12 SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL

PERSONAL
DEVELOPMENT
Personal Relationships
Introductory Message
For the facilitator:

Welcome to the Personal Development 11/12 Alternative Delivery Mode (ADM)

Module on Personal Relationships!

This module was collaboratively designed, developed and reviewed by

educators both from public and private institutions to assist you, the teacher
or facilitator in helping the learners meet the standards set by the K to 12
Curriculum while overcoming their personal, social, and economic
constraints in schooling.

This learning resource hopes to engage the learners into guided and
independent learning activities at their own pace and time. Furthermore, this
also aims to help learners acquire the needed 21st century skills while taking
into consideration their needs and circumstances.

In addition to the material in the main text, you will also see this box in the
body of the module:

Notes to the Teacher

This contains helpful tips or strategies that
will help you in guiding the learners.

As a facilitator, you are expected to orient the learners on how to use this
module. You also need to keep track of the learners' progress while allowing
them to manage their own learning. Furthermore, you are expected to
encourage and assist the learners as they do the tasks included in the module.

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 The famous saying “No man is an island” by John Donne outlines the
importance of fulfilling man’s fundamental need to belong. The relationships we
nurtured in any group we may be part of, can help each and everyone of us survive.

In this topic, we will discover your relationship with significant persons in your
life. You will also explore how attraction, love, and commitment help adolescents, like
you, to become more responsible in a relationship. Are you ready? Don’t be afraid in
answering. We have provided aids to learning so you can keep up.

Let us proceed to the learning tasks specially prepared for you.

LEARNING COMPETENCY:

Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and

unacceptable expressions of attractions
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Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment

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At the end of the module, you should be able to:

o discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable

and unacceptable expressions of attractions;
o compose a quote or saying expressing your ways of showing attraction,
love and commitment; and
o demonstrate acceptable expression of attraction towards your relationship
circles.

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 What’s In

Task 1:

You have explored in the previous module how emotions can be both a positive
and negative one and how you express or hide them can have an effect on your
dealings with people.
Below are some emojis with its description/meaning (Column A). Match the
emojis to its appropriate emotions/ feelings in Column B. Write only the letter of your
choice in your activity notebook.

A B
1.
Feeling fear and worry a. confused
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c. afraid
2. d. in pain
Feeling mad with a person, act, or idea e. lonely
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f. angry
3.
Feeling joy and pleasure
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4.
Feeling alone and that nobody cares
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5.
Feeling unable to think clear
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Task 2:

Copy the table below in your activity notebook, then, identify an actual situation
/ happening in your life wherein you felt the emotions/feelings mentioned in

EMOTIONS/ FEELINGS HOW YOU FELT THIS EMOTION?

1.
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3.
4.
5.

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 What’s New

Task 3:

Pick the word/term from the box which best applies to the pictures displayed
below. Write the words in your activity notebook.

Attraction Relationships
Love Commitment
Personal relationships

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What is It

BASIC DEFINITIONS

1. Relationship
- a relation between people; a state of
connectedness between people (especially an
emotional connection)
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2. Personal relationships - relationships between people, especially those between

friends, lovers and family.

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 Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and
benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support.
In our model there are three kinds of personal relationships:

*Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of
relationships, but this varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the Census
defines family as "two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption
and who live together as one household." But many people have family they don't live
with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family vary across
cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime.

*Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often
built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding.
Friends are able to turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and James
Fowler, social-network researchers and authors of the book Connected, find that the
average person has about six close ties—though some have more, and many have
only one or none.

*Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed
between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love.
We usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time.

3. Love
- strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities.
- attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers
- affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.

4. Commitment
- the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action

5. Attraction
- attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement
- a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices

6. Responsibility
- a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct

WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT

Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is
compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy
life. Conversely, the health risks from being alone or isolated in one's life are
comparable to the risks associated with cigarette smoking, blood pressure, and
obesity.

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 Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
• Live longer. A review of 148 studies found that people with strong social
relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely.

• Deal with stress. The support offered by a caring friend can provide a buffer against
the effects of stress.

• Be healthier. According to research by psychologist Sheldon Cohen, college

students who reported having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a
common cold when exposed to the virus.

• Feel richer. A survey by the National Bureau of Economic Research of 5,000 people
found that doubling your group of friends has the same effect on your wellbeing as a
50% increase in income!

On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number of health

consequences, such as:

• Depression. Loneliness has long been commonly associated with

depression, and now research is backing this correlation up: a 2012 study of breast
cancer patients found that those with fewer satisfying social connections experienced
higher levels of depression, pain, and fatigue.

• Decreased immune function. The authors of the same study also found a
correlation between loneliness and immune system dysregulation, meaning that a lack
of social connections can increase your chances of becoming sick.

• Higher blood pressure. University of Chicago researchers who studied a

group of 229 adults over five years found that loneliness could predict higher blood
pressure even years later, indicating that the effects of isolation have long-lasting
consequences.

According to psychiatrists Jacqueline Olds and Richard Schwartz, social

alienation is an inevitable result of contemporary society's preoccupation with
materialism and frantic "busy-ness." Their decades of research support the idea that
a lack of relationships can cause multiple problems with physical, emotional, and
spiritual health. The research is clear and devastating: isolation is fatal.
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10 WAYS TO EXPRESS LOVE

Here are 10 ways to express love to your special someone, your friends, family,
children. By expressing love, we bring ourselves joy knowing that love is not just a
Valentine's Day moment, but an ongoing, free-flowing experience that enriches our
lives.
1. Express gratitude. Tell someone how much you appreciate their presence in
your life.
2. Send flowers. Do it for no reason other than to say “Thank you for being you.”

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 3. Set aside time. Give the gift of listening. Make a date if you must, in your own
home or at a quiet little neighborhood place, for coffee or a drink and just listen
to each other’s thoughts.
4. Keep anger at bay. During stressful times think of this image. If an ember flies
from a fireplace onto your rug, it will burn a hole. Flick it off immediately and the
rug is safe.
5. Be thoughtfully generous with gifts. Remember what is special about a person
in your life and buy gifts that are unique to them.
6. Order fortune cookies. Find ones with love sayings. You might also intersperse
with gratitude sayings.
7. Offer an act of kindness. Say to your love or someone you care about, “What
can I do for you today that will make your life easier and less stressful?” Then
do it.
8. Write a note. Here’s a simple start: “I am so grateful that you are in my life. I
love you for a million reasons. Here are the top three.”
9. Make time. Arrange to be together for events that bring you both pleasure.
10. Be forgiving. We all have quirks. When one surfaces that makes you want to
scream, either gently say something or switch to the positive-quality channel.

In the book, Around the Year with Emmet Fox: A Book of Daily Readings, Fox
challenges us to make this commitment by saying: “I have chosen the path of Love.
My own heart is to be my workshop, my laboratory, my great enterprise, and love is to
be my contribution to humanity.”
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What’s More

Copy the banner provided below in your activity notebook, then, write a saying
or quote inside it which expresses your ways of showing attraction, love and
commitment. Here’s a sample:

“I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving

communication, appreciation, and understanding.” Miranda Kerr

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 RUBRIC FOR QUOTE- WRITING
POINTS
CRITERIA DESCRIPTION POINTS
OBTAINED
The quote/saying was clearly and creatively
Organization 5
conveyed.
The different ways of showing attraction, love
Content 5
and commitment were provided.
TOTAL: 10

What I Have Learned

I have learned that

I have realized that

I will apply

Assessment

Matching Type. Match the terms in Column A with its appropriate meaning in Column
B. Write the letter of your choice in your activity notebook.

A B

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 1. A relation between people A. responsibility
2. A close tie between two people that is often built B. relationship
3. An attraction based on sexual desire: affection C. personal relationships
and tenderness felt by lovers. D. commitment
4. It refers to relationships between people, E. friendship
especially those between friends, lovers and family
F. love
5. A form of trustworthiness; the trait of being
G. partnerships
answerable to someone for something or being
H. attraction
responsible for one’s conduct.
6. Attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; I. sadness
allurement; enticement. J. family
7. The act of binding yourself (intellectually or K. gratitude
emotionally) to a course of action.
8. Refers to close relationships formed between two
people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and
romantic love.
9. Tell someone how much you appreciate their
presence in your life.
10. Two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption and who live together as one
household.

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 Additional Activities

The statements below are some relationships Do’s and Don’ts you can remind
yourselves of when entering a teen or romantic relationship. Supply the blank with
either a DO or a DON’T depending upon your understanding of its context. Write your
answer in your activity notebook.
1. look for someone you feel comfortable with
2. forget your friends
3. be your own person
4. know the difference between good and bad conflict
5. know the signs of an abusive relationship

Congrats! You have successfully completed Module 1.

May all your learning guide you towards developing and
maintaining strong relationships with family, friends,
and other love ones!

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Glossary
The following terms used in this module are defined as follows:

Attraction- - a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices

Commitment- the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of

action.

Family- two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who
live together as one household

Friendship- a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding

Love- attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers

Partnerships- including marriage, are close relationships formed between two people
that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love

Personal relationships- refer to close connections between people, formed by

emotional bonds and interactions

Relationship- a relation between people

Responsibility- a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone

for something or being responsible for one’s conduct.

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