121-Sarah Khan Technology and Parent-Teen Relationship
121-Sarah Khan Technology and Parent-Teen Relationship
Sarah H. Khan
Adolescent Psychology
Abstract
Adolescents are one of the heaviest users of technology as a group. With the ever
increasing amount of time teenagers spend on cell-phones, computers and numerous types of
video games, their attention is absorbed by these devices. This may take away from important
social interactions that develop in-person relationships. One study from 2004 suggests that more
time spent on television, computers and video games leads to a lower quality of attachment to
parents. A good parent-teen relationship is important for adolescent health and development.
Although there have been no recent experiments on how adolescents’ wide use of different types
technology affects their relationship with parents, there are indications that electronic
with their parents. This study examined the relationship between duration of adolescents’
technology use and the relationship with their parents. Three types of technology were
considered, namely, computers, cell phones and video games. Self-report questionnaires were
filled out by 63 teenagers (ages 14 to 18) from a high school in Bronx, NY. A statistically
significant negative correlation was found between duration of computer use and closeness to
parent supported by Pearson’s correlation coefficient, r(58) = -0.263. However, there were no
significant correlations found for any of the other types of technology considered. These findings
are attributed to the fact adolescents more commonly use cell phones than the internet to
maintain a good relationship with their parents. Therefore, it is possible that cell phones aid
parent-teen closeness as it allows them to stay in touch when they are not together. Also, most
adolescents reported spending relatively little time playing video games. That may be why video
Introduction
due to its undeniable benefits, especially of better communication. With newer methods of
communication and sharing information emerging every day, come the shortcomings of a world
inundated with technology. A recent article in the New York Times suggests that the infatuation
with technology and cell phones in particular is taking away from face-to-face social interactions
connected wherever they are through their computers and cell phones or hooked to a video game
For the purposes of this study we will categorize technology into three main categories,
computers, cell phones and video games. Computer use includes the use of the internet, all online
and offline activities including social networking, doing homework and playing games. Cell
phone use in addition to talking and texting includes new capabilities of cell phones such as
internet related activities and also playing games. Video games refer to all kinds of gaming
platforms outside of computers and cell phones, such as television based consoles and portable
video game consoles. This study aims that these three categories will also encompass new forms
of technology that are less easily categorized, such as “iPads” by Apple that include video games
2008). They are invaluable consumers of new forms of communication such as instant
messaging, text messaging, social networking, blogs and photo and video sharing mediums
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(Subrahmanyam, 2008). David Carr (2011) from the New York Times calls young people
“digital natives” which represents how different they are from their parents and older groups of
people in terms of technology use. They are born into the age of technology compared to
previous generations who learnt to use it after they were older. Thus, it is also younger
generations who have a harder time separating themselves from technology because they might
suffer socially among peers if they are not up to date or well connected (Richards et. al., 2010).
As a result, a lot of time is spent on all these forms of technology and it is now
increasingly integrated into adolescents’ lives. Teenagers say that technology has become an
immensely important part of everyday life. Most say it is because it helps them keep in touch
take into account the recentness of statistics. Patterns of technology use are changing so
frequently that research on these patterns from only a decade ago may be outdated. This is
reflected by the fact that the number of internet users in North America has grown by 146.3%
from 2000 to 2010 and 444.8% in the world from 2000 to 2010 (Internet World Stats, 2011).
Therefore, when it comes to research about technology it is important to take into account
Also specifically within adolescents, usage patterns have changed a lot in the last few
years. This is not confined to the internet or computer based technology. With respect to cell
phones, about 75% of 12-17 year-olds now own cell phones as found in 2010 compared to 45%
in 2004 (Lenhart, 2010). In 2008, Virgin Mobile reported that nine out of ten teenagers who own
cell phones have text messaging capability and two thirds of them use text messaging every day.
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They also reported that more than half of their customer aged 15 to 20 years send or receive at
least eleven text messages per day whereas about one fifth of them text twenty-one times per day
or more.(Subrahmanyam, 2008)
Adolescents’ preferred mode of communication is texting and they are the heaviest users
of text messaging as a group (Bilton, 2010). Among all teens, their frequency of texting is now
greater than the frequency of every other common form of interaction with their friends
including in person interaction (Lenhart, 2010). It was found in 2010 that young people under 18
send and receive more than double the amount of text messages per month than any other age
group (See Figure in Appendix 1) (Bilton, 2010). Text messaging is rampant among teenagers
and also something that has been increasing quite rapidly in recent years. It was found that
Verizon Wireless hosted 17.7 billion text messages from October through December 2006 which
was more than double the total from the same months in 2005.
However, the advantages of technology come along with drawbacks. With the infinite
amount of time teenagers spend on cell-phones, computers and numerous types of video games,
their attention is absorbed by these devices. Text messaging is one of the most noticeable
behaviors that disrupt face to face social interactions. Carr (2010) in his article in the New York
Times about text messaging notices how at a conference people are “adjacent and yet essentially
alone” because everyone is texting and talking rather than engaging with the “flesh-and-blood
human beings” around them. Continuous peering at cell phone screens and typing away with the
thumbs while talking to someone was the theme of his article, called “Keep your thumbs still
when I’m talking to you”. It mainly referred to adolescents and how recently, texting has become
so common that it is taking away from face-to-face social interactions that develop important in-
person relationships. This phenomenon might be one main reason why new technology such as
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relationship.
Among cell phone owning teens, voice calls are also a central function of their cell
phones, especially for communicating with their parents. Though teenagers make and receive far
fewer calls compared to text messages, voice is still the primary mode of conversing with parents
(Lenhart, 2010). One of the primary reasons parents allow their children to have cell phones is so
that they may monitor their whereabouts and stay in contact with them when they are not in close
proximity (Lenhart, 2010). 94% of cell using teens aged 12-17 report that cell phones give them
more freedom because they can reach their parents no matter where they are (Lenhart, 2010).
However, cell phones are a mixed blessing. Adolescents and parents agree that phones
make their lives safer and more convenient but also mention disadvantages of cell phone use,
especially the fact that they can result in irritating interruptions (Lenhart, 2010). Also, parents are
now less likely than earlier years to say that the internet is a good thing for their adolescents. The
number has decreased by a statistically significant amount from 67% in 2004 to 59% in 2011
(MacGill, 2007).
Adolescents’ internet use is also different from what it used to be a few years ago. They
are more likely to use the internet to keep in touch with friends and people they know from their
offline worlds rather than with strangers which was very common in the early days of the
internet (Wolak, 2003). Such usage patterns have also changed since technology is more
common and youth are more likely to find their family and friends online or contact them on a
cell phone than they were even five or ten years ago (Subrahmanyam, 2008). Therefore,
information about technology usage, be it internet, phone or other media, is quickly outdated due
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Most recent forms of technology involve staring at screens for hours and this seems to be
having an effect on the formation of interpersonal ties. Research from New Zealand in 2004
examined the effects of “screen time” on teen attachment to parents and peers. Their definition of
“screen time” includes time spent on television, video gaming and computer use. It was found
that more time spent playing video games as well as more time spent watching television was
associated with low attachment to parents. Only more time spent watching television was
associated with lower attachment to peers. For computer use, the risk for having a low quality
attachment to parents increased by 5 percent per hour spent on the computer. More screen time
was also associated with less time spent reading and doing homework. Conversely, spending
more time reading and doing homework was linked to a better relationship with parents.
This study, published in 2010, is the only study that examines an effect of a type of
technology on teen relationships. There have been no rigorous experiments up till 2008
published about how adolescents’ extensive use of electronic communication affects their
relationship with their parents. However, some research indicates that it may be reinforcing
communication between peers at the expense of parent-teen communication. Parents may not be
knowledgeable enough about their children's online activities on sites such as the enormously
Parents are increasingly trying to stay within the loop of their adolescents’ online lives
(Subrahmanyam, 2008) and monitor their teenagers’ use of the internet. However, despite
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parental controls allowed by many types of technology, there are increasingly more ways out of
parental control as well, that give adolescents more and more autonomy. Social networking sites
and other newer forms of communication are making it harder for parents to control and
influence their children’s online activities. By introducing privacy settings, websites help
teenagers hide personal information from strangers, reducing problems such as online sexual
predation. However, it also allows them to choose what information and activities they want to
be visible to their parents and what they want to be hidden from them. (Subrahmanyam, 2008)
Parents are increasingly excluded from their children’s lives as newer forms of social networking
make it harder for them to monitor their children’s online activities (Subrahmanyam, 2008).
This study aims to examine the effect of the increased use of technology on adolescents’
relationship with their parents. This is a very important question given that adolescents require a
close relationship with and affection from their parents. This attachment to parents is important
to their health and development (Richards et. al., 2010). Since there is no research published on
this before except for the study conducted in New Zealand in 2004, there is an increased need to
As discussed earlier, there are many different variants of technological devices that take
up adolescents’ time. This study focuses on three types of technology, namely, computers, cell
phones and video games. Self-report questionnaires given to 63 adolescents are used to
investigate the amount of time spent on each type of technology and the relationship of each of
these with closeness to parents. It is hypothesized that an increase in duration of use of each type
that the total duration of use of all three types of technology would also lead to a decrease in
closeness to parent.
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Method
Participants
The participants for this study were 63 students (38 male and 25 female) from the Bronx
School of Law and Finance, a public high school in Bronx, NY. They were high school students
in grades 9 to 11, with ages ranging from 14 to 18 (Mean age = 15.44). These teenagers were
chosen to participate in this study because they were enrolled at the Bronx School. Consent to
Procedure
To obtain information about use of different types of technology and relationship with
parents, an anonymous questionnaire was filled out by the participants. The questionnaire was
handed out to the Bronx school students during advisory sessions in classrooms at school. Before
they began filling out the questionnaire, they were informed about the purpose and use of the
study, their anonymity and privacy was assured and their consent was gained. Each participant
Measures
Each survey consisted of 37 closed-ended questions. Each question was either multiple
choice or yes-or-no answer. It contained 9 questions about computer use, 11 questions about cell
phone use, 1 question about video game use, 11 questions about relationship and closeness to a
parent and 5 miscellaneous questions. Many of these questions were regarding possible
confounding variables that might affect the independent variable of the study. For details of the
Results
The present study sought to explore the relationship between the amount of time
adolescents spend on technology and their relationship with their parents. Data was analyzed
using bivariate Pearson correlations between total time spent each day on computers, cell phones
and video games and closeness to parent. Each of these types of technology was also individually
correlated with closeness to parent. There was no significant correlation between total time spent
on technology per day and closeness to parent. Also there was no significant correlation between
time spent on cell phones or time spent on video games and closeness to parent. However, an
examination of the number of hours spent on a computer per day and the rating of closeness to
parent revealed a significant negative correlation between computer use and closeness to parent
There were additional findings and trends observed in the data as well. It was found that
the majority of teenagers own cell phones and have a computer at home. Only one participant
reported not having a computer and seven (11.1%) reported not having a cell phone. It was found
that the internet helped 27% of adolescents maintain a close relationship with their mothers and
20.7% with their fathers. On the other hand, cell phones helped 68.3% of adolescents maintain a
close relationship with their mothers and 54% with their fathers.(Figure 2) Majority of
participants reported that they generally maintained better relationships in person or on the phone
compared to the internet (In person = 58.7%, phone = 31.7% and internet = 4.8%). It was found
that most participants did not spend a great amount of time playing video games. 70.7% of the
teenagers reported to spend less than 2 to 4 hours a day on video games and 34.5% reported to
spend less than an hour or no time on them. (Figure 3) It was found that 63.5% of participants
picked their mother as the parent they are closest to. 17.5% picked their father, 15.9% picked the
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adult (other than mother or father) with whom they live and 3.2% picked their guardian. Also, in
terms of preferred communication mediums, 58.7% said they have better relationships in person,
31.7% said they have better relationships on the phone and 4.8% picked online relationships.
Figure 1: Time spent on a computer each day and closeness to parent. There was a negative
correlation between computer use and closeness to parent supported by Pearson’s correlation
Figure 2: Percentage of teenagers that report whether internet and cell phones help them
maintain a good relationship with their parents. Cell phones help more teenagers maintain good
relationships with both their mothers and fathers compared to the internet.
Figure 3: Time spent playing video games. 70.7% of the teenagers reported to spend less than 2
to 4 hours a day on video games. 34.5% reported to spend less than an hour or no time on them.
13.8% spent 1 to 2 hours and 22.4% spent 4 to 6 hours. These calculations exclude missing
values.
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Discussion
The aim of the current study was to investigate the relationship between duration of
adolescents’ technology use and their relationship with their parents. Three main forms of
technology were considered for the purposes of this study, namely, computers, cell phones and
video games.
It was found that the total amount of time spent on all three types of technology
combined did not have a significant correlation with closeness to parents. The same was found
for duration of cell phone use and time spent playing video games when individually correlated
with closeness to parent. A lack of significant result in the overall technology correlation could
have been due to the lack of a significant correlation in two of its three factors when individually
correlated with closeness to parent. Duration of computer use was the only type of technology
use found to have a significant negative correlation with closeness to parent (r(58) = -.263, p =
0.046).
Computers and cell phones –in addition their numerous other uses – are used as
communication devices whereas video games are not. The difference between the correlation
results for computers and cell phones with closeness to parent may be due to the finding that the
participants were more likely to use cell phones to communicate with their parents compared to
the use of the internet. 68.3% participants reported that their cell phone helps them maintain a
close relationship with their mothers and 54% with their fathers. Only 27% of adolescents said
the internet helps them keep in touch with their mothers and 20.7% with their fathers.
Also, 15.9% of these participants reported being closest to the adult (other than their
mother or father) with whom they live. Therefore, many of them do not live with their mother or
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father. These teenagers are more likely to contact their parents through internet using their home
computer.
The findings could mean that cell phones facilitated a relationship between adolescent
and parent when they were not in close proximity. This is consistent with MacGill’s (2007)
findings that parents and adolescents find cell phones helpful and convenient because teens are
able to communicate with their parents, let them know where they are and get advice.
Adolescents say they feel safer with cell phone because they feel that they can contact their
parent or get help whenever they need to (Lenhart, 2010). This would in turn lead to a better
parent-teen relationship. The fact that an adolescent is always on the phone or texting at the
dinner table may just be a very noticeable annoyance when parents and teens are in close
proximity. However, it seems that ability to keep in touch when not in close proximity overrides
It may also be true as Lenhart’s (2010) findings suggest that parents now consider cell
phones to be less of a good thing for their children compared to a few years ago, but nonetheless
the current findings suggest that its advantages outweigh the shortcomings. The main reason
parents buy cell phones for their teenagers is so that they may be aware of their whereabouts
(Lenhart, 2010) and this study suggests that it is fulfilling this purpose.
Recently, more and more parents are beginning to use cell phones also. So they know
what is going on in their adolescent’s life. Most adolescents’ cell phones are on a family plan
where usually a parent foots the bill (MacGill, 2007). This also helps parents monitor their
children’s usage when it comes to cell phones. With internet there is a lot more privacy now, and
most parents are not as up to date with the latest features of their teenagers’ favorite social
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networking websites. So even if the parent learns how to use such sites to monitor their teens
online, teens can choose which information and activities they want to hide from them
(Subrahmanyam, 2008).
There was no significant correlation found between the amount of time spent on video
games and closeness to parents. It is important to note that 70.7% of the teenagers who answered
this question, reported to spend less than 2 to 4 hours a day on video games. 34.5% reported to
spend less than an hour or no time on them. This shows that most of these teenagers did not
spend a lot of time playing video games at all. This might be why video games were unrelated to
Overall, it was found that computer and cell phone ownership was very high among
adolescents. Only one adolescent out of 61 who answered the question reported not to have a
computer at home and only 7 adolescents (11.1%) out of 53 who answered the question correctly
reported not having a cell phone. Lenhart (2010) found 75% of teens owned cell phones whereas
the current study only a year later found that 84.1% owned cell phones. The current studies’
findings are consistent with Lenhart’s findings and suggest that overall ownership of technology
Some errors could also affect the results such as participants not understanding the
questions or not paying attention to the wording. The survey was complicated and they may
make mistakes in cases such as if they live with an adult other their parent, who the question is
referring to.
Some errors could also have affected the results of this study. The study used surveys to
gather information from adolescents. Self-report can often be flawed due to participants not
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understanding the question or not paying attention to the wording. The survey was complicated
and they may have made mistakes in certain cases such as if they lived with an adult other their
parent, they might be unsure as to who the next question about “this parent” is referring to. There
were many missing responses in the data collected for this study which may also have
Also, the sample was confined to one public school in a specific neighborhood in New
York. A bigger sample would have been more representative of adolescents in the United States,
and might have yielded better results. However, a bigger sample was not practical for this study,
but it is suggested for future research that aims to examine the relationship between technology
This research only looked at correlations between duration of technology use and
relationship with parents. This topic has barely been studied so far and further research is needed
to determine the direction of relationship between duration of technology use and relationship
with parents. Perhaps more structured research that controls for affecting factors would be a
how and why technology use may affect adolescent social interactions and relationships. Further
research on this important topic should look at the psychological intricacies of associated with
this correlation.
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APPENDIX 1
Young people under the age of 18 are the highest users of text messaging compared to all other
age groups. The figure below is from the Nielson Company as used by Bilton (2010).
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APPENDIX 2
This survey is distributed by Sarah Khan, a student at Barnard College. The sole purpose
1. Age: ________
o 8 to 10 hours
o 6 to 8 hours
o 4 to 6 hours
o 2 to 4 hours
o 1 to 2 hours
5. What do you usually use the computer for? (Check all that apply):
IM Other __________________
6-11. Does the internet help you maintain a close relationship with: (Chose Yes or no for
each category):
13-16. If yes, how much time a day do you spend on your cell phone for each activity?
___More than 10 hours ___More than 10 hours ___More than 10 hours ___More than 10 hours
___Less than an hour ___Less than an hour ___Less than an hour ___Less than an hour
17-22. Does your cell phone help you maintain a close relationship with: (Chose Yes or no
23. Do you think you have better relationships with people you talk to online or on the phone
compared to people you meet and hang out with face to face? (Select one only)
b. 8 to 10 hours
c. 6 to 8 hours
d. 4 to 6 hours
e. 2 to 4 hours
f. 1 to 2 hours
25. Do you have a sibling with whom you are very close? ___Yes ___No
26. Do you have a best friend/boyfriend/girlfriend with whom you share everything?
___Yes ___No
30. Does your parent know who you talk to online or on your cell phone?
31. How well does your parent know you or understand you as an individual?
32. How often do you talk to this parent (e.g. have a discussion)?
o One a week
o Everyday
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33. Does your parent give you advice? If so, how often?
35. How often do you use your cell phone to talk to your parent?
22. How often do you use the internet to talk to your parent?
On a scale of 1 to 10 how close would you say you are to this parent in general? ____________