Expanding My

Emotional College Module

Intelligence Part 2

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Month: April
Hi, there!

In our “Emotional Intelligence” part 1 module, we assessed our emotional

intelligence and we were able to check how we are doing in some of the main areas
whether it’s our strength or an area for improvement. On the following topics, can
you recall some of your significant learnings from the last module?

Self- awareness
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Personal Responsibility
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Motivation
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Looks great! In this part 2, we will talk about more on Emotional Intelligence
but this time focusing on Empathy, Relationship Management, and Excellence.

I. Introduction 2

II. Week 1 – Catching Up! 3

III. Week 2 – Empathy and Relationship Management 7

IV. Week 3 – Excellence 9

V. Week 4 – Benefits of Higher Education 13

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Week 1 – Catching Up!
Yo, pinahihirapan talaga tayo ng pandemic but we are resilient and despite everything,
we are still fighting, ‘di ba? And we will win this fight together. Kumusta ka na ‘ba?
Nakakapagod bang sagutin dahil paulit-ulit? Mas nakakapagod kapag hindi na tayo naku-
kumusta at sabi nga nila, ang pagbabago ay nag-uumpisa sa sarili. Let us start to change
our mindset about this module and let’s see this as our companion in this journey.
Remember that when things are difficult, you can message me if there’s anything I can
help you with. An ear to listen, a friend to talk to. – Kuya Ram

So let’s get started with this activity! 

Activity 1. SELF-CARE ACTION PLAN

Starting from the centre, colour each segment to represent how fulfilled you feel in
this area or the amount of self-care you give to this domain. Then reflect - In what
areas do you need more self-care?

Balance Wheel

Saang area ka mahina ngayon? Paano mo ito mapapaunlad?

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Sagutin nga natin ang mga hinihinging impormasyon. Matapos sumagot ay basahin
itong muli at mag-reflect sa sinasabi ng iyong sarili.

Mga signs na ako ay pagod at kailangan ng pahinga:

Mga paraan para ma-relieve ang stress ko:

Mga taong masasandalan ko para sa moral support:

Mga malalapitan kung kailangan ng professional

support (e.g., a counselor or healthcare provider):

Mga music na nakaka-relax para sa akin:

Mga lugar kung saan I feel happy and calm:

Positive affirmations to remind myself of my value:

This is catching up with yourself as much as it is catching up with me. Sana ay na-
kumusta mo ang iyong sarili sa ating simpleng activity.

Week 2 – Empathy and Relationship Management

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Sa buhay kolehiyo, ang pakikisama ay magandang skill na ma-master. Kailan dapat
makisama, kailan didistansiya. Sino ang aking pakikisamahan, sino ang iiwasan. Your
answers to these questions can lead you closer to your graduation goals, or stray you
away from it. Kaya naman ang iyong empathy at relationship management ay
napakahalaga. Empathy is crucial sa anumang personal or professional relationship – ito
ang ilang strategy para ma-develop ang ating Empathy.

8 Strategies to Develop Empathy

Our ability to be empathic to others is not fixed; it can be developed.

Making changes, often small ones, in our daily lives can significantly impact our ability
to empathize with individuals and groups (Miller, 2019).
We should encourage ourselves and our clients to experience the lives of others by
learning to:
 
1. Cultivate curiosity
Develop an insatiable curiosity about the particulars of those you meet
 Visit new places, meeting local people while immersing yourself in their way
of life. (At least kapag kaya na ninyo, sa budget at kapag ligtas na – isama
ito sa travel goals. Not just gala – experience the place! )
 
2. Step out of your comfort zone
Learn something new or travel, and see how it feels to be out of your comfort zone:
 Experience what it is like to be unable to do something or not know how to
interact with where you are.
 Reach out for support.
 Accept how helpless you may feel at times, and let it humble you.
 Humility can be a useful path to empathy.
 
3. Receive feedback
Makinig din sa opinion ng mga malalapit at pinagkakatiwalaan mo. Ask for feedback from
friends, family, and colleagues regarding your active listening and relationships skills:
 How could you improve?
 What opportunities did you miss?

4. Examine your biases

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We all have biases, and they impact our capacity for empathy. Often without knowing,
we judge others on the way they look and how they live (Miller, 2019):
 Find opportunities to mix with people from other backgrounds.
 Talk to people about the important things in their lives.
 While recognizing the similarities we share, be interested, without judgment,
in the differences.
 
5. Walk in the shoes of others
 Understand what it is like for people in other situations. How do they live,
work, and share?
 Spend time with others, and understand their worries. What gives them
happiness? What are their dreams?
 Build relationships with people you see but don’t usually connect with.
 
6. Difficult, respectful conversations
While it can be hard to challenge or be challenged by alternative points of view, a few
simple lessons can help (Miller, 2019):
 Listen and don’t interrupt.
 Be open to new and different ideas.
 Apologize if you have hurt someone’s feelings by what you have said.
 Research the issue. Understand where a point of view has come from and how
it affects the people involved.
 
7. Join a shared cause
Research has shown that working together on community projects can help heal
differences and divisions and remove biases. Dahil kabilang na kayo sa isang org; ang
Young Focus, maari tayong magsimula dito. Makibahagi at makiisa sa layunin ng YF.
(Halpern & Weinstein, 2004):
 Find a community project, locally or in another country.
 Join others who have been through similar life experiences.
 Join a group from different backgrounds and help out at school, political, or
church events.
 
8. Read widely
Reading fiction, nonfiction, newspapers, journals, and online content that captures
people’s lives from different backgrounds increases our emotional intelligence and our
capacity to empathize (Kidd & Castano, 2013):
 Find writers with unique stories to tell.
 Enter the lives of their characters, their feelings, and thoughts.

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Activity 1. Random Act of Kindness... Ang biglaang kabaitan ay nakakagulat pero hindi
naman kailangang maging random ng kindness. This helps improve our relationship with
others. Simulan natin ito sa pamilya. What are the things you can do to spread kindness
in the family? Hindi kailangang gumastos o mapagod. We can start simple. Simple things
are the best! 

KIND THINGS NA
GAGAWIN KO SA
AKING MGA LOVE
ONES this month.

I hope that we will do what we have written1.

May our better relationships begin with us.
These acts of kindness is only the beginning of
better and healthier relationships. Ano pa ba
ang ilang tips na puwede nating gawin para
mapainam ang ating relasyon sa iba? Check
natin itong susunod na activity na maaring
makatulong.

Activity 2. My Relationship Management

Sino-sino ba ang mga taong may relasyon sa iyo? Magdikit ng larawan, or you can draw
also to represent them. Please write what is your relationship with them.

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Read on some of these tips and notes to improve our relationship with them.
 Alamin kung anong effective sa communication o nagdudulot ng conflict. Reflect
on these questions or take note on these topics on a separate note/journal if
you have.
1. What things does my partner/friend/parent say or do that provoke
conflict?
2. Can you remember a particular situation in which you and your
partner/friend/parent enjoyed good and satisfying communication?
What happened? What can you do to have more of these moments?
3. Continue the sentence… “Respect in a relationship means that I…”
 Bahagi ng relationships ang conflicts. Think of ways how to deal with them.
1. Identify a problem or an issue that provokes conflict.
2. What can you change about how either of you dealt with the conflict?
3. What can you do differently next time? How will you do it?
 Dapat nag-a-adjust parehas at nagkakasundo. Love is the key to these part.
Relationships can only be linked by mutual love and respect.
1. Do not blame your partner.
2. Do not judge, criticize, or put down your partner.
3. Set realistic goals for your relationship so that it will continue to
grow and thrive.
 Matutong magpatawad. You cannot move forward and grow if you cannot move
on from the past.
1. What are your most important needs within the relationship?
2. What are the most important needs of your partner?
3. How can you begin to forgive one another for past hurts?

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Week 3 – Excellence
ACTIVITY 1 – Vocabulary
Organize the words discovered below and look for them in your dictionary.

Onatibilyt
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Aedqauyc
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Hoiccessne
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Ytirioirefni
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Brepussens
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Ffisucycien
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evaul
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8 Cmomonesns
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9 Thwro
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10 Veaarge
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ACTIVITY 2 – Me Being Excellent

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Section A. Circle all the characteristics that best describe you.

Always Push the Boundaries Patient Courageous

Strong-minded Doesn’t Settle

Risk Taker
Section B. Pick five characteristics that you want to learn or improve and why.

I. MEDIOCRITY
Examples of Mediocrity
1. Comfort
The prioritization of comfort –
physical needs, consumption, nature,
peace, familiarity, social, wellness.
Comfort is widely believed to be a
trade-off with growth. Comfort is
associated with complacency, risk
avoidance and the status quo.
Growth is associated with change,
risk taking and desire to challenge
the status quo.
2. Convenience
A tendency to always choose the most convenient product, service, process and
strategy.

3. Self-deception

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Generally speaking, it is easier to convince yourself that things are great than to
actually make them great.
4. Sour Grapes
The convenient assumption that things that are beyond your reach aren’t worth having.
Based on a myth about a fox who sees grapes that are out of his so he assumes they
must be sour.

5. Schadenfreude
Schadenfreude is a delight in the failures and misfortunes of others. This may make it
easier to accept the uninspiring by delighting that things are worse for someone else.

6. Status Quo
Defense of the status quo and resistance to change.

7. Conflict Avoidance
The prioritization of group harmony. For example, groupthink whereby people don’t
express what they really think for fear of social criticism.

8. Competition Avoidance
A fear of competition and the pursuit of systems that suppress competition.

9. Collectivism
Systems and culture that prioritize the group over the individual. This benefits the
mediocre as it prevents passionate, inspired, energetic, talented or angst-filled
individuals from getting ahead. The mediocre may punish any sign of individualism.

10. Happiness
The pursuit of mere happiness over self-fulfillment. For example, an individual who is
content to be fed and entertained.

11. Agency
The belief that individuals are helpless victims of society or circumstances such that
they lack the agency to define their own life. This can be used as an excuse as anyone
who lacks agency is blameless for their own life.

12. “Not My Problem”

Viewing the problems of the world with indifference or having empathy for problems
but feeling it’s not your job to fix things.

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13. Distrust of Freedom
A tendency to want every aspect of life to be carefully controlled with predefined
processes.
14. Celebration of Mediocrity
The glorification of mediocrity and vilification of those who stand out above the crowd
in some way. For example, the Japanese proverb “the nail that sticks out gets
hammered down.”

15. Creeping Normality

Acceptance of negative change as long as it happens slowly. For example, accepting very
high rates of taxation because taxes were increased slowly over many decades.

16. Paternalism
In a society with high mediocrity, the state may control every aspect of life such that
the population are treated as children. This essentially benefits the mediocre at the
cost of anyone who would prefer to have freedom.

ACTIVITY 3 – Me Being Mediocre

It has been said that we should identify the cause of our mediocrity and move toward
excellence. Write about your poor habits by doing work at:

School
1
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Home
2
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Work (if any)

3
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How Do I Evolve from Mediocrity to Excellence?

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Colin Powell once said – “If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit
in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.”

1. Identify the cause of your Mediocrity. It is important to know where you

are and what got you here. Be honest in your assessment. What is mediocre to
you may not be so to another person or the general public.
2. Determine what excellence looks like to you. What are your Standards?
Excellence is about setting standards. Try to be very specific.
3. Clearly define the values that must be included in order to achieve
excellence. If you have set a goal of curing cancer, but you have to manipulate
clinical trial results to release your drug, this would not be the path to
excellence because you’ve compromised your values (not to mention the legal
implications of such actions). Excellence has the potential of being felt in the
small actions that occur every single day.
4. Clearly communicate your values. Once you know what you want to achieve
and how you want to achieve it, you will need to communicate this with those
that are working with you or for you (if you are a coach, manager, head of a
company, etc.). In order to create strong relationships with those we work
with and spend our lives with, we can’t assume they know what we value unless
we communicate with them.
5. Define Goals and a plan of Action: Lay out a plan that works for you. You may
prefer to shoot for the stars and accept that you will get to the moon.
Alternatively you may find that define attainable, well-paced goals work better
for you.
6. Act: Align your actions with your plans and your words. A certain way to gain
respect, support and more effort from those around you is to align what you
say with what you do.
7. Consistently monitor your actions against your goals, plans, and professed
values. Hold fast to your direction and how you are attaining the current
results as you align your words and actions repeatedly and consistently.
Consistency is the factor in reaching success, and the act of consistent best
efforts is an act of excellence.

Mediocrity is not lack of talent but rather the state of being satisfied with a lack
of talent. That is to say, that anyone who is pushing hard to change isn’t mediocre.

II. EXCELLENCE

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The quality of being outstanding or extremely good; an outstanding feature or quality.
Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we
have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. We
are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.

Characteristics of a Person with Excellence

1. Risk takers
All great people are risk takers; after all, if they didn’t take risks, they
would’ve never become great. At the end, we all die, there is no escaping this
predicament, it doesn’t matter if you’re rich or broke, happy or sad, young or old, one
day we all are going to die. Hence, great people acknowledge this and they play life to
the limit. Instead of taking the safe route, great people make decisions which risk
what they already have in order to acquire more. In order to move ten steps forward,
you have to give up the position you currently reside at. Every great person’s success
story began with a decision to take a risk.
Without risks, there is no success, there’s just a mediocre life. The
proportion of calculated risks you take and the amount of success you experience in life
is highly correlated. So how many risks have you taken in the last week, month, and/or
year?

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2. Strong minded
You will never see a great person become discouraged after hearing what the
naysayers, doubters, or cowards have to say simply because great people are strong
minded, there is no room for others opinion. Great people live to please themselves.
The only thing that matters is their expectations, their standards, and their voice.
Everything else is truly irrelevant. Some mediocre people have the potential to become
great, however they put too much weight on what others think or say. You have to cut
this out. You have to be consumed in your own mind. Don’t worry about them, just do
what you do.

3. Don’t settle
Mediocre people accumulate success and stop.
Great people accumulate success and keep going. When you settle, you stop playing the
game of life. The objective of the game of life is to see how far you can take your life
so you should never settle, keep playing the game. There are billionaires who continue
to wake up at 5 AM every single day, sure they don’t need the money, but it’s the joy of
the game that gets them up and energized. There is always another mountain to climb,
another venture to start, another passion to conquer.

4. Courageous
You have to have guts, you have to have heart, and you have to have balls of
steel if you want greatness. You have to make bold moves, you have to call the major
shots. Average people become frightened at the thought of making life altering
decisions, whereas great people rise to the occasion. Without guts, you’ll never acquire
glory.

5. Always push the boundaries

Great people don’t operate in a box, they push the boundaries, and they
challenge the status quo. Simply put they think different and they act different.
Average people operate in a black and white state, always observing the boundaries and
keeping within them, whereas great people do the opposite. Always challenge, never
take what they give you and be content with it.

6. Patient
Great people grind hard regardless of whether the results come; average
people grow discouraged and begin to doubt themselves when they don’t see what they
desire. Great people realize that success is a long term game, success is the collection
of doing small things well which add up over the years and these in return go on to
create massive success. That’s all it really is. Play the game and think long term. Stop

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seeking short term gratification, think about where you’re going to be next year if you
keep your level of work up, instead of where you’re going to be tomorrow.
You did not wake up today to be mediocre.

Mediocre men work at their best; men seeking excellence

strive to do better. – Edwin Louis Cole

My Treasure – Look back on the lessons from Week 3 to answer the following
items:

My journey through this lesson enabled me to learn

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This learning made me realize that

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I, then, commit to
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Week 4 – Benefits of Higher Education

At bakit ka nga ba nag-college o mag-aaral sa college? I know that you
have your reasons. Sometimes we forget them kaya naman tayo ay nawawala sa focus.
Just like the famous quote said; “Bago ka huminto, alalahanin mo kung bakit ka
nagsimula.” And another one from my favorite anime character; “No matter how hard or
impossible it is, never lose sight of your goal.”

Being a college student like you is never easy and I know that you know it
well. Just to remind you that you have you reasons. And to even strengthen them, know
that Higher Education has its benefits that far outweighs all the challenges you’re
facing right now. You will be more motivated in your schoolwork – and more likely to

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excel and graduate – if you understand how attending college benefits you both
today at sa iyong future! 

HIGHER EDUCATION ENCOURAGES CRITICAL THINKING

Ang Higher Education ay nag-ugat sa liberal arts. Noong unang panahon, pag sinabing
“educated”, it means meron silang liberal arts education. Liberal comes from the Latin
root of word liber meaning “to free”. Ang malawak na edukasyon ay nangangahulugan ng
malayang pag-iisip. Ang included sa liberal arts noon ay arts, humanities, social sciences,
mathematics, natural science, philosophy and more wherein ini-encourage tayo na mag-
isip, kumilos, at magpahayag ng sarili. Nag-integrate na ang lahat ng profession dito
kagaya ng engineering, computer courses, business, medicine, law, at marami pa.
Sa panahon ngayong, technology is no longer a separate field but a tool na for
educated people. Employers and real world businesses wants professionals na creative
problem solvers, may good critical thinking skills, can communicate well with others,
adaptable sa mga pagbabago. Being in college will teach you all these things by
experience. So make the most out of these challenges and grow.

HIGHER EDUCATION IS A SMART FINANCIAL INVESTMENT

Sabi ko nga, kapag alam mong worth it, you will have no big problem spending money and
time for your education. Cliché but true; No one can take your education away from you,
and it can pay large dividends in the long run. Although graduating in college won’t
guarantee you a great job, sure naman ang better career opportunities, salaries, work
benefits, promotion, workplace at marami pang iba!

Various reports from US Department of Labor indicate that people who attend at least
2 years of college tend to
 Make better decisions
 Be willing to learn new skills
 Have more hobbies and leisure activities
 Have a longer life expectancy
 Be healthier
 Be more involved in community
 Have more discipline and perseverance
 Have more self-confidence
 Learn to adapt to change

HIGHER EDUCATION PREPARES YOU FOR LIFE ON THE FIELD

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As you can see, ang school at trabaho ay may connection. What you learn in school
correlates directly with finding and keeping a job, and succeeding in your chosen
career. Basahin at i-observe ninyo ito:

SKILLS SCHOOL APPLICATION CAREER APPLICATION

Basic skills Foundation for schoolwork Foundation for work tasks
Motivation Motivated to attend classes Motivated to excel at work
Thinking skills Solve case studies, equations, etc. Solve work problems
Creativity Creative experiments Creative work solutions
Time management Assignment and school activities first Work priorities in order
Money management Personal budgeting Department budgets
Writing Writing papers Writing reports, memos, emails
Speeches Classroom speeches and reporting Presentations
Tests and quizzes Tests in classes Performance reviews
Information Reporting and data analysis Selecting work information
Learning Learning for classes Learning job skills
Systems Learning college systems Learning organizations
Resources Using college resources Using work resources
Technology Using computers, etc. for school Using computers and other tech
papers, communication, etc. for work

Do you think you are maximizing the opportunity of having Higher Education
for you future? Think about it and make sure to maximize your strengths,
skills and personal qualities, as you prepare for you better future!

OVERCOME OBSTACLES
Don’t Get Discouraged
Even successful people feel discouraged sometimes and need help climbing out of life’s
valleys. Ang pagkakaroon ng positive mindset at pagkatuto ng self-management ay hindi
nangyayari overnight. It takes time and effort. Everyone gets out of track sometimes
but you have to realize that setbacks are part of life. Don’t let setbacks make you feel
as if you have failed and can no longer reach your goal.

Starting today, you should

 Focus on being motivated and positive

 Focus on your successes and accomplishments

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  Surround yourself with positive, supportive and encouraging friends
 Tell yourself, “This is a setback, not a failure”
 Learn self-control and self-management strategies
 Make certain you are physically renewed; get more rest, exercise
more, and every day, do something that you love.

Young Focus
believes that EDUCATION is the most
effective way to tackle poverty!

Young Focus
believes in

YOU!
Coordinator Updates

How are you doing at home and in the family in the past weeks? What challenges or
good things you’ve had at home?
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How was the semester going? If unenrolled yet, how is your application on going,
what are your plans or steps you’ve taken for enrollment?
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 Have you or family member been sick in the past weeks? What is it and how are you
doing now?
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REMINDERS:

- APRIL Module deadline – April 30, 5PM

- You are welcome to attend online tutorials too if you can! – just let me know. 
In online session, we can discuss the contents of this module, and more!
o Friday 1PM, 3PM
o Saturday 1PM, 3PM
- Have you passed your grades for 1st sem? How ‘bout your registration form for
2nd sem? Kindly pass it with this module if you have them.
- Stay updated in SPICE-Up College FB page and in our Group chats.
- Feel free to message me if you have concerns or anything.  I will reply as
soon as I can.

References:
Peak Performance, Success in College and Beyond by Sharon K. Ferrett
http://www.seethetriumph.org/uploads/1/5/1/4/15142888/my_selfcare_action_plan.pdf
https://www.parallelwellness.ca/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Balance-Wheel-3.pdf
https://positivepsychology.com/empathy-worksheets/

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