Developing Resiliency
Developing Resiliency
Dr. Robert Brooks, a Harvard Medical School child psychologist, and his
colleague Sam Goldstein, at the University of Utah, have spent their
careers studying resilience in children, including those with SLDs and/or
ADHD. They emphasize that fostering a childs strengths is a great way to
begin the process of creating the ability to bounce back from adversity.
They key elements that lead to resilient children are: 1) unconditional
love from an adult and 2) giving a child responsibilities he can handle.
You can use the Strength Star to gain a better picture of your childs
strengths, and you should begin emphasizing them both in the tasks your
child takes on and in praising her for what a good job she does using
these skills.
Brooks and Goldstein agree that one of the most important things you
can do for your child to build resilience is to unconditionally accept him
for both his strengths and his weaknesses. This means not attacking her
when she makes mistakes and encouraging her to pursue activities in her
areas of strength, as opposed to activities solely in your areas of interest.
Every child needs to have access to an adult who will coach her and
accept her as she is. Besides or in addition to a parent, children can turn
to a sports coach, a minister, or a Scouting leader. Look for mentors in an
area (based on your assessment of your childs strengths) that will help
her flourish. If she is particularly musically
gifted, it may be the person who teaches her
how to play an instrument; if she has a love
for kinesthetic learning, it could be a dance
team choreographer.
It is also extremely important to develop
a pattern of problem solving with your
child. Brooks and Goldstein emphasize
that its important for children to have a
sense of worth that comes from meaningful
From the Book, THE DYSLEXIA EMPOWERMENT PLAN by Ben Foss.
Copyright 2013 by Ben Foss. Reprinted by arrangement with Ballantine
Books, an imprint of Random House. All rights reserved.