STAGE 3: LEARNING PLAN

LESSON 1: KNOWING ONESELF

DATE
SECTION

COMPETENCY REFERENCE:

1. explain that knowing oneself can make a person accept his/her strengths and limitations
and dealing with others better (EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.1)

OBJECTIVES:

1. understand and explain what self-concept is

2. compare their actual self to their ideal self
3. evaluate themselves by making a banner of their strengths and weaknesses

ESSENTIAL QUESTION (EQ): How can understanding yourself pave the way to self-
acceptance and better relationship with others?

Day 1
1. Hook: “Are You Human”
a. Answer a series of questions based on talk by Ze Frank entitled “Are You Human”
b. Share their insights in the activity
c. Guide questions
- What did you feel when you heard that the title of the activity?
- How did you feel while answering the questions?
- What did you learn/realize in the activity?
2. Presentation of objectives and EQ of the day
3. Lesson Development:
a. Know Thyself
- For Socrates, it seems ridiculous for him to investigate other unimportant things
when he has not known his self yet
- The most important thing to pursue is self-knowledge
- Admitting one’s ignorance is the beginning of true knowledge
- For Plato, the beginning of knowledge is self-knowledge
b. But, what is “self”?
- Self is defined as the cognitive and affective representation of one’s identity, it is
defined in terms of human characteristics such as behavior and thought
c. Discuss what self-concept is. Differentiate the following terms: (Obj.1)
- Ideal self - the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope will possess
characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure.
- Actual self - the one that you actually see. It is the self that has characteristics that
you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.
- The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self-
 concept refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates
these two selves. In other words, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self
as separate from others, and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated
in the actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self.
d. Activity: Self-concept Inventory
- Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the following self-concept
inventory in your journal. Give yourself a rating using the scale: 0 = very weak; 1 =
weak; 2 = somewhat weak or somewhat strong; 3 = strong; 4 = very strong
___1. I have strong sex appeal.
___2. I am proud of my physical figure.
___3. I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome.
___4. I exude with charm and poise.
___5. I am easy to get along with.
___6. I can adjust to different people and different situations.
___7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with me.
___8. I am lovable and easy to love.
___9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction.
___10. I am intelligent.
___11. I have special talents and abilities.
___12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments.
___13. I can be trusted in any transaction.
___14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilty feeling.
___15. I have integrity and good reputation.
___16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth emulating.
___17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.
___18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to accept what I say.
___19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty.
___20. I am a good listener.
___21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with trouble.
___22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions.
___23. I feel and act with confidence.
___24. I am a mature person.
 4. GENERAL PROCESSING
a. Do you know yourself?
b. Do you think other people know the real you?
c. Is it necessary to make other people understand the real you?
d. Why is it important to know yourself?

5. CLOSURE: Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering

others is strength, mastering yourself is true power.
6. EVALUATION: Quick recitation (review on the topics discussed)
7. ASSIGNMENT: Bring a short bond paper, used magazines, and other art materials.

Day 2:
1. Review: Recitation on what was discussed on the previous meeting
2. Hook: “The Selfie phenomenon”
a. Show pictures and posts of people from different social networking sites.
b. Students will give their insights on the images.
- Describe the pictures that you see?
- What are their similarities?
- Can you relate to different posts of other people?
 - What do you feel when you see the posts of your fb friends?
- Why do you think people somehow feel the need to posts updates about their
lives?
- What do you feel whenever you post something in the social media? What are
you expecting?
- Do you filter the things you post? Why?
3. Lesson Development:
a. There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because
there are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges
are exemplified in social roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived
from outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development. Alignment is
important. If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be
(the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the
way that I am is not aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of
alignment, will result in mental distress or anxiety. The greater the level of
incongruence between the ideal self and real self, the greater the level of
resulting distress.
b. Activity: My Actual vs Ideal Self (Obj. 2)
- Students will create an artwork that will show the difference between their actual
self and their ideal self
- They may use cut out pictures from old magazines.
- This will be done in a short bond paper.
- There should be a brief explanation at the back.

4. GENERAL PROCESSING
a. What are the differences between your ideal self and your actual self?
b. Where do you think is your ideal self based on?
c. How does this gap between your actual and ideal self affect you?
5. CLOSURE: Personal development’s aim is greater self-knowledge that will lead to higher
alignment between these two personality domains.
6. EVALUATION: Short Quiz
This is the human test. A test to see if you are a human. I have distributed a like button printed
on a paper. If you agree with my statement raise the paper with the thumbs up, if not raise it
with the thumbs down

Notes:
Are You Human Questions:
1. Have you ever eaten a booger when you were a child?
2. Have you ever tried using CAPSLOCK to show aggression in a text message?
3. Have you ever tried answering to a text message with the word “OK” just to end the
conversation?
4. Have you ever tried to guess someone else’s password so many times that it locked their
account?
5. Have you ever had a nagging feeling that one day you will be discovered as fraud?
6. Have you ever broken something in real life and then found yourself looking for an
“undo” button in real life?
7. Have you ever dreamed of having special power like the ability to be invisible and try to
stalk someone?
8. Have you ever been tempted to, and then gave in to the temptation, of looking through
someone else’s phone?
9. Have you ever stared at your phone smiling like an idiot while texting someone?
10. Have you ever subsequently texted that person the phrase “I’m staring at the phone
smiling like an idiot”?
11. Have you ever marveled at how someone you thought was so ordinary could suddenly
become so beautiful?
12. Have you ever pretended to listen to your teacher by staring at him/her and then
nodding once in a while?
13. Have you ever tried going to school earlier than the usual just to copy assignments from
your classmates?
14. Have you ever woken up blissfully and suddenly been flooded by the awful
remembrance that some had left you?
15. Have you ever felt like your brother/sister is more favored by your parents?
16. Have you ever thought that your parents are too busy to attend to your personal needs?
17. Have you ever felt that your friends understand you better than your parents?
18. Have you ever had the feeling of being left out even by your best friends?
19. Have you ever asked yourself “Am I not enough?” “What’s wrong with me?”
20. Have you ever told yourself that no matter what happens, whatever life is throwing at
you, life still goes on, KEEP CALM and CARRY ON. . .. ,
Congratulations. You have now completed the test. You are all human.
Myers Briggs Personality Test

1. Do you prefer to spend your free time. . . . .

I – home alone
E – out with others
2. Are social gatherings and meeting new people something to be. .
I – avoided
E – enjoyed
3. Do you consider yourself to be. . .
I – private and reserved
E – out-going and social
4. Do you prefer to focus on . ..
S – facts, details, and go step-by-step
N – concepts, theories, and look at the big picture
5. Do you tend to think about and appreciate. .
S – things that are actual and practical
N – what can only be imagined
6. Do you prefer to be. . .
S – realistic and rely on common sense
N – imaginative and do it your own way
7. Do you tend to make decisions based on your. . ,
F – heart, feelings, and emotions
T – head, reasoning, and logic
8. Do you prefer to engage with others in a . . .
F – close and personable way
T – somewhat distant and objectively
9. Which have you been accused of being more often. .
F – being too emotional
T – being too cold
10. Do you view structure and organization as. .
J – liberating
P – restricting
11. Do you prefer you activities to be. . .
J – structured and planned out
P – unstructured and spontaneous
12. Do you prefer to. .
J – control your environment
P – go with the flow
Reading: SELF-CONCEPT
Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self or your
actual self? Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope will
possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure. Your actual
self, however, is the one that you actually see. It is the self that has characteristics that you
were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.
The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self-concept
refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two selves.
In other words, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as separate from others,
and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you
engage in to reach the ideal self.

The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions
that provide insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who we actually are. It is how
we think, how we feel, look, and act. The actual self can be seen by others, but because we
have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual self is our self-image.
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that we have
developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The ideal self could
include components of what our parents have taught us, what we admire in others, what our
society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest.
There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because there
are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are
exemplified in social roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived from
outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development. Alignment is important.
If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be (the ideal
self), then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the way that I am is
not aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in
mental distress or anxiety. The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self
and real self, the greater the level of resulting distress. Personal development modules
ultimate aim is greater self-knowledge that will lead to higher alignment between these
two personality domains.