughout
my book.

Ask yourself:

Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I?

I would like to tell you a little about my background and explain
how I began in this field.

In 2003, I met some people who were in the field of meeting and
picking up women; however, at that time, I had no real interest
in working in or helping others meet or pick up women. This was
not because I could not meet women or help others, but because
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of my preoccupation with an unfortunate personal situation that I
had to resolve.
1


Three (3) years later, my then friend Johnny Soporno
2
was a
guest speaker at a national Seduction-Coaching seminar. Johnny
mentioned my name to the person who was hosting the event,
Clifford Lee, because he was intrigued with my relationship with a
much younger woman, Jezebel. Clifford is one (1) of the original
co-founders of the PUA
3
community and organized one (1) of the
oldest Lair communities in Montreal, Quebec.

Soon after, Cliff contacted me and later came to Montral to
interview me. Cliff loved my concept, method, and technique for
seducing women, plus my philosophy of believing in yourself in
all other aspects of life. Even at that moment, I still did not see
or have a clue that there was a strong market for this, so I did
not take itor himtoo seriously.

In 2007, my life changed when my five and a half-year (5)
relationship ended. I was lost; the relationship did not end well. I
did not follow my own teachings and was embarrassed and
ashamed. I lacked the confidence that I used to have. Clifford,
however, believed in me, and that gave me the confidence and
strength to overcome this challenge.

A month after my break-up, with the support of my former wife, I
finally accepted Cliffords invitation to be a special guest speaker
at one (1) of his lair seminars. It was time for me to move on.

He picked me up at home the night of the lair meeting. My heart
was beating wildly. We finally arrived. I could not believe that in
a few minutes, everyone eyes, ears, and questions would be on
me.




1
It shall be partially explained in Acknowledgment.
2
From the Seduction Community and Seduction Lair.
3
Pick-Up Artist.
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Once we were in the building, I shook a few hands. Cliff turned to
me and said, Isnt it great, Jake, that these people are here for
you? I was not sure how to respond, but I agreed with a nod.

I watched the audience arranging their chairs in tightly packed
rows. I asked myself if I would be relaxed in this setting. I closed
my eyes, and then reached inside myself for the strength to open
up. I started to feel calmer.

As Cliff was introducing me, he said, It gives me great pleasure
to introduce this worthy and impressive man I respect and
admire as much as anyone Ive met. Please welcome Jake
Hollow.

As I stood there, acknowledging the outburst of approval from
the audience, I could not believe what I was seeing. I was
overwhelmed.

How did these people know of me? How did these people know of me? How did these people know of me? How did these people know of me?

I stood there unable to say anything for a few seconds, and then
I said, Thank you all for the warm welcoming, my names Jake
Hollow

While I introduced myself, I became more relaxed and began
seeing warm auras glowing around the audience, which calmed
me even further. All of a sudden, I was taken over by a Higher
Consciousness. Words were coming out of my mouth faster than
I could think. A hush fell upon the room, and I felt the audience
completely absorbed as I drove home point after point and
answered question after question without missing a beat.

I had the audience in the palm of my hands for close to three (3)
hours; even with my lisp and stutter, they were astonished with
how I handled their questions. I spoke earnestly and with
passion, had a frequent smile, and used occasional humor. I
would randomly pick members of the audience to help enrich
their experience.

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The next thing I knew, Clifford was letting everyone know our
time was over. I could not help thinking how my ex-girlfriend
would roll over laughing in disbelief and excitement had she seen
how successful this night was for me.

I believe I conducted myself like an old pro, and met the eyes of
every person in the room, at least briefly. I never looked down,
never looked away, never looked up. I had nothing to hide and
nothing to fear. I was in command of myself and unaffected by
the fuss and attention. I felt so honored to be there that night
and be a part of all this that a feeling of gratitude swept over me.
A feeling of peace replaced whatever inner turmoil I had.
4


Cliff looked at me and said; I think you made quite an impact
Jake. I came back a happy and satisfied man from this
experience.

In the end, having my heart broken by my ex-girlfriend was my
way to wholeness. After my life fell apart, I became open to new
dimensions of my existence that I had denied for years, yet they
were just waiting for my recognition. It was hard for me to see
this when I was in terrible pain, but when I finally looked back
upon my life, I discovered that another door of unlimited
possibility had just opened for me.

People may ask what dating has to do with the Power of the
Universe. When picking up women, you must have confidence
and you must believe that you will succeed in the goal. When you
believe in something so much, you make it come true. That is the
Power of the Universe. This shows how the Universe intertwines
with dating, relationships, and every aspect of life.

That's how my son Aaron explains it to his Pp.
5





4
My up-coming book How to Deal with Emotions and the Life of a Motivational Speaker Part I:
Life-Coaches On Internal Damage, Chapter 3: Who Am I?, Subtitle IV My Pain, My Calling.
5
Grandfather from his mothers side.
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Take a few minutes to email me your personal reason why you picked up my Take a few minutes to email me your personal reason why you picked up my Take a few minutes to email me your personal reason why you picked up my Take a few minutes to email me your personal reason why you picked up my
book. When you are ready, I will be there for you. book. When you are ready, I will be there for you. book. When you are ready, I will be there for you. book. When you are ready, I will be there for you.

Remember that if a Life-Coach or a Seduction-Coach tells you,
You do things my way, walk away and find yourself another
Teacher. There is no best way, for we are each unique. What
you must find is what works best for your personality.

I hope you will revisit this book periodically to re-evaluate where
you are, how you have changed, and where you want to be in
your life. When you re-read this book, analyze it paragraph by
paragraph.

Do not miss even one (1) page. Taking notes will also deepen it in
your mind. Yet, my life is built on fun as well as partying. So
make this fun and not too serious.

What is the po What is the po What is the po What is the point in living if you are not having fun along with enjoying int in living if you are not having fun along with enjoying int in living if you are not having fun along with enjoying int in living if you are not having fun along with enjoying
life? life? life? life?

Please Note: There are a few well known PUAs out there; some
are looked at as if they are man's gift to women, and others are
not perceived as fantastic PUA, yet their names are synonymous
with learning how to meet and attract women.
6








6
My up-coming book How to Deal with Emotions and the Life of a Motivational Speaker Part I:
Life-Coaches On Internal Damage, Chapter 3: Who Am I?, Subtitle VI Roman Brave.
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Acknowledgements

We are suffocated by writers who want to enlighten us with their truths. For me, the theatre is
beautiful because it is a secret, and secrets seduce us, we all want to share secrets.
Howard Barker

wish to express my heart-felt gratitude to my former wife
Shoshana and our beautiful children Aaron, Ariel, and Leila
for always being there for me, and for being there after the
break up with Jezebel. You have been my greatest supporters
and I love you.

I would also like to thank my mother (Maria), for near the end you
did not give up on me when I was going through these difficult
emotional moments.

I also want to credit Shoshana on the contribution to the quality
of this book. She and I do not always agree on my view of life,
but we do compromise on how my words should be used in my
book. My gratitude to all who have been here for me is very
sincere.

I want to thank those who have helped to edit this book and
given their opinion on keeping it real and not make it sound like a
book on using women. Therefore, I want to thank Shoshana,
Janet, and John for their contribution.

I also must thank Clifford Lee and Steve Piccus
7
for standing by
me faithfully and supporting me with this book.

I also must thank others who, near the end of this book, inspired
me. They allowed my philosophy on life and love to help them in
their lives. I wish to thank Roman Brave,
8
whom I have known
for over thirty (30) years.




7
Is an NLP specialist. He founded Radical Hypnotherapy, which focuses on self-improvement through
NLP, hypnosis, Chakra Cleansing, Soul Gazing, and others.
8
Life-Coach.
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I would also like to acknowledge Diablo Santana
9
and Mike
Thomas,
10
both whom I have had the privilege of meeting in the
Rivire-des-Prairie Institution (RDP) in Montral, Qubec. They
have each taken the time to read a portion of my books and offer
their remarks of strong encouragement with constructive
criticism.

---------------------------------------------------

Please Note: How I articulate and express myself in
writing is actually quite different from the way I
communicate in person. Writing has helped me
express myself more creatively and clearly, thus
improving my memory and precision as well as other
aspects of my performance when teaching to a live
audience.

People who know me say I owe it to the public to do
interviews on public television so that more people will
know who I am. My response is simple: I have no
problem with that, from signing books to doing
conventions and so on about my view points on how I
see the world. Yet, as I mentioned, people would be
disappointed because of the way I express myself with
words is not even close to the way I write.



9
Seduction-Coach.
10
One (1) of the former owners of UFC.
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Prologue

If I became a philosopher, if I have so keenly sought this fame for which I'm still waiting, it's all
been to seduce women basically. Jean-Paul Sartre

realized after I started to write this book back in November
2007 that the amount of work it would require to complete it
was more intensive than I thought. It became clear to me
that I would have to take this seriously and not as an
afterthought.

I grew up having no confidence in myself in any area of my life. I
did not know how to read or write, make a living, hold on to
money, have a relationship or even how to date women. One (1)
day, I decided to change my life; I grew my hair long
11
and, as a
result, my hair became the foundation of who I was then and
who I am now. Therefore, as they say, the rest is history. So, if
you believe I do not understand where you are coming from,
think again.

How you operate daily when it comes to achieving what you
really want in life is extremely important. You are a survivor
and that means that you must look at obstacles as challenges
that must be overcome and not as problems with no solution. The
point is you must always work to find a solution when an obstacle
comes before you. When you work to find a solution, it will come.
In other words, you must not look at something as a problem too
difficult to deal with.



11
As in the biblical story of Samson.
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SOCIAL
ENGAGEMENTS




Social Engagements
Chapter 1: Four (4) Steps

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Chapter 1:
FouR (4) StepS

You can either take action, or you can hang back and hope for a miracle. Miracles are great,
but they are so unpredictable. -Peter F. Drucker

hen you go out to certain places on a regular basis, it
becomes your second (2nd) home. It is a proven fact that
the more you see someone, the more attractive they
become. I call this attraction by familiarity.

My friend Diablo Santana
12
knows that flirting with women
creates opportunities. Most guys put a huge amount of work into
their interactions with women: pre-qualifying them to see if they
are even interested in a sexual relationship, and building
everything toward asking them on a date.

Today, it seems more women are only interested in sexual fun
rather than a real relationship. It is almost like changing
underwear. Flirting often has helped Diablo discover how
responsive women are towards him, and it helps him find out if
he has a chance at something or just a one (1) night stand.

Roman Brave
13
will tell you that any effective seducer knows
women respond emotionally, not logically like men. Roman would
add that the purpose of flirting is to make women have good,
happy emotional feelings every time they see him. Roman does
not talk about anything deep or heavy, but about fun and silly
things. Women feel pleasure, and so does he.

INTELLIGENCE, HONESTY, ABILITY, LIKEABLITY, DECENCY, LOYALTY,
HONOUR, RESPECT and the list goes on:



12
Seduction-Coach.
13
Life-Coach.
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What do these mean to you? What do these mean to you? What do these mean to you? What do these mean to you?

When I say, Idealism becomes you, what goes through your mind? When I say, Idealism becomes you, what goes through your mind? When I say, Idealism becomes you, what goes through your mind? When I say, Idealism becomes you, what goes through your mind?

What if I say use your power of visualization constructively or mentally? What if I say use your power of visualization constructively or mentally? What if I say use your power of visualization constructively or mentally? What if I say use your power of visualization constructively or mentally?

Mentally picture the way you would like your life to be, then
follow through with an appropriate set of actions.

Does the way you would like your life to be go through your mind? Does the way you would like your life to be go through your mind? Does the way you would like your life to be go through your mind? Does the way you would like your life to be go through your mind?

In other words, you cannot achieve your objective unless you
take the time to use your imagination and use visualization.

In the meantime, I would like to offer you a subtle challenge that
will prompt you to do better than usual. Your accomplishment
shall be greater if you are willing to work with me as if we were
teammates. You are required to understand fully that negativity
can and does sow seeds of discontent. You will apply yourself to
this; otherwise, you will not benefit as much as you could from
reading this book.

Do you know anyone who has an incredible ability to influence women? Do you know anyone who has an incredible ability to influence women? Do you know anyone who has an incredible ability to influence women? Do you know anyone who has an incredible ability to influence women?

You may call him a charmer or a persuader (a person who has
charisma).
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Perhaps you know this person from work, or your favorite bar or club? Perhaps you know this person from work, or your favorite bar or club? Perhaps you know this person from work, or your favorite bar or club? Perhaps you know this person from work, or your favorite bar or club?

This is a person who does not seem to have any of the problems
you have meeting and arousing womens interest. He has never
had to cajole women into spending time with him. These women
just seem happy to be with him.




14
Power to attract followers.
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What does he know and have that you do not? What does he know and have that you do not? What does he know and have that you do not? What does he know and have that you do not?

No woman will be charmed unless she believes what you say -
not only in the words but also your body language. You can seem
to be the most sincere person and yet have difficulty building a
trusting relationship with women. For instance, men who are
outrageous con artists always seem to be able to persuade
women. They do it, however, through lies and deceit.

One (1) reason con artists get women is because they are not
worried about hurting them. They simply do not care. The jerks
lack of fear allows women to relax and their confidence helps
women trust and makes these con artists more attractive.

It is ironic that jerks, who hurt women the most, get sex by not
worrying about it, while men who never hurt women cannot get
sex.

Why? Why? Why? Why?

Unfortunately, it is because men who are afraid do not have the
sense of freedom or the confidence to be successful with women.
They worry too much about an outcome that may not come to
be.
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Making you into a Jerk is not what I am about. Nevertheless, I
want to help you build a credibility that suits you.

I am sure you have seen or experienced meeting a truly
charismatic person, and he had an uncanny ability to draw
women to him. You most likely hated or envied this person, and
assumed that he was born with this magical gift. Am I correct?




15
Refer to my upcoming book, Jake Hollows How to Deal with Emotions and the Life of a
Motivational Speaker Part II: Defining Emotions, Chapter 4: Anger, Fear, Stress, and Worry, and
my other book by my re-vamped self, Gino DiCaprios The Universal Law of Creation: When You
Seek, Ask, See and Truly Believe Beyond Any Shadow-of-a-Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive!
Book I: Secrets and Laws of the Universe, Chapter 1: Logic and Belief.
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These guys cannot teach you their skills of success with women
because they have no clue how they are doing it. They just do it.
Even if they did understand how, they most likely will not want to
share their secrets with you. Would you blame them?

What I want you to know is that there really is no magic
involved. All they are really using are their people skills. You
must improve your charisma.

People like me may seem to be winging it and getting our
viewpoints across with sheer personality, charm, and
imagination. We are really just using a formula of success. I can
teach you about what to do when things go wrong:

How to charm and persuade the difficult woman.

How to deal with women who are so angry with you that they cannot
see straight.

How to deal with that endless persuasion challenge that I call the
calm, that woman who just will not open up and talk to you.

I have learned this art and hope that by the end, you will have
acquired a new knowledge about the power that is so vital that
you will wonder how you have ever managed without it. You have
always possessed this power; it was there, but most likely
dormant inside you.

Learn how to be in the spirit of the game by being very sincere.
a) What to do and what not to do.

Learn to analyze women closely.
a) How to reach inside their minds and, as a result, know exactly
what will turn them on.

Learn to develop the characteristics of a persuader, together with an
irresistible charisma, a dynamite sense of humor, and an uncanny
ability to remember name(s).
a) The thing that will make her putty in your hands.

Social Engagements
Chapter 1: Four (4) Steps

5
In addition, finally, I will teach you some magical persuasion
techniques on how to move impossible women.

There will be certain people who may not look favorably upon my
work or be dissatisfied with my presentation.

It takes determination, persistence, and a strategy to find the
right source. Make it your business to be in the know and you
will see that women will be charmed by your street smarts and
professionalism in any venue.

Some guys would call me Don Juan
16
because they saw first (1st)
hand how beautiful women found me appealing. It has never
been because of my looks, but my natural charisma that catches
women's interests. In other words, I have never been a
Casanova.
17


Like any new learning task, at some point, you will realize you
get it. You will understand the details and comprehend the
principles involved. You will suddenly know that you can do it
without making a great effort. You will continue making
situational changes and you will be faster, stronger and, as a
result, smarter.

I Charmer

Let us be realistic, most charmers are consummate manipulators
who cover their cleverness by creating a mood of comfort and
pleasure. As one (1), you would be deflecting your attention from
yourself while focusing it on your target. You make women
believe you understand them fully. You act as if you feel their
pain and you adapt yourself to their moods. You make sure that
the female target you want feels better about herself.



16
Another name for a Pickup Artist. Don Juan (in Spanish, or Don Giovanni in Italian), was not
considered good-looking or handsome.
17
Casanova was considered very attractive and handsome.
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As a charmer, you do not argue, fight, complain, or pester. You
draw your women in with your indulgence by making these
women dependent on you, and your power grows from this. So,
learn to cast this spell by aiming at womens primary weakness:
their self-esteem and vanity.

You must learn to listen and observe the woman you have your
eye on. Let her do most of the talking so that she reveals more
about herself in the process. As she speaks, you will find out
more about her strengths and, more importantly, her weakness.
In this moment, you can individualize your attention, appealing
to her specific desires as well as tailoring your flatteries to her
insecurities.

By adapting and empathizing with her, you make her feel more
special; this will validate her sense of self-worth. Making her feel
special above every other woman will make her addicted to you.
As a result, she will also grow dependent on you.

Please her by listening to her concerns while keeping her
distracted from her problems. By doing this often, she will fall
under your spell. Do not be too serious or critical; instead, be
lighthearted and fun. Show that you are a calm, controlled
person, yet full of life, and you will see how this will help you put
her at ease. Never show any anger, ill temper, vengefulness, or
any disruptive emotions that may make her defensive or scared.

If you have an adversary, now is your chance to show her your
qualities of magnanimity
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and poise
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by letting your adversary
get flustered or upset. Do not complain or make an effort to
justify yourself. The contrast will redound to your favor.

Be a man of your word. Anyone can make promises, but what
you want is to set yourself apart by not only being charming, but



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also with your ability to come through in the end. Follow up on
your promises with a definite action. If someone does you a
favor, show some gratitude.

Time is one (1) of the greatest weapons a charmer has. As a
charmer, you can be patient while planning a long-term objective
in your mind so that women will not resist you. You can widen
your options in any situation. You can make women emotional
while you remain detached (see James Bond (007) for instance). You will
make these women feel grateful, happy, moved, or arrogant.
That does not matter, as long as they feel something. An
emotional female is a distracted person. Give them what they
want, appeal to their needs,
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and make them feel superior to
you.

Physically beautiful women who play on their beauty to create a
sexually charged presence have very little power in the end. Her
youth will fade; there will always be someone else younger and
more beautiful. In any case, men get tired of beauty without
grace. Women never get tired of having their self-worth
validated.

Learn of the power you can wield by making her feel she is more
beautiful now than ever. Do not bring out your sexual presence
to her, but create a vaguer, more indirect sense of excitement
through flirtation...a socialized sexuality that is constant,
addictive, and never very satisfied.

Now you are most likely saying; Yeah, sure, not all women fall
for that. You are right! There will be some women who are
chronically insecure, hopelessly stubborn, or hysterical
complainers. Nevertheless, you must see your ability to disarm
these women. Once you do, it will prove an invaluable skill. You
must be careful, though. If you are passive they will run all over



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you; if you are assertive, you shall make their monstrous
qualities worse.
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So, be gracious and adapt to their every mood.

Your surrender is a strategy, not a way of life. When the time
comes, and it inevitably will, the tables will turn. Their aggression
will land them in trouble and that will put you in a position to
rescue them. You may decide, however, that you have had
enough, and move on. Your charm will prevent them from
foreseeing any of this or growing suspicious.

There are those who are immune to a charmer: particularly
confident, cynical types who do not require validation. So do not
even attempt to charm them. Show them that you are human
and not a deceitful person.

B Charisma

I have been told in the past, and more so lately by many people,
especially strikingly beautiful, gorgeous women, that I have
charisma. When I ask the question; What made you say this?
they always respond with, Your aura, the energy you radiate
says you love women. They always say it with an innocent,
flirtatious smile. I take it as a compliment.

For a few years, I felt I had lost that aura. Around that time, I
lost Jezebel to a younger version of myself who resembled me so
much I realized I was not watching or paying attention. My then
friend and partner Jack made me realize my oversights. There
was Jealousy (on their part). Yet, I have learned to forgive and move
on.
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I had been in situations where I was not doing anything
remarkable, just being myself, and women would just blurt out to
me, You have charisma, and it is obvious you love women.



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As Joe Magaro would say; Treat a lady like a whore and a whore like a lady!
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These remarks are not just from women my age or older, but
from younger women.

The last time this happened was not too long ago in 2008, from
three (3) young, sexy, beautiful women by the name of Carol,
Marjorie, and Melanie. It also came from two (2) other gorgeous
women who were teaching separate classes on human behaviors
named Tania and Chrystal.
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Tania, Chrystal, Marjorie, Melanie, and Carol, if you are reading
this, Thank you. You are all so in tune, you have intuition and I
have much appreciation for you all. You all fit the ideal of what I
feel real women should be: confident, strong, intelligent, sexy,
beautiful, in-shape, and feminine all at the same time.

Now to get back on track. Most women are excited by the
presence of a charismatic man. Women see an inner quality, self-
confidence, sexual energy, a sense of purpose, and contentment
that most guys lack (but most want to have). This quality radiates
outward, permeating the gestures of charismatic men, and
making guys like me seem extraordinary and superior. That
makes women imagine there is more to us than meets the eye;
to some we are g-ds, saints, love gurus, or stars. You have
learned to heighten your charisma with a piercing gaze, a fiery
oratory,
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and an air of mystery. You can seduce on a grand
scale.

You have certain qualities that are powerfully attractive and
make you stand out. It can be your self-belief, your boldness, or
your serenity. You keep these sources mysterious. You do not
explain where this confidence or contentment comes from, but
everyone feels it. It radiates outward without an appearance of
conscious effort. Most women like to be led by men, particularly if
you promise them adventure or prosperity. They lose themselves
in your cause; they become emotionally attached to you, feel



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They both looked more like Supermodels over being counsellors.
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more alive by believing in you, and they fall in love (I can hear you
Shoshana thinking; Get over yourself.)

I have lived out all my fantasies, and to tell you the truth, they
were not worth it.

Why? Why? Why? Why?

Certain fantasies should just stay fantasies.

Each charismatic person has a basic quality, but not all are the
same. Some have a purpose, like myself. I have a vision now of
helping others to become more than who they are, to become
positive thinkers. It is a cause I feel very strongly about, and one
(1) I do not plan to sway from.
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I have helped more people in the past year than I have in over
forty (40) years. People believe in my work and character. Those
who had little faith have turned around when I displayed such
confidence in dealing with their problems. They began to see me
as their savior, someone with intense charisma. I helped them to
see who they are and who they can be.

Some say I am a mystery, but I express myself by contradiction.
I can be kind and cruel, excitable and icily detached, close and
distant, as well as approachable or elite.
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It is hard to fathom;
women add richness to your character, and it makes people talk
about you. You show your mysterious nature gradually so that
word will spread. It may require keeping women at an arm's
length, to keep them from figuring you out.

Another aspect of mystery is your hint of the uncanny. The gifts
that I have, the appearance of a Guru, a Teacher, a Prophet, or a
Healer add to my aura. I have predicted many events that have



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Ask, See and Truly Believe Beyond Any Shadow-of-a-Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive! Book
I: Secrets and Laws of the Universe.
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become true, which Jezebel or anyone close to me can tell you.
When I was ten (10) years old I told my mother that when I grew
up I would be married to a blonde American woman who would
give me twins. This was one (1) of many events that I was able to
foretell.
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You must live out your ideas with love, without caring about the
consequences. Get lost in your own world. The key is that you
must already have some deeply held values, and this part cannot
be faked...at least not without risking accusations of charlatanism
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that will destroy your charisma in the end. You live by what you
believe.

To a charismatic person, words are the quickest way to create
emotional disturbance. They can elevate women or stir anger,
without referring to anything real. You have no fear of death,
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which makes you dangerously sexual to women. You are
delightfully spontaneous; you do not like to plan. You give out a
hint of these qualities that make you look more powerful than
you are. You have this ease, and it results in an adaptability that
shows your openness to experience.

You must believe in something very strongly for it to animate all
your gestures and have your eyes light up. You work to make
yourself believable to others. You believe in causes. You will die
for what you believe in. The depth of your conviction takes
people by surprise. People are more and more isolated today;
they long for communal experience. My work is to help you by
you helping me. I want to give you my own fervent, contagious
faith. I want to give you something to believe in. Whatever your
belief is, it all comes from One (1) Energy Field, Supreme Mind,



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in my Gino DiCaprios The Universal Law of Creation: Chronicles Book II: Time is an Illusion.
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One making usually showy pretences to knowledge or ability.
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Consciousness, Creative Source, G-d, Infinite Intelligence, the
Universe, or whatever else you call it.
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You, as a charismatic person like me, may seem needy or
manipulative. That is not close to being the truth, however;
charismatic people feed off others. The more charismatic you are,
the more women (and people in general) want you around because of
the charismatic energy you release. You are unconventional, and
you have an air of adventure with risk that attracts bored
women. You also take risks for the good of others.

One (1) big physical attribute to seducing women is your eyes.
Without words, they reveal excitement, tension, and even
detachment. Indirect communication is very critical for you as a
charismatic person. You are poised and calm, nevertheless your
eyes are magnetic, and have a piercing gaze that disturbs your
targets emotions, exerting force without words or action.

Just my aggressive gaze can reduce my opponents to silence; my
face frightens them. I am very content with myself and with my
loved ones. Most see me as a happy person, an enlightened man.
I do not require anything or anyone, since I feel fulfilled. People
are naturally drawn to those who emit happiness like me, and
they hope to catch it from us. They can see that I am happy
without my having to tell them, just by seeing me at ease and
comfortable. I am neither a Seduction-Coach nor any longer a
Life-Coach. Im a Spiritual Teacher.

My essence is an overpowering emotion that communicates itself
in my gestures, in my tone of voice, and in subtle signs that are
more powerful because they are unspoken. I feel things more
deeply than I did before my awakening; moreover, no emotion is
more powerful and more capable of creating a charismatic
reaction than hatred. To hate is simple when you let negative



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Ask, See and Truly Believe Beyond Any Shadow-of-a-Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive! Book
I: Secrets and Laws of the Universe.
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influences affect you. I have learned that life is precious, and to
turn this energy around.

Express what others are afraid to express. Detention Centers and
Prisons have taught charismatic people like me the art of oratory,
as well as how to channel our emotions. Nothing is more
charismatic than the sense that we are struggling with great
emotion rather than simply giving into it.

Erotic fatigue is a threat to you if you have charisma, for you
often win love by acting as the savior, rescuing women from
certain difficult circumstances. Yet, once they feel secure, you
become less seductive to them. You show danger along with risk.
You deliberately keep danger going.

My passion, my anger, and my confidence may be charismatic,
but I also know that too much charisma for too long will create
fatigue, along with a desire for calmness and order. A better kind
of charisma is created consciously and is kept under control.
When necessary, you can glow with confidence, fervor, and
inspiration. Nevertheless, when the adventure is over, you can
settle into a routine, not turning off the heat, but turning it down.
Women will admire your self-control and adaptability.

Women love affairs with charismatic people like you. It moves
you closer to the habitual affection of a husband and wife. You
will even have the leeway to look a little boring, a little simple...a
role that can also seem charismatic if played correctly. You
depend on success to keep it this way; it is smart to be practical
along with being cautious.

What is charisma? What is charisma? What is charisma? What is charisma?

Charisma is a rare quality that makes women like you even when
they don't know much about you. It is this intangibility that
makes women want to follow you, be around you, and have you
influence them. That Je ne sais quoi flair causes women to see
you from across a crowded room and want to be with you.

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Charisma is a gift from the Universe that is a part of you. A
Higher Being gave you this special talent.
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It is comparable to
the ability to heal or prophesy. This special quality lets you
capture the imagination of another person. This leads to inspiring
support and devotion.

Now here are a few questions for you:

Would it not be great to walk Would it not be great to walk Would it not be great to walk Would it not be great to walk into a room and immediately know that into a room and immediately know that into a room and immediately know that into a room and immediately know that
everyone there, especially members of the opposite sex, were aware of you? everyone there, especially members of the opposite sex, were aware of you? everyone there, especially members of the opposite sex, were aware of you? everyone there, especially members of the opposite sex, were aware of you?

Would it not be great to walk up to a beautiful woman and know for sure Would it not be great to walk up to a beautiful woman and know for sure Would it not be great to walk up to a beautiful woman and know for sure Would it not be great to walk up to a beautiful woman and know for sure
that she is going to reach out to you? that she is going to reach out to you? that she is going to reach out to you? that she is going to reach out to you?

What about being in a place wh What about being in a place wh What about being in a place wh What about being in a place where there is an argument happening, and you ere there is an argument happening, and you ere there is an argument happening, and you ere there is an argument happening, and you
quietly say, This is what I think and the whole room falls silent and quietly say, This is what I think and the whole room falls silent and quietly say, This is what I think and the whole room falls silent and quietly say, This is what I think and the whole room falls silent and
listens. Would that not be great? listens. Would that not be great? listens. Would that not be great? listens. Would that not be great?

Charisma is the quality that makes women like you. Good looks
are not the reason, as you may think. Charisma is largely non-
verbal, as is ninety-three percent (93%) of our ability to
communicate. You can best understand charisma by
understanding its opposite. You would least like to be with
someone who is self-centered. You would most likely want to be
with someone who has expanded her center to embrace the
world around her.

Being charismatic comes from expanding my center, so I am just
as conscious of her as I am of myself. I believe in and want you
to do the same: to always treat everyone you meet, not just
women, as the most important person you will meet that day. In
Chapter 5: Ninety-Nine Percent (99%) Approach, I will be
discussing this in the context of shaking or kissing a womans
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Ask, See and Truly Believe Beyond Any Shadow-of-a-Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive! Book
I: Secrets and Laws of the Universe.
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You should also train yourself to look deep into her eyes and
make a mental note of their color, and any other details, like the
length and color of her hair and nails. You should even notice her
make-up. You must learn the art of giving sincere compliments,
because everyone cares what you think when it is positive.

A smile is very important, so you also must work on your smile.
When she smiles back at you, you will want to keep your smile a
bit longer with a tilt of your head. I know that there are those
that seem like they could care less, but watch them when they
receive a sincere compliment; you will see a smile.


F The Persuader

So what is persuasion? So what is persuasion? So what is persuasion? So what is persuasion?

It is the ability to get her to do what you want her to do, whether
by reasoning, urging, compulsion, or induction. That translates
into the ability to make something happen. Persuasion is a
combination of factors: personal charisma, the ability to project
personal standards that are inspiring, and deep understanding
that the essence of persuasion is that women will move in a
given direction only when they feel that it is in their best interests
to make that move.

The key, then, to effective persuasion is not to concentrate on
what you want to get from women. A Persuader knows the secret
is to focus on what you can give her, understanding that when
you give women what they want, they will give you what you
want.

To achieve total satisfaction with women, you must figure out
what your preferences are and then find a woman who
accommodates them. Some may provide warmth along with
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some are not. Some women may require a lot of socializing,
while others may require quiet concentration.

Do you know exactly what kind of woman suits you best? Do you know exactly what kind of woman suits you best? Do you know exactly what kind of woman suits you best? Do you know exactly what kind of woman suits you best?

Have you ever even stopped and seriously thought about it? Have you ever even stopped and seriously thought about it? Have you ever even stopped and seriously thought about it? Have you ever even stopped and seriously thought about it?

It is a good thing that there are so many different kinds of
women, since you are so different in your abilities and priorities.

Some of you love the fast pace of the chase and the hunt. You
may be a person with high energy, a great smooth talker who
enjoys meeting many people. You use your excellent reasoning
skills to persuade women to make their move, and you get much
satisfaction out of meeting your goal and then some.

You understand the formula: for every fifty (50) women you talk
to, you get five (5) to ten (10) who will be interested in you.
Moreover, out of those, you might sleep with a few, or find your
dream girl for a long-term relationship. Therefore, even if you
often hear no from the others, you never take their rejection
personally. What you find energizing is getting those who accept
you and moving on to the next challenge.

Maybe you like to deal with this differently. You may just enjoy
talking to lots of people; however, you first (1st) like to establish a
relationship with them. You like to help each woman find what
will be truly right for her as well as for yourself.

You may like to look for opportunities that will enable you to
grow and experience personal success and satisfaction. You may
be cautious rather than quick to determine whether or not she is
interested in you before moving on to the next woman. You are
not interested in having a relationship with someone who
probably is not right for you by successfully pressuring her into
giving it a shot.

You are each different in what you require and desire, and your
interests, skills, values, and personalities also differ. Unless both
you and your woman have a similar personality type that you
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each find intrinsically enjoyable, it is likely to have a different,
even opposite, effect on her.

I Eight Reasons for the Calm

The calm is the woman who just will not talk. She will not
respond to any of your suggestions, and you never know where
you stand with her.

Now, you must figure out why women like her will not talk. The
funny thing is that there are only eight (8) reasons:

1. Obsession (addiction).
2. Inhibition (shyness).
3. Apathy (indifference).
4. Anger (irritation).
5. Evaluation (thinker).
6. Stress (frugality).
7. Time (pressure).
8. Fear (anxiety).

A woman cannot concentrate on what you are saying because
she is obsessed with another issue. Confront the problem, but do
it gently.

Some women will not talk simply because they are shy. Draw
them out by asking open-ended questions (who, what, where, when,
why, and how).

See if you can answer these questions with a yes or no.

I love your outfit, where did you purchase it? I love your outfit, where did you purchase it? I love your outfit, where did you purchase it? I love your outfit, where did you purchase it?

When was the last time you had a good dinner? When was the last time you had a good dinner? When was the last time you had a good dinner? When was the last time you had a good dinner?

How do you do it How do you do it How do you do it How do you do it you have such beautiful hair? you have such beautiful hair? you have such beautiful hair? you have such beautiful hair?

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Yes or no cannot answer these questions. Since you are asking
these kinds of questions, she has to respond with something
more than yes or no, do you agree? This forces her to elaborate, and
this will draw her out of her shell. Or, as J. Magaro
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will add,
Only thing that I have to say is that in my experience, if theyre
not very talkative, theyll keep pretty quiet even with open ended
questions. Like if you ask them, When was the last time you had
a good dinner? Theyll just say, I dont know. Or if you ask
them what kind of music they like, theyll say Everything. How
do you blast through that?

We both agree that you should just call them out on it and ask,
You seem really shy tonight. Why is that?

Some women are not talking because they just do not care. They
are probably upset about something else that has happened.
Romance them with talk of good things in life until they come
back into focus.

She will not talk to you because she is still upset with you about
something you did previously. Bring that repressed anger to the
surface and get it out.

She may be the type who likes to think things through. Be quiet.
Do not distract her by talking while she is thinking it over.

Some women are frugal;
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they get nervous about having to
spend money or having you spend too much money.

Some women have her entire day broken down into five (5)
minute segments. For whatever reason, she is always in a rush.

Some women get very talkative when they are scared, but most
stop after awhile. Quickly move to reassure her by telling her
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The very fact that you have begun reading this book is proof of
your interest in acquiring my philosophy and the abilities that I
teach.

This book will help you achieve whatever goal you may have. All
you have to do is cooperate with my philosophies with an open
mind and follow the suggestions in this book, in addition to
working on applying them in every situation in which you find
yourself in life. Nevertheless, you must put my suggestions into
full practice and not half-fast practice. In the long run, as you
put my principles into full practice, you shall find your adventure;
self-direction and vision will change you not only on the inside,
but also on the outside.

Now picture yourself clearly in your mind and hold onto that. You
are successfully doing what you fear to do. Then concentrate
steadily, with the image in your mind, on the benefits you will
receive through your ability until it becomes a definite thought
form.
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What you think is who you are, so by changing your thoughts,
you can change your life. Therefore, it is essential for you to
think positively about your chances to succeed.

Your will to succeed is a vital part of your progress. Dont go
into it half-heartedly; you need the enthusiasm to pursue your
desire and the persistence to wear away mountains. But this will
give you self-assurance. You will have absolutely no fear or doubt
in believing you will succeed in what you clearly pictured in your
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V Why Me: :: :

What I want to teach you is to take one (1) small step at a time
so that, gradually, you achieve a positive change.

Now let's be realistic, most of you will make a commitment to
change today. But most likely, your commitment is gone
tomorrow, you agree?

The correct, most successful method of achieving your objectives
is the slow and steady approach. Gradual, yet consistent. As
soon as you have become comfortable with one (1) objective, it is
time to start on the next, and so on and so forth.

Then, through constant growth, slowly but surely you will become
more knowledgeable, committed, fulfilled and happy in your
faith.

My friend, it does not matter where you start, as long as you are
moving ahead in the right direction. As long as you are going up,
you shall succeed in climbing your way to a safe journey.
However, do not confuse your ego with instant gratification and
plunge yourself back into a pit.

One (1) day soon, you will come to realize your true personality,
and you shall be utterly astounded. You will ask yourself
repeatedly, How did I allow myself to cast such a beautiful,
innocent soul into a dark and depressing pit?

Not the excuse:

WHY ME? WHY ME? WHY ME? WHY ME?

With every action, you either advance or obstruct the drama of
redemption; you either reduce or enhance the power of negative
energy.

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You must remember that something very real and absolute is
always at stake at every moment of your existence, as well as in
every act you do.

What is your opinion of yourself? What is your opinion of yourself? What is your opinion of yourself? What is your opinion of yourself?

Are you satisfied as well as happy with the kind of person you are? Are you satisfied as well as happy with the kind of person you are? Are you satisfied as well as happy with the kind of person you are? Are you satisfied as well as happy with the kind of person you are?

Are you dissatisfied with aspects of yourself? Are you dissatisfied with aspects of yourself? Are you dissatisfied with aspects of yourself? Are you dissatisfied with aspects of yourself?

People do not plan to fail, they just fail to plan.

V Misconception: :: :

Most of you seem to have the misconception that being
successful with women is being able to see a woman and in less
then ten (10) to twenty (20) minutes have her naked in bed with
you. Yes, this is possible, but not all the time.

You cannot always be perfectly smooth. That is why I never take
it personally and keep it real. I always observe my surroundings
first (1st) and read people before I make my move. I have learned
to be patient. By learning this, you will be able to handle any
situation and know how to interact; therefore, you will always be
successful.

Yes, I have had women in less then two (2) minutes in clubs, in
washrooms, or wherever. I have seen men who've just met a hot
woman, and the whole night he is warming her up. He buys her
drinks, and even a rose. I wait for fifteen (15) to twenty (20)
minutes before the club announces last call. I approach her and
softly whisper in her ears, Lets dance, because after you shall
come home with me. I lead her to the dance floor, and even
leave with her, and the guy she was with is pissed off.

Most men are not clear about what they want and expect from a
woman. The last thing you want is to end up with someone you
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do not connect with if things get serious with her. You do not
want to be blinded by lust, either.
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Seriously think about this.

V Quotes to Remember

Avoid negative thinkers and dream stealers, for they cannot stop
your imagination and hope.

An idiot will repeat the same mistake. A wise person will learn and
recognize his (as well as others') past mistakes, and will set out in
order to be prepared.

By living your life around your dreams, you shall live your life as it
was originally supposed to be, just as in your favorite movie.
However, live your life without dreams, and you will live a life full of
discouragement, frustration, and problems.

The system may take away my freedom, but it cannot ever take
away my love of life.

I want you to take a moment to find out if you are really here
now. I would like you to stop reading, answer every question I've
asked, then put down my book.

I am sure you found out that you are here a lot less than you
knew. There is a lot more than you know. What I am doing is
bringing you back to the now, so that you stay focused.





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AssuminG

The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances
they want and if they cannot find them, make them. -George Bernard Shaw

ou know what you would like to become, or what you want
a woman to be for you. Some of you long for danger, or
even rebellion. Perhaps you are more elevated. You want to
be more creative, more noble, as well as more kind than you
ever manage to be. You sometimes feel like you are missing
something inside of you.

What is your level of self What is your level of self What is your level of self What is your level of self- -- -esteem at this moment? esteem at this moment? esteem at this moment? esteem at this moment?

Are you shy, or do you feel inferior? Are you shy, or do you feel inferior? Are you shy, or do you feel inferior? Are you shy, or do you feel inferior?

Does this cause you to avoid or mishandle opportunities? Does this cause you to avoid or mishandle opportunities? Does this cause you to avoid or mishandle opportunities? Does this cause you to avoid or mishandle opportunities?

How can you strive to feel good about yourself? How can you strive to feel good about yourself? How can you strive to feel good about yourself? How can you strive to feel good about yourself?

To accept yourself without overly punishing yourself To accept yourself without overly punishing yourself To accept yourself without overly punishing yourself To accept yourself without overly punishing yourself or feeling insecure? or feeling insecure? or feeling insecure? or feeling insecure?

Ask yourself:

What are my strengths, and how can I develop them? What are my strengths, and how can I develop them? What are my strengths, and how can I develop them? What are my strengths, and how can I develop them?

What are the weaknesses I can correct? What are the weaknesses I can correct? What are the weaknesses I can correct? What are the weaknesses I can correct?

In certain places, negatively, that nebulous sense that not all is
well can confuse growth. Do not accept being in a negative
environment or being with people who have negative behaviors.

What I usually like to ask is:

What are you looking for in a woman? What are you looking for in a woman? What are you looking for in a woman? What are you looking for in a woman?
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Think hard and clearly before you answer.

Are you looking for a Are you looking for a Are you looking for a Are you looking for a (1) (1) (1) (1) one one one one- -- -night stand or a relationship? night stand or a relationship? night stand or a relationship? night stand or a relationship?

If it is a relatio If it is a relatio If it is a relatio If it is a relationship, then what is your vision in this life? nship, then what is your vision in this life? nship, then what is your vision in this life? nship, then what is your vision in this life?

What kind of intimate relationship do you want? What kind of intimate relationship do you want? What kind of intimate relationship do you want? What kind of intimate relationship do you want?

What is most important to you? What is most important to you? What is most important to you? What is most important to you?

Passion and romance, a companion, or a family? Passion and romance, a companion, or a family? Passion and romance, a companion, or a family? Passion and romance, a companion, or a family?

And:

What are your strategies for finding a partner? What are your strategies for finding a partner? What are your strategies for finding a partner? What are your strategies for finding a partner?

What is most important What is most important What is most important What is most important to you in choosing a partner? to you in choosing a partner? to you in choosing a partner? to you in choosing a partner?

What are the least important qualities in a partner that would be nice to have, What are the least important qualities in a partner that would be nice to have, What are the least important qualities in a partner that would be nice to have, What are the least important qualities in a partner that would be nice to have,
but that you could do without if you had to? but that you could do without if you had to? but that you could do without if you had to? but that you could do without if you had to?

How important is emotional closeness to you, compared to sexual excitement? How important is emotional closeness to you, compared to sexual excitement? How important is emotional closeness to you, compared to sexual excitement? How important is emotional closeness to you, compared to sexual excitement?

Before you read the next paragraph, seriously answer these
questions and reflect on your answers.

Your ability to persuade relies upon the level of credibility that
you have with women in general.

When you speak, do they believe you? When you speak, do they believe you? When you speak, do they believe you? When you speak, do they believe you?

Unless they do, there is no possibility that you can influence
them to do what you want. Women will listen to you, but they
will not act until they believe you. Let me stress that one (1) more
time, Women will not act unless they believe you. Do you follow?

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Therefore, if you are out making an effort to pick up women, you
should always be thinking:

Will she believe me? Will she believe me? Will she believe me? Will she believe me?

Unless you have built enough confidence along with some
credibility, she will not give you the time of day. She will feel that
you are trying to manipulate her and are being untruthful.

Here are three (3) things you should never assume, because if
you do, you shall make an ass out of you and me:

Never assume she is not interested in you, even if it is true.

Never assume that she understands you, even if she does.

Never assume that she believes you, even if she says she does.

You may meet a woman that you are truly interested in, but she
waves you off and walks away from you. You can talk and speak
to her about how wonderful she is, or what may just be around
the corner if she stays and gives you a chance.

It will not mean a thing, however, unless you convince her that
you are a sincere man and that you really do have the power to
make it happen. Whatever you do, do not whine. It is a big turn
off for women.

Do not be offended by a womans natural unwillingness to believe
you. Remember that she lives in a world where men approach
her with pick-up lines everyday. She cannot possibly believe
everything she hears or take everything at face value. It would
be a short trip to disaster for her.

She can be attracted to you while at the same time she's afraid
of being physically abused by you. After all, she does not know
you. She just met you. Therefore, she may stay distant,
unattainable by men who desire her. The fear of being abused,
hurt or raped is the biggest concern most women have when men
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Women like to watch their surroundings from afar. As a result,
she will watch how you act with others to make sure you will not
physically or mentally hurt them. Women want to be sure they
can trust you before getting physically vulnerable with you.
Women will test you to see if you are safe or not. Respect her for
being cautious, because there are many dangerous men and it is
not worth the risk if she goes home with a man who could hurt
her.

Your choice is to not take it personally; instead, do something to
create trust while you move at her pace. Do not overly
complicate things by over-thinking the next point. Do not ever
doubt that your instincts are accurate. Realize, however, that at
times it is difficult to tell the difference between the mental
chatter of over-thinking and the voice of intuition. Follow your
hunches.

All women love romance and having attention focused on them.
It is your responsibility (and obligation) to understand how to create
romantic situations and feelings in women. Do not fool yourself
into believing this is not true.

Not all women are looking for the exact same thing, and their
desires vary greatly. No matter what, however, all women in the
end want the feelings that come from being romanced.

Romance is the key to melting a womans heart and having her
want you. In a short-term relationship, romance plays a large
role, especially if you want to sweep them off their feet and into
your bed. In a long-term relationship, romance is what holds it all
together over time. Romance is what will make the relationship
stay fun and fresh, and lets the sex last for years.

Women love knowing you are thinking about them. Even if you
are not, you must take actions that make them believe you are
thinking of them. Then they feel romanced. They are often
thinking of you. They want to know that you appreciate it when
they give their bodies to you. They want to make sure you
respect them.
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Another important rule you must remember is that you do not--
and I shall emphasize this--you do not make a play on women
who are attached to people you personally know.
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Doing this
not only makes you look bad, but it shows that you cannot find
women on your own.

In the end, it may not be worth the price you pay, since you will
be seen as lower than dirt, and the same will be returned to you
someday when you least expect it.

Are you one Are you one Are you one Are you one (1) (1) (1) (1) of those people who are attracted to those who are attached to of those people who are attracted to those who are attached to of those people who are attracted to those who are attached to of those people who are attracted to those who are attached to
others? others? others? others?

You want to possess them and steal them away. You can believe
all you want to about desire, but in the end, much of it has to do
with vanity and greed.

I fight for what I believe in. I do not let others sway me from my
values to achieve their own ends. I demonstrate loyalty to those
who have remained devoted to me, and I let them know they are
appreciated.

I Analyze

I know and fully understand that most of you do not look at
details when you go out, but women are completely the opposite.
So, when you go out, be creative about the details and choose
where you plan to go carefully. Dress well, have clean clothes on,
smell good, and have breath mints on you. Your place and your
car should be clean. Cleanliness is important since it gives
women one (1) less thing to be distracted by. It also shows them
that you have put thought, time, and energy into creating an
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Take the time to look great. Your appearance is important, not
because others really care what you look like, but because you
act your best when you feel good about how you present yourself
to the world.

Women are motivated either by the possibilities of your offer or
by the perceived necessity of making a move. When talking to a
potential thinker, you must stress to her the exciting benefits of
making a move. When persuading a woman who is a necessity
thinker, stress the penalties of not changing.

Women are this way because of self-interest; they sort things out
internally or externally (out of concern for others). In some, it is an
extreme, but in most, it is much more subtle. Analyze the way
she talks and decide whether she sorts internally or externally. If
she is an internal sorter, appeal to her self-interest. If she is an
external sorter, stress the benefits that are around her.

There are some women who care very deeply about what others
think, while there are others who could care less. I have learned
that this is called Field Dependence versus Field Independence.
To a field dependent woman, stress how much you will appreciate
her going along with you. To a field independent woman,
emphasize how she must take a larger role and make bold
decisions.

When you reach a certain status, many of you create an illusion
that you are in an untouchable box. You learn later on in life,
however, that this is only an illusion. You believed yourself
genetically gifted, and that you did not require training as much
as others did in your field, and this is where you made your
mistake in your game. You must always practice; train your
whole being continuously.

She may look viciously sexy; nevertheless, do your homework on
her first (1st). Do not mess around in the sheets with damaged
women. She may be significantly elevated in the wild sex
department, but in the long run you are going to get stuck
carrying more baggage, or worse, you may lose yourself. By
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latching onto these kinds of women, you dodge having to deal
with your own shortcomings.

So do yourself a favor and stay away from women that have
problems. Both you and she will only be focused on her. As a
result, it might seem like she is into you, even worships you, but
your limits and weaknesses will go completely unnoticed. Avoid
those high maintenance headaches. Focus on yourself, on what
you really want...and I do not mean from a relationship.

If you are only looking for fun, then do not see her more than
once (1-X) or twice (2-X). Do not let amazing sex or a hot body
compromise that. You deserve the BEST, not second (2nd) or third
(3rd) best.

If you are a single man who just settles for anyone and is
miserable, it is because that is what you secretly crave to be.
Seriously think about it, and then tell me I am wrong. When
you are truly ready to let go, you will finally find a real
relationship instead of always being miserable. Your judgment is
especially good, so do not entertain any self-doubts. First (1st),
study what is at hand, and then move forward with a plan of
action.

It is important to find the right woman for your life. Why accept
second (2nd) best and spend five (5) to fifty (50) years working at a
relationship you would rather not have? You are, in truth,
throwing away a large part of your life. This is unnecessary and
sad, especially since a truly loving relationship is within your
reach.

For those of you that are just dating, always have a back-up plan
in case your date stands you up or shows up late. This way your
day or evening is not ruined.
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Life can throw you off guard if you do not watch yourself. While
you are waiting, bring a book, a kindle
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to read or a laptop to
keep yourself busy. Flirt with women who work there, and enjoy
the time that you spend there. After waiting for thirty (30)
minutes, leave with a smile and do not take it personally; do not
call or text to ask for her reasons for not being there. Stay
positive. Do not dwell on her not keeping her word. Enjoy your
time on your own and control your life; do not give it away to
your date. Do not be angry, upset, or feel humiliated. Do not
throw away control of your life.
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When you think of relationships, you normally think of how your
partner is treating you, whether you are happy, or if she listens
to you. You tend to weigh the pros and cons of the relationship
and then consider how you feel about your partner. Am I right or
wrong on this?

However, what if your happiness in your relationship has as much to do with However, what if your happiness in your relationship has as much to do with However, what if your happiness in your relationship has as much to do with However, what if your happiness in your relationship has as much to do with
how you feel about yourself as it does with how your partner is treating you? how you feel about yourself as it does with how your partner is treating you? how you feel about yourself as it does with how your partner is treating you? how you feel about yourself as it does with how your partner is treating you?

Have you noticed that leaving one Have you noticed that leaving one Have you noticed that leaving one Have you noticed that leaving one (1) (1) (1) (1) relationship and beginning a new one relationship and beginning a new one relationship and beginning a new one relationship and beginning a new one (1) (1) (1) (1)
does not nece does not nece does not nece does not necessarily solve everything? ssarily solve everything? ssarily solve everything? ssarily solve everything?

At first (1st), you may think this person is different, and that you
will be happy forever. The honeymoon feelings can last anywhere
from three (3) months to three (3) years, but eventually problems
crop up again.

The kicker is that you take yourself with you wherever you go.
This includes your own baggage and self-esteem issues, and you
can be sure that how you are feeling about yourself will affect
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Here are three (3) ways you could be sabotaging your relationship
because of self-esteem issues:

Your self-esteem is an indication of what you feel you deserve in a
loving relationship. You know that, intellectually, you believe you
deserve to be loved and cherished. However, the unconscious mind
is powerful, and if unconsciously you have feelings of inadequacy,
insecurity, or failure, you can sabotage a loving relationship without
even realizing it - until it is too late.

For example, if on some subconscious level you feel that you do not
really deserve happiness, you could think that your partner is too
good for you and fear one (1) day she will figure this out and leave.
You may handle this insecurity by provoking fights with her,
challenging and threatening her until she does leave. Then you will
say to yourself, "You see? I knew she would leave me."

Another way your self-esteem can influence your relationship is if
you have difficulty asserting yourself. You may be afraid of
confrontation, and see all discussions as replays of traumatic
conflicts you experienced in your childhood, so you avoid and
minimize conflict, never resolving the issues. Over time, these
unresolved issues fester and become resentments, which lead to
feelings of detachment and a lack of intimacy in the relationship.

Maybe low self-esteem affects your tolerance level. You cannot deal
well with frustration or stress and often explode, blaming your
partner for some minor infraction, when in reality you feel powerless
and out of control.

Those who are considered "rageaholics (RA)"
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say that they feel
like they are walking on eggshells. Instead of having loving
feelings toward you, they feel fearful and anxious about openly
discussing concerns. Therefore, they hide their feelings, lie to
avoid confrontation, and incur more anger when the lies are
discovered. This "dance of anger" can be extremely toxic to
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If you had, a great day at work, got a promotion or positive
feedback from your boss, and then come home and your partner
is late, or did not pay a bill...

How do you t How do you t How do you t How do you think you would react compared to a situation in which your boss hink you would react compared to a situation in which your boss hink you would react compared to a situation in which your boss hink you would react compared to a situation in which your boss
berated you, or you got a speeding ticket, and your partner did the same thing? berated you, or you got a speeding ticket, and your partner did the same thing? berated you, or you got a speeding ticket, and your partner did the same thing? berated you, or you got a speeding ticket, and your partner did the same thing?

The situation at home is the same, but your self-esteem is in a
very different place. Therefore, it is not your partner creating the
angry reactionit is your feeling about yourself in the present
moment.

As you learn how to raise your self-esteem and to communicate
calmly and reasonably, these steps will create a ripple effect that
will positively influence how you feel about your partner and the
loving quality of your relationship.

This is not about blaming yourself for everything that is wrong in
your relationship...and it is not to say that your partner must not
work on her own self-esteem and communication skills. However,
it is important to acknowledge that how you feel about yourself in
the moment affects your perception of what is happening, along
with the way in which you choose to deal with it.

It is true that both of you must take responsibility for what you
contribute toand contaminate inyour relationship. Just
changing your feelings about your self-worth can help improve all
your relationships and how you deal with life's challenges.

B Real No! !! !

Learn to truly pay attention to women when they say NO. I
agree that sometimes their no is really a yes, but do not get
fooled and misunderstand their real nos, because you are
letting your over-heated hormones cloud your judgment as
justification. This is dangerous and it could be considered rape,
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even if you can justify that she gave into you freely in the end. It
could be that she fears that you could physically hurt her.

When you get to this point...always ask her if she is sure, if she
wants you as bad as you want her.

By asking, you know that it is a mutual feeling. If she is drunk, I
personally will not take advantage of her whatsoever.

Rule number one (1):

Make sure you control your hormones, rather than letting your hormones Make sure you control your hormones, rather than letting your hormones Make sure you control your hormones, rather than letting your hormones Make sure you control your hormones, rather than letting your hormones
control you. control you. control you. control you.

This way you will not get yourself in trouble, and you will know
her real nos from the fake nos.

Some men are like needy little boys who will beg or try to cajole
and manipulate women, while other men will become obviously
upset, believing that women owe them some sexual favor. There
are men who will even wear women down by begging for sex. All
of these acts, in women's eyes, make you look like a boy not a
real man.

Women and men like me do not respect wannabe men who act
like little boys and cannot take care of themselves. They are
wimps. They become like worms to women, and women do talk
and share this information with others (I'm not talking about cuckold
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situations).

Guys like this will have useless excuses, or come off with smart
aleck remarks like:

I still get I still get I still get I still get lucky lucky lucky lucky. .. .



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Is a married man with an adulterous wife/girlfriend. Current usage sometimes extends the term
informally to include cuckqueens (women with adulterous husbands/boyfriend), wittols
(husbands/boyfriends who consent to their wife's/girlfriends extramarital sex), and non-married
couples in analogous situations (You can also see www.thecuckoldmovie.com).
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However, the women they're getting lucky with are usually of
the lowest quality. Truly hot, sexy, secure women will disqualify
them or just take advantage of them.

I am not here to debate with you or judge you, but to help you
fully understand that some things are more important than sex.
Self-respect is far more important than a momentary sexual
experience. Once you build real self-respect and real confidence,
it will be easier to be successful with women.
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I want you to fully
understand this and even write it down as a reference.

I know all this because I have been a loser at one (1) time. Near
the end of my relationship with Jezebel, I became a
disappointment to Jezebel and myself. I went to jail while
protecting Jezebel. Deep down I wanted out of that relationship
so that I could become who I really wanted to bewho I am
now.
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A man without self-respect is not sexually attractive to women,
as this shows a lack of self-esteem.

Is this what you truly want? Is this what you truly want? Is this what you truly want? Is this what you truly want?

If you do, then continue pursuing your life the same way. This
will make you a loser with no self-respect, no self-confidence, no
self-esteem, no self-belief, and so on.

Now do you want to change or not? Now do you want to change or not? Now do you want to change or not? Now do you want to change or not?

I cannot help you until you are one hundred percent (100%) ready
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If you are truly ready, then ignore any negative thoughts about
being a loser, or that you ever were a loser. Put your old self to
rest and reinvent yourself. Work extra hard on your ability to
have fun. Be positive, be playful, be strong, and be consistent.
Do not be attached to a particular outcome. With this, you will be
successful both in general and with woman.

Whatever you do, do not be too much of a nice guy. There are
women who are sadistic and will take advantage of men who are
over-confident or have no self-respect. These women will act
innocent and even act like victims. They will steal away your
precious time, toy with you sexually, take your money, and then
ditch you and laugh at you.

Whatever you do, do not blame these women. Look deep down
inside yourself and see what you can change, and what you can
bring out that will make you alive. Ask yourself:

What can I alter to create the world I want to be in? What can I alter to create the world I want to be in? What can I alter to create the world I want to be in? What can I alter to create the world I want to be in?

Women love men chasing them, and they love men desiring
them. It gets them hot and makes them feel powerful. Women
like to know that you are persistent (not stalking) and worthy of
their affections. You as a man love the accomplishment of
having women who seem impossible to have. You love the
conquest. It is your job as a man to pursue what you want. On
the other hand, out of respect to sane women, they always have
the final say. You must always go at their pace and push until
they say stop.

You must have your own life, as should the woman, before you
get involved in a romantic relationship or get married.

I love women who look like supermodels in the evening, but who,
in the daylight, without makeup, still look naturally beautiful. I
know her face, but I do not know who she is, for I believe I have
found her, but then lost her.

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F Women Want It Too

Do not assume only men want sex. There are plenty of women
who want to have sex and then get rid of you afterward. Some of
you may be shocked knowing that there are women who just
want sex from you without any relationship, but this is true.

The difference between men and women is that men like to be
called studs while women do not like to be labeled sluts. Men
who just want sex act like it, while women who just want sex act
as if they want romance, adventure or a relationship. It is up to
you to make them feel comfortable so they can open up to you
by showing them that you are not judgmental; that you are open
minded and not a big mouth.
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My advice is not to worry about her hopes for a relationship; she
may be only checking you out for sex. Nevertheless, if she really
does want a relationship, she will have the same opportunity you
have. If she desires you badly enough and it clicks, then she can
work on convincing you to have a relationship with her, like my
former wife Shoshana and former girlfriend Jezebel did with me.
You will only get to know this as you spend time with her. Some
men stay for the wrong reason: maybe guilt, or maybe because
they do not want to be treated that way.

Practice with a smile and flirt with every woman you see. Just say
Hi when going to your regular corner store, your everyday
coffee shop or nightclub. I would not recommend that you sleep
with every woman you meet right away, but qualify her first
(1st) by going to a caf for thirty (30) minutes.

Your chances of fulfilling your aims are actually quite good. But
unless you believe in yourself, your chances of achieving
everything you are capable of are almost nil.




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When you are persistent in making her feel good, you are getting
past her Ill give him a chance attitude. In the long run, she will
either see how wonderful you are and want to continue seeing
you, or she will tell you to get lost. Women are not here to make
your life easy, and you should stop expecting them to simplify
things for you.
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Women love a challenge, so if she accepts a date with you, make
yourself sound as if you have a busy life, but are still accessible.
You will be more interesting to her. Make sure your date is at a
place and time that works for you, in case she does not show up.

I History

At one (1) time, it was quite clear how to approach women. Men
would ask women out and were expected to pay for every date.
Men would propose marriage.

In those times, the rules were clear and defined. If a woman
were to make the first (1st) move, she was looked at as loose and
a shameless slut.

Throw away those old rules. We are no longer living in a world
where men are men and women are women. The roles have
changed.

Today women have more freedom. They are in the same job
market as men. They do not hide how they feel; they go out to
get what they want and whom they want. Women and men are
open, honest, and direct about topics that were once taboo.
However, with this freedom comes power and a great deal of
confusion.




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Even though the old rules were restrictive before, at least they
gave us the confidence of familiarity. Women knew what to do.
Women knew what the mans role was, and men knew what the
womans role was.

But if men and women each have an equal say in dating and
relationships, then...

Who is supposed to make the next move? Who is supposed to make the next move? Who is supposed to make the next move? Who is supposed to make the next move?

Single men and women today feel enormously pressured to live
up to a certain standard in all areas of their lives, from their
careers to their appearance to their love lives. If you do not want
to settle for anything less than excellence, then you must teach
yourself how to clearly, and naturally, achieve your goals.

I have used many honest and sincere lines on women that
worked very well, and still do. When I met my former wife, she
was nineteen (19) years old and worked in a clothing store. I
pursued her until I cornered her, and just told her she had nice
eyes and handed her my phone number. That day alone I gave
out my phone number to over ten (10) different women. We got
together twice (2), but I was not interested in a serious
relationship, nor was she.

One day she came to me with a line that I sometimes use on
difficult women, only she reversed it on me. She said; Have you
ever been to a club, and you noticed this one (1) hot, sexy girl
thats standing out more then all the rest, but she wont make
the time of day for you? But if she would just give you one (1),
just one (1) chance, you could show her a life she was
missing...do you agree?

I smiled, for I knew the answer and agreed with her. She added;
Well Im the girl thats asking you to give her that same chance,
instead of disregarding me...just like you would want that girl to
give you a chance. Let me tell you, I was surprised...but my own
line got her the result she wanted.

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My ex-wife and I are now best friends and we still watch over
each other. She has told me that because of me, she has gained
confidence, self-esteem, and self-respect.

V Plan Forward

Most of you are so used to failing with women that you expect
the worst outcome. Holding onto negative beliefs and pessimistic
attitudes will give you what you have always gotten: poor results.
I call this a self-fulfilling prophecy.

What I want from you is to reverse this. From this moment on,
everyday you will plan for success. Now, are you in agreement with me
or not? If not, then I have more work ahead of me than I thought.

It is very crucial that you plan and be ready for things to go your
way, but have a back up plan just in case nature itself has an
unforeseen surprise waiting around the corner. For example, you
want her to be somewhere at eight (8) pm because you have a
special telegram to be delivered to her in your presence, but she
does not show up. An emergency just happened that she had to
deal with. If you are not ready, you will end up looking stupid,
and the only one (1) you will be able to blame is yourself.

Keep your work and love life separate. Never meet dates on days
you are working or doing an important activity. Do not mess up
your personal schedule for a date. Once she is your full time
girlfriend or wife, it is a very different story, but not before.

Besides this, at all times you must remember that your work is
more important than women, especially during the beginning
stage of a relationship. It is lunacy to put your job in jeopardy to
date women, no matter how hot and attractive they may be.

Your first (1st) date should be in a quiet place like a caf. It is very
important to ask her questions about herself, without sounding as
if you are interrogating her. Slowly find out what she is looking
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for in a man and what turns her off. With this knowledge, you will
also learn about her dislikes, her interests, and which topics to
avoid. All this will help you plan your next date with her,
assuming you both click on this short date.



V Managing Your Time

Timing is everything in all you do. When you want to go for that
first (1st) kiss, and you are both in that moment, just go for it. Do
not do it a few minutes later, or next week...do it NOW! When
the moment is present, make your move.

Do as I do...grab her (quickly)
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by the back of her neck, kiss her
on the mouth, push her away, and then apologize
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for being
too forward...her lips were just driving you crazy. I act ashamed
and embarrassed, while she is stunned that her lips overpowered
my will. It is the ultimate compliment to her.
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Just think about
this scenario in your mind.

Managing your confidence level with women is one (1) of the
most important things you can do. The biggest mistake men
make to destroy their confidence is to look to women for
assurance that their date is going well. Learn to go with your gut.
When you are acting with complete confidence, you are present
in the moment and paying close attention to what is going
around you. If you worry, you will, and I mean WILL miss it, and
mess up.

Your attitude should always be one (1) of confidence and caring,
yet you should be a bit distant. Know that if she will not kiss you



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back, it is not a big deal because someone else will. You must
show her that she is special, no matter what the outcome, and
that you enjoy her company. However, do not validate yourself
by your failure or success with this woman, today or any other
day.

The best thing about bad dates is that you walk away with a
great story, and little doubt that the person is not the one (1) for
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Chapter 3:
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Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.-Confucius

very woman experiences love and appreciation differently.
Some women feel loved when touched or hugged. Others
experience love when you say certain things to them, while
still others feel love when you buy them things...and the list
goes on. Romance is the same.

Let me help you with some questions women ask themselves.

Is he attractive? Is he attractive? Is he attractive? Is he attractive?

Is he a player? Is he a player? Is he a player? Is he a player?

Should I trust him? Should I trust him? Should I trust him? Should I trust him?

Does he have a violent temper? Does he have a violent temper? Does he have a violent temper? Does he have a violent temper?

How demanding can I be? How demanding can I be? How demanding can I be? How demanding can I be?

How far would he go for me? How far would he go for me? How far would he go for me? How far would he go for me?

Would my parents like him? Would my parents like him? Would my parents like him? Would my parents like him?

It is a fact you will have to prove yourself.

Fear of embarrassment is a very powerful motivating force. Many
great well-known actors live their lives terrified of stage fright.
Even after years of performing in front of an audience, they will
insist on a friend being there to support them. These actors know
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that a friendly face will distract them long enough for them to
pull through.
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It is the same when approaching a woman in a mall, at a bus
stop, or in a club. The fear of ridicule can stop you from
accomplishing many of the things that you would like to
accomplish with your life.

Basically, the fear of rejection is you being afraid that you will get
hurt if you approach women. I will show you how to get over
your fears by simply saying Hi or talking to women all the time,
having a piece on the side, and getting your validation from life,
not from women. This will help increase your confidence and
almost make you immune to rejection. It will let you interact
more freely with women.

Your fear of women will scare them away. They want men who
can take care of themselves and who act as if they can take
care of themselves.

Personally, you have two (2) options when you want to meet
women in front of others (groups of friends or not).

Option number one (1) is to test my techniques on her and then
walk away. If you walk away without attempting it, though, your
friends may not appreciate your abilities.

Option number two (2) is to make an effort but fail; you choose to
put yourself out there and possibly fail rather than be ridiculed.
As a result, you make your best move on her.
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That is how
strong that type of fear of punishment can be.
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By this you will
be getting closer in brushing away your fears.




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Fear of failure can be a very strong emotion, but you will never
know if you can succeed until you make the attempt. As Thomas
Alva Edison once said, I have not failed ten thousand (10,000)
times; I have successfully found ten thousand (10,000) ways that
did not work. Otherwise, the only way to fail is to quit. You can
only fail your way to great success.

You can use this in many situations, from meeting women in
general, to your relationships, to business, etc. Or you can use
this to improve the connection with your inner self.

The fear of loneliness also causes many to stay in failed
relationships long after true love and affection have gone. The
important thing is that you worked to fix it even though you are
still in the trap. Negative emotions such as fear are not very good
motivators, but there is no denying that they are a powerful,
persuasive force.

The more you discover the sacred treasure of who you are and
what you are capable of, the better equipped you will be to
unlock the treasure chest inside yourself. That energy within
leads you to explore a greater understanding that will open the
door to greater self-esteem, self-worth, confidence, inner
happiness, and peace. Without this knowledge, attempting to
love others and yourself can be very confusing. Sometimes, even
when you are supporting others and yourself, you unknowingly
sabotage your success and relationships.

The most powerful, influencing factor of all is consistency.
Being able to project that you have a consistent set of standards
and that you will never deviate from them has an awesome effect
on women. The longer you project that you have a consistent set
of standards from which you will never deviate,
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the more
women will trust you. From there, trust becomes a tremendous
ability to persuade.




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Before you can learn this, or how to use trust, you must learn to
make people believe you. Once you bond with women,
persuasion will follow. The closer the two (2) of you become, the
more you can influence her. Do not ever let yourself be
intimidated. Follow your instincts. Do not be gullible.

Live your life around your dreams, and you will live your life like
the movie it was meant to be. Live your life without dreams, and
you live a life full of discouragement, frustrations, and problems.

When you open a door for a woman, it shows her that you are a
gentleman with class who is going to take care of her and treat
her as a special person. It does not matter how much she
believes, politically, that men and women should be equal,
because on a romantic level she will appreciate you making this
gesture. Whatever you do, do not make this an act, but make it a
part of who you are.

Follow your insights, instincts, and intuition. You may be
sensitive to subtle nuances and smart enough to understand
what they mean to you. You also have the tools and wherewithal
to put your instinctive knowledge into action. Even an
insignificant offer of assistance may unlock a significant door. A
generous attitude attracts prosperity.

Your viewpoint, tolerance, and attitude will make others proud to
be in your presence. Stand your ground. Do not back down from
a challenge or dare. Instead, be brave. You can face your fears
with ease; take the initiative and add a few more irons to the
fire.

When you catch a womans attention, you must arouse all of her
senses such as sound, sight, touch, smell, and taste. You must
use your body language to its fullest. You will be required to
rehearse every detail to ensure a smooth and perfect image of
yourself. Often, you may assume that because you are working
so hard to communicate, that she will automatically understand
you. My friend, this is so untrue.

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Most of the time, you simply do not say what you mean. She
will judge you by what she thinks you said rather than what
you actually said. And if what you said offended her, it does not
matter if that was not your intention. Your intention is not
important if she does not understand you.

Remember that what determines her reaction here is how and
what you say to her. Learn to put in every effort to make it easy
and clear so that she understands. The key to charm and
effective persuasion is not to concentrate on what you want to
get from her; you must focus on what you can give her and
understand that when you give her what she wants, she will
give you what you want! Do you follow? If you have given good
things in the past, it may reward you in the present, since
positive thinking affects positive things.

As soon as you sense that you are cascading downward, you
must do something constructive to halt it. Access the energy in
your anger and fear and put it to positive use. When faced with
an overwhelming setback, you may understandably see only the
negative in your situation. I will help you find the positive,
however.

Now grab some paper, a pen, or pencil.

Look at the problem.

Write down two (2) positives and two (2) negatives.

Now write one (1) negative and one (1) positive for each of these
positives and negatives.

Continue doing this by having the negatives and positives flow as
one (1) until you have exhausted all possibilities for looking at
situations differently.

You will be amazed at the positives you will find. For every
negative, there truly is a positive.

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I told Clifford Lee in an interview I gave him when I was still with
Jezebel,
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You should make your move on a minimum of ten (10)
beautiful women a day. But do not hesitate...make your move in
less then ten (10) seconds once you see them. Women are
everywhere; there is no shortage of places to meet women. Turn
every place into a prospective situation to practice. The best
prospect may be just in front of you and you just do not see her.

You can do this anywhere: a bus stop, a mall, nightclubs, on the
street, etc. Just say Hi with a sincere smile and a tilt of the
head, and watch to see if they return the same. That is all you
need to start with. Then just continue to walk.

Now, if you want to be bold, you can add:

Would you like to go some place for a cup of coffee? Would you like to go some place for a cup of coffee? Would you like to go some place for a cup of coffee? Would you like to go some place for a cup of coffee?

Or even bolder:

Do you want to fuck? Do you want to fuck? Do you want to fuck? Do you want to fuck?

Or:

I want you so bad in my bed. I want you so bad in my bed. I want you so bad in my bed. I want you so bad in my bed.

Yes, some women may slap you, some may run, some may be in
shock, and some women may laugh. However, one (1) of the ten
(10) will be interested because of your boldness. Some will just
talk with you, while others will go all the way with you...it excited
them.

There are two (2) ways to become comfortable with the nos:
never take rejections too personally, and never feel foolish. Just
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I Determine and Process

Obligation.

Do you feel obligated to anybody or anything? Do you feel obligated to anybody or anything? Do you feel obligated to anybody or anything? Do you feel obligated to anybody or anything?

Obligation on its own, I do not agree with, yet obligation as a
choice is another matter entirely. I would much rather do things
out of appreciation than obligation.

Business, dating, and relationships are the same.

Why? Why? Why? Why?

They are the same concept in my book. You are taught to
compete in business, while in dating and relationships, you are
taught to think of your happiness first (1st). I, on the other hand,
believe in being creative
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in business, and thinking of whomever
I date or am in a relationship with as being first (1st) without
losing myself. You see, their happiness will make me happy.
Please do not misinterpret this as being selfish.

Here are some different characteristics of women you must learn.
An assertive woman will make her decision quickly. An
unassertive woman will take her time to make her decision. An
emotional woman will be warm, while an unemotional woman will
appear cold. Here are some examples of how to be with the four
(4) types and how to handle them.

Assertive/Emotional: Dazzle her with how exciting it will be to be a
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Gino DiCaprios The Universal Law of Creation: When You Seek, Ask, See, and Truly Believe
Beyond Any Shadow-of-a-Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive! Book I: Secrets and Laws of the
Universe Chapter 2: Surreptitious.
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Unassertive/Emotional: Warm her up slowly; tell her how good you
will both be together.

Assertive/Unemotional: Tell her the bottom line, and push for a fast
decision.

Unassertive/Unemotional: Give her as many details as you can
since she will make decisions based on facts.

How do you determine if she is open How do you determine if she is open How do you determine if she is open How do you determine if she is open- -- -minded or closed minded or closed minded or closed minded or closed- -- -minded? minded? minded? minded?

An open-minded woman requires show and tell to persuade
her. A closed-minded woman must see and do.

If she acts on insight, instinct, or intuition, she is dealing with her
feelings and not her visual or auditory senses. For example, she
may say, I see your point, I hear you, and, I feel that you
are right. Do you follow?

Does she process the information you Does she process the information you Does she process the information you Does she process the information you have given her with conscious or have given her with conscious or have given her with conscious or have given her with conscious or
unconscious thought? unconscious thought? unconscious thought? unconscious thought?

If she is a conscious thinker, she will process your information
with her five (5) senses. If she is an unconscious thinker,
however, she will go with her intuitive feeling about you. If she is
a conscious thinker, therefore, you must let her see, hear, and
touch. If she is an unconscious thinker, it is more important to
romance her.
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If she is a person who is habitually angry, consider appeasing
rather than antagonizing her.

Be careful not to exacerbate the situation with her by pointlessly
taking a stand on principles when the wisest course of action may
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down; you are only cooling off the situation without selling
yourself out. You do follow me on this, do you not?

B Rejections

If your date does not want to kiss you, do not take it personally;
it is better to know now than later. Interpret her rejection to
mean she is not ready to kiss you. Maybe you had bad breath,
maybe you did not romance her, or maybe she is testing you.
However, I strongly advise you to avoid making it seem that you
are a loser. Never, ever, ask a woman:

Why not? Why not? Why not? Why not?

It will make you look like a child and not a man. It forces her to
say something when she has not made up her mind about you or
to decided where you fit yet. Whatever you do, do not ask, or
beg. Begging makes you look powerless and shows that you have
no control or resolution to make your life what you want it to be.
It demonstrates to her that you go groveling through life.

Remember, be patient. Some women will test you to see how you
handle them (and life in general) by saying no. Others just want to
see if it is them you want, or just their bodies. Some just do not
want you. There are also women who can read your body
language to see if you are a good lover or not. For them, it does
not matter that you may believe you are a great lover or not. It
is what they sense that matters. Great lovers do not brag.

Do not dwell on the rejections, but focus on something positive.
Maybe she is involved with someone in a serious relationship, or
maybe she just came out of a bad relationship.

You must realize that if you are persistent, it will make you
successful. Keep pursuing beautiful women until you finally have
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esteem, confidence, and allow you to pick up women more easily.
Practice makes perfect.

If it is only one (1) woman you want and you feel she is special,
then the road you must take will be different. This will require
you romancing her, making her feel alive, doing exciting things
that will not bore her. Always put her first (1st). You must have
passion and not worry about whether the outcome is working out
or not.

If you are not interested in a relationship but stop chasing other
women once you find a lover, Ill tell you now that your lover will
become your girlfriend or future wife, whether you like it or not.
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If this is not what you want, than you must continue chasing
other women. Do not get me wrong; you can have a part-time
lover on the side, as long as sex is only once (1) or twice (2-X) a
month sex without misleading her.

Pursuing more than one (1) woman lets women know that you are
full of fresh energy; you are more relaxed, more creative, and
more exciting since you engage with life. Always make them feel
special and interesting. Go with the flow and see where it goes.
You know you have many women to chase after, so if one (1)
turns you down, it does not matter because she is not your last
hope for sex.

If she is interested in having you as a boyfriend or being in a
serious, committed relationship, then be honest and walk away.
However, if you are interested, you must walk away from those
who do not seem like the type you want to spend your life with.
In both situations, you must know what you want. Cut to the
chase and save yourself (and her) time and energy. You are a real
man who wants respect and who cannot be taken off the course
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When you are on a date, learn to be decisive. Being decisive
shows your date that you are a man who is in charge of your life
and not wishy-washy. It will put you miles ahead of most of the
other boys she meets.

You, as a confident man and not a boy, will take on the posture
that makes you feel more confident. An unconfident person
slumps and slouches, letting your shoulders come forward as if
you were terribly depressed; you would also breathe shallowly.

Ask yourself these questions and answer them:

Do I loo Do I loo Do I loo Do I look too serious? k too serious? k too serious? k too serious?

Do I smile enough? Do I smile enough? Do I smile enough? Do I smile enough?

How do I sit? How do I sit? How do I sit? How do I sit?

How do I stand? How do I stand? How do I stand? How do I stand?

Are my shoulders straight or slouched? Are my shoulders straight or slouched? Are my shoulders straight or slouched? Are my shoulders straight or slouched?

Do I keep my head up, or down? Do I keep my head up, or down? Do I keep my head up, or down? Do I keep my head up, or down?

Do I breathe shallowly, or deeply? Do I breathe shallowly, or deeply? Do I breathe shallowly, or deeply? Do I breathe shallowly, or deeply?

Now work on yourself.

F Viper Women

I am sure you do not like to be told what to do. You love to be in
total control of your own thoughts. But...

Why is it that the moment you are in love Why is it that the moment you are in love Why is it that the moment you are in love Why is it that the moment you are in love (or believe you are) (or believe you are) (or believe you are) (or believe you are), you start to act , you start to act , you start to act , you start to act
differently? differently? differently? differently?

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You seem to be in a spell. You are now focused mostly on this
new lover whom you are now in love with. Before this love
thing, you used to be much more preoccupied with your own
concerns and not someone elses. With this emotion, you have
lost the ability to think straight; you begin to act foolishly and
you forget about your friends, family, etc. If you are already in a
committed relationship, your spouse will pay.

You surrendered your will and gave it to this new lover because
you wanted to possess her. By being in love, you surrendered
yourself. You believe you are untouchable or more special than
anyone else your new lover has been with, or will ever be with.
Whatever you do, do not fool yourself. Reality will hit sooner than
you think.

As a real master, you must learn to never fall in love first (1st).
You must only feel that it is truly lust, so that the spell will not
hit you. Love
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may feel the same but they are not the
same. When you are in lust, you are harder to control, you are
not as emotional, and in addition, you are more easily satisfied.
For your friends, family, and your spouse, it would be easier to
leave your new love affair and not forget those who truly love
you.

You must learn to pay full attention to the part of yourself that
draws women towards you or you will seem like a loser, a slime
ball, or a manipulator. Learn to pay close attention to women.
Otherwise, you will make many terrible mistakes and limit your
potential.

You may also gather that beauty may not be what will catch your
heart in a woman. Rather, it may be a woman who keeps you
guessing while she lives her life and entertains you. As a man,
you will eventually grow bored with a woman, no matter how
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for adventure. All a woman needs to do to turn you around is to
create the illusion that she offers you variety as well as
adventure. You are easily deceived by appearances; you have a
weakness for the visual. You cannot be bored with this kind of
woman. Nor can you discard her for long because you will be
back for her.

If she keeps up this distraction, never letting you see who she
really is, you will follow her until you drown. She can transform
you, no matter how strong or responsible a person you are, into
a childish slave. The worst are the women who make
themselves look like victims so that you will be at their rescue.
While you are waiting to catch your fish, she is all over you
dragging you down with her, if you see what I mean.

I Viper Men

You can walk by a woman and set her heart on fire by just
looking her straight in the eyes from a distance with an intense
and clear look. If you see her again, do it again so that your eyes
will be unforgettable to her. She will return the gaze, because
she knows most men would not dare approach her in this
manner. Knowing, even believing, that you are only pursuing her
instead of other women will thrill her.

Sending her beautifully written secret notes will leave her to want
and wait for more letters. As a result, she will live to wait for
them. Texting is too easy; writing by hand is more romantic. You
will be on her mind every moment of her day and night; your
spell has worked to numb her senses.

A key to distracting women is to fill their eyes and ears with
details, little rituals, and colorful objects. Detail is what makes
things seem real and substantial. A thoughtful gift will not seem
to have an ulterior motive. A ritual full of charming little actions
is so enjoyable to watch. You prefer to focus on the pleasant little
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Chapter 4:
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Success does not come to those who wait and it does not wait for anyone to come to it. -
Anonymous

ow did I start having confidence in myself, and what helped me when I ow did I start having confidence in myself, and what helped me when I ow did I start having confidence in myself, and what helped me when I ow did I start having confidence in myself, and what helped me when I
started meeting women? started meeting women? started meeting women? started meeting women?

Like most people, I would look at myself in the mirror. The mirror
showed my reflection what people saw. It helped me set my
frame of mind for meeting women.

The idea of the mirror came to me because of Stuart Smalley, a
fictional character invented and performed by satirist (and later
Senator) Al Franken. The character originated on the television
show SNL,
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in a mock self-help program called "Daily Affirmation
With Stuart Smalley." Stuart is Franken's middle name. I'm good
enough, smart enough, and gosh people like me is his famous
quote.

He helped me wake up and start believing in myself. Even though
he seemed wimpy, the positive aspect of giving myself
compliments everyday in front of my mirror helped build my self-
confidence. I also added the words of the world heavy weight
champion Mohammed Ali: IM THE GREATEST! and those of the
Marvel Comics character Wolverine of the X-Men: IM THE
BEST THERE IS! This became part of my philosophy to be
strong, blunt, straight forward, but not sensitive like Stuart
Smalley. I balanced it for my personality.

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Number one (1), do not panic. It is important not to give into your
fears. Just relax and tell yourself Im going to be an actor and
believe in my role so I can be believable to the women I meet.
Unbelievably, this simple affirmation is an effective, almost
magical way to transform terror into a positive outlook.

Just pretend to be very bold and confident, even making believe
that you are fearless. Simulate self-assurance everyday, even for
ten (10) minutes while alone, and an amazing thing will begin to
happen. Within weeks, you will actually begin to feel that way,
practically because of the response you will get. While you will
probably have some apprehension when approaching women you
hardly know (or do not know not at all), you must practice putting it
aside.

In Chapter 3: Negative Aspects, I spoke about actors on stage.
So, just as if you are walking out onto a stage, take a deep
breath while the curtain goes up. Before you know it, you are no
longer playing a role, since your fear has disappeared and you
are having a good time while being there.
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Remember always to observe first (1st). Then, when ready, you
will know that what you project is more important than what you
feel. Whatever you do, do not misuse this. Observing a place,
and the women there,
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while not talking to anyone for a few
minutes is a good idea before making your move.

Here is one (1) practice I have used in the past that works for me.
Say to yourself that you are a knight in need and that the
woman you want to know is your rescuer. If you put her in the
helping role, it gives you a purpose. It flatters you and it leaves
you in control. Most importantly, it gives you something to say.
This technique will make her believe she is protecting you from
someone.




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For example, you may say, Excuse me. I do not mean to bother
you; however, I must ask for your help. There is someone here I
am desperately trying to avoid. You would be doing me a huge
favour if, when you see me doing this (you will show her some subtle eye
or hand signal), you could come over and talk to me. You can act as
if we know each other.

Naturally, this new woman will want to know who you are
trying to avoid. Personally, I would not tell, since you made this
up and the person does not exist, but it will make a great
conversation starter and make you look mysterious. This may
provoke her to make sure that you are all right, and she may feel
the need to protect you even if you do not give any signals
(which you will not do). She will wonder what is so secretive.

Women create many challenging situations. Occasionally, you
may feel amused, frustrated, discouraged, or embarrassed.
Women can be a measurement of your success and worthiness if
you judge yourself by your achievements. Some of you compare
yourself to others. You compare your women to others. You study
them to find the perfect woman.

You also want them to be happy; they should feel good about
themselves. You want them to be loyal, faithful, and respectful.

You do not want to be with some women where you spend too
much time arguing. You become drained from the nagging,
whining, manipulating, and quarrelling. You become exhausted
from shouting. You feel guilty for getting angry and giving in.

You do not want to be with women who make you feel
inadequate and miserable. You do not want to blame yourself for
feeling ineffective and not knowing what to do. You do not like to
feel like a failure.

Knowing how to reach a woman is essential. I have learned to
turn it around. I give her trust; I make her feel important and
beautiful so that the fight is taken away from her. Positive
feedback helps compared to negative feedback. A wise person
knows this. Your self-esteem is your attitude and your belief in
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yourself. If you have healthy self-esteem then respect yourself;
moreover, control who you are. You are confident in who you are.
You can handle constructive criticism and feel good about
yourself.

Those of you with poor self-esteem have little self-respect; you
are unsure about yourselves, insecure, overly sensitive, and you
blame others when things go wrong. You feel unworthy; you
have low self-confidence as well as no faith in yourself. You only
see yourself as a failure; you expect failure and behave
accordingly. You do not even make an effort. You stop trying,
since the surest way to avoid failure and embarrassment is to not
make the attempt. You get ticked-off too quickly and take things
too personally. You claim to do your best, yet not making an
effort makes more sense than trying hard and then failing
anyways.

Some follow their emotions over their logic. Logic is smart and
keeps you focused. Emotions are different. Emotions distract you.

Your goal should be to strive for healthier self-esteem. Learn to
get up when you fall. I strongly believe that that those of you
with poor self-esteem do drugs and abuse alcohol, gamble, and
engage in other activities that are unhealthy. Those of you with
good self-esteem have a stronger sense of self-worth. You can
resist peer pressure; you like yourself and are less fearful of not
being liked by others. Those of you with poor self-esteem need
peer approval. You do not like yourself very much, and you
need others to like you. What is odd is that most of you will not
admit to this.

Here is a comment from someone I met briefly named Steve B:
Someone with a good self-esteem, doesnt depend on anything
or anyone. Hes able to function on his own, and live for himself
and not for others. It does not mean he is a selfish person. It
only means he is strong and confident. He is sure about himself.
A person with good self-esteem will be positive and will live life in
a positive way, generally.

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What is important to understand is, What is positive or negative
to one (1) person can and will be the opposite to another. In
other words, respect other peoples space.

Funny comments I have heard about women:

1. Men may be the head of the house, but women are the neck of the
men.

2. With women, learn to upgrade with them before someone else takes
over. Do not take them for granted.

3. Money is not the root of all-evil (negative energy), but the love of
money is.

True lovers are not just connected physically, but first (1st) and
foremost should be connected spiritually. They must be attractive
spiritually before they meet the individual physically.

To love is to give and expect nothing in return; you should give
yourself entirely if they desire it. Never be jealous, for jealousy is
the opposite emotion to love. When you love someone, you must
seek their happiness first (1st) and foremost, and in every way. To
love is to seek the happiness of others, as well as yourself.

If the person you love is attracted to another, do not be jealous;
on the contrary, be happy that the one (1) you love is happy,
even if it is because of somebody else. Love the person who, like
you, wants to bring happiness to the person they love, and who
has the same goal as you. Jealousy is the fear that someone else
may make the person you love happier than you do yourself, and
that you may lose the one (1) you love. Nevertheless, instead of
feeling jealous, you should do as much as possible to make that
person you love be happy, and if someone else succeeds better in
this, you should be happy about it. What is important is that the
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I Suggestion

On your first (1st) date, do not bother with dinner or movies; just
go out for a coffee. You want to spend as little time as possible
with her on the first (1st) date. You will leave her wanting more of
you. The less time you spend with her, the better it is for you.
There is also little time to make a mistake.

Keep the first (1st) date short. Make it fun for her before you
leave. I highly recommend you do not spend more than thirty
(30) minutes. I do not care how good of a time you are both
having, keep it short. Leave before you blow it. This will make
her want to see you again.

Never be late, no matter what, if you want to have power over
her and yourself. Always arrive early with something to do.
Therefore, when she arrives you look involved in whatever you
are doing. This shows her that you are your own person, and as
happy being on your own as you are being with her.

1. Wear a cloak of mystery. Women may see only what they want to
see when they take a quick glance at you. Use this to your
advantage by hiding your faults and emphasizing your strengths.

2. Being tied down is a temptation, but ignore it. Someone new in your
life may not deserve your complete trust yet. If you should go
against your instincts, then uncomfortable doubt may sabotage the
relationship.

3. Certain women might enjoy an elegant dinner, or just the pleasure of
your company. Sincerity and generosity will win a heart. Be sincere
and honest for the best success. Improve your appearance and
indulge your taste for the finer things in life by buying clothing or
stylish accessories.

4. Enjoy a winning streak. That mysterious sparkle in your eyes invites
others to look up to you and trust you with their dreams. Associate
with people who can help you widen your horizons with your energy;
be fearless about getting your way. Refuse to be a mere bystander
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when you see unfair situations. Take dynamic actions when faced
by a challenge.

Attempt to have a great sense of security. Be a unique and
different individual with a unique and different path in life who is
deliciously happy with themselves.

How do you get her to bond with something positive? How do you get her to bond with something positive? How do you get her to bond with something positive? How do you get her to bond with something positive?

If you can get her to commit to a positiveany positiveyou can
then build on her requirement to remain consistent to that
commitment. You have bonded her to that behavioural pattern.
Verbal reinforcement is a very powerful tool.

Can you change the way she behaves by complimenting her when she behaves Can you change the way she behaves by complimenting her when she behaves Can you change the way she behaves by complimenting her when she behaves Can you change the way she behaves by complimenting her when she behaves
the way you want her to, or withholding compliments wh the way you want her to, or withholding compliments wh the way you want her to, or withholding compliments wh the way you want her to, or withholding compliments when she doesnt? en she doesnt? en she doesnt? en she doesnt?

You had better believe it!

At Dawson College back in the 90 and as well in 2002, with a
group of associates we decided to see if the female students
could use compliments to change the way they dressed in school.
For a few days, they
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complimented all the female students who
were wearing blue. By the end of the week, thirty-eight (38%)
percent more females were wearing blue outfits. The next week
the guys switched their compliments to any women who wore
red. This caused the appearance of red at Dawson to double
from twenty-three (23%) to forty-six (46%) percent.

You are doing the same thing when you favourably comment on
her behaviour. By bonding slowly, layer by layer, you can
persuade her to do almost anything; it is fascinating to see how
powerful this is in action.

What is very interesting is that once you conjure up in her mind
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receptive to what you have to say. If you tell someone for years
that they are stupid, after a while they will wonder if it is true.
Sub-consciously they will believe that they are stupid. The same
with compliments.

Do you sometimes feel that you lack energy, even when you are healthy and Do you sometimes feel that you lack energy, even when you are healthy and Do you sometimes feel that you lack energy, even when you are healthy and Do you sometimes feel that you lack energy, even when you are healthy and
rested? rested? rested? rested?

This is because you are not doing what you should be doing and
you are stuck. When you are busy, it frees up your energy for
more important things. See if a lack of consistency in your
behaviour is not draining your vigour. You can free up vast stores
of energy with a blueprint value, a life plan to which you apply
your decision making.

Points:

1. Survival: Teach your child to swim first (1st).
2. Security: Assure your continued existence and prosper.
3. Social: Interaction with others.
4. Self-Esteem: To be respected.
5. Self-Actualization: Fulfillment.
6. Cognitive Desires: Knowing.
7. Aesthetic Requirements: Beauty and consistency.

You have a tremendous desire to know what is going on, since
you cannot stand a mystery; you are also attracted to beauty and
order.

B Clarify the Memory

Remembering a womans name, in general, is the number one (1)
communication ability that everyone wishes he or she could
perfect, do you not agree? It improves the chances that you may
have some influence over a woman. There is no magic key to
remember all their names; it is just hard work.

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Visualize that you are a director in a control booth for a game.
When you hear her name, you must decide whether to use it only
for an instant replay, or save it in the network library for long-
term use. See NLP on page 66.

When you meet her, observe the color of her eyes and think of
her name. Build a mental trigger for remembering names (actor or
visual thoughts, for example).

Work with the five (5) steps of committing to remembering their
names to long-term memory:

Clarify how she spells her nam Clarify how she spells her nam Clarify how she spells her nam Clarify how she spells her name; for example, Is it Cathy with a C or a K? e; for example, Is it Cathy with a C or a K? e; for example, Is it Cathy with a C or a K? e; for example, Is it Cathy with a C or a K?

Confirm how you should address her; for example, Do you prefer Jennifer or Confirm how you should address her; for example, Do you prefer Jennifer or Confirm how you should address her; for example, Do you prefer Jennifer or Confirm how you should address her; for example, Do you prefer Jennifer or
Jenn? Jenn? Jenn? Jenn?

Relate her name to a famous place or entertainer, if possible, and add the visual Relate her name to a famous place or entertainer, if possible, and add the visual Relate her name to a famous place or entertainer, if possible, and add the visual Relate her name to a famous place or entertainer, if possible, and add the visual
image image image image (mental trigger) (mental trigger) (mental trigger) (mental trigger). .. .

Use her nam Use her nam Use her nam Use her name again. When you say good e again. When you say good e again. When you say good e again. When you say good- -- -bye, ask for her name once more if you bye, ask for her name once more if you bye, ask for her name once more if you bye, ask for her name once more if you
have forgotten. have forgotten. have forgotten. have forgotten.

Use her name as quickly as possible, Ask her to repeat it if you have forgotten. Use her name as quickly as possible, Ask her to repeat it if you have forgotten. Use her name as quickly as possible, Ask her to repeat it if you have forgotten. Use her name as quickly as possible, Ask her to repeat it if you have forgotten.
For example, I want to be sure that I remember your name correctly. Tell me For example, I want to be sure that I remember your name correctly. Tell me For example, I want to be sure that I remember your name correctly. Tell me For example, I want to be sure that I remember your name correctly. Tell me
againthat is r againthat is r againthat is r againthat is right. Thanks for helping me out. ight. Thanks for helping me out. ight. Thanks for helping me out. ight. Thanks for helping me out.

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NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

Learning to read eye movements is a valuable skill if you want to
persuade women, or people in general.

You would not learn this in a day, so do not try to emulate or
outdo a memory expert because it will only frustrate you. Give
yourself every advantage, such as making a file card (paper or
electronic) on everyone you meet, not just women; update each
card with a few brief comments every time you meet with them.
Maintaining cards on your friends will help you refer to their
spouse and children by name and refer to their hobbies and
interests. This will impress them.

Remember faces by keeping visual images of their facial features.
This will help you to remember her name. Become aware of
everyones name and use it. Do this even with the telephone
operator at a company, for instance, or the airline reservations
clerk.

You may ask:

Why is it so important to remember? Why is it so important to remember? Why is it so important to remember? Why is it so important to remember?

Nothing is more important to you than your name. You go out of
your way to protect your name from being slandered, tarnished,
or forged. You also borrow money against your name. Therefore,
if you only developed ninety-five (95%) percent of your true
ability to remember names, people (especially women) will call you
talented.

Use her name at the beginning or end of a sentence to make
your request. You must tilt your head a little and smile as you
say her name. You are most likely saying:

What is the big deal in What is the big deal in What is the big deal in What is the big deal in trying trying trying trying that? that? that? that?

Take a crack at it and you will see how magical it is. Experiment
by leaving out one (1) part of this, and you will see how important
it is to do it just the way I am telling you. Let's say you see a girl
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working in a corner store and you want to ask her out. You walk
up to her, and with a cocky, overly confident attitude, you say:

Excuse me, but might you be free for lunch today? Excuse me, but might you be free for lunch today? Excuse me, but might you be free for lunch today? Excuse me, but might you be free for lunch today?

You are polite, but unsmiling. She most likely will come up with
an excuse about not being free. Now do it again; however, do it
my way.

This time, you have observed her and gotten her name from her
nametag, or from another person. Now, with confidence, you say
in a less cocky and confident way:

Good morning, Liz...or is it Elizabeth? Good morning, Liz...or is it Elizabeth? Good morning, Liz...or is it Elizabeth? Good morning, Liz...or is it Elizabeth?

Would you be free for lunch today? Would you be free for lunch today? Would you be free for lunch today? Would you be free for lunch today?

As you finish, you flash Liz your most sincere smile and tilt your
head slightly as you hold her gaze. Liz will wonder for a moment
if you are serious and sincere, and then will quickly accept your
invitation (Ninety-Seven point two percent (97.2%) its a yes).

Using her name (along with the tilt of your head and smile) is music to her
ears.

I have been to seminars where they have nametags for
attendees. Most people forget they are wearing one (1). I have
gone up to very beautiful women and said:

Hi, Linda. I just love your outfit, and your is hair so Hi, Linda. I just love your outfit, and your is hair so Hi, Linda. I just love your outfit, and your is hair so Hi, Linda. I just love your outfit, and your is hair so beautifully long. beautifully long. beautifully long. beautifully long.

Linda is not sure if I have met her before or not, or whether
someone else has pointed her out to me. Yet, the response is
always a pleasant surprise and a warm greeting.

The tilt of the head is a basic body language skill. You can tell
whether she is hearing what you are saying by watching for this.
If her head is straight forward, it is almost certain that her
thoughts are miles away. A slight tilt of her head means that she
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is paying attention. Tilting the head very slightly gives intensity
to your persuasion.

The use of a smile put them all together (name, body language, tilt,
and smile) and it makes a dramatic difference to the way you come
across. So your first (1st) goal, before you meet with her, is to
know your objective precisely. It is also to gather as much
information as possible about her. See and decide how much
power you have on both your side and hers, and look for
concessions that you can make for her.

Everything I have taught you does work, until you run into that
one (1) woman who does not play by the same rules. The rules
that she follows, in this case, are being polite, using common
courtesy, and acting as a difficult woman. I, on the other hand,
can handle this type of difficult woman, even if it takes a little
longer. Furthermore, I still come away with my two (2) basic
requirements:

I get what I want. I get what I want. I get what I want. I get what I want.

I get it by persuading her to understand my point of view without tricks I get it by persuading her to understand my point of view without tricks I get it by persuading her to understand my point of view without tricks I get it by persuading her to understand my point of view without tricks
and/or manipulation. and/or manipulation. and/or manipulation. and/or manipulation.

Dealing with women is like stepping on a land mine, so you must
be careful. Remember that whatever you choose to think will
become your life experience.
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We have over sixty thousand
(60,000) thoughts a day. So much information goes by that it is
our job to keep it positive or neutral, at least.

Ask yourself everyday:

How do I feel? How do I feel? How do I feel? How do I feel?




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Gino DiCaprios The Universal Law of Creation: When You Seek, Ask, See and Truly Believe
Beyond Any Shadow-of-a-Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive! Book I: Secrets and Laws of the
Universe, Chapter 1: Logic and Belief.
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Make sure you are in a positive mood, so that no one (1) can take
that away from you.

When you see people and say, Good morning, afternoon, or
evening add with it a great, sly smile and a slight tilt of your
head: HOW DO YOU FEEL? You will see weeks later that it will
become a trend.

Teach yourself to laugh more, help yourself remember to smile
more. See how people will respond to you when they see an
honest smile, especially those who look unhappy or upset. Being
given a sincere, gentle, friendly smile will help them smile back.
A smile helps you look and feel better, and it helps those around
you.

F The Kiss

When the feeling is right, you just do it and simply kiss her. It
will work best when you take her by her arms or waist and simply
lean over to kiss her lightly. The details will change in every
situation, but the foundations of these methods are consistent.
Kiss her...just do it, and do not worry. However, I highly
recommend that you never ever ask your date for a kiss. If you
do not want to create more problems, then listen to me on this
one (1). Women are turned off by being asked.

If you want, I can show you another way to ask for that kiss, but
without seeming like you are asking.

So, are you ready? So, are you ready? So, are you ready? So, are you ready?

First (1st), look her deeply in her eyes, and sincerely compliment
her. You can say; G-d, you are so beautifulyou have the
sexiest eyes Ive ever seen, and your lips, g-d your lips are
driving me completely crazy. I want to suck on your bottom lip so
badly. Im so sorry, but I cant help it, I want to kiss you. Then
go for it. Dont wait for her respond.

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By this, you have helped her get aroused and romantically
inclined her to kiss you back, for her brains chemical reaction
has gone off.

Just like when I used to go out clubbing and I would see a hot,
sexy woman that I desired and wanted to dance with...I would
first (1st) watch and observe her, read her, and see how she
reacts with others not in her circle. As soon as I see my opening,
when she is by herself, I would approach her. While asking her to
dance with me, I already have her hands in mine, leading her to
the dance floor before I even finish asking her. I do not wait for
her to answer or accept my offer.

I To Lead

Always be attentive when a woman is talking to you. Do not
make it look like you are bored, even if you are. Do not lean
back, slump over, or keep your eyes unfocused; do not stop
looking at her. Now think about it. You want to look like you are
interested, right? So, lean forward slightly, look into her eyes, and
nod, breath deeply, and act alert. Get rid of that bored posture.

The key after you do this is to repeat back what she said, but
only repeat her key points back. This shows her you truly heard
what she said. Believe me, she will be impressed.

If you are ever in a conflict with a woman, whatever you do, do
not explain yourself, justify who you are, or why you do things a
certain way. All you must do is answer her questions, but you do
not owe her an explanation just because she is upset. So again,
just answer her relevant questions, and get through the
argument.

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Chapter 5:
NinetY-NinE PercenT (99%)
ApproacH

Believe what you set your heart upon for it surely shall be yours. -Ralph Waldo Emerson

f you are at a party, club, or any other social engagement
and you are ready to leave, you must first (1st) simply
approach the woman you have been too scared to approach
the whole evening. Compliment her, give her your phone
number,
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and then leave immediately. Yet let her know you
would have loved to stay to get to know her, and learn the story
behind something she is wearing.
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You can choose not to try this until you are absolutely sure things
will go exactly the way you want them to. If you don't want to
flirt with women until you believe you can do it well, you will
never do it, or be a success with women. If you have the same
attitude in life, you will never be successful in life, either. You will
be trapped doing only what you have done before, over and over
again.

If you practice, you will succeed. Sure, there will be occasional
problems. Nevertheless, if you hang in there, you will attract
beautiful women. If you fail to learn something, then you have
failed yourself. Instead of being upset, just figure out what you
have learned. This way, you can succeed and not blow it the next
time, and feel good about yourself.




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Never take their number, you want them to show interest in you in the beginning.
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When you first (1st) greet a woman and introduce yourself, no
matter if she is alone, with someone, or with others, always show
her respect by kissing both her cheeks,
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or by genially taking
one (1) of her hands to kiss the back of it.
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It is a passionate act
to place your lips on her hand while gazing up into her eyes.
Some may feel uncomfortable with this. Hand kissing, however,
is the height of chivalry.

When you shake her hand, look deep into her eyes and make a
mental note of their color. This will put a twinkle in her eyes. It
creates a special moment of interaction with her. Physically
touching, strong eye contact, along with believing in an aura can
show that your meeting is intertwined.

Women can unconsciously sense what you are thinking. Just push
some powerful thoughts; always give a sincere compliment. Our
sense of personal physical boundaries is different. Some may be
flattered or embarrassed, while others feel this is an invasion of
their personal space. Just make it clear that this is a part of who
you are. This way it will make it easier for her/them to accept
your customs.

Here is another piece of good advice. If you see a pleasant
looking woman who is (or who is not) engrossed in a conversation
with others or with a certain individual, I would highly suggest
you walk right up to her and stand beside her long enough for
her to notice you. She will look over at you. You shall respond
with:

Excuse me. I hope Excuse me. I hope Excuse me. I hope Excuse me. I hope you do not mind me coming up to you like this, but I do not you do not mind me coming up to you like this, but I do not you do not mind me coming up to you like this, but I do not you do not mind me coming up to you like this, but I do not
know a single person here. My name is know a single person here. My name is know a single person here. My name is know a single person here. My name is (your name) (your name) (your name) (your name). .. .



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Cheek kissing is a ritual or social gesture to indicate friendship, perform a greeting, to confer
congratulations, to comfort someone, or to show respect. It does not necessarily indicate sexual or
romantic interest.
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Hand-kissing is a ritual of greeting and respect. It is initiated by the person receiving the greeting
by holding out her/his hand with the palm facing downward. The person kissing bows towards the
offered hand and (symbolically) touches the knuckles with his lips, while lightly holding the offered
hand. Note that the lips will not actually touch the hand in modern tradition. The gesture is short,
lasting less than a second.
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Become informed about her first (1st). Just make sure she is
single, since doing this in front of her boyfriend or husband is
disrespectful (unless you are doing it from a distance).

Ninety-nine (99%) percent of the time, the woman is delighted
with the approach and how you present yourself. The honest
approach always works because it strikes a familiar chord in
almost everyone. In addition, the strength behind this is that it
immediately offers power to the woman you are approaching,
creating a non-threatening situation.

The point, again, is that you have to sound sincere. To sound
sincere, you have to be at least partly sincere. Use this only if
you truly do not know anyone at an event or party. And never do
this more than twice (2-X) at an event. People will notice, and you
will loose your credibility. Scope the place first (1st).
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There are other approaches to use when meeting a woman whom
you are not sure will respond to you. You can use an old
standard, such as:

Oh, excuse me; I thought you were someone else. Oh, excuse me; I thought you were someone else. Oh, excuse me; I thought you were someone else. Oh, excuse me; I thought you were someone else.

She has heard this line before and most likely will brush you off,
so in addition you add:

Well, do not look at me that way. I wa Well, do not look at me that way. I wa Well, do not look at me that way. I wa Well, do not look at me that way. I was warned before I came here that you s warned before I came here that you s warned before I came here that you s warned before I came here that you
were unapproachable. Everyone else seemed too afraid to talk to you. were unapproachable. Everyone else seemed too afraid to talk to you. were unapproachable. Everyone else seemed too afraid to talk to you. were unapproachable. Everyone else seemed too afraid to talk to you.

Now she will be curious to know more.

Alternatively, my favorite is:

I must apologize I must apologize I must apologize I must apologize
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I pause, look embarrassed, as she looks confused for a moment,
and then continue:

However, I have to get this off my chest. However, I have to get this off my chest. However, I have to get this off my chest. However, I have to get this off my chest.
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I pause again to see how she responds. She will be very curious
about what I have to say and insist on it. Only then, I shall tilt
my head with a slight smile apologetically and finish with:

I am sorrybut are those 36Cs? I am sorrybut are those 36Cs? I am sorrybut are those 36Cs? I am sorrybut are those 36Cs?
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They always laugh and then invite me to sit with them.
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Temper
your friendliness with common sense; you must remain
respectful of the rights of others, especially when personal
territory is involved.

These have always worked for me. It all has to do with what
you say and how you say it. Do you follow? Do not use it as a
line, but as a sincere statement. Your intention is not to
embarrass or humiliate them (or yourself).

I have used many honest lines with women, like telling them
nonchalantly:

Ill be leaving now, but once I walk out, I might be in an accident that may Ill be leaving now, but once I walk out, I might be in an accident that may Ill be leaving now, but once I walk out, I might be in an accident that may Ill be leaving now, but once I walk out, I might be in an accident that may
take my life. You will then wonder what it would have been like to have slept take my life. You will then wonder what it would have been like to have slept take my life. You will then wonder what it would have been like to have slept take my life. You will then wonder what it would have been like to have slept
with me ju with me ju with me ju with me just once. st once. st once. st once.

Others have worked with women even though I truly felt there
was no real chance of success. Somehow, I managed to turn
them around. The subliminal message that may take longer than
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Tonight, as well as every night, you will be dreamin Tonight, as well as every night, you will be dreamin Tonight, as well as every night, you will be dreamin Tonight, as well as every night, you will be dreaming of me, and no matter g of me, and no matter g of me, and no matter g of me, and no matter
what, you will not be able to get me off your mind. what, you will not be able to get me off your mind. what, you will not be able to get me off your mind. what, you will not be able to get me off your mind.

She may think you sound arrogant, yet do not be surprised if in a
few days or weeks she will look for you and call you a jerk for
invading her dreams. Say it with total confidence.

If you look people in the eyes, they will not notice what you are
wearing.

Opportunities do present themselves. Nevertheless, you have to
be the one (1) to see them and go for them, or they will slip by
you. In life, it is possible to lose money, your home, or your
spouse, but memories, adventures, and the emotions associated
with accomplishing your dreams and goals can never be taken
away from you. Focus on your hearts desire; you must always do
the things that make you happy without taking away others'
happiness.

Be patient, build confidence, and always use the key word,
APOLOGY. When you feel that you may offend/have offended
or behaved in an appropriate way, apologizing beforehand gives
you the upper hand. It shows that you understand that what you
are about to say, or have said or done, may be hurtful, offensive,
or even misunderstood. By apologizing, you tell them that you do
not intend to hurt but that you stand accountable to the fact that
you may without meaning to do this.

Giving flowers lends a personal touch to the situation because it
gives the perception that you selected her. A hand written
message makes the gift more meaningful.

Most women find it difficult to find men who are comfortable with
themselves and what they do. They prefer men who do not have
to prove anything, and who have their own set of achievements.
Women dislike men with egos.

Your personality has additional dimensions that also require
recognition. As a rule, the more aspects of your personality that
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Negativity will get you nowhere with women. Rather then
bitching that you hate your life or job, accept responsibility and
fix the circumstances. Women cannot stand men who complain;
it is a turn off that is really unattractive in a man.

How you are with other people says a lot about your integrity. So
if you are not a conscientious person who treats all people the
same, then women who are independent will lose interest in you.

I Practice

Learn to put my theory into practice, or else there is no point in
you knowing, absorbing or having this knowledge. Do you agree?
Use every opportunity to talk to women, even if the women are
not hot; flirt, since it's practice. Initiate and maintain
conversations with women of all ages and all levels of beauty. It
is a start that will later help (as in the Karate Kid);
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you have the top
of your list, and not the second (2nd) best.

Always introduce yourself. As she goes to shake your hand, kiss
the back of her hand and say:

It is an honor to make your acquaintance. It is an honor to make your acquaintance. It is an honor to make your acquaintance. It is an honor to make your acquaintance.

Even leave her your number. Remember, it is a numbers game;
the more numbers you give out, the larger your chances that
they will call you.

Whatever you do, do not let negative beliefs invade your life. If
you do, then your concern will dictate how you act, which, in
turn, will dictate how successful or unsuccessful you will be with
women. Your concerns and beliefs become excuses that will keep
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Each of you will have different excuses, and believe
me...whatever you tell me is an excuse. Until you accept that
that is all you are giving, you will not move ahead.

When you practice every moment of your waking hours and learn
the basic moves and strategies of your game, your playing will
improve and it will not be as hard anymore. Flirting and smiling
with a Hi to women will make a tremendous difference to you
and them. Your excuses will keep you from taking action to get
the women you desire. While you are being stupid, these women
are looking for men who are focused on getting women.

A lot of guys complain that their one (1) to three (3) attempts at
meeting beautiful women and getting dates with them did not
produce any results. You then give up when you do not get
instant gratification. I, on the other hand, will teach you to not be
discouraged, but to continue to flirt, and flirt some more. You
should not rely on any one (1) woman to be your source of sex.
You are relentless in meeting new women. I learned years ago
that he who hesitates, masturbates (or pays for call girls on a regular
basis).

You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to meet women.
Learn and practice flirting and interacting. I know that you want
to start with the really hot ones, but that will probably not be
useful in the beginning; the truth is that you will be too scared of
them to flirt effectively.

I do not want you to misunderstand my concept of the game.
When I am telling you to play the game, I am referring to fun,
creative expression, freedom, and no negative consequences if
you make any mistakes. Do not take it too seriously; be playful,
never give up, and hit on as many women as you can.

You must stay focused on the long-term goal of having as many
women as you can who will call you, or whom you call in an
instant and sleep with that night. I constantly follow up on my
leads from shopping, clubbing, cafs, and other places I frequent.

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My philosophy is to boost you up when you are rejected so you
do not get discouraged. Understand that one (1) in ten (10) will
eventually say, Yes. I do not put everything I have into one (1)
basket, unless I want a serious relationship and I know deep
down inside me one hundred (100%) percent that she isthe one
(1).

Understand that even if the women you have approached are not
receptive, the practice is well worth the effort. Roman Brave,
Diablo Santana, and others like us agree that flirting with and
prospecting women is a large part of our success. When you
practice anything long enough, you will master it. Do you agree or
not? In addition, by flirting often, you master your speaking skills,
until it becomes effortless and second (2nd) nature. It will
generate a high level of vitality and confidence in you, and this is
infectious with women.

Act as if you are the Man. Looking good at all times is an
important part of your success with women. Now, I am not
saying that you should always wear a suit. However, I do
seriously suggest that you look at what you are wearing and see
whether or not it is appropriate for meeting women. Just like
ninety-seven point three percent (97.3%) of women take their
time to look good, you should do the same.

Whatever you do, do not tell your date you are studying your
technique from a book. Never thank your date for letting you kiss
her, since when you went for that kiss, she saw you as strong
and decisive. She is not doing you a favor. Do you follow?

Learn to pay attention to her responses. Do not come on too
strongly when you first (1st) kiss by shoving your tongue down
her throat. The first (1st) kiss is a gentle peck, not a long French
kiss. Nevertheless, remember there is no use if you taste bad or
have bad breath. Always have some breath mints on you, but
never take one (1) in front of her. Excuse yourself and go to the
washroom or another room.

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Another tip I sometimes use is that if the kiss is going well, I stop
myself and look like I am dizzy. I tell her goodnight, which leaves
her confused and wanting more of me. Women are not used to
men who can walk away from an opportunity where they would
get what they want with little effort. This impresses them. Just
let her know she astounded you.

Make her feel like an irresistible princess, and that her lips have
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She must understand your message before she can agree with you! -Gino Iovannone

hen you are out there attempting to pick-up women, you
must first (1st) observe the place to see how the women are
and read their body language. You must also observe the
men to see what mistakes they are making. This will help you
along when you make your move.

Not all charismatic people use their mouths to attract women.
Your body, your energy wave, or the way you speak every time
you move is different. Learning about body language is very
important in all aspects of life. For men like us, however, I
believe there are three (3) practical pieces of body business. You
may want to study how to:

1. Appear mysterious.
2. Have the touch.
3. Make proper eye contact.

As that mystery man, you must project the attitude that you
have a great many fascinating things to say and that you would
rather listen to her and keep her guessing about you. You should
like to portray that Ho un segreto
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look so it will lead to the
intriguing area.

Your posture, in all cases, should be erect yet nonchalant, and
your facial expressions should be attentive, pleasant, and above
all, confident...not cocky. Before you even make your move, keep
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Once you have gotten her to notice and be intrigued with you,
you will let her do all the talking, as you do not want to push
your own thoughts. You will listen to her contentedly, hearing
every word of her conversation, and not let your mind wander to
other thoughts.

You will stay focused on her mind, not her body. Do you follow?
You will answer her thoughtfully when she asks you questions,
but with never more than a few words. Use a smile whenever you
can.

Whether you are quietly approaching her or just standing by
yourself, remember you are not at a loss for words; you have
just put them away for now by choice. Your body stance, your
eyes, mouth, and eyebrows all say, I really dont care what
people say about me, I am confident in who I am and what I am
about.

There is something very powerful about a man who does not talk
when someone else is working so hard at a conversation. If you
can remain like this, the mystery man she is so interested in
working to understand, you will be even more alluring. She will
wonder why you are not talking about yourself; in addition, you
may find yourself becoming silently the center of attention.

Second (2nd) is touching. You should never underestimate the
power of human touch. A small amount of the right kind of
touching while you are talking to her can add a comforting sense
of warm intimacy to your conversation. The wrong kind of
touching, however, or too much touching, can be one (1) of the
most serious mistakes you make.

Use soft touching when you are involved in a deep conversation.
Watch her face and body language carefully to see if she is truly
engaged in the conversation. When you are speaking, lean
forward slightly, grasp or touch her forearm or upper arm briefly,
and then let go. It should not be a squeeze, but just a brush.

Touching women casually and unobtrusively establishes a
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gets her used to accepting your touch, and even shows her that it
can feel good. These touches are quick, gentle, and over before
she has a chance to become uncomfortable. Touch her arm for a
moment when talking to emphasize a particular point. Touch her
back while directing her to your table. Always look into her eyes.

This leads to the third (3rd) point. Watch the eyes in particular;
they will tell you if the touch has enhanced the exchange or
hindered it.

You only stare when you compliment her beauty, since this works
best. Let her know she blows you away, that you apologize
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for not being able to control yourself and it would be better if you
leave. This has her begging you to stay. You have overwhelmed
her. You then look away, seemingly embarrassed that her beauty
took your will away.

Always keep your body powerful, and sit as if you are fascinated
and fascinating. You will also whisper in her ears. This commands
her attention more fully and creates a little world that is only for
the two (2) of you. By this, your mouth is perilously close to hers;
it is intimate, yet easy for her to accept.

Make sure you always compliment her shoes. Women love that.
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Women adore having their clothes and looks noticed and
complimented.
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However, it is all in how you say it and do it.
Tell her she is intelligent, has a wonderful sense of style, a
beautiful smile, or a nice necklace. Find something to praise
about her.

If you have an appointment to meet her at a caf, just make sure
you do not wait more than fifteen (15) minutes minimum to thirty
(30) Minutes maximum for her arrival. This will help your self-
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there, that she should be on time in the future, and respect your
time just as she wants hers respected.

Never call women back to ask why they were late or if they are
showing up. It makes you look desperate, and may make it look
like you are handing your power over to your date.

I am a regular Joe like you who has struggled, but now I love to
teach others how to overcome their limitations, learn about
themselves, and interact with women. People do not expect that I
have ways with women, but eighty point two percent (80.2%) of
the time, it is women who buy me drinks and dinner.

My last girlfriend, Jezebel, who lived with me for five and a half
(5) years, was a woman you would not expect to see with me.
She was much younger than I was, and was very aware of her
beauty. Although this relationship did not work out, I learned to
be a better mana better partner. I taught her about her
independence.

Like I mention in Chapter 1: Four (4) Steps, people have called
me Don Juan because I do not have the looks of a ladies man. I
am husky, I stutter and have a lisp like a snake when I talk, but I
have confidence. I stand-up straight and am always myself.

I always use a womans mind and her eyes. The best orgasm you
can give a woman is in her mind. I always control myself so as
not to give myself too quickly (sexually). I focus on having their
mind be stimulated first (1st) before the rest of their body. I will
let her wait days, weeks, or even months before I move to the
next level.

When I do not feel like making the first (1st) move, I just make
sure she notices that I am checking her out. I smile, wink and
wave. Flirting is in how you move your body and the facial
expressions you use rather than what you say. To your
amazement, seventy-two point three percent (72.3%) of the time,
she will smile and come to you.

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I Separation

By slowly isolating a woman, you make her more vulnerable to
your influence. Her isolation may be psychological; by filling her
field of vision with the pleasurable attention you are paying her,
you block out everything else in her mind. She sees and thinks of
you only.

Physically, you are also taking her away from her normal milieu,
friends, family, and home. You gave her the sense of being
marginalized, in limbo; she is leaving one (1) world behind while
entering another.

Once she has isolated herself this way, she no longer has outside
support. In her confusion, she is easily led astray, as Jezebel was
with me. She is lured to your lair, where nothing is familiar to
her. You give her all the freedom she wants, yet she never will
take it.

Most guys will not give women the time or space to worry about,
suspect, or resist them. You will flood her with the kind of
attention that crowds out all other thoughts, concerns, and
problems. Women secretly yearn to be led astray by someone
who knows where they are going.

I could go deeper into this, but this is one (1) subject that I wish
I'd never experienced. You end up making enemies with their
families and their friends. It is better to work at having them
accept you, so you can all keep an eye on each other.

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You pretend to be surer of yourself than you really are. You do
not want others to glimpse that doubting self within you. In truth,
your egos and personalities are much more fragile than they
appear to be; they cover up feelings of confusion and emptiness.
Do you agree on this?

You must never mistake a womans appearance for reality.
Ninety-eight (98%) percent of women lack a sense of
completeness, and feel that there is something missing deep
inside.

Once you bring their doubts and anxieties to the surface, they
can be led...moreover, lured to follow you. Only once they see
what they are missing will this work. Once you show them their
inner emptiness, they will be able to focus on you as the man
that can help fill that empty space.

Make them question their identity and let them feel that, by
comparison, their lives are boring or their friends are less
interesting than they had thought. She will see and feel the
boredom of her life, and then she will see you as her salvation.

Women prefer to feel that if their life is uninteresting, it is not
because of them but because of their circumstances, or the dull
friends they know. Once she feels comfortable with you, aim your
arrow.

You must work on her mind as a mental seduction. You must
confuse or stir her up as an emotional seduction.

Now your time is the physical seduction. By this point, she is
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interest, you will spark panic and she will come after you with
impatience and erotic energy.

To bring her to a boiling point, you are required to put her mind
to sleep while you heat up her senses. It is best to lure her into
lust by sending certain loaded signals that will get under her skin
and spread sexual desire like a poison.

The moment to strike or move in for the kill is when she is
brimming with desire, but not consciously expecting the climax to
come. If you are after a serious relationship, then you must
constantly re-seduce her, creating tension and releasing it.

In the beginning, when she is ripe with desire and interest, when
perhaps she is expecting you to make your move...take a step
back. You just unexpectedly get distant; friendly but no more
than that, and certainly not sexual.

Let this sink into her for a day (1) or two (2). Your withdrawal will
trigger anxiety. The only way to relieve this anxiety is to pursue
and possess you. Step back now and enjoy the show. She will fall
into your arms like ripe fruit from a blind force of gravity that will
draw her to you.

The more she participates, the more her will power is engaged,
and the deeper the erotic effect. You have taught her to use her
own seductive power on you. When she responds, the tables will
turn and she will pursue you with desperate energy.

Once they wake up and sense that you might be leading them on
(and that you are enjoying it), they might want to end it quickly. Have a
cool, nonchalant air of calmness and withdraw, but make it
subtle. Mens weakness is the physical-visual.

F The Aftermath

With women, you need to maintain some mystery, to keep a
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She may realize she is falling for you, nevertheless she must
never suspect how much of this has come from your
manipulation.

A well-timed display of your weakness, of how emotional you
have become under her influence will help cover your tracks.

To excite her and make her highly emotional, you must give her
the feeling that she is actually creating some of the fantasies you
have stirred in her imagination. By giving her only a part of the
fantasy, you will keep her coming back for more.

Focusing your attention on her so that the rest of the world fades
away...even taking her on trips...will lead her astray.

In the aftermath of your success, the emotions may suddenly
swing in the opposite direction: toward lassitude, distrust, and
disappointment. So beware of the long, drawn out goodbyes. If
she is insecure she will cling and claw, and as a result you will
both suffer.

If you must part, make the sacrifice swift and sudden. If
necessary, deliberately break the spell you have created. If you
are to stay in this relationship, think twice (2-X). A flagging of
energy, and a creeping familiarity will spoil the fantasy.

If it is to continue, a second (2nd) seduction is required. Never let
her take you for granted. Use absence, create pain as well as
conflict, and keep the seduced on tender hooks.

I Unconditional

Seduction is like warfare, and is often a game of distance as well
as closeness. At first (1st), you track her from a distance. Your
main weapons are your eyes, along with a mysterious manner.

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The key is to make your look short and to the point, then look
away. Make your eyes reveal desire, and keep the rest of your
face still, without a smile.

Once she is heated up, you quickly bridge the distance. You give
her no room to withdraw, no time to think about or to consider
the position in which you have placed her.

Take her element of fear out of this. Use flattery, make her feel
more feminine, and praise her charm. Let her feel that it is her
fault (not in a bad way) that you have become so physical...even
aggressive. Her lips, her eyes, and her skin drive you crazy.
There is no greater physical lure to make her feel alluring.

Words are important because they have a great deal of power to
confuse, distract, and boost her vanity. Nevertheless, what is
most seductive in the end is what you do not say; what you
communicate indirectly.

Gestures, thoughtful gifts, and little details seem much more
real. It is much more charming than lofty words of love; precisely
because it speaks for itself and lets her read more into it than is
there. Never tell her what you are feeling. Let her guess it in your
looks and gestures. That is the most convincing language.

A big mistake is being too nice. At first (1st), she may perhaps
find your kindness charming. But it will soon grow monotonous to
her. You will seem like you are working too hard to please her; as
a result, you will seem insecure.

Instead of overwhelming her with niceness, work on inflicting
some pain. Lure her in with focused attention, and then change
direction, appearing suddenly uninterested. Making up is the
goal. You can return to being kind as well as having her weak at
the knees; the excitement of fearing loss is erotic.

What you want is the ability to move her into the direction you
want her to go. However, if she suspects that she is acting under
your influence, she will become resentful and turn against you.

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In the opening stage, you can make her think she came to you;
she made the first (1st) move. With this, she will have no
resentment, no perverse counter reaction, and no paranoia.

To have her come to you requires giving her space. There are
many ways. You can have her notice you in different places yet
never approach her. You will get her attention this way;
moreover, if she wants to bridge the gap, she will have to come
to you.

Spend a great deal of time around women, for instance at a Yoga
Class, a Beauty Spa, etc. You can quickly learn what pleases
them. With this, you can learn to mirror them in subtle ways,
which will put them at ease.

When you mirror them, they will sense the effort you are making,
and will find it flattering. If you choose one (1) of them, separate
her from the rest. Make it seem as though there is nothing else in
your life but her: her mood, her Spirit, her taste. The more you
focus on her, the deeper the spell you weave...you will have an
intoxicating effect on her vanity.

A lot of you have difficulty reconciling who you are right now with
whom you want to be. You are disappointed that you have
compromised your youthful ideals. You still imagine yourself as
that person who had so mush promise, but who circumstances
prevented from realizing it.

So when you mirror her, do not stop with who she is, but enter
her Spirit of the ideal person she wanted to be. This is the best
gift you can give her. It will make her feel better about herself.
You are bringing her back to life by reflecting yourself back to
her. Only few can resist such a lure.

Unconditional love is rare as well as hard to find, yet it is what we
all crave. You either experienced it once or wished you had.

You must charm women's minds though romantic talk, and turn
on her body through sensual play. When you are able to awaken
all of her senses at once, a multiplier effect creates a wonderful
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sexual mood. By giving her what she wants, she will give you
what you want. Touching her through back rubs and massages
and cuddling usually does this.

Women have a much keener sense of smell than men do. This
can work to your advantage in setting the mood if you ask her
what her favorite scents are, so you can burn incense or get
scented oils to fill your room with her favorite odors.

However, it can also work against you...your armpit may stink of
sweat, or you may have rotting food in your fridge.

Set a bath for her and feed her what she loves to eat, like grapes
or chocolate, for it will warm up her mouth and drive her wild.
The ecstatic feeling women get is similar to how they feel during
sex.

A candlelit room or having your lights down low will convey a
softness that will create a romantic mood. The right soft music or
natural sound helps the right mood. Play her favorite love song.
Pay attention to every little detail in your environment. See that
everything is in place.

Women love to be pampered this way.

V Validation

One (1) of the biggest mistakes men make is looking for
validation by women. They live as if womens opinion of them is
what matters, rather than their self-respect and self-esteem. This
is so untrue. This will rob you of your self-confidence.

Learn to validate yourself by first (1st) finding a way to be in love
with yourself and your own life, for only you can create your own
life. Just like women will not go out of their way to bring you sex,
life does not go out of its way to bring you success in life. Do you
agree so far?

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It is your full responsibility to make your life the way you want it
to be. If you want success in your life or with women, then make
long-term goals no matter how slowly it may seem to progress.

Once you do this, you will get your validation from who you are,
rather than from women or others. Once you are on your way to
being satisfied and successful in your life, you will be successful
with women. Money does not make you happy or successful...it's
how you feel about yourself and who you are that will.

I am a little ashamed and embarrassed with no regrets, but I will
use myself again as an example. In the five and a half (5) years
I was with Jezebel, it was her who was mostly supporting me.
She was paying for everything. I was twice (2-X) her age, totally
out of shape, bad teeth, and average in the looks department. I
was with her from the age of thirty-nine (39) (when she was eighteen
(18),) until I was forty-five (45) (when she was twenty-four (24)). So please
do not use money and looks as an excuse for not getting women.
People assumed I was financially taking care of Jezebel. In fact,
we had a great life partying while it lasted.

From that experience, I have learned that women are attracted
to men who have fire and passion in their lives. Women want to
be a part of your life when they see and feel that life inspires
you.

Nevertheless, if the woman is cold, then move on to the next
woman and don't take it personally. I do not believe you want
that kind of woman in your life. Better to know before than after.

V Helping Hand

Always open the door for a lady. Take her coat when you go out,
help her with her coat when she puts it back on, make sure she
sits at the table before you, and do not start eating a meal before
she does. If your date gets upset because of equal rights, don't
react. Be consistent with the beliefs I am giving you.

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When you are out with your date, only have eyes for her. As a
guy, you constantly make it obvious when you are looking at
other women on the street, in malls, bars, clubs, restaurants, and
anywhere else. Women are more discreet when they look at
other men. This is perfectly natural, but guys, do not do it while
on a date, for you do not know how to be discreet.

Be affectionate and touch her while you are softly speaking with
her, for women love this. Let her know how delightful it is to look
at her, and that she looks more beautiful tonight than you have
seen her before. Then thank her.

What is good about this is that you are thanking her,
complimenting and acknowledging her. You cannot be me, nor
can I be you, so you must do this in your own unique style.

Always touch her softly; you want her to be frequently reminded
that you are interested in her. Hold her hand, touch her face, her
hair, run your fingers down her neck, do all of these lightly. Also
touch her back and waist, but not her breasts, butt, or thighs:
you save those for once you are kissing her very deeply.

Make sure you always, and I mean always, pay attention to her
response, for it is crucial that you are respectful and do not upset
her if she is uncomfortable.

Do not ever lie to your date about compliments (over doing it or under
doing it), but be truthful. Women can spot insincerity a mile away,
and will hold it against you. So, compliment her on things most
guys would not notice about her. This will impress her.
Compliment her shoes, clothes, eyes, smile, her hands, hair, an
intelligent remark she made, her presence, and so on. Are you
following me on this so far?

Always come out confident...not cocky and over-confident.
Women want to know that you are comfortable with yourself and
not apologetic for whom you are.

Take her opinions seriously and always include her in the decision
making process. Men are well known for not listening to or caring
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about what women think and feel, and for seeing it as nagging or
demanding. It is natural to feel this way. HOWEVER, DO NOT!

She trusts you by opening up to you.

V Being in Control

Most women, when they are upset, just want someone to listen
to them, and that someone is YOU.

However, whatever you do, do not become her psychotherapist;
you are not there to be her girlfriend and give her advice, but to
just listen to her without interrupting and working to fix her
problem. By doing this, you will avoid hearing, Sorry I only like
you as a friend. She will calm down quickly, and most likely melt
in your arms.

If you want to help her, you can repeat back what you heard her
say word for word. It will give you the opportunity to clarify
anything you might have misunderstood, and to show her that
you were truly listening.

Do not be upset with her for opening up to you. She knows she is
taking a huge risk telling you what is on her mind. By getting this
off her chest, she will feel more relaxed and connected to you.

She might also be testing you to see who you truly are. So thank
her for opening up to you, behave as a gentleman, and respond
like a caring person. She will trust you more, and will most likely
want to sleep with you.

Remember:

1. Listen.
2. Repeat it back to her.
3. Thank her.
4. Apologize if you upset her.

If you feel you cant handle this, then you have two (2) choices.
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One (1) is just to say goodbye and walk away.

Two (2) is just to tell her directly that you want to Fuck. Just be
blunt.

If you can handle this, then after thanking her, start
complimenting her to end the whole thing when you feel you are
both getting upset. By doing this, you will be able to move on to
something more fun and alive. She will appreciate it and be
impressed.

V Chemistry

Your first (1st) kiss with your date is the same as your first (1st)
time having sex. You have to prime her properly, and it should be
totally natural and easy.

The problem here is that you believe that the first (1st) kiss is
difficult. I will tell you it is not. It is the work that leads up to it
that you must pay attention to.

Too many of you do not want to work at achieving your goals,
and want everything to fall into your lap. So wake up from your
dream world. To get her closer to you, you must be romantic.

When the chemistry is there, take my word, you will know it, and
it will feel right. No matter when it comes, just go for that kiss.
This can be any time during or near the end of the date.

If you did not get her signal yet, then do the touch and eye
contact system. Touch her casually, and see how she responds.
If she pulls away, do not feel offended, just briefly keep touching
her, and make sure to keep your romantic conversation going.

If she really pulls away a second (2nd) time, then I recommend
that you get up like a true gentleman, smile sincerely, and let her
know that you are not offended by her rejection, and that you
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hope she doesnt take it personally but it would be better to cut
the date short. Thank her for her time, and wish her good luck.

Let her know clearly that your time is valuable, and that you
cannot waste it on those that do not appreciate your company.
Nor do you want to waste her time.

Now, if she is receptive (you have just challenged her), you will notice
her skin start to flush, her eyes will get glossy...and those are
just only two (2) of her positive signs.

At this moment if the two (2) of you are in a very deep, sensual,
soft, panting conversation, you will slowly move your face, with
your lips ever closer to her lips, as if to kiss her. Both your voices
will get softer, your breath will come in short gasps, and she will
move closer to you with her face and lips.

Her lips will be just at the tip of your mouth, and then, just in the
last moment before your lips are about to touch you back
away. This always surprises women, and the question they ask
themselves is:

Why? Why? Why? Why?

This always seals your deal for the real kiss.

You would hesitate, look confused, and wait a few minutes.

You then surprise her, abruptly grabbing her with both hands by
the back of her neck, and then kissing her smack on her mouth
as if you were under a spell. You then move away, and look
ashamed for not controlling yourself. You will apologize for your
behavior. This will take her by surprise once again. In this
moment, you then let her know that her eyes and lips drove you
insane, and hypnotized you.

This will make her feel empowered, sexy, and very flattered. You
would let her know by insisting that it would be better that you
should leave, while shaking your head in disbelief, with your head
down low and glancing briefly into her eyes. She in the other
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hand will be overwhelmed and want you to stay, so you will add
that you are very sorry and hug her goodbye.

While you hug her, you shall gently kiss her softly on her
forehead, eyelids, and her face. If she shivers, laughs, giggles,
and then smiles, you will then go again for her lips.

Do these moves, do not try these moves.

Or as Yoda would say: Try not. Do...or do not. There is no try.

So remember:

The "Apology." The "Apology." The "Apology." The "Apology."

Act as if you are about to kiss her, however holding back. Act as if you are about to kiss her, however holding back. Act as if you are about to kiss her, however holding back. Act as if you are about to kiss her, however holding back.

Make sure the chemistry is there. Make sure the chemistry is there. Make sure the chemistry is there. Make sure the chemistry is there.
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It is more important to do the right thing than to do the thing right!
-Peter F. Drucker

he day that each of my children were born, I cried. When
each one (1) of them looked at me with their big beautiful
innocent eyes and smiled, it melted my heart. However, do
not ever take my love for them as a weakness, as the character
Keyser Sze in the movie The Usual Suspects clarified.

We have a misconception of what love is. We understand its
physical aspects, but are not even close to understanding the
Spiritual aspect.

You should just focus on joy, that is all. The word love in the
physical sense has been overrated.

This information I do not receive from my physical self, but from
my Higher Self.
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You should always show your daughters and the women in your
lives that you care for and love them. Learn to adore and praise
them. Regularly give your better half small gifts.

Make sure to play games with them, and always be there for your
daughters. Teach them and do things with them. Ask about their
day and show them that you are sincerely interested in their
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Surprise your daughter with small gifts as well. This will show
them that they are special to you, and deserve to be treated this
way. This will make them feel secure as well as worthy.

Gifts, however, mean nothing if they are not given sincerely,
along with honesty to the person receiving the gift. The most
precious gift a man can give his spouse or daughter is his positive
presence and love. Treat them with respect and dignity.

I personally do not want my twin daughters to blame themselves
for how other people treat them.

When I make a mistake or upset them, I always show my
concern and apologize. This way I help them maintain their self-
respect.

I always tell my twin daughters how pretty and beautiful they
are, and that they are even smarter and intelligent.

I do listen to them without being judgmental. As a result, I hear
all they have to say. The same is true of my son as well.

What I have learned in life is never to forbid anyone from doing
what he or she wants to do. You all have this tremendous call for
freedom on this planet, even if it can often be self-destructive.

I have learned to never deny things to my children, ex-wife, or
girlfriends, since it will make them want it more.
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Let me give you two (2) examples as a parent.

I had read an article once about this woman that was upset at
her fourteen (14) year-old daughter when she found out that she
was hanging out at a shopping mall with a certain boy whom she
did not approve of. I just looked at what I read and said to
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I II If her daughter had not felt this objection from her mother, she probably f her daughter had not felt this objection from her mother, she probably f her daughter had not felt this objection from her mother, she probably f her daughter had not felt this objection from her mother, she probably
wouldnt have wanted to go with this boy in the first wouldnt have wanted to go with this boy in the first wouldnt have wanted to go with this boy in the first wouldnt have wanted to go with this boy in the first (1st) (1st) (1st) (1st) place. place. place. place.

My experience in raising three (3) children is that you should
focus on the true objective of parenthood, which is to make your
children independent.

Therefore, when they are about fourteen (14) years old, you
should be through telling them what to do. Of course, they still
require guidance, but it must be done through persuasion, not
instruction.

Let say you are a father or mother of an eighteen (18) year old
girl
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who has just informed you that she plans to spend the
upcoming three (3) day weekend up north at a camping ground
with her boyfriend.

Probably it is all very innocent, but your experience of this
reminds you of when you were her age dating. That thought
causes you to freak out! In protest you yell at her:

NO! DOES THREE NO! DOES THREE NO! DOES THREE NO! DOES THREE (3) (3) (3) (3) DAYS ALSO INCLUDE TWO DAYS ALSO INCLUDE TWO DAYS ALSO INCLUDE TWO DAYS ALSO INCLUDE TWO (2) (2) (2) (2) NIGHTS? NIGHTS? NIGHTS? NIGHTS?

She will respond loudly with:

OH, PAPPY OH, PAPPY OH, PAPPY OH, PAPPY (or MOMMY) (or MOMMY) (or MOMMY) (or MOMMY), YOU DO NOT TRUST ME AT ALL, DO YOU? I , YOU DO NOT TRUST ME AT ALL, DO YOU? I , YOU DO NOT TRUST ME AT ALL, DO YOU? I , YOU DO NOT TRUST ME AT ALL, DO YOU? I
AM AN AM AN AM AN AM AN ADULT, AND I CAN DO EXACTLY WHAT I WANT! ADULT, AND I CAN DO EXACTLY WHAT I WANT! ADULT, AND I CAN DO EXACTLY WHAT I WANT! ADULT, AND I CAN DO EXACTLY WHAT I WANT!

You reply.

NOT AS LONG AS I AM PAYING THE BILLS. AS LONG AS YOU NOT AS LONG AS I AM PAYING THE BILLS. AS LONG AS YOU NOT AS LONG AS I AM PAYING THE BILLS. AS LONG AS YOU NOT AS LONG AS I AM PAYING THE BILLS. AS LONG AS YOU
LIVE IN THIS HOUSE, YOU WILL FOLLOW MY RULES. LIVE IN THIS HOUSE, YOU WILL FOLLOW MY RULES. LIVE IN THIS HOUSE, YOU WILL FOLLOW MY RULES. LIVE IN THIS HOUSE, YOU WILL FOLLOW MY RULES.




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Which I again got from an article in a book I had read.
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Neither of you meant for this situation to escalate like it did, but
now you have taken positions, and you are both obsessed with
defending those positions. Problems like this arise because you
did not understand that a forbidden fruit always tastes sweeter.

A better approach is to use the technique of advising her to:

Close your eyes and visualize the f Close your eyes and visualize the f Close your eyes and visualize the f Close your eyes and visualize the future. uture. uture. uture.

I am glad you wanted to discuss this with me first I am glad you wanted to discuss this with me first I am glad you wanted to discuss this with me first I am glad you wanted to discuss this with me first (1st) (1st) (1st) (1st), though you are an , though you are an , though you are an , though you are an
adult and you can make your own decision. adult and you can make your own decision. adult and you can make your own decision. adult and you can make your own decision.

Sweetheart, who knows what may lie ahead in your future? Sweetheart, who knows what may lie ahead in your future? Sweetheart, who knows what may lie ahead in your future? Sweetheart, who knows what may lie ahead in your future?

Close your eyes for a second Close your eyes for a second Close your eyes for a second Close your eyes for a second (2nd) (2nd) (2nd) (2nd), sweetheart. , sweetheart. , sweetheart. , sweetheart.

I want you to visualiz I want you to visualiz I want you to visualiz I want you to visualize in your mind that maybe one e in your mind that maybe one e in your mind that maybe one e in your mind that maybe one (1) (1) (1) (1) day you will be day you will be day you will be day you will be
running for Prime Minister of Canada, or any high position in the Government. running for Prime Minister of Canada, or any high position in the Government. running for Prime Minister of Canada, or any high position in the Government. running for Prime Minister of Canada, or any high position in the Government.

There you are at a press conference having to answer questions from reporters There you are at a press conference having to answer questions from reporters There you are at a press conference having to answer questions from reporters There you are at a press conference having to answer questions from reporters
about this weekend. about this weekend. about this weekend. about this weekend.

Do you not think it would be Do you not think it would be Do you not think it would be Do you not think it would be smart to be more discreet? smart to be more discreet? smart to be more discreet? smart to be more discreet?

Why do you not both come up to the country with us instead? Why do you not both come up to the country with us instead? Why do you not both come up to the country with us instead? Why do you not both come up to the country with us instead?

I have always believed in personal freedom, and advice that
provides options to direct you to the road to take, whether I
approve or disapprove. You have the choice to agree or disagree
with me.

I do not believe in cornering someone, because we are likely to
do dumb things when someone tries to deprive us of that
freedom. It will push you to sheer frustration and destructive
behavior.

Whenever you see an objection, you look at it as a problem,
while I on the other hand look at it to find a solution.
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The difference between a man and a woman is that most men
can only focus on one (1) goal at a time, while most women are
known to be able to focus on more than one (1) task at the same
time. Both sexes do not seem to grasp or cannot understand why
this happens; nevertheless it is a fact.

The myth of romantic love says that for every man in the world
there is a woman who was meant for him, and visa versa. This
myth implies that there is only one (1) man meant for every
woman and only one (1) woman for every man; it means that this
has been predetermined in the stars or in dreams. However, we
know this is not true.

An illusion has been fostered in our culture by the commonly held
myth of romantic love that has its origins in our favorite
childhood fairy tales where the prince and the princess, once
united, live happily ever after. Real life does not work that way,
nor do I believe in keeping my children in a bottle.

The misconception that love is a feeling exists because we
confuse lust with love. This confusion is understandable, since
they are similar processes. There are striking differences,
however. Two (2) strangers may meet in a club and lust after
each other in such a way that nothing, not even a previous
commitment, spouse, scheduled appointment, promise, or family
stability is more important at this moment then their sexual
consumption. Do you follow?

The key word in these distinctions is WILL. I have defined love
as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing ones
own or anothers growth.

Genuine love is volitional
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rather than emotional. The person
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The power of choosing; the will.
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I made a commitment to be a loving person, whether or not the
loving feeling was present. If it is, so much the better. If it is not,
the commitment or choice to love, the will to love, still stands
and is exercised.

Conversely, it is not only possible but also necessary for a loving
person to avoid acting on feelings of love. I may meet a woman
who strongly attracts me, whom I feel like loving, but because it
would be destructive to my relationship to have an affair at this
time, I will say vocally, or in the silence of my heart:

I feel li I feel li I feel li I feel like loving you, but I am not going to. ke loving you, but I am not going to. ke loving you, but I am not going to. ke loving you, but I am not going to.

On the other hand, I may do the opposite.

My feelings of love may be unbounded by my capacity to be a
loving person. I therefore must choose the person on whom to
focus my capacity to love, toward whom to direct my will to love.

True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a
committed, thoughtful decision. The common tendency to
confuse love with the feeling of love allows people a manner of
self-deception. Do you fully comprehend this?

If we go back to body language, I will show a few examples on
how to read women.

For example, if you have five (5) women and five (5) males sitting
across from each other, watch womens legs and feet. You will
notice that their feet will be aimed toward the man they find
attractive (subconsciously). I did this study at Vanier College with a
few of my associates. Foot movements are one (1) of the most
powerful indicators of whether a woman finds you attractive or
not. The same is true with how far she opens her legs when she
is sitting or standing.

If a woman has her left hand on top of her right hand, she is
hiding her sentiments and speaking from her head. If, however,
her right hand is on top of her left hand, she is not hiding her
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feelings and is talking from her heart. If she is playing with her
hair, it generally means she has an interest in you.

I We Change

What is beauty? What is beauty? What is beauty? What is beauty?

Why do you find certain things appealing to the eye, what you call beautiful, Why do you find certain things appealing to the eye, what you call beautiful, Why do you find certain things appealing to the eye, what you call beautiful, Why do you find certain things appealing to the eye, what you call beautiful,
and others do not? and others do not? and others do not? and others do not?

What is the ingredient of beauty? What is the ingredient of beauty? What is the ingredient of beauty? What is the ingredient of beauty?

Some of you may argue that frankly:

Who cares? Who cares? Who cares? Who cares?

If something is beautiful, it is just beautiful and that is it. If it is
not, its not. Anyway, beauty is just in the eyes of the beholder.

Beauty always consists of the joining of many factors. Anything
beautiful is always multifaceted, but the diverse forces are
symmetrically aligned. Beauty is not just looks, personality,
voice, thoughts, mannerisms, and dress. Beauty is all of these
things and more. More importantly, only you can define beauty.
Beauty is what you see, hear, smell, and feel. There is a mystery
to beauty. However, the Cosmos helps you all become more
beautiful. Would you agree?

What destroys a relationship is selfishness and anger. You must
learn to replace them with the opposite and be forgiven. You
must put people you feel close to first (1st), with no thought of
being repaid. You tend to make yourself the center of the
Universe.

The emotional feelings you had are changing, and I am changing.
You cannot expect your love for your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend
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there is no point in bidding to force her as well as yourself to feel
a certain way about the relationship.

It is still wonderful; however, it has changed over the years. As
an example, the love I have for my children continuously
changes. I will let them go slowly on their own journeys rather
than trying to hold onto them as long as I can.

Do not get me wrong, I love them with all my being. However, I
know this in my head as well as I feel it in my heart.

I think I am almost at the stage where I can feel it in my body.
Therefore, I have stopped struggling to keep things as I think
they should be while fearing change. I know that this is the way
it is going to be; I am simply required to live with it.

I believe in forever. I look at my relationship with my former wife
Shoshana, the mother of my three (3) beautiful children and how
she has stayed loyal to us as a family...not just because I am her
childrens father, but because I am part of the family and she
truly loves me unconditionally.

I would do anything for her. Even if she or I are in another
serious relationship, our new partners will have to accept the
special relationship my ex and I have unconditionally.

B Toadying

Women, just as men, want to be respected no matter what.
However, if you grovel
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before her, or treat her as if she were
better than you, that is not respect; thats fawning
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toadying,
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To creep with the face to the ground.
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When you are a passionate man about your life, and care about
something other than sex, you will not be desperate. Women like
successful men. It's true that women are attracted to money, but
that is not the whole story. They are also attracted to men who
are passionate about their lives, and have fire and drive.

Some men have money, and some do not. I have written before
that money is less important than being a dynamic man, tackling
his life head-on.

Being patient is an important way of showing women that you
are not dangerous, and are worthy of their trust. By giving them
your card so they know how to reach you, you are showing
them that you have nothing to hide and want to hear from them.
You are giving them something to hold onto and keep track of,
and this is what is required in a relationship.

If you respect them...you are not desperate, but are patient with
them, do not fight with them, and show them you are not
weird...they will have every reason to feel trust in you. If you
leave them happy, they will not only trust you, but they will not
be able to wait for you to return.

Writing women romantic letters,
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notes, emails, or phone texts
makes all women feel special. The more specific you can be when
you compliment women, the better.

Now do you want to Now do you want to Now do you want to Now do you want to know what I mean by specific? know what I mean by specific? know what I mean by specific? know what I mean by specific?

Here are two (2) examples:

I miss you, and you are always on my mind. I miss you, and you are always on my mind. I miss you, and you are always on my mind. I miss you, and you are always on my mind.

Or:

Your eyes reflect the sun like sparkling diamonds in the moonlight. Your eyes reflect the sun like sparkling diamonds in the moonlight. Your eyes reflect the sun like sparkling diamonds in the moonlight. Your eyes reflect the sun like sparkling diamonds in the moonlight.



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Your focus should be on her, not you. You have to put out for
her, not the other way around.

Men who command respect are not needy, groveling worms.
They are men who know when to give and when to take, and who
are not looking to be taken care of.

Never push a woman too hard, for it turns women off more
quickly then you think. Show her you appreciate her beauty, her
eyes, her intelligence, her hair, etc. Surprise her; create activities
that you normally would not do just for her.

Be patient, confident, and bold at the same time. Details will
make you or break you.

F Younger Days

When I was younger, I only cared about how many women I
could get into my bed.

Most men will sleep with women regardless of whether she is hot,
in shape, or a potential girlfriend. I personally have changed, and
no longer have to prove myself or jeopardize my self-respect.

I prefer to be more meticulous than rushing and picking whatever
comes my way. I prefer taking my time, selecting the best of the
crop, and not settling for second (2nd) or third (3rd) best.

Women today, on the other hand, are split. Some want a steady
lover, some want one (1) night stand, and other women just
settle for second (2nd) best, or whatever comes their way.

However, if she feels as though you are just using her for sex,
she will send you packing. Even if she is the type to have a one
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(1) night stand, she still wants to be shown some kind of respect.
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To be appreciated as a person.

If she just wants to get laid, she can walk into any bar or club, or
even a mall, and grab any male she wants. Her chance of being
rejected is one (1) out of a hundred (100). That is the difference
between women and men. Men are required to work for it while
women are not.

So, if you can pour on the charm, she will feel appreciated.
Respect her likes and dislikes, her wishes, and her boundaries.

I Gifts

Always show your appreciation through little gifts. All women love
gifts. You can give her an inexpensive gift and it will melt her
heart almost as much as an expensive one (1).

For women, it is the thought that you show interest in her, and
that you have her in your mind. You will show her you are truly
generous, and she will feel that you appreciate and really care for
her going through the trouble to purchase something that will
remind her of you every time she looks at it.

Whatever you do, always make sure the gift is neatly wrapped.
This is important, because unwrapping for her is as much fun as
seeing the gift, and it is a pleasure for you to watch her
excitement over this.

On your first (1st) real date, if you are a person who is low on
cash, I highly recommend that you do the fifty ($50) dollar budget
rule game. Go out to a caf, a free museum, walk, window-shop,
and finally have dinner. Do any of these activities before the
dinner. I am sure you will know better if she is worth it or not.



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There are some that do not care about being respect, and enjoy being used its part of a game
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Make sure you follow this fifty ($50) dollar
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rule. This is your
maximum amount to spend, not your minimum. This will serve
you well, and you will never be broke or resentful.

You must fully understand that whether you have money or not,
the rule and game are the same. Do you follow me? Pause for a
minute and re-read this paragraph.

If you should take a woman to a very expensive outing and then
to an expensive restaurant, YES she will be impressed. However,
if you fail to create any romance for her, she will view you as a
sucker whom she can manipulate into buying her things, without
the sex involved.

The balance is for you to romance her, touch her gently, charm
her, and create a bond with her. Do you follow, or not?

Before going into the first (1st) real date, you have the first (1st)
precaution date.

This is done at a public caf where nobody knows you or her, so
that nobody may disturb you. The rule here, which I have
mentioned before, is called the fifteen (15) to thirty (30) minutes
analyzing rule.

In those fifteen (15) to thirty (30) minutes, your first (1st) goal is to
find out that she is not a nut case who may become a stalker, or
a woman that has destroyed mens lives and can do the same to
you.

If she passes your qualification, then move on to her dislikes,
likes, and whatever other information you can get. This should be
your focus if you are going to have a real first (1st) date with
her. In your first (1st) real date, you will know what will make her
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Now, if I am completely confusing you by being slow, gentle, and
soft-spoken, rather than blunt and straightforward as my
reputation, it is only because you are not ready for that stage.
When you are ready, you will know it.

I understand you are afraid of failing, because you are used to
failing. You expect the worst before it even happens. Am I right so
far? Maybe you were rejected so many times, that if or when you
are not rejected you are surprised. I want you now to pretend to
be a baseball player at bat.

Does a baseball player give up if he strikes out three Does a baseball player give up if he strikes out three Does a baseball player give up if he strikes out three Does a baseball player give up if he strikes out three (3) (3) (3) (3) times? times? times? times?

If he strikes out more times throughout the game,

Does he give up? Does he give up? Does he give up? Does he give up?

No!

So, damn it, neither should you.

1. First (1st) precautionary date, fifteen (15) to thirty (30) minute date
analyzing.

2. First (1st) real date, a maximum of a fifty ($50) dollar budget.

3. Small, inexpensive Gifts.

4. Be like a baseball player.

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Chapter 8:
DisbelieF

You will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it. -Charles Buxton

have met women in so many different situations. Being
straightforward was and still is the way I work. Let me share
with you a few of the adventures I have had.

One (1) night, I was at a club and I sat down for a drink while
waiting for some friends to join me. I noticed two (2) very
beautiful women who sat two (2) stools away from me. They
seemed to take good care of themselves. They seemed confident
and proud of their slim legs and slender ankles, in addition to
being a perfect size two (2). Their hair had a glossy shade, and it
bounced when they walked. They were both blondes with
highlights, wearing short red Dior, which flattered them, with a
simple strand of ruby necklaces on their throats. One (1) had
diamond earrings, the other big gold loop earrings. One (1) had a
single diamond solitaire on her ring finger, and the other had a
single ruby on hers. They both sat down with their chins tilted
upward, as though balancing something very small and light.
They had perfectly sculpted noses.

Even with all my observation of them I did not show that I had
any interest in them, as most other men were doing from the
moment they walked into the room. I never outwardly showed
that I was interested in meeting them, or even introducing myself
to them.

I lifted my head up slightly, but without really looking at them,
and said; Sorry ladies, I am not trying to hit on you both, and I
know you must hear this a lot, but just in case you are not tired
of it, you are both very beautiful, well-manicured, and dress
yourselves in style.

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I went back to my drink and I did not look back at them for their
responses. The second (2nd) girl, on my left, responded, Thank
you. I hate to disappoint you, but we are lesbians.

I raised my head and finally looked them both in the eyes,
looking confused, and asked them, What is a lesbian?

The first (1st) woman seemed surprised, and asked, Are you
serious?

I nodded with my head, Yes.

Her friend continued, It means that we do not date or go out or
sleep with men, but that we only date and sleep with women.

At that moment, I put my head down again; with my hands, I
slapped my forehead in disbelief. The first (1st) woman looked at
me, confused, and then asked, Whats wrong?

I replied, shaking and lifting my head, looking at them both in
the eyes saying, G-d no, this must mean that I am also a
lesbian, because I only date and sleep with women and not men.

The two (2) women started to laugh, while I stayed serious with a
small smirk. To make a long story short, we broke the ice, and as
a result then they took me home for a pleasant night.

I Sei Italiano

The next story I am going to tell you is about a business trip I
took to Manhattan, New York City, where I stayed at a nice four-
star (4) Hotel.

The Hotel I was staying at with my friends had a big lobby, with
high vaulted ceiling supported by marble columns. I was
wandering around the Hotel looking at things, and then sat down
to watch people while opening my newspaper; I was sitting
downstairs in the lounge, waiting for my friends to come down
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from our room so that we could go out for a bite to eat and then
go clubbing.

The lobby was wide and not far from the registration desk. While
I was reading the paper and checking out people coming into the
Hotel, I heard a lovely, soft, exotic voice on my right; I turned
and noticed a beautiful dark-haired woman from the corner of my
eye speaking perfect Italian to someone.

She was breathtakingly beautiful with an innocent look: long,
dark, thick, wavy hair, olive-toned skin, crystal blue cat-like eyes,
and long, slender legs. She was in her early twenties (20s), and
her beauty would have been the envy of any fashion model.

She wore a blue and yellow tight-fitting designer T-shirt, black
jeans that looked like they were painted on her, and black boots.
She looked like the kind of woman that only a Hollywood star
would have around his arms to boost his self-image. Her accent
was erotic, sexy, and very soft, at the same time strong, so I
could tell she did not really speak English very much, but mostly
Italian.

She passed right by me. I said in a low tone voice, but at the
same time making sure she could hear me, without even looking
at her:

Sei Italiano? Sei Italiano? Sei Italiano? Sei Italiano?
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She stopped and looked at me all confused, while I continued
with:

Mi scusi, ma non poteva fare nulla di ascoltanii, voi parlate la mia lingua. Mi scusi, ma non poteva fare nulla di ascoltanii, voi parlate la mia lingua. Mi scusi, ma non poteva fare nulla di ascoltanii, voi parlate la mia lingua. Mi scusi, ma non poteva fare nulla di ascoltanii, voi parlate la mia lingua.
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At this moment, I was looking at her straight in the eyes, when
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Youre Italian?
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Si lo sono Italiano, arrivo da Napoli. Si lo sono Italiano, arrivo da Napoli. Si lo sono Italiano, arrivo da Napoli. Si lo sono Italiano, arrivo da Napoli.
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When I saw her up close, I was stunned. She was radiant. I loved
her strong Italian accent, her name, her eyes, and her smile. She
looked directly at me and gave me a firm handshake, something
I like in a woman. So many women feel it is feminine to offer a
limp hand.

I introduced myself while holding onto her hand, and kissed the
back of it; I added that if she ever required help, in any way, she
should call me, since we are both from the same country. She
laughed. What a beautiful young woman! I thought. It had been
a long time since I had felt awkward as well as shy around a girl.

I told her, and this took me totally by surprise, that my mother
was from Dugenta, a city next to Naples.

As we strolled and talked, I didnt know where to look, and I was
self-conscious about where to put my hands.

Sho Sho Sho Should I keep them in my pockets? uld I keep them in my pockets? uld I keep them in my pockets? uld I keep them in my pockets?

Should I let them hang free? Should I let them hang free? Should I let them hang free? Should I let them hang free?

Should I let them swing? Should I let them swing? Should I let them swing? Should I let them swing?

Would she rather sit down, watch people, or window shop? Would she rather sit down, watch people, or window shop? Would she rather sit down, watch people, or window shop? Would she rather sit down, watch people, or window shop?

I asked her about herself and where she studied, what she was
interested in. She told me about her family, friends, education,
and I was impressed at how smart, articulate, and mature she
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This was a woman I could be interested in. However, she lived on
the other side of the world, and was certainly a few years
younger than I was.

In the meantime, she wanted to know about my life and career. I
told her anything she asked, but little more, because I wanted to
keep myself a mystery.

When the conversation lulled, she caught me gazing at her, and I
looked away. When I looked back, she was looking at me. We
smiled shyly. This is crazy, I thought. I was dying to know if
she was seeing anyone seriously, but I was not about to ask.

Her questions were more along the line of a young person asking
a professional about his career. She seemed to envy my travel
and experience. I tuned it down.

She asked me if I was involved with anyone. I was glad she had
asked this, and I was happy to tell her, No, I had never really
been serious enough with anyone. Then I asked her if she was
involved with anyone. She laughed then told me; Only one (1)
steady guy when I was a teen. I told her he must have been
blind to let her go. She blushed.

To make a long story short, I convinced her to have dinner with
me the following night. She told me she was there for only five
(5) days, on a modeling shoot for Calvin Klein. I let her know that
I was there also on business, and some pleasure afterwards with
some friends.

The next evening, I received a message at the front desk saying
that she had to cancel our dinner because of a shoot. I was
disappointed. But the front desk clerk added that she would be at
the club with some of the other models and staff, and that if I
wanted to join them with my friends, she had put us down on the
guest list.

That night I did show up with my friends, and when she saw me,
she had a big smile and greeted me with a huge hug as if she
had known me for years. She kissed me on my cheeks. When her
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friends saw that, they automatically accepted my friends and I
into their circle.

To make another long story short, I ended up being sexually
intimate with her friends for the next few nights (yes, back then I was
a jerk).

On the last three (3) nights, she asked me why I did not once try
to take advantage of her as I did with the other supermodels. I
explained that she was special and not like them. That night, we
finally slept together, and as a result it was the most amazing
night I had.

She washes her hands, powders her arms, removes her clothes,
and approaches my bed to lie down on top of me with her small
arms and long shapely legs and with her tiny flat belly and
fragrant mouth.

She is beautiful, she is shy and quiet, she bathes each morning,
afternoon, and evening for the last three (3) days. She rinses her
hands and washes her feet more often than that and scrupulously
cleans and perfumes beneath her arms each time before she
draws near to feed me, cover me, or lie with me.

She was slight, delicate in body, and very young, with a smooth
and dusky complexion, glossy, straight wavy dark brown hair
combed downward and rolling outward at her shoulders into an
even curl, and very large, inviting cat's eyes with huge white and
crystal blue irises.

She knew what she wanted and she seemed to know how to get
it. She had an air of innocence and a fluttering distraction.

G-d knows I slept and fought plenty, and had a rousing good
time doing both until I felt in love, and everything took a turn for
the worse.

I certainly know I was always a vigorous, courageous, and
enterprising soul, overflowing with all the lusty emotions and
desires of life until that day.
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I do not like to boast. I know I boast a bit when I say I do not
have to boast. However, I love women, the way they smell, and
the taste of their young skin. She was a luscious young woman,
but:

Had I really ear Had I really ear Had I really ear Had I really earned the pleasure of her company? ned the pleasure of her company? ned the pleasure of her company? ned the pleasure of her company?

She knew much about making love, but not much about men.

Making love to her again and again, and holding her in my arms
until I could not hold her longer yet could not bear separating
from her...that was my second (2nd) biggest mistake.

I love my women in red crimson, blue, yellow and black, and I
love scarlet lipstick, azure eye shadow, dark mascara, false long
eyelashes, and long false fingernails. I love long shapely legs and
mini skirts or mini dresses. Where I go from here is now a
mystery.

I cannot and I will most likely never weaken myself in those two
(2) manners ever again, but I have no regrets, for it has made
me stronger in who I am now.

There was a time that I could not stop touching her once I began.
I could not help staring at her. I could not help wanting her. This
was love. I soaked her up; I could not stop breathing her in. I
could not stop looking at her. I wanted to make love to her every
day. I was starving. This is what I want to remember her by.

The last day she told me she had to go, and asked if she could
tell me something without me thinking she was weird. I
responded with; Yes, you may, while I smiled and tilted my
head. She smiled back and said; I was just going to say that I
like the way you say my name.

I took her hand, kissed it while staring deep into her eyes, and
said; Its been wonderful spending time with you.

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She chuckled, as if embarrassed about what she was thinking.
She said; I feel stupid, I just met you and Im really gonna miss
you. If you get to Italy again, you have to call me.

Its a promise, I said.

My point as to why I kept her last was if I had her first (1), the
chances were I would never have gotten her friends, or have her
more interested in me.
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Most of you guys want what others want: to draw that sexy
woman closer and make her hungry to possess you. You must
create an aura of desirability, of being wanted as well as courted.

It is a point of vanity for her to be the preferred object of your
attention, to win you away from a crowd of admirers.
Manufacture the illusion of popularity by surrounding yourself
with members of the opposite sex, friends and former lovers.
Create angles that stimulate rivalry in addition raising your value.
Build a reputation that precedes you.

B Picasso

My next story happened when I was in my early twenties (20s),
and boy, do I have more besides this one (1).

Let me tell you this one (1), though. There were two (2) heavyset
brothers that weighed about three hundred pounds (300lbs) each.
After clubbing, I would often go to this twenty-four (24) hour
restaurant. There, I told the brothers that their favorite server
wanted to sleep with me. To be honest, though, I was only being
a guy and playing around, and did not really mean it. I did not
expect, however that these two (2) took me seriously, and would
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The next night, I was out with my friends clubbing downtown and
having a great time. At four (4) a.m., I got hungry and went to
my favorite twenty-four (24) hour restaurant. I was dressed
sharply in a suit and tie.

I walked in and waived to everyone. I then heard a voice calling
me. It was loud and sounded very upset, yelling, YOU! I
WANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT A
RUMOUR I HEARD!

I looked and saw that it was the waitress with the two (2)
brothers on their stools sitting behind her. They were holding
onto a small teddy bear and smirking at me. I told myself right
away just to relax, take a deep breath, dont play into their
game, and be honest by not playing with her feelings, or it would
just add fuel to her fire.

I calmly walked right up to her and let her talk first (1st) before I
said anything. She asked me in a very angry, upset voice while
looking me straight in the eyes, Did you tell certain people that I
wanted to sleep with you?

I looked straight back at her, and calmly responded, I apologize
if I have offended or upset you in any way. However, I truly
believe that you are interested in sleeping with me. I am also
very sorry that whoever told you this had no class and took what
I said so seriously, because if I knew that this would upset you, I
would not have said anything.

This took her off guard and calmed her down. She was expecting
me to deny it. She may have hoped for a confrontation, but got
the opposite. Instead, I told her my version of the truth and
explained myself.

The gamble was telling her I believe she wanted me, when I had
no clue if that was true or not. I took the control out of her
hands, and this calmed her down.

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Not only did I earn a free meal out of it, I went to the two (2)
brothers and told them, If the stools were not cemented to the
ground, I would kick both of you off them so that you both would
be lying down on your fat asses! I also added; You guys may
have given her a teddy bear, but now I will truly sleep with her
because of you.

She slept with me the next night.

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These are certain ways to persuade women.

Even if you are telling the truth, if she begins to doubt
it, your chances of persuading her will fall like a rock.
Never tell her more than you think she will believe. If
you cannot make her believe it, you had better temper
your claims.

I used to write to Penthouse Letters about my sexual
adventures from 1998 to around 2007, with more details
to my stories. Penthouse Letters would change my
name and city, so that the readers who read the stories
did not see the same guy writing about his adventures.
They would edit it a little or add to the original stories. I
even wrote a few adventures that Roman Brave and I
had with women whom we contaminated into our sexual
lifestyle.

Roman has now become more like I was, when I was
blunt and direct, from playing with women emotion.

I, on the other hand, have no time for these games
anymore. I am now more interested in training people,
and in finding my Kindred Spirit for my own happiness.

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Chapter 9:
HelplesS
To change ones thinking pattern, changes the environment. -PUB

atience. You may feel that you have it. You may want
changes and you may want them immediately.
Nevertheless, deep down, you know you are impatient
because you begin to give yourself pressure and overreact. You
get in your own way if you let impatience rule your behavior.

If you are attempting to change anything in your life, do not
underestimate the time required for transformation. If you are
going to make changes a second (2nd) nature, you have to keep
working at it everyday. Remember that your new self must
become real or you may start to over relax and get right back
into your old habits.

Tell me what label best suits you:

[1]Abandonment, [2]defectiveness, [3]dependence, [4]entitlement,
[5]social exclusion, [6]subjugation, [7]unrelenting standards,
[8]mistrust, and abuse.

Now write down these seven (7) questions on a piece of paper
and answer them honestly:

1. Do you feel like no one (1) that really gets to know you will ever truly
love and accept you because you feel you are defective?

2. Does it seem like you are drawn only to cold women?

3. Do you settle and accept only second (2nd) or third (3rd) best as a
mate?

4. Do you feel that the girl of your dreams is out of reach?

5. Do you put the needs of others first (1st) and ignore your own?
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6. Do you even know what your requirements are?

7. Do you find that, no matter what social approval or public acclaim
you get, you still feel unhappy, unfulfilled, or undeserving?

You may have built these patterns since you were a child. If you
were an abused child, you would most likely date or marry an
abuser or become an abuser yourself. If you were sexually
molested as a child, you most likely will go into the sex trade. If
you were controlled as a child, you will most likely allow people
to control you. You must escape these negative patterns.

Why do you re Why do you re Why do you re Why do you re- -- -enact your pain and enact your pain and enact your pain and enact your pain and prolong your suffering? prolong your suffering? prolong your suffering? prolong your suffering?

I can help you with this, but you must be willing to open up as I
have throughout my book and deal with your past first (1
st
). In
addition, you must be one hundred percent (100%) sure and
ready for your present and future life.

I will help show you exactly what your negative patterns are and
how you can break them. I will teach you to become more
selective with the opposite sex and not accept second (2nd)
choice.

I will show you how to stay away from destructive women who
generate a lot of sexual chemistry and the danger of having a
romantic relationship. This will help you become a calmer and
more self-confident person.

Stay away from unstable women. Women that have negative
things to say about their exes should be avoided at all costs. Do
not believe, for a moment, that you are special, better and
different, because years later you will be that person she
negatively remembers. Learn to make healthier choices with
women who are stable, reliable and who seem devoted to you.
Stop, think, and re-read what you just read now. Now, do you truly
follow?

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My approach will help show you exactly what type of woman is
healthy for you to pursue and which you should avoid, for either
a short or a long-term relationship.

Any woman that tells you they love you in less than a month (1),
stay away from her. Run as fast and as far as you can. I call
these people emotional-passive dependents. I call them
emotional because they feel too quickly and are emotional about
the relationship and our life together. I call them passive
because as soon as the relationship is over, they have all but
forgotten you. As emotional as they were over the relationship
when it existed, they are now feeling nothing about it or you.
These women are dependent because when they are in a
relationship they live and breathe it as if it is the only thing that
matters. Their dependence on it is excessive and unhealthy.

This will not be easy. You must make choices that are painful in
the short run, and you may even have to go against your gut
feelings in order to escape a rut that you have been mired in
throughout your life.

What is important is to first (1st) develop a stronger sense of self.
Become more aware of your desires and feelings and stop
suppressing them.

Learn to develop opinions and preferences. Become more
assertive; learn to state your requirements in a calm and
controlled manner, even if she puts up some minor resistance.
Once she recognizes that she is losing power, she will soon settle
down. She will like you better. She wants you to be strong.

I can tell you about certain techniques that are designed to teach
you practical skills such as meditation, trance, relaxation,
assertiveness, and social skills.

Some men and even women may feel it is easier to avoid
disappointment by not wanting much. Nevertheless, remember
those who ask very little from life, always get what they ask for
very little.

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You can win the battle and accomplish your dreams only by
clearly defining what you want. Get up to speed. Let your mind
race ahead so that you first (1st) visualize your task and desires.
Expend extra effort. You can make your fondest dreams come
true if you add a little imagination to the hard work. Take action
on your dreams, goals, women, and life. As this unfolds, you will
have the desire to make your dreams a reality.

Learn by watching others, for you cannot consistently make your
way to great success. You can only fail your way to great
success.

Every man or woman I know or have heard of who has
succeeded in a big way has failed repeatedly, in life, in
relationships, and that list continues. The difference between
them and those who do not succeed massively on an on-going
basis is that their success is seen as inevitable in their minds.
They do not process failure in the same way as their less-
successful counter-parts.

Those who succeed, almost without exception, seem to know
(whether instinctively or through study) that almost all adversity has within
it the seed of an equal or greater benefit. They seem to know
that their road to success is often disguised in work clothes, and
often fails.

The right woman enhances your life. She is personally fulfilling
because she nourishes the most important aspects of your
personality. She suits the way you like to do things and reflects
who you are. She helps you use your innate strengths in ways
that come naturally to you and she does not force you to do
things you do not do well.

How can you tell if you are in the right relationship? How can you tell if you are in the right relationship? How can you tell if you are in the right relationship? How can you tell if you are in the right relationship?

When you look forward to going home, feel energized by being
around her, feel that your contribution is respected and
appreciated, you can feel as if you are in the right relationship.
When you are proud to describe her to others, or enjoy bringing
her along wherever you go, you can feel as if you are in the right
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relationship. When you respect her and feel optimistic about your
future, you can feel as if you are in the right relationship.

If you are with a very hot, sexy, beautiful woman, be careful
though, because there will be many jealous people who will work
behind your back to break you apart. What can result, when you
least expect it, is that break the moment you close your eyes.
So, follow your gut feeling before you are taken.

I Offended

Diffuse a womans opposition by making the case that there
really is no conflict because you are both after the same thing.
Do not agree when she tells you not to take it personally (example:
when she leaves you because of her and not because of you).

When she offends you, use the Im not offended ploy. When
you do not want to lie to her by denying it, it is time to use the
easy to deny ploy.

Always let her have a way out. You should always let her have
options, since we all have a tremendous need to be free. What
I have learned in life is to never forbid either sex from doing what
they want to do, for it can often be self-destructive.

I do not believe in cornering someone, because you are likely to
do dumb things when someone strives to deprive you of that
freedom; it will push you to sheer frustration and destruction.

You may see this as an objection, and a problem. I, on the other
hand, look at it to find a solution. She still may require your
guidance, but it must be done through persuasion, not
instruction.

When she is threatening to do something rash, think of counting
backward, and calmly say:

Baby, why would you want to do that? Baby, why would you want to do that? Baby, why would you want to do that? Baby, why would you want to do that?
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When she has bad feelings about you or what you are doing, you
are always better to get those feelings out on the table. Have her
acknowledge the bad feelings, and agree that it should be dealt
with.

Suspicions on her part mean she does not trust you yet, nor does
she trust herself. You can detect this if she avoids answering your
questions or conceals things from you by passing notes, text
messages, or asking for privacy. However it is that you detect
suspicion, confront it. Dont over look it, or you will make it
worse...for usually those signs also mean she is being unfaithful
to you.
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When she has not come out and said she is angry with you, but it
is obvious that she is, bring it out. Say:

Baby, it is clear to see you are angry about this. Baby, it is clear to see you are angry about this. Baby, it is clear to see you are angry about this. Baby, it is clear to see you are angry about this.

Why do we not both put that behind us and look at ways we can rebuild our Why do we not both put that behind us and look at ways we can rebuild our Why do we not both put that behind us and look at ways we can rebuild our Why do we not both put that behind us and look at ways we can rebuild our
relationship, fair enough? relationship, fair enough? relationship, fair enough? relationship, fair enough?

Hurt means she trusted you, and now she feels let down. Hurt
is a difficult emotion with which to deal, because she will always
feel that she, too, was at fault for trusting you.

When you encounter the negative emotions of suspicion, anger,
and hurt, do not learn to live with them...learn to exorcise them
instead. You can even reverse it into:

I trusted her, and now I feel let down as well as at fault for trusting her. I trusted her, and now I feel let down as well as at fault for trusting her. I trusted her, and now I feel let down as well as at fault for trusting her. I trusted her, and now I feel let down as well as at fault for trusting her.

It is important to recognize that there are as many different
paths to satisfaction as there are happy relationships. There is no
one (1) relationship to which everyone should aspire.
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You and your better half got into an argument. However, you
believe you settled it. That night she goes to bed dressed up all
sexy with full make-up and everything. You approach her to
subdue her, but she makes it clear she does not want you to
touch her. Now you know she is still upset and playing games
with your mind:

So how do you handle this? So how do you handle this? So how do you handle this? So how do you handle this?

Who has control, you, or her? Who has control, you, or her? Who has control, you, or her? Who has control, you, or her?

Best thing to do is to walk away and show her you have inner
strength, so this way you are in control and not her. Once she
sees that her mind game is not working in upsetting you, she
will wake up and realize that you work on logic, not emotions.

B Reprogramming Yourself

If in your private life you have chosen nymphettes as girlfriends,
and it does not work out because you get bored, or the women
leave you or cheat and so on, then it is a pattern you must look
at very deeply and ask yourself:

Why do I always meet the wrong women? Why do I always meet the wrong women? Why do I always meet the wrong women? Why do I always meet the wrong women?

If this is not what you really want, then you have to re-program
yourself to what you want. Decide what you really want in a
woman (not what you do not want) and write it down. Make it clear in
details. See her as if she were here right now in front of you.

S SS She has caramel skin, with dark wavy hair, and clear crystal blue eyes. She is in he has caramel skin, with dark wavy hair, and clear crystal blue eyes. She is in he has caramel skin, with dark wavy hair, and clear crystal blue eyes. She is in he has caramel skin, with dark wavy hair, and clear crystal blue eyes. She is in
amazing shape. She is a minimum of five amazing shape. She is a minimum of five amazing shape. She is a minimum of five amazing shape. She is a minimum of five (5) (5) (5) (5) years younger than I am. She is years younger than I am. She is years younger than I am. She is years younger than I am. She is
open open open open- -- -minded, with a sense of humor. She is at ease around others. She is warm, minded, with a sense of humor. She is at ease around others. She is warm, minded, with a sense of humor. She is at ease around others. She is warm, minded, with a sense of humor. She is at ease around others. She is warm,
caring, and has the caring, and has the caring, and has the caring, and has the most beautiful smile that would break my heart. most beautiful smile that would break my heart. most beautiful smile that would break my heart. most beautiful smile that would break my heart.

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Whatever it may be, see it as if it is in front of you. Therefore,
the more detail you go into, the better it is, especially what you
really want in a woman.
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Make certain that you know what you really want, then go after it
and do not accept substitutes. You are in control, and not a
victim.

You do not have to go off with the next bimbo you see. You can
really have the women you want (two (2) at one (1) time if you want), the
relationship you want, and the life you want, if you decide to re-
program yourself for it. If this was not so, your blueprint
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not have led you to me.

There are some people who may seem to appear from the
outside as confident, assertive and even in total control, yet on
the inside they are really like frightened little children who
desperately want attention, respect and help.

If your partners phone rings three (3) times and then they hang
up that is the sign your partner is cheating, for it is a secret code
from their lover. If she does not answer her cell phone or goes
somewhere private to chat, that is another sign. Texting is also
just a trick to get you off their track for cheating.

F Your Status

Most women find it difficult to find men who are comfortable with
themselves and what they do. They prefer men who do not have
to prove anything and have their own set of achievements. They
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Beyond Any Shadow-of-a-Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive! Book I: Secrets and Laws of the
Universe, Chapter 1: Logic and Belief.
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Some people you might want to give the benefit of the doubt.
But, to be on the safe side, do not be too quick to accept.
Scrutinize every aspect first (1st).

If someone does not play by the (your) same rules on respect or
loyalty, do not sink to their level. Also, always be ready in case
someone wants to stir up trouble for you by deliberately
misquoting you. Do not ignore it. Nip it in the bud immediately,
because it can leave a scar on your reputation.

Just because you would not take advantage of anyone does not
mean someone will not take advantage of you. Be trusting of
others, but not to the point of foolishness. Everyone makes
mistakes, and you are no exception. However, make sure that
anger does not dominate your thinking, or you will make matters
worse.

You should know what you are looking for in a woman, with
specific qualities.

1. What kind of woman do you desire?

2. What exactly do you want?

3. What is important to you in a woman?

4. What is your preference in height?

5. What breast size is it that you desire?

6. Do you prefer short or long hair on women?

7. Do you desire a blond, brunette, redhead, etc., or does it not
matter?

8. Do you desire an educated or uneducated woman?

Be careful for what you wish for, for you will get it. Every woman
I have ever wanted I have gotten.

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In my last two (2) long-term relationships, I got my wish. At ten
(10) years old I told my mother that when I grew up, my wife
would be an American with medium blonde hair, shorter than I,
pretty face, beautiful sexy innocent eyes, big breasts, smart,
intelligent, and that she would give me twins. Fifteen (15) years
later, I met her, and six (6) years later, she became my wife.
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She gave me a beautiful son that would have been a twin (long
story), and then she gave me beautiful twin girls.

My other wish was at twenty (20) years old, five (5) years before I
met my ex. I told a few friends of mine that if I should ever get
married and then divorced, my next relationship would be with a
girl half my age, and she would be cute, sexy, petite, slim, in
amazing shape, nice round tush, arched back, wonderful breasts
(not too big), long brunette hair, sexy innocent eyes, and European
background. Nineteen (19) years later, I meet her, and she was
Jezebel.

I have a gift (or a curse) in getting my deepest wishes. Your
subconscious dictates what your wish shall be.

This is for you ladies, and you boys that want to become real
men, both live and online.

Today, boys complain about why girls do not ask them out, and
women assume men should ask them out. Would you agree on this?
We have all lost touch. We have a misunderstanding on what
equal rights really means.

I have no issue with women asking me out, however I do not
solely rely on it.

Boys these days do not make it easy by showing that they are
men. Maleness appears to have gone the other way around. It
has gotten so bad that there are even dolls for grown-up males.
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cannot get dates. Of course, the first (1st) step would be to
actually go and ask a girl out, and not stay home wishing to date
her.

If the current downturn in manliness continues, fathers will soon
start telling their sons, "Son, someday you'll grow up and be a
large boy who must shave, pluck his eyebrow, and become a
metro-sexual."
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The answer that I have for you guys is that ladies do not have to
take over the man's job by doing the asking.

Women will ask you out in many ways. Some are more direct;
however, I shall explain the indirect approach to you.

She will just signal to you that it would go very, very well for you
if you did it. All it takes is for you to pay attention.

She will do that by flirting. She may probably flirt far beyond
what seems reasonable, especially when you seem to have all the
sexual aggression of a lost child.

Ultimately, flirting is a form of information gathering for her, and
she asks herself:

Is there a man c Is there a man c Is there a man c Is there a man cowering in there somewhere? owering in there somewhere? owering in there somewhere? owering in there somewhere?

If so:

Are you man enough and interested enough to speak out, and ask me if I am Are you man enough and interested enough to speak out, and ask me if I am Are you man enough and interested enough to speak out, and ask me if I am Are you man enough and interested enough to speak out, and ask me if I am
free tonight or this weekend? free tonight or this weekend? free tonight or this weekend? free tonight or this weekend?

If you send her the signals that you cannot or will not, you are
telling her something you truly do not mean: "Go flirt with
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She in the other hand will do just that. She shall do a whole lot of
flirting with a whole lot of other guys, but to her it beats dating
somebody who is not that interested in her, or sitting in a corner
waiting for some burly man to come to her rescue. That is the
message she receives from you. She does not want to be
remembered one (1) day as, "Hmm, looks like she died waiting
for a guy to grow a pair of balls."

You never get a second (2nd) chance to make a really crappy first
(1st) impression.

Next time you are some place (club, bar, post office, etc.), and you spot
a girl who strikes your fancy, do not bother talking to her or
buying her a drink. Just tap her on the shoulder and run. That is
basically, what you are doing.

The same goes to online "winking." Never mind coming up with
some clever little form e-mail that you personalize for each girl
you hit on. Just send that little winkie face, telling her you are
too cheap, dull, lazy, wimpy, or to write her a message.
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Sending a wink is also a really girlie thing to do (ha, and you claim to
be a man). This is an online version of wearing a really short skirt
and crossing and recrossing your legs. That does send a
provocative message; it comes out as something along the lines
of, "Hey, ladies, guess whether I'm wearing any panties!"

I Where Are You

Most men settle and end up being with women they truly do not
desire. I want to help you find women you only dream about and
want in real life. So think out of your box, think out of you
league, and go for what you dream to have, and then ask
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What kind of man do I have to be to become a catch? What kind of man do I have to be to become a catch? What kind of man do I have to be to become a catch? What kind of man do I have to be to become a catch?

You do not have to be more than you already are, but to be
yourself. You do not have to be better looking, in shape, richer or
taller. All women want is for you to make them feel special by
romancing them. You have to accentuate if you are to make
women you desire feel romantically about you.

The first (1st) thing women notice about a man is their style;
how they dress, their shoes, and their level of confidence.
This tells women who you are and what you are about. You are
showing them you are unique, important, and have a passion for
life.

If you want women who have a great sense of style and dress
sexy for you, then you should look good in return. Spend the
time and money on buying the right clothes, and keeping them
clean and pressed.

If you do not know how to shop, then I advise you to bring a
friend...perhaps a female friend, or even better, pick a total
stranger you feel will be a good choice because he or she dresses
in style. If you are on a budget let them know the most you want
to spend (never under three hundred ($300) dollars).
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Always have a mint on you in case of bad breath (or suck on a lemon).
Never wear white socks outside of sports. As for shoes, make
sure they are always polished and clean.

Why shoes? Why shoes? Why shoes? Why shoes?

Your shoes should be polished. Women spend most of their time
buying and thinking of shoes...they have conversations about
shoes with each other. They spend lots of time thinking about
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thing she will look at is your shoes. Do not be too surprised to
find out that she will judge you by your shoes. So be ready.

You should always open a door for women and close the door
behind them. In a car, if the woman wants to be considered a
lady and continue to be treated as one (1), she should lean over
to the drivers seat and personally open your door for being a
gentleman. Now that is a classy lady worth keeping and
respecting.

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FacinG MyselF
Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in
it. Goethe

top stressing over the stupid things in life, like how you
look and whether or not people like you.

For awhile, I forgot who I really was when I became involved in a
long-term relationship with a woman that was twenty-one (21)
years younger than myself. I forgot my own teachings. Now, as
you can see, I am BACK!

The next twenty-two (22) paragraphs you read I would like you to
read OUT LOUD, as if you were talking about yourself. The door is
open; all you must do is go through it.

However, I want you to feel it and put your heart into it. I think
you should not try this exercise, but just do it. If you do not
read it aloud, then I will ask you to skip it and close this book.
You either take this seriously or close the book.

So if you are ready, then take a deep breath, relax, and now go:

There is this person inside of me whom I have finally
discovered, and whom I plan to experience on a
continuous basis.

I am someone who will be able to make personal as
well as business plans and stick to them, bringing it
in one (1) time with no need for praise from anyone,
but just the satisfaction of knowing that once I
think it, I can do it.

I am a person who will welcome new challenges
with zest, and who will deal with the inevitable
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natural part of life instead of a devastating
problem or some kind of punishment.

I am now in control of my life, instead of an event
controlling circumstances, women, plain old fear,
and me.

If at first (1st) I do not succeed, I shall NOT try, and
try again, I will just do it. I am not giving in, but I
shall accomplish in what I want.

This man is someone I already am, and someone I can
begin to experience immediately if I develop a set of
personal abilities that few know about and even
fewer may apply. My personal persistence and
determination should begin to show favorable
results.

If I cannot convince by words, I will sway by
actions. I have discovered that there is more to life
than financial wealth, but that money is important
to take care of my family and myself so that I can
live out my dreams and even help others achieve
theirs.

Even dreams that seem beyond my grasp are
reachable if I am in complete and total control.

Some people will work to make me believe that I
cannot have it all; but I, on the other hand, will
tell them (as well as you) that I can have it all.

I am designing my life, and will continue to design it
so that it is full of rewarding accomplishments and
positive emotions with little frustration,
resentment, anger, fear or other negative emotions
that may deprive me of even the smallest happiness.

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I will work on this because it will not just happen
by accident. I can do it and have it all only by
learning to bring out that someone I already am.

Real wealth is determined by the level of my ability
to live out my dreams and achieve my objectives,
regardless of whether others consider them
practical or outrageous.

I can measure real wealth by my ability to enjoy
every moment of the experience of accomplishing
those dreams and objectives.

In life, there is no standing still. What may seem like
a major barrier to most is only a minor obstacle to
me. I do not look at obstacles as a problem, but as a
CHALLENGE THAT must be solved.

Dreams and goals which may seem to most
unreachable will become a reality to me. I will be in
control of my time, my direction, and my life.

If I should ever feel that the world is collapsing
around me, I will remain solid as a rock, able to take
on whatever life throws my way.

I will stay confident, courageous, and be able to
make the right decisions and take the right actions.
When everything around me is in an uproar...

I will remain mentally and emotionally balanced. I
have the ability to plan and control my future to
increase my personal effectiveness and get what I
want done when I want it done.

I know no limitations and do not recognize my age,
gender, education, level of wealth or past faults.

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Even with all this, it does not mean I will not keep
facing adversity, OBSTACLES, or problems.
Nevertheless, I will be ready to deal effectively
with whatever comes.

I fully understand that a wall is there for a ball to
bounce off of...not to constantly attempt to walk
through while complaining about bumping its head
in frustration and pain. A wall is neutral. It is not
out to get me.

I am Power Incarnated, Feared, Blessed, and
Respected by all, for I am Greatness among
Greatness!

Did you find this exercise helpful? Did you find this exercise helpful? Did you find this exercise helpful? Did you find this exercise helpful?

Now:

How do you feel about reading this aloud? How do you feel about reading this aloud? How do you feel about reading this aloud? How do you feel about reading this aloud?

Build your resilience by taking a risk everyday. Make a list of all
the risk takers you know. Call at least one (1) of them every day.
Arrange to have lunch or coffee with them if you can. Ask them
about the risks they have taken in life, with women and business
in general (in other words, all aspects of life).

Learn to stay focused rather than taking Learn to stay focused rather than taking Learn to stay focused rather than taking Learn to stay focused rather than taking scattered risks; let your risks build on scattered risks; let your risks build on scattered risks; let your risks build on scattered risks; let your risks build on
one one one one (1) (1) (1) (1) another. another. another. another.

Have a goal in mind. Have a goal in mind. Have a goal in mind. Have a goal in mind.

Learn to trust Learn to trust Learn to trust Learn to trust (truly trust) (truly trust) (truly trust) (truly trust) yourself, for you cannot take risks if you do not. yourself, for you cannot take risks if you do not. yourself, for you cannot take risks if you do not. yourself, for you cannot take risks if you do not.

Each risk increases your self-esteem, which increases your
options. In the beginning, you may trust others, especially risk
takers, more than you trust yourself. Their support should help
you begin to recover your resiliency.

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I tried is not an acceptable excuse. In fact, no excuses are
necessary for success. Tried is an excuse for failure; it is lazy.
Using the word try creates an illusion in your mind that effort
produces an almost win, and this stops you from moving on.
Accept failure as an alternative and, consciously or
unconsciously, it will diminish your effectiveness and power to
achieve your objectives.

What are objectives? What are objectives? What are objectives? What are objectives?

Objectives are experiences you would like to have but have not
yet had. Places you never been to, people, women you have not
met, a level of money you have not achieved, a true romantic
relation you have not reached or truly enjoyed yet, or having
something you dont currently own. Objectives represent what
you intend to achieve in the near future. They are always set and
worked on in the present.

Back in the late 1980s to the late 1990s at Concordia University
with some associates of mine we done a personal survey for our
own knowledge business students that graduated over a ten (10)
year period. These students were followed to determine how they
were progressing toward their goals.

You would be surprised that eighty-three percent (83%) did not
set up any goals. They reported to be working hard, staying busy
but had no specific plans.
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Fourteen percent (14%) had goals but no written goals; they had
their goals only in their mind, but they were earning on average
three (3) times more than those who did not have goals.
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The remaining three percent (3%) had written goals, and they
were earning ten (10) times what those who had no goals were
making.
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My point is a written goal makes a difference, and has a positive
impact on your life. This study is useful not only for business, but
also with relationships and with meeting woman in general. It is
all the same formula.

Now ask yourself seriously:

Do I want to be part of the eighty Do I want to be part of the eighty Do I want to be part of the eighty Do I want to be part of the eighty- -- -three percent three percent three percent three percent (83%) (83%) (83%) (83%), the f , the f , the f , the fourteen percent ourteen percent ourteen percent ourteen percent
(14%) (14%) (14%) (14%) or the three percent or the three percent or the three percent or the three percent (3%) (3%) (3%) (3%)? ?? ?

So grab a pen or pencil and a note pad and start writing your
goals in perfect details.

Do not live only on expectation. Rather, work to reach your
established objectives, because otherwise you are setting
yourself up for the possibility of being disappointed. Develop your
ideas and drop your expectations.

WHAT? WHAT? WHAT? WHAT?

This will get you out of grief and bring about a greater amount of
satisfaction and success. As Steve Piccus
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would say, The best
revenge is to be successful financially, physically, and
emotionally, as a result being totally satisfied.

Setting up objectives or goals, in both your personal and
business life, is as important as eating or sleeping. Without
visions, dreams, and objectives directing your life, you will miss
much of your potential for experiencing the positive emotions of
excitement, being alive, enthusiasm, joy, and even happiness.
You can end up living from problem to problem instead of from
opportunity to opportunity.

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I am too shy. I am too shy. I am too shy. I am too shy.

I am not as attractive as most guys. I am not as attractive as most guys. I am not as attractive as most guys. I am not as attractive as most guys.

I do not bother so that I will not be disappointed. I do not bother so that I will not be disappointed. I do not bother so that I will not be disappointed. I do not bother so that I will not be disappointed.

I really do not know what to do or how. I really do not know what to do or how. I really do not know what to do or how. I really do not know what to do or how.

I do not want to be rejected. I do not want to be rejected. I do not want to be rejected. I do not want to be rejected.

I set goals for meeting women b I set goals for meeting women b I set goals for meeting women b I set goals for meeting women but they just do not seem to work or happen. ut they just do not seem to work or happen. ut they just do not seem to work or happen. ut they just do not seem to work or happen.

These are all crap.

Excuses do not produce results. Wishing or pretending that it
should be different will not make it so. To set an objective is to
navigate your future and move toward a destination.

Once you do follow your objectives, remember that you move at
a greater velocity; you may encounter in a month (30 days) the
same number of challenges it would have taken you a year (365
days) to encounter otherwise. You are not facing additional
obstacles; you are just facing the same obstacles at a faster
pace. You do have the choice to slow down. Enlist support
enthusiastically to get the job done. For example, if it took you
ten (10) years to meet your goals, you may encounter ten (10)
obstacles in those ten (10) years. You could reach your goal in
three (3) years but still have those same ten (10) obstacles in that
time frame. Do you follow so far?

The word try, as I have said, is lazy, but giving your best is
what counts. Even if you do not win, you did your best...you
didn't try your best. Try is a cop-out, an excuse.

I have received both external and internal validation.

Now is this truly important to me? Now is this truly important to me? Now is this truly important to me? Now is this truly important to me?

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Not really, but it still feels great. Plus, it's always beautiful to
hear sincere compliments. What is even more wonderful is that I
do not require hearing it to be appreciated.

Why? Why? Why? Why?

Because my source of self-esteem is inside myself.

Does being around lots of people most of the time energize you more? Does being around lots of people most of the time energize you more? Does being around lots of people most of the time energize you more? Does being around lots of people most of the time energize you more?

Or:

Are you more comfortable in small group Are you more comfortable in small group Are you more comfortable in small group Are you more comfortable in small groups, talking one s, talking one s, talking one s, talking one- -- -on on on on- -- -one one one one (1 (1 (1 (1- -- -1) 1) 1) 1) ? ?? ?

Or maybe:

You prefer being alone? You prefer being alone? You prefer being alone? You prefer being alone?

You can see what a profound impact this preference can have
upon your choice in women. You must see this kind of
information. You notice how you make decisions, if you live in a
more structured way or prefer a more spontaneous way. Working
to find the best female for you without taking these preferences
into account is like looking for a tiny island in the vast ocean
without a chart. With hard work, you might get there, but you
might not! So do not settle for second (2nd) best.

I Defensiveness

I was born in 1962, on France's Independence Day. Most people,
when they get older, begin to protect themselves against painful
experiences by closing themselves off. I agree with protecting
myself, but not to the point of extremity. The price for this is so
high that it may make me grow rigid, physically as well as
mentally. I prefer to stay youthful and adventurous and party
with groups in their twenties (20s) and thirties (30s).

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My children are young, born no later, than 1996. They always tell
me and my associates:

Daddy will always be a kid; he will never grow up. Daddy will always be a kid; he will never grow up. Daddy will always be a kid; he will never grow up. Daddy will always be a kid; he will never grow up.

They see me as fun. I do not take things too seriously, and I
enjoy life. All my associates that party with me will agree with
me on this.

The older I become, the harder life becomes; yet people ask me:

I do not know how you stay so strong, so positive, how you now laugh and I do not know how you stay so strong, so positive, how you now laugh and I do not know how you stay so strong, so positive, how you now laugh and I do not know how you stay so strong, so positive, how you now laugh and
smile more, and stay calmer when things around you have fallen to their smile more, and stay calmer when things around you have fallen to their smile more, and stay calmer when things around you have fallen to their smile more, and stay calmer when things around you have fallen to their
lowest? lowest? lowest? lowest?

My answer to them is:

The lo The lo The lo The lower I fall, the stronger I shall be, and I'll get back up again. It is all wer I fall, the stronger I shall be, and I'll get back up again. It is all wer I fall, the stronger I shall be, and I'll get back up again. It is all wer I fall, the stronger I shall be, and I'll get back up again. It is all
positive thinking like a child. positive thinking like a child. positive thinking like a child. positive thinking like a child.

I am still a child. In addition, children are by nature unprotected
and open to experience, and this receptivity is extremely
attractive. In the presence of my children, I have become less
rigid lately, infected with their openness. Besides loving them
with all my heart, that is one (1) reason why I want to be around
them.

I have circumvented the self-protective process, retaining the
playful, receptive Spirit of a child. I manifest this Spirit physically.
I am graceful, and because of this, I am aging less rapidly than
others are at my age.

I am not a defensive person, for defensiveness is deadly when a
female turns you down. You are showing that you have no
control, as well as giving your power, self-esteem and confidence
away.

Learn to not take it personally by making comments like:

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It is your loss, baby! It is your loss, baby! It is your loss, baby! It is your loss, baby!

Take it more like:

I understand, and I do not take your rejection to heart, and I get that I understand, and I do not take your rejection to heart, and I get that I understand, and I do not take your rejection to heart, and I get that I understand, and I do not take your rejection to heart, and I get that you put you put you put you put
me on your list of heart breakers. So, give me a chance or not...it is up to you. me on your list of heart breakers. So, give me a chance or not...it is up to you. me on your list of heart breakers. So, give me a chance or not...it is up to you. me on your list of heart breakers. So, give me a chance or not...it is up to you.

I say this to myself, or aloud to her.

If you want to seduce a female, do not get defensive. If you act
defensive you will bring out defensiveness in them. As I wrote
before, I lower the inhibition of my target. It is very important to
learn to not react defensively.

Bend instead of resist. Bend instead of resist. Bend instead of resist. Bend instead of resist.

Be open to influence from them. Be open to influence from them. Be open to influence from them. Be open to influence from them.

These women will more easily fall under your spell. Find a way of
playing on their unconscious minds by making them react in a
way they can neither understand nor control. I found for myself
being powerful or playing up my weakness...acting as a child in
an adult body works well with me.

You often mistakenly believe that what makes women want you
are physical looks. Not true.

By showing you are not worried about being turned down, you
produce an effect on her. She might be hesitant or worried, but
when she is confronted with someone so sure and natural, she
will be caught up in the mood. This all has to do with rooting out
the fear and awkwardness that you may have built up over the
years. If she resists, it is her way of testing you. Moreover if you
show any awkwardness or hesitation, you not only will fail her
test, but you will risk infecting her with your doubts. Do not
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B Know- -- -How

I have learned from my own experience as well as from others
that to show too much desire for attention is to signal your
insecurity. This will often drive people away from you. Play it too
cold or disinterested, on the other hand, and no one (1) will
bother coming near you. The ploy is to combine the two (2)
attitudes at the same moment.

I personally have a reputation for a particular quality,
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immediately comes to mind when people see me. It would be
better to hold their attention by suggesting that behind your
reputation there is some other quality that is lying lurking.

Some see me as having a dark and sinful reputation, while others
see me in the opposite way. Some even see me as a threat. What
has driven women wild, though, is that behind my somewhat cold
and disdainful exterior, they sense that I am actually quite
romantic, even Spiritual...with my melancholic air and occasional
kind deeds.

Transfixed and confused, many women believed that they could
be the one (1) to lead me back to goodness, to make me a
faithful lover. Once she is entertained by such a thought, she is
completely under my spell. It is not difficult to create such a
seductive effect. My ex-girlfriend Jezebel was bi-sexual and we
shared each other, but even she had no clue about all the love
affairs that Ive had. As a result, I was close to leaving her twice
(2x) for other women. However, I stayed because of loyalties, and
because my children
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loved her.

Life is too short, and it should not be wasted on seducing or
pursuing the wrong women. Your choice of females is critical; it is
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else that follows. The perfect woman does not necessarily have a
certain facial look, the same taste in music, similar goals in life,
or belong to the same age group. The perfect women will stir you
in a way that cannot be explained in words, and whose effect on
you has nothing to do with superficialities. She may have a
quality that you yourself lack.

There may be a little bit of tension in the beginning. She may
fear you a little, maybe even slightly dislike you. Such tension is
full of erotic potential and will make things much livelier. Be more
creative in choosing your quarry and you will be rewarded with a
more exciting seduction.

Test her first (1st) to see that she is open to your influence. Once
you feel that she is also vulnerable to you, then the hunting can
begin. Do not undervalue yourself by accepting second (2nd) best.

I have been pursuing and seducing women most of my life. Some
were open to my influence in subtle ways, while others were
impervious to my charms. I still like the odds.

You cannot seduce everyone, but you can recognize those you
can seduce by how they respond to you, or by watching how they
respond to others.

Dont pay so much attention to her conscious responses. Instead,
pay closer attention to her conscious control: blushing, an
involuntary mirroring of some gesture of yours, an unusual
shyness, even perhaps a flash of anger or resentment. All this
shows you that you are having an effect on her, and that she is
open to your influence.

Never rush into the waiting arms of the first (1st) female who
seems to like you, for that shows insecurity on your part. Again,
do not undervalue yourself by accepting second (2nd) best.

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I am also known as a sexual tease, an expert at arousing desire
though a provocative appearance or an alluring attitude. I have
the ability to trap a woman emotionally and keep her in my
clutches long after that first (1st) titillation
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of desire.

My success may seem somewhat odd, since I may come off as
cold and distant. Should you ever get to know me, you will sense
my inner core of detachment and self-love. It may seem logical
that once you become aware of a quality you would see through
me and lose interest. However, more often you will see the
opposite.

With Jezebel it was fun to chase her, but near the end I lost
myself, and as a result became dependent on her. She, on the
other hand, grew cloying, and I became claustrophobic around
her.

It signaled weakness and neediness on my part: an unseductive
combination. This was my first (1st) and last mistake, thinking
that my persistent presence would reassure.

She became me; as a result, I became her. Her withdrawal,
coldness, and frequent absence kept me off balance, surprised,
intrigued. Her withdrawal made her mysterious; moreover, I built
her up in my imagination.

This distance engaged my emotions further. Instead of making
me angry, it made me insecure. She no longer liked me, and I
had lost her interest. She was nervous around me, yet at the
same time, when I would ask her if we should end it between us,
she would not accept it, and would seduce me sexually. I became
weak.

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A pleasurably intense stimulation of the feelings.
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You all carry within yourselves an image of the ideal type of
woman you yearn to meet and love. Most often, your type is a
composite of bits and pieces of different women from your past,
along with characters from movies or books. These are
unconscious, and hard to verbalize.

When you were in adolescence, you looked very hard for this
ideal type, but later changed. Your first (1st) real love had most of
the traits that you wanted. You have to play a role of a therapist,
get her to open up about her past, particularly her former lovers,
and most particularly her first (1st) love.

Pay attention to any expressions of disappointment, how this or
that person did not give her what she wanted. This will help you
in seeing if you truly match or should move on. In addition, for
her too it will help in the end. Nevertheless, whatever you do, do
not talk about her sexual escapades. That is none of your
business.

You must also change your focus and begin to fully think about
all the things that are wonderful about you. Look for the positive
in you. As you focus on those positive things, your secret Spirit
from whatever belief you may have will help show you more
great things about you.

You attract what you think about. All you have to do is begin with
one (1) prolonged thought of something good about you, and
your Spirit, which is connected with the Universe's energy, will
respond by giving you more like thoughts.
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Always look for the
good things about yourself. Seek, Ask, Believe and you shall Find
as well as Receive it!

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people they have befriended.
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In my personal book, these
kinds of guys are slime balls; nevertheless, they get stuck with
that female they chased, when all they wanted was to have fun.
In other words, What goes around comes around.

A guy like this needs to plan and calculate how and when to
seduce, but if she suspects that he has ulterior motives, she will
grow defensive.

If he seems to be in control, he will inspire fear instead of desire.
He will do it in an artful manner. He will find a way around her
boyfriend/husband, or whatever obstacle is in his way. It is
exhausting work. However, by nature he has the advantage of an
uncontrollable libido. When he pursues her, he really is aglow
with desire. She senses this and as a result is inflamed, even
despite herself.

How can she imagine that he is a heartless seducer who How can she imagine that he is a heartless seducer who How can she imagine that he is a heartless seducer who How can she imagine that he is a heartless seducer who will abandon her when will abandon her when will abandon her when will abandon her when
he so ardently braves all dangers and obstacles to get her? he so ardently braves all dangers and obstacles to get her? he so ardently braves all dangers and obstacles to get her? he so ardently braves all dangers and obstacles to get her?

In the end, even if she is aware, it does not matter anymore. You
just give her up, and let him know he only has the leftovers. And
if he breaks her heart, only then will he really deal with you, not
before. This will put him in the checkmate position, not the other
way around.

All women around you can potentially be seduced, but first (1st)
you must know what type of women you are dealing with.

They are categorized by what they feel they are missing in their
lives:

Adventure Adventure Adventure Adventure

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Romance Romance Romance Romance

A Naughty Experience A Naughty Experience A Naughty Experience A Naughty Experience

Mental or Physical Stimulation Mental or Physical Stimulation Mental or Physical Stimulation Mental or Physical Stimulation

Etc.

Once you identify her type, you have the necessary ingredients
for a seduction; you will be the one (1) to give her what she lacks
and cannot get on her own. In studying those that have
potential, you learn to see the reality behind their appearance.

A timid woman may yearn to play the star; a prude may long for
a transgressive thrill, or all of it.

When your emotions are engaged, you often have trouble seeing
things as they are. Feelings of love cloud your vision, coloring
events to coincide with your desires. To make her believe in the
illusions you create, you must feed her emotions, over which she
has least control.

Often the best way to do this is to ascertain her unsatisfied
desires, her wishes crying out for fulfillment. She may want
adventure, and if you can validate this wish, she becomes
emotional and irrational, almost to the point of hallucination.
Envelop them slowly in your illusion.

On meeting a woman, you must study her first (1st) and go along
with her moods. Find out what is missing in her life and provide
it.

Some want you to sacrifice your time and comfort for them. Have
serious conversation. Be a man of breeding and generosity who
treats her like a lady.

Some have a life that is too easy. For them to truly feel alive,
they have to sin. She feels she is missing a man that can torment
her and make her suffer.
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F Suspicion

I used to be more of a control freak, but I am a conqueror. I am
into sexy, petite,
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innocent-looking young women that are very
curious, and have little experience of the world. Most people see
them as sweet, but I personally know this is not true.

I tend to be emotional, yet my emotion only comes in outbursts,
when pushed. I love a good chase; I am not into easy prey. I do
have an intimidating, aggressive energy around me.

I used to be drawn to innocent-looking young women who
seemed vulnerable, sad or depressed. It was quite seductive to
me, personally.

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is perhaps the most seductive tactic.
It gives her the feeling that she is seducing you. The fact that
you are indulging her, imitating her, and entering her Spirit
suggests that you are under her spell. You are not a danger for
her to be wary of, but someone compliant and unthreatening.

The attention you are paying her is intoxicating, since you are
mirroring her; everything she sees and hears from you reflects
her own ego and tastes. This is a boost to her vanity.

All this set up of the maneuver will turn it around. Once her
defenses are down, she will be open to your subtle influence.
Soon you will begin to take over, and without even noticing the
shift, she will find herself entering your Spirit.

In social environments, you like to wear masks and keep your
defenses up. It is embarrassing, after all, to reveal ones true
feelings. I have found my own way to lower this resistance.



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Having a small trim figure.
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Knowing how they think like a profiler. You make her believe she has the upper hand. Meaning
you are entering her mind and soul.
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Most of the time, you struggle to maintain security and a sense of
balance in your lives. If you were always uprooting yourself in
pursuit of every new person or fantasy that passes you by, you
could not survive the daily grind. You usually win the struggle,
but it does not come easily.

The world is full of temptation. You read about people who have
more than you do, about adventures others are having, about
people who have found wealth and happiness. I have learned to
be happy for them, and bring their positive energy to me. Being
happy for them keeps me happy and positive.
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Temptation is strong, so if you want to get her, focus on her
weakness. Understand everyone has a principal weakness. Find
what makes her insecure, what she lacks in her life, and with
this, you hold the key to tempt her. Her weakness may be:


Boredom Boredom Boredom Boredom

G GG Greed reed reed reed

Vanity Vanity Vanity Vanity


Some Deeply Repressed Desire Some Deeply Repressed Desire Some Deeply Repressed Desire Some Deeply Repressed Desire

A Hunger for the Forbidden Fruit A Hunger for the Forbidden Fruit A Hunger for the Forbidden Fruit A Hunger for the Forbidden Fruit

Now you are asking:

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She will signal it in little details that elude her conscious control:
her style of clothing, an offhand comment. Her past, her
romances will be littered with clues. With this, you can start to
give her a potent temptation, tailored to her weakness, and you
can make the hope of pleasure that you stir in her figure more
prominently than the doubts and anxieties that accompany it.

Seduction is a game of reducing suspicion and resistance. The
clever way to do this is to make her feel stronger, more in control
of things.

Suspicion usually comes out of insecurity. If she feels superior
and secure in your presence, she is unlikely to doubt your
motives. You are too weak, too emotional, to be up to something.
Make her feel the power she has over you; it is flattering to her.

Confess to anything bad you did or were planning to do. Honesty
is more important than virtue, and one (1) honest gesture will
blind her to many deceitful acts.

Create an impression of weakness: physical, mental, and
emotional. Strength and confidence can be frightening. Make
your weakness a comfort, and play the victim of her power over
you, of circumstance, of life in general. This is the best way to
cover your tracks.

The more obstacles you overcome, of course, the greater the
pleasure that awaits you. Never worry about looking like a fool if
you made a mistake, and never appear discouraged.

Your body needs to have a glow of desire for her. She should
read it in your eyes, in your voice, in your bodys reaction.

Familiarity destroys, but this does not happen until later in your
relationship. By a few months, she begins to discover that you
are not what she thought. If she sees you too often, you give her
nothing to feed on, and another may catch her attention.

You have to occupy her mind, and keep her guessing. Learn to
give her what she needs and not what you want, and she will
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automatically give you what you require without you seeming
selfish.

You must change your focus and begin to think about all the
things that are wonderful about you. Look for the positives in
you. As you focus on these things, you will see more great things
about you. You will attract what you think about. All you have to
do is begin with one (1) prolonged thought of something good
about you, and you will give yourself more like thoughts. Look for
the good things about yourself.
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Great works are performed, not by strength, but by perseverance. -Samuel Johnson

any relationships get destroyed; emotions run out of
control and you attempt to do more of what did not work in
the first (1st) place, using what you were taught about life
and how it should work instead of doing what works.

You did not learn how to use the right tools, techniques, and
strategies necessary for effectively dealing with life from your
parents, friends, teachers, or anyone else, because unfortunately
they did not know how to use them, either.

It is not that they were selfish or not let you in on their secrets.
They just plain did not know. You had to learn the hard way,
from your own experience.

You can cut your learning curve by ninety (90%) percent when
you learn from both the positive and negative experiences of
others so that you do not have to repeat their mistakes and
travel all of the dead end roads yourself.

Often, you are told that experience is the best teacher. Do you
agree?

To me, personally, that is a myth. Learning from your own
experience requires a conscious choice. Learning from your own
experience is generally the most time consuming and, frankly,
painful way to learn. Do you follow?

But by learning from the experience of others, time and pain can
be eliminated.

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Learn to mimic the actions of those you know or hear about who
continuously produce success and constantly overcome adversity.

Avoid the actions of those who seem to produce and perpetuate
problems.

Remember, if you know people that are always getting tickets for
speeding or running stop signs, then it does not take much to
figure out that the only way to beat the system is for you not to
speed, and to stop at the stop sign. Thus you avoid the mistakes
they made.

If you are in a relationship and you have broken up over three (3)
times, or if she had you arrested even once (1), and you still get
back together with her, does this not tell you something? So much for
learning from your own experience...you could have saved your
time by doing something more positive.

Too many people spend more time just dreaming about living
than they spend living out their dreams.

If I were to ask you to make a list of all your dreams and
objectives, as well as give you the tools to propel yourself toward
achieving them twice (2-X) as fast and with twice (2-X) the level of
confidence and happiness...

Would you be open to some powerful, positive changes? Would you be open to some powerful, positive changes? Would you be open to some powerful, positive changes? Would you be open to some powerful, positive changes?

Making change is the only way to accelerate your ability to
accomplish what you want in life.

If you have dreams, I can help you by showing you how to make
them come true, beginning from where you are right now.

I cannot supply your dreams, but I know all the changes you will
have to make in your life to reach them in the minimum amount
of time.

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Remember that some of you may feel stuck where you are, but
you do have the power to change that. Keep your goals firmly in
mind.

Those of you that are negative, please stop reading and stay with
your negative ways. Those of you who want to change, continue
reading.

I have helped you so far, and shall continue to help you, by
enabling you to:

Double your personal effectiveness.

Make things happen instead of waiting for things to happen.

Control your own mind instead of others controlling it.

Control your emotions instead of allowing your emotions to control
you.

Create happiness, joy, and the sense of being alive instead of
waiting or wishing for them to happen.

Eliminate fear, guilt and worry instead of allowing these emotions to
cripple you.

Build positive, powerful relationships instead of having to work at it.

Believe me, this is all possible, here is an example of how it
works:

First (1
st
):

What are your dreams? What are your dreams? What are your dreams? What are your dreams?

What are your objectives? What are your objectives? What are your objectives? What are your objectives?

Do you have a strategy for your plans? Do you have a strategy for your plans? Do you have a strategy for your plans? Do you have a strategy for your plans?

Will you practice and build a ha Will you practice and build a ha Will you practice and build a ha Will you practice and build a habit if you can see a result? bit if you can see a result? bit if you can see a result? bit if you can see a result?
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Will you help others follow these steps with your help now? Will you help others follow these steps with your help now? Will you help others follow these steps with your help now? Will you help others follow these steps with your help now?

You are required to choose the results you want in the forms of Dreams and You are required to choose the results you want in the forms of Dreams and You are required to choose the results you want in the forms of Dreams and You are required to choose the results you want in the forms of Dreams and
Objectives. Objectives. Objectives. Objectives.

Build and plan a Strategy, because I have the tools and techniques necessary Build and plan a Strategy, because I have the tools and techniques necessary Build and plan a Strategy, because I have the tools and techniques necessary Build and plan a Strategy, because I have the tools and techniques necessary to to to to
achieve your dreams and objectives in the minimum amount of time if you take achieve your dreams and objectives in the minimum amount of time if you take achieve your dreams and objectives in the minimum amount of time if you take achieve your dreams and objectives in the minimum amount of time if you take
it seriously. it seriously. it seriously. it seriously.

Practice consciously, and continuously apply these strategies at every Practice consciously, and continuously apply these strategies at every Practice consciously, and continuously apply these strategies at every Practice consciously, and continuously apply these strategies at every
opportunity. opportunity. opportunity. opportunity.

With practice, these strategies become new Habits that produce new skills an With practice, these strategies become new Habits that produce new skills an With practice, these strategies become new Habits that produce new skills an With practice, these strategies become new Habits that produce new skills and d d d
abilities. abilities. abilities. abilities.

With these new skills and abilities, you will experience maximum effectiveness With these new skills and abilities, you will experience maximum effectiveness With these new skills and abilities, you will experience maximum effectiveness With these new skills and abilities, you will experience maximum effectiveness
in achieving the Results you have chosen. in achieving the Results you have chosen. in achieving the Results you have chosen. in achieving the Results you have chosen.

Help others to do the same. Help me help you! Help others to do the same. Help me help you! Help others to do the same. Help me help you! Help others to do the same. Help me help you!

This is an easy, practical, and powerful systematic process. I can
guarantee the results only if you truly apply yourself to it.

I use the power of visualization and every night I keep telling
myself:

I am living in a huge house. I am living in a huge house. I am living in a huge house. I am living in a huge house.

I have the most beautiful women in my life, and they adore me. I have the most beautiful women in my life, and they adore me. I have the most beautiful women in my life, and they adore me. I have the most beautiful women in my life, and they adore me.

Alternatively, whatever wish I want. I am using positive thinking,
and aligning myself with the Universe.
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I Humor With Empathy

If you are talking to a female that seems down, do not act on
sympathy, for it can come across as pity, and nobody wants or
likes that.

Empathy is different, because you are letting your feelings and
emotions flow with hers and truly identify with her mood and
disposition.

Nothing attracts women as effectively as a sense of humor; even
the most hostile female can be won over with the use of good
humor.

Do not attempt to remember jokes; instead, learn what makes
women laugh. It is not hard, because there are only five (5)
things that make women laugh.

Exaggeration and its flip side, Understatement.

A Pun, which describes any occasion that you use a word out of
context, or substitute a word that is so similar in sound that it is
almost indistinguishable.

Put-Downs, which are much funnier when the joke is putting yourself
down.

Silliness, which can be very effective in defusing a tense situation.

Surprise, which leads us down one path, and then quickly takes us
one hundred and eighty degrees (180) in the opposite direction.

The punch line or word must come as close to the end of the joke
as possible. All good humor involves some cleverness, some
display of intelligence.

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Get a joke book that lists hundreds (100s) of thousands (1,000s) of
jokes, and go though it randomly, quickly identifying whether the
joke is exaggeration, a pun, a put down, silliness, or surprise.

Here are three (3) jokes, and you tell me which of the five (5) it
belongs with.

There was a guy in a bar one night that got really drunk...I mean
really, really, really drunk. When the bar closed, he got up to go
home.

As he stumbled out the door, he saw a Nun walking on the sidewalk.
Therefore, he stumbled over to the Nun and punched her in the
face. The Nun was really surprised, but before she could do or say
anything, he punched her again.

This time, she fell down and he stumbled over to her and kicked her
in the side, then he picked her up and threw her into a wall. By this
time, the Nun was pretty weak and could not move very much.

So then, he stumbled over to her, put his face right next to hers and
said... Not very freaking' strong tonight, are you Batman!"

A grasshopper walks into a bar. The bartender says, "Hey, we have
a drink named after you." The grasshopper says, "You have a drink
named Steve?"

In a Montral hospital, a man had made several attempts to get into
the men's restroom, but it had always been occupied. A nurse
noticed his predicament.

Sir, she said, "You may use the ladies room if you promise not to
touch any of the buttons on the wall."

He did what he had to, and as he sat there, he noticed the buttons
he had promised not to touch.

Letters identified each button: WW, WA, PP, and a red one labeled
ATR.

Who would know if he touched them?
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He could not resist... He pushed WW warm water was sprayed
gently upon his bottom.

What a nice feeling, he thought. Men's restrooms do not have nice
things like this.

Anticipating greater pleasure, he pushed the WA button. Warm Air
replaced the warm water, gently drying his underside.

When this stopped, he pushed the PP button. A large Powder Puff
caressed his bottom adding a fragile scent of spring flowers to this
unbelievable pleasure...the ladies restroom was more than a
restroom, it was tender, loving pleasure.

When the powder puff done, he could not wait to push the ATR
button, which he knew would be supreme ecstasy.

Next thing he knew he opened his eyes, he was in a hospital bed,
and a nurse was staring down at him.

"What happened?" he exclaimed. The last thing I remember was
pushing the ATR button.

"The button ATR is an Automatic Tampon Remover. Your penis is
under your pillow."

MEN NEVER LISTEN

B What Impact is Greater: :: :

The line between confidence and arrogance may be fine, but it is
definite.

Confidence is when you are sure you can succeed.

Cockiness, over-confidence, and arrogance are when you put
someone else down in order to achieve your goal.

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Inspire others to come up with solutions. You must act as a Life-
Coach and leader so you will have credibility.

Some people may seem to be doing well in life on the outside,
but you have no clue what is going on the inside.

You should always give to those that do not have. So do not ask
for help if you do not give back in return. Do not use the excuse
that you have nothing to give when you have a lot to offer; one
(1) way would be to teach them my technique. Another example
is saving a life. Not everything has to do with money. Teach
someone to have hope, stay positive and to believe in others,
etc.

You do have an impact based on how you look as well as act. You
can have a positive impact or a negative impact; it is all your
choice.

My purpose in life is not my own, but serves a Higher Power than
I, and whatever I own will not decay like I will, but will be passed
on for a greater good.

The most amazing time when you will have your most important
thoughts is while you are sleeping between 3:30 a.m. and 5:00
a.m. So, wake up around those times and write your thoughts in
that moment, and then go right back to sleep.
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Reflect very carefully before you make a decision, be careful how
you walk, and be wise.

RULES

Never give the keys to your place to any women. Never give the keys to your place to any women. Never give the keys to your place to any women. Never give the keys to your place to any women.

Be confid Be confid Be confid Be confident, and end it if you feel your relationship is wrong. ent, and end it if you feel your relationship is wrong. ent, and end it if you feel your relationship is wrong. ent, and end it if you feel your relationship is wrong.



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Do not get serious with the first Do not get serious with the first Do not get serious with the first Do not get serious with the first (1st) (1st) (1st) (1st) pretty face you see that likes you. pretty face you see that likes you. pretty face you see that likes you. pretty face you see that likes you.

Those with whom I have established strong, honest, friendly
relationships do not hesitate to share information about ways and
means to better my financial position, because it always proves
to be beneficial for all of us in the end.

F Its a Game

Tell me, what does wisdom mean to you? Tell me, what does wisdom mean to you? Tell me, what does wisdom mean to you? Tell me, what does wisdom mean to you?

It is not something you can acquire from a book. A person with
true wisdom does not have the same fears that others have.
They act with integrity from their own values; they are willing to
stick to those values, no matter what the consequences. They
truly live rather than exist.

For me, life is a game, which is why I dont get all stressed out.
Everything I do, every achievement, every relationship, as well
as every thought is all part of a game.
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I see life as if I am
playing a board game with my children. I feel excited and
passionate about the game, while enjoying my childrens
involvement. I play with an open heart, knowing full well that I
can and will walk away from the game without any consequence.
There is no reality associated with it, so theres no stress,
although theres a lot of fun as well as even a bit of tension.

Wisdom is looking at life in a different manner, without stress.

Ive learned that you should talk and negotiate, and leave the
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reconciliation. If you have the mind to fight first (1st), you have
broken your connection with the Universe.
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I Commit To Yourself

What takes priority, the means, or the ends? What takes priority, the means, or the ends? What takes priority, the means, or the ends? What takes priority, the means, or the ends?

What drives your life: your physical requirements, or your Spiritual What drives your life: your physical requirements, or your Spiritual What drives your life: your physical requirements, or your Spiritual What drives your life: your physical requirements, or your Spiritual
requirements? requirements? requirements? requirements?

When you finally write down your dreams and goals. It is
essential for you to look at that list you wrote and paste it on
your wall next to your mirror. Every morning when you wake up,
and every night before you go to bed, you will see it. That way,
your subconscious will absorb it entirely and make it an
automatic response.

It is easy to forget what you wrote and committed yourself to
unless you fully practice by taking it seriously and gripping what
you wrote from the heart, for the heart has a consciousness with
memories close to the mind.

Do not go around pleasing others un Do not go around pleasing others un Do not go around pleasing others un Do not go around pleasing others until you please yourself first til you please yourself first til you please yourself first til you please yourself first (1st) (1st) (1st) (1st), for if you , for if you , for if you , for if you
cannot please yourself, how will you truly be able to please others? cannot please yourself, how will you truly be able to please others? cannot please yourself, how will you truly be able to please others? cannot please yourself, how will you truly be able to please others?

Therefore, if you love yourself first (1st), you can truly love others.
If you put yourself first (1st), you can help others. Remember, I
am not writing about being selfish and self-absorbed, but about
being selfless. So invest in yourself first (1st).

You must create a life over a living. Ask yourself:

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The more you take time to receive knowledge about the direction
you are taking, the longer you are in reaching your goal. This
way you can get the life you deserve and have earned.

So are you living the life you want? So are you living the life you want? So are you living the life you want? So are you living the life you want?

Or:

Are you living the life someone else wants you to have? Are you living the life someone else wants you to have? Are you living the life someone else wants you to have? Are you living the life someone else wants you to have?

Only you can choose the life you want to live.

How and what you attract in and from life has a lot to do with
how you feel about yourself. Do you not agree? If you do not like
yourself, you bring to yourself all that is wrong and bad. You
make yourself truly believe you are not worth it. You give up and
quit, so that you wont have to work for it. You defeat yourself
way before you are truly defeated, and even justify it.

Part of your growth is making mistakes, as well as learning from
other people's mistakes, so you can learn to be a better person.
Not because you failed. On the contrary because you found
another way that does not work for you. The question you should
ask yourself is:

Am I going to take this knowledge and put it into practice? Am I going to take this knowledge and put it into practice? Am I going to take this knowledge and put it into practice? Am I going to take this knowledge and put it into practice?

Will I take my own mistakes as Will I take my own mistakes as Will I take my own mistakes as Will I take my own mistakes as me being not worth the effort? me being not worth the effort? me being not worth the effort? me being not worth the effort?

I personally feel wealthy in knowledge and wisdom, for I learn
from my own as well as from others' mistakes (and successes) and
grow from there.

If you know how to read and dont find the time to pick up a
book, you are worse off then someone who doesnt know how to
read. If you dont study your history and the worlds history,
history will repeat itself because you didnt make the time to
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absorb the wisdom that could prevent another avalanche from
occurring.

Write down every excuse you have on paper, and next to each
excuse, write the reasons why your excuses dont add up. You
shall find that your excuses do not even exist.

Do not expect too much of yourself at once. Take baby steps, for
we all work at our own pace.


















No matter what you do, what you face, or what is in your way,
you will be alright in the end. Always get right back up on your
feet, and never ever quit. Go forward, go left or right, just dont
go back.

V Be Selective

On my own, I do well in picking up beautiful women, but I am
very, very selective about the women I chose. However, when I
am with a friend, it's more for sport and fun. I love the challenge
you get on a dare when I compete.
Excuses Reasons
1)

2)

3)

4)

5)

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Working together with your friend as a team is also a fun sport.
What is even better is when jealous, cocky strangers challenge
me, and then lose their bet (money). That is how much I believe in
myself and the confidence I have in myself.

You see, I may be average in the looks and body department, but
when I want to, I can build an illusion for whomever I chose that
I am their dream man. Look for example at the HBO series The
Sopranos. If you look at the main character, Tony Soprano,
played by James J. Gandolfini, Jr., he looks like a fat, unattractive
man that is losing his hair.

However, once you watch the show a few times and get to know
his character, you feel the charisma he generates. Then you can
finally understand why sexy, hot, beautiful women want him.

It has nothing to do with him having lots of money, but a lot to
do with his powerful energy of being an alpha male. He sends out
the vibe that he loves women, not that he lusts over them.

Most guys can pick up women, but only a selective few know how
to pick the cream of the crop. I am one (1) of those guys that are
into women that look like supermodels: very petite, round tush,
long legs and hair, and well manicured. Therefore, the best way
to learn is to follow what I have written.

Find a partner you can study with. Take notes together on what
you are learning from me and Seduction-Coaches, and then
challenge each other mentally and physically.

You can then discuss with each other the techniques that work
for you and which work for him. You can coach each other,
celebrate both your successes, and get over all your
disappointments.

Here is one (1) story that will stay with me forever. I was around
twenty (20) years old and went to a beach in Plattsburg, New
York.

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I saw this very handsome surfer looking guy: in shape, blond
hair, blue eyes. I introduced myself and found out he lived in the
same city as me.

I approached him and bluntly complimented him on being a very
hot looking male, and he moved away from me, thinking I was
gay.

I made it very clear that I was not gay whatsoever, but that I felt
that we should get to know each other and become friends, and
that with his looks and my charisma, women would fall under our
spell.

That was my game plan all along.

He became one (1) of my best friends. His name is Danny, and he
and Roman Brave hung out with me for over ten (10) years
picking up women and doing business together. The three (3) of
us made a good team.

The thing about me is that Im not insecure and don't feel
threatened by other males in competition. I believe in building an
alliance with them. Those that don't want to be part of my
alliance feel jealous, and consider me a threat to their manhood.

Build a strategy, be determined and be persistent in choosing the
right teammate to join you. If you learn your skills well, you will
get women into bed. Once you learn the basics, the rest will be
easy; you will finally know what works for you. It will take lots of
practice and work; you must commit yourself to experimenting in
new ways, ways you would have never previously dreamed of.

V Making Sure

There are certain types of women whom I feel very strongly that
you should stay the hell away from. If you feel you should give
them a chance because you assume you are special, dream on,
for it will be your biggest mistake in the long run. Maybe not
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today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not in six (6) months, but in
a year (1) or two (2), thats when youll get the surprise you were
not expecting to get. Remember, I fairly warned you in advance,
so do not blind side yourself.

First (1st) thing you have to do is your homework on the person
that you are seriously interested in, by checking out their history
in whatever manner you can. Even hire a professional
investigator if you must, but do it without any emotion. Use only
logic.

The girls I am talking about are women with baggage. They are
the Emotional Criers, the 911-Callers, the Plastics, and the
Instigators.

These women somehow were physically abused and most likely
also sexually abused in their childhood, and yes, it is sad and
tragic.

If these kinds of women open up too quickly about their abused
pasts, this means she most likely has very weak sexual
boundaries. She is a red light for a serious relationship, but a
green light for a one (1) night stand. As a one (1) night stand,
you most likely will not have a problem.

Whatever you do, always listen to yourself, and trust your first
(1st) instincts, your intuition, and your gut, no matter what!

The Emotional Crier will slip and talk negatively about her exes, and
hyperventilates when she cries.

The 911-Caller has put her exes in jail, and convinces you to feel
sorry for her. She is traumatized, and eventually she will see you as
a perpetrator. There are three (3) sides to their stories: Hers, His,
and the Real Truth. See who is really unstable.

The Plastic is hot, sexy and very physically attractive, but she is
spoiled. She will use and manipulate you, and mostly focus on
herself, hate everyone, and be very negative.

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The Instigator is a girl that fights with everyone. She will get into
fights with other guys, and put you in a position that these other
guys will fight you instantly. The instigator is a troublemaker.

If you are not stable then these kinds of women are good for
you. But if you want a happy future, stick to confident, loyal,
stable women, for long-term relationships and even for short
term ones.

In a relationship, it is not just what someone willingly shares with
you that counts. You must also realize when external elements of
abuse or substance abuse are present in any way, and how they
change or alter the behavior of that person and cause them to
behave abnormally.

You tried desperately to help a lost addict, and all you got for the
time was real pain, and deception on every levelas well as
manipulation of every kind imaginable. You have since then
found out what it is and what it does to someone.

An addict does not know how to love; abuse is the only thing that
comes with it. Do not ever let anyone convince you otherwise. If
they will not end the addiction, end it with them, period.

Do not ever even think of going back and trying to recover
anything, break it clean. Your safety, peace of mind, and yourself
are the most important things to you. My philosophy on women is
treat them with all the respect and dignity they deserve.

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Chapter 12:
The PresenT
Is it not strange that we fear most that which never happens; that we destroy our initiatives by
fear of defeat; when in reality, defeat is a most useful tonic and should be accepted as such? -
Napoleon Hill

ur physical world is composed of only three (3) time zones:


The Past
The Present
The Future

In the Spiritual World, there is only the NOW. Thinking and
focusing on the past or future will render you ineffective when
you are in the present. You must understand and see that your
ability to be effective, to accomplish, make decisions, be happy,
and to have personal control of your life, lies only in the present
moment, and not in the past or future.
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Think about it. You want to talk to a hot beautiful woman you
just saw at a bus stop? You can only do it in the present, which is
NOW. Understand that your physical power is limited to the
NOW. You can wish that you had talked to her or asked her out
for a cup of coffee yesterday or last week. You can think about
asking her tomorrow or next week, but by then it could be too
late. Think hard about what I am saying here.

You have no physical power over your past. What you do not
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think and feel, and your attitude about past events...in the
present moment.

In the past, you might have given your power to others because
of the way you choose to think about them. If you choose to
react or respond to your past, you are letting your past control
your present. Learn to accept and move on.

To start with a clean slate you must dump the garbage of the
past that is holding on to you and take control of your life. What
may be gigantic and negative in your life to you might be small
for others. You would be surprised at what other people have
gone through that they do not even discuss. The past is no longer
real; your only reality is the present moment, NOW.

So take advantage of it and do not live in a negative but rather a
positive way.

Here are a few pointers:

To participate in community or charity events and/or contribute to a
worthy cause to impress women is great.

Thoughts are things. If you expect the best, you will surely get it.
Keep your mind trained on attaining your most spectacular dreams.

Constructive criticism can help you become perfect.

Ambitions can trigger selfish desires. You must find the extra drive
and determination to put your dreams into being.

Clear communication is a key. Clarify your positions. Clear
deadlines shall help you focus your energies better. Other guys will
be watching you and emulating your actions. Since you have more
influence over others, this is a good time to seek compromise. Even
if it seems that the world is out to get you, it is only a passing
mirage. Be tolerant of the mistakes of others and take a moment to
step back before making rash judgments. Remember that those who
fail to learn from the past are doomed to repeat it.

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You want to profit from your time and not waste it. I personally do
not have the time to spend six (6) hours on a card game per day. I
spend my time more productively by doing something that will help
others and me. If the game is for a worthy cause, then I make it a
positive experience.

I To Receive

You may see yourself by how others treat you, but then complain
that others do not treat you well. This is called self-fulfilling
prophecy, where you believe you are being taken advantage of
and then you are.

Your entire reality is based on an illusory sense of who you are,
which sabotages situations and sabotages how you integrate with
women and your relationships. You become who you think you
are deep down in your subconscious.

You should acknowledge the good that is already in your life.
Right now all you see is lack, and that is why you are frustrated
and angry most of the time.

So whatever you may think that the world is withholding from
you, you are withholding from the world, because you feel you
have nothing to offer.

Starting NOW, change how you see things. Desensitize yourself
to the world, and when you believe you are being taken
advantage of or that people are withholding something from you,
think with positive wave of appreciation, assistance, caring, love,
and praise, and continue to give to them.

Act as if you have it even if you do not, and it will come. Once
you give sincerely from your heart without truly expecting in
return, only then will you receive. You cannot receive what you
do not give from the heart. You have an abundance of everything
if you believe without any shadow of a doubt.

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The source of all abundance is not outside you, but is a part of
who you are. Stop and take a deep breath, slow down, and truly
see the fullness of life in every step. You do not have to own
anything to feel abundance, for once you believe, it will almost
certainly come to you. Ask, see, believe, and you shall receive.
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B The Fulfillment

Never let a woman endeavor to control you, nor should you try to
control women (or anyone else) just to make you feel alive and
happy. You must fully understand that no one (1) can make you
happy except yourself.

Once you fulfill your own deepest desires, only then can you
bring a healthy provision to others. I hope that your lover or
lovers shall learn from you to find their own path so that you can
finally exchange true love and joy with your mates...or just plain
open-relationships as friends with benefits.

Face that you cannot carry the strain of making the opposite sex
happy. This is something that most men and women have carried
for far, far too long, and it must stop. Most men, women, as well
as children will complain for most of their lives until they wake up
to see that there is truly nothing at all to complain about.

I have seen both men and women that dont bring anything to
their table at home (or believe they did), as well as those that have
brought more to the table than most. However their partners still
complain in both situations. It is an impossible life.

Stop carrying this strain of their unhappiness. Once your lover
finds out who they really are, as a result they will start to take
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happy. Otherwise only you, each of you individually, can make
yourselves happy. No one (1) else can. Do you follow me on this?

I believed for years that it was my job to make others happy and
theirs to make me happy, until I finally learned that, in reality, I
was an unfulfilled person who used others to bring myself things
that I secretly believed I could not get on my own. This finally
woke me up.

The answer is to first (1st) face yourself, your own happiness, get
in touch with who you truly are and what you truly feel, and
finally why you behave a certain way. Second (2nd) is to free
yourself from a sense of obligation to everyone, which includes:


Girlfriend/Boyfriend Girlfriend/Boyfriend Girlfriend/Boyfriend Girlfriend/Boyfriend

Wife/Husband Wife/Husband Wife/Husband Wife/Husband

Parents Parents Parents Parents

Children Children Children Children

Etc.

Hope you follow me on this!

If you let yourself be used by others, you will not only make
yourself unhappy but everyone else around you, too. It takes
great conviction as well as courage to do what I have written, yet
it is necessary, my readers.

Another point that is very important is that you never abandon
your friends because of a woman, no matter what. If you
separate with an ex, whether you have children with her or not,
do not abandon her because of another woman. One day when
you least expect it you will realize that your true friends and
your exes were important in staying in your life.

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The women that do not comprehend this are insecure. If you
cannot trust the person you are in a long-term relationship with,
then there is no relationship. You must understand that there is
no relationship without trust.

If you are not ready for a relationship at all and just love the
single lifestyle, but your date talks to you about marriage, be
very careful how you answer her on this subject. Whatever you
do, do not, and I mean do not tell her that you are not interested
in it and only want to have fun.

Answer her by letting her know that if the right woman does
come along you would seriously consider it. This is not a trick or
a lie, as you never know what the future will surprise you with. At
the same time, you have not made her a personal promise that
shes the right woman, but only a possibility of being the right
woman.
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Chapter 13:
WhaT is ReaL?
Our life is what our thoughts make it. -Marcus Aurelius

ife is not easy. It can be very difficult, in fact. That is
something I hope that you can all agree with. Once you
learn to accept thisonce you truly understand and accept
itthen life gets easier.

Why, you may ask? Why, you may ask? Why, you may ask? Why, you may ask?

It is all because once you accept the fact that life is hard and
difficult, it will no longer matter, for you will work to change it.
That is when life becomes easier.

Most of you do not want to see the Truth that life is hard. That is
why you fail to keep a relationship, job, or career.

You moan about your problems, your burdens, and your
difficulties as if life should be easy.

Some of you will even use the excuse that you have been cursed,
while others will say that negative waves have been put on them,
their family, their race, etc., while others are free of these
burdens. I should know about the moaning because I have done
my share. Yes, me.

Life is a series of problems and obstacles, if that is how you want
to see it. However:

Were you truly meant to moan about them? Were you truly meant to moan about them? Were you truly meant to moan about them? Were you truly meant to moan about them?

Or...

Were you truly meant to solve them? Were you truly meant to solve them? Were you truly meant to solve them? Were you truly meant to solve them?

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You must discipline yourself in dealing with this like any other
obstacle (problem). All you require is the basic set of tools needed
to solve lifes obstacles (problems), because without discipline you
cannot solve anything. With only some discipline, you can only
solve some obstacles (problems) but with total discipline, you can
solve all obstacles (problems).

Life is only painful if you let it control you instead of you
controlling it. You must confront it, head-on, with the process to
solve it.

In Chapter 7: On Daughters and Women, I briefly touched on
romantic love, so let us now talk more about falling in love.

When you fall in love, it is specifically a sex-linked, erotic
experience. Do you agree? You only fall in love when you are
consciously or unconsciously sexually motivated. Falling in love is
temporary, for no matter whom you fall in love with, eventually
you fall out of love if the relationship continues long enough.

This does not mean you no longer love the other person you
originally fell in love with, but rather, that the feeling of ecstatic
loving that originally characterized the experience of falling in
love passed. The honeymoon ends. It always ends. That bloom of
romance always fades.

That is why there are many more break-ups today than there
were forty (40) years ago. You jump from one (1) relationship into
another instead of working to save what you already have.

You convince yourself that you are out of love, or maybe in love
with another person instead of giving yourself room to be on your
own to really see if you no longer feel the same.

It is easier to break-up instead of staying, just as it is easier to
listen to others over yourself.

The experience of falling in love is not real, for you are confusing
lust with love. Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a
conscious choice.
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No matter how open or eager for it you may be, the experience
may still elude you. You are as likely to fall in love with someone
you obviously do not match with as you are with someone more
suitable.

Real love is a permanent, self-enlarging experience. Falling in
love is not.

Discipline and will can help control the experience, but it
cannot create it.

You can choose how to respond to the experience of falling in
love, but you cannot choose the experience itself. Falling in love
is not an extension of ones limits or boundaries; it is a partial
and temporary collapse of them.

Loyalty is very important; you must remember this no matter
what, or everything you have can fall apart.

Life is full of temptation, so if you meet someone else while still
in a relationship, and you find this person attractive, you can
confuse yourself with believing you are in love again.

Falling in love is effortless; lazy and undisciplined individuals will
fall in love as easily as energetic and dedicated ones. Once that
moment of falling love passes, and those boundaries slip back
into place, individuals may be disillusioned.

Falling in love is mostly to terminate our own loneliness. Falling
in love is a trick. A good relationship can only exist between two
(2) strong and independent people who have surpassed being in
love, but now who love each other and understand that
temptation is always out there. Love is a choice.

Honesty is the best policy. You live in a society that no longer
recognizes loyalty and faithfulness.

Most of you that are couples who do stay together have been
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If you as a couple do not have the ability to build up the positive
aspects of your relationship, you are lost and lonely as well as
depressed. The spark is gone. You do not feel the attraction. You
are no longer having sex together. Sometimes, it is a relationship
with another person that highlights the emptiness. Learn to
upgrade with your lover before someone does it for you.

You are incapable of loving another unless you first (1st) love
yourself. Two (2) people can only love each other when they are
quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with
each other.

If being loved is your goal, you will fail to achieve it. The only
assurance of someone loving you is to be a person worthy of
love, and you cannot be a person worthy of love when your
primary goal in life is to have someone love you in a passive
manner.

A healthy couple instinctively will switch roles from time to time;
this is in the event of loss of the other for survival. An
emotionally dependent person is one (1) who needs another
person in order to feel adequate or complete and confident.

I Independence

Co-dependency is one (1) of the most dangerous relationship
states you can ever have. If you leave one (1) lover for another,
you are displaying this. Work on being on your own for a
minimum of six (6) months, just depending on yourself. This
advice is for both sexes.

A true and real relationship is that when you get married (or just
live together) you should always stay independent and make
yourself happy, and not assume that your mate will make or
keep you happy.

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Being married should not diminish any of your prior social
customs, activities, or friends. Many couples live happily doing
things together, while others may prefer to pursue their own
interests in a singular manner for a portion of their time. Either
lifestyle is good, as long as you do not let any negative event
interfere in your life.

It is easier to destroy a relationship on this earthly plane than
staying together like on the Spiritual Plane.
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A truly strong relationship is when you still have your separate
independence away from each other. If you do not, then there is
no real trust in each other, and it would be better to end the
relationship.

An idea of an independent relationship can be like your spouse
buying her own house by a beach front without your help, or
without you even owning a part of it. It is all hers. This does not
mean you cannot use it, it just means that is it is a place for her
when she wants to be alone.

B Bonding

Men and women deal differently when they want to talk about
certain problems they are having. Men just want to solve them,
pure and simple. Men do not have the time or tolerance to listen
or complain about problems, but simply want to solve them. Do
you agree?

Women, on the other hand, treat problems differently. Women
use problems as an opportunity to share their feelings with one
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solution, and we as men must understand this. Do you follow this so
far?

So remember, just listen to her when she feels she must talk
about a problem she is having, and not work on solving it for her.
Just listen, and be grateful.

If you are caught up in some details of a fight with her, do not let
your anger take over. You will lose the fight, even if you win it
technically. You may corner her into admitting that you are right
and she is wrong, but you will not have created harmony.

If she or anyone insults you, it is your choice how you handle
that situation. You may feel offended and get upset, or hold your
cool and let her or anyone know you wont accept insults.

Women will test you and give you plenty of opportunities to get
angry. You must choose to not take the bait, and choose to not
get offended by anything they say.

When you are very upset, you are most likely to be
unreasonable, do you agree? So if she is upset, do not bother to
reason with her logically, for it will only make her more upset.

Just keep it cool. Show her you are in control, set boundaries,
and be firm. If you do not take it personally, you will be able to
say what must be said, and let it go. She will respect you for
that. Give her a choice and tell her that you will leave if she does
not calm down.

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Believe what you set your heart upon for it surely shall be yours.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

strong and healthy woman is an outgoing and generous
woman who will make sacrifices for her boyfriend/husband
and her children without complaining. Love, respect, and
affection fill her relationship/marriage.

If this is what you are looking for, you must recognize this in the
woman with whom you can share that kind of relationship. When
you find her, do not (2nd) second-guess yourself, and do not let
that woman get away.

Take each day as it comes; do your best, and resolve each
evening to get up the next morning and work even harder. You
have to recognize that every crisis embodies danger and
opportunity. Make sure you understand the danger, and focus
mostly on the opportunity.

Learn to accept success or failure with grace, ease, and humility.
Work to be without pride or self-pity, and realize that life is a
mystery to be lived, and not a problem to be solved. This life is
only one (1) part of your existence.

Life is either easy or simple. You must not fail, but strive to have
the strength to endure and the wisdom to determine,
understand, and accept. You must stay positive.
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Never give up on yourself or take things personally, or too
seriously. Remember there are always worse things in life, and
people who are far worse off than you are. Bounce back from
whatever traumas, excuses, and failures you may have had.
Rather than wasting time blaming someone, be grateful and gain
self-confidence from meeting repeated challenges. To bounce
back often makes you grow stronger, smarter and wiser in the
end.

You have to be like a ram that keeps butting up against a wall.
When you are down, stand back up and do it again.

At this moment, when someone says you cannot accomplish
something, just say, I know I CAN do it! When you are
knocked down, just come back up, raising yourself higher
than before. Learn to face things head on, whatever they are.

You do not have to prove to anyone that they are wrong,
especially not those who say you cannot do it.

When things seem to be falling apart, get excited by it and enjoy
the crisis as you manage it.

It does not matter if you never went to college or university, or
even if you have any money just to take out a date. You will find
a way, and I know you can.

You must run toward success with wide-open arms. Always take
responsibility and do not make excuses when you make
mistakes. When you own up to them, you turn them into positive
learning experiences, not a negative experience.

Be attentive. Pay attention to women and people around you so
that when you speak, they will listen. Learn not to shut out other
voices, but listen.

I am a true believer in the notion that nothing is impossible. Each
time you bounce back from a setback, you strengthen yourself.
Each time you accept a setback without attempting to come
back, you are weakening yourself. Do you see the difference?
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You have to know what to hold on to, when to let go, and
how to move on.

You must learn not to hold on to the past when the past does
not do you right, or when it has become too familiar or
comfortable.

Often, some of you are afraid to let go of chasing the same kind
of girl, a bad relationship or career. You stay in situations where
you can no longer grow because you fear the unknown and cling
to the safety of what you know. When challenged, you hold more
tightly to that which gives. You stunt your growth because you
are accustomed to that pain, or you fear the hurt of changing.

Part of life is compromise. To compromise is to accommodate
others wishes and needs without losing your own integrity.

Some of you know how to use the past to teach yourself about
the future. You look into the past as if it were a crystal ball to see
the future. The lesson of the past stays while the details do not.

Learn not to accept second (2nd) best or settle for it.

When you make it, you will wonder why you were so fearful.
Moving on, the final stage, is the process of replacing what you
left behind with what you hope for in the future.

What is your perspective or point of view on life? What is your perspective or point of view on life? What is your perspective or point of view on life? What is your perspective or point of view on life?

It is a logical system of beliefs centered close to the heart. For
instance, sex, love, family, achievement, and work. These infuse
life with a sense of meaning. Without this, you will be uncertain
about what you want, who you are, or what really matters to
you. You will have to spend too much time thinking about what is
important when life blind-sides you.

What should you throw away or keep with you? What should you throw away or keep with you? What should you throw away or keep with you? What should you throw away or keep with you?

What do you stand for? What do you stand for? What do you stand for? What do you stand for?
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What really matters to you? What really matters to you? What really matters to you? What really matters to you?

Without perspective, you will not have the answers to these
questions.

How can you be strong and positive i How can you be strong and positive i How can you be strong and positive i How can you be strong and positive if you have no answers when you are in f you have no answers when you are in f you have no answers when you are in f you have no answers when you are in
emotional turmoil? emotional turmoil? emotional turmoil? emotional turmoil?

This will help you either give up or move on, depending on how
strong and positive you are.

Any personal tragedy can challenge and threaten perspective.
You must have a good idea about how you want to live your life
or how you want to cope with crisis.

You have to surround yourself with positive people to cope with
this. Read books that deal with developing a positive attitude.
Watch educational programs like those on the Discovery or
History Channels. Participate in discussion groups. Talk to others
about how to deal with challenge. Get in touch with nature, too.
Just do not believe all you hear or see, but do your homework, be
open-minded, and see both sides.

Remember this:

How long does it take How long does it take How long does it take How long does it take to build a skyscraper with over twenty to build a skyscraper with over twenty to build a skyscraper with over twenty to build a skyscraper with over twenty (20) (20) (20) (20) floors? floors? floors? floors?

How long does it take to knock it down once it is finished? How long does it take to knock it down once it is finished? How long does it take to knock it down once it is finished? How long does it take to knock it down once it is finished?

Building up is the positive and knocking it down is the
negative.

The positive or the negative:

Which one Which one Which one Which one (1) (1) (1) (1) is stronger? is stronger? is stronger? is stronger?

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Once you fully understand that negative is stronger, you will
work twice (2) as hard on keeping the positive stronger to keep it
up.

Study all angles before making a decision, and do not rush.
Contemplate and play your move right. It is okay if you fall; just
remember to get back up. The only people who never fall down
are the ones who are not moving.

Do not lie; tell the truth, as lies will chip away at your self-
respect.
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You cannot grow in resilience without honesty in your
daily communications. Once you have built yourself into a
confident person, you will be able to take control of situations
more easily, step away from problems and obstacles, and look at
them from a logical point of view, without emotion.

You will learn to acknowledge the needs of women and others,
and the implications of any particular solutions for them.

The wise never hurry. Do what you have to do in order to move
at a controlled, relaxed pace. Even if you are running late, do not
rush. Just call ahead and make a new arrangement with her.

I Sims and Diffs

There are women out there who see the similarities between
things just like men do. I call them Sims.

The other half of women and men see the differences, and I call
them Diffs.

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Sims like their lives to stay the same, and form lifelong
attachments to things, people, vacation spots, etc.

Diffs are always discontent and frequently move on to what they
hope will be a better life, or better road ahead.

B Performance

Compliment your lover in her sexual performance if she is good.
This way, you can work with her to improve both your sexual
satisfaction.

Women want to know that they pleased their man. They know
that sex is one (1) of the most important things to most guys.
Even if she is hot and sexy, she wants to know she is good in
bed.

Most men will be more interested if she is both sexy and good in
bed rather than just one (1) or the other. By complimenting her
on her sexual technique, you will make her feel closer to you, and
your chances of repeated performance will greatly increase.

Always keep eye contact with her. Smile and kiss her while
making love to her.

I will not go over the details of how to make love to a woman,
but what I can say is do not rush it in the bedroom. If you are
just interested in being a player, then it is the same thing, for
she will tell other women about you, which will increase the
number of women in your life.

If it is in a nightclub or any public place, that is a different story
(quickies). The orgasm can be even stronger and more intense, and
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F Guys

After dating the same new woman for a few weeks, or if you are
in a long-term relationship for many years, always surprise each
other and build spice in your life.
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You can be relaxed on your couch watching television or a movie,
kissing, and passion erupts. No matter the details of this
situation, do not take each other for granted. Pay close attention
to this moment in time, and savor it.

Notice what led up to this moment, so that you can create it
again, and prepare this environment once every few weeks.

Have the lights down low, for it will relax you both. In the
background, if you are not watching television, play soft mellow
ocean wave music, or something she likes.

If you have only been dating a few weeks, make sure you know
which artists she likes, so you can have their CD at home for her
to listen to when she is over your place.

Having a bath with bubbles ready for her is a bonus. Candle lit
candles are beautiful, the scent and feeling helps her mellow
down.

Guys, you have no clue if you do not do this on a regular basis.
Do not do this only at the beginning of the relationship. If you are
in a long-term relationship, do the same, or someone else will
sweep her away behind your back, and it will be your fault for not
paying attention to her needs. Do not get lazy.

Use air fresheners she loves, for women are much more sensitive
to smell than men are. Make sure you know what scents she
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important. It does not matter if it is expensive or not, if in the
end she does not really like the scent of it, or if she is allergic to
them.

If you have a fireplace, it is a bonus for romance. All women love
to make love next to a fireplace. If you do not have one (1), then
for a minimum of two (2) to four (4) times a year, rent a place
that has one (1). Pull whatever strings you have to, pay money,
and find her a room with a fireplace.

Guys! Guys! Guys! I fully understand that some of you guys do
not want to put the effort into doing these things because of deep
anger issues, resentments, your defeated attitude, and negative
experiences you have had in the past.

Some of you even blocked out or will deny these negative
experiences. Some of you have been so scarred and betrayed by
women, your mother, sisters, girlfriends, wives, daughters, and
so on, that you stopped yourselves from truly living.

This is wrong and unfair to younot to women, but to you. You
create your own environment. You are not punishing them; you
are only punishing yourself. Do you follow?

When you read my other book,
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you will finally comprehend
that when I say create, I mean it literally, not metaphorically.

When you do all these positive things for her, you are also doing
it for yourself, even if deep down you believe it is not your thing.
You will realize that deeper inside it always has been. Her smile
will be all that you require.

That is why guys like myself and James Bond do well with
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say about him, nor does he worry about if he is betrayed or
disappointed by them.

What matters is that you keep power over yourself. Do not give
your power over to those who disappoint you.

Treat your woman as a princess, even if you are upset at each
other. If she should ever do you wrong, at least you can walk
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Chapter 15:
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The success of our living is measured not by what we can accumulate for ourselves, but what
we can bestow upon our fellow travelers on lifes tough travel. -W. Phillip Keller

n Chapter 3: Negative Aspects, Chapter 4: With Women
and in the upcoming Jake Hollows How to Deal with
Emotions and the Life of a Motivational Speaker, Part :
Defining Emotions Chapter 1: Words Can Lie, the Body Cannot, I
briefly tell you to be an actor so that you can make your role real
but, at the same time, become the real you.

You do not want to be a fake you, but you want to build the
confidence in you, the real you that you lost as a child. If you
become a fake you, you might fool most of the women, but you
will never fool yourself.

When your behavior honestly reflects your inner thoughts and
feelings, you will feel real. If there is a serious split between how
you behave and how you feel and think, you are living your life
with a false persona. Gradually, over time, the character you
created will become larger.

Some of you live with a false persona twenty-four (24) hours a
day, hiding behind the polished image you consider more
attractive than your real self. That is not what I want for you. I
want you to be real and love the improved you now. Do not do
this for others' approval.

Most of you are not encouraged to develop your real self, and are
instead given many opportunities and resources to develop slick
facades while your inner life remains undeveloped.

You learn what actions and behaviors win acceptance and praise
from others. Most of you do not consider or ask, for instance,
what you feel and think, or how to heal your emotional
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wounds when you have been hurt. You learn to hide your real
and underdeveloped self behind a well-protected social faade.

The insecure man who hides his face feels guilty for lying, and
guilty for not being real. You cannot live your life with the dreams
you want and the women you desire if you feel guilty all the time.
You might be able to hide the real you, but in your heart, you
know who you really are.

Building a character, like a professional actor, must not be
abused by living a lie. You have to make it real with respect to
who you are or were meant to be. If you live a lie, your
conscience cannot help you, because you cannot hear it clearly.
Stop being a fake...start being yourself, just like in your dreams,
and the movie you were meant to be in.

What has helped me personally in building who I am today is
meditation, trancing, and praying regularly. I do this before
sleeping, as well as just upon awakening when my conscious
mind is least in control, and I feel closer to my unconscious mind.

I would also ask you to pay close attention to your daydreams,
and take them seriously. They may have hidden messages.
Daydreams are influenced by our conscious mind in the same
way that our dreams at night are influenced. Both deal with our
place in the Universe, and personal symbolic ideas can be tapped
for information and meaning.

Learn to interpret your dreams and search for ideas in them
about what you really want. Talking about your dreams aloud
often leads to an intuitive discovery of what they mean; the
dreamer must hear it to recognize the meaning in the symbols.
Talk to friends, or professionals who specialize in dream
interpretations.

Look for others like me who believe in positive energy and hope.
Find those who are living it, people like me who are positive
thinkers.

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Avoid negative thinkers and dream stealers; they cannot stop
your imagination and hope. Read books on imagination, dreams,
inspirational topics, and motivational individuals. In addition, the
Holy Bible, the Torah (), the Qur'an (,' '-'), the Vedas, the
Mahauyutpatti, and others can be helpful.

Practice imagining yourself mastering the things that frighten
you. Everything from abusive relationships to confrontations in
general can be transformed.

Listen to your inner voice as an automatic part of your daily life.
Let it help you build your self-esteem, for if you ignore it, you can
risk losing your authenticity.

You should always know that there are choices you can make.
This is true if you are unhappy, and when you are feeling trapped
by circumstances seemingly beyond your control.

Always look for solutions. When you must criticize, do so
constructively, but learn to compliment as well, since there is a
difference between constructive criticism and destructive,
negative feedback. The former allows you to grow, while the
latter kills creativity, productivity, and stifles the desire to
communicate.

I True Freedom

Build credibility, charisma, and charm. Build credibility, charisma, and charm. Build credibility, charisma, and charm. Build credibility, charisma, and charm.

Be sincere. Be sincere. Be sincere. Be sincere.

Be persuasive with confidence. Be persuasive with confidence. Be persuasive with confidence. Be persuasive with confidence.

Learn Learn Learn Learn to analyze those around you. to analyze those around you. to analyze those around you. to analyze those around you.

Never worry about whether people find you favorable or not. Never worry about whether people find you favorable or not. Never worry about whether people find you favorable or not. Never worry about whether people find you favorable or not.

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Shoulder your responsibilities carefully, and fulfill your obligations faithfully. Shoulder your responsibilities carefully, and fulfill your obligations faithfully. Shoulder your responsibilities carefully, and fulfill your obligations faithfully. Shoulder your responsibilities carefully, and fulfill your obligations faithfully.

Learn to look at obstacles as solutions, and not as problems. Learn to look at obstacles as solutions, and not as problems. Learn to look at obstacles as solutions, and not as problems. Learn to look at obstacles as solutions, and not as problems.

Never trust anyon Never trust anyon Never trust anyon Never trust anyone one hundred percent e one hundred percent e one hundred percent e one hundred percent (100%). (100%). (100%). (100%). But if you do, keep one But if you do, keep one But if you do, keep one But if you do, keep one (1) (1) (1) (1) eye eye eye eye
open. open. open. open.

Instead of writing about women, I shall use another desire to
better explain a point about how you can create the situation you
deeply want. Your dream is to be a singer or to be a rapper, and
nothing will stop you from getting there. So:

What is your back up in case you do not reach your goal? What is your back up in case you do not reach your goal? What is your back up in case you do not reach your goal? What is your back up in case you do not reach your goal?

You are looking at this blindly if you believe I am saying you
cannot. I am helping you see that there are other ways to reach
your goals.

Let me use just five (5) solutions out of many as a back up,
without you losing your dream.

You can become a Music

1. Writer.
2. Manager.
3. Agent.
4. Producer.
5. Director.

There is so much more in the music industry, and I have not
even started on music videos. However, my point is you can have
back-ups that let you stay in the industry you love and want. The
same is true with women.

Any obstacles you find, you can find solutions to. It is all up to
how you look at it. I do not believe in obstacles.

Give up your intellect, and follow your intuition, gut, and instinct.
Your passion is what is important. Whatever your passion is, I
can help you get there. The pleasure is all mine.
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There are two (2) guys. Let's call them Bill and Tony. They're
about the same age, both single, and both work at the same
place.

Tony is a really friendly, positive guy, always enthusiastic about
whatever he's doing. He sets his alarm clock early every morning
because he likes to give himself enough time to get ready and
still enjoy the morning. He showers, has breakfast, and leaves
the house early to beat the traffic.

On the way, he stops at a coffee shop, where he's pleasant and
friendly with everybody he sees. An old lady gets in line about
the same time he does, and he lets her go ahead of him, because
he's still got plenty of time to get to work. He flirts with the
barista, calling her by the name on her name tag. She isn't even
that attractive, but he just feels good keeping his positive energy
up and sharing his enjoyment of life.

He has a nice, relaxing drive to work listening to the music he
likes on the radio, and he arrives in a good mood, greeting
everybody and flirting with all the pretty girls who work
there...complimenting them on their outfits, noticing if they have
changed their hair, etc., all in a gentlemanly way.

Bill wakes up in a bad mood. Every time the alarm clock goes off,
he hits the snooze button, and he keeps hitting it until the alarm
is just going off again as soon as he does. He finally drags
himself out of bed, grumbling, and realizes he doesn't have time
to eat breakfast. He jumps in the shower, and doesn't even get
all the shampoo out of his hair the first (1st) time (which he only
realizes when it burns his eyes as he's getting dressed). He rushes out the
door, cursing that he never has any time.

He wants to stop for a coffee, but there is a long line and he just
glares at everybody there. The guy in front of him is taking too
long, so he leaves, swearing loudly at everyone because he
wasted ten (10) minutes and didn't even get what he came for.

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He's stuck in traffic the whole way there, and doesn't say hi to
anyone when he arrives. He notices Tony chatting with the girls
there, and this pisses him off even more because that guy "has it
so easy." The secretary tells him good morning, and Bill just
grumbles, WHAT'S GOOD ABOUT IT?

Tony, meanwhile, has set up a date with one (1) of the girls, and
that night after work, they go out and have a really nice evening
together. Bill spends the whole day hating his job, then goes
home by himself, where he spends the evening being angry
about what a terrible day he had. Tony goes to bed with his
gorgeous datehe never sleeps alonewhile Bill plays one-stick
hockey and falls asleep in front of his TV thinking, WHY DON'T
WOMEN FIND ME ATTRACTIVE?

Both guys have exactly the same situation: same schedule, same
job, same choices. The only difference between them is their
attitudes.

So tell me...

Which attitude would you rather have? Which attitude would you rather have? Which attitude would you rather have? Which attitude would you rather have?

B It s All Up To Us

As a child, you see the world in an innocent way as great and
fascinating. Once you grow up, you are forced to see it
differently. When you see the real world for what it is, you
become disappointed, unless you pick it up and flip it over.

It is up to each of you to change what you do not like by putting
down what you do like. You can start that by using your mind.

You start with your thoughts first (1st), focusing on what you can
do to change things. Yes, life can be very disappointing, yet it is
up to you how you handle itnot life. It is easier to give up, as
over ninety-seven (97%) percent of the population does. So:

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Are you a part of them, or a part of the three Are you a part of them, or a part of the three Are you a part of them, or a part of the three Are you a part of them, or a part of the three (3%) (3%) (3%) (3%) percent that fight and believe percent that fight and believe percent that fight and believe percent that fight and believe
in not giving in? in not giving in? in not giving in? in not giving in?

I am asking you to help me increase the three (3%) percent.

All it takes is one (1) small change to start a chain reaction to
become bigger if everyone thinks together. You can pass this
thought on, but it starts with you!

People will listen to you. It is a Cosmic Intelligence you will be
attached to. You do not need to be a goody two-shoes to fully
know and understand respect. An illustration:

Helping without being asked. Helping without being asked. Helping without being asked. Helping without being asked.

Or:

You are waiting in line at a hospital. You were injured You are waiting in line at a hospital. You were injured You are waiting in line at a hospital. You were injured You are waiting in line at a hospital. You were injured (life threatening) (life threatening) (life threatening) (life threatening) and and and and
must see a doctor badly, yet a small baby is ha must see a doctor badly, yet a small baby is ha must see a doctor badly, yet a small baby is ha must see a doctor badly, yet a small baby is having complications. As a result, ving complications. As a result, ving complications. As a result, ving complications. As a result,
you sacrifice yourself to let that baby go ahead of you, when you should have you sacrifice yourself to let that baby go ahead of you, when you should have you sacrifice yourself to let that baby go ahead of you, when you should have you sacrifice yourself to let that baby go ahead of you, when you should have
been next in line to be seen. You could have been selfish but you chose not to be. been next in line to be seen. You could have been selfish but you chose not to be. been next in line to be seen. You could have been selfish but you chose not to be. been next in line to be seen. You could have been selfish but you chose not to be.

Learn this, and go out there in the real world. When you least
expect it, you will bump into someone you may know, or even
better, a stranger that will not call nor ask for your help, but you
will help them with something they cant do for themselves.

Do this to a minimum of three (3) people as if you were a
Genie, without asking them to pay you back. It is self-sacrifice.
Teach each of them that the best repayment they can give you is
to do the same thing for three (3) others that are in need, with
the same rules.

This is an act of faith in acting with the world. Three (3) people
make it nine (9) people, which turn to twenty-seven (27) and so
on. It is a chain reaction. The best return you can get back as
payment is knowing you made a big difference in their lives, and
in return they will do the same by helping someone else.

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I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Thomas Alva Edison

s a writer, I may share my work with a mentor or another
professional. I am certainly dependent on an editors
feedback and criticism to develop ideas for finishing my
book.

My way of organizing my thinking in problem solving manner is
to first (1st) define the problem. When I look at a problem, I tend
to see the solution from my own perspective first (1st), but then I
make an effort to see it from another persons perspective, as
well.

How do I decide what I want? How do I decide what I want? How do I decide what I want? How do I decide what I want?

First (1st), I determine what I do not want. Then, I put aside my
fear and make an effort to find out what I do want. Many are
afraid of the consequences of their desires, and rarely admit that
they want something.

In my other chapters, I spoke about dreams, goals, and how to
design a strategy. A strategy is a series of steps designed to
achieve your objective. You must know what you want. You have
chosen your goals, options, and devised your strategy. Now, you
must act. Create a timeline to accomplish this. Trust yourself and
stay positive.

I personally regard conflicting views as a challenge, and consider
solutions as opportunities. Rather than withdrawing from the
situation, I face the challenge head-on. I take charge of myself.

My self-esteem helps me negotiate the best for me. I aim high,
rather than lowering my requests and assumptions. Moreover, I
seek to understand and maneuver the elements of the situation
in order to reach a satisfying result for everyone. I know,
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furthermore, that I am the one (1) most responsible for looking
out for my own dreams and wishes.

I know how to find a safe place to recharge and regroup. I do not
depend on anger to win in negotiation or collaboration. I only
confide in others who are trustworthy, not those who are
unrealistic or destructive. I do not assume that all I speak with I
must collaborate with, or that they are on my side, even when
they say they are with me.

I always speak to myself when possible, and never expect others
to do everything right by me. My reason for doing this is being
able to think clearly. I do not withdraw into circular thinking, nor
do I allow prolonged emotional reactions to major or minor
setbacks cloud my reasoning.

Do not make an effort to have this kind of relationship with
someone who has a history of not supporting you or, worse,
betraying you. Do not work to have this kind of relationship with
someone whom you cannot support, as you will expect them to
support you. Listen carefully to the other person's needs before
entering into any kind of mutual support agreement.

Can you support them? Can you support them? Can you support them? Can you support them?

Will they support you? Will they support you? Will they support you? Will they support you?

Changes will not last if you only change your behavior and not
your attitude, beliefs and values. Never underestimate the
importance of small change.

I Fish Catching

You are by a lake, very calm and confident. You are in a small
boat with your fishing gear. The water and wind are calm. Now
you catch a fish, then another and then another. But then the
fish move away out of fright. On your left, you hear a loud motor
noise and voices. Five (5) men on a speedboat approach and stop
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fifty (50) feet from you. They are drinking beer while trying to
fish.

They see that you have been successful in catching many fish;
however, they are not as lucky, until one (1) of them finally
yells, I HAVE ONE (1)! Then he loses it. They look upset.

What is the point of this story? What is the point of this story? What is the point of this story? What is the point of this story?

They are arrogant and cocky. I want you to email me with your
understanding of as well as your viewpoint on this story.

B To Have Passion

Some have told me that what I write, and my overall philosophy,
are too strange for them, but that they respect my passion for
what I believe in. Most would not understand my philosophy, for
it is too far-fetched, as well as too comprehensive for their minds
to hold onto. The point that they still respect me is good enough
for me. This means they are not closed-minded.

Some will be passive spiritual which I have absolutely no
problem with. Then there are the common passives who accept
everything without any resistance.

If you agree with my philosophies then I would love to know:

Why? Why? Why? Why?

If you disagree or have a different opinion, I would still love to
hear from you. You might have something that I have missed, or
something I have overlooked.

Finally, there are those that cannot really follow, or who will get
bored or fall asleep because they cannot follow my language. I
am too alien for them. That is why I want those who contribute
to further our progress toward growth.

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Are you reading my book because you were told to, or because you want to? Are you reading my book because you were told to, or because you want to? Are you reading my book because you were told to, or because you want to? Are you reading my book because you were told to, or because you want to?

To want knowledge is to be wise and open to others' concepts
and beliefs, by doing research on your own without only reading
others' beliefs.

Some in this field are very passive Spiritual Gurus; others are
high energy Life-Coaches. I am more abrupt and straight-to-
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Chapter 17:
YouR HistorY
You are who you want to be. Gino Iovannone

his chapter is geared towards helping you see yourself
more clearly, and understanding why you may have
problems with women in general.

In your past relationships, what was going through your mind? In your past relationships, what was going through your mind? In your past relationships, what was going through your mind? In your past relationships, what was going through your mind?

Take a few moments to reflect on this question and all other
questions I have asked you to think about. Then I want you to
take a piece of paper and write your answers down in detail.

Who have your partners been? Who have your partners been? Who have your partners been? Who have your partners been?

What were their personalities like? What were their personalities like? What were their personalities like? What were their personalities like?

What is yours like? What is yours like? What is yours like? What is yours like?

How did you both handle conflicts? How did you both handle conflicts? How did you both handle conflicts? How did you both handle conflicts?

What were theirs? What were theirs? What were theirs? What were theirs?

For example:

Were you analytical? Were you analytical? Were you analytical? Were you analytical?
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Did you see the big picture, or the imaginative, methodical Did you see the big picture, or the imaginative, methodical Did you see the big picture, or the imaginative, methodical Did you see the big picture, or the imaginative, methodical (1) (1) (1) (1) one one one one- -- -liners? liners? liners? liners?

What were your negotiating and collaborating styles like? What were your negotiating and collaborating styles like? What were your negotiating and collaborating styles like? What were your negotiating and collaborating styles like?



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ability to analyze" or "division into elements or principles."
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Were you aggressive, conservative, critical, or dynamic? Were you aggressive, conservative, critical, or dynamic? Were you aggressive, conservative, critical, or dynamic? Were you aggressive, conservative, critical, or dynamic?

A leader or a follower? A leader or a follower? A leader or a follower? A leader or a follower?

Innovative, n Innovative, n Innovative, n Innovative, nit picking, positive, negative, supportive etc.? it picking, positive, negative, supportive etc.? it picking, positive, negative, supportive etc.? it picking, positive, negative, supportive etc.?

Are you the same person today that you were then? Are you the same person today that you were then? Are you the same person today that you were then? Are you the same person today that you were then?

Regardless of your answer, ask yourself this last question again
with respect to how you are NOW.

What were your dreams and aspirations with her? What were your dreams and aspirations with her? What were your dreams and aspirations with her? What were your dreams and aspirations with her?

Were Were Were Were you both passionate about your shared dreams and goals? you both passionate about your shared dreams and goals? you both passionate about your shared dreams and goals? you both passionate about your shared dreams and goals?

Which one Which one Which one Which one (1) (1) (1) (1) initiated your collaborative dreams and ambitions? initiated your collaborative dreams and ambitions? initiated your collaborative dreams and ambitions? initiated your collaborative dreams and ambitions?

Whose ideas usually prevailed? Whose ideas usually prevailed? Whose ideas usually prevailed? Whose ideas usually prevailed?

Were any of your ideas accepted? Were any of your ideas accepted? Were any of your ideas accepted? Were any of your ideas accepted?

Were any of her ideas accepted? Were any of her ideas accepted? Were any of her ideas accepted? Were any of her ideas accepted?

If not:

Why not? Why not? Why not? Why not?

How were both How were both How were both How were both your dreams and goals enriched, changed, or developed through your dreams and goals enriched, changed, or developed through your dreams and goals enriched, changed, or developed through your dreams and goals enriched, changed, or developed through
your collaboration? your collaboration? your collaboration? your collaboration?

What other resources were necessary for you both to complete this collaborative What other resources were necessary for you both to complete this collaborative What other resources were necessary for you both to complete this collaborative What other resources were necessary for you both to complete this collaborative
effort? effort? effort? effort?

Re-ask the same questions regarding the NOW this time, if
different.

How well did How well did How well did How well did the two the two the two the two (2) (2) (2) (2) of you collaborate in your dealings with each other? of you collaborate in your dealings with each other? of you collaborate in your dealings with each other? of you collaborate in your dealings with each other?
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Was it frequently, intensely, intimately? Was it frequently, intensely, intimately? Was it frequently, intensely, intimately? Was it frequently, intensely, intimately?

Did you assume the major function or role? Did you assume the major function or role? Did you assume the major function or role? Did you assume the major function or role?

If not:

Why not? Why not? Why not? Why not?

How did you feel about your participation? How did you feel about your participation? How did you feel about your participation? How did you feel about your participation?

Was the collaboration friendly, hostile Was the collaboration friendly, hostile Was the collaboration friendly, hostile Was the collaboration friendly, hostile, easy, difficult, contentious, or , easy, difficult, contentious, or , easy, difficult, contentious, or , easy, difficult, contentious, or
supportive? supportive? supportive? supportive?

Are you the same person today that you were yesterday? Are you the same person today that you were yesterday? Are you the same person today that you were yesterday? Are you the same person today that you were yesterday?

If not:

What would you do differently? What would you do differently? What would you do differently? What would you do differently?

Did you both get what you wanted? Did you both get what you wanted? Did you both get what you wanted? Did you both get what you wanted?

What was the outcome? What was the outcome? What was the outcome? What was the outcome?

Did you or she complete what you both started? Did you or she complete what you both started? Did you or she complete what you both started? Did you or she complete what you both started?

Or:

Did you or she leave it at mid Did you or she leave it at mid Did you or she leave it at mid Did you or she leave it at mid- -- -point? point? point? point?

Would you be with this woman again, or someone like her? Would you be with this woman again, or someone like her? Would you be with this woman again, or someone like her? Would you be with this woman again, or someone like her?

Would she want to be with you again? Would she want to be with you again? Would she want to be with you again? Would she want to be with you again?

Now ask:

Why? Why? Why? Why?

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Did it end feeling good or was there damage? Did it end feeling good or was there damage? Did it end feeling good or was there damage? Did it end feeling good or was there damage?

And:

What was the most successful collaboration you ever What was the most successful collaboration you ever What was the most successful collaboration you ever What was the most successful collaboration you ever had with a woman? had with a woman? had with a woman? had with a woman?

What was the least successful? What was the least successful? What was the least successful? What was the least successful?

Now:

Where are you and where would you like to be? Where are you and where would you like to be? Where are you and where would you like to be? Where are you and where would you like to be?

Identify the specific details so that you know what to do and what
to avoid in the future. Put aside your emotional responses.

Thinking about past relationships might make you upset, angry,
sad, or embarrassed. Look objectively at what led to those
feelings. This will help you clarify your insight into how you
thought and collaborated in the past, and how it will affect your
future self.

How much have y How much have y How much have y How much have you learned about yourself? ou learned about yourself? ou learned about yourself? ou learned about yourself?

How can you apply these lessons for yourself in the future with your choice and How can you apply these lessons for yourself in the future with your choice and How can you apply these lessons for yourself in the future with your choice and How can you apply these lessons for yourself in the future with your choice and
behavior? behavior? behavior? behavior?

What is your personal style in collaboration? What is your personal style in collaboration? What is your personal style in collaboration? What is your personal style in collaboration?

Explain to yourself:

What is resilience? What is resilience? What is resilience? What is resilience?

When faced, challenged or opposed, the capacity to remain or
endure unaffected matters most. In addition, to be resilient is to
be impermeable. You are the person who determines how you
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Every judgment, every criticism, is the tragic expression of an unmet need. -Marshall
Rosenberg

hy do I feel like I bounced back faster in my personal and professional hy do I feel like I bounced back faster in my personal and professional hy do I feel like I bounced back faster in my personal and professional hy do I feel like I bounced back faster in my personal and professional
life? life? life? life?

I know what my responsibilities are and what responsibilities
really belong to someone else. I am optimistic and a realist. I
realize that failure contains possibilities, lessons learned, the
seeds of future success, and the opportunity to grow in resilience
by bouncing back. I do not waste much time on negative
thinking. I celebrate my gains rather than mourn my losses. I
move on once I know it is over.

I have learned that sometimes you have to let friends and
business associates go when they are dragging you down. This
does not necessarily mean I have to end those relationships.
However, I must limit my contact with them, particularly during
periods when I must move fast to change. I only now hold on to
those long-term relationships with people who support my
positive changes rather than encourage me to remain the same.

I know that no matter how fast, strong, or smart I am, I will
occasionally find my resilience seriously stalled when lifes
conditions resist all my efforts to change. Not everyone can
bounce back quickly. I am very careful, and examine my
roadblocks so I can go around them.

As a possibility thinker, I see opportunities in obstacles. I believe
that an obstacle can become a stepping-stone, and that
frustrations can become meaningful forces to guide you along the
right path. I also know that the Universe or the Supreme Being
uses both good and bad experiences to mold, motivate, and
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I have changed who I used to be and what I used to do. I am the
only person who can determine how I live my life. I made that
decision to bounce back from my setbacks. I now decide how I
want to play the game of life and what I want to get out of it.

As a domineering person, I have learned to be more considerate.
Just as a shy person can learn to speak up, I have learned to
change as well. These things can change through self-awareness
and acceptance. There is only one (1) you and only an authentic
you that is unique and important.

I Reckoning, Not Avenging Myself

People that assume they have known me for years judge me
based on my past as a vindictive person who would be patient,
waiting a minimum of five (5) years to get back at those who
would hurt me or my loved ones. They would compare my
patience to the character Clyde Shelton (played by Gerard Butler) in
Law Abiding Citizen.

That is no longer true. Revenge is a waste of energy. The older I
have gotten, the wiser I have become. All I look for now if
someone hurts me or especially my love ones is a reckoning,
not revenge.

Revenge shows weakness, which gives away your power to the other person. It Revenge shows weakness, which gives away your power to the other person. It Revenge shows weakness, which gives away your power to the other person. It Revenge shows weakness, which gives away your power to the other person. It
is a waste of emotion. is a waste of emotion. is a waste of emotion. is a waste of emotion.

Reckonin Reckonin Reckonin Reckoning is resolving what must be taken care of, without giving away your g is resolving what must be taken care of, without giving away your g is resolving what must be taken care of, without giving away your g is resolving what must be taken care of, without giving away your
power and emotion. power and emotion. power and emotion. power and emotion.

Revenge can cause you more pain than satisfaction. Reckoning
gets them to take you seriously as someone they cannot play
with, for there are or will be consequences in their action to
pay.

Logic says:
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That revenge is a dish best served cold. That revenge is a dish best served cold. That revenge is a dish best served cold. That revenge is a dish best served cold.

On the other hand, what Steve Piccus always tells me is:

The best revenge is to become physically and financially much more successfully The best revenge is to become physically and financially much more successfully The best revenge is to become physically and financially much more successfully The best revenge is to become physically and financially much more successfully
than ever before. than ever before. than ever before. than ever before.

People are more frightened when you are unpredictable, which
also is good, for I personally dislike being predictable. I prefer
the element of surprise.

Negative emotions like vengefulness, anger, hate, jealousy, and
so forth are wasted energy that should be used in a more
healthy, positive way.

I prefer putting my power into my passion and my positive
energy, and let the Universe handle those who strive to harm me
or those I love.

What goes around always comes around. Giving anyone the evil
eye ( ) or bad thoughts ( ) will come back to you
threefold (3-X).

An ayin hara means an evil or begrudging eye in Judaism. This
belief holds that an envious or begrudging glare is able to hex or
curse the receiving person.

According to a statement in the Talmud, ninety-nine (99) out of a
hundred (100) die of an evil eye. Hence, we use the Hebrew
expression bli ayin hara, or , which means
without a begrudging eye. We look at a person who has health,
intelligence, success, and etc., with admiration. (The Yiddish
expression kenina hora, or and the Arabic kermazie, or
-- _'= ,' ,- " mean the same thing.)

Hebrew, Evil Eye Hebrew, Evil Eye Hebrew, Evil Eye Hebrew, Evil Eye ( ) Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts ( )

Yiddish, Evil Eye Yiddish, Evil Eye Yiddish, Evil Eye Yiddish, Evil Eye ( ) Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts ( )

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Aramaic, Evil Eye Aramaic, Evil Eye Aramaic, Evil Eye Aramaic, Evil Eye (Q--) Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts Bad Thoughts (--~- '--V)
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Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it that is the quickest and surest way ever yet
discovered to conquer fear. Dale Carnegie

esides meeting women in clubs, men can meet them
anywhere. For example:

Bus stop Bus stop Bus stop Bus stop

Shopping mall Shopping mall Shopping mall Shopping mall

Movie Cinema Movie Cinema Movie Cinema Movie Cinema (Theatre) (Theatre) (Theatre) (Theatre)

Bank Bank Bank Bank

Restaurant Restaurant Restaurant Restaurant

Post Office line Post Office line Post Office line Post Office line

The list goes on.

Think about it. You will always see a few attractive women there.
Some will be standing around not talking to anyone. But you
already have something in common: you are both standing in line
for the same thingbus, tickets, mail, etc...that is more of a
beginning than you have at a club or a party. You never know
what interesting woman you might meet if you just take the
initiative.

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The same can be said if they are just sitting around and you are
a V.I.P.;
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you can get them to go ahead of the others so that
they feel special.

I am not saying that making a move in line is easy. There are
many obstacles that you would have to overcome, such as the
womans natural suspicion of you. Plus, your conversation would
be overheard by everyone in line.

Do not look at this as a problem. Just look for a solution. You
must also see that it can be rewarding, if somewhat challenging,
and since you will probably never see any of these people in line
again, it is relatively risk free.

In a checkout line, depending on what she is purchasing, she
might be touchy, or put some personal armor on. You will have to
be very non-threatening and incredibly nice when you deliver
your opening lines. Be sure to smile wider and more often than
you normally do.

When you pick the line you want, dont always take the line that
gets you out in less then two (2) minutes. Choose the line you
find for the female you are interested in. I understand you are
strictly limited to the people in front and behind you. Remember
the key word: apologies and compliments always work.

Lines for tickets, restaurants or movies are also good places to
meet women, as I said before. Women are usually in an excited
mood. Whatever you do, do not complain about waiting in line
unless your comment is witty, or funny.

By the way, elevators are also a great place to meet women.
Always say hello to people when you enter, and to others who
get on after you...with a smile, of course. You will be surprised
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a joke about the elevator breaking down. Talk about the dcor of
the building or whatever else is positive, but nothing negative.

You can also meet women in parks, airports...and the list goes
on, so I am sure you get it.

Today you can talk about astrology, channeling, healing, travel
and more. Since most women are interested in these topics, they
can be an excellent source of material for enlightening and
stimulating conversation. Women love philosophy or issues of the
human condition. Think about it:

Would you rather hear about what she bought at the grocery store or what she Would you rather hear about what she bought at the grocery store or what she Would you rather hear about what she bought at the grocery store or what she Would you rather hear about what she bought at the grocery store or what she
has been dreaming abo has been dreaming abo has been dreaming abo has been dreaming about lately? ut lately? ut lately? ut lately?

With this, you can ask her if she believes in psychic vision. It is
definitely a more provocative question than:

Do you come here often? Do you come here often? Do you come here often? Do you come here often?

So if she talks about rebirth, go with the flow.
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If this does not
work for you, then use another subject.

To me personally, meeting and picking up is like a business. As a
salesman, you must deal with a minimum of ten (10) clients to
make one (1) sale. If you are a expert, then you will most likely
close nine (9) sales out of ten (10).

So if you are new at this game of meeting women, then just do
this at a club or anywhere. Pick a minimum of ten (10) women
you feel you would like to hook up with. Make your move, and
you will see your odds are good. Just remember to tilt your head
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This is why Gino DiCaprios The Universal Law of Creation: When You Seek, Ask, See and Truly
Believe Beyond Any-Shadow-of-a Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive! Book I: Secrets and Laws
of the Universe, was created.
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personal rejection just because some of these women may turn
you down.

Re-read my book at least three (3) times. Work on being
confident, and accept that negativity in general is stronger than
positive energy. You need to work on getting the positive to
overcome the negative.

For me, the negative makes me stronger. Moreover, it challenges
me. Bear in mind that some women take more work to get than
others do. So never let me (or them) hear you call them
BITCHES just because she did not give you a chance. In my
book (and hers), you are a LOSER if you are that disrespectful.
Learn to have class and then move on.

When the singer Madonna was inducted into the Rock and Roll
Hall of Fame in March 2008, she said:

The ones The ones The ones The ones that said I was tasteless, that I was chubby, that I could not sing, that said I was tasteless, that I was chubby, that I could not sing, that said I was tasteless, that I was chubby, that I could not sing, that said I was tasteless, that I was chubby, that I could not sing,
and that I was a and that I was a and that I was a and that I was a (1) (1) (1) (1) one one one one- -- -hit wonder...they pushed me to be better, and I am hit wonder...they pushed me to be better, and I am hit wonder...they pushed me to be better, and I am hit wonder...they pushed me to be better, and I am
grateful for their resistance. grateful for their resistance. grateful for their resistance. grateful for their resistance.

My attempt to answer most of your questions will not meet with
everyones complete satisfaction, including my own, but I hope
what I wrote gave you some enlightenment.

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Chapter 20:
TalkerS, DumperS
and
ListenerS

Knowledge can be communicated, but wisdom cannot. Hermann Hesse

hat is the difference between a talker, a dumpe hat is the difference between a talker, a dumpe hat is the difference between a talker, a dumpe hat is the difference between a talker, a dumper, and a listener? r, and a listener? r, and a listener? r, and a listener?


Reflect hard before you give yourself the answer, for a talker is
someone who measures the value of a conversation and never
seems to run out of things to say. They do not listen, but only
talk. They take a lot of your valuable time, rendering you totally
ineffective.

Dumpers, on the other hand, are those who use your mind as a
trash bin. Their lives never seem to work for them. They go from
problem to problem, and they love to tell you, time and time
again, about how their lives are falling apart. They blame others
for their situations or claim that others have control over them.

Most people who consider themselves to be caring individuals
seem to attract dumpers like magnet. Talkers and dumpers waste
your valuable time and affect your emotions and energy level
negatively. These kinds of people divert your focus and distract
your thoughts when you are involved in something that is
important to you. To maintain your effectiveness, you have to
stop subjecting yourself to being interrupted by these kinds of
people.

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A listener uses his two (2) ears, and closes his lips. He lets the
other person finish without interjecting his feelings, opinions, or
solutions.

You simply acknowledge that you are listening by saying, I
understand or Yes, I follow.

Listen to their story only once. Your obligation to hear it again
comes to an end at that moment.

Now it is your responsibility to become part of the solution (or at
least to avoid becoming part of the problem) by not saying comments like,
My, G-d thats awful or Thats too bad, because you are
adding fuel to their fire. Do you follow so far?

I have learned to make it politely clear that:

I do not have the time I do not have the time I do not have the time I do not have the time

I do not have the sympathy to spare I do not have the sympathy to spare I do not have the sympathy to spare I do not have the sympathy to spare

That I have less than two That I have less than two That I have less than two That I have less than two (2) (2) (2) (2) minutes minutes minutes minutes for them for them for them for them

In addition, I will even look at my watch and stop them when the
time is up. You do fully understand this?

Failing to do this can lead to mental, emotional, and physical
exhaustion. You will be sucked into their world, and give them
control of your mind. Their negativity is like a cancer of the brain,
sapping your energy and clouding your perspective. It can render
you ineffective, and make you part of the problem.

Would you let someone throw trash on your lawn? Would you let someone throw trash on your lawn? Would you let someone throw trash on your lawn? Would you let someone throw trash on your lawn?

Then why have these people do t Then why have these people do t Then why have these people do t Then why have these people do that to your mind? hat to your mind? hat to your mind? hat to your mind?

Listen to them long enough and you will start thinking negatively
too.

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It is not your obligation to sympathize and listen to them, nor
does it make you uncaring if you don't. If you feel you must
listen, then listen once (1st) and if she/he tells you the same story
again, just say:

What can I do to help? What can I do to help? What can I do to help? What can I do to help?

Moreover, add:

I heard your story once I heard your story once I heard your story once I heard your story once (1) (1) (1) (1) and I do not need to hear it again. and I do not need to hear it again. and I do not need to hear it again. and I do not need to hear it again.

If they respond with Yes, but, or You dont understand, then
at this moment, you end the conversation.

If you want to make a good impression on women, be a listener,
not a talker. It draws women out. Women love to talk about
themselves, especially when they find someone who will listen to
them. This will keep them as happy as clams. They will like you
right away.

After years of listening to them talk, I have developed a gift for
imagining what women are talking about when I am not around
to hear their conversations. This is because I know from reading
their body language exactly what they are thinking. In this, I
realize that I have become something I have never wanted to be,
a voyeur.
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I Signs To Learn

I used to go with a girl who felt a profound sense of
entitlement. She had a How dare you? or Who do you think
you are? attitude. She was self-centered, with the me first (1st)



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In a more general sense I am referring to having a habit in observing others without their
knowledge in my surrounding (see Chapter 6: Scope), sometimes with sexual interest if Im with
swingers at a swingers club or at a BDSM party. Please do not confuse this with being a
Peeping Tom.
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attitude. If you cross her path and offer delay or deprivation,
watch out! She has done it to her own family, to myself, others,
and will do it again, to whomever she is with now.

She is good in playing the victim. Please do not get me wrong, I
am not angry with her. I am more disappointed in myself for all
the signs that were in front of me. People who knew her, my
friends, and even my former wife warned me.

We did really love each other, but it just ran its course. The big
problem is we all believe:

Im untouchable, and It wouldnt happen to me, Im too special. Im untouchable, and It wouldnt happen to me, Im too special. Im untouchable, and It wouldnt happen to me, Im too special. Im untouchable, and It wouldnt happen to me, Im too special.

I taught her well how to be independent financially, but not with
respect to her need for a romantic relationship. She has not
found the strength to be on her own.

We both did each other wrong. However, no one (1) can take
away the memories of the good times we had. Some of you may
look at this as if I am handing my power over to her, but in
reality I am not. I am just letting out one (1) of my most painful
experiences and hope it will help you in yours. I am so grateful
for the time we have had together.



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Revised

I don't use my body to seduce, no. I just stand there. Ursula Andress

have realized the importance of having my book finished. To
meet my objectives, I needed to accomplish this. I had to
make a schedule for myself and keep the schedule in place. I
have stayed focused and not allowed myself any interruptions or
delays.

What about you? What about you? What about you? What about you?

No aspect of discipline is more important than keeping an
agreement, doing exactly what I have said I would do, exactly
when I said I would do it.

Effectiveness by definition requires managing the use of your
time, including the time you spend each day getting from one (1)
place to another.

I mention in my Acknowledgments that how I talk and write is
very different, and I want to elaborate on this. My writing usually
needs some adjustments, like for punctuation and grammar. On
paper, I am more concise than I am in a speech. What is great
about writing is that you can always go back and change what
you originally wrote or add to it, while in conversation you cannot
go back and change what you said at that moment.

On stage or one-on-one (1-1) with you, you might miss a clever
turn of phrase if you didnt catch it the first (1st) time, but in
writing you can go back and re-read it. In writing, you need to be
more focused.

Now you have some of my techniques and knowledge for getting
your life, time and confidence under your control. Your energy is
important. Practice what I have shown you, and receive your
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reward. To accomplish and achieve your dreams is a goal you
want to reach.

You will use what you learned in my book time and time again
until it becomes a habit. You will use apparant failure as a
learning tool to help get to where you want to go. You build your
self-confidence to a higher level and double your effectiveness in
life. Learn to control who you are: your time, experiences,
events and emotions that happen around you. You will reach the
success you want.

What I have written has to do with my observation and
experiences. I have written them down to help you in your own
experiences. You will do whatever you want with all you read, for
it is up to you how you handle it.

One (1) thing I have learned is that I have never met anyone that
is not living the life they want. I can tell just by reading their
attitude. Remember, you cannot be me and I cannot be you. You
need to find what works for you. Otherwise, the line I use to pick
up a woman is geared toward my qualification, and yours must
be geared to yours.





Chronicle order of Gino DiCaprios (formerly Jake Hollow)
works:

Dating
(with a little touch of the Universal Law of Creation)
By Jake Hollow

The Jake Hollow Guide on How to Persuade Women

Jake Hollows Guide on How to Persuade Women - Revised

How to Deal with Emotions
and the
Life of a Motivational Speaker

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The Universal Law of Creation:
When You Seek, Ask, See and
Truly Believe Beyond Any Shadow of a Doubt Whatsoever, You Shall Receive!
Chronicles
By Gino DiCaprio

Book Secrets and Laws of the Universe
Book : Time is an Illusion
Book : Illuminatis The Ones and The Shadows