Body Language Basics

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Module One: Getting Started .............................................................................................................4

Workshop Objectives ................................................................................................................................ 4

Module Two: Communicating with Body Language .............................................................................5

Learning a New Language ........................................................................................................................ 5

The Power of Body Language ................................................................................................................... 5

More than Words...................................................................................................................................... 6

Actions Speak Louder than Words ............................................................................................................ 6

Case Study................................................................................................................................................. 7

Module Two: Review Questions................................................................................................................ 8

Module Three: Reading Body Language ............................................................................................ 10

Head Position .......................................................................................................................................... 10

Translating Gestures into Words ............................................................................................................ 11

Open Vs. Closed Body Language............................................................................................................. 11

The Eyes Have It ...................................................................................................................................... 12

Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 13

Module Three: Review Questions ........................................................................................................... 14

Module Four: Body Language Mistakes............................................................................................. 16

Poor Posture ........................................................................................................................................... 16

Invading Personal Space ......................................................................................................................... 17

Quick Movements ................................................................................................................................... 17

Fidgeting ................................................................................................................................................. 18

Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 18

Module Four: Review Questions ............................................................................................................. 19

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Module Five: Gender Differences ..................................................................................................... 21
Facial Expressions ................................................................................................................................... 21

Personal Distances .................................................................................................................................. 21

Female Body Language........................................................................................................................... 22

Male Body Language .............................................................................................................................. 23

Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 23

Module Five: Review Questions .............................................................................................................. 24

Module Six: Nonverbal Communication ............................................................................................ 26

Common Gestures .................................................................................................................................. 26

The Signals You Send to Others .............................................................................................................. 27

It’s Not What You Say, It’s How You Say It ............................................................................................. 27

What Your Posture Says.......................................................................................................................... 28

Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 28

Module Six: Review Questions ................................................................................................................ 29

Module Seven: Facial Expressions..................................................................................................... 31

Linked with Emotion ............................................................................................................................... 31

Micro-Expressions ................................................................................................................................... 31

Facial Action Coding System (FACS)........................................................................................................ 32

Universal Facial Expressions ................................................................................................................... 32

Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 33

Module Seven: Review Questions ........................................................................................................... 34

Module Eight: Body Language in Business ......................................................................................... 36

Communicate with Power....................................................................................................................... 36

Cultural Differences ................................................................................................................................ 37

Building Trust .......................................................................................................................................... 37

Mirroring................................................................................................................................................. 38

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 Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 38

Module Eight: Review Questions ............................................................................................................ 39

Module Nine: Lying and Body Language............................................................................................ 41

Watch Their Hands ................................................................................................................................. 41

Forced Smiles .......................................................................................................................................... 42

Eye Contact ............................................................................................................................................. 42

Changes in Posture ................................................................................................................................. 43

Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 43

Module Nine: Review Questions ............................................................................................................. 44

Module Ten: Improve Your Body Language ....................................................................................... 46

Be Aware of Your Movements ................................................................................................................ 46

The Power of Confidence ........................................................................................................................ 47

Position and Posture ............................................................................................................................... 47

Practice in a Mirror ................................................................................................................................. 47

Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 48

Module Ten: Review Questions .............................................................................................................. 49

Module Eleven: Matching Your Words to Your Movement ................................................................ 51

Involuntary Movements.......................................................................................................................... 51

Say What You Mean ............................................................................................................................... 52

Always Be Consistent .............................................................................................................................. 52

Actions Will Trump Words ...................................................................................................................... 52

Case Study............................................................................................................................................... 53

Module Eleven: Review Questions .......................................................................................................... 54

Module Twelve: Wrapping Up .......................................................................................................... 56

Words from the Wise .............................................................................................................................. 56

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 The human body is the best picture of the
human soul.

Ludwig Wittgenstein

Module One: Getting Started

The ability to interpret body language is a skill that will enhance
anyone’s career. Body language is a form of communication, and
it needs to be practiced like any other form of communication.
Whether in sales or management, it is essential to understand
the body language of others and exactly what your own body is
communicating.

Workshop Objectives
Research has consistently demonstrated that when clear goals are associated
with learning, it occurs more easily and rapidly.

• Define body language.

• Understand the benefits and purpose of interpreting body language.

• Learn to interpret basic body language movements.

• Recognize common mistakes when interpreting body language.

• Understand your own body language and what you are communicating.

• Practice your body language skills.

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 The body never lies.

Martha Graham

Module Two: Communicating with Body Language

We are constantly communicating, even when we are not speaking.
Unspoken communication makes up over half of what we tell
others and they tell us. It affects our work and personal
relationships. Improves negotiating, management, and
interpersonal skills by correctly interpreting body language and
important signals.

Learning a New Language

In many ways understanding body language is like learning a foreign language. There
are a few tips that make learning any language, even a nonverbal one, easier.

Tips:

• Set Goals: Make sure that your goals are realistic and have specific timelines.

• Devote time to learning: Schedule time to practice. Do not rely on spare time.

• Practice daily: Hone skills by continued practice.

• Enjoy the process: You are not in school. Relax and have fun with your new skill.

The Power of Body Language

Understanding body language does more than improve relationships. You will get
insight into the thoughts and feelings of those around you. Because it is not a
conscious form of communication, people betray themselves in their body
language. Body language is powerful in several ways.

Power of Body Language:

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 • It is honest: Body language conveys truth, even when words do not.

• Creates self-awareness: Understanding body language helps you identify your own actions
that hinder success.

• Understand feelings: Body language shows feelings and motive such as aggression,
submission, deception, etc. Use these as cues to your communication.

• Enhance listening and communication skills: Paying attention to body language makes
someone a better listener. Hear between the words spoken to what is being said.

More than Words

Much of the way people communicate is nonverbal. Body language specifically
focuses on physical, not tone, or pitch. It includes the following characteristics.

Body Language:

• Proximity: The distance between people

• Positioning: Position of a body

• Facial expression: The eyes are particularly noticed.

• Touching: This includes objects, people, and themselves.

• Breathing: The rate of respiration is telling.

Actions Speak Louder than Words

Our impressions of each other are based on more than words. People can have
cordial conversations and not like each other. The actions that we take are stronger
than our words. For example, a person may dismiss someone using body language
and not saying anything negative. Like it or not, our body language makes a lasting
impression on the people around us.

What Actions Can Say:

• Deception

• Confidence

• Nerves

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 • Boredom

• Emotions

• Attraction

• Being open

• Being closed off

Please note that this is not an exhaustive list of what body language can communicate.

Case Study
Jim had to hire a new personal assistant. He needed someone organized and
personable. Jen answered all of the interview questions perfectly. She had the
necessary training and education, so Jim hired her. After a few weeks, some of Jim’s
coworkers complained about her behavior. They accused her of being aggressive
and insubordinate, but she never said anything specifically rude or hostile. Her tone
and body language, however, were extremely aggressive. For example, she rolled
her eyes when people asked her questions. Jim had to coach Jen on her nonverbal
communication, and he added a body language evaluation to his interview process.

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Module Two: Review Questions
1. Goals should be _____?

a) Concurrent
b) Compatible
c) Revised
d) Realistic

2. How often should body language be practiced?

a) Hourly
b) Weekly
c) Daily
d) Monthly

3. What does body language NOT improve?

a) Sight
b) Listening
c) Success
d) Understanding

4. What should provide cues to your communication?

a) Your own feelings

b) Feelings of others
c) The tone of voice
d) The truth

5. What is the term for the distance between people?

a) Respiration
b) Proximity
c) Positioning
d) Screening

6. What is NOT included in touching?

a) Self
b) Others
c) Positioning
d) Objects

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7. _____ makes a lasting impression.

a) Body language
b) Words
c) Appearance
d) Clothing

8. Body language can communicate _____.

a) Experience
b) Estimation
c) Expectations
d) Deception

9. What unacceptable form of body communication did Jen exhibit?

a) Yelling
b) Aggression
c) Eye rolling
d) Crossed arms

10. What did Jim add to his interview?

a) Double interview
b) Body language assessment
c) Internal interviews
d) Skills assessment

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 Emotion always has its roots in the
unconscious and manifests itself in the
body.

Irene Claremont de Castillejo

Module Three: Reading Body Language

We are constantly reading the body language of others, even
when we are not aware of it. Actively reading body language,
however, will provide valuable insight and improve
communication. Pay attention to the positions and movements
of people around you. Specifically their head positions, physical
gestures, and eyes.

Head Position
The head is an obvious indicator of feelings and thoughts. The position of the head
speaks volumes, making it the perfect place to start. While it takes practice to
accurately interpret head position, the basic positions, and movements that are not
extremely difficult to identify.

Movement and Position:

• Nodding: Nodding typically indicates agreement. The speed of the nod, however, indicates
different things. A slow nod can be a sign of interest or a polite, fake signal. Look to other eyes
for confirmation. A fast nod signals impatience with the speaker.

• Head up: This position indicates that the person is listening without bias.

• Head down: This position indicates disinterest or rejection for what is said. When done during
an activity, it signals weakness or tiredness.

• Tilted to the side: This means a person is thoughtful or vulnerable. It can signal trust.

• Head high: Holding the head high signals confidence or feelings of superiority.

• Chin up: The chin up indicates defiance or confidence.

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 • Head forward: Facing someone directly indicates interest. It is a positive signal.

• Tilted down: Tilting the head down signals disapproval.

• Shaking: A shaking head indicates disagreement. The faster the shaking, the stronger the
disagreement.

Translating Gestures into Words

Scientific studies show that the part of the human brain that comprehends words is
the same part of the brain that comprehends gestures. Gestures are also called
movement clusters because it is more than a body position. We use gestures when
we speak, typically hand gestures. They enhance meaning, or can be used by
themselves.

Translations:

• Pointing finger: This is an aggressive movement. When a wink is added, however, it is a

positive confirmation of an individual.

• Finger moves side to side: This motion acts as a warning to stop something.

• Finger moves up and down: This acts as a reprimand or places emphasis on what is said.

• Thumbs up: Thumbs up is a sign of approval.

• Thumbs down: This is a sign of disapproval.

• Touch index finger to thumb: The sign indicates OK.

Open Vs. Closed Body Language

Body language is often defined as open or closed. Being open or closed has many
different causes. Open body language can come from passivity, aggression,
acceptance, supplication, or relaxation. Closed body language may be caused by
the desire to hide, self-protection, cold, or relaxation.

Closed body language:

• Arms crossed: This stance is often defensive or hostile.

• Legs crossed when seated: Cross legs can indicate caution. One leg over the other at the knee
may indicate stubbornness.

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 • Arm or object in front of the body: This can coincide with nervousness and is a form of self-
protection.

• Legs crossed when standing: This may mean someone is insecure when combined with
crossed arms. By itself, it can signal interest.

Open body language:

• Legs not crossed: This is an open, relaxed position.

• Arms not crossed: Open arms indicate openness; although the hands may indicate aggression,
supplication, or insecurity, depending on their position.

The Eyes Have It

People give a great deal away through their eyes. The eyes are an important
factor when reading a person’s body language. When combined with body
position, the eyes will provide a more accurate translation of body language.

Looks:

• Looking to the left: Eyes in this direction can mean someone is remembering something.
Combined with a downward look, it indicates the self-communication. When looking up, it
means facts are being recalled.

• Sideways: Looking sideways means someone is conjuring sounds. Right, is associated with
imagination, and may mean a story. Left is accessing memory.

• Looking to the right: Looks to the right indicates imagination. It can mean guessing or lying.
Combined with looking down, it means there is a self-question. Combined with looking up, it
can mean lying.

• Direct eye contact: When speaking, this means sincerity and honesty. When listening, it
indicates interest.

• Wide eyes: Widening eyes signal interest.

• Rolled eyes: Rolled eyes mean frustration. They can be considered a sign of hostility.

• Blinking: Frequent blinking indicates excitement. Infrequent blinking signals a boredom or

concentration, depending focus.

• Winking: A wink is a friendly gesture or secret joke.

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 • Rubbing eyes: Rubbing eyes may be caused by tiredness. It can also indicate disbelief or being
disturbed.

Case Study
Mark is a sales executive who led a meeting hoping to reach new clients and
increase his sales. He thought the presentation went well. Many people
attending began to nod vigorously. He took this as a sign of agreement and
added a few more facts to cement his position, which lengthened the
presentation a few minutes. After the presentation, however, only two
attendees chose to sign up. Most made comments about being late and promised to meet with him
later.

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Module Three: Review Questions
1. A head positioned forward facing someone indicates ______.

a) Interest
b) Superiority
c) Approval
d) Disinterest

2. A head held high can indicate ________.

a) Interest
b) Superiority
c) Approval
d) Disinterest

3. What is the signal for OK?

a) Pointed finger
b) Thumbs up
c) Touch thumb and index finger
d) Thumbs down

4. Thumb down is a gesture of ______.

a) Interest
b) Approval
c) Disinterest
d) Disapproval

5. Crossed arms are an example of ________.

a) Closed body language

b) Aggression
c) Open body language
d) Approval

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6. Crossed legs while standing combined with crossed arm indicate _______.

a) Interest
b) Insecurity
c) Approval
d) Disapproval

7. Looks to the right indicate _________.

a) Memory
b) Sound
c) Thought
d) Imagination

8. What signals disbelief?

a) Rolled Eyes
b) Blinking
c) Rubbing eyes
d) Winking

9. How many attendees did Mark persuade with his presentation?

a) 0
b) 1
c) 2
d) 3

10. Describe the nodding of the attendees?

a) Barely noticeable
b) Shaking
c) Slow
d) Fast

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 The biggest single problem in
communication is the illusion it is taking
place.

George Bernard Shaw

Module Four: Body Language Mistakes

There are different factors that will create false body language
signals. This is why it is so important to examine the positions and
gestures as a whole when attempting to interpret body language.
To prevent body language mistakes, become aware of these
factors and think carefully when reading body language.

Poor Posture
Posture can lead to unfair judgments and prejudices. Often, poor posture
is seen as a closed body language that people assume is caused by a lack
of confidence. There are, however, many different reasons why someone
can have poor posture. While it is true that most people can improve on
their posture, the changes that can be made to a person’s
musculoskeletal structure are limited. Always pay attention to other cues,
and do not make rash judgments based solely on posture.

Some Causes of Poor Posture:

• Injury: Both acute injuries and repetitive motion injuries can alter someone’s posture.

• Illness: Autoimmune diseases, such as arthritis, can damage the skeletal structure.

• Skeletal structure: Scoliosis and other problems with the spine will affect posture.

• Temperature: People may take a closed posture when they are cold.

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Invading Personal Space
Invading personal space is seen as an act of hostility. Western societies typically
use five different zones, depending on the social situations.

1. 12 feet: This zone is for the public. The purpose is to avoid physical
interaction.

2. 4 feet: This zone is reserved for social interactions such as business settings. Touching requires
the individual to move forward.

3. 18 inches: This is a personal zone. It allows contact, and it is reserved for friends and family.

4. 6 inches: This zone is reserved for close relationships. This zone can be invaded in crowds or
sports.

5. 0 to 6 inches: This zone is reserved for intimate relationships.

It is essential to remember that these zones are part of most Western cultures. There are reasons why
people will invade personal space that have nothing to do with hostility.

Personal Space Differences:

• Culture: Each culture has different boundaries and personal space.

• Background: Personal history and background will affect an individual’s concept of personal
space.

• Activity: Some activities require people to work closely. This should be considered before
assuming someone is invading personal space.

Quick Movements
Quick movements may be interpreted as a sign of nervousness. They may,
however, be used to draw attention to specific information when speaking.
Consistent jerking movements, however, do not always indicate nerves or
negative emotions. Do not make a snap judgment about quick movements.
There are reasons why movements may seem quick or jerking.

May alter movement:

• Stress
• Illness
• Exhaustion
• Cold

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Fidgeting
Most people fidget from time to time. In interviews and social settings, fidgeting can
indicate nervousness, boredom, frustration, stress, or self-consciousness. It is an
outlet to release feelings or an attempt at self-comfort. Besides emotions, there are a
number of other reasons why people may fidget.

Other Reasons for Fidgeting:

• Attention deficit disorder: ADD and ADHD are often accompanied by fidgeting.

• Hormone imbalances: These may be accompanied by nervous energy.

• Blood sugar imbalances: Fidgeting accompanies sugar highs.

• Imbalanced brain chemistry: These may increase tension.

• Medications: Steroids and other medications can cause imbalances

Case Study
Sara was not impressed with Jon when she first saw him. His shoulders
were hunched over in a closed off position. She went into the interview
knowing that it would be a waste of her time. Jon’s head position,
however, showed interest. He had an engaging smile and was genuinely
interested in the position. Given his skills and complete body language
assessment, Sara became more positive about Jon as a candidate. The
interview revealed that Jon had worked a manufacturing job where his upper back was injured.

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Module Four: Review Questions
1. Repetitive motions will ________ posture.

a) Create an ill
b) Not affect
c) Injure
d) Improve

2. A closed posture is common when people are ____.

a) Cold
b) Happy
c) Hot
d) Warm

3. What should be evaluated before assuming someone is invading personal space?

a) Goals
b) Activity
c) Space
d) Relationship

4. What will not affect a person’s concept of personal space?

a) Culture
b) Activity
c) Background
d) Space

5. What is not a factor that causes quick movements?

a) Illness
b) Activity
c) Exhaustion
d) Cold

6. What do quick movements typically indicate to observers?

a) Activities
b) Deception
c) Nerves
d) Happiness

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7. What is not an emotional reason for fidgeting?

a) Nerves
b) Boredom
c) Happiness
d) Frustration

8. Employees need to be able to communicate their ______.

a) Requirements
b) Feedback
c) Frustration
d) Needs

9. What was Sara’s initial impression of Jon?

a) Positive
b) Helpful
c) Negative
d) Optimistic

10. What explained Jon’s posture?

a) Injury
b) Illness
c) Age
d) Medication

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 a blur of blinks, taps, jiggles, pivots and
shifts ... the body language of a man
wishing urgently to be elsewhere.

Edward R. Murrow

Module Five: Gender Differences

Not all body language is universal. There are differences in the
way that men and women communicate. Body language is often
confused between genders. In order to prevent
miscommunications, it is important to understand the signals that
are common to most people as well as the different signals that
men and women communicate with their body language.

Facial Expressions
Facial expressions will be explored in a separate module. Men and women share
the universal facial expressions, but there are some differences in use and
perception. For example, women typically tend to smile more often than men.
Women frequently smile to be polite or fulfill cultural expectations. The meanings
behind smiles are often misinterpreted. Additionally, people judge the same facial
expressions on men and women differently. Women, for example, were thought to
be angrier and less happy than men, according to a study published by the American Psychological
Association, even though they all had the same facial expressions.

Personal Distances
Personal space and personal distance change with each individual.
Everyone has his or her own idea of personal distance, which is the
comfortable distance that someone wishes to keep from another person.
Gender, however, often affects one’s sense of personal distance.

Men: Men generally take more space than women, and they employ larger
personal distances. Men are less likely to stand close to each other, even when they are all friends.
Additionally, they create larger buffer zones using items such as coats, cups, papers, etc. Men usually

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expect their buffer zones to be respected and do not respond well to someone invading their personal
space.

Women: Women generally employ smaller personal distances with each other or with male friends.
They tend to increase personal distance with strange men. Women also create buffer zones, but they
are typically smaller than male buffer zones. Women are more likely to draw back when their zones
are invaded, and female buffer zones are not always respected. People are more likely to move a
woman’s purse than a man’s coat.

Female Body Language

There are some subtle differences to note when interpreting female body language.
Culture plays a role in what is considered appropriate body language. Female body
language changes over time, and it is not universal to all women. There are,
however, some basic actions that many women have in common.

Body Language:

• Body Position and posture: Many women use closed body language. This may stem from a
cultural convention to appear smaller. Women, however, will straighten their posture to look
more attractive.

• Leaning: Women will lean forward when they are interested in something or someone. They
lean away when displeased or uncomfortable.

• Smiling: We have already mentioned that women are more likely to smile. While it is often a
friendly gesture, it is a probably a polite gesture when the eyes are not engaged.

• Eye contact: Eye contact indicates interest (either in what is said or the individual). Dilated
pupils are another sign of interest.

• Mirroring: Women often mirror, or copy, the actions of each other. They will occasionally
mirror men.

• Legs and feet: The legs and feet typically point in the direction of a woman’s interest. This
includes romantic interest.

• Touching: Women are more likely to touch each other than men are.

• Tapping: Tapping or fidgeting is a sign that a woman is annoyed or uncomfortable.

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Male Body Language
Male body language is not universal to all men. There are, however, certain aspects
of body language that are common to many men. Male body language is often seen
as more aggressive and dominating. Women are sometimes encouraged to adapt
male body language in the workplace.

Body Language:

• Stance: Men often choose wide stances to increase their size. Spread legs and a straight back,
both sitting and standing, indicates confidence. Closed body language does not.

• Eye contact: Men will make eye contact, but eye contact can be seen as a dominating or
hostile act when it lasts too long. Occasional eye aversion is normal. Like women, pupils dilate
with interest.

• Mirroring: Men do not typically mirror each other. They often mirror women to show their
interest.

• Legs and feet: Like women, the legs and feet typically point in the direction of a man’s
interest. This includes romantic interest.

• Smiling: Men do not smile as often as women in social settings; their facial expressions are
often reserved. They do, however, occasionally use forced smiles. Men often smile when
happy or to engage someone’s interest.

• Hands: Men are more likely to fidget than women. This is not necessarily a sign of insecurity or
boredom, just a way to use energy.

Case Study
Tom was attracted to his coworker Lisa. Lisa always smiled when she saw him
come in. She even laughed at his jokes. Tom would spend time in her cubicle,
and she never told him to leave. She simply continued working, leaning toward
her computer while he talked to her back. Tom was certain that Lisa would go
out with him, and one day he asked her. To his surprise, Lisa was annoyed by his
request. She told him that she did nothing to encourage his attention and that
she would file a harassment report if he asked her out again.

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Module Five: Review Questions
1. _____ are more likely to smile?

a) Women
b) The old
c) Men
d) The young

2. How are facial expressions between men and women viewed?

a) The same
b) Equally
c) Differently
d) In context

3. Women typically have larger personal distances with _____?

a) Each other
b) Male strangers
c) Friends
d) Male friends

4. Whose personal distance is more likely to be respected?

a) A boy’s
b) A woman’s
c) A girl’s
d) A man’s

5. What is signaled when a woman only smiles with her mouth?

a) Politeness
b) Attraction
c) Interest
d) Happiness

6. A woman is annoyed if she is _____?

a) Leaning forward
b) Tapping
c) Smiling
d) Touching

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7. Men are more likely to mirror ______?

a) Women
b) Each other
c) No one
d) Anyone

8. What can prolonged eye contact indicate?

a) Domination
b) Friendship
c) Interest
d) Boredom

9. How you describe Lisa’s smile?

a) Polite
b) Genuine
c) Happy
d) Engaging

10. What indicated that Lisa was not happy with Tom?

a) Leaning away from him

b) Leaning toward him
c) Smiling
d) Laughing

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 What you do speaks so loud that I cannot
hear what you say.

Ralph Waldo Emmerson

Module Six: Nonverbal Communication

We all communicate nonverbally. The image that we project from
our nonverbal communication affects the way that our spoken
communication is received. While interpreting body language is
important, it is equally important to understand what your
nonverbal communication is telling others. It takes more than
words to persuade others.

Common Gestures
Many gestures that we make are unconscious movements or mannerisms. Being
aware of what our gestures mean will make us aware of what we are
communicating. The following list is not comprehensive, but it is a good place to
start.

Unconscious Gestures:

• Biting nails: This may mean insecurity or nerves.

• Turning away: Looking away indicates that you do not believe someone.

• Pulling ears: Tugging at ears can indicate indecision.

• Head tilt: A brief head tilt means interest. Holding a tilt equals boredom.

• Open palms: Showing palms is a sign of innocence or sincerity.

• Rubbing hands together: Rubbing hands together is a sign of excitement or anticipation.

• Touching the chin: This signals that a decision is being made.

• Hand on the cheek: Touching the cheek indicates someone is thinking.

• Drumming fingers: This is a sign of impatience.

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 • Touching the nose: People often associate touching the nose with lying. It can also signal
doubt or rejection.

The Signals You Send to Others

You are always sending signals to other people. These signals come through body
language, voice, appearance, and personal distance.

• Body language: Body language includes posture, gestures, and facial

expressions.

• Appearance: A person’s hygiene and dress send signals to others. People make negative
assumptions based on a disheveled appearance.

• Personal distance: Too great a personal distance makes people appear cold. On the other
hand, not respecting the personal distance of others will have negative consequences.

• Voice: Tone is important to the way we communicate. Emotions are conveyed through tone.

It’s Not What You Say, It’s How You Say It

Miscommunication is a common problem in personal and business
relationships. Paying attention to the way that you communicate will
help prevent any miscommunications. You must take note of the tone,
pitch, and timbre of your voice.

• Pitch: People tend to naturally respect deeper voices. High-

pitched voices are viewed as a sign of immaturity. Try a lower, even pitch. Even a neutral tone
can make a person appear weak or insecure when there is a higher pitch at the end of a
statement, like questions have.

• Speed: Keep a moderate pace. Speaking too quickly will cause confusion, and speaking too
slowing will make it difficult to keep attention.

• Loudness: Speak up; quiet voices can be viewed as submissive. Be careful, however, not
accidentally yell.

• Tone: Tone conveys emotion, so avoid sarcasm and condescension. Vary your tone to prevent
boring listeners with a monotone presentation.

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What Your Posture Says
Posture is the basis of body language communication. People respond well to good
posture, and having good posture improves physical and emotional health. Slouching
is seen as a sign of insecurity or weakness. Confident body language demands good
posture.

Posture Communication:

• Standing or sitting erect: Standing straight communicates confidence. It will also prevent
musculoskeletal pain.

• Hunching over: This is closed body language and can signal unhappiness or insecurity.

• Ducking or shrugging the head: This is a protective or submissive move to appear smaller. It is
not equated with confidence.

Correct Posture:

• Stand and sit straight: Straight posture maintains the natural curve of the spine. This is
achieved by pulling in the abdominal muscles, pushing the shoulders back, and lifting the
chest.

• Head position: Hold the head upright and look to the front. This will protect the natural shape
of the neck.

• Relaxation: Posture should not be forced or stiff. Someone with straight posture should look
and feel relaxed.

Case Study
A supervisor of Nutime Production consistently has low employee evaluations.
Employees felt that he was rude and authoritative. The supervisor attempted
to be more careful in his choice of words, and he scheduled an assessment to
point out his problem. The assessment showed that the supervisor’s tone often
conveyed condescension and sarcasm. Additionally, his body language and
gestures indicated impatience and aggression. His nonverbal communication was stronger than his
words. The supervisor was assigned a communications course.

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Module Six: Review Questions
1. What does it mean when someone bites nails?

a) Thought
b) Doubt
c) Insecurity
d) Anticipation

2. Tugging on ears can be a sign of ________.

a) Insecurity
b) Anticipation
c) Decision
d) Indecision

3. What type of impression does a disheveled appearance make?

a) Negative
b) None
c) Positive
d) Lasting

4. What does a great personal distance indicate?

a) Warmth
b) Friendliness
c) Coldness
d) Confidence

5. A person ends a statement on a higher pitch, and it is not a question. What does this signal?

a) Aggression
b) Insecurity
c) Security
d) Strength

6. Tone should _____ when speaking.

a) Stay the same

b) Be sarcastic
c) Be emotionless
d) Vary

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7. What does a hunched posture indicate?

a) Aggression
b) Confidence
c) Insecurity
d) Submission

8. The head should be positioned _______.

a) Forward
b) At a tilt
c) Down
d) To the side

9. What describes the supervisor’s tone?

a) Confident
b) Monotone
c) Friendly
d) Condescending

10. What describes the supervisor’s gestures?

a) Passive
b) Confident
c) Aggressive
d) Insecurity

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 Beauty without expression is boring.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Module Seven: Facial Expressions

Facial expressions are an important part of body language. We use
our faces to express ourselves, and we all interpret the facial
expressions we see. While some facial expressions are cultural,
some facial expressions are universal. Understanding the basics of
facial expressions and decoding them will help you determine what
people are feeling and facilitate better communication.

Linked with Emotion

Many scientists agree that facial expressions are linked to emotions. Different
feelings create physical responses within the body, and facial expressions are
emotional responses to situations. Because of the emotional connection, it is not
easy to continually fake facial expressions. A flash of true emotion will typically
flicker across the face, even when feelings are kept in check. Not only are emotions
shown with facial expressions; the degree of emotion a person feels is visible on the face. For
example, you can see the difference between a face that shows sadness and one that shows sorrow.

Micro-Expressions
We all hide negative or unwanted emotions from time to time. We can even mask
our facial expressions to fit social situations. Feelings can occasionally slip out in
the form of micro-expressions. These brief, involuntary expressions betray
emotions, and they typically last 1/25 of a second. For example, someone gives a
brief sneer but smiles when running into an acquaintance. Most people do not
consciously notice micro-expressions. In fact, roughly ten percent of people will
knowingly pick up on the micro-expressions of others.

Most micro-expressions are based on universal facial expressions. Being aware of these facial
expressions will make micro expressions easier to catch. Noticing micro-expressions can help
determine if someone is lying. It is not foolproof, however. For example, someone can be afraid of
being caught in a lie or of not being believed.

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Facial Action Coding System (FACS)
The Facial Action Coding System (FACS) is a complex system attributed to Dr. Paul
Ekman. This system breaks down the muscle movements of micro-expressions into
numbered action units (AUs). The muscles that relax or contract with emotion are
identified to show the feeling behind each movement of the face. There are AUs
identified in the upper and lower face. The meanings behind these involuntary
muscle movements are interpreted by the FACS system. The intensity, duration,
and asymmetry of expressions are also noted.

Upper Face:

• Eyebrows
• Forehead
• Eyelids

Lower Face:

• Up/Down
• Horizontal
• Oblique
• Orbital
• Miscellaneous

Example:

• An insincere smile will only trigger the zygomatic major muscle. A sincere smile will also
include the lower part of the orbicularis oculi.

Universal Facial Expressions

Many facial expressions are learned from one’s family and culture. There are,
however, facial expressions that all people are believed to share in common. These
are the universal facial expressions. Success with FACS and interpreting micro-
expressions requires an understanding of universal facial expressions. There are
different lists of universal facial expressions, but most lists include the same six
facial expressions.

Facial Expressions:

• Happiness: More than a smile is needed to indicate happiness. Genuine happiness should
include the eyes. Eyelids crinkle a crow’s feet become visible.

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 • Anger: A frown typically accompanies anger. Additionally, the eyes narrow, the chin points
forward, and the eyebrows furrow.

• Fear: Wide eyes and slightly raised eyebrows signal fear. The lips may be parted or stretched
when the mouth is closed.

• Surprise: Surprise is similar to fear. The eyebrows fully raise and the eyes are wide with
surprise. The mouth, however, is usually open.

• Sadness: The mouth turns down when someone is sad. A crease in the forehead and quivering
chin accompany this slight frown.

• Disgust: The expression of disgust includes the nose. The nose wrinkles, the lips part, and the
eyes narrow.

Note: Contempt is not always a universally recognized facial expression. It is useful to recognize,
however, and includes a sneer with the side of the mouth elevated.

Case Study
Jane attended a FACS class to improve hers sales. After the class, she began to
close sales quickly. Her sales increased by 20 percent after the first quarter. Jane
learned to stop spending time with potential clients who showed contempt and
disgust. The skills helped her identify what made clients happy and address
potentially difficult situations before anger boiled over. Due to her results, her
department invested in further FACS training.

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Module Seven: Review Questions
1. Facial expressions show _______.

a) Degree of emotion
b) Emotional change
c) Thoughts
d) Motives

2. What is most true about emotions and facial expressions?

a) Facial expressions can always be faked

b) Facial expressions show emotions
c) Facial expressions can never be faked
d) Facial expressions cannot be read

3. How long do micro-expressions typically last?

a) .5 second
b) 1 second
c) 1/25 second
d) .25 second

4. What do micro-expressions typically show?

a) Faked emotions
b) Complex emotions
c) New feelings
d) Universal emotions

5. What does FACS break muscle movements into?

a) Action units
b) Autonomic understanding
c) Automatic unit
d) Actions understood

6. What is part of the lower face?

a) Eyes
b) Nose
c) Orbital
d) Eyebrows

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7. Eyebrows rise with both fear and _____.

a) Anger
b) Surprise
c) Contempt
d) Disgust

8. What happens to the chin when someone is angry?

a) Forward
b) Down
c) Straight
d) Tilted

9. What training did Jane receive?

a) Micro-expression
b) FACE
c) Universal facial expressions
d) FACS

10. How much did the Jane’s sales increase?

a) 15 percent
b) 30 percent
c) 20 percent
d) 25 percent

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 The more elaborate our means of
communication, the less we communicate.

Joseph Priestly

Module Eight: Body Language in Business

Body language can provide people in business with a key
advantage. Learn how to adjust your body language to each
situation, as you identify the needs, thoughts, and feelings of
those you do business with every day. A basic understanding of
body language will strengthen negotiating strategies and other
business tactics.

Communicate with Power

Powerful communication breeds confidence and respect. It is important that people
sense power without aggression. Communicating with power requires practice, but it
is an effective business tool.

Powerful Movements:

• Stance: A wide stance with the feet apart indicates power. Hands on the hips
with the elbows out take up more space and also indicates power.

• Positioning: Avoid open space at your back. It is known to elevate stress. Open spaces can be
used to make others more vulnerable.

• Walk: Walk quickly and take long strides. Be careful not to run, and keep the back and neck
erect.

• Handshake: Offer a firm handshake, and keep the hand vertical. Placing the palm up because
it is a submissive gesture. The palm down is a dominating gesture.

• Sitting: Sit with the legs slightly apart. Another powerful pose is sitting with one leg crossed
over the other and hands behind the head. Be careful, however, because this position makes
many women uncomfortable.

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Cultural Differences
International business means working with different cultural backgrounds. While
certain expressions are universally recognized, many gestures are cultural. It is
essential to research the etiquette and communication style of any culture you
do business with ahead of time.

Examples of Differences:

• Feet: Pointing feet at people or showing the soles of the feet is disrespectful in many Middle
East and Asian cultures.

• Eye contact: Different cultures view prolonged eye contact as disrespectful.

• Hand gestures: Avoid Western hand gestures when communicating with people from
different cultures. Many of them, such as thumbs up, are rude.

• Head: Individuals from certain parts of India may move their heads to the side when they
agree.

Building Trust
Monitor body language to build trust with business partners. Personal
perception builds trust. There are steps that anyone can take to create a
rapport of trust.

Steps:

• Remove barriers: Physical barriers create a defensive line and do not increase trust.

• Smile: A genuine smile helps build trust. People can typically pick up on fake smiles, and
insincerity does not engender trust.

• Body position: Remain relaxed to build trust.

• Listen: Active listening and repeating information helps connect with people.

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Mirroring
Mirroring helps build rapport. Mirroring occurs when we copy the movements and
gestures of others to show similarities. The perception that people are similar
creates trust. Typically mirroring comes easier to women. Women will mirror each
other in social settings. Men usually mirror women in romantic situations. In the
business setting, consciously mirroring a client or colleague will have dramatic
results.

What to Mirror:

• Smile: Smile when the client does.

• Height: Some people mirror height by stooping or stretching their bodies.

• Gestures: Copy the gestures used.

• Speech: Monitor the tone, pitch, and rhythm the individual uses.

• Breathe: Matching breathing rates will help create a bond.

Case Study
William was in charge of international accounts. He was sure that his ability to read
body language would give him an advantage. The company was expanding into
Asian markets. At his first meeting, William focused on his body language. He gave
the associate his full attention, even pointing his body and feet at the direction of
the associate. The meeting did not go as well as expected, and his associate
seemed uncomfortable. William researched the cultural conventions of his
associate and learned that he was being insulting with his feet. The subsequent meetings were much
more effective.

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Module Eight: Review Questions
1. What describes a powerful walk?

a) Slow
b) Running
c) Quick
d) Leisurely

2. Legs need to be ______ to indicate power.

a) Together
b) Closed
c) Apart
d) Crossed

3. What direction may a client’s head move if he or she is from India?

a) Side
b) Forward
c) Backward
d) Down

4. Hand gestures are _______.

a) Universal
b) Natural
c) Cultural
d) Learned

5. What type of body position builds trust?

a) Tense
b) Relaxed
c) Authoritative
d) Closed

6. What will decrease trust?

a) Smiles
b) Relaxation
c) Listening
d) Barriers

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7. What is not mirrored in speech?

a) Pattern
b) Tone
c) Pitch
d) Rhythm

8. Mirroring in a business setting is typically a conscious choice for ____?

a) Women
b) CEOs
c) Men
d) Colleagues

9. What was William’s body language really signaling?

a) Interest
b) Disrespect
c) Aggression
d) Respect

10. What improved the meetings?

a) Time
b) Cultural awareness
c) Personal friendship
d) Powerful body language

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 You can tell a lot by someone's body
language.

Harvey Wolter

Module Nine: Lying and Body Language

Body language can expose deception. Close observation of body
language can indicate that someone is hiding something. Be
careful about interpreting every action as a lie. A number of
factors, including stress and insecurity, will cause suspicious body
language. When there are multiple indications of deception in a
person’s body language, however, further investigation may be
warranted.

Watch Their Hands

We all communicate with our hands. We can even communicate deception without
knowing what we are doing. Several movements can indicate someone is hiding
something.

Hands:

• Palms down: Showing your palms is a sign of sincerity. Keeping the palms down signals that
someone is hiding something.

• Self-touching: Self-touching may be a calming action, but be alert when someone touches this
or her face. Hands at the nose and mouth are often seen as an attempt to hide the spoken lie.

• Hidden hands: Hand gestures are a natural part of communication. Many people will suddenly
hide their hands when telling lies. Lack of hand movement may also indicate lying.

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Forced Smiles
We have already mentioned smiling. A forced smile does not reach the eyes. Alone, a
forced smile can simply indicate that someone is trying to be polite. Always pay close
attention when other deceptive movement clusters accompany a forced smile, as
they can add additional proof that a person could be lying.

Smiles:

• Tight smiles: A tight, thin-lipped smile can indicate that someone is concealing information.

• Closed mouth: Genuine smiles are typically open. A closed smile, however, could be an effort
to hide bad teeth.

• Licking lips: Lying can cause the mouth to dry out. People who lie are more likely to lick their
lips after speaking.

Eye Contact
The eyes are called the “windows to the soul.” The eyes continually
communicate feelings. A person’s eye contact can betray that he or she is being
deceptive.

The Eyes:

• Little to no eye contact: A complete lack of eye contact may be an indication that someone is
nervous and being deceptive, but it is not always an indication of lying. There could be cultural
reasons for this behavior, so always be aware of any outside factors.

• Looking to the left: Moving the gaze to the left may indicate deception. It signals the
imagination is being engaged. Left-handed individuals will shift their eyes to the right.

• Unmoving eyes: Some people who lie can look directly ahead without moving their eyes. They
will not always shift their gaze or look away.

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Changes in Posture
Posture can easily signal when a person is being deceptive. Lying will cause
someone to focus more on his or her body language. This can cause people to
exercise too much control or shift posture.

Posture:

• Being still: People who try to control their movements may be very still. Slight changes in
positioning are normal. Abnormally still individuals may be hiding something.

• Extreme changes: Deception causes anxiety in most people. When body language changes
from defensive positions to open, friendly postures. The clumsier these transitions increase
the likelihood of deception.

• Voice and movements do not correspond: Body language typically reflects the voice and
message of a speaker. When this is not the case, lying is indicated. For example, someone uses
closed, defensive body language with a friendly tone and interaction.

Case Study
Susan has to choose between two qualified candidates to run the new office for
DEF Corporation. Both have the experience and skills necessary. Susan needs to
give the job to someone she can trust because they will be working closely
together. She knows from experience that it is possible for people to pass an
interview with flying colors by being less than honest. She has regretted more than
one hiring decision. To prepare, she brushed up on her body language.

In the first interview, she noted that the candidate looked forward without moving her eyes when
asked about her relationships with her coworkers. Additionally, the tone of her voice did not match
the closed body language. The second candidate matched her body language with her tone. She also
had an open smile when answering questions about her past interpersonal relationships.

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Module Nine: Review Questions
1. What does showing palms signal?

a) Deception
b) Submission
c) Authority
d) Sincerity

2. Where will hands go when someone is lying?

a) Side
b) Lap
c) Face
d) Together

3. What is someone likely to do after a lie?

a) Smile
b) Lick lips
c) Laugh
d) Frown

4. What is another reason for a closed smile that does not signal a lie?

a) Nerves
b) Hide teeth
c) Authority
d) Passivity

5. What direction will eyes look if someone is left-handed and using imagination?

a) Up
b) Right
c) Down
d) Left

6. What is a sign that direct eye contact indicates a lie?

a) When it is unmoved
b) When it glances
c) When looks up
d) When there are many changes

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7. Deception is indicated when posture changes are ______.

a) Natural
b) Relaxed
c) Clumsy
d) Smooth

8. What does extreme stillness indicate?

a) Honesty
b) Deception
c) Submission
d) Authority

9. What sign did the second candidate give?

a) Unmoving eye contact

b) Tone did not match body language
c) Closed body language
d) Tone matched body language

10. What sign did the first candidate give?

a) Tone matches body language

b) Unmoving eyes
c) Open smile
d) Shifting eyes

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 Our bodies are apt to be our
autobiographies.

Frank Gilete Burgess

Module Ten: Improve Your Body Language

People make snap judgments about each other based on body
language. It is possible to improve your body language and the
way that others view you. Give an air of confidence when meeting
with colleagues and potential clients. Understanding the
subtleties of body language makes it easier to improve your own.
Simply pay attention to what you say and do.

Be Aware of Your Movements

It is important to be aware of your movements and what they mean. The
best way to do this, however, is to make sure that the movements are
genuine. Faked body language typically looks disjointed and unnatural.
People can subconsciously pick up on these movements.

Tips:

• Relax: Try to relax and implement open body language. This will help prevent any nervous
body signals.

• Watch your hands: Use comfortable gestures when talking. Do not hide your hands, and try to
avoid fidgeting or touching your face.

• Eye contact: Maintain eye contact, but do stare at people.

• Smile: Avoid fake smiles. Give genuine smiles to instill trust.

• Watch your head: Look ahead; tilting is submissive. Nod occasionally to signal your interest.

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The Power of Confidence
Improve body language by increasing personal confidence. Everyone has a personal
level of confidence that is evident in body language. There are simple ways that can
help improve confidence and body language.

Tips:

• Exercise: A strong body will boost personal confidence. It can also improve posture.

• Dress: Our appearance affects our confidence. Dressing well will help improve our self-
esteem.

• Posture: An open posture will induce confidence. It will also improve the way others see you.

• Speech: Speak in a confident tone to increase your feelings of confidence. Do not mumble.

Position and Posture

Posture and body position are effective forms of communication. Pay attention to
your position and posture and think about what they are communicating.

• Posture: Straight posture automatically increases confidence and

alertness. Avoid slouching, but remain relaxed.

• Position: Open body positions communicate a relaxed and confident

demeanor. Closed body positions indicate defensiveness.

Practice in a Mirror
Practice is the key to success. Many people have poor body mechanics. They do
not realize the mechanics alter their posture or positions. Practicing body
language in front of a mirror will give an accurate evaluation of what you are
communicating.

What to Practice:

• Note your posture: Pay attention to any tendencies to slouch or hunch over. Practice your
posture until it is correct.

• Note your gestures: Identify any nervous gestures you use, and consciously try to avoid them.

• Practice talking: Your tone should match your gestures and body language.

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Case Study
A CEO had difficulty with his public image. This caused the stock price to drop. His
assistant suggested that he take the time to improve his body language. The CEO
began exercising and taking the time to relax. In addition, he took the time to
practice his body language in the mirror on a daily basis. As his posture and body
language improved, so did his public image. People began to view him as a strong
leader, and the stock price doubled the next year.

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Module Ten: Review Questions
1. What will prevent nervous body language?

a) Smiles
b) Gestures
c) Practice
d) Relaxation

2. What will signal interest?

a) Shaking head
b) Being still
c) Occasional nodding
d) Smile

3. What will improve self-esteem?

a) Relaxation
b) Dressing well
c) Smiling
d) Tone

4. What does not improve confidence?

a) Mumbling
b) Posture
c) Exercise
d) Appearance

5. What type of posture should be avoided?

a) Slouching
b) Straight
c) Relaxed
d) Closed

6. What will posture improve?

a) Strength
b) Communication
c) Alertness
d) Understanding

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7. What will poor body mechanics affect?

a) Age
b) Strength
c) Posture
d) Speaking

8. What should be avoided?

a) Open communication
b) Nervous gestures
c) Honest communication
d) Relaxation

9. What caused the price of the stock to drop?

a) Body language
b) Disasters
c) Poor communication
d) Public image

10. What happened to the stock after the CEO worked on his body language?

a) Nothing
b) Doubled
c) Slightly improved
d) Dropped

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 …80% of what you understand in a
conversation is read through the body, not
the words.

Deborah Bull

Module Eleven: Matching Your Words to Your Movement

The key to instilling trust is matching body language to the words
spoken. Movements will confirm or contradict what is said. Gestures
will easily match what is said if the words reflect genuine feeling.
Emotional awareness is necessary to communicate exactly what you
mean. Unresolved emotions can affect body language.

Involuntary Movements
We do not control our involuntary movements. Emotions can affect our breathing,
posture, gestures, and micro-expressions. People subconsciously pick up on
involuntary movements, particularly when they contradict what is said. For
example, increased respiration can indicate stress or anxiety. When practicing body
language, be aware of involuntary movements. Reducing stress and finding healthy
ways to express emotion will help limit involuntary movements.

Ways to reduce stress:

• Exercise

• Meditation

• Sufficient sleep

• Journaling

• Healthy diet

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Say What You Mean
Deception is often part of polite communication. This will affect body
language and movement. Communication is much more effective when
you say what you mean. You should always practice being respectful and
honest in your speech.

Honest Communication:

• Be specific: Stick to the facts when communicating. Do not rely on your emotions.

• Self-edit: Choose language that is not confrontational.

• Have a goal: Know the point of your communication, and do not ramble.

Always Be Consistent
Dependable communication creates trust. The key is to be consistently honest
and open when communicating with others. Here are a few tips that will
improve your communication style and increase consistency.

• Speak plainly: Avoid complex terms, and define any new terms used.

• Listen: Invite feedback and clarify information when necessary.

• Adapt: Pay attention to the body language and tone of others, and respond appropriately.

• Be open: Be open and honest in what is said and in your body language.

Actions Will Trump Words

People pay more attention to actions than words. We typically make decisions
about someone within four seconds of a meeting. This is largely based on body
language and behavior. If your body language is hostile, it does not matter how kind
your words or tone are. Be aware of what your actions and gestures are
communicating to those around you. Practice your body language skills and decode
the body language of others:

What People Decide?

• Intelligence

• Trustworthiness

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 • Likability

• Decision to buy

Case Study
Steve had a busy schedule, and he was under a great deal of stress. Rather than
helping his sales, the extra work was hindering them. His sales dropped five percent
over three months. His body language was affected by the stress on his system. A
colleague advised Steve to make stress reduction a priority. Steve made a healthy
lifestyle a priority. After eating well, exercising, and taking time to sleep, Steve’s
confidence and body language improved. He was more influential with new clients,
and his sales increased by 15 percent six months later.

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Module Eleven: Review Questions
1. What is not a way to reduce stress?

a) Exercise
b) Journal
c) Diet
d) Communication

2. What can affect gestures?

a) Actions
b) Communication
c) Emotions
d) Movement

3. What should be addressed when communicating?

a) Meetings
b) Facts
c) Sentiment
d) Emotions

4. What is important to know before communicating?

a) Goal
b) Feelings
c) Language
d) Emotions

5. Honesty must be perceived in the words and _______.

a) Body language
b) Actions
c) Emotions
d) Language

6. Responses should be guided by ______.

a) Personal tone
b) Emotions
c) Body language of others
d) Instinct

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7. What is more effective at communicating?

a) Words
b) Body language
c) Language
d) Feelings

8. Body language and _____ determine how we view people.

a) Instinct
b) Feelings
c) Words
d) Behavior

9. Steve’s sales initially dropped _____.

a) 5 percent
b) 15 percent
c) 10 percent
d) 20 percent

10. How much did his sales increase?

a) 10 percent
b) 15 percent
c) 30 percent
d) 40 percent

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 If you don’t understand that you work for
your mislabeled subordinates, then you
know nothing of leadership. You know only
tyranny.

Dee Hock

Module Twelve: Wrapping Up

Although this workshop is coming to a close, we hope that your
journey to improve your body language skills is just beginning.
Please take a moment to review and update your action plan. This
will be a key tool to guide your progress in the days, weeks,
months, and years to come. We wish you the best of luck on the
rest of your travels!

Words from the Wise

Include some quotes to wrap up the day.

• Terry Galloway: Deafness has left me acutely aware of both the duplicity that language is
capable of and the many expressions the body cannot hide.

• Dale Carnegie: There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the
world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what
we say, and how we say it.

• Ralph Waldo Emerson: When the eyes say one thing, and the tongue another, a practiced
man relies on the language of the first.

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