Lesson 1: KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK ON YOUR

ONESELF DURING MIDDLE AND LATE WEAKNESSES

ADOLESCENCE
Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses,
recognize your own talents and abilities, build on
them, utilize them to your greatest advantage.
IDEAL SELF - is the self that you aspire to be. It is
This is where you can build your name and
the one that you hope will possess characteristics
popularity.
similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly
figure. KNOWING YOUR STRENGTH
EMPOWERED TO DO DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS:
ACTUAL SELF - is the one that you actually see. It is
the self that has characteristics that you were  establish mature relationships with others
nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.  emotional independence
 demonstrate responsible behaviors
 skills for wise decision making
THE ACTUAL SELF AND THE IDEAL SELF ARE TWO  analyze complex situations logically and
BROAD CATEGORIES OF SELF-CONCEPT. sensibly
 confident in doing tasks
SELF-CONCEPT - refers to your awareness of  competent in achieving goals
yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these
two selves. DETERMINING WEAKNESSES

THE ACTUAL SELF IS BUILT ON SELF-KNOWLEDGE.  know limitations and boundaries

 starting point
SELF-KNOWLEDGE - is derived from social
 find ways to enhance capabilities
interactions that provide insight into how others
 develop knowledge and skills
react to you.
 develop positive attitudes for dealing with
The actual self is who we actually are. It is how we life's challenges
think, how we feel, look, and act. The actual self
UNDERSTANDING YOURSELF
can be seen by others, but because we have no
way of truly knowing how others view us, the  appreciate and value who you are
actual self is our SELF-IMAGE  respect others
 relate with them more meaningfully
THERE IS NEGOTIATION THAT EXISTS BETWEEN
THE TWO SELVES, THE IDEAL AND ACTUAL SELF  cope well with the demands in school, at
home and of relationships
SOCIAL ROLES - alignment is important. If the way
that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way SELF AWARENESS
that I want to be (the ideal self), then I will feel a  starts with assessing yourself
sense of mental well-being or peace of mind.  pause, analyze what you think, feel and
INCONGRUENCE - or lack of alignment, will result do
in mental distress or anxiety. The greater the level  ability to reflect or think about your own
of incongruence between the ideal self and real thoughts, feelings and actions
self, the greater the level of resulting distress.  equipped to accept self
 open for self-improvement
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS - means making use of  see potentials, utilize to the fullest
all the personal resources talents, skills, energy  create individuality
and time, to enable you to achieve life goals. Your  promote wiser decision making
knowledge of yourself and how you manage
yourself impacts directly on your personal
effectiveness.
FEEDBACK SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT

 allows validation of own perceptions of You begin to rely more on your friends or peer
who you are groups for support than on your family. However,
 positive feedback >> energized, you are prone to peer pressure.
enthusiastic, affirmed
 personal worth recognized
 more confident of self SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT
NEGATIVE FEEDBACK The attribute of a person’s consciousness and
beliefs including the values and virtues that guide
 Criticism
and put meaning into a person’s life. It is a process
 tend to get angry, deny
of developing personal belief to God and holiness.
 determine accuracy of feedback
Spirituality, affects the person’s morality. It is our
 consult trusted friend/ guidance personal stand of how we live our lives according
counselor to our faith.

Let us evaluate:
Lesson 2: DEVELOPING THE WHOLE PERSON

THOUGHTS
HOLISTIC DEVELOPMENT - this refers to the Refers to the ideas that result from thinking or the
process of self - actualization and learning that act or the act of producing thoughts.
combines an individual’s mental, physical, social,
emotional and spiritual growth. FEELINGS

Denotes a state of consciousness such as that

resulting from emotions, sentiments or desires.
PHYSIOLOGICAL DEVELOPMENT
BEHAVIOR
The physical attributes including the five senses.
This pertains to the maturing of the body and its Refers to the range of emotions and mannerism
systems along with its functions. made by individual, organism or any entities in
conjunction with their environment

COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT
PHYSICAL SELF
The emergence of the ability to think and
understand. Changes in one’s mental abilities, Describe yourself. Try not to censor any thoughts
learning capacity, memory, reasoning, thinking which come to your mind. Include descriptions of
process and language are evident. The brain plays your height, weight, facial appearance, and quality
a vital role. of skin, hair and descriptions of body areas such as
your neck, chest, waist, legs.

INTELLECTUAL SELF
PSYCHOLOGICAL DEVELOPMENT
Include here an assessment of how well you
Changes in the emotions, feelings, moods and reason and solve problems, your capacity to learn
manner of thinking. Ongoing establishments of and create, your general amount of knowledge,
strongly-held beliefs, values, and goals in life. your specific areas of knowledge, wisdom you
have acquired, and insights you have.
EMOTIONAL SELF

Write as many words or phrase about typical

feelings you have, feelings you seldom have,
feelings you try to avoid, feelings you especially
enjoy, feelings from your past and present, and
feelings which are associated with each other.

SENSUAL SELF

Write how you feel as a sensual person. What

sense do you use most – sight, hearing, speaking,
smelling, touching? How do you feel about the
different ways you take in information - through
the eyes, ears, mouth, nose, pores, and skin. In
what ways do you let information in and out of
your body?

INTERACTIONAL SELF

Include descriptions of your strengths and

weaknesses in intimate relationships and
relationships to friends, family, co-students and
strangers in social settings. Describe the strengths
and weaknesses which your friends and family
have noticed. Describe what kind of son or
daughter, brother or sister you are.

NUTRITIONAL SELF

How do you nourish yourself? What foods do you

like and dislike? What do you like and dislike
about these?

CONTEXTUAL SELF

Descriptors could be in the areas of maintenance

of your living environment: reaction to light,
temperature, space, weather, colours, sound and
seasons and your impact on the environment.

SPIRITUAL SELF OR LIFE FORCE

Write words or phrases which tell about how you

feel in this area. This could include your feelings
about yourself and organized religion, reactions
about your spiritual connections to others, feelings
about your spiritual development and history, and
thought about your metaphysical self. Think about
your inner peace and joy. Think about your
spiritual regimen or routine.