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I Knew It Was The Wrong Thing To Do, But I Couldn't Help Myself

This document discusses getting out of "Damage Control Mode" after a breakup. It describes Damage Control Mode as a state of anxiety where you constantly contact your ex in hopes of explaining yourself or understanding the breakup. The document advises that getting your ex back requires focusing on creating positive interactions, not reacting to your ex. It provides signs that someone is in Damage Control Mode and stresses the importance of getting out of this mindset to have any chance of reconciling with an ex.

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I Knew It Was The Wrong Thing To Do, But I Couldn't Help Myself

This document discusses getting out of "Damage Control Mode" after a breakup. It describes Damage Control Mode as a state of anxiety where you constantly contact your ex in hopes of explaining yourself or understanding the breakup. The document advises that getting your ex back requires focusing on creating positive interactions, not reacting to your ex. It provides signs that someone is in Damage Control Mode and stresses the importance of getting out of this mindset to have any chance of reconciling with an ex.

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The Important First Step to Getting Your Ex Back


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Clay Andrews <[email protected]> 31 January 2023 at 15:07


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To: [email protected]

I knew It Was the Wrong Thing to


Do, but I Couldn’t Help Myself…
I sat there, with my phone in my hand, and I called her…

…Again.

It must have been the sixth time that day.

Again, she didn’t answer.

Straight to voicemail.

My mind was racing, I just wanted to get through to her.

I just wanted to explain everything to her.

I knew somewhere deep inside that if we could just understand each other, that this
whole breakup thing could be put behind us.

She didn’t pick up the phone, though.

So, I did the logical thing.

I sent her email.


And just like my phone calls, this wasn’t the first email I’d sent that day.

It was the third.

Again, I knew somewhere that this wasn’t what I should be doing.

But I couldn’t help myself.

My emotions were all over the place.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

Have you done anything like this with your ex?

It’s okay.

You don’t have to be embarrassed about it.

I’ve crossed paths with thousands of people who have done the same thing too.

And I’ve been there myself too.

Heck, I even tried to guess the password to her email account too to see if she was
dating someone new (Hint: NEVER do this. Nothing good comes from it)

Are You in Damage Control


Mode?
If any of this rings true to you, then you are in Damage Control Mode.

When you’re in Damage Control Mode, anything and everything you do is driven
by anxiety and fear.

You’re essentially just re-acting to your ex and everything that they do or don’t do.

And you know what?

It’s completely understandable that you might be in Damage Control Mode right


now.

After all, you lost your relationship.

For most of us, our relationships are the most important thing in our lives.
When our relationship goes away, it’s completely normal for us to panic.

Here’s the Thing Though…


Even though it is completely normal and understandable to be in Damage Control
Mode, you’ve got to get out of it.

It’s going to be nearly impossible to get your ex back if you’re in Damage Control
Mode.

Sure, there might be some weird case out there where someone got their ex back
even when they were in Damage Control Mode because their ex felt pressured
into getting back together out of guilt or because their ex thought that they couldn’t
date anyone better.

But you know what?

That is a TERRIBLE reason to get back together with anyone!

And even if they did get back together, they’ll probably just end up breaking up
again anyway because the root cause hasn’t been taken care of (again, I’m
speaking from experience here…)

Why Is It Important to Get Out of


Damage Control Mode?
We’ll get into this more tomorrow, but the secret to getting your ex back is to focus
on creating positive interactions that will feel good and get your ex excited about
getting back together with you.

In other words you’ve got to show your ex that being together with you is better
than being with anyone else out there.

More on that tomorrow though, so stay tuned.

Anyway, back to Damage Control Mode.

Here are a few signs you are probably in Damage Control Mode:
You “keep tabs” on your ex by snooping on their Facebook page (or other social
media profiles)
You spend a lot of time overanalyzing what your ex says or doesn’t say, does or
doesn’t do, etc.
You feel an almost obsessive need to be in touch with your ex to tell them how
you feel or to apologize or talk about the breakup or understand why the breakup
happened
If your ex is in a rebound relationship, you may feel as if you have to do
everything in your power to stop that relationship (don’t worry, we’ll go over the
“Decoy Strategy” for rebound relationships soon enough…)
You freak out if you text, email, or call your ex and they don’t respond to you
immediately, jumping to catastrophe predictions (“they’ve met someone else!”)
You devote a lot of time to trying to analyze what they are REALLY thinking
about you

When you’re in Damage Control Mode, EVERYTHING that you do will feel bad on


an emotional level.

It doesn’t matter if you say the perfect thing to your ex, it will feel bad emotionally to
them and cause them to pull away from you.

How could this be?

How you could you say the right thing, but it would have the wrong impact?

Because your intention and your emotional state will come through no matter how
cool you appear to be… even if it’s through text message.

I’m Sorry, but You Really Can’t


Fake It
If you tell your ex that you’re okay to just be friends, but you’re really not, it will
come through.

Your ex will be able to detect neediness or inauthenticity or anything else.

They may not be able to put it into words, but it will feel “weird” or “off” and they’ll
pull away.

So, you’ve got to get out of Damage Control Mode if you want to get your ex back.

 
Take a Deep Breath with Me
Here…
I know you may be a little panicked right now.

But I promise you things will be okay.

It may not be easy, but you’ll get through this one way or anther.

I’m here to help you out.

But we’re not going to get anywhere until you can snap yourself out of Damage
Control Mode.

That’s why the first thing we do with our Ex Solution Program students is to take
them by the hand and help them shift out of Damage Control Mode.

After that we get into the nitty gritty, but getting you out of Damage Control
Mode is the first priority because it’s THAT important to getting your ex back.

Anyway, if you want to learn more about the Ex Solution Program, just click "reply"
to this email and let us know.

In the meantime, I just want to check in with you…

…Are YOU in Damage Control Mode?

Only you can know for sure, but you have to look inside and be honest with
yourself.

If you are in Damage Control Mode, your #1 priority should be to get out.

Okay, enough for today.

Next time, we’re going to be talking about the main reason why your ex has had a
complete “personality shift” since your breakup.

Why are they walling you out or pulling away?

And more importantly, what can you do about it?

Stay tuned…

-Clay
 

PS: By the way, I actually did get out of Damage Control Mode myself and I got
my ex back, despite all the mistakes I made.

If you haven’t seen it yet, you can watch this “confessional video” where I share my
whole story of how I got my ex back.

It’s 100% true.

Even the parts I’m embarrassed to admit…

PPS: If you haven't yet, go ahead and shoot me an email and I'll send you the 5-
Step Plan to Get Your Ex Back or the videos on Getting Through to Your Ex.

There's still time to get them :)

  
 

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