Personality Development (Week 2)

I. OBJECTIVES
A. Content Standard:
The learners demonstrate an understanding of the dynamics of attraction, love, and
commitment

B. Performance Standard:
Appraise one’s present relationships and make plans for building responsible future
relationships

C. Most Learning Competency

MELC No. 19 - Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship.
EsP-PD11/12PR-IIb-9.3

D. Objectives
1. (C) Identify ways to become responsible through a relationship.
2. (A) Realize the significance of a healthy relationship by writing the most important
things they consider in a relationship.
3. (P) Grasp awareness by determining which behaviors are healthy, unhealthy or
abusive.

II. CONTENT: Personal Relationships

III. LEARNING RESOURCES

A. REFERENCES
1. Personal Development Teaching Guide
2. Personal Development Reader 69-76
OTHER LEARNING RESOURCES: PRINTED MATERIALS

IV. PROCEDURES
GENERAL INSTRUCTIONS: In every given activity for this module, kindly write your
answer on your pad paper and please indicate the activity number or what kind of activity
it is to avoid confusion when checking your work.

A. Reviewing previous lesson/Presenting the new lesson.

Answer the following about your relationship with each of the following:

B. Establishing a purpose of the lesson

Let the students give their own understanding and say about relationships.
Answer the following questions:
1. Are you single?
2. What kind of person would you want to date?
3. Are any of your friends dating? Yes or No and Why?

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 C. Presenting Examples/Instances of the new lesson
At the end of this module, you are expected to: Identify ways to become responsible
through a relationship.
Activity: TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-LASTING AUTHENTIC
RELATIONSHIPS
State if you are AGREE or DISAGREE with the following rules for finding love and
creating a long lasting relationship:
1. You must love yourself first
2. Partnering is a choice must nurture the relationships for it to thrive
3. Creating love is a process
4. Relationships provide opportunities to grow
5. Communication is essential
6. Negotiation will be required
7. Your relationship will be challenged by change
8. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
9. Renewal is the key to longevity
10. You will forget all this the moment you fall in love

D. Discussing new concepts and practicing new skills #1

Reading: TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG LASTING AUTHENTIC
RELATIONSHIPS

1. YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed. Loving
yourself is a prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with another.

2. PARTNERING IS A CHOICE MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE

The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability to attract your beloved and
cause the relationship you desire to happen.

3. CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS

Moving from “I” to “we” requires a shift in perspective and energy. Being an authentic couple is
an evolution.

4. RELATIONSHIPS PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW

Your relationship will serve as an unofficial “life shop” in which you will learn about yourself and
how you can grow on your personal path.

5. COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL
The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood of your relationship.

6. NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED

There will be times when you and your partner must work through impasses. If you do this
consciously and with respect, you will learn to create win-win outcomes.

7. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGED BY CHANGE

Life will present turns in the road. How you maneuver those twists and turns determines the
success of your relationship.

8. YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE

Treasure your beloved and your relationship will flourish.

9. RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY

Happily ever after means the ability to keep the relationship fresh and vital.

10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE
You know all these rules inherently. The challenge is to remember them when you fall under the
enchanting spell of love.
Source: http://angellovecards.com/assets/luminaries/drcherrieLOVEposter.pdf

Activity 1A: HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ITEMS SET

Answer the following questions:

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1. What should you consider when making decisions around sex and sexual limits?
a. your values b. your friends c. your family d. all of the above

2. What is the best style of communication to use when making decisions about sexual limits
and boundaries?
a. assertive b. passive c. aggressive

3. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?

a) Trust one another.
b) One person makes all the decisions.
c) Respect one another.
d) Open and honest communication.

4. What skills do you need to make healthy decisions in a relationship?

a. intelligence, memory, ability to do public speaking
b. assertive communication, active listening, and negotiation skills

5. Which of the following are signs that you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries
b. avoiding friends
c. apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. all of the above

Activity 1B: Processing Questions.

1. What were your thoughts and feelings while answering the activity?
2. What did you discover about yourself after doing the activity?

E. Discussing new concepts and practicing new skills #2

Reading: KEEPING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships
that you make in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of
the most important lessons about who you are.

In a healthy relationship, both partners: ·

1. are treated with kindness and respect;
2. are honest with each other;
3. like to spend time together;
4. take an interest in things that are important to each other; ·
5. respect one another’s emotional, physical and sexual limits; and
6. can speak honestly about their feelings
LOVE SHOULD NEVER HURT
Dating relationships can be wonderful! But while it’s important that dating partners care
for each other, it’s just as important that you take care of yourself!
Physical abuse where someone causes physical pain or injury to another person. This
can involve hitting, slapping, or kicking.
Sexual abuse is also a type of violence, and involves any kind of unwanted sexual
advance. Emotional abuse is anything that harms your self-esteem or causes shame.
Remember, you deserve healthy, happy relationships. Abuse of any type is never okay.

HOW TO COMMUNICATE
Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both
talk about each other’s needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health. You can’t
expect a partner to know what you want and need unless you tell them.

So what's to talk about? ·

ₒ Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs): This is actually an issue that all teenagers and
adults must be aware of. Anybody who engages in sexual activity is prone to have this
one. ·

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 ₒ Possibility of Pregnancy: Females who engage in sex have a high percentage of putting
themselves in this kind of situation. ·

ₒ Right time for sex: You can consider your current status as a student if it is really high time
to be involved in this kind of activity. Will this make or break your future? ·

ₒ Boundaries: Making the decision to set your limits in a relationship shows your maturity to
assert your priorities and respect yourself.

MAKING THE DECISION: DECIDING WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE SEX

The decision of whether or not to have sex is up to you, and you alone. There are many
questions and feelings that you may want to sort out before you actually get "in the heat of the
moment." Ask yourself:

Am I really ready to have sex? How am I going to feel after I have sex? ·

Am I doing this for the right reasons? How do I plan to protect myself/my partner from
sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy? ·

How am I going to feel about my partner afterwards?

The best way to prepare for the decision to have sex is to become comfortable with
communicating about your needs. If you don’t feel right about something, say so!

TALKING TO YOUR PARENTS

You probably think that talking to your parents about sex is impossible. You're not alone.
Your friends really don't know any more than you do, no matter what they say about their sexual
experience. But remember: Not every person your age is having sex. Even if sometimes it
feels like everyone is "doing it," it is important to realize that this is not true. People often talk
about sex in a casual manner, but this doesn't mean they are actually having sex.

How to avoid peer or date pressure

If you're worried about being pressured or you are currently experiencing it, know that
you are not alone and there is something you can do about it. ·

1. Hang out with friends who also believe that it's OK to not be ready for sex yet. ·
2. Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date.
3. Stick up for your friends if they are being pressured to have sex. ·
4. Think of what you would say in advance in case someone tries to pressure you. ·
5. Always carry money for a telephone call or cab in case you feel uncomfortable. ·
6. Be ready to call your mom, dad or a friend to pick you up if you need to leave a date. ·
7. Never feel obligated to "pay someone back" with sex in return for a date or gift. ·
8. Say "no" and mean "no" if that's how you feel.

DRUGS AND ALCOHOL

In a survey of young people ages 15-24 by the Kaiser Family Foundation, 9 out of 10
people surveyed reported that their peers use alcohol or illegal drugs before sex at least some
of the time. Seven out of 10 also reported that condoms are not always used when alcohol and
drugs are involved.

Activity 2A: I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship; put an X
on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
__1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.
__2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
__3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
__4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.
__5. Your partner supports you and your choices—even when they disagree with you.

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__6. You respect and encourage each other.
__7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends or family.
__8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your money without worrying
about your partner’s reaction.
__9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your view is respected.
__10. You feel isolated from friends and family.

Activity 2B: Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Answer YES or NO to the following
questions to find out.
1. The person I’m with is very supportive of things I do.
2. The person I’m with encourages me to try new things.
3. The person I’m with likes to listen when I have something on my mind.
4. The person I’m with understands that I have my own life too.
5. The person I’m with is not liked very well by my friends.
6. The person I’m with says I’m too involved in different activities.
7. The person I’m with texts me or calls me all the time.
8. The person I’m with is extremely jealous or possessive.
9. The person I’m with yells, screams, or humiliates me in front of other people.
10. The person I’m with thinks I spend too much trying to look nice.

F. Developing Mastery (Leads to Formative Assessment)

Activity 3: Becoming responsible for a relationship
Answer the following questions: (maximum of 5 sentences will do.)
1. Why is effective communication important in a relationship?
2. How does decision making affect relationships?

G. Finding practical application of concepts and skills in daily living

Activity 4: HOW I WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED BY MY PARTNER IN A RELATIONSHIP
Directions: Review the following list and circle 3 ways you would want to be treated in a
relationship that are most important to you. You may see many qualities here that you like, but
try to pick your top three. Follow the directions at the bottom of the page after you have picked
your top three.
I want my partner to…
Treat me with respect; Be trustworthy; Need me; Treat me fairly; Support me
Be honest with me; Treat me as an equal; Make me laugh; Encourage me
Protect me; Trust me; Love me
Looking at the three you chose, write the number one most important way you would like to be
treated by a romantic partner and write a brief explanation of why that quality is so important.

#1 Quality:

Explanation (maximum of 5 sentences will do.):

Activity 5: Tell me the TRUTH! (maximum of 3 sentences each question.)

1. Can you explain your siblings' relationship at home?

2. In what ways do you express your feelings, whether positive or negative? Why?

H. Making generalizations and abstractions about the lesson

Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit
from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support.

Activity 6: THINKING ABOUT HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

List 3 things you might say or do if a friend told you that they were feeling scared of their
partner.

I. Evaluating learning
Test I. RELATIONSHIP SPECTRUM

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 Grasp your awareness by determining which behaviors are healthy, unhealthy or
abusive by writing them in the appropriate columns. Write only the number. Below are the
following:
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE

1. Your partner tells you how special you are and how much they care about you.
2. Your partner threatens to tell other people about your sex life or share private photos or texts.
3. You had a really good day and can’t wait to tell your partner because you know they will be
excited to hear about it.
4. Your partner demands access to your bank account.
5. Your partner appreciates your passions and encourages you to do the things you love.
6. Your partner controls your FB and other social media accounts. After an argument, your
partner blocks the doorway and takes your keys to prevent you from leaving.
7. Your partner says you don’t really love them because you want to go to a movie with a friend
instead of spending time alone with them.
8. Your partner gives you gifts but demands something in return, like money or sexual acts.
9. When you go to your favorite restaurant and order something different, your partner acts
disgusted and calls you stupid for ordering it.
10. You always feel like your partner’s wishes and goals come first.

J. Additional activities for application or remediation

Activity 7: Realize the important things we consider in a relationship by answering the following
questions:

1.How do you know if the relationship is TOXIC? (2-3 sentences will do.)
2.What do you think are the 5 most important things we consider in a relationship?

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