How Commitment

Works For A Man and

How To Make Him
Commit To You

By: Mark Scott

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In this report, I will debunk many myths women have about men
and commitment. Most women don’t know how, why and when
men commit. Many don’t understand how to get a man to drop his
guard, and be open to the idea of commitment.

This makes it very important for you, to learn the exact dynamics
behind how men view commitment, what makes them commit and
what makes them run away. In many ways, women take the wrong
approach when trying to get commitment from a man, and often
assume that most men are commitment phobic.

In reality! Men do want to commit, but they want to commit to the

right woman, if this makes sense to you. They don’t want to be
stuck with the so called “WRONG WOMAN”, for the rest of their
life. If you are currently stuck with a man, who won’t commit and
you don’t know what to do, then this report will show you exactly
what you can do, to inspire genuine commitment from his end and
make him seal the deal.

Here is my big promise to you – If you pay full attention to all the
concepts discussed in this report and take immediate action on it,
then I can almost guarantee that, you will be able to make him
commit to you without any hassles.

Alright, are you ready? Let’s get to it…

To begin with, I’d like to tell you the big principle or foundation
behind how men view commitment. This is the most important
reason why, men don’t commit or delay commitment. Men value
freedom more than anything else and in order to protect this
freedom, they’re reluctant to commit. A lot of research has been
done on this subject, and it’s a proven fact that when a man is
given a choice between love and freedom, he would most likely
choose freedom 9 times out of 10.

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Don’t let this fact disappoint you yet. Just because a man values
freedom more than anything, doesn’t mean he won’t commit at
all. Let me tell you what makes a man commit in a single sentence
–
Men commit when they internally believe, that being with you
is more pleasurable than protecting their freedom.

In order to get any man to commit, you have to take certain

actions which will convince him, that being with you is the best
possible choice he can make. He needs to know, that being with
you is going to be far more pleasurable, than protecting his
freedom of single-hood.

There are two basic drivers behind whatever we do in life. We call

them pleasure and pain. We are naturally inclined to do more of
the things, which give us pleasure and less of the things which give
us pain. Every effort we take in life is directed towards, maximum
possible pleasure and minimum possible pain. Therefore, when a
man has unconsciously come to a conclusion, that being with you
means massive pleasure and little pain, he’d easily commit. There
basically 3 stages a man goes through, when it comes to the
question of commitment.

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To explain it further:
Stage 1 – He Doesn’t Want Commitment:
• He has made it clear that he won’t commit.
• You stick around hoping, that he’ll change his mind some day.

Stage 2 – He Is Unsure:
• Some days he acts as if you two are a couple, and on other days
he acts like he was still single.
• He treats you like a wife/girlfriend on certain occasions, and
acts completely indifferent on others.

Stage 3 – He Is Ready For Commitment:

• This is the stage you want your man to get to.

So my main goal, with this report is to help you transition your

relationship from stage 1 or stage 2, directly to stage 3 with the
least amount of hassle. As a woman, you already have everything
it takes, to help him smoothly transition from one stage to
another. In fact! This is easier than you think. How can I be so sure
of this?

Let me ask you a question: Have you ever seen a man, who spent
years dating a certain woman, but couldn’t commit to her no
matter what? She tried every possible thing in her power, but
nothing worked and she finally had to let him go, only to realize a
month later, that he is now married to someone else? Sounds
strange right?

What happened? The reality is that, this new woman triggered all
the right buttons in his mind, which gave him the indication that,
being with her was the best possible choice he could ever make.
Therefore, he didn’t hesitate to commit to her.

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When a man feels internally convinced, that he is making the right
choice, he goes straight to stage 3 and openly commits, and yes
this also applies to even the most stubborn guys who claim, that
they’ll never commit. So, do you see how this works?

Now, let’s get to the meaty stuff. Let me show you exactly what
you can do, to inspire him to commit without any hard work. Our
goal is to first, show him that you aren’t on the lookout to trap
him into a relationship and second, is to convince him that, being
with you is the best possible decision he can ever make. So let’s
get to the main, step by step sequence:

Step 1 – Demonstrate That You Won’t Cage Him Or Lock Him

Down:
In order to achieve this, you have to keep things casual. In other
words, don’t rush things or suggest he needs to commit to you.
Don’t suggest how wonderful things would be, if he turned into
your husband and had babies with you. Such things don’t make a
man feel good, rather it burdens him.

Instead of thinking, how wonderful things will be he would in fact,

start picturing all the things he would miss out on if he was
married to you. He would vividly picture how he will not have time
to go out with his friends on the weekends, how he’d miss out on
other fun things, which a man can only enjoy when he is single.

So, the big idea is to make him feel that, being you with doesn’t
mean he will be locked down and you can do this by keeping things
casual. Don’t expect commitment from him because when you
don’t expect it, that’s when you’re the most likely to get it. This
will become clear soon, move on to step 2 for now.

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Step 2 – Make Him Love The Idea Of Being Around You:
Have you ever come across a person who just made you feel great?
Every time they were around, you felt this sense of ease &
pleasure which you couldn’t possibly explain? What happens when
we are around such a person? What’s our natural inclination? We
naturally want to spend more time with this person and want to be
around this person more often.

Similarly, this is the big idea you must follow, in order to get
commitment from a man. When a man gets butterflies in his
stomach at the very thought of being around you, he’d want to
make it more permanent. He must associate being with you, as an
act of massive pleasure. You have to position yourself in his mind
in a way whereby, whenever he thinks of you he gets positive
feelings.

So how can you do this? It can be done by doing fun things

whenever you get together. Make it your goal to turn each meeting
with him, into a fruitful & fun experience for the both of you.

Eventually, he will start to think – Wow! She is such a great girl to

be around. I have so much fun around her. She makes me feel so
good. Consequently, the very idea of you will bring about positive
feelings in his mind and he will naturally, want to make things
more permanent with you. He’d think – This is the exact type of a
woman, I want to be around. He’d naturally want to have more of
what you have to offer. Just by following this one step, you
position yourself as that one-in-a-million woman who isn’t easy to
find.

Step 3 – Indirectly Suggest That You Don’t Want To Rush Things:

Normally, it’s the woman who is trying to convince a man to
commit but with this step our goal is to reverse that pattern.
Instead of giving him all the power, you tell him early on, that you
aren’t sure about anything yet and want to keep things casual.

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In other words: You are letting him know that, you aren’t exactly
sure about him and don’t know, if you’d like to have a future with
him or not. Some reverse psychology comes into play here and he
will start to think –

•Am I not good enough for you?

•Are you telling me you’re not sure about me?
•Are you keeping your options open?

Now he isn’t fearful of being trapped, rather he fears that you

might leave him for someone else. This also triggers his pursuit
gene. As you already know, men are naturally wired to pursue
women, provided you know how to trigger the right buttons. This
will very well, trigger his pursuit gene and he will sub-consciously
want to keep you in his life.

If you’re wondering how to use this step, when he has already

refused to commit, here is what you must do – You should let him
know that before, you were sure but now, you’re not so sure about
a future with him. And to follow it up, show it with your actions.
Take a few steps back and let him come to you, instead of trying
to convince him to commit. This sudden change in attitude will
trigger his pursuit gene and don’t be surprised, if he shows more
interest in you now than ever before.

Step 4 – Give Him Limited Benefits But Never Full Access:

This step is extremely important for many reasons. Women usually
give everything they have to offer, even when a guy hasn’t
promised any sort of commitment. If he can get full benefits
without having to pay the price, why do you think he’d value you
or your time?

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Some women give a guy easy sex, do nice things for him, and go
out of their way to please him only hanging on the false hope, that
someday he will commit. But that day will never come because,
you are already giving him all the benefits a great wife/girlfriend
will offer, without any obligations.

So here is what you should do – If you haven’t had sex with him
yet, do not let him sleep with you at any possible cost. Gently
push him away, whenever he makes an attempt to get physical.
Let him know that you are only open to it when things get more
serious and the time is right.

This is good for 2 reasons – Number one, if he only wanted you for
sex and nothing else, you’d know it right off the bat and will save
yourself a lot of time and effort. Second, now he will look beyond
the sexual aspect of things. Since he knows, that he isn’t going to
get any action from you, he will come to you for more genuine
reasons. He would come to you, because he genuinely wants to
spend time with you and get to know you, on a deeper level. In a
way, you also help him know you beyond the physical aspect of
things.

But, what if you’ve already slept with him? No worries! You can
still apply a slight variation of this concept. You have to slowly
stop having sex with him, and start distancing yourself a little. It’s
important to take away this luxury, when you aren’t getting
anything in return for it. In both scenarios, our goal is to take
away full rights and only give him limited access, which is easily
achieved as long as you stick to the plan.

Let’s quickly review on what we’ve learned so far - You understand

that in order to make him commit, you need to demonstrate that
you aren’t going to lock him down, make him love the idea of
being around you, suggest that you aren’t looking to rush things
and finally give him limited access, but not full benefits.

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Let me now show you, how you can get this formula to work
properly, and attain the best possible results in the shortest
amount of time. In order to get the best possible results, you have
to follow certain actions on a day to day basis. Let me explain it in
more detail:

Action 1 – Practice Being Detached From The Outcome, And

Work On Making Your Life Better:
What do I mean, when I say practice being detached from the
outcome? What I mean is this – When you work hard on getting a
man to commit, your first goal becomes doing anything and
everything to nudge him towards commitment. Often times, you
end up doing, needy or desperate things which further push a man
away.

In order to get the best out of the steps mentioned above, you
need to start by detaching yourself from the outcome. You aren’t
going to focus too hard on getting him to commit anymore. Rather,
you will work hard on making your own life better.

What happens when you do this? When you aren’t focused on

locking him down, but on making yourself more attractive, you
naturally position yourself as a woman, who has a fun life and is
fun to be around. He’d naturally want to spend more time with
you, because you aren’t focused on getting commitment from him.

Always remember – When being with him is an absolute necessity

for you, he’d always run away. But when being with him is only an
option, and you don’t act like you absolutely need to have him in
your life, he’d naturally feel attracted to you and would want to
commit.

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Action 2 – Take Good Care Of You, Emotionally And Physically:
I’d like to tell you something no man would ever tell you. Men
judge you based on how well you take care of yourself, physically
and emotionally. For example – If you aren’t taking care of your
health right now, he would see that as a red flag and would think –
She isn’t interested in taking care of her health right now, I
wonder how bad it’s going to be 10 years from now. Consequently,
he would be reluctant to commit.

Similarly, if you usually force him, nag him or argue a lot currently.
He’s going to think – If she is this bad right now, what’s going to
happen when we actually get married? How miserable am I going
to be when I have to deal with her daily? So it’s really important,
that you demonstrate that you have your life in check, overall.

Now let’s change the mood a bit, and let me tell you a list of
things you should never do, if you want him to commit.

Mistake 1 – Never Ask Him Where Things Are Headed. Avoid The
“Dreaded Talk”:
Men absolutely fear the dreaded talk. The last thing he ever wants
is a woman, trying to convince him to commit or worse force him
to commit. It’s better to avoid talking about where things are
going, or how eagerly you look forward to having babies with him,
a nice house and life-long commitment.

Mistake 2 – Don’t Give Him Ultimatums:

This will in fact turn you into his enemy, rather than a lover. Men
are very competitive by nature, the moment you give him an
ultimatum, he’d take that up as a challenge, and will do whatever
it takes to prove you wrong.

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You’d find yourself in the middle of a dirty game, where he would
try to win by avoiding you, just to satisfy his ego while you will
regret everything you said.

Mistake 3 – Don’t Hint That Its About Time Things Got Serious:
Women, who have been with a man for some time, usually make
this mistake. You can’t convince him into commitment, in fact,
the more you try to convince, the more he will resist. When you
have to convince someone, it means you want them to do
something they don’t wish to do. So, it’s never a good idea to hint,
that he needs to commit because it’s been too long.

Mistake 4 – Don’t Punish Him Right Away If He Refuses

Commitment:
Don’t react negatively, get angry or completely disappear if your
man refuses to commit. In fact! Remain as calm as possible, and
slowly take away all the benefits he was getting. In other words,
stop giving him easy sex, stop answering his calls all the time, stop
doing special things for him, but do it slowly.

You have to communicate, that you aren’t okay with the current
situation and aren’t going to let him have his way, unless he
promises something in return. You’d have to show him, that if he’s
not interested in being exclusive, then you’ll have to either keep
your options open or seek other options. You aren’t going to sit
around, and wait for him to change his mind. But again, the key is
to do it slowly instead of reacting right away.

This will also trigger the fear of losing you. Sometimes, people
don’t know how valuable something is, until they are about to lose
it. Therefore, when you take away his special benefits and
demonstrate, that you are planning on keeping your options open,
he will slowly become more open to the idea of commitment.

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Alright, now you understand all the dynamics of what makes a man
commit, and know everything you need to do, in order to get
commitment. The big key now, is to put all this knowledge into
action as fast as possible. You won’t see any results, unless you
take whatever you learned in this report, and act on it.

This is what I want you to do next - I want you to take out a piece
of paper, and write down what stage your relationship is at right
now. Then, I want you to write the biggest take away, you got
from this report and a plan of action on how you will use these
steps, in your own personal life and relationship.

I have shown this exact same formula, to hundreds of women in

the past, and they have all reported back with great results, in
their relationship. I hope you do the same, and take action right
away. I wish you all the best.

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