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EFT Cheat Sheet-2

This document outlines the stages and steps of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for treating attachment issues in relationships. It discusses assessing the attachment cycle, de-escalating conflict through reframing problems in an attachment context, and restructuring interactions by facilitating new bonding experiences. The goal is to move couples from being stuck in their cycle to accepting each other, expressing needs, and consolidating new closeness through validation, empathic responding, and enactments tailored to each stage of therapy.

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EFT Cheat Sheet-2

This document outlines the stages and steps of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for treating attachment issues in relationships. It discusses assessing the attachment cycle, de-escalating conflict through reframing problems in an attachment context, and restructuring interactions by facilitating new bonding experiences. The goal is to move couples from being stuck in their cycle to accepting each other, expressing needs, and consolidating new closeness through validation, empathic responding, and enactments tailored to each stage of therapy.

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ABC’s of Attachment Repeat Key EFT Reframes:

Needs Image - Fighting the enemy of the cycle together


 Acceptance vs. - Setting the problem within an attachment context Stage 1: Assessment and Cycle De-Escalation
Simple
Rejection - Withdrawing protects relationship
Slow Step 1: Alliance and Assessment – determine stuck place
 Belonging vs. - Pursuing is fighting for connection
Soft - Painting a picture of secure attachment
Isolation
 Comfort vs. Client’s words Step 2: Identify and Track the Cycle – common enemy, what
Abandonment do you do when your partner does that
 Safety Primary Emotion:

Focus on here and


Anger Step 3: Uncover primary emotion, attachment needs and
Fear
now – in this Shame/Disgust position in the cycle for each person
room, right here Hurt/Anguish
right now Sadness/Despair
Step 4: De-escalate by reframing the problem as the cycle
and helping each person to own their position

Enact to heighten new responses


Stage 2: Restructuring the Bond/Changing Interactions

Attachment Frame: Do steps 5-7 for both Withdrawer Reengagement and


Evocative Sandwich:
This is because you
- Evocative Responding –“ what
Pursuer Softening – always do Withdrawer Reengagement
are so important to
each other happens inside of you when…” first.
- Heighten primary emotion
- Evocative Responding Step 5: Partners own and take possession of their emotional
experience of the relationship

Step 6: Promote acceptance of the other partner’s


experiences and new interactions
Common Interventions at Each Stage Step 7: Facilitate the expression of needs and wants leading
Stage 1 – De-escalation Stage 2 – Restructuring Stage 3 – Consolidation to new bonding events
Tracking Cycle Focus on Self/Other New Pattern
 Validation  Evocative Responding  Validation Stage 3: Consolidation/Integration
 Reflecting  Empathic Conjecture  Evocative Responding Step 8: Facilitate new solutions to old relationship issues
 Tracking the cycle  Heightening  Reframing (zoom out)
 Evocative Responding  Reframing (zoom out)  Enactments to Step 9: Consolidate new positions of closeness
 Empathic Conjecture  Enactments to restructure interactions
 Reframing (zoom out) restructure
 Enactments to own interactions
position in cycle

EFT Therapist moves couples from vague to vivid; obscure to tangible; general to specific; then to now; global to personal; passive to active; abstract to concrete

EFT Cheat Sheet – Created by Tami Zak, MFT Intern

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