12 SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL

PERSONAL
DEVELOPMENT
Quarter 4 – Module 1

Personal Relationships

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 The famous saying “No man is an island” by John Donne outlines the importance
of fulfilling man’s fundamental need to belong. The relationships we nurtured in any group
we may be part of, can help each and every one of us survive.
In this topic, we will discover your relationship with significant persons in your life.
You will also explore how attraction, love, and commitment help adolescents, like you, to
become more responsible in a relationship. Are you ready? Don’t be afraid in answering.
We have provided aids to learning so you can keep up.

Let us proceed to the learning tasks specially prepared for you.

LEARNING COMPETENCY:
Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and
unacceptable expressions of attractions.
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Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment.

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At the end of the module, you should be able to:

o discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable and

unacceptable expressions of attractions.
o compose a quote or saying expressing your ways of showing attraction, love, and
commitment; and
o demonstrate acceptable expression of attraction towards your relationship circles.

Important note to remember: This module will be collected every week, so you are
directed not to put any marks in here. All answers and the exact date must be written in
your ACTIVITY/QUIZ notebook, or as prescribed on every given activity.
For health and safety purposes, avoid licking your fingertips, when leafing or turning
pages.

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 What I Know

Directions: Write T if the statement is TRUE, if it is FALSE, write F. Write your

answers in your activity notebook.

_____ 1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.

_____ 2. To love someone, we must love our self-first.

_____ 3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than judging
them helps us build and maintain relationships.

_____ 4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good
health.

_____ 5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the feeling
behind our words, more likely than not, our relationship is doing good.

_____ 6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a loved one
has hurt us.

_____ 7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.

_____ 8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain
good relationships.

_____ 9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good
relationships.

_____ 10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a problem in
relationships.

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 What’s In

Task 1:

You have explored in the previous module how emotions can be both a positive
and negative one and how you express or hide them can have an effect on your dealings
with people.
Below are some emojis with its description/meaning (Column A). Match the emojis
to its appropriate emotions/ feelings in Column B. Write only the letter of your choice in
your activity notebook.

A B
Feeling fear and worry
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b. glad
Feeling mad with a person, act, or idea c. afraid
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e. lonely
f. angry
Feeling joy and pleasure
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Feeling alone and that nobody cares

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Feeling unable to think clear

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Task 2:
Copy the table below in your paper, then, identify an actual situation/ happening in your
life wherein you felt the emotions/feelings mentioned in

EMOTIONS/ FEELINGS HOW YOU FELT THIS EMOTION?

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 What’s New

Task 3:
Pick the word/term from the box which best applies to the pictures displayed
below. Write the words in your activity notebook.

Attraction Relationships
Love Commitment
Personal relationships

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What is It

BASIC DEFINITIONS

1. Relationship
- a relation between people; a state of connectedness
between people (especially an emotional connection)
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2. Personal relationships - relationships between people, especially those between

friends, lovers, and family.

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 Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and
benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support. In
our model there are three kinds of personal relationships:

*Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of
relationships, but this varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the Census
defines family as "two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption
and who live together as one household." But many people have family they don't live
with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family vary across cultures
as well as throughout your own lifetime.

*Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built
upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding. Friends
are able to turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler,
social-network researchers and authors of the book Connected, find that the average
person has about six close ties—though some have more, and many have only one or
none.

*Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed
between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We
usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time.

3. Love
- strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities. - attraction based on
sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers - affection based on admiration,
benevolence, or common interests.

4. Commitment
- the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action

5. Attraction
- attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement
- a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices

6. Responsibility
- a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct

WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT

Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is

compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy
life. Conversely, the health risks from being alone or isolated in one's life are comparable
to the risks associated with cigarette smoking, blood pressure, and obesity.

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Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
• Live longer. A review of 148 studies found that people with strong social
relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely.
• Deal with stress. The support offered by a caring friend can provide a buffer
against the effects of stress.
• Be healthier. According to research by psychologist Sheldon Cohen, college
students who reported having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a
common cold when exposed to the virus.
• Feel richer. A survey by the National Bureau of Economic Research of 5,000
people found that doubling your group of friends has the same effect on your
wellbeing as a 50% increase in income!

On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number of health

consequences, such as:
• Depression. Loneliness has long been commonly associated with depression,
and now research is backing this correlation up: a 2012 study of breast cancer
patients found that those with fewer satisfying social connections experienced
higher levels of depression, pain, and fatigue.
• Decreased immune function. The authors of the same study also found a
correlation between loneliness and immune system dysregulation, meaning that a
lack of social connections can increase your chances of becoming sick.
• Higher blood pressure. University of Chicago researchers who studied a group
of 229 adults over five years found that loneliness could predict higher blood
pressure even years later, indicating that the effects of isolation have long-lasting
consequences.

According to psychiatrists Jacqueline Olds and Richard Schwartz, social alienation

is an inevitable result of contemporary society's preoccupation with materialism and
frantic "busy-ness." Their decades of research support the idea that a lack of relationships
can cause multiple problems with physical, emotional, and spiritual health. The research
is clear and devastating: isolation is fatal.
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10 WAYS TO EXPRESS LOVE

Here are 10 ways to express love to your special someone, your friends, family,
children. By expressing love, we bring ourselves joy knowing that love is not just a
Valentine's Day moment, but an ongoing, free-flowing experience that enriches our lives.
1. Express gratitude. Tell someone how much you appreciate their presence in your life.
2. Send flowers. Do it for no reason other than to say, “Thank you for being you.”
3. Set aside time. Give the gift of listening. Make a date if you must, in your own home
or at a quiet little neighborhood place, for coffee or a drink and just listen to each
other’s thoughts.
4. Keep anger at bay. During stressful times think of this image. If an ember flies from a
fireplace onto your rug, it will burn a hole. Flick it off immediately and the rug is safe.
5. Be thoughtfully generous with gifts. Remember what is special about a person in your
life and buy gifts that are unique to them.
6. Order fortune cookies. Find ones with love sayings. You might also intersperse with
gratitude sayings.
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7. Offer an act of kindness. Say to your love or someone you care about, “What can I do
for you today that will make your life easier and less stressful?” Then do it.
8. Write a note. Here’s a simple start: “I am so grateful that you are in my life. I love you
for a million reasons. Here are the top three.”
9. Make time. Arrange to be together for events that bring you both pleasure.
10. Be forgiving. We all have quirks. When one surfaces that makes you want to scream,
either gently say something or switch to the positive-quality channel.

In the book, Around the Year with Emmet Fox: A Book of Daily Readings, Fox
challenges us to make this commitment by saying: “I have chosen the path of Love. My
own heart is to be my workshop, my laboratory, my great enterprise, and love is to be my
contribution to humanity.”
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What’s More

Copy the banner provided below in your paper, then, write a saying or quote inside
it which expresses your ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment. Here’s a
sample:

“I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving

communication, appreciation, and understanding.” Miranda Kerr

RUBRIC FOR QUOTE- WRITING

POINTS
CRITERIA DESCRIPTION POINTS
OBTAINED
The quote/saying was clearly and creatively
Organization 5
conveyed.
The different ways of showing attraction, love
Content 5
and commitment were provided.
TOTAL: 10

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 What I Have Learned

I have learned that ________________ _______________________

I have realized that _______________________________________

I will apply _____________________________________________

What I Can Do

On your Personal Relationships: Discuss about the different relationships you

have. Why do you think these relationships are important? Write a one-page reflection
paper about these ideas.
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________

RUBRIC FOR REFLECTION PAPER

POINTS
CRITERIA DESCRIPTION POINTS
OBTAINED
The activity was able to answer the
Organization 10
question posed.
The paper was well-written with ideas
Organization 5
easily conveyed to readers.
Analysis was clear and concise based on
Analysis 5
the data presented.
TOTAL: 20

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 Assessment

Matching Type. Match the terms in Column A with its appropriate meaning in Column B.
Write the letter of your choice in your activity notebook.

A B
___1. A relation between people A. responsibility
___2. A close tie between two people that is often built. B. relationship
___3. An attraction based on sexual desire: affection C. personal relationships
and tenderness felt by lovers. D. commitment
___4. It refers to relationships between people, especially E. friendship
those between friends, lovers and family. F. love
___5. A form of trustworthiness; the trait of being G. partnerships
answerable to someone for something or being H. attraction
responsible for one’s conduct. I. sadness
___6. Attractive quality; magnetic charm; J. family
fascination; allurement; enticement. K. gratitude
___7. The act of binding yourself (intellectually
or emotionally) to a course of action.
___8. Refers to close relationships formed
between two people that are built upon affection,
trust, intimacy, and romantic love.
___9. Tell someone how much you appreciate
their presence in your life.
___10. Two or more persons who are related by
birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together
as one household.

Additional Activities

The statements below are some relationships Do’s and Don’ts you can remind
yourselves of when entering a teen or romantic relationship. Supply the blank with either
a DO or a DON’T depending upon your understanding of its context. Write your answer
in your activity notebook.
1. ______ look for someone you feel comfortable with.
2. ______ forget your friends.
3. ______ be your own person.
4. ______ know the difference between good and bad conflict.
5. ______ know the signs of an abusive relationship.

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Glossary
The following terms used in this module are defined as follows:

Attraction- - a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices

Commitment- the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of

action.

Family- two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who
live together as one household.

Friendship- a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual experiences,
shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding.

Love- attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers.

Partnerships- including marriage, are close relationships formed between two people
that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love.

Personal relationships- refer to close connections between people, formed by

emotional bonds and interactions.

Relationship- a relation between people

Responsibility- a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for

something or being responsible for one’s conduct.

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