©Diane Poole Heller, 2008

Healing Attachment Wounds

Ph.D..
With Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D

Workshop Manual Contents

Healing Attachment Wounds Overview 3

Concepts We Will Explore 4

Overview of Attachment Model Dynamics 5

Healing Attachment Wounds Outline 6

Secure Attachment Model 7

Avoidant Attachment Model 7

Ambivalent/Anxious Attachment Model 9

Disorganized Attachment Model 12

Importance of Repair in Relationships 13

Bio: Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D. 14

Recommended Resources 14

Workshops Evaluation 16

Educational Resources 17

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 Healing Attachment Wounds
Presented by Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D.
An Overview
Across the world I feel we are experiencing an epidemic of loneliness. Families are
fragmenting and relationships seem to be dissolving faster than ever. I feel we all
deserve to experience healthy, more resilient relationships that have the potential to last
be rewarding in an ongoing way. It seems that many of use often feel scared or
confused in relationships.

In this workshop we will focus on how everyone can attain deeper connection, meaning
and passion in adult relationships by working to heal early attachment wounds or
disruptions. You will learn to understand unconscious dynamics that block our ability to
for intimacy and how to overcome them to achieve better communication, trust and
closeness. We will explore specific examples of how early patterns developed within
our families obscure our innate ability to bond. In addition working with the original
wounding pattern we will focus on how to excavate the intrinsic healthy attachment
system that exists naturally in our human design.

Many books describe the various attachment styles. We also emphasize practical clinical
applications of this knowledge. So, you will learn to recognize attachment styles and
have many ideas and exercises to experience yourself and to use with your clients.

We all have the capacity to heal the past and live more fully in the present.
Understanding the source of our patterns and applying the right understanding to
unwind them releases new energy to live fully and freely in the moment. My experience
is that we are inherently hardwired to heal.

This workshop prepares therapists and other healing arts professionals to approach
trauma healing holistically and effectively by inter-weaving all aspects of the human
experience – body, mind, and spirit – in the healing process. Here I present a unique
blend of therapeutic modalities, including Somatic Experiencing® techniques and
spiritual perspectives, to help you to address your own and clients’ recovery needs by
tapping into our natural and vast potential for recovery and growth.
Through these lectures, interactive exercises, DVD presentations and live
demonstrations you will learn to recognize various early attachment models such as
Secure, Avoidant, Ambivalent and Disorganized as described in Dan Siegel’s illuminating
book, The Developing Mind

In addition you will clearly see the practical application of Somatic Experiencing®
principles, techniques and Corrective Experiences to alleviate stuck attachment patterns.
As you explore this material and your own attachment history, you will discover how to
help your clients heal this important part of our human journey.

In all of my work my goal is to relieve as much unnecessary suffering as possible,

quickly and compassionately, and unleash the core aliveness we all posses. May you and
all you serve, enjoy the fruits of this work and thrive!

Warmly,

Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D.

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Concepts We Will Explore

PRESENCE: Learn to be with clients in increasingly difficult states without disconnecting

yourself. To gain a capacity for consistent awareness and presence when confronted
with high activation states. The nervous system is highly trainable!

RESONANCE: To establish an empathetic relational field, to communicate in an

attuned manner, and hold the container toward stabilizing coherence and continuity in
the client.

SELF AND INTERACTIVE REGULATION: To increase your autonomic self-regulation

as well as provide interactive regulation for the client. To teach the client how to self-
regulate through felt sense in practical ways, creating personal capacity to regulate
interactively in healthy relationships.

TRACKING: To recognize high activation states, dissociative states, flooding states,

frozen states and learn the practical strategies to work with them efficiently through the
physiology, tracking emotionally, cognitively, and “essentially”.

COUNTER-TRANSFERENCE: To recognize when therapists are reacting to the over-

activation from the clients’ issues and “acting out” or “acting in” by becoming
symptomatic as a form of “arousal-induced” counter-transference.

WORKING with AROUSAL: To understand how to induce symptoms with or without

memory or content. For example: Working the edge of arousal by alternating back and
forth to a “resourced” or calmer area of the body. Working with symptoms or
Syndromes (symptom configurations resulting from long term untreated post-traumatic
stress-–as in migraines, heart arrhythmia, fibromyalgia, asthma).

DISCHARGE FEAR: To excavate fear and terror out of symptoms/syndromes and to

redirect the energy toward original threat and discharge out of the body versus charge
being held in the body in the symptom or behavior.

INNATE HEALING WISDOM: To evoke the client’s own innate healing wisdom, or
core intactness, i.e., in the form of intrinsic movement, organic meaning/emotional
shifts, etc. This restores clients’ trust in themselves and their body in a very empowering
way as the clients feel they are doing the healing - not over-attributing the healing
effects to the therapist or teacher.

BODY TIME: To work on the sense of time held in the body versus cognitive time,
which is much slower. To use appropriate language to engage the survival brain and
nervous system, versus cognitive function, in order to disengage the amygdala from
stuck-ness in threat response and shift it to pleasure or relaxation or safety.

EFFICIENCY: To reduce unnecessary suffering by providing enough support while

working with the maximum amount of arousal to avoid system disorganization or
disintegration, while also helping the client stay aware of and connected to
uncomfortable states long enough integrate them.

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 Overview of Attachment Dynamics
Unavailability, hostility, and lack of fulfillment from caregivers in the ‘Avoidant’
attachment model can result in a feeling that relationship and intimacy are so difficult
that we tend to stay on the sidelines…perhaps a major ‘disconnection’ from relationships
as a source of comfort in life.

The here today, gone tomorrow ‘Ambivalent’ type of bonding leads to continual
frustration and insecurity in relating that may manifest as feeling incapable of ever being
truly loved or lovable enough and an over-focus on the “other” and an under-focus on
the self.

When a parent is terrifying, we may become so frightened and confused in relating that
‘Disorganized’ attachment can result. This describes a conflict between two major
biological drives that occurs when a child looks for a safe attachment figure, and finds
instead a need to protect oneself through the survival instincts to dis-attach.

‘Secure’ healthy attachment with parents who are present, safe and consistent offers
the holding environment that allows for healthy relating and bonding. Fortunately, we
can re-access the original, innate healthy attachment system later in life.

When we come to understand our early attachment styles in a healthy environment

today, the original imprints that are the foundation of our self-protective ego structure
can be healed so that we can be more in contact with our intrinsic core intactness and
enjoy fulfilling relationships embodying our Authentic Self. We will explore how:

• To identify how over-coupling dynamics between early childhood “family of origin”

attachment patterns may play out in adult relationships.

• To be able to define the distinctions between secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and

disorganized attachment models.

• Three options of how the use of Corrective Experiences to aid in resolving fixed
attachment patterns.

• How to facilitate “earned attachment” as repair and healing of early attachment

wounds towards secure attachment

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 Healing Attachment Wounds
Introductions and Grounding Meditation - Compassion

Field Dynamics
1. Impressionability in Early Bonding
2. The Matrix Relational Field Exercise
3. Holding Environment Beyond Biological Parents
4. Basic Trust
References:
The General Theory of Love by T. Lewis, F. Amini, & R. Lannon
Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our
Capacity to Love by Robert Karen, Ph.D.
The Neurobehavioral and Social-Emotional Development of
Infants and Children by Ed Tronick
Attachment Psychotherapy by David J. Wallin
Hold Me Tight – by Sue Johnson
The Developing Mind, and Parenting from the Inside Out by Dan
Siegel, M.D,
Growing Up Again by J. Illsley Clarke and C. Dawson
Anxious to Please by James Japson and Craig English

Attachment Models Overview

1. Secure Attachment and “Learned Attachment”
2. Avoidant Attachment
3. Ambivalent Attachment
4. Disorganized Attachment

Secure Attachment and Use of the Corrective Experience to facilitate repair of

attachment disruptions. Clinical demonstration

Exercise in Dyads: 30 min each/15 min discussion. Find an event in childhood that
was moderately disappointing and track the body’s response to a corrective
experience. 2 Rounds.

Overview of Our Social Engagement Nervous System - Reference: Stephen

Porges, MD

Physiology of Survival and Attachment Process:

1. Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Responses
2. Sympathetic Nervous System Over-Arousal
3. Ventral Vagal Bonding/Social Engagement System

Still Face Research by Ed Tronic Showing Distress and Disregulation

between infants and parents and consequent repair

John Gottman’s research notes the ability to initiate and receive repair
is critical to sustainable relationships

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 ATTACHMENT MODELS
Reference: The Developing Mind by Dan Siegel

SECURE ATTACHMENT
Secure Attachment thrives when:
1. The holding environment is safe and engenders basic trust.
2. Parents are present and consistent.
3. Communication is predictable, sensitive, and attuned.
4. Parent shows interest in and aligns with states of mind of those of the child.
5. If not, child adapts their behavior to minimize frustration and disconnects.

Secure Attachment in Adults

1. Securely attached adults show realistic optimism in their worldview
2. Have a capacity for attunement and clear communications
3. Have more resiliency in recovering from stress, especially in relationships
4. Demonstrate the capacity to initiate and receive repair attempts
5. May have access to unconditional trust
6. Tend to be unflappable and levelheaded and give others the benefit of the
doubt when appropriate
7. The radar for danger is functional

Healthy Matrix: Bowlby

Bowlby suggests that human infants have an inborn, genetically determined,
motivational system that drives them to become attached to their caregivers
(whether or not the caregiver is responsive or sensitive).
Holding Environment: Winnicott’s Concept of “Good Enough” Mothering
as well as Accessing the Universal Field

AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
Parents Attitudes
1. Distant or absent emotionally, possibly neglectful/rejecting/hostile.
2. Ineffective or insensitive to child’s needs/ low affect attunement/
expression/communication towards child not age appropriate.
3. Incoherent language and facial expression.

Child’s Internal Working Model of Attachment

1. Parent has never been useful at meeting emotional needs or attuned to
child’s state of mind.
2. Behaviorally it makes no sense to seek parent out on reunion. Child avoids
contact so remains isolated.
3. Disconnection from relationships is an adaptation, not a decision.

Child’s Adaptive Strategy

1. Minimizes proximity seeking.
2. Reduces expectations.
3. Distance from others and self may dominate his or her experience and the
child may be unaware of disconnection.
4. Engages in dry, logical, analytic thinking; lack of sensory or intuitive
component (similar to schizoid character or disorder).
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 5. Lack of richness or depth in autobiographical narrative and/or self-reflection
6. May describe feeling alien or outcast, and present as robot-like or mechanical
7. They may refer to body parts or the self as “it”.
8. May feel they have “one foot on the planet and one foot off.”

Avoidant Attachment produces an Emotional Desert:

1. Client may hold no clear memory of childhood, because when attachment
and emotional attunement is deficient, memory-making is impaired.
2. Minimizes IMPORTANCE of relationships in life.
3. Lives on their own, which is a mental adaptation versus a conscious choice of
the infant.
4. May believe in hard work and extreme autonomy or independence while
excluding relationships or diminishing their importance.
5. Child experiences a world emotionally isolated from parents.
6. Child’s sense of self remains fundamentally separate from parent. (Object
relation is with absence vs. a clearly defined presence.)
7. Can have Dissociative symptoms.

Sample Avoidant Style Repair Messages:

I’m glad you are alive
You belong here
What you need is important to me
I’m
glad you are you
I celebrate your existence
You are alive and welcome
You can
feel all of your feelings
You can embody and feel your body
You can put both feet
here and now on the planet and connect to humans
It is safe to be vulnerable and
reach out

Autonoesis is the mind’s capacity to engage in “mental time travel.” It is thought that
the region of the brain (Right Orbital Region) most central to attachment is also the
primary mediator of autonoetic consciousness. Within the domain or focus of autonoetic
awareness is the SENSE OF SELF in the PERSONALLY EXPERIENCED PAST.

Lack of Limbic Connection and How it Effects Memory

Autobiographical Memory consists of:

• General periods of time
• General knowledge of family, culture
• Specific childhood events

Without AUTONOESIS, we may know an event occurred but have no felt sense of
ourselves in the past, so we have a factual memory but no sense of self time travel.
The parts of the brain responsible for incoming ENGRAMS are the Amygdala and Orbitol
Frontal Cortex and they may red flag experiences to be value laden, emotionally
meaningful and therefore, MEMORABLE.

It is possible that avoidantly attached children lack the necessary emotional involvement
to engage the Amygdala and Orbitol Frontal Cortex, so that the labeling of relationship
as meaningful does not happen. It may be harder to integrate a sense of self or the
view of the self may be limited to non-emotional domains.

Clinically you may notice the client may minimize your relationship with them as their
therapist because the Avoidant pattern is to remain distant. Pay attention to what occurs
in the relational field.

Demo on Avoidant Attachment with Discussion

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 AMBIVALENT/ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT MODEL

Meditation: Consistency/Receiving Focus

In this attachment model, infants return to parents on reunion but are not easily
soothed and do not return to play quickly. They exhibit crying, then relief, and then cry
again, so appear not to trust consistent availability of the parent.

Parent’s behavior, attitude, qualities:

1. Inconsistent availability, perceptiveness, sensitivity or effectiveness.
2. Parents intrude their own state on child.
3. “Preoccupied parents” have intrusions in themselves, so attunement
ability is disrupted when the parent’s unresolved past usurps their
present, causing them to be distracted regardless of infant’s signals.
4. Affect Modulation, instead of flowing, will be unpredictably disrupted
rather than continually enhanced by communication with the parent.

Child’s Internal Working Model of Ambivalent Attachment:

1. Infants remain uncertain whether their own emotional states/needs
will be attuned to or met.
2. Insecurity and unpredictability emphasize the infant’s focus on
attachment situation.
3. With unpredictability, the ambivalently attached child feels a more
urgent need to rely on and seek comfort from external interactions.
4. Infants over-focus on the other and the natural oscillation between
need for connection and need to be alone is disrupted. Self-regulatory
functions are deregulated rather than enhanced by parent.
5. At 9 months, an infant develops an Internal Image of the parent, a
virtual “other” to create Object Constancy.
6. If Internal Representation of the original attachment figure is
inconsistent, the child’s appeals for connection in other relationships
later may be blocked and the infant may feel unnecessary caution,
uncertainty, and insecurity.
7. Insecure attachment has many “incoherent” models of attachment.
The “Virtual Other” may become so dominant in the person’s mind
that the actual other in adult relationships has little chance of being
accurately perceived.
8. Attachment history shapes the child’s perception and expectation of
the world, others and the self into AMBIVALENCE.
9. The child feels hunger for closeness with simultaneous
disabling fear of losing it in over-coupled responses.

Possible Ramifications in Adult Relationships

1. May unintentionally create their own worst nightmare through
replaying inconsistent emotional availability, and intrusiveness.
2. Preoccupation with previous attachment wounds.
3. See their children through the filter of the past, continuing
generational trauma pattern.
4. The individual’s concerns--“Am I loved enough?” “Will I be
abandoned?” “I have you now but will you stay?”—may be activated
in a variety of relationships, so that they are always defending against
the next loss.

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 5. Leaky boundaries between past and present.
6. New relationships may be experienced as inconsistent and unreliable,
even while the individual hungers for emotional joining. Their primary
feeling may be “wanting but not having.” (Oral Character)
7. May experience chronic anxiety, frustration and despair related to
relationships, expecting abandonment or the worst of their partners
8. May accept what they are given instead of asking clearly for what
they want
9. May “give in order to get” and wonder why their partners sometimes
feel angry instead of appreciative
10. Feel they have to please their partners all the time in order to keep
them
11. Have difficulty trusting themselves, their partner san the relationship

Sample Ambivalent Style Repair Messages:

You are loveable
I will be here for you
I respect your boundaries
You have a
right to your own space and privacy
Think of me as loving you when I (or you) are
away
I hold you in my heart
You can come to me or call me when you need me

Avoidant dismisses parental contact or parental state; Ambivalent obsesses on trying

to keep attachment and has greater apparent distress at having some quality
attachment and then losing it without warning. (This is a similar dynamic to the
creation of gambling addiction through an unpredictable reward system.)

Pigeon Story: Intermittent reward system as a contributing factor for addition,

obsession and enduring unsafe circumstances, i.e. abuse

Workshop Exercise 1: Increasing Our Capacity to Receive:

In anxious attachment there is often the feeling of “wanting and not having.” This
leaves us with unresolved longing, yearning and feeling we can never have what we
want. This may sound familiar, as it is the typical theme of many romantic stories rooted
in the troubadour tradition of unrequited love. The problem with identifying with
deprivation is that when love truly presents itself we may find ourselves rejecting it
because it feels unfamiliar and disorienting.

Part One: What Happens When You Attempt to Receive

Track in your body and your emotional self what your responses are when others are
available and you have the opportunity to receive. What happens?

Are you able to take in the love offered? Can you embody “contact nutrition”?
Do you deflect the caring because it makes you uncomfortable?
What are your patterns around blocking love?
Strategies for blocking might include: Deflection, minimizing the other, self negation,
being suspicious of the others’ motives, resisting dissolving, fearing vulnerability,
defensiveness, running away or distancing?

Part Two: Building Resiliency Around Receiving

Corrective Experience Options

 Can you remember a time when it felt safe enough to be open to receive? As you
describe it to your partner, track what happens to you body and emotional self.
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  Imagine you are the person giving love, how did your receiving it make them
feel? (Having one’s love rejected, or dismissed can feel painful, where as given
love received can feel joyous)

 You may need to receive in small increments until you build your capacity and
resolve the related issues around receiving. Can you receive 1% more?

Workshop Exercise 2: Separating the Present from the Past- Projections

Dyads – 30 minutes each with 10 minutes feedback discussion, 2 rounds

 Review your own attachment model issues and discuss them with your partner.
 Pick one important relationship currently in your life - friend, family member, or
partner.

 Make a list of 5 or more concerns regarding this relationship.

 Next to each concern mark whether this concern reflects your current situation
or if this concern has occurred in previous relationships.

 Put “N” for now and “P” for past beside all concerns.

 Note which concern are the influenced by the past experiences or early
attachment patterns with your parents. Explore these past wounds in their
original context with your exercise partners. Work with corrective experiences as
appropriate.

The Virtual other perpetuates the experience of the unavailable other. Determine as
clearly as possible the presence of the Virtual Other in your adult relationships. Consider
the following:

Can you detect any circumstances where the past is influencing your reactions to the
detriment of your relationships? Can you see how your relationship partner does actually
show up and contribute to the relationship? What actions do they take to contribute to
connection? How would this relationship look without the projection of the Virtual Other
from childhood?

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 DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT MODEL

Meditation: Installing Competent Protector and the Sensation of Safety

Infant Behavior:
Infant displays frequent chaotic and disoriented behavior. May run toward and
then abruptly away from parent as the child needs them but feels unsafe with
them simultaneously. Children with disorganized attachment may run in circles,
fall down, avert gaze, rock back and forth, hit their head against the wall and
exhibit trancelike states indicating Freezing when the parent returns.

Parents attitudes, behaviors, and qualities:

1. Communication from caregivers contains “paradoxical injunctions or
double binds” which present the child with insolvable problems, i.e.,
“Come here, go away” messages.
2. Parents set up interactions that are frightening, disorienting and
inherently disorganizing to the infant.
3. Parents give conflicting signals that make no sense and have a disturbing
lack of clarity setting the child up for predictable failure.
4. An internally triggered parent creates disorganized attachment through
sudden shifts of extreme states without reference to the child’s signals.
For example, the parent may be calm one moment and by being
triggered internally, may be enraged the next.

Child’s Internal Working Model of Disorganized Attachment

1. Child cannot use parent to soothe as parent IS the source of fear.
2. The primary Attachment System is designed around safety for the child.
When the child experiences physical, emotional or sexual abuse, he or
she develops dis-attachment.
3. Dual dilemma: The child experiences terror of the attachment
figure AND the loss of the safe haven needed for healthy
attachment with minimal possibility of fight or flight to reduce threat.
4. Child remains stuck between Approach and Avoidance and can become
frozen into trancelike stillness (zombie like) that moves toward clinical
dissociation.
5. Child may develop Affect Regulation problems, social difficulties, attention
deficits, and lack of a coherent mind. He or she may become aggressive
with others or exhibit a controlling style due to the danger experienced
with out-of-control, scary parents.
6. Unsolvable paradoxes lead to overwhelming feelings most of the time,
accompanying dys-regulation, and an inability to solve problems.
7. Children or adults with disorganized attachment may exhibit reactions
without conscious awareness of ORGINS, i.e., use of present tense to
describe the past, incomplete sentences, prolonged pauses in speech and
cognitive disruption. They have the greatest risk of psychiatric disorders.
8. Two major biological drives are in constant conflict: the innate
drive to attach and the instinctual drive to survive.

Sample Disorganized Style Repair Messages:

I am paying attention to you and what you need
I am sorry I scared you
Let’s all
calm down and talk
I will protect you and stand up for you
Let me give you clear
directions

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Demo on Disorganized Attachment with discussion
We will approach this model by working to uncouple, untangle, complete and heal both
strong biological drives: 1) The Attachment System: Intention is to give the attachment
system a safe place to land and separate it from the survival instinct. 2) The Survival
Instinct: Once the person can attach to a safe relationship, then we work with restoring
their self protective responses against threat.

Children learn to override their instinctive self protection instincts as their survival
depends on entering an unsafe environment on a regular basis. Ultimately they cannot
distinguish between safe and unsafe circumstances. Their self protective alarms no
longer sound. As adults they may be attracted to danger or unaware they are walking
straight into it. They may not find options that are actually available to increase their
safety. For example: abuse survivors often ignore the early signals of inappropriate
behavior from others, such as off color jokes, invasive touch and “bad vibes” a that
result in dangerous situations that may have been avoided. As facilitators we may need
to help bring these original survival instincts back into awareness and “reactivate” this
early radar system. (The client at the elevator story.)

Discussion on Importance of Repair and Reconnection after

Attachment Mis-attunements.

Building a capacity to initiate and receive repair attempts:

In secure attachment Parents are sensitive enough to the relationship with the child that
they recognize disharmony and attempt to repair or reconnect to the child.

30 min each/15 min discussion of following questions.

1. Can you practice repair now in your adult relationships? Can you find
ways to reconnect after a disturbance occurs in your relationship(s)?For
example, after a conflict, when you are ready, can you give a hug or a
kind look, or verbally express desire to reconnect? Some people find it
helpful to design rituals around repair. You could have a special candle
that one partner lights when they are ready to reconcile.
2. Can you accept your partner’s repair attempts towards you? Or do you
find yourself rejecting sincere repair attempts?

Celebrating Secure Attachment and Our Intact Original Design

“Give Yourself to Love” Kate Wolf

Heart to Heart Group Closure Exercise

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 Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D., of Louisville, Colorado, USA,
an internationally applauded author, therapist and
teacher, is an established expert in the field of trauma
resolution, with 30 years experience in spiritual
exploration.

She brings cutting edge psychology, solid science, and

insightful spirituality together with her 30 years of trauma
resolution experience through her artful, approachable
teaching style. Her approach to trauma healing is holistic
and effective and inter-weaves all aspects of the human
experience – body, mind, and spirit – in the healing
process. Dr. Heller’s approach to healing is a result of
over 30 years of research, teaching, practice and spiritual
disciplines which have lead to her believe that trauma,
when supported with the proper approaches, can be an opportunity of greater spiritual
expansion.

Her workshops are presented with interactive lectures, multimedia presentations and
live demonstrations of the therapeutic practices in actual healing sessions. Workshop
topics she presents include: Victim Perpetrator Dynamics; The Power of Presence;
Character Disorders: Schizoid, Narcissistic, Borderline, Character Structure, Attachment
Models; and Psychotherapy and Spirituality.

Her book "Crash Course," an explanation of how to resolve auto accident trauma, has
been published in the US and internationally and is used as a guide for healing general
trauma. She has created a highly successful series of media resources, DVDs, CDs and
articles for SE practitioners and others interested in healing.

As dynamic speaker and teacher she has been featured at prestigious international
seminars and conferences and is the author of numerous articles in the field, including a
CNN video production dealing with the Columbine High School tragedy.

Somatic Experiencing®

Dr. Heller began her work with Peter Levine, founder of the "Somatic Experiencing"
method of trauma resolution in 1989. As a Senior Faculty member for Levine’s
Foundation for Human Enrichment she teaches all levels of SE in the US and abroad,
including Denmark, Italy, Germany, Switzerland, Israel and others.

Levine’s theory postulates that symptoms of trauma are the effect of a dysregulation of
the autonomic nervous system (ANS). He has shown through his work that, when
supported by the procedures of Somatic Experiencing, the body has an inherent capacity
to self-regulate after experiencing trauma. SE sessions are done face to face; however,
unlike traditional psycho-therapies, they involve a client tracking his or her own “felt-
sense” experience. This approach engages the client’s awareness of their own physical
sensations as a partner to their own recovery.

Through a series of techniques that interplay between memories, body sensations, and
dialogue with the therapist, traumatic events held in the body are discharged, allowing
the body to self-regulate and emotional balance to be restored.

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 Recommended Resources

By Diane Poole Heller

(See Educational Resources document included on this CD)

Crash Course: A self-healing guide to auto accident and trauma recovery by Diane
Poole Heller and Laurence Heller - (available at www.drdianepooleheller.com)

DVD Demos with Diane Poole Heller (35 minutes to 2 hours)

Disorganized Attachment
Avoidant Attachment
Avoidant and Disorganized
Ambivalent/Disorganized Attachment

Sexual Abuse and Physical Violence Recovery Programs

Therapeutic Interventions for Professionals DVD A1 and CD A1A

Hardwired to Heal: Somatic Experiencing and Poly Vagal Theory – Article, DVD
and CD

An Overview of Somatic Experiencing, DVD and CD

And others

Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine (available at www.traumahealing.com)

It Won’t Hurt Forever. Recognizing, responding to and preventing childhood trauma.

Peter Levine and Maggie Kline (Amazon.com)

The General Theory of Love by T. Lewis, F. Amini, & R. Lannon

Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love by
Robert Karen, Ph.D.
The Neurobehavioral and Social-Emotional Development of Infants and Children by Ed
Tronick
Attachment In Psychotherapy by David J. Wallin
What Babies Want, A Documentary by Debby Takikawa DVD
Hold Me Tight – by Sue Johnson
The Developing Mind, and Parenting from the Inside Out by Dan Siegel, M.D,
Growing Up Again by J. Illsley Clarke and C. Dawson

Diane Poole Heller, PhD

743 Club Circle, Louisville, CO 80027

Tel: 303-790-0603
Fax: 303-604-2145
email: [email protected]
Go to www.drdianepooleheller.com for

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By Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D.
743 Club Circle, Louisville, CO 80027
www.drdianepooleheller.com
Tel: 303-790-0603
Fax: 303-604-2145
email: [email protected]
November 21, 2008

SPECIAL TOPIC TRAININGS: Each DVD approximately 2 hours

# Price Workshop
Item Description discount

A1 Sexual Trauma and Spiritual Transformation (5 DVD set/12 hours) Two-day training w/ $250.00 $225.00
several demos plus #z8
A1a Sexual Trauma and Spiritual Transformation (5 CD set) Two-day training/no demos, plus $150.00 $135.00
#Z8
A2 Auto Accident Recovery Program (5 DVD set/ 12 hrs) Three-day training w/ several demos. $280.00 $250.00
Includes Auto Accident Manual. Plus# Z2 and Z2a
A2a Auto Accident Recovery Program (5 CD set) Three-day training/no demos, Plus #Z2 and $150.00 $135.00
Z2a
A3a Character Structure: From Trauma to Transformation (2 DVD set/ 4.5 hrs) One-day $ 95.00 $ 85.00
overview, includes handout on Character Structure #Z6
A3b Character Structure in 4 CD set (audio only) (4 CD set/4.5 hrs) One-day overview, $ 85.00 $ 75.00
includes handout on Character Structure #Z6
A4 Trauma Healing as a Gateway to Spiritual Transformation (2 DVD set / 4.5 hrs) One-day $ 85.00 $ 75.00
overview.
A4a Trauma Healing as a Gateway to Spiritual Transformation (1 CD) One day overview $ 40.00 $ 35.00
A5 Columbine: Surviving the Trauma (CO) (60 min. DVD) $ 85.00 $ 75.00
A6 Hardwired to Heal: Overview of the Reciprocal ANS and the Polyvagal Social $ 50.00 $ 45.00
Engagement Nervous System (60 min. DVD) plus#Z4
A6a Hardwired to Heal: Overview of the Reciprocal ANS and the Polyvagal Social $ 45.00 $ 40.00
Engagement
Nervous System (1 CD w/ handout #Z4)
A7 Somatic Experiencing: Basic Concepts(2 DVD set/3 hours) Introduction to the basic $ 85.00 $ 75.00
principles of SE including demo
A7a Somatic Experiencing: Basic Concepts(2 CD set/3 hours) Introduction to the basic $ 45.00 $ 40.00
principles of SE including demo
A8 Personality Disorders Overview, Schizoid, Narcissistic, Borderline 4 DVD set plus#z8 $220.00 $195.00
A8a Personality Disorders Overview, Schizoid, Narcissistic, Borderline 4 CD set plus #z8 $150.00 $135.00
A9 Healing Power of Presence, 6 DVD set, with handout A9 German and English plus z9 $200.00 $180.00
ASA Healing Attachment Wounds 6 DVDs 14 hrs, plus manual $425.00 $395.00
IHI Integrated Healing Intensive, 10 DVDs 42 hours, plus manual $545.00 $495.00
SESSION DEMOS W/EDUCATIONAL DISCUSSION: Each DVD approximately 1.5/2 hours each.

TRAINING SPECIAL – BUY 3 @ $125.00

SEXUAL, PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE
B1 Melinda (CA) Multiple Auto Accidents/Violent Assault/Fall – Connects to Spiritual Wholeness $ 50.00 $ 45.00
B2 Ann (PA) Rape at Gunpoint when Asleep – Frozenness to Mobility and to Empowerment $ 50.00 $ 45.00
B2a Ann – Rape at Gunpoint when Asleep – Demo outline with titles tracking process $ 50.00 $ 45.00
B3 Dave (PA) Molestation by Choirmaster as Pre-Teen – Regains Voice & Choice $ 50.00 $ 45.00
B4 Franco (Italy) Sexual Abuse as a Child (English and Italian) $ 50.00 $ 45.00
B5 Vijiaia (Italy) Inescapable Attack (English and Italian) $ 50.00 $ 45.00
MEDICAL TRAUMA AND SURGERY
C1 Donna (CO) Surgery/Extreme Dissociation – Remarkably Regains Absence of Feeling in Face $ 50.00 $ 45.00
Years after Tumor Removal
C2 Marjorie (NC) Childhood Tonsillectomy - Working through High Emotional Charge without $ 50.00 $ 45.00
Disconnection
C3 Teri: Poor Medical Support with Breast Cancer Diagnosis and Surgery $ 25.00 $ 25.00
C4 April (NY) Poor Medical Support while Giving Birth by Caesarian Section – Anger to $ 50.00 $ 45.00
Empowerment
C5 Agata (Italy) Epilepsy and Cranial Surgery $ 50.00 $ 45.00
HIGH IMPACT SHOCK: AUTO ACCIDENTS & FALLS
See Melinda under Sexual Assault B1 combined with Auto Accidents. Also see A2 Auto Accident Recovery Program with
demos.
D1 Lubby (CO) Auto Accident with Head Injury – Sleep Returns (DVD of session with & without $ 50.00 $ 45.00
biofeedback).
D2 David (NC) Auto Accident/Airbag Trauma/Dorsal Death State – The Rediscovery of Aliveness $ 50.00 $ 45.00
D3 Connie – Survival and Discharge of Over arousal from severe Auto Accident $ 50.00 $ 45.00
EMOTIONAL OR DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA/SEVERE LOSS

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E1 Brian (PA) Loss of Baby Daughter During Birth Process – Reconnecting to the Beauty of Life $ 50.00 $ 45.00
E2 Tom (PA) Friend’s Stabbing/Survival Guilt – Regains Capacity to Feel Joy & Live Life Fully $ 50.00 $ 45.00
E3 Andrea (SF) Exploring Eating Patterns as an attempt to gain nurturance and self regulation $ 50.00 $ 45.00
E6 Jacqui (NY) Pain of Unconscious Racism & the Courage to Speak $ 50.00 $ 45.00
E7 Susan (NY) Freeze Response re Husband’s Death – Recaptures Sense of Loving Home & $ 50.00 $ 45.00
Family
E8 Alberto (Italy) Severe Loss (English and Italian) $ 50.00 $ 45.00
E9 Franco – Horror Observing Parental Abuse $ 50.00 $ 45.00
E10 Faith (SF) – End of Marriage, Grief and Depression alternating with Expansiveness $ 50.00 $ 45.00
E11 Michael (SF) Worry of failure to Survive $ 50.00 $ 45.00

DOUBLE DEMOS WITH FEEDBACK (4 hrs on 1 DVD) Training Special – Buy Both @ $125.00
F1 (a) Sue (Bungee Jump Gone Wrong) & (b) Leslie (Fall as Infant in Stroller Down Stairs) $ 85.00 $ 75.00
F2 (a) Daniela (Fall off Slide/Broken Arm – Receives Corrective Group Support) & (b) Sol $ 85.00 $ 75.00
(Sexual Abuse/Eating Disorder/Severe Migraines – Syndromal Work – Significant Relief of
Symptoms)
WAR TRAUMA
G1 War Trauma– Rescue Team Under Enemy Fire, Flashback, Horror and Survival Guilt $ 50.00 $ 45.00

BOOKS, ARTICLES, AND PUBLICATIONS

BK1 CRASH COURSE: A Self-Healing Guide to Auto Accident Trauma and Recovery – Diane $ 16.95 $ 15.00
Poole Heller, Ph.D. with Laurence Heller, Ph.D.
Note: Order Crash Course from Foundation of Human Enrichment at Advanced Trainings
Z1 SEXUAL ABUSE AND PHYSICAL VIOLENCE RECOVERY PROGRAM Therapeutic $ 20.00 $ 18.00
Interventions for Professionals – 20 pages comes with A1
Z2 AUTO ACCIDENT RECOVERY PROGRAM MANUAL: Therapeutic Interventions and Treatment $ 25.00 $ 22.00
Guide for Professionals (with A2)
Z2a AUTO ACCIDENT NOTES (comes with A2)
Z3 CHARACTER STRUCTURE: From Trauma to Transformation – Handout on $ 10.00 $ 8.00
Contact/Existence Character, Nurture/Nourishment Character. Dependence/Trust Character,
Independence / Autonomy/ Will Character, and Love/ Sexuality Character Types. – Diane Poole
Heller, Ph.D. with Laurence Heller, Ph.D. - 6 pgs comes with A3
Z4 SPEAKING THE UNSPEAKABLE: An Expensive Truth $ 25.00 $ 22.00
A Deep Exploration into the Dynamics of Sadistic & Non-Sadistic Sexual & Physical Violence.
Social, Victim/Perpetrator and Treatment Perspective
Z5 SOMATIC EXPERIENCING® IN THE TREATMENT OF AUTO ACCIDENT TRAUMA $ 15.00 $ 13.00
A published case study with application of SE® model explained. Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D. with
Laurence Heller, Ph.D. in the USABP Journal - 16 pgs
Z6 SOMATIC EXPERIENCING®: Practical Applications in the Treatment of Trauma (threat $ 15.00 $ 13.00
responses, orienting responses, reciprocal ANS, Polyvagal Social Engagement Theory)- 16 pgs,
comes with A6
Z7 ARISING FROM THE ASHES: Healing in the Aftermath of Extreme Life Events. Chapter $ 10.00 $ 8.00
11 in Caring for the Caregiver, edited by J. Loewy & A. Hara. - 11 pgs
Z8 Personality Disorders handout
Z9 Handouts Healing Power of Presence Return to the Radiant Self comes with A9
Collection of all articles above on CD (Crash Course book not included ) $ 65.00 $ 60.00

Single Attachment DVDs - ASD SERIES

Single Attachment DVDs
AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENT – AM
ASD-AM 1 NIR Violent Mother, empowerment, integrating child self into adult self $ 50.00 $ 45.00
ASA SERIES
ASD-AM 2 JG Ambivalent Attachment and Healing the Heart - Genital Split $ 50.00 $ 45.00
ASD-AM 3 BIR. Overcoming criticism to regain artistic expression $ 50.00 $ 45.00

AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT - AV
ASD –AV1 AMAR Feeling alien and walled off, creating connection by reinstating original $ 50.00 $ 45.00
attachment system ASA SERIES
ASD-AV 2 MAS Withdrawal and pushing away of contact, Welcome to the World $ 50.00 $ 45.00
exercise ASA SERIES
ASD-AV 3 SM Avoidant and Disorganized Attachment Style with Victim Perpetrator $ 50.00 $ 45.00
Dynamics. ASA SERIES
ASD-AV 4 VID AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT WITH DISORGANIZED ELEMENTS/ HEALING $ 50.00 $ 45.00
THE HEART – GENITAL to RESTORE ALIVENESS IN SEXUALITY AND
HEARTFULNESS

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 German and English
ASD-AV 5 KIM Feeling Dry and mechanical, seeking contact by withdrawing from it $ 50.00 $ 45.00
ASD-AV 6 SIRI Abandonment creates failure to thrive, Loss of self in spirituality ASA $ 50.00 $ 45.00
SERIES
DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT - DIS
ASD–DIS 1 COR Sensitive Child in Chaotic Household, Installing competent protector $ 50.00 $ 45.00

ASD- DIS 2 PAVI Childhood abuse, fear of others, self hatred and inability to trust. ASA $ 50.00 $ 45.00
SERIES
ASD–DIS 3 CAR.R Disorganized Attachment with Syndromal Symptom of Fibromyalgia $ 50.00 $ 45.00

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