Texting Cheat Sheet - Apollonia
Texting Cheat Sheet - Apollonia
ASimpleBasicGuidetoPeakHerInterestWithYou
ViaTextmessages,OnlineDatingAppsandSocial
Media!
MynameisApolloniaPonti,yourdatingandrelationshipexpert!
Since2018,Ihavecoachedover5,000menfromallacrosstheglobewhoallhave
thesamecommongoaltofindthewomanoftheirdreams,andthat'swhereI
comeintoplay!Ifthat'swhatyouarelookingforyou'vecometotherightplace
forallofyourneedswhenitcomestodatingandattractingwomen!Ihaveover
70MillionViewsonmyYoutubeChannelandhavebeenfeaturedin
thefollowingpublications:
TextingCheatSheet
ASimpleGuidetoPeakHerInterestWithYouViaText
messages,OnlineDatingAppsandSocialMedia
WomenWANTamantotextthem!Ifyou’vebeentoldtow
aitaround
untils hetexts,thenIwantyoutounderstandthatthatisalie.Youwill
neverwinagirloverjustbywaitingaround.Ifyoudo,youriskeasily
fallingintothefriendzone.Also,youwillneverwina
g
irloverby
overlytextingh
er:-)Findahealthypace.
InthisTextingC
heatSheetyouwilllearnwhyyourtextsshouldmean
business.Y
ou’llalsolearnhowtoberespectful,decisive,whentotext,
howtocreatebanterandlightplayfulnessthroughyourtextandso
muchmore.AttheendI’llshareascriptthatyoucanu
setodaytotext
womenandgetresults.
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TABLEOFCONTENTS:
PART1:W
HATWOMENWANTAMANT
OSAYA
NDD
O
PART2:WHATKILLSATTRACTIONINTEXTING
PART3:HOWTOFLIRTTHROUGHTEXTING
PART4:ONLINETEXTINGSUCCESS
PART5:TEXTINGSCRIPTS
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PART1:WHATWOMENWANTAMANTOSAYANDDO
Whenitc omestodatingandrelationships,languageiseverything.
Textingisagreatwaytostartthatconversation.W hilen otwowomen
arethesame,I'veroundedupsomeoftheessentialqualitiesthat
almosta llw
omenwantinaman.Readonifyoun eeda fewpointers.
Shewantsyoutobedecisiveanddoesnotwanttob eyourpenpal.
Thinkaboutw henyouareplanningadateoraskingh ero utandyou
cannotc omeupwiththerestaurantortime.Thiss howsa womanthat
youarelackingconfidenceandareunsureofyouractions.Wedonot
seethisa samasculinetraitandmasculineenergyiswhatturnsuson
inthea ttractionphase.(Justlikefeminineenergyturnsyouon!)
Shewantsyoutobuildtrustandrapportbecauses hewantsyouto
buildane motionalconnection.Shewantstomakes urethatyouaren’t
someonecrazybeforeorevenafteryourdate.Shewantsyoutotake
thetimetogettoknowherandformanemotionalc onnection.Thisis
aformofseductiontowomen.Whenamancanmasterp utting
himselfona pedestal,havingapurpose,beingrespectful,n otbeing
setona c ertainoutcomeandthenbuildinganemotionalconnection,
wehave…DINGDINGDING!Awinner!Thewomanw illb
ebegging
tohavey ouinacouplemonths!
Whenyoucomeoffasmysteriousandinhighdemand,y ouspark
curiosityina w
oman.Nothingsparksattractionm orethancuriosity.I
don’tb elieveyoushouldbeanopenbookinthebeginningbutgive
herlittled osesofexcitementastimegoesonaboutyourlifeandwhat
youdosos hec anwanttobeapartofit!
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Awomangetse xcitedtoseeatextfromyouONLYw heny ourtexts
meanBUSINESS!Italkaboutthisalot.Youwanttosetupfaceto
faceinteraction.Donotgetcarriedawaytextingallday.Instead,
simplysendcheck-intextsandplanningtextssoshec angetexcited
toseey ournamepopuponthephone.
Whenyoucomeoffasnotbeingconstantlyavailableb uth
avetimes
whenyoucanbeavailable,itshowsthatyouaren’t100%inandthat
shestillhastowooyou.Listen,whetherawomanw illo
penlyagreeor
not,wea llliketofeellikewehadtoworkforsomething!
PART2:WHATKILLSATTRACTIONINTEXTING
Inmyy earsofcoaching,Ihavenoticedonecommonthingthatkills
attractionwhenitcomestotextmessaging.It’swhenthemanstartsto
getfeelingsforthewomanbutstartstogetinsecureandshowsitin
histextm essages.Thisistypicallybecauseyouh avep utallyour
cardsond eckandexpectedtogetthiswomaninarelationshiporin
bed.Insteadofjustbeingpresentandatflowandknowingyourworth.
Herearethethingsthatstarttohappen.
•Youstartoverthinking.
•Shed oesn’ttextyouwithinthefirstthreehoursandyoufreakout.
•Youarea lwayspushingtoseeherandshe’snot.•Y
ouaretoo
availableandalwaystextingherfirst.
•Youarea skingquestionstoseekvalidation.Like“ doyoulikeme”
texts
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•Youstarttofocusonyourinsecuritiessomuchthaty oukillthe
spark!
Iamgoingtogiveyouanexampleofaclientmessagingthegirlhe
wasdatings oyoucanseewhatI’mtalkingabout.Thiswasright
aroundthetimehestartedtocatchfeelingsbuts hedidn'ttexthimfor
twodaysb ecauseshewasverybusywithwork.Sheactuallytoldhim
thisacoupled ayspriortothetwodaysshedidnottexthim…
Girl:“Besto fluckforyourmeeting,I’mhappytomeetforadrinkifyou
wantafterwork.”
Guy:“ Id on’tk now,shouldImeetyou?Dependsony ourreal
intentionsandifyoutrulydesiretoseeme…”
Girl:“Imeanit’suptoyou-IalreadytoldyouI’mhappytomeetupif
youfeelinn eedofabreak.”
Guy:“ WhataboutifIdon’tfeellikeI’minneedofabreak?”
Girl:“That’salsofine.I’mjusttryingtobenicehonestly,y oucan
decidetomorroweveningifyouprefer.”
Guy:“ I’mjustm essingaroundbutthankyouformakingitc learthat
youdon’tactuallywannaseeme&you’rejusttryingtobenice.”
Girl:“WowIhaven’tsaidthatIdidn’twanttoseeyou,Ithinkyouare
overreactingalittlebit.”
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Guy:“ Itwasp rettyobviousandwrittenbetweenthelines.”
Girl:“LookIdidn’tmeanitlikethatbutdon’twannaarguea boutthis
becauseit’sn otlikeweareinarelationship.Ilikes pendingtimewith
youandIw ouldbeupforgoingforadrinktomorrowbutIa lsohave
lotstodofromw orksodon’treallymind.”
Guy:“ emojisymbolOK”
Thenaftera w eek,hethinksit’soktostartwhereh eleftoff
Guy:“ Hey!H owareyou?Triedtocallyouyesterdaya ndwantedto
takeyououtovertheweekend.Fancyapizza?”
Girl:“Hi- --,I’mgoodthanks!Sawyourphonecalllaterbutwasn’tsure
ifyouc alledbymistake.Iamnotsureaboutthew eekend,tobe
honest,itjustseemsthatwearenotonthesamep age.Ithinkyouare
aniceg uyandIhavefunhangingouttogetherb utit’sp robablybest
forustoendithere.Hopethat’sokay”
Guy:“ Ia ppreciateyourmessage,seemstobeam issu nderstanding,
wouldbeidealtodiscussinperson.
Clearly,thiskilledattractionandmadethegirlthinkofh ima sneedy
andd esperatewhichwasacompleteturnoffandisthereasonwhy
sheplayedthe“notinarelationship”card.She’sbasicallysayingthat
shedoesnoth avetoanswertoyourhotmess!
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Okay,letmediagnosethistextmessagingchain.S hes tartedoffona
highnotea ndw asopenenoughbytellinghimthats hewantedtosee
him.T hen,b ecausehewasinsecureandoverlyemotionalaboutthe
factthathewasnotgetting100%ofherattentionh eleth is
insecuritiestornadointothistextmessagingchain,a ndletmetellyou
thatishardtorecoverfrom!
Pacingyourselfandgoingwiththeflowistheultimatek eytosuccess!
That’swhyit’ssoimportantthatIoutlinethewaysmenm essup
attractionjustthroughtextmessages.Makesurey oujustd on’t
continuetoignoreandbeinconsistent.
Challengeyourselftotakeyourtimeandnotlety ouremotionsorfears
gettheb estofyou.Thisiswherethingsstarttogetalittlefoggy.
PART3:HOWTOFLIRTTHROUGHTEXTING
Understandthatflirtinghastobedonewithtact.G uyss ometimesget
thewrongideaofflirting.Somethinkthatlinesliketheseareactually
flirtatiouswhentrustme,theyaremoreoff-puttingthananything!You
mustmakesureifyouuseoneofthe“ Hot”textswhenyoualready
wereintimatea ndwenttothenextlevel.Sheisinterestedinyou
sexuallyhere.Youdonotsendtheseifsheisnot!“ W arm”Isb ecause
youhavekissedandthingsaregoinggreat.“ Cold”m eansn othinghas
reallyhappenedandyouarejusttryingtobeplayful.
COLD:“ Thisn umberisgoingtobethemostimportantphonen umber
yousaveallyear.”
- Thisw orksgreatattheapproachandfirstm eetinge xchange!
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WARM:“ Myearisringing.Youmustbetalkinggreata boutm eo r
thinkingaboutthewayIkissedyoulastnight.Eithero neIapproveof.”
HOT:“ Sendmeasexypic”“Justgoto utoftheshowera ndthinking
abouty ou.”“I’mjustinmyunderwear”“Inmybedalonen akedand
thinkingaboutu.”
Here'ssomethingIwanttoclearup.
Youa retryingtoattracther.Thesetypesoftextsd onotattracther!
Especiallyifyouaredoingthistooearlyon.Atthisstage,w hena
womanreceivesmessageslikethisfromyou,shecanthinkyouare
comingontoos trong,aggressiveandjustplaincreepy.Showing
sexualityo rsexualinnuendosdoesnotautomaticallyequalflirting.
Alotofmengowrongwhentheyassociateflirtingwithsex.Sothat’s
whyit’ssoimportantthatIpointthisout.Flirtinghasn othingtodowith
sexandthisdoesnotcreateaconnection.
IfyoudownloadedtheextensiveTextingCheatSheet Herewegoin
moredetaila ndgiveyoumoretextyoucansend.
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Remember,youwantthegirltowantyou!So,takingthestepstobuild
aconnectionishowwomenstarttowantyou.FYI-itd oesn'tjust
happenthroughtext!Youhavetoseeeachothera ndgoo utondates
together.
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Ther ighttypeofflirtingthroughtextismeanttob uildconnection,
showcaseconfidence,andgethertoseeyoutakea n
ewa pproach
ands parka s enseofcuriositythatgetsherthinking.“ Iw
anttoknow
moreaboutthisguy.”Right?So,youwanthertowanty ou?!Thenlet’s
stopassociatingflirtingwithsexting.
Also,let’sn otassociatetextingwithattraction!Toomuchtextingcan
alson otserveitspurpose.
Eventhoughflirtingisabigpartofdating,it’softeneasiersaidthan
done.W illyousaythewrongthing?Willyoucomeo ffa scheesy?Will
theymisinterpretyourmotives?Whenyousendflirtytexts,itlets
someoneknowthatthey’reonyourmind.Itopensupthec onversation
and,ideally,helpssetupyournextdate.Still,whatshouldyousayin
aflirtytext?
Youw anttocomeoffasconfidentbutnotoverbearing;funnyandifit’s
cheesy.O WNIT! Don’toverthinkit,andkeepitshortandsweet.
Hereareacoupleideastotextwomenwhenyouwanttoflirt.Iam
goingtobreakitdownforyouindifferentstages.
FlirtyQuestions&Remarks:
COLD:“ Wanttohavethisconversationinperson?”T hisisawayto
gageifshe’sr eadytogooutonadate.
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WARM:“ Wanttok nowasecret?”Intriguingbutremembertoreply
withyours ecret.Response:“Thisgoesagainstallrulesbutthinking
abouty ouisjustsodistracting.”(enterwinkemoji)
or….
Thenjustlightenitupwithsomethingcutelike,“ Wasjustthinkingofa
girlnamed( enterhername&insertwinkemoji).”
WARM:“Thinkingaboutourkiss.Can’twaittosweepyouo ffyourfeet
evenm orenexttime.Haveagreatday!”
Endthec onversationsoyoustayincontrolwiththistypeoftext.Trust
meshewilltextyoulaterthatnightwhenshedoesn othearfromyou.
COLD:“ I’mnotbigonthewhole3-daytextmessagethingsoI’m
textingyounow.Iwantedtoaskyouout,butIfiguredIwouldstart
withatext.”
Thistextisa
g
reatopenerwhenyoujustmeetthegirla ndshegave
youhern umber
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PART4:ONLINETEXTINGSUCCESS
Effort&C onnection:
Looka th
erprofileandmakeaconnection.Showthatyoulookedat
herphotosa ndwhatshehadtowrite.
Let’ss ayherbiolistedthatshelikestotravelandy ousawaphotoof
herinItaly.Saysomethinglikethis.
“Ihavea questionforyou,InoticedyouwenttoItaly.Wouldyou
suggesta v isit?”
“I’veb eenthinkingaboutitmyself.Mynameis___”
Let’ss ayshelikescats:Say…”Ipreferdogsbutcatsarer eallygreat
too.Whyarecatsyourchoice?”
ClearUnapologeticConfidence:So,thelastexampleisasimilar
approachtothis.Butherearesomemore.Eventhoughyoumightnot
beinterestedinsomethingsheisinterestedin,it'soktos tateitor
havea nopinionandbeproudofit.Ofcourse,withrespect!
Let’ss ayshementionsherzodiacsign:
GeminiZodiacSignResponse”“I’msurebothpersonalitiesa regreat!
Howa rey ou?”
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Humor&Flirty:
“I’veb eenonthisappforawhileandreallyhaven’ts eenmuchthat
stealsmyinterestuntilnow.Howareyou?”(Flirty,c onfident,and
complimented,butnotcreepy)“It’syourturntotellm ea boutyour
favoriteb ook.”“I’mlookingforwardtohearingyourexplanationofwhy
yogaiss oimportanttoyou?”Or“I’mlookingforwardtohearingyour
explanationo fwhyyouinsistonwearingthatblackdressinnearly
everysinglephoto.;)I'mnotcomplainingthough.”
● Lengthofthefirstmessage:Whenyoufirstm essagea w
oman,
youwanttomakesurethemessagelengthisn ota p
aragraph
long.IncorporateoneofthethingsImentioneda bovea ndstart
fromthere.Isuggestnottogoover4-5sentencesa sthisc ould
betoolongandyoujustwanttogetstraighttothep oint.Mention
somethingfromthestartaboutherprofile,sos heknowsthatyou
paidattentionandbuildtheconnectionfromthere.Afterthat,you
willseethatsheisreciprocatingandtheny oucantakeitfrom
there.
● HerResponse:Womenhavethewhole“waitingg ame”d ownto
afineart.S omewillmakeyouwait,andsomed on’th avetime
forthat.Don’tthinkit’salwaysgamesbecauses hecouldb e
busy.Typically,itcantakeawomanuptotwodaystorespond.If
herresponsetakeslongerdon’tautomaticallya ssumethatshe
isn’tinterested.So,ifsherespondsthatmeansthereispotential.
Ifshetakesa w
hiletorespond,thekeyhereistonotrespond
automatically.Waitacouplehours.Especiallyifittookh erover3days
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torespondtoyou.Alotofdatingcoachessaytor espondafterthe
numbero fdaysshehadyouwaiting,andthat’sa B
IGNONO!
Womenwilljustdeleteitandmoveon.Also,theystarttolackinterest
whenyoumakethemwaitlongerthannormal.So,makethemwaitbut
don’ttake3-5d aystorespondunlessyouareseriouslyb usy.Hereis
alineyoucanuseifyouarebusy.“Hithere,myapologiesasIhave
beentravelingtoNYCthisweekanddidn’tgetachancetorespond.I
seethaty ou’vevisitedhere.Doyoulikeit?Howareyou?”(cool,
calm,c asual,a ndupfront.)
Whensherespondspositivelytoyourmessage,itmeansthatshe
likesy ourr esponsesokeeptheconversationgoinga ndthinkofitlike
atennism atch.Waitforherresponsesanddonotoverlyr espondand
havea c onversationwithyourself.Thiswillnotgetaresponseback.
PART5:TEXTINGSCRIPTS
Firsttextafters hegetsyournumber:Typicallywhenyoug iveagirl
yournumberyoujusthavehercallyouatthatmomenta ndyousave
eacho ther'snamesonyourphonesatthatmoment.
Hereissomeopeningtextafteryoumeet.
“Hey[hername],thisis[yourname]…savethisnumber…it’sthe
mostimportantoneyou’regoingtoget.:)”
Note:ThisistheoneImentionedtouseaftersheg
etsy ournumber
andy ousay“ textmesoIcansaveyournumber.”
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Onceshed oes.Textherbackthis.“Hey[hername],thisistheone
guythath adenoughcouragetoapproachyou. N 😉 owIhaveeven
morecouragetosendyouthefirsttext.Lol,Howareyoud oing
today?”
“Hi[hername]itwasnicemeetingyou[enterdate].”
“Hi[hername]thisisthemostimportantnumbery ouwilleversavefor
thewhole[enteryear]."lol“Rememberthisgreatg uythaty oumet
on/at[enterdateorthelocation]he’srighthere!:-)Howareyou?”
“Hi[entername]stillthinkingabout{entertopic,situationorstory]had
mecrackingupthinkingaboutthistoday.\
How’syourday?”
Note:youc ano nlyusethisifsomethingaboutyourinteractionstood
outtoyouandher.Maybeitwasthefactthatshes pilledcoffeeonthe
tablew henyouguysweretalking.
Openingtexts:
You:“Imaywanttoaskyouout,butIfiguredIwoulds tartwithatext.
😉 ”
You:“Thew holewait3-daystotextisoverrateds oI’mtextingyou
now.How’sy ourday”(insertwink)You:It’sthehandsomem anyou
metat( enterplace)howareyoudoing?
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You:“Rocko!G etbackhere!Helovesapproachingg ood-looking
women!Lol!Howareyou?”(thisisVERYcreative.It’sc heesyasall
heckbutit’ssocreativeitworks!)
You:Hey,( name)itwasnicemeetingyou(enterd ay)it’s(enteryour
name).
You:Hi(entern ame)itwasgreatmeetingyou.H
ow’syourday?
You:"Hi,(entername)thisisthebestnumberyou'ves avedonyour
phoneina while!It's[yourname].
Askingf ora“sexypic:
Disclosure:T hesexypictureshouldONLYbeaskedforw henyou
haveg oneond ates,sheisreciprocating,showingy ousheisavailable
foryou,sometypeofintimacyhashappened,andthatshelikesyou.
Sometypeo fphysicalattractionandintimacyhash appenedalready!!!
She’sopeneduptoyouandcomfortablewithflirting,k issing,or
maybeevenalittledirtytalkhereandthere.(Justdon’to verdoit)
You:“SendmeapicturesoIcansendSantamyw ishlist.”
You:“JustsawthatphotoyouuploadedonInstagram.Myphone
overheated.;-)”
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You:“HoppingonthisplanewithnoWi-Fiandwouldlovesomething
elsetolookat!”
You:“Thinkingofaphotothatmightheatupmyp hone.”
You:“Wantasexypic?”(sendasillybuthandsomephotoofyou)
Thenyous ay...“Yourturn”
Note:whath appenshereisitstartsopeningthed oorforthebothof
youtos endp hotosandthismightenduphappeningafterabit.
Ihopey oug ainedalotofvaluefromthisTextingC heatsheet.Ifyou
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