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The Pillars of Well Being 2

The document summarizes the second part of a program on the Pillars of Well-Being, focusing on two pillars related to "Resourcing": 1) Vitality - developing a sense of aliveness, energy, and capability through improving diet, exercise, sleep, grit, and using stress in a skillful way. 2) Gratitude - feeding pleasure and fulfillment through heightening sensory awareness, recognizing blocks to pleasure, and developing an unconditional sense of happiness. It also previews the next part will cover pillars related to "Regulating" thoughts, emotions, and relationships for balance and effectiveness.

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The Pillars of Well Being 2

The document summarizes the second part of a program on the Pillars of Well-Being, focusing on two pillars related to "Resourcing": 1) Vitality - developing a sense of aliveness, energy, and capability through improving diet, exercise, sleep, grit, and using stress in a skillful way. 2) Gratitude - feeding pleasure and fulfillment through heightening sensory awareness, recognizing blocks to pleasure, and developing an unconditional sense of happiness. It also previews the next part will cover pillars related to "Regulating" thoughts, emotions, and relationships for balance and effectiveness.

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THE PILLARS OF WELL-BEING, PART TWO: RESOURCING

I am really happy to offer my new experiential online program, The Foundations of WellBeing. This yearlong journey uses the power of positive neuroplasticityto hardwire
more happiness, resilience, self-worth, love, and peace into your brain and your life.
Thousands of studies show that you really can change your brain and your life for
the better.
Each month well focus on one of the 12 Pillars of Well-Being key inner strengths for
greater happiness, love, and wisdom. Every Pillar maps to one of the four primary
factors of well-being: Recognizing, Resourcing, Regulating, andRelating.
Even if youre not planning on participating in the program, understanding these Pillars
and how they work in daily life can be a great way to further your well-being.
In my previous article I introduced the course and covered the three Pillars related to
Recognizing: Self-Caring, Mindfulness, and Learning. Now lets take a quick look at
the Resourcing Pillars.
Pillar #4 Vitality
To be and to feel safe, we must develop a basic sense of aliveness, energy, and can-do
capability in a word, vitality.
So its important to address blocks to vitality, such as numbing, negative judgments
about your body, or indifference to your health. You can develop more kindness toward
your body, as well as release any feelings of helplessness related to it.
This Pillar contains a down-to-earth summary of effective ways to improve your diet,
exercise, and sleep. We explore how a persons lifestyle could harm the body and lower
vitality, and how to do (and keep doing!) realistic things to change this.
Vitality also involves a sense of grit, determination, patience, and the capacity to endure
and not be overwhelmed by stressful or upsetting experiences. Well cover how to
develop these strengths, and also how to use the sympathetic nervous system (SNS) in
skillful ways to rev up to avoid harms (fostering safety) without tipping into the red zone.
Pillar #5 Gratitude
Well-being has two components:

Hedonia pleasure, delight, happiness at the happiness of others, love,


sensuality, accomplishment, joy, cheering on a favorite team, comfort, etc.

Eudaimonia fulfillment, sense of meaning or purpose, overall satisfaction in life;


for example, getting up at night to walk a crying baby may lack hedonic rewards
your back hurts and youd rather be asleep but it feels deeply important, the
most fulfilling thing youve ever done.

Gratitude and gladness the sense of receiving and enjoying the gifts, beauties, and
pleasures of life feeds both hedonia and eudaimonia. Unfortunately, many people
develop mental blocks throughout life around feeling truly valuable or worthy, minimizing
their ability to absorb the good around them and feel grateful.
This program will cover two big areas to increase your capacity for Gratitude, allowing
you to take more pleasure from the little things in life:

Heightening your sensory awareness, which allows you to take greater pleasure
through seeing, hearing, tasting, touching, smelling, and imagining.

Recognizing and releasing any inhibitions on experiencing pleasure, gladness,


and joy.

The essence of gratitude is developing an increasingly unconditional sense of


happiness, less and less dependent on external conditions. Through
theFoundations program well put you on the path to getting there!
Pillar #6 Confidence
We have natural needs to feel seen, understood, recognized, included, and valued.
Theres nothing wrong with this! Having these needs fulfilled, particularly during
childhood has a variety of positive consequences: secure attachment, resilience, selfregulation, optimism, self-worth, and exploration. The resources that fulfill these needs
are sometimes called healthy narcissistic supplies.
On the other hand, not meeting our interpersonal needs can lead to insecure
attachment, reactivity, poor self-control, pessimism, inadequacy, and withdrawal.
Whether positive or negative, these traits often carry over from childhood to adulthood.
Confidence in the deepest sense is an umbrella term referring to a sense of worth in
your core that you are loved and lovable, giving and contributing, valued, and a good
person. We grow this sense of true confidence through repeatedly internalizing a sense

of worth. This enables us to stretch our wings and fly high, knowing that theres a
goodness and loveableness inside that we can rely upon in times of trouble.
In effect, we grow strong inner allies that protect us from our inner critics.

In the next article well cover the Pillars related to Regulating bringing balance,
effectiveness, and direction to your thoughts, emotions, bodily states, desires, actions,
and relationships.
I hope youll consider joining me for the Foundations of Well-Being

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