PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Subject Teacher: Ms. Janet A. Soriano Attraction

 The action or power of evoking interest,
Lesson 7: Personal Relationships pleasure, or liking for someone or something.
Key Components:
Learning Objectives:  Physical Attractiveness- Attractive people draw
 Discuss an understanding of teenage out a more positive first impression. Initially,
relationships, including the acceptable and people tend to be influences by what they see.
unacceptable expressions of attractions.  Similarity- People classify other people based
on information they already knew about them.
 Express his/her ways of showing attraction, That is social categorization, wherein people
love, and commitment. mentally group others on where they belong and
 Identify ways to become responsible in a that with the same characteristics with them, like
relationship. group age, religion, personality, attitude, social
status, or education.
Personal Relationships  Proximity- Proximity pertains to physical
Refer to close connections between people, formed by distance with other people and it is related to
emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow functional distance (how often people interact or
from and are strengthened by mutual experiences. communicate with each other). The more you
encounter or interact with the person, the more
Forms of Personal Relationships you allow yourself to get to know him/her better
 Family which leads to a better relationship like
 Friends friendship or intimate relationship.
 Partnership  Reciprocity- We tend to get along with people
or with someone whom we have the same
Kinds of Personal Relationships feelings toward. It is when feelings with
someone are being reciprocated or returned in
 Privacy and Intimacy- a sense of openness and
the same way as you do.
sharing with one another and the state of being
apart from others observation.
Are two attributes describing personal Love
relationships and level of commitment to another  A strong affection for another arising out of
person/s. kinship or personal ties.
 Attraction based on sexual desire; affection and
 Impersonal- commitment to an organization like tenderness felt by lovers.
a business entity, a principle or purpose.  Affection based on admiration, benevolence or
 Attraction- refers to a fond or tender interest or common interests.
appeal towards someone.
It is a force that unites people and can grow into Triangular Theory of Love
an attachment which eventually leads to Developed by Robert Sternberg
commitment.

Healthy and Acceptable Expression of Attractions

 Mutual Respect
 Trust
 Honesty
 Support
 Fairness or Equality
 Separate Identities
 Good communication

Unacceptable Expression of Attractions

 Cheating
 Putting you down
 Not supporting your dreams
 Controlling
 Lack of Communication
 Unnecessary Sacrifices Three Components:
 Unreliability  Intimacy- the feelings of closeness and
attachment to one another. Additionally, having
a sense of intimacy helps create the feeling of
Attraction, Love and
being at ease with one another, in the sense that
the two parties are mutual in their feelings.
Commitment  Passion- can be associated with either physical
arousal or emotional stimulation.
 A strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for in life. “Trust is the heart of all
something or about doing something. relationships.”
Strong sexual or romantic feeling for someone.
 Commitment- involves a conscious decision to 4. Well-communicated Love -Open
stick with one another. The decision to remain communication is one of the most essential
committed is mainly determined by the level of elements for any kind of relationship to keep
satisfaction that a partner derives from the it going. A tap on a shoulder, a kiss on a
relationship. cheek, a very encouraging smile, a simple
hug, may just be some of the most genuine
7 Forms of Love and sincerest ways of expressing your love
 Liking/friendship- (Intimacy alone) towards one another.
-This includes friendships and acquaintances
 Infatuated love (Passion alone) 5. Reliability and Security - Each one of us
dearly loves to have somebody whom we can
-Puppy Love
depend on and who will guarantee to protect
 Empty love (Commitment alone) us from any harm or trouble at any
-Arranged Marriage circumstance.
 Romantic love (Intimacy + Passion)
-Romantic Affair
 Companionate love (Intimacy + Commitment) 6. Non-judgmental Listening and Presence-
-Long-term Marriages Listening is the key factor that makes
 Fatuous love (Passion + Commitment) communication prosper. Sincere listening is
also a kind of expressing how genuine you
-Love at first sight.
communicate your love and affection to
 Consummate love (Intimacy + Passion + someone special to you.
Commitment) Listening with a high value of integrity
-Ideal kind of relationship indicates your presence which is non-
judgmental and not discriminatory.
Commitment

 It is a long-term relationship between Lesson 8: Social Relationship in Middle and Late

individuals. Commitment is a choice, a long
Adolescence
and not easy process that needs to be
participated by you and your partner.
Learning Objectives:
Becoming Responsible in a Relationship
 Distinguish the various roles of different
A sense of responsibility in taking care of your individuals in society and how they can
personal relationship can only be established when influence people through their leadership or
you realize the boundaries and limitations of your role followership.
and influence in the relationships.  Compare one’s perception of himself/herself
and how others see him/her.
6 Major Elements of Becoming Responsible in a
Relationship  Conduct a mini survey on Filipino
relationships (family, school, and
1. Mutual Respect- Establishing mutual community).
respect is easier when one is guided by the
virtue of the Golden Rule "Do unto others ROLE
what you would want others to do unto you." Defines a set of norms, values, behaviors, and
For us to gain respect from our loved ones or personality characteristics attached to a status such as
vice versa, we should instead use leader, follower, or club president.
encouraging words and learn the art of
acceptance to someone's unique personality
or traits and lastly practice the principle of
Roles Of An Efficient Leader That Can Influence
forgive and forget.
People
2. Value Quality Time - Having time for fun
will absolutely help you create more  Set example
memories worth treasuring. Quality time A good leader sets the best example. It is the
with your loved ones may mean learning to first rule. Walk the talk.
love them more.  Assume and do responsibility
Should be guided by your own duties and
3. Trust and Honesty - The person who responsibilities. Be proactive in guiding,
consistently receives someone's trust will teaching and developing excellence in
definitely grow trusting him/herself based on everyone.
how others trust him/her. Indeed, positive  Show Initiative
encouragement may create a positive outlook
 Find out what needs to be done. Leaders want followers who seek to enhance
 Life-long Learner their own growth and
Capacitate yourself. development.
 Show enthusiasm
If you come to work happy and cheerful, it SOCIAL INFLUENCE
provides motivation. It is characterized by a change in your
 Willing to serve behavior caused by the people that empower
This quality is known of a servant leader. you to adjust to a particular situation.
 Active Listener
To become an active listener, you must SOCIAL INFLUENCE IS CATEGORIZED BY:
maintain an eye contact. Pay attention to
facial expressions and body language. o CONFORMITY
 Show empathy Changing your behavior to be the same with the
Try to understand where people are coming others in the group. This change is in response to
from and their point of view. real (involving the physical presence of others) or
 Be sensitive to the need of others imagined (involving the pressure of social
As a good leader, you must be the one who norms / expectations) group pressure.
should know and feel the needs of your o COMPLIANCE
constituents. Granting a request or demand asked by another
 Delegate work individual in exchange of either a reward or a
Sharing work among members at the punishment. This occurs when an individual
organization should be divided into a accepts influence because he hopes to achieve a
manageable task. favorable reaction from another person or group.
 Learn to appreciate o OBEDIENCE
If someone has done great with the assigned Changing your behavior to follow the demand
tasks, be sure to let them feel they are given by an authority or an adult you have high
appreciated. regards with.
 Be Patient
Do not get easily annoyed if untoward SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS
incident happens hold your temper.
It refers to the connections that exist between people
Roles Of An Effective Follower That Leaders Need who have recurring interactions that are perceived by
the participants to have personal meaning. This
 Courage to do responsibility definition includes relationships between family
members, friends, neighbors, fellow worker, and
Effective follower feels a sense of personal other associates.
responsibility and ownership for his or her own
behavior in the organization.
 Courage to challenge Types Of Relationships
If the leader's actions contradict the best interest of
the organization, effective follower takes a stand.  FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
 Courage to participate in transformation Connected through some form of kinships
Effective followers view the struggle of change such as parents, brothers and sisters,
and transformation as a mutual experience shared grandparents, aunts and uncles or step-
by all members, support the leader and does not parents.
afraid to confront the changes.
 A "can" do attitude  FRIENDSHIPS
A leader's job becomes smoother when he or she People we are not related to but choose to
has followers who are positive and self-motivated, interact with. A person whom one knows and
can get things done, accept responsibility, excels in with whom one has a bond of mutual
required tasks and willingly accept difficult affection, typically exclusive of sexual or
assignment. family relations.
 A collaborative approach
Each follower is a part of the leader's larger system  ACQUAINTANCESHIPS
and should realize that his or her action affect the People you may encounter oftentimes but are
whole. not friends or relatives. For instance, they may
 Courage to serve and subservient be a neighbor who lives in your road, a work
Effective follower understands the needs of the colleague or someone you have seen a few
organizations and seek those who need. times at a social event but do not yet know
 The passion to drive personal growth well.
 different sexual orientation and is part of the
 COMMUNITY RELATIONSHIPS LGBTQIA+ community.
Describe a company's interactions with the  Migrant Family
community in which it resides. It is a family who settles together in a different
place; it could be from one place to another.
Lesson 9: Family Structures and Legacies  Immigrant Family
A family wherein one or both parents are
Learning Objectives: already an immigrant of other country.

 Appraise one’s family structure and types of care Legacy

he/she gives and receives which may help in  Passed from our ancestors, from
understanding himself/herself better. generation to generation such as culture,
 Make a genogram and trace certain physical, traditions, and customs. It is also called as
personality, or behavioral attributes through heritage.
generations.  It could be passed to us socially,
 Prepare a plan on how to make the family emotionally, or spiritually.
members firmer and gentler with each other.
Emotional Legacy
Family In order to prosper, children need an enduring
 Came from the Latin word familia which means sense of security and stability nurtured in an
group of people living in the household. environment of safety and love.
 Family could be related by blood, or birth or
by other relationship.  Provides a safe environment in which
deep emotional roots can grow.
Types of Family Structures  Fosters confidence through stability.
 Conveys a tone of trusting support.
 Nuclear Family  Nurtures a strong sense of positive identity.
Also known as "conjugal" or "traditional"  Creates a resting place for the soul.
family, consisting of married couples and their  Demonstrates unconditional love
offspring.
 Extended Family
It includes all relatives in proximity such as Social Legacy
grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. Learn the art of relating to people, the art of
 Single Parent Family socialization.
It includes one parent and their children only.
 Step Family  Respect, beginning with themselves and
The parents have divorced and remarried, working out to other people.
bringing the children from other unions  Responsibility, fostered by respect for
together to form a new nuclear family. themselves that is cultivated by assigning
 Foster Family children duties within the family, making them
It includes parent who serves as a temporary accountable for their actions ang giving them
guardian for one or more children to whom room to make wrong choices once in a while.
they may or may not be biologically related.
 Unconditional love and acceptance by their
 Adopted Family
parents, combined with conditional acceptance
A family wherein parents may adopt a child to
when parents discipline for bad behavior
whom they share no blood relationship, or one
actions.
parent may adopt the child of the other parent.
 The setting of social boundaries concerning ho
 Bi-racial or Multi-racial Family
to relate to God, authority, peers, th
A family wherein parents are from different
environment, and siblings.
races.
 Trans-racial Adoptive Family  Rules that are given within a loving
A family wherein parents adopted a child with relationship.
a different race.
 Conditionally Separated Family Spiritual Legacy
A family wherein one of the family members We adopt attitudes and beliefs about spiritual
is conditionally separated from the others. matters from one person or another. Parents nee to take
 Childless Family the initiative and present faith to their children.
Married couple without children.
 Gay or Lesbian Family  Acknowledge and reinforce spiritual realities.
A family wherein one or both parents has a  Clarify timeless truth.
  Make spiritual activities a routine part of life.
 Incorporate spiritual principles into everyday
living.
 View God as a personal, caring being who is t
be loved and respected.
How to draw Genogram?
Genogram  Know your reason for making a genogram to
Is a graphic representation of a family tree that help you determine the type of family
displays detailed data on relationships among information you want to indicate.
individuals.  Name all the members of your family kinship
Genogram Symbols that you wanted to include in your genogram.
 Organize questions to gather facts and figures
about your relatives to be included in the
genogram.
 Write down notes how everyone in your
family is connected.
 Solicit information starting with the oldest
generation down the line.

What is a firmer and gentler family relationship?

 It is a relationship that makes the family
stronger amid difficulties and crisis they are
experiencing.

Ways on How to Make Family Members Firmer and

Gentler with each other.

F- Foster Unity
I- Involve each other
R- Respect Individuality
M- Model the behavior
E- Explain expectations and consequences
R- Reward good behavior

G- Give love and forgiveness

E- Express gratitude
N- Nurture trust
T- Take time together L- Listen attentively E-
Ensure safety
R- Remember God

P- Pray always
L- Learn good communication
A- Accept failures
N- Nourish each other
S- Serve one another