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HEALTH
Quarter 2 - Module 1
(Family Life)
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Pre-Assessment

Loop-A-Word

Direction: Loop as many words as you can that have something to do with marriage.

C M A R R I A G E L O V F
P R E G N A N C Y S E E A
D C O U R T S H I P L A M
A W A R J A L O U S Y M I
T D N E W B O R N G U I L
I U A L O V E F E A R N Y
N I N F A T U A T I O N F
G K O N E D U E D A T E S
D S F R I E N D S H I P B
E N G A G E M E N T S I K

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Title of the Lesson

Lesson Courtship, Dating and Marriage
1
What’s New

Courtship
is the period in a couple's relationship which
precedes their engagement and marriage or it is an
establishment of an agreed relationship of a more
enduring kind. During courtship a couple get to know
each other and decide if there will be an engagement or
such agreement. A courtship may be an informal and
private matter between two people or may be a public
affair or a formal arrangement with family approval.
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Different Traditional Practices of Courtship in the Philippines

Ilocos and Tagalog regions

In Ilocos, serenading is known as tapat, "to be in front of the woman’s house” likely the same to
harana and also to the balagtasan of the Tagalogs. The suitor begins singing a romantic song, then
the courted lady responds by singing too.
Rooster courtship, a form of courting in Luzon is done differently. The rooster is assigned to be the
"negotiator", wherein the male chicken is left to stay in the home of the courted to crow every single
morning for the admired lady's family.
Bulacan
In the province of Bulacan in Central Luzon, the Bulaqueños have a kind of courtship known as
the naninilong which means serenading from the basement. At midnight, the suitor goes beneath the
nipa hut, a house that is elevated by bamboo poles, then prickles the admired woman by using a
pointed object to catch the attention of the sleeping lady, after they converse in whispers.

Kalinga
The Ifugaos practice a courtship called ca-i-sing or ebgan to Kalingas and pangisto to
Tingguians, where a man and a woman are separated into "houses". The house for the males is called
Ato, while the house for females is known as the olog or agamang. The man visits the woman’s house
to sing romantic songs and the woman reply to these songs also through singing. The courtship ritual
is guarded by the elders who inform the parents of both parties about the progress of the courtship
process.

Batangas
In Batangas a traditional eve of the wedding procession is done. The purpose is to bring the
cooking ingredients for the celebration to the bride’s home, where refreshments awaits.

Pangasinan
In Pangasinan, folks utilizes the taga-amo, which means "tamer", a form of love potions or
charms which can be rubbed to the skin of the admired. It can also be in the form of drinkable potions.
The suitor may also resort to the use of palabas, meaningshow or drama, wherein the woman
succumbs to revealing her love to her suitor, who on the other hand pretends to commit suicide if the
lady does not confess her true feelings.

Apayao
The Apayaos has a practice that allows a man and a woman to sleep together during the night.
This is known as mahal-alay. This form of courting assists in assessing the woman’s feeling for her
lover.

Palawan
In Palawan, they perform courtship through the use of love riddles or pasaguli. The purpose of
the love riddles is to assess the sentiments of the parents of both suitor and admirer. After this pabalic
/ pabalik is done to settle the price in a form of dowry that will be received by the women from the
courting man.

Visayas
When courting, Cebuanos also resort to serenading, called balak. They also write love letters
that are sent through a trusted friend or relative of the woman. Presents are not only given to the
woman, but also to her relatives. They also use love potions to win the affection of the woman.
Man from Leyte performs the pangagad or paninilbihan instead of paying a form of dowry
during courtship. The suitor accomplishes household and farm chores for the family of the woman.
The service normally lasts for approximately a year before the man and woman can get married. It is
also referred to as subok - a trial or test period for the serving suitor. In Bicol, it is called pamianan.
Mindanao
Palabas, sarakahan tupul, or magpasumbahi, is practiced by the Tausugs of Mindanao. A
suitor would threaten to stab his heart while in front of the courted woman’s father. If the father of the
woman refuses to give her daughter’s hand to the suitor, the suitor is smitten by a knife.

The Bagobos, on the other hand, sends a knife or a spear as a gift to the home of the courted woman
for inspection. Accepting the weapon is equivalent to accepting the man’s romantic intention and
advances.
A man can court a woman through Facebook, Twitter, Skype or other social
networking sites.

DATING

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is a social activity which involves two or more people generally assessing each other’s
suitability for a potential relationship. Dating can also be enjoyed as part of an already active
relationship. The word dating actually comes from the arranging of a time and date of meeting.
is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people, as partner in an intimate
relationship or as a spouse.
it refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity,
together, as a couple >.>

Types of Dating:
a. Standard date – involves two people
b. Group date – where any number of couples can enjoy a date
c. Double date – two couples go on a date at the same time and place

Importance of Dating:
1. It forms affection and respect.
2. It strengthens the relationship.
3 .It gives quality time to each other.
4. It leads one to observe the other person’s character.
5. Provides an opportunity for one to know his/her strengths and weaknesses in
dealing with the opposite sex.
6. Dating in a relationship is important because it allows you to get to know the
person you are in a relationship with, while having a good time. Dating helps to
reveal any potential problems you may have if pursuing a more serious
relationship with a person, and it sets the foundation for marriage.
MARRIAGE

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Marriage is the most enjoyable human relationship. It is the most significant event that may
happen to your life. It takes only two people, a man and a woman to unite and make a successful
relationship as married couple.
Marriage is a lifelong partnership of a man and a woman, two unique individuals, who
understand, respect, care, and love each other. It is a bond between two people who continue to grow
and develop their best qualities as human beings.
Marriage is not a mere contract but an inviolable social institution. Its nature, consequences
and practices are governed by law and not subject to stipulation except that the marriage settlements
may to a certain extent fix the property relations during the marriage. (Civil Code of the Philippines)

Marriage is a cherished institution under which man and woman believe in one faith and
children are conceived, raised, and nourished to become useful and productive citizens of the country
and the world. It is essential to the continuity of the human race.
Filipinos view marriage as a sacrament and a lifelong commitment. Husband and wife work for
the successful and harmonious relationship at home and among family members. Trust, respect,
kindness, and love are essential factors to attain this goal.

Post test
Activity 1: True or False
Direction: Write T if the given statement is true. Then write F if it is not. Write the answer
on the space provided before each number.

_____1. Marriage is not a mere contract but an inviolable social institution.

_____2. Filipinos view marriage as a sacrament and a lifelong commitment.
_____3. The word dating actually comes from the arranging of a person and things to
consider.
_____4. Courtship is the period in a couple's relationship which precedes their engagement
and marriage or it is an establishment of an agreed relationship of a more enduring kind.
_____5. You have to consider the forms of affection and respect when you date somebody.
_____6. Marriage is not a lifelong partnership of a man and woman, two unique individuals,
who understand, respect, care and love each other.
_____7. Dating provides an opportunity for one to know his/her strengths and weaknesses
in dealing with the opposite sex.
_____8. Standard date involves two people.
_____9. The Bagobos, on the other hand, sends a knife or a spear as a gift to the home of
the courted woman for inspection.
_____10. A courtship may be an informal and private matter between two people or may be
a public affair or a formal arrangement with family approval.
 ASSESSMENT
Activity 3: My Marriage Ceremony
Direction: Draw a memorable setting or set up in your future marriage ceremony.
Draw it inside the box. (use separate sheet of paper)