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Give Yourself Time

Give Yourself Time discusses the importance of patience during difficult times. It notes that the body needs time to heal on its own and rushing recovery can cause setbacks. It encourages being patient with yourself when making changes or going through hard situations, as changing habits and healing emotionally all require time. Finally, it stresses that having patience is a sign of courage and wisdom, as all healing and growth is a gradual process that requires allowing time for things to unfold naturally.

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Give Yourself Time

Give Yourself Time discusses the importance of patience during difficult times. It notes that the body needs time to heal on its own and rushing recovery can cause setbacks. It encourages being patient with yourself when making changes or going through hard situations, as changing habits and healing emotionally all require time. Finally, it stresses that having patience is a sign of courage and wisdom, as all healing and growth is a gradual process that requires allowing time for things to unfold naturally.

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Give Yourself Time

Be patient with yourself and others. Patience is a virtue and should be


your choice. A doctor’s secret is that patients cure themselves. The
main reason doctors will tell us to take it easy is that they don’t want
us to
interfere with the natural healing that takes place in the cells and
immune
system of our bodies. If a doctor believes a patient is mentally stable
and
really wants to help in the recovery from an injury, illness, or surgery,
he
may prescribe “Activity as tolerated.” If we overdo, we suffer and have
setbacks.
We have to get off our own backs and not be unreasonably hard on
ourselves. Every situation will last as long as it lasts. If you are
recovering
from a medical procedure, how you will bounce back is personal. A
doctor
can only guess based on his experience with other patients. Nature
teaches
us great patience because everything comes slowly in its own season.
This
slow process makes the rebirth of spring so exuberant, such a lift to
our
spirits. We have faith, understanding that in the winter the roses are
dormant. When they aren’t in full bloom, hugging the picket fence and
perfuming the air as they do in July, I buy cut roses at the grocery
store. I
arrange them in vases to place around the cottage. They cheer us up
and
remind us of the pace of nature: after winter, spring does come.
We have to choose to be patient with ourselves when we are going
through a rough patch or a time of major transition. The poet
Longfellow

wrote, “All things come around to him who will but wait.” Don’t be
hard on yourself when you’re making really difficult lifestyle choices
and
changes. It isn’t easy to change our habits. Make a deliberate point
not to
become frustrated by the timing of the outcome. Remind yourself that
you
are trying hard, doing the best you can, to accept the situation you’re
in.
In order for a new habit to become second nature, we need to
consciously
avoid or alter our old way of thinking and reprogram new disciplined
thoughts. This takes time and patience but is well worth the effort.
We shouldn’t set ourselves up for failure. Try not to set rigid deadlines
for when you want something to be resolved or when you will be free
of
pain; this will cause unnecessary stress on your immune system.
You’re
trying to maintain equilibrium and self-control in a tough time. Be
willing to tolerate delays and setbacks. Choose not to get annoyed.
When
you exhibit a calm understanding while trying to grow through these
difficulties, you will ease the pain. While my friend and literary agent
was recovering from a leg operation last year, he ended a
conversation
with: “I’m learning how to walk again. This is where we are now. It’s all
good.”
All of us have to face difficult situations at one time or another. Resign
yourself to do what you can that is appropriate to your circumstances
and calmly, clear mindedly work toward the outcome or result. Don’t
act
hastily or impulsively. Wise Emerson reminds us that “Every sweet
hath
its sour.” Even perfect roses have thorns. We have to accept the not
so
good in order to make the best of reality.
I don’t know anyone who is on easy street. We all have sadness even
when we are living a good, happy life. We choose to endure and be
persevering. When you find yourself in a muddle, when you don’t
know
what you want, when what you want isn’t happening, or when you feel
overwhelmed by circumstances that have caused you great
misfortune,
give yourself time. Things won’t seem so raw; pain won’t be as acute,
six months or a year from now. Learning to live alone after your
spouse
dies takes time. Studies indicate it can take several years before
husbands

or wives are back to their usual set point of happiness. The powerful
choice is to be patient even if the period of suffering is long. Anything
that happens to us happens to others. All healing—mental, emotional,
physical, and spiritual—requires time and patience; this is a true need
that requires moral courage.
When you’re learning something new and may not understand it
right away, keep at it. Out of the blue, the brain will make the
necessary
connections. I read Aristotle, for instance, in the mornings when I am
fresh from sleep, because, while he is brilliant, he is not easy to read.
The
more I study his works, however, the more I understand his practical,
useful, uncommon commonsense philosophy. He teaches us that if we
wish to understand things, we must watch them develop; it takes time
for
what we have learned to become our nature.

Trust. Wait. Hope. Believe. Love. Meditate. Patience is a sign of genius


certainly a badge of courage. We’re all part of humanity. We’re all in it
together. We have to have the humility to give others and ourselves
time.

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