15 Signs The Man Youre

With Is A Great Guy

You dont need anyone to tell you how important it is to read between the
lines and pick up on all those subtle signs that say the person youre with
is a good guy. But, how do you really know hes a keeper? Should you
take things with him to the next level? Maybe even to marriage? Here
are15 tell-tale signs that indicate your man is a great guy and you should
probably hold on to him with everything youve got.

1. He is your biggest fan (arguably at par

with your mom).
You are a priority in his life and hes always looking out for you. He
supports you and your dreams, encourages you when you are feeling
down, and uplifts and keeps you focused on the positive side of life. He
is just there for you.

2. He initiates and holds intellectually

stimulating conversations with you.
Thats because he doesnt like gossip or mediocre, empty rhetoric
like whos wearing what and where. Instead, he initiates meaningful

conversations that stimulate your mind, such as new ways to look at a

situation or make an impact in your own and other peoples lives.

3. He listens to you.
Hes actually your go-to person whenever you want to talk to someone or
just share an experience youve had, such as an experience about work,
about a feeling, about anything. You used to call your friend(s), now you
dont feel the need quite as much because you are satisfied after you talk
to him.

4. He lets you vent.

Sometimes you just want to voice your anger and or frustrations and
have someone there with you who understands where we are coming
from. A great guy is patient and stays put with you as you vent without
getting annoyed or upset. The only thing that upsets him is that you
are frustrated and he wishes you were not.

5. He speaks his mind and does so coolly,

calmly and respectively.
You see, a great guy has got high self confidence. He knows his own
self-worth and doesnt agree to everything you say. He has a mind of his

own and is more than happy to let you have it. However, he speaks his
mind in a cool, calm, collected and respectful manner.

6. He admits hes wrong when hes wrong.

Its not in him to shift blame or try to maneuver out of a situation when he
knows hes clearly on the wrong. He simply admits when hes wrong,
apologies when the situation calls for it and tries to make amends. He
knows to err is human and mistakes are learning opportunities that help
you do things in a better way next time. Theres no shame in that.

7. He is passionate about his job and more

than capable of motivating himself.
This is not to say that a man who is not passionate about his job is a bad
guy. But, a great guy has figured out what he wants in his life and does it
passionately. If hes stuck in a job he doesnt like, hes working towards
getting where his heart really lies and motivates himself throughout each
step of the way. In other words, he has something else besides you he is
passionate about.

8. He takes care of himself mind, body

and soul.
Its difficult to care for others, if you cant even care for yourself. A great
guy knows this and does what he must to keep himself in good shape,
physically, emotionally and spiritually. He might workout to take care of
his body, read books to take care of his mind and go to church or
meditate to nourish his soul (or spirit). Whatever it is, he takes care of his
whole self (mind, body and soul) and ensures he is a well-oiled machine
inside and out.

9. He surprises you with sweet words

and/or acts of love every now and then.
Although hes always loving and kind to you, sometimes he does things
that take you by surprise and leave you muttering, Awww! That is so
sweet, honey. He might tell you, out of the blue, you are the most
beautiful woman on the planet on a day that you didnt even put on your
makeup or make you breakfast-in-bed. Those seemingly little,
unexpected acts of love tell you he truly cares and wants to make you
happy.

10. He genuinely cares about your friends.

Your friends know a thing or two about you that he doesnt and they have
helped you get through some difficult situations when he wasnt around.
So, yeah, he cares about your friends too. So much so, that he might
asks how one of your friends hes not heard about in a while is doing or
even suggest you go spend time with that friend whos having a bad day
or sleep over at her place if she is going through a really tough time in
her life.

11. He treats other people with kindness

and respect.
How he treats other people (especially when no one is looking) is a sure
sign of what kind of person he really is. If he treats people with respect
and is kind and compassionate, hes a catch. If he is dismissive, rude or
even uninterested in the people around him, run! Any negative attitude
and energy you notice will likely be directed at you when all the loveydovey feelings he has for you wane and the feelings do wane naturally
with time.

12. Hes got his act together

and doesnt need you to babysit him.
Everybody plays the cards they are dealt. Nobody is perfect. Great guys
have their own issues too. He might go out clubbing with the boys and
get drunk, but he will still get himself home safely. He doesnt need you
to watch him so he doesnt do something stupid, carry him home after a
drinking spree, or worse help him foot the bills because he is paying child
support somewhere. Hes got all his stuf under control.

13. He is in good terms with your family,

and has made sure youve met his.
It just makes sense to him that he should know and at least be civil with
your parents and other family members, and for you to know and do
likewise with his, including any siblings, grandparents, nieces and
nephews. After all, you cant quite know where you are going together
unless you both know where you are coming from.

14. He keeps his apartment neat and tidy.

It doesnt have to be sparkling clean, but his apartment is not a garbage
dump. In fact, he doesnt even have to have his own place, but any
where he lives is clean, tidy and orderly. A neat and tidy house reflects
positively on his character and mental state.

15. He doesnt want to, but he is not afraid

to lose you.
Yep, thats a good thing because it means he is not needy or clingy. Hell
give you your space when you need it and allow you to pursue your own
passions because he wants you to give him his space, as well. Hes a
great guy!

10 Essential Qualities of a Real

Man Worth Dating
Its awfully easy for a man to puf up his chest and put on a show, but
how can you know if he is a real man worth dating? Discover the truth
today with these 10 Essential Qualities of a Gentleman.

1. A real man is responsive to your needs.

Real men dont merely care about how you fit into their world; instead,
they care about your individual needs. If your partner gets upset just
because your needs interrupt his day or cause a minor inconvenience,
then you should find someone less selfish to share your life with.

2. A real man would never project his

faults onto you.
Real men dont automatically assume a relationships problems are
caused by you; instead, they take an honest look in the mirror before
speaking up, because it can be easy to project your own problems onto
another person. If your partner always points the finger at you instead of
working together with you as a team, then he isnt worthy of your
companionship.

3. A real man is willing to take action

without hesitation.
Real men dont seek approval for every thing they do; instead, they are
confident enough to take action without hesitation. While your partner
should consult you about major life decisions that you deserve to have a
say in, he shouldnt be so hesitant that he seeks your permission for
every single thing he does. If your partner is unable to exercise anything
resembling independent thought, then he will become so clingy that
youll want to scream.

4. A real man is passionate about

something besides his relationship.
Real men dont consider their relationship to be their one and only
interest; instead, they have passions that dont involve you. If your
partner pitches a fit any time you make plans that dont involve him, then
you could be dating a person who is severely lacking in ambition.

5. A real man isnt suspicious or paranoid

without cause.
Real men dont accuse you of cheating without cause; instead, they only
speak up if they have a concrete reason for having a suspicion, and even
then they do so in a way that doesnt involve wild accusations. If your
partner gets paranoid just because you happen to have male co-workers
or friends (crazy idea since that is approximately half of the population),
or if he is so suspicious that he snoops your texts and Internet use
behind your back, then you might be dating Mr. Wrong.

6. A real man can stay calm and cool

during a confrontation.
Real men dont resort to insults, judgement or violence during a
confrontation; instead, they are willing to talk through the issue without

devolving to personal attacks. If your partner explodes in anger at the

slightest provocation, then please tread cautiously for your own safety.

7. A real man cares about his appearance.

Real men dont let themselves go just because they are married or in a
sustainable relationship; instead, they continue to take care of their body.
Physical appearance isnt the most important thing in the world, but there
is no denying that sexual attraction is a necessary ingredient of any
healthy relationship. If your partner cant be bothered to exercise or
practice basic grooming habits, then expect your intimacy to die a slow
and painful death.

8. A real man doesnt add insult to injury.

Real men dont proclaim I told you so! after winning an argument;
instead, they let the issue go as if it didnt even happen. If your partner
makes you feel like a bad person just because you were wrong, then you
might be dating a man who isnt emotionally intelligent.

9. A real man is happy to bask in the

present moment with the love of his life.
Real men arent so consumed by their work that they cant be bothered
to spend uninterrupted time with you; instead, they are happy to turn of

their phone so they can focus on enjoying the present moment with a
partner they know they are lucky to have. If your partner cant turn away
from his work, even for a moment, to express how much he loves and
appreciates you then he isnt going to be capable of providing you with
the romance and attention you deserve.

10. A real man isnt concerned with fitting

into societal stereotypes.
Real men arent spineless conformists; instead, they exercise
independent thought to make their own decisions, with no concern for
what society or the guys have to say about it. If your partner is always
consumed by what is the manly thing to do, then you might be dating a
man who isnt capable of thinking for himself.

25 Qualities of The Person You

Should Marry
Marriage is a big life decision that you should not make without a lot of
thought and reflection. To help you get started, consider these 25
qualities of the person you should marry.

1. They respect your beliefs and values.

The person you marry doesnt have to agree with you on every issue, but
even so, you must have a mutual respect for each others core beliefs
and values. How could it be possible to keep on loving a person you
dont respect? Spoiler Alert: Its not.

2. They help you grow as a person.

The person you marry should help you evolve into a better version of
yourself. That doesnt mean they should belittle you with insults or tell
you that youre not good enough, because positive transformation
cannot happen without total acceptance of who you are; but your
partner should challenge you to step up your game in every aspect of
your life.

3. They trust you, and you trust them.

The person you marry shouldnt be snooping through your phone, private
messages, or browsing history. If they are concerned about a specific
issue, they should confront you about it without mincing words or
sneaking behind your back.

4. They love all of you (even the flawed

parts).
The person you marry should be in love with younot their idea of who
they think you should be. If they cant accept you without attempting to
mold you into another person, you would be wise to look for love
elsewhere.

5. They make you chuckle or have giggle

fits.
The person you marry should make you feel happy and fulfilled, not sad
and stuck. You should be able to smile at each other for no good reason
(other than the fact that youre so happy to be together), and you should
have inside jokes that no one else in your social circle gets.

6. They are okay with the occasional night

in.
The person you marry has every right to expect the occasional date
night, road-trip, vacation, or adventure of their choosing; however, they
shouldnt feel like you always have to be doing something in order to
enjoy your time together. They should be perfectly content to snuggle up
with you in bed and enjoy a rare moment of silence together, with no

need for anything but the feeling of peace and happiness that comes
with being wrapped up in your arms.

7. They make time together a priority.

The person you marry needs to make time for you, because even the
best relationship cannot survive without proper care and attention.

8. They have a life outside of your

relationship.
The person you marry shouldnt expect you to spend every waking
moment with them, because you have hopes and dreams beyond the
scope of your relationship. And besides, two people can only spend so
much time together before getting fed up with each other, so a little bit of
space will be good for both of you.

9. They express why they appreciate you.

The person you marry should make a point of expressing why they
appreciate you, how they feel about you, and what physical qualities
about yourself that they find attractive, handsome, sexy, or hot. Its easy
to feel your partner doesnt care without the occasional compliment, so
make sure they truly appreciate the role you play in the story that is their
life.

10. They are willing to make compromises.

The person you marry shouldnt be a weak-willed pushover who bends to
your every whim, but that doesnt mean they get to be stubborn. It is rare
that one half of a couple is 100% right or wrong in any given argument.
The answer usually lies somewhere in the middle. Your partner should
be willing to talk through any given issue with you and make a
compromise that might not be exactly what either of you want, but is
nonetheless fair to you both.

11. They respect your mom and dad.

The person you marry doesnt have to enjoy spending time with your
family (just ask any married person you know how they feel about their
in-laws to discover how unrealistic that idea is), but they should still have
enough respect to do so without complaint during the holidays and
special occasions that are important to you.

12. They inspire your trust.

The person you marry should be a person who you trust so much that
you feel like you could tell them anything. If you feel like you must hide
things about your past or personality, this could be a sign youre dating
the wrong person.

13. They can admit their shortcomings.

The person you marry doesnt have to be perfect, but they should be
truthful enough to admit it when they are wrong. It is okay to make a
mistake as long as it is followed by a sincere apology and honest
explanation. But if your partner avoids all conflict, denies all shortcomings, and is unwilling to apologize, you might want to abandon ship
unless facing a constant storm of marital strife sounds like fun.

14. They captivate your interest.

The person you marry should intrigue you in the same way a really good
movie does; no matter how many times you watch it, you still enjoy the
experience, and always seem to notice something new with each
additional viewing. If they arent capable of sustaining your interest for
the long-haul, then there is no way you can expect long-lasting
relationship success.

15. They share your vision for the future.

The person you marry doesnt have to be on the exact same life path as
you, but your trails should converge in enough places so that you can
both reach your final destination together. In other words: If your partner
wants to travel overseas, but youre too scared to even get in the plane,
then you might have a problem.

16. They give without expectation of

anything in return.
The person you marry you marry should be selfless enough to surprise
you with the occasional small act of kindness, without the expectation of
getting anything out of it. If youve ever been on a date with a male (or
female) who expected to get laid just because they took you out to a
fancy dinner, then you know exactly what Im talking about. There is
nothing more irritating than people who dont give gifts to be nice, but
rather with a predetermined outcome on their mind.

17. They dont constantly try to one-up

you.
The person you marry you marry has every right to perform a touchdown
dance if they win a poker match or board-game, but its a bit lame to live
your life as if every single moment is a competition with another person.

18. They can be with you in the present

moment.
The person you marry should be able to enjoy a romantic dinner or car
ride together without having to escape into their phone every few
seconds. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a person

who cant appreciate the simple act of looking into your eyes, basking in
your presence, and enjoying the silence? I didnt think so.

19. They turn you on (and vice versa).

The person you marry needs to feel magnetically attracted to you;
likewise, you should sometimes catch your thoughts drifting away to a
naughty place, where you find yourself wanting to rip their clothes of so
badly that it hurts. Looks arent everything, but show me a person who
says physical attraction is 100% unimportant, and Ill show you a person
who is delusional and out of touch with reality. I feel the need to clarify
that Im not saying any look is inherently better than any other. I happen
to be friends with a lot of gorgeous women of any body-type you can
imagine; curvy, muscular, skinny, fit, somewhere in between? It doesnt
matter. The same applies to you too, fellas. I cant speak for everyone,
but there are three things that turn me on more than looks ever could:
confidence, sharp wit, and an ability to make me think.

20. They are willing to confront their

demons.
The person you marry might have a few skeletons in their closet, and
thats okay. I would never tell you to not marry a person just because
they sufer from alcoholism or suicidal thoughts; being unwilling to
confront those obstacles, however, is a diferent story.

21. They dont let feelings fester inside.

The person you marry shouldnt keep their most vivid thoughts and
feelings hidden behind a veil of secrecy. They should be willing to speak
up when something is bothering them, so you can tackle the issue
together as a team. Troubles that are held in have a way of intensifying,
so you probably dont want to marry a person who puts up a barrier that
cannot be obstructed.

22. They remain faithful to you.

The person you marry needs to be faithful to you and only you (unless
you both have agreed otherwise). If you want to get frisky in bed with
other invited guests, then Im not here to judge you, but its very
important that you and your partner are both on the same page;
otherwise, cheating is a thoughtless and inconsiderate act that is
unforgivable in the eyes of many. I usually implore people to forgive their
partners, but this is one area where you might only want to give a person
a single chance, and I cant say I would blame you.

23. They arent resistant to change.

The person you marry shouldnt resist change with every ounce of their
being. Sometimes life presents us with open doors of opportunity that
could lead to a new career, a new house, a new hometown, or (insert the

limitless possibilities that could occur here). If you love to improvise

based on the contents of the hand youre dealt, no matter where that
might take you, then you shouldnt settle down with a rigid partner who is
so afraid of change that they wont even discuss the issue with you.

24. They exercise personal responsibility.

The person you marry should carry themselves like a responsible adult,
not a reckless teenager. While life is meant to be fun, that doesnt mean
it should resemble a 24/7 shopping spree. If your partner is bogged
down in debt, or misses payment after payment, or is unemployed and
doesnt seem to care, then his or her financial woes will become a
constant source of stress as soon as you tie the knot. Unless dealing
with collection calls and paying for a bunch of stuf that shouldnt even be
your problem

Before You Let Someone Enter

Your Life, You Should Have
These 15 Things First
If you think getting into a relationship will make you whole or
complete, think again. So many people enter into a relationship thinking
the other person will have the ability to make them happy, when in reality
happiness starts from within. If you want a healthy, long-lasting

relationship, make sure to have these 15 qualities before you start

looking for that perfect match:

1. Self-worth
Knowing your worth means you wont settle for less than you deserve.
You wont be looking for someone to complete you, because you
understand that you are already complete. You know youre worthy of the
time, energy, and dedication a relationship takes. A good sense of selfworth also means youll be less likely to settle in a relationship.

2. Your own group of friends

Having a stable group of comrades will provide you with an equilibrium.
New relationships tend to take up a large chunk of time in the beginning,
and a good group of friends will remind you to stay balanced. Another
benefit of fostering friendships before you enter into a romantic
relationship is having people who know the real you. Good friends will tell
you if you arent acting like yourself.

3. A realistic view of relationships

The honeymoon phase isnt going to last forever. When the infatuation
subsides and you settle back into a routine (except now another person
has been added into your routine), this doesnt mean the relationship is

fizzling out. Long-term relationships arent meant to continuously function

on an emotional high. Unfortunately, our society has portrayed an
unrealistic view of romance through movies and literature. It is important
to remember that real relationships involve real people, each with their
own set of flaws and idiosyncrasies. Being realistic in your expectations
is essential. In order to stay fresh, relationships take consistent efort
from both parties.

4. Financial independence
Youll want to make sure youre not only financially independent, but also
that you have a well-rounded understanding of money management. A
level head when it comes to money will keep you in control of your own
financial well-being. Being financially independent before you start a
relationship will give you a sense of security. You wont have to depend
on anyone else to keep you afloat.

5. Let go of that ex
In order to cultivate a healthy relationship with a new person, all feelings
toward your ex need to be dealt with. Youll want to have moved on
completely from your past. Entering into a new relationship without
resolving a previous one can lead to unnecessary animosity. You might
start comparing your new partner to your ex or harboring resentments
and projecting them onto your new relationship.

6. A handle on your behavior when tipsy

Hopefully, youre done with the drunk make-out sessions and hook-ups.
If these kinds of relationships are something you want to continue with,
then you arent quite ready for one-on-one commitment. If you cant trust
yourself, then your girlfriend or boyfriend wont be able to trust you either.
Without trust, the relationship has no foundation.

7. Understand that a relationship is a want,

not a need
You dont need to be in a relationship. You are perfectly okay by yourself.
A relationship is one of those bonuses of life. If you enter into a
relationship thinking you need it, you risk becoming dependent on
someone. This perpetuates a codependent dichotomy, which can cause
harm to those involved. Your relationship is a beautiful addition to your
already complete life.

8. The ability to be alone

Youll want to be comfortable in your own skin before you invite someone
else into your life. This means you need possess the ability to be alone
and be comfortable with it. Can you sit at home with a cup of tea and a
book without getting antsy? One of the hardest things a person can do is

be alone, but its essential. Because even in a relationship, youll find

yourself alone from time to time.

9. Balance
As stated earlier, your friends (if they are good friends) will help with this,
but you have to make sure your sense of balance is intact before
entering into a relationship. Naturally, a new relationship will skew your
balance a little, but you should be able bring everything back into
harmony with ease.

10. An understanding of what you are

looking for
Do you have any ideas about what you are looking for in a partner?
While remembering to stay flexible, also have some ideas about what
you want in a match. Do you want to have kids down the road? Do you
want to travel? Maybe you dont think this is necessary to think about at
the moment, but these are questions that will afect the relationship long
term.

11. The ability to compromise

Compromise in a relationship is unavoidable. No matter how alike you
and your partner are, there will come a time with your opinions difer on a

particular subject. When a diference of opinion occurs, you will need to

come to a compromise.

12. An open mind

Its good to have expectations in mind when looking for a partner, but
also remember to stay open-minded. What you want might manifest itself
in a person you didnt expect. Be open enough to step outside your
comfort zone. This doesnt imply that you need to settle, just try
something diferent.

13. Your own set of hobbies

Know what you like to do. Are you into yoga or paddle-boarding? Your
partner will come with his or her own set of hobbies. Its important to
have your own as well. That way, when your partner really wants to
attend the latest Comic-Con event, you and your friends can plan a
paddle-boarding date.

14. Goals
Its not enough to know what your goals are. Youll want to have
anactionable plan when it comes to achieving them. The right partner will
help you achieve those goals, but sometimes your aspirations can get
lost in the mix of a new relationship.

15. Time
Relationships take time. Getting to know someone takes time. If you are
in the middle of a college degree and working part-time, or if you are in
the midst of a strenuous career, you might not have the extra hours to
dedicate to getting to know someone. This may well be one of the most
important factors in letting someone into your life.