When things are going wrong, remember these things:

1. This Too Shall Pass

2. Some Things are Going Right
3. I Have Some Control
4. I Can Ask For Help
5. Much of This Won't Matter in a Few Years
6. I Can Handle This
7. Something Good Will Come Out of This
8. I Can Accept What's Out of My Control
9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties
10. I Need to Take Care of Myself
Feeling good is also about your attitude
1)get your sleep. Not napping, but a solid night's sleep.
2)exercise. feeling better physically will help you feel better mentally, and if you feel better, you will feel
happier
3)eat better. seriously. I don't mean drop the burger and go for nothing but kale, but work on it
gradually. Buy the good chocolate. Get the San Pellegrino soda instead of the coke. you'll consume less
because it tastes so much better. Get grass-fed beef, instead of whatever's in the shrink wrap.
4)Build a "momentum of success". I know, it sounds totally corny, but it worked for me. Start with stuff
that's really easy to do, and do it. Once it's done, do something else, and do it. If you have two things
done, but don't get to the third, the viewpoint you need to take was that if you didn't do ANYTHING,
you'd have 0 for 3 - so a win overall! Once you get that momentum going, you can more easily take hits
in stride without losing your focus. A setback is no longer a catastrophe, it's a minor annoyance and can
often help to motivate you because now you're MAD at that setback, whereas before you may have
been despondent. And then once you beat that setback, you'll feel even BETTER because you DID
something that you SET OUT TO DO. Your mind is a powerful thing, and the hardest part of having one is
getting it to work for you. You gotta outsmart yourself. And hey, if you don't manage to outsmart
yourself, it's because you're already so damn clever! :)

Dont forget these things
Your brain is fucking wonderful, it takes what it needs out of a day so you're not bombarded with
information and explode. But it gets out of control some times too. Think about one thing at a time. E.g.
I need to pay a lot of bills, shit, got finals coming up, etc. Instead of dwelling on everything and putting
your brain into overload - focus on ONE task and break it down even smaller. I have finals? Alright
what's first? Statistics. Okay that's my focus.
Exercise is wonderful. Unless you're stressed and/or overwhelmed. If you're in a state of arousal, the
best thing isn't to go out and get more aroused; i.e. exercise. The best thing to do when
stressed/angry/overwhelmed is to have social interaction or fuck it, yoga. Point is, if you want to calm
down, do calming things. Catharsis doesn't work.
Don't try to fix everything/everyone. Self-explanatory really. But one of my favorite mottos is: dont give
what you don't have overflowing. I think of this as, if you don't have enough to fill your own cup of
happiness or whatever, you can't give it away and make both you and recipient unfulfilled.
Wiiiind down, there's so much go go go in this day and age that there's no time to really wind down.
Over-stimulation hurts us. avoid electronics an hour before bed. (yes this is hard)
Positive reinforcement works for ourselves too. Make good things internal! What that means is: "yes!
Got that promotion" instead of thinking that you got lucky think of it as "I'm a hard worker, I deserved
it."

Be Happy
Happiness isn't about what happens to you, it's how you react to what happens:
"Natural happiness is what we get when we get what we wanted, and synthetic happiness is what we
make when we don't get what we wanted. I want to suggest to you that synthetic happiness is every bit
as real and enduring as the kind of happiness you stumble upon when you get exactly what you were
aiming for." Dan Gilbert
Money plays a role in happiness, but there's a cut off:
"Life evaluation grows with income. And percentage increase in wealth has same effect regardless of
salary. (So 10% increase at $20,000 has same effect of 10% increase at $200,000 even though actual
dollar amounts are different).... Emotional well-being leveled off at $75,000.... As income decreases
from $75,000, people report increase in sadness/stress and decrease in happiness. Bad things are worse
for poor people." Happiness Money Summary
Learn to enjoy the journey, not the destination:
"But what happens to a breed of people hardwired by genes or culture or both to build, build, build
when most of the building is done? What happens when the sprinting dog actually catches the car? That
first moon landing--Apollo 11--was a very big deal, something we had pursued like nothing else. But
Apollo 12? Sort of a letdown.
It's not as if we don't have the financial means to keep ourselves stimulated. We spent $118 billion on
travel abroad in 2012; we spend close to $25 billion per year to attend sporting events and, combined
with Canada, nearly $11 billion on movie tickets. We buy ourselves an annual $140 billion worth of
recreational equipment and $200 billion of electronics.
But that's consumptive happiness, the happiness that comes not from sowing but from reaping, not
from building the house but from watching TV in your new living room. That may be the goal of the
work, but it's a goal that, once achieved, can leave us feeling bored. The Happiness of Pursuit
Who you hang around with is important:
"In a study conducted at the Harvard Medical School, researchers found that if a friend of a friend of a
friend is happy (who could be a stranger to you), you have a six percent chance of being happier. This
was versus two percent chance caused by a $5,000 pay raise. Furthermore, if its a friend of a friend who
is happy, the odds jump to 10 percent; if its a direct friend, 15 percent." Dynamic spread of happiness
Don't smoke or drink, do get married, exercise, and be emotionally mature (note: YMMV)
"Employing mature adaptations was one. ("Mature" adaptions including altruism, humor, anticipation
(looking ahead and planning for future discomfort), suppression (a conscious decision to postpone
attention to an impulse or conflict, to be addressed in good time), and sublimation (finding outlets for
feelings, like putting aggression into sport, or lust into courtship).
The others were education, stable marriage, not smoking, not abusing alcohol, some exercise, and
healthy weight. Of the 106 Harvard men who had five or six of these factors in their favor at age 50, half
ended up at 80 as what Vaillant called happy-well and only 7.5 percent as sad-sick.
Meanwhile, of the men who had three or fewer of the health factors at age 50, none ended up happy-
well at 80. Even if they had been in adequate physical shape at 50, the men who had three or fewer
protective factors were three times as likely to be dead at 80 as those with four or more factors." What
Makes Us Happy
No really, just be happy!
Honestly?Try to smile as much as you can everyday.It might seem stupid at first,but eventually as you
smile more and more you will become happier and learn to apreciate the little things.Always smile.Even
if you are faking it,just smile.Trust me on this.
I embrace the magnificence of how far humanity has come. All of the little intricate details of our lives,
how we are connected with one another whether we intend to be or not. The bed you woke up in this
morning is something even kings could not have imagined thousands of years ago. Appreciate
everything, forget about hate, forget about the self, enjoy the world.

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