Last Updated: 2/23/15

PKs Fetish Checklist

Checklists are useful ways to see what each person in a relationship is into. Sit down, together or separately,
and fill this out. Be 100% honest and open; its the only way this will help you! This checklist is designed to
help spark a discussion, not to act as the be-all, end-all of your sexual relationship.
Activity: Every attempt has been made to keep these obvious and fairly universal. If theres something
specific youre into, thats what the Notes column is for! For example, theres no entry for figging (anal play
involving ginger root) on here, so if youre into that, put it in the notes for the Anal Play activity.
Why Two Columns: Nearly every fetish has two distinct roles. (The few that dont list an N/A in the
second line.) BDSM involves a dominant and a submissive, most forms of penetration have a giver and a
receiver, and so on. Because of this, every activity has two columns defining the two common roles for that
activity, with the labels appearing just above the Done and Rate column for that activity. (If you want to discuss
a third, fourth, etc., thats what Notes are for!) For activities involving people outside the relationship, its
important to define what Playing Around means, in the Notes; for some relationships, it will be BDSMrelated activities, while for others it may mean kissing and fondling.
Done: Put a checkmark or Y here if you have experience in this role in this activity. Alternatively, rate your
experience from 0-5, with 0 being none and 5 being mastery.
Rate: Rate both roles for this activity based on your feelings about it, using the guidelines below. Its fine to
choose an in-between rating (e.g., 3/4 if you only somewhat like it) or otherwise mix them together. Dont
hesitate to use the Notes column to explain your rating thats why its there!
Rating

Explanation

! Essential

Something you cant live without. If your partner isnt into this, its a real problem.

5 Love

You love doing this. Youll almost never say no, and probably want it frequently.

4 Like

You like doing this. You want to do it from time to time, but not every time.

3 Dont Mind

Youre neutral. Youll do it if your partner wants to.

2 Dislike

You dislike doing this, but if your partner really wants it, youll put up with it.

1 Hate

You hate doing this. Youll do it for your partner, but you wont enjoy it even a little.

0 Soft Limit

You will not do this for your partner. Youre willing to discuss it, but are against it.

X Hard Limit

You will never, ever do this. If your partner demanded it, you would leave them instead.

? Curious

You dont know how you feel, but are definitely up for trying it at least once.
Optionally, you can combine this with a number rating to specify how you think youll
feel about it, from 1? for Im sure Ill hate it it, but Ill try it once to be sure, to 5? for
I want to try this so much, and Im sure Ill love it!

/ Not Applicable This is physically impossible for you to do, usually because you lack the anatomy for it.
(For example, in most male/male relationships, titty-fucking is not an option.)
* See Notes

Too complicated to sum up in this little space. See the Notes off to the right for details.

Keep this first page handy, off to the side, so you can reference it as youre filling out the main checklist.
Much love to the CEPE BDSM Checklist and Yes-No-Maybe: A Kinky List, both of which inspired me to
make a checklist that had as much detail as the former, but was as all-encompassing as the latter. You can
always find the latest version of this checklist at http://fetlife.wix.com/fetishchecklist

Activity

Done

Rate

Done

Rate

Anal Play (Slim /

Gentle)

Giving
4

Receiving
4

Anal Play (Thick /

Rough)

Giving
4

Receiving
4

Anal Sex

Giving
4

Receiving
4

Beating (Fists /
Heavy Spanking)

Giving
1

Receiving
0

Beating (Padded
Objects)

Giving
0

Receiving
0

Beating (Hard
Objects)

Giving
X

Receiving
X

Watching
X

Participating
X

Biting (Hard,
Leaving Marks)

Giving
3

Receiving
4

Biting (Breaking
the Skin)

Giving
0

Receiving
X

Blindfolds / Sensory Deprivation

Partner Wearing
3

Wearing
?

Giving
X

Receiving
X

Painting
?

Being Painted
?

Dom
4

Sub
3

Dom
3

Sub
3

Bondage (Rope /
Intricate)

Dom
3

Sub
3

Bondage
(Encasement)

Dom
1

Sub
0

Bondage
(Suspension)

Dom
2

Sub
0

Penis in anus; fingers and toys

are Anal Play or Strap-Ons

Bestiality

Body Modification
Branding, piercing, tattooing,
scarification, etc.

Body Paint / Liquid

Latex
Bondage (Light)
Tying up with some freedom of
movement (cuffs, etc.)

Bondage (Heavy)
Totally restricted; no or nearly
no movement possible

Notes

Activity

Done

Rate

Done

Rate

Breath Play /
Choking

Giving
4

Receiving
?

Bruises / Marks

Giving
3

Receiving
3

Locking Someone In
?

Being Locked In
?

Giving
0

Receiving
X

Chastity Belts

Dom
0

Sub
X

Clothespins

Dom
1

Sub
1

Clothing (Corsets /
Cinches)

Partner Wearing
4

Wearing
0

Clothing (Latex /
PVC)

Partner Wearing
3

Wearing
0

Clothing (Leather)

Partner Wearing
3

Wearing
0

Clothing (Lingerie /
Sheer)

Partner Wearing
4

Wearing
0

Clothing (Masks)

Partner Wearing
1

Wearing
1

Clothing (Nylon /
Spandex)

Partner Wearing
?

Wearing
0

Clothing (Rubber)

Partner Wearing
?

Wearing
0

Clothing (Shoes /
Heels / Footwear)

Partner Wearing
2

Wearing
0

Cock Rings / Straps

Partner Wearing
4?

Wearing
?

Collars / Leashes

Partner Wearing
4

Wearing
3

Partner Doing
0

Doing
0

Cages / Cells
Catheters /
Speculums

Crossdressing
Optionally plus Sissification,
Masculation, etc.

Notes
Choking, not Breath Play

4 if Straps = Strapon

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Done

Rate

Done

Rate

Cheating
X

Being Cheated On
X

Cumming On
4

Being Cummed On
NA

Dildos / Vibrators

Using On Partner
4

Being Used On
4

Dirty Talk

Filthy Language
4

Sexual Thoughts
4

Discipline / Power
Exchange

Dom
4

Sub
3

Domination and
Submission

Dom
4

Sub
3

Penetrating
4

Being Penetrated
NA

Partner Drinking
4?

Drinking
?

Dom
1

Sub
0

Erotic Dancing /
Stripping

Watching
4

Performing
0

Exhibitionism

Flashing
1

Being Sexual
?

Feet (Licking,
Footjobs, etc.)

Partners Feet
0

My Feet
0

Film (Pictures or
Video)

Filming
4

Being Filmed
4

Fisting

Giving
1

Receiving
1

Food Play
(Insertion)

Giving
0

Receiving
0

On the Bodies
?

All Over The Room

?

Playing Around
2

Full Sex
1

Cheating /
Cuckolding
Cumshots
Indicate where in the Notes, as
well as any Bukkake interest

Double Penetration
Anal penetration while
engaging in coitus

Drinking Bodily
Fluids (Specify)
Electricity (Violet
Wand, TENS, etc.)

Food Play (What a

Mess)
Foursomes
Usually with another couple, all
together

Notes

Cum, nothing else.

More details needed

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Done

Rate

Done

Rate

Gags (Ball, Cloth,

Tape, etc.)

Dom
4

Sub
3

Genital Pain /
Beating / Torture

Dom
X

Sub
X

Engaging In
5

N/A

Hair-Pulling

Dom
4

Sub
3

Hand Jobs /
Fingering

Giving
5

Receiving
5

Private Tub/Pool
4

Public Tub/Pool
4

Hot Wax

Dom
2

Sub
2

Humiliation /
Degradation

Dom
1

Sub
1

Giving
?

Receiving
?

Shallow Kisses
5

Deep, Tongue Ones

5

Dom
?

Sub
?

Giving
4

Receiving
4

Pillow Talk
4

Slow, Tender Sex

4

Massage

Giving
4

Receiving
4

Master and Slave

Master
4

Slave
3

Watching
4

Performing
4

Engaging In
4

N/A

Genital Sex / Coitus

Hot Tub / Jacuzzi /

Pool / Shower Sex

Ice
Kissing
Kneeling / Bowing
Licking
Making Love

Beyond domination total

subservience and servitude

Masturbation (In
Front of Partner)
Masturbation
(Mutual)

Notes

Activity

Done

Rate

Done

Rate

Genital Sex
X

Oral Sex
X

Dom
1

Sub
0

Giving
4

Receiving
?

Dom
3

Sub
2

Oiled Bodies
?

Oiled Play Area

?

Giving
5

Receiving
5

Dom
?

Sub
?

Playing Around
0

Full Sex
0

Less Risky
4

Very Risky
3

Dom
1

Sub
1

While Masturbating
WHY NOT?

Not Masturbating
WHATS THE
POINT

Porn (Watching /
Reading)

Before Sex
4

During Sex
4

Public Sex

Less Risky
4

Very Risky
3

Partner Doing So
4

Doing So
?

Giving
4

Receiving
4

Roleplay (Age Play)

Older Role
1

Younger Role
1

Roleplay (Animal /
Pet Play)

Human Role
?

Animal Role
?

Menstruation (Sex
During)
Nipple Clamps /
Torment
Nipple Play
Nudity (Enforced)
Oiled Sex / Nuru
Oral Sex
Orgasm Control
(Forced / Denial)
Orgies / Gangbangs
Five or more people, often at a
party or club

Outdoor Sex
Pain / Masochism
Phone Sex

Publicly Using Sex

Toys (Discreetly)
Rimming

Notes

Not, pain or anything.

Does the whole kitten thing count here or what?

Activity

Done

Rate

Done

Rate

Cheater Role
0

Paramour Role
0

Siblings
0

Parent/Child
0

Roleplay
(Kidnapping)

Kidnapper Role
0

Victim Role
0

Roleplay (Hypnosis
/ Mind Control)

Hypnotizer Role
0

Victim Role
0

Roleplay (Medical)

Doctor/Nurse Role
0

Patient Role
0

Roleplay
(Necrophilia)

Necrophiliac Role
0

Corpse Role
0

Roleplay (Prison /
Interrogation)

Guard Role
0

Prisoner Role
0

Roleplay (Rape)

Rapist Role
0

Victim Role
0

Roleplay
(Religious)

Religious Role
5

Secular Role
0

Roleplay (School)

Teacher Role
0

Student Role
0

Roleplay (Whore)

Customer Role
0

Whore Role
0

Aggressive
4

Painful
2

Dom
1

Sub
0

Scat / Enemas

Touching / Smelling
X

Tasting
X

Scratching or
Pinching

Giving
3

Receiving
3

Dom
?

Sub
?

Heterosexuality
5

Homosexuality
pls. X

Roleplay
(Cheating)
Roleplay (Incest)

Rough Sex
Saran Wrap (etc.)
Encasement

Serving (Maid /
Butler / Geisha)
Sexual Preference
This isnt a fetish just rate it
here for the record

Notes

Activity

Done

Rate

Done

Rate

Dom
X

Sub
X

Shaving (Genitals)

Shaving
0

Being Shaved
0

Shaving (Other)

Shaving
0

Being Shaved
0

Engaging In
4

N/A

Dom
1

Sub
1

Partner Wearing
4

Wearing
u wun sum fuk?

Spanking

Dom
3

Sub
3

Strap-Ons

Using
NA

Being Used On
4

Playing Around
0

Full Sex
0

Playing Around
0

Full Sex
0

Threesomes (MMF;
MMM if same-sex)

Playing Around
0

Full Sex
0

Threesomes (FFM;
FFF if same-sex)

Playing Around

Full Sex

( )

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Teasing

Teasing
4

Being Teased
4

Tickling

Tickling
3

Being Tickled
3

Titty-Fucking

Engaging In
3

N/A

Triple Penetration

Penetrating
4

Being Penetrated
NA

Partner Wearing
3

Wearing
3

Sharp Play (Knives,

Needles, etc.)

Sixty-Nining
Slapping (Breasts,
Face, Chest, etc.)
Slutty Clothing

Swapping Partners
With another couple pairing
up in separate rooms

Swinging
Open relationship, hooking up
with others without each other

Anal penetration and fellatio

while engaging in coitus

Uniforms
Specify any particular favorites
in Notes

Notes

How slutty does male clothing get?

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Done

Rate

Done

Rate

Discreetly Watching
2

Openly Watching
2

With a Male
X

With a Female

Touching / Smelling
X

Tasting
X

Worship (Feet /
Heels / Boots)

Worshiping
1

Being Worshiped
1

Worship (Genitals)

Worshiping
1

Being Worshiped
1

Engaging In
AND HIS NAME
IS JOHN CENA

N/A

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Voyeurism
Watching Partner
with Someone Else
Watersports

Wrestling

Other:

Notes

( )

Honestly this just confuses me idk