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#1.
What causes
Nervousness of
Fear of Public
Speaking?

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It may be because of the following reasons:

a. You might be afraid of being embarrassed,


afraid of forgetting what you are going to say, or
may be afraid of saying something wrong!

b. You might be afraid that people might notice


your shaking hands, or they might get to know that
you are nervous.

c. You might have the biggest fear, i.e., the fear


of being judged! You might be afraid that people
would judge you that you are not a confident
person, you lack the required skill set to be a great
public speaker.

d. If you are presenting in front of the known


audience, you might be afraid that people would
get to know your confidence level and would think
that you are less confident than you appear.

It may be any one of them that people get nervous


or have a fear of public speaking.

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It is important to know the root cause before
figuring out the solutions to overcome it.

However, you have to realise that these are just


logical fears and the fear is much psychological
than logical. Logical fears can be done away with
using tips and techniques which you have learnt
through my videos.

But the psychological fears are deeper than that


and hence there is a need to work on them. That is
why I help people work on their limiting beliefs,
their mindset and remove all those inhibitions that
childhood have embedded in their brains and that
is stopping them to learn.

In all my webinars, I help my mentees work on


their limiting beliefs and help them tap their hidden
potential.

You know what are those limiting beliefs?


• poor self-image,
• not liking your own looks,
• having low self-confidence,
• shyness or
• thinking that you are not good enough

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These are all among the reasons that could let
you fear public speaking.

Do you also think like this?

You won’t even realise that people have self-


image issues.

For example, that person might be too concerned


about his looks. Now let’s see how this affects his
or her delivery?

This person is subconsciously obsessed with his


looks, or as a matter of fact, with someone else,
and because of this they are not able to focus on
the task at hand and it hampers their delivery.

Now since the person sees himself performing


badly, the fear of public speaking increases and
now this will be stored in the bad memory of his
brain.

Next, whenever this person gets a chance for


public speaking - he recalls this failure and gets
afraid.

In such a case the fact that the person became


unconsciously obsessed with something else

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other than the task at hand will prevent him from
speaking properly.

As the person finds himself performing badly the


fear of public speaking will increase.
Now this person will store that bad memory in his
brain and whenever he is about to do public
speaking he will recall the memory of the
previous failure and get afraid.

It is a cycle, that is the reason it becomes very


important to work on your limiting beliefs.

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#2.
I am afraid that I
might forget
something or
mispronounce a
word, what should I
do?

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Then my dear friend, you are suffering from a
disease called POP - Pursuit of Perfection.
Perfectionism might be the root cause behind your
fear of public speaking.
Yesterday night I was talking to one of my closest
buddies. He is a great singer and a shayar. He is
talented and has the right skillset. I wanted him to
start his own YouTube channel and sing songs. I
know he has the potential to do so much with the
thing he is good at.

He was understanding whatever I had to say but


he said that divas, I want a perfect studio set up to
do that, I don’t have the right background, how will
I be able to record a good quality video.

I told him that you need to start, things will fall in


place. He said but divas, I don’t think so I write
good shayari.

Then I assured him that buddy, you write so well. I


told him of all those Facebook posts that were
appreciated by the audience, all those college
buddies who still remember him for his songs.

He again said, but divas, I don't have a tripod, how


will I be able to keep the camera still?

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Understand that the pursuit of perfection limits our
ability. It is subjective. A perfect piece as per you,
might not be perfect for someone else. It is
unachievable, unimaginable and frankly
undesirable, so why pursue it?
"I must be perfect, I must not make mistakes else I
will look bad" are examples of false beliefs that
result from perfectionism and that can lead to fear
of public speaking. If you didn’t make mistakes
then you are a super human and if you made
mistakes then you are a human!!

Yes, this does not mean that one shouldn’t aim for
excellence, there’s a big difference between
excellence and perfection. People who strive for
excellence work on the philosophy of constant
improvement and refinement.
Know that this is not a perfect world, making
mistakes is natural and every public speaker
makes small mistakes every now and then. Why
fear it then?

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#3.
Divas, you said that
make mistakes,
then only you
would learn, but
the great speakers
make no mistakes!
What should I do?

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Understand one thing that if you just watch any
great speaker, right from Tony Robbins to Les
Brown or any great public speaker, just pick up
any of their speech, I want you to go and watch his
speech again. And just concentrate on the words.
And try to find mistakes in the speech.
You would be amazed as well as shocked to see
that they made a lot of mistakes, yes you heard
me right, mistakes!

And my dear friend, you believed that great


speakers don’t make mistakes! They do make
mistakes, but what is different is that they don’t
panic about it.

They act normally, that is the reason you didn’t


observe it. Under, it is human to make mistakes,
but if you draw attention to your own mistakes
while delivering a speech, it is noticeable.

So make mistakes, learn from them, have


continuous improvement and you would improve
your skill set of public speaking.

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#4.
Divas, I have a fear
that people would
think that I am less
confident or they
would think that I
am not a good
public speaker.
How should we
handle this?

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You know why this happens?

People believe that the performance of their public


speaking is a reflection of their self-confidence!

Who said this?

Remember one thing always in your life.. You are


not what you do!!

If you are not able to speak well then it does not


mean that you are not worthy, if you didn’t deliver
a presentation well, then it doesn’t mean that you
are not confident.
Have you ever wondered why you are not scared
when talking to a group of 10 friends, because you
are you at that time. But when you are delivering a
presentation you are not acting with your real
personality. You were under the effect of anxiety
and fear.

That is the only reason your performance drops


and it leads to low self-confidence.

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#5.
I've memorized,
practiced and even
recorded my
presentations and I
am still anxious
while presenting.
My job requires
this, what can I do?

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If I say you have two options:

Number 1 - look for another job where you would


not have to deliver a presentation. But remember
that you might miss out on some great
opportunities at your current job.

Or

Take it as an opportunity to showcase your


knowledge, expertise and potential to your bosses
and to the outside world.

Now when you say that you have practiced and


memorised your entire presentation, you are doing
it the wrong way.

Never ever, never ever, yes never ever memorise


the speech, cos then you are not nervous about
delivering or how you would look, you are nervous
thinking what if I forget some lines. So don’t do
that.

Just remember some key words and remember


the key points you have to say about them, your
delivery will appear more spontaneous.

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#6.
Any important tips
that you would like
to give to
beginners?

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Definitely, I would like to give one tip that I always
tell to my mentees. Always, mind you, always wear
the clothes that you like the most for your initial
public speaking gigs.

Understand one thing that if you wore something


that you don't like, then your conscious mind would
not be in that moment 100 percent.

A part of your conscious mind will be busy


analysing people’s opinion about your looks, and if
you already have self-image problems then this
part will be a big one.

Don’t waste the precious resources, yes it is very


much precious, and do your best to preserve
them.

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#7.
How may I reduce
the stress that I
develop while
speaking in front of
the public?

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We often try to learn various techniques, however
we forget to focus on the basics. To reduce stress,
just make sure that you are breathing properly.

Just observe the breathing pattern, don’t breathe


from your upper lungs and breathe from your lower
lungs. Yes, there is a difference when you do that.
Most people don’t breathe properly during public
speaking. This lack of oxygen increases stress.

Try to take a deep breath whenever you find that


your anxiety level is going higher. So smile and
breathe. J

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