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Personal Relationship Hand Out

This document discusses personal relationships, including teenage relationships, attraction, love, commitment, and responsibility. It provides definitions of key terms and discusses different types of personal relationships like family, friends, and partnerships. It also lists common relationship problems and ways to nurture relationships, such as connecting with family, practicing gratitude, learning to forgive, and spending quality time together. Finally, it provides ten rules for finding love and creating long-lasting relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-love, choice, communication, negotiation, and nurturing the relationship through change.

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Personal Relationship Hand Out

This document discusses personal relationships, including teenage relationships, attraction, love, commitment, and responsibility. It provides definitions of key terms and discusses different types of personal relationships like family, friends, and partnerships. It also lists common relationship problems and ways to nurture relationships, such as connecting with family, practicing gratitude, learning to forgive, and spending quality time together. Finally, it provides ten rules for finding love and creating long-lasting relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-love, choice, communication, negotiation, and nurturing the relationship through change.

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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

This module was designed and written with you in mind. It is here to help you master the topic on
Personal Relationships. Personal reflections, sharing, and lectures help reveal and articulate relevant
concepts, theories, and tools in different areas in psychology.
After going through this module, you are expected to:
• discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attractions, EsP-PD11/12PR-lla-9.1
• express their ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; and EsPPD11/12PR-lla-9.2

Specifically, you are to:


1. discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attractions,
2. express their ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; and
3. identify ways to become responsible in a relationship

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP 1.1


WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?

 The concept of relationship is very broad and complex.


 In our model, personal relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by
emotional bonds and interactions.
 These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
In our model there are three kinds of personal relationships
1. FAMILY
 The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships, but this
varies greatly from person to person.
 The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household."
 Some typical characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared
beliefs and values, security, and a sense of community.

2. FRIENDS
 A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding.

3. PARTNERSHIP
 Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between two people
that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love.
 We usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time.

BASIC DEFINITIONS
1. Relationship - a relation between people - a state of connectedness between people
(especially an emotional connection)
2. Personal relationships - relationships between people, especially those between friends,
lovers and family members.
3. Love - strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities - attraction based
on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers -affection based on admiration,
benevolence, or common interests
4. Commitment - the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of
action - a message that makes a pledge
5. Attraction - the act, power, or property of attracting - attractive quality; magnetic charm;
fascination; allurement; enticement - a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entic.
6. Responsibility - the social force that binds you to the courses of action demanded by that
force - a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct.

25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS


Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often encountered by couples:
1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating - This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands, internet
relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term affairs and financial infidelity
2. Sexual Issues- particularly loss of libido and including questions around your gender, or your
partner's gender
3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’ significantly for whatever
reason
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
6. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress- such as Work-Related Stress, long-term illness,
mental health issues, Financial Problems, problems with the children, infertility and many
more
7. Bored in or with Your Relationship
8. Dealing with a jealous partner
9. Having 'blended' family issues
10. Domestic violence - which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE most serious
relationship problem.
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
12. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many other issues
13. Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess / knight and not
seeing the 'real' human being
14. Addictions - substance abuse
15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship
16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that matter to you
17. Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family or friends
18. Lack of communication about important matters
19. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks- It is not
always women who complain about this relationship problem!
20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration / attentiveness: feeling the
relationship is one-sided is a big one!
21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in relationship
dynamics
22. Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or both
23. Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline / deal with the children
24. Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing something
positive to address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it cannot be changed
25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant problems after the birth
your baby.

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP 1.2


NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
A. Connect with your family
 One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy pace of life.
 But Blue Zones research states that the healthiest, longest-living people in the world all have
something in common: they put their families first.
 Family support can provide comfort, support, and even influence better health outcomes while
you are sick.

B. Practice gratitude
 Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects can strengthen
friendships and intimate relationships.
 Remembering to say “thank you” when a friend listens or your spouse brings you a cup of coffee
can set off an upward spiral of trust, closeness, and affection.

C. Learn to forgive
 It’s normal for disagreements or betrayal to arise in relationships, but your choice about how to
handle the hurt can have a powerful effect on the healing process.
 Choosing to forgive can bring about a variety of benefits, both physical and emotional.

D. Be compassionate
 Compassion is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in painful times, with a
gentle, nonjudgmental attitude.
 When you feel compassionate toward another person— whether a romantic partner, friend,
relative, or colleague—you open the gates for better communication and a stronger bond.

E. Accept others
 It is also important to be accepting of the other person in the relationship.
 But otherwise, try to understand where the person is coming from rather than judge them.

F. Create rituals together


 With busy schedules and the presence of online social media that offer the façade of real contact,
it’s very easy to drift from friends.
 In order to nurture the closeness and support of friendships, you have to make an effort to
connect.

G. Spend the right amount of time together


 Gallup researchers Jim Harter and Raksha Arora found that people who spend 67 hours per day
socializing (which could mean hanging out with friends, sharing meals with family, or even
emailing a colleague) tend to be the happiest.
 In contrast, those who have zero interactions (or an exhausting overload of social time) feel more
stressed

TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-LASTING, AUTHENTIC


RELATIONSHIPS
1. YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
 Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are
formed.
 Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with
another.

2. PARTNERING IS A CHOICE
 The choice to be in a relationship is up to you.
 You have the ability to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to
happen.

3. CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS


 Moving from “I” to “we” requires a shift in perspective and energy. Being an
authentic couple is an evolution.

4. RELATIONSHIPS PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW


 Your relationship will serve as an unofficial “lifeshop” in which you will learn about
yourself and how you can grow on your personal path.
5. COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL
 The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood of your relationship.

6. NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED


 There will be times when you and your partner must work through impasses.

7. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGED BY CHANGE


 Life will present turns in the road. How you maneuver those twists and turns
determines the success of your relationship.

8. YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE


 Treasure your beloved and your relationship will flourish.

9. RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY


 Happily ever after means the ability to keep the relationship fresh and vital.

10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE
 You know all these rules inherently.
The challenge is to remember them when you fall under the enchanting spell of love.

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