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Dismissive avoidant attachment is characterized by a positive view of oneself and negative view of others. Individuals with this style value independence and see themselves as self-sufficient, viewing intimacy and dependence on others as unimportant. They suppress emotions and distance themselves from rejection. At work, they believe they are smarter than others and ignore input, leading to conflicts. They tend to miss deadlines and priorities of others due to working on their own interests for long hours. To improve, they must acknowledge others may have valid perspectives, consciously work on emotional intelligence like perspective-taking, and surround themselves with dissenting views.

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Slide 1: Dismissive Avoidant Attachment

Dismissive avoidant attachment is characterized by a positive view of oneself and negative view of others. Individuals with this style value independence and see themselves as self-sufficient, viewing intimacy and dependence on others as unimportant. They suppress emotions and distance themselves from rejection. At work, they believe they are smarter than others and ignore input, leading to conflicts. They tend to miss deadlines and priorities of others due to working on their own interests for long hours. To improve, they must acknowledge others may have valid perspectives, consciously work on emotional intelligence like perspective-taking, and surround themselves with dissenting views.

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Dismissive Avoidant Attachment:

Slide 1
A dismissive-avoidant attachment style is demonstrated by those
possessing a positive view of self and a negative view of others.[19]
Adults with a dismissive style of avoidant attachment tend to agree with
these statements:

 I am comfortable without close emotional relationships.


 It is important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient.
 I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me.
Adults with this attachment style desire a high level of independence.
The desire for independence often appears as an attempt to avoid
attachment altogether. They view themselves as self-sufficient and
insusceptible to feelings associated with being closely attached to others.
They often deny needing close relationships. Some may even view close
relationships as relatively unimportant. They seek less intimacy with
attachments, whom they often view less positively than they view
themselves. Investigators commonly note the defensive character of this
attachment style. Adults with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style
tend to suppress and hide their feelings, and they tend to deal
with rejection by distancing themselves from the sources of rejection
(e.g. their attachments or relationships).

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Individuals with dismissive avoidant attachment at work tend to think


they are smart and everyone else is stupid. Well, maybe not exactly
stupid, but definitely not as smart as they are. They most likely decide
what they should do and then ignore what others want. This leads to
conflict and mistrust. This mistrust can lead to others attempting to
micromanage and monitor them, which just makes them more annoyed
and more likely to dismiss input.
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How to tell if this is you:

For those around you, your biggest time management issue is most
likely that you miss deadlines and don’t do the work that they consider
most important. From your perspective, the biggest time management
issue tends to be working late. Long hours usually arise when you get
fixated on doing a particular project really well. Or they can happen
because you want to work on what you consider to be important first and
then you also have to complete work for others.

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What to do about it:

To make a change, you need to start by acknowledging that other people


may have a point. You may not agree with their stated priorities, you
may think you know better, and you may even think that the work is
stupid. But if you want to achieve greater success, have people
micromanage you less and work fewer hours, there will be times when
you are better off listening to and doing what other people say. To make
this shift, you may need to consciously work on your emotional
intelligence, including recognizing that an idea different from yours is
not necessarily wrong and that there is value in working harmoniously
with others.

 Surround yourself with people who don't necessarily agree


with you
 Try to see things from another person's perspective
 Give people the benefit of the doubt
 Ask people directly what they're feeling
 Learn to empathize without getting overly emotionally invested
 Know what sets you off
 Practice practice and practice
www.nytimes.com/2015/04/12/education/edlife/how-to-be-emotionally-intelligent.html?
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