Advanced Personality Development - Session2
Advanced Personality Development - Session2
DEVELOPMENT
Session 2
Your talent is of no use you don’t know how to present it or yourself in the
front of others. So, if you are talented but hesitant to show it to others then this
topic is definitely for you. All you need to do is to practice certain skills which
are given below.
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You can consistently deliver effective presentations if you develop the habits of
highly effective speakers. Success is based more on habit than any other factor.
Since the headline of this post blatantly rips-off Stephen Covey, one of the most
effective habits of presentations is to “begin with the end in mind”. I've implored you to
answer the question “What's your presentation destination?” The bottom line is that
you need a clear goal for your presentation. One goal for what you want your audience
to know, feel or do immediately after the presentation.
Here's a tip: Summarize your goal in one declarative sentence. If you've got a run-on
sentence going on, it's time to revise
Put those on a wall then you can easily reorganize your speech or crumple and
toss into the recycle bin points that don't fit your goal.
Stories are for everywhere Audiences LOVE stories. They spice up bland, boring
data-driven presentation. Stories engage an audience and help them relate the
content to their own life.
Successful speakers are always looking for stories and know that stories don't
have to be extraordinary. Best stories come from an ordinary experience.
Stories are everywhere. Successful speakers are always on the look out to find
them.
Audiences want interaction during the presentations. They want to feel involved. Ask
them questions that make them think. Use the most important word in any
presentation. Use your stories to relate to their world. No matter what your
presentation topic think strategically about how to involve your audience more in your
speech.
For the love of all good things, avoid the me, me, me introduction. No one cares about
you – they care about how your information will serve them.
Stop going over time. It's disrespectful of your audiences time and attention. In
your preparing process, aim to end early. That way if there are questions during
the presentation, you have time to answer and still end on time.
6: SHOW UP EARLY
Successful speakers show up to the venue early. You can test the technology and
make sure everything is working. If it is not, you can get it fix or go to your plan
B (you should always have a plan B when it comes to tech).
The other benefits of showing up early is that you can check the emotional vibe
of the room. Are people tired? Are they chatty and happy? What's the energy
like? Showing up early also let's your work the room. You'll meet the audience
members, make personal connection that allow you to engage with your
audience on a deeper level when you are on the stage.
For many people, fear of public speaking is a strong career limitation. And
for women, it’s even worse. But if you want to grow professionally it’s well
worth facing this fear.
1-Admit it
Rather than spending energy and effort in hiding your fear of speaking in public,
(which brings the additional anxiety of being found out!) you’d be better off
admitting it, embracing it, learning all you can about it. And yes, looking for
opportunities to practice it.
2-Be present
We are only anxious about the future or about the past. Never about the
present. So if you focus on this very moment when you are presenting or sharing
your opinion in front of your colleagues rather than in what they will think about
you or how fast you can finish your thoughts, you will be fine. To anchor yourself
in the present, learn to breathe from your stomach, or what is called
diaphragmatic breathing. Done well, deep breathing helps to calm you down.
When you are in your head, you feed your own fear of public speaking by
imagining dozens of terrifying scenarios. What if my comments fall flat? What if I
forget the main point I’m trying to make? What if my mouth is so dry I can’t
speak? Etc. etc. The more you question your abilities and the more negative you
get, the more you block your energy flow and what you put out there.
So instead of having an internal monologue, talk to the people in the room. Share
some of your anxiety and let their empathy make you feel more comfortable
with the situation. When you don’t have to pretend, you can focus on what you
really want to say. It’s amazing what happens when you’re honest. People
naturally want to help you. Let them.
4-Connect
A common behavior of those who fear public speaking is to rush through their
presentation just to get it over with. They either cut their speech short or they
go a mile a minute. But as you talk faster and faster not only do you start
breathing shallowly, which generates more anxiety, but you also lose clarity.
(If you have an accent, like I do, this is the kiss of death!) Your audience becomes
disengaged and the more disengaged they become, the more anxious you get.
Do you see how this quickly turns into a negative vicious circle? Rather than
speeding up, pause. Silence is golden. It lets people process your words. It lets
you think, regroup, stay calm. Used strategically, silence is one of the best tools of
a public speaker
All I’ve been sharing with you up to now comes down to this: Drop all those
gimmicks you have developed over the years to get through any public speaking
fast. Stop squeezing your hands under the table, stop snapping the rubber band,
stop drinking water every two sentences.
Engage with the present, with the idea you’re sharing, with the audience right in
front of you. Feel the fear and realize that it can’t kill you. That the best way to
overcome any fear is by experiencing it often.
Like most phobias, the fear of public speaking focuses on the future. The what ifs.
So when you realize that the worst thing that could happen —you speaking in
public— is actually happening, you can relax. What’s important is to remember
that the fear you’re feeling is not for any mortal danger but for a situation that
makes you uncomfortable. And you can survive almost any discomfort. You can
actually thrive by learning to be in and by seeking uncomfortable situations.
I’d be remiss if I didn’t tell you that there are also other important things that I
do as a public speaker to get ready every time I present. Like rehearsing my
presentations, visualizing the situation and
the successful outcome, wearing clothes that make me feel confident, breathing
exercises, and power poses ahead of the event. But these are all easy to master
tactics that won’t help you unless you first take these six fundamental steps. So,
go ahead try them.
Using the right words grammar and expressing one self accurately always
makes a good impression and conveys the message clearly
To ensure your message lands on the right runway, follow this leadership guide
to choosing the right words:
Words such as “can’t,” “won’t,” “shouldn’t” are all based off a negative. For
instance, replace the statement, “we can’t hit these numbers without…” with,
“We can hit these numbers when…” Also, notice the avoidance of “if” in the
latter sentence. "We can hit these numbers if..." would connote the possibility of
failure or choice, but when indicates the expectation to execute and fulfill.
In the words of Yoda, “do or do not. There is no try.” Let me ask this: do you say
to your spouse or child, “I love you” or “I’m going to try to love you?” Hopefully
it’s the former. Words like “try,” “want” (i.e. “I want to…[insert ‘but’ here]”
connote a lack of commitment, of uncertainty.
Using words such as “just,” “kind of,” “sort of,” “a little,” “maybe,” “I think,” and
“some” all have less impact than their assertive counterparts, so replace “I think”
with “I believe.” Again, do or do not, there is no try.
There’s nothing worse than a leader who is unsure of him or herself but afraid
to admit it. Probably infers just that—a 50 percent chance of success and a 50
percent chance of failure. Does that make any sense? It shouldn’t. If you’re
unsure of something the best thing to do is just say so. Honesty and
transparency go a long way. Remember, the best way to build trust is to begin
trusting.
One of my favorite sayings is this: nobody cares how much you know, until they
know how much you care . Choose words that an eighth grader would
understand for two reasons. First, it humanizes you. Excessively long or
uncommon words communicate one thing: “I’m smarter than you and I’m going
to use ‘smart’ words to prove it.” Second, insecurity is easily discernible through
vocabulary, and smart people see right through “big words.”
There’s no need to use a fifty dollar word when a dollar will suffice. Don’t get
me wrong, an extensive vocabulary is important. All I’m saying is be mindful of
when, where, why and with whom you employ the big ones.
▪ understandable,
▪ memorable and
▪ emotional.
Understandable.
In 2001 the iPod was “1,000 songs in your pocket.” In 2008 the MacBook Air was
“The world’s thinnest notebook.” Steve Jobs always described his products in one
sentence. Even before Twitter existed, Jobs’ product descriptions never exceeded
140 characters.
The other day I spoke to bestselling author Daniel Pink about his new book, To
Sell is Human. Pink is skilled at public speaking and had years of experience as a
political speechwriter before he wrote books. When he prepares for a
presentation he asks himself, “What’s the one big idea I want people to take
away from my presentation?”
If you’re pitching a product, what’s the one thing you want your customers or
investors to know about it? If you can express it in 140 characters or less, you’ll
help your audience make sense of your product and how it will benefit their
lives.
Memorable
If your audience cannot remember what you said in your presentation or recall
your idea, it doesn’t matter how great it is! Again, there are many techniques to
communicate ideas in memorable ways, but my favorite is a concept I’ve
discussed in an earlier column—the rule of three.
Neuroscientists generally agree that the human mind can only consume
anywhere from three to seven points in short term, or “working memory” (This
is why the phone number is only seven digits.
Long ago scientists discovered if you ask people to remember eight digits,
they forget just about the entire sequence of numbers). The magic
number—not too many and not too few—seems to be three.
Try to incorporate the rule of three in your presentations. You can divide your
presentation into three parts, discuss “three benefits” of a product, or give your
audience “three action steps” they can take. Packaging the content into groups of
three makes it far easier to remember.
Emotional
Storytelling is the easiest and most effective way to make your presentation
emotional. I once interviewed a prominent attorney who won the largest
punitive judgment against a pharmaceutical company at the time—$250 million.
He showed me the slides he used in his opening argument. The first six slides
told a story and showed pictures of the person who lost his life.
When the trial was over he asked the jurors why they voted the way they did. It
seems the drug company lawyers had called to the stand scientists who confused
the jurors with mountains of data and statistics.
The jurors, however, were more moved by the simple story that opened the trial.
They specifically mentioned the story as one of the reasons behind their
decision. Stories are powerful, under-appreciated, and rarely used. If you want to
stand out, tell more of them.
Poor communication and presentation skills can sink your brand and your career.
I see it happen all the time. I’ve also seen way too many great ideas go
undiscovered because the people who have those ideas fail to communicate
effectively. We need big ideas to solve big problems, and we need inspiring
leaders who can present those ideas so they are understandable, memorable,
and make an emotional connection with their audiences.
Start engaging your audience. Your efforts with social media are designed to build
relationships, inspire loyalty and build awareness of your business. The primary
way that many businesses, both large and small, are doing this today is by telling a
story with their company vision.
Here are a few tips for using storytelling to engage your audience.
Be authentic
what is it that your product or service will do for a customer? What problem
does it solve? What would the results be? Stay true to your business vision as
you craft your story. One way to do this is by using actual customer stories. This
enables you to harness the power of User Generated Content (UGC).
Be relatable
who is your target audience? If they are in their 20s or 30s, use language and
images that speak to that generation.
Be compelling
give your story’s characters added depth with a backstory. Cardboard cutout
people are not going to impress or resonate with anyone especially in this age of
video.You may want to invest in an animated or live video.
Be relevant
choose your medium for telling the story. A video format is popular but it can
also be told with images and words, actors, cartoon-like drawings, voice overs
and the like. It depends on your product and what your audience responds to.
Stay focused
use keywords and concise wording to send your message effectively. Attention
spans are short these days so you have to capture their attention from the first
second and keep it until the last. A short production is best to begin with to test
the waters with your audience.
(Remember, If You can Make People Laugh You can Make them Do
Anything!)
Fumbling for the right words while trying to crack a joke can be embarrassing. It
can ruin the funny side of a conversation. Whether it is English, Spanish, Greek or
French, being in control of your language and picking the right words should
come naturally.
Increase your vocabulary and have a strong grip over your play of words
when you are trying to make someone laugh. Using the right words will
help you hit the tender funny bone, whether it is to create ambiguity in
meaning, a pun on words or a double entendre.
A good sense of humor and a strong command over language are of little
value if the timing of a joke goes wrong. Knowing when to say something
is as important as knowing what to say. It is highly situational so the best
way to find out is to learn from experience
Every time you say something funny in an attempt to make someone laugh,
judge the reaction and think "Would it have been funnier if I'd said it
earlier/later?" As you make attempts to equip yourself with the skills to be
funnier, this deliberate introspection will help you time your humor to
perfection.
Use similar logic in your personal life and try to keep a poker face after
trying to be funny. Control your expressions and let the people be
entertained with the tickling side of your conversation.
If your sense of humor is not getting due credit because you are shy of
speaking out in front of a group of people, there is no way around it but
to lose the inhibition.
Make deliberate efforts to speak out and better yet, plan for a moment
when you are going to crack a joke in front of others. As time goes by, the
need to plan will decrease, your confidence will increase, and your witty
sense of humor will surface by itself.
When you crack a joke or are going to say something funny, say it loud
without too many fumbles and pauses. Carry a confident body language
and make sure you get everyone's attention.
The ability to make people laugh is something that is cultivated over time
and eventually, should come naturally. It is not something that can be
picked up overnight. Like a true learner, try to soak up the above tips.
Develop a witty sense of humor before you deliberately attempt to crack
one joke after another.
Allow observation and experience to take its course and play along with
life's funny moments. The key is to develop a knack of being able to bring a
smile on someone's face. Don't try too hard, else your attempts may go
from dull and boring to just plain obnoxious.