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Five Steps For Granting The Gift of Forgiveness (R. Klimes) : Psychologyt Ls

The document outlines two methods for granting forgiveness: 1. A 5-step method involving acknowledging anger, avoiding revenge, understanding the offender's perspective, accepting the hurt without retaliation, and extending compassion. 2. A 4-stage model including uncovering the injustice's impact, deciding to commit to forgiving, working to gain a new understanding of the offender through reframing, and deepening the process through finding meaning in suffering.

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Five Steps For Granting The Gift of Forgiveness (R. Klimes) : Psychologyt Ls

The document outlines two methods for granting forgiveness: 1. A 5-step method involving acknowledging anger, avoiding revenge, understanding the offender's perspective, accepting the hurt without retaliation, and extending compassion. 2. A 4-stage model including uncovering the injustice's impact, deciding to commit to forgiving, working to gain a new understanding of the offender through reframing, and deepening the process through finding meaning in suffering.

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Forgiveness Methods

Five steps for granting the gift of forgiveness (R. Klimes)


A. Acknowledge the anger and hurt caused by the clearly identi ed speci c o enses.

B. Bar revenge and any thought of in icting harm as repayment or punishment to


the o ender.

C. Consider the o ender's perspective. Try to understand his/her attitude and


behaviour.
D. Decide to accept the hurt without unloading it on the o ender. Passing it back and
forth magni es it.

E. Extend compassion and good will to the o ender. That releases the o ended from
the o ense.

Four stages of forgiveness (Enright & Fitzgibbons)


1. Uncovering
Gaining insight into whether, and how, the injustice and subsequent injury have
compromised his or her life. Confronting anger and shame. Becoming aware of
potential emotional exhaustion. Becoming aware of cognitive preoccupation.
Confronting the possibility that the transgression could lead to permanent change
for them. Discovering how the transgression changed their view of the world.

2. Decision
Gaining an accurate understanding of what forgiveness is, and making a decision
to commit to forgiving on the basis of this understanding

3. Work
Gaining a deeper understanding of the o ender and beginning to view the o ender
in a new light (reframing), resulting in positive change in a ect about the o ender,
about the self, and about the relationship. Showing empathy and compassion.
Bearing the pain. Giving the moral gift of forgiveness.

4. Deepening
Finding meaning in the su ering (post-su ering growth). Consideration of times
when we have needed other’s forgiveness. Knowing that we’re not alone. Becoming
aware that forgiveness allows us to feel more connected with others and to experience
decreased negative emotion

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