NSTP- CWTS 1 Honest intentions in speech and action gain

MODULE 3.1 : HUMAN BEHAVIOR: the attention and respect of others. These
HONESTY people become the ones that you not only
want to influence but be influenced by. The
company we keep and surround ourselves
LEARNING
with help to define
OBJECTIVES
After studying this module, I as a teacher should
be able to:
our outlook on life, as well as lift us to places
 identify the concept of Honesty we couldn’t have arrived at entirely by our
 understand the importance of own efforts.
this human behavior; Honesty
 evaluate the benefits of being
honest ACTIVATING
PRIOR KNOWLEDGE
TOPIC
OUTLINE
HONESTY IS THE FIRST CHAPTER IN
THE BOOK OF WISDOM
HONESTY
1. The meaning of Honesty
2. The Importance of having a Honest HUMAN BEHAVIOR:
behavior HONESTY
3. The Benefits of Honesty in different
Aspects

OVERVIEW

Honesty Helps You Find the Answers You’re

Looking For
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Honesty cuts through red tape, distraction,
frustration and indecision. Honesty gets you Honesty is defined as fairness and
where you want to go faster because you straightforwardness of conduct. Synonyms
live how you really feel. You may not always include sincerity, integrity and
know what you want in your future — trustworthiness. They're all good qualities to
whether that’s one month, six months or two find in a person and certainly worthwhile to
years from now — but your intuition will give learn. Honesty is going to take you places in
you a feel for what is in harmony with your life that you never could have dreamed and
heart. it’s the easiest thing you can practice in
order to be happy, successful and fulfilled.
Honesty is part of the foundation of my core LESSON 2: THE
values and principles. Honesty cuts through IMPORTANCE OF
deception and knifes its way through deceit HONESTY
and lies. Honesty leads to a fulfilling, free
life.

Honesty is not just about telling the truth. It’s

about being real with yourself and others
about who you are, what you want and what
you need to live your most authentic life.
Honesty promotes openness, empowers us
and enables us to develop consistency in
how we present the facts. Honesty sharpens
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LEARNING Being honest isn't always easy,

otherwise we'd all do it all the time,
ACTIVITY 1
but there are fi ve main reasons why
Reflection on HONESTY honesty is important:

Objective: This activity would be particularly 1. Without honesty there is no

relevant for supporting student progress foundation for a lasting or enjoyable
towards learning outcomes with declarative relationship in any context, whether
knowledge. that be with a family member, friend or
romantic interest. Honesty is a voice
Task: Students are assigned to a question for love that builds trust. Without it,
that requires them to apply, summarize, even 'I love you' becomes a lie in itself
explain or identify etc. an important aspect and there's no real security in the
of the information just presented. After relationship.
asking the question, wait 10 to 15 seconds
before asking for volunteers, or calling on a 2. People can't read your mind. Being
randomly selected student to respond. (It honest doesn't just mean telling the
may be useful to provide a visual clue for truth about factual information, but
students identifying that after posing the also about the way you're feeling. If
question you would like to them to consider you were hurt by something someone
a response and remain silent for the did, they may not even realize unless
designated amount of time.) you are honest with them about how it
affected you. If instead you hide the
Tools and resources: Online resources, way you feel, then you disempower the
video, laptop, sheet of papers other person from doing something
about the problem and refuse the
relationship the opportunity to grow.
They may also feel hurt if they realize
you were upset with them but said to live a lie. Lies rarely come on their
nothing, or if they know you're not own: one will usually be needed to
being honest with them about the way cover another until it spirals out of
you feel. All of these festers and control. This becomes complicated for
damages the relationship, while on the the one who started it and confusing
other hand, being honest about your for the one receiving it. More than that,
feelings can bring healing, solve a living a lie is hard work. It means not
problem, renew hope and foster good being yourself or enjoying
communication.  relationships, and that is not
comfortable for anyone. On the other
3. When people don't know the truth, hand, while being honest about
they will try and guess it. That is, not diffi cult situations may be
being honest about something causes uncomfortable at fi rst, if it can be
people to try and fi gure out what worked through, the relationship is
you're not saying, or what the truth strengthened, trust is built and love is
actually is. This breeds gossip, which deepened. 
can then foster more lies and
deception that other people may The best relationships are the ones
mistake as truth. Finally, this causes with honesty. It may mean diffi cult
many more people to feel hurt and talks and awkward confrontations, but
betrayed when the truth is fi nally being honest also means better
revealed, all of which could be avoided relationships with others and with
if honesty was applied in the fi rst yourself.
instance.
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by the concealment of the
truth than by the truth itself. LEARNING
Some people lie because ACTIVITY 2
they're afraid the truth will get them in
trouble or cause another pain, but REFLECTION PAPER
more often than not, while the truth
may be painful, it is still usually less Objective: Write and identify the key ideas
painful when delivered honestly than and importance of Honesty in their own way
when it is wrapped in deception. of living.
Holding back on it or lying to cover it
only causes people to feel betrayed as Task: Write and list down all the key ideas
well as hurt, and to then question why related to the importance of Honesty.
you weren't just honest with them in
the fi rst place. Tools and resources: Sheets of paper and
pen.

5. Being honest improves the

relationship and saves us from having
Lesson 3: The Benefits of Honesty in  We lie to authoritative figures to
Different Aspects avoid embarrassment and
punishment, including ourselves.
I. BEING HONEST TO OTHERS When we've done something we

1. Figure out why you lie and who you

lie to. We've all lied at one time or
another, to different people, to
ourselves, and for different reasons.
But coming up with a systematic
plan for becoming more honest will feel guilty about, lies are told to
be difficult unless you try to define eliminate the guilt, avoid the
those reasons and those people for punishments, and get back to the
yourself. objectionable behavior we're forced
to lie about. It's a vicious cycle.
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better might include exaggerations,
embellishments, and flat-out tall- 2. Anticipate behaviors that will make
tales we tell to others, and you feel guilty. To break the chain of
ourselves, to make ourselves feel embarrassment and lying, it's
better about our inadequacies. important to learn to anticipate
When you're unhappy about things that you'll likely feel guilty
something, it's much easier to fill it about in the future, and avoid those
in with lies than tell the truth. behaviors. When you lie, you're
 We lie to peers we think are better covering up some uncomfortable
than us, because we want them to truth that's more easily couched in a
respect us as we respect them. lie. You can either get comfortable
Unfortunately, being dishonest is with the truth, or abandon the
disrespectful in the long run. Give behavior that makes you
people more credit for their ability embarrassed.
to empathize and understand you
 If you smoke cigarettes, you won't
on a deeper level.
have to lie if everyone knows it's
 Lies that avoid
true. Own up to it. If a behavior is
embarrassment might include lies
un-own-upable, it's probably best to
told to cover up bad behaviors,
avoid it. It would be humiliating for
transgressions, or any activity we're
your partner to find out that you had
not proud of. If your mom found a
an inappropriate relationship with a
pack of cigarettes in your jacket,
coworker, but you won't have to lie
you might lie and say that they're
if you don't do it.
your friends to avoid punishment.

3. Stop comparing yourself to

others. Sometimes we lie to make
 ourselves seem bigger and better consequences at the end of the
than we really are. Because we're admission, it'll be the honest
constantly competing and consequences that you deserve.
comparing ourselves to others, any
inadequacies can be most-easily 5. Do things that make you feel
overcome with a quick and creative pride. You don't have to lie if you feel
lie. If you stop feeling competitive good about yourself! Surround
with others and give yourself the yourself with caring, understanding
value you deserve, you won't feel the people who will respect you for who
need to lie to bring yourself up, you are. Do things that give you
because you're already up! pleasure and that make you feel
proud of yourself.
 Forget what you think other people
want to hear from you. Give other  Getting super-drunk every night
people the benefit of the doubt, and might make you feel good for a
assume that they're not running couple hours, giving you pleasure,
"game" on you, or being but the ice-pick in your brain the
manipulative. Speak from your next morning at work will have you
heart and tell the truth, without even feeling embarrassed and guilty
the slightest bit of concern about when you can't make it into work.
whether or not it will make you look Take care of yourself, mentally and
"bad." People respect honesty, even physically. Don't do things you're
when the truth is uncomfortable. embarrassed to do.
 Let your honesty impress people, not
your exaggeration. Lots of 6. Avoid situations in which you'll have
dishonesty results from attempts to to lie for others. Be wary when
impress our peers with elaborate someone tells you something in
tales that will one-up everyone else confidence that you know that you
at the table. If you're unable to should share with someone else
contribute to the round of (e.g., knowledge of a crime, a lie, or a
anecdotes about European travel, harmful act against another).
just listen quietly and wait until the Hearing such information puts you in
subject changes, instead of making a difficult position, especially when
up a ruse about your study-abroad the truth eventually emerges and
in Majorca. reveals to the affected person that
you knew all along.
4. Accept the consequence and decide
to face them. Sometimes, it's better  If someone begins a sentence with
to own up to lies, to deceits, and to "Don't tell so-and-so about this,
prior behaviors that you're okay?" be prepared to offer your
embarrassed about, rather than own disclaimer: "If it's something
continue weaving an elaborate web that I'd want to know about were I
of lies. It can be liberating and them, then please don't tell me. I
extremely healthy to come clean. don't want to be responsible for
Even if there will be some anyone's secrets but my own."
 sentiment in the language of
7. Distinguish between what the something your spouse needs to
person you are conversing with know, in a much more polite way.
needs to know and what you want to
say. Sometimes, we feel a burning 8. Exercise tact. Everyone likes a
urge in our guts to make ourselves straight-shooter, but sometimes a
be heard. Telling off a rude straight-shooter's aim can be off by
roommate, confronting your spouse, a couple inches. Consider the effect
or arguing with a teacher can all of your words and learn to rephrase
seem like moments that require our possibly-offensive or uncomfortable
complete and uncorked honesty, but language. Learn to volunteer
pulling out the stopper can be a appropriate opinions
quick way to sour relationships and
say things you don't actually mean.  Use "I" statements when sharing
To avoid over-sharing, try to figure uncomfortable truths. When you're
out the difference between things sharing your opinions and truths
that you need to say because with others, try to keep your
another person needs to hear it, and honesty tamed. Focus on talking
things that you want to say to make about your feelings, and your
yourself feel better. opinions, to stay respectful of
 Someone else needs to know if others.
they're missing something that  Try to add the phrase "In my
will cause them physical or experience..." or "Personally, I've
emotional harm, or if they're doing observed that..." at the beginning,
something that's affecting other or end it with "...but that's just my
people in the same way. Your observation/experience, that might
roommate might need to know not be how things are everywhere".
that their excessive drinking is  Learn to listen quietly while others
making you uncomfortable in your are speaking, even if you disagree
own house, but not that you think with what they're saying, or feel the
a new date is "trashy." need to dissent. When you take a
 You might want to say something in turn to speak, they'll offer you the
a fit of anger or high emotion that, same courtesy, making the
upon reflection, you might be able exchange both more honest and
to couch in a more friendly way. In more comfortable.
the middle of an argument about
a lackluster relationship, you may II. Being Honest With Yourself
want to say, "You're gaining
weight and now I'm not attracted 1. Give yourself an objective
to you," and this might be appraisal. It's important to look in the
important for your spouse to hear
in some ways, though not in proverbial mirror every now and then and
others. However, "I think we could take stock of how you feel. What do you
be healthier" puts the same
like about yourself? What do you need to Maybe your relationship is stale and
you're unhappy in it, but can't bring
work on? It's possible to build up
yourself to make any considerable
elaborate psychological barriers that changes.
 As much as you can, try to eliminate
force us into dishonest behaviors,
excuses from your mind. It doesn't
opinions, and activities that could be matter why this particularly
uncomfortable truth about you is so,
avoided by giving ourselves an objective
because you can't go back into the past
appraisal. Write down a list of your to change it. You can, however, change
your behavior now and start making
strengths and weaknesses in a notebook,
yourself happier.
not to take stock of your self-worth, but
3. Create opportunities for yourself to
to find things to improve and to celebrate
improve. From your list of strengths and
your achievements. weaknesses, try to identify specific areas
for improvement, and specific ways that
you might improve yourself.
 Identify your strengths. What are you
good at? What do you do better than  What was necessary for your strengths to
most people you know? What do you become strengths? What did you do that
contribute to daily life? What are proud you're especially proud of? In what way
of? In what ways are you better than you could that truth inform your desire to
once were? improve some of your weaknesses?
 Identify your weaknesses. What  What threatens your ability to improve
embarrasses you about yourself? What yourself? Are these threats external, like a
could you do better? Have you gotten lack of funds necessary to buy a gym
worse at something specific, over the membership and lose a few pounds, or
years? internal, like a lack of desire to research
DIY weight-loss options?
2. Confront the things about yourself
that you dislike. A big source of 4. Take action. When you decide to act,
dishonesty in our lives comes from an carry through with your decision. Lying to
unwillingness to confront the things yourself is easy. It's easy to come up with
about ourselves that we're ashamed of, a couple hundred reasons not to do
embarrassed about, or just plain something you don't want to do. That's
disgusted by. Without dwelling on them, why we let it happen so often! Make it hard
try to define them honestly. on yourself. When you decide to end a
relationship, or start working, start doing it.
 Maybe you always hoped to have Make it happen. Now. Don't wait until you
published that debut novel by the time come up with a litany of reasons that it's
you turned 30, a goal that's no closer "not the right time." When you make a
now than it was 5 years ago. Maybe you decision, set it in motion.
know you need to get in shape, but find it
easier to keep up the same old routine.
 Make it easy on yourself to be say "They're not as flattering as the black
successful in accomplishing your dress—that dress really looks amazing on
improvements. Set up a risk-and-reward you. Have you tried it on with those
exchange when you accomplish a stockings you wore to my cousin's
daunting task, like buying yourself that wedding last year?"
new guitar after ending your ugly  Keep some opinions to yourself. It
relationship, or treating yourself to a might be true that you're not crazy about
vacation after losing a couple pounds. the cowboy-themed restaurant and bar
 Accomplish your tasks with digital that your best friend wants to visit on her
aid: you can sign up with Skinny-Text to only night in town, but it's not necessarily
receive exercise reminders on your "honest" to share that opinion. What you
phone, or even consider using Pact, want is to serve the greater good of the
which will charge you a specific amount evening–you've only got one night
of money if you choose not to exercise. together!–to keep fun moving forward.
Instead of saying, "I don't like this place.
Let's go somewhere else," say "Although
Avoiding Unnecessary Lies it's not my favorite place, I want to do
what you want to do. Let's make it
1. Don't add color to your stories. One
awesome."
all-too-tempting and common little lie is
 Deflect the question. If your child
in filling in extra details to make a story
wants to know if Santa Claus is real, tell
more entertaining. It can be tempting to
them you're not sure, and engage them.
make it a bear that wandered into your
Ask them what seems to be true for
campsite, rather than a raccoon, but
them: "What do you think? What do kids
you might be setting a precedent that
say at school?" You don't have to decide
opens up reasons and opportunities for
between a flat-out lie and the total truth.
more lies. Let the truth be the truth and
The real world is more complicated than
be as honest as possible.
that.
2. Get creative with "white lies." We've
3. Stay silent if you need to. If you're in
all been there, when someone asked
a tense situation, in which getting honest
something dreaded, like: "Do I look fat
would disrupt everyone's mood and
in this?" or "Is Santa Claus real?"
happiness, it's not necessarily dishonest
Sometimes, we feel we must lie to
to remain silent. If you've got the option
make someone else feel better, or to
of staying out of it, stay out of it. It takes
lessen the blow or some uncomfortable
courage to stay silent in an awkward
truth, but the choice between being
situation sometimes.
honest and lying isn't always a choice
between A and B.
 Choose the high road. In a
disagreement, more opinions don't make
the issue easier to untangle, necessarily.
 Emphasize the positive. Shift the
You don't have to tell a white lie to get an
focus away from what, in all honesty, you
argument to end, nor do you need to
think is negative. Instead of saying "No, I
continue dropping truth-bombs. Stay out
don't think you look good in those pants"
 of petty disagreements entirely, rather Better Health
than reigniting the flame.
Honesty and seeking the truth is always the
way to go. Honesty engenders confidence,
faith, empowers our willpower and
represents us in the best way for others to
see and witness our example. Honesty
improves our vitality. In an honesty
LEARNING experiment conducted by two University of
ACTIVITY 3 Notre Dame professors, results showed that
telling the truth is good for our health:

Objective: Examine their own individual

Telling the truth when tempted to lie can
concept on how to apply this kind of human significantly improve a person’s mental and
behavior physical health, according to a “Science of
Honesty” study.
Task: Rate your own!!! HONESTY SURVEY

Provide students with access to a text (e.g., Respectable, admired behavior is always
journal article, blog, multimedia presentation).
carried out with honesty. Telling the truth
The questions could be provided for personal
and backing it up with actions show respect
reflection, they could be presented in the form of
an online quiz (weighted or unweighted) or
for what’s right and an esteem for ethical
survey. The questions might ask student to list and moral integrity. Honesty is one of the
advantages and disadvantages, or to compare key components to character and one of the
and contrast different approaches noted in the most admired traits of any successful,
lesson. responsible person.

Tools and resources: Reading references

Honesty leads to a fulfilling, free
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life. Honesty is not just about telling the
Congratulations! You can now proceed to truth. It's about being real with yourself
the module that would guide you in having and others about who you are, what you
honesty as a human behavior! want and what you need to live your
most authentic life. ... Honesty sharpens
our perception and allows us to observe
everything around us with clarity.

SUMMARY
An emotionally intelligent person is a person
of impeccable integrity and honesty;
Let us see if you can remember the main someone who can perceive and recognize
points raised in this lesson. Below is a the quality of honesty in another. Business
transactions and the everyday transactions
summary of these points:
of human relations must be carried out with
a code of trust and honesty or else
everything will break down.

To be educated is to be free

It’s important to watch the film

through the lens of the time it was
made in. Then, illiteracy was still a
serious problem in Western countries, and
both the educational system and the family
model were still very much controlled by a
certain way of thinking — unmovable and
inflexible in many cases. In certain corners
of society it is still present, but in many
others it has been transformed.

REFERENCES

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Prepared by:
KRIS ANN B. RAGOS
Faculty, National Service Training Program

JOE REY E. LOCQUIAO

Faculty, National Service Training Program