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 MODULE 3:

THE MAGNETIC
FLIRTING FORMULA
How To Keep A Pretty Girl’s Attention And
Interest And Make Her Magnetically Desire You

(Rough Transcript)

Hey it’s Mike Haines and welcome back to Godlike Power — the course where you
learn how to seduce perfect 10s.
So to understand what we’re going to be doing in this month’s module, you need to
know that I decided to organize this course around a SEQUENCE. And that
sequence is the process you must go through to meet a 9 or 10, get her into bed,
and begin a sexual relationship with her.
This process happens in the following phases:

THE SEDUCTION PROCESS

1) Approach her and create attraction through sexy body language and
“being a challenge” (Operative technique: ‘Friction’)
2) Build comfort through conversation and “vibing” (Operative technique:
‘Familiarization’)
3) Get her somewhere private where sex can happen, and have sex
(Operative technique: ‘Extraction’)
4) Turn her into your girlfriend on your terms (Operative technique:
‘Conversion’)

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5) Keep her invested and hooked on you in the relationship (Operative
technique: ‘Turbulence’)

THE SECOND STAGE OF THE SEDUCTION PROCESS: BUILDING COMFORT

Last month we covered how to approach and how to create attraction. This month
we’re going to talk about the second phase of this process: which is building
comfort.
You need two things for a woman to sleep with you: arousal, and comfort.
Last month we covered the fundamentals of being arousing to women —
communicating in an arousing, challenging way.
Now, what you may noticed if you tried some of that stuff is that it does get women
attracted, but then it can be kind of hard to figure, “what do I do next?”
The girl is clearly engaged, interested, she’s laughing — but you don’t know what
else to do. And you think, “uh, she liked it when I teased her, so I’ll just keep teasing
more and more and more”
And that generally doesn’t tend to work out too well.
And the reason why is that teasing girls does create arousal. But it doesn’t
create comfort — in fact, depending on the girl, it can actually lower her comfort
around you.
So you need to be able to do BOTH.

COMFORT IS ACHIEVED THROUGH FLIRTING + “FACE TIME”

So how is comfort achieved — especially when dealing with a girl who’s basically a
stranger?
Well, it’s achieved through flirting. It’s achieved through getting to know each
other. And it’s achieved by basically just spending time together.
Here’s something important comfort = familiarity.
That’s really all it is.
The more face time you get with the girl — the more girl familiar and
comfortable she’ll be with you.

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And if throughout that time, you’ve also been mixing in some nice sexual tension
and playful teasing and being a bit of a dick — then you’ve pretty much got the
recipe for going home together and having great sex.

FUN WAYS TO PASS THE TIME WITH A GIRL

1. Challenge her to a thumb war. This is fun and it gets her laughing and feeling
positive emotions. It’s also a non-threatening to initiate physical contact.
2. Play “Slap”. I don’t know if you know this game, but basically make your hands
flat, and place them together so they’re pointing towards the girl. And she does
the same. And then the game is to try to slap the other person’s hand, and to
avoid them slapping your hands, by moving your hands up. It’s a really stupid,
simple, childish but it actually gets really funny and competitive. Girls love this
type of shit. What’s great about this, too, is that it’s almost guaranteed to get her
laughing, while initiating a lot of physical contact, and if you lose and she slaps
you lots of times in a row you can jump on her and wrestle her down. Just like
challenging her to a thumb war this a great little trick to get physical and
flirtatious without being overtly sexual.
3. Palm reading. So you can tell the girl you’re a palm reader and you can read
her future. Take her palm and pretend to read her future, tell her how she’s
about to get in a relationship with a beautiful, handsome, mysterious stranger.
You can improvise with this stuff on the spot and it’s great. It’s funny and light.
Again, allows you to touch her and also to start flirting and making things
implicitly sexual.
4. The Cube. This is an old game that guys like Mystery and Neil Strauss used to
use. I won’t get into it here because it’s kind of a long involved, but look it up
online and if you’re interested in it, you can use it.
5. Challenge her to a game of truth or dare. This can be really fun — you can
dare her to grab another girl’s ass, or to steal a drink for you, or do something
else that’s “naughty” and it creates a little “you and me” conspiracy of you and
the girl where you’re partners in crime. For the truth questions, you can ask her
provocative semi-sexual stuff like “have you ever kissed a girl?” “what’s your
favorite sexual position?” “what color underwear are you wearing?” “shave or
wax?” — stuff like that. Again, it’s light and playful and funny and kind of “high
school”-ish, and it will put her in a fun, adventurous, flirty place.

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6. You can play the question game. You take turns asking each other a
question, and the other one has to answer truthfully. The only rules are: you
must 100% honest, and the same question can’t be asked twice.

So those are just a few examples of fun ways to pass the time with the girl. There
are many, many more in my book the Domination Principle — but the ones I’ve
given you here are enough to get on with.
You definitely don’t need to use them all. A lot of those can be stretched out for
ages and turn into other fun activities and conversations naturally.

THE KEY TO FLIRTING: UNDERSTANDING THE NATURE OF WOMEN

The key to flirting with women over an extend period of time is understanding
female nature.
What I mean by this, is that women don’t have the same nature as a man —
inherently.
Women are, by their nature, erratic. Femininity is erratic and chaotic.
Whereas masculinity is inherently orderly, stable, and calm.
When flirting with women, you shouldn’t want them to be masculine. They’re
feminine. This is a good thing. And this makes them erratic, a little bit crazy,
and a little bit anxious.
That’s the nature of women. That’s the nature of femininity.
So this is something to embrace about women, and to love about them.
You don’t want your girl to be manly. You don’t want her to be orderly and
calm and stable. That’s not how feminine women behave — at least not when
they’re in their feminine essence, such as in a club or while flirting with a guy.
Flirting with you is going to make her feel feminine, and this will make her a little bit
crazy, a little bit flakey, erratic, chaotic and reactive.
The hotter the girl (in other words, the more feminine she is) the more erratic
and chaotic she will tend to be.

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As a man, your role is to be like a calming energy on her, a cooling energy, a
stabilizing force. Your role is to manifest an energy which is complimentary to
femininity.
Masculine energy is calm. Masculine energy is grounded. This is the opposite
of the erratic nature of femininity.

WOMEN WILL HAVE “MINI NERVOUS BREAKDOWNS” WHEN YOU

APPROACH. IT’S IN THEIR NATURE.
So here’s what’s going to happen.
You are going to approach a beautiful, feminine, chaotic, erratic young girl.
And because she’s erratic, she’s going to have like a “mini nervous breakdown”
when you approach her.
She won’t know what to say. She’ll tense up. She’ll start looking around and
freaking out.
When you talk to her, she may not immediately respond. Or she may respond
with one word answers. Or pretend to ignore you. Or say some dumb line she
heard on TV like “sorry, I have a boyfriend”.
And what’s happening inside her head is that she’s gone into fight or flight
mode.
Her heart is racing. Adrenaline is pumping through her system.
And her amygdala, or “lizard brain”, is sizing you up and it’s basically flashing
a red siren and saying: THREAT! THREAT! THREAT! THREAT!
Ok?
Understand?
She’s FREAKING OUT because you approached her.
And it’s in her nature to freak out.
It’s not about you. She’d respond this way to any guy approaching her suddenly.

The more high value you are, the more of a “threat”

And here’s a really key point: the more attractive you are, the more freaked out
she’s going to be.

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Think of yourself here. Think back to high school. What happened when the
hottest girl in school talked to you? Your brain shuts down. You panic. You
don’t know what to say back. Maybe you’re “uh… uh… uhh…. yeah…”
So that same exact “shut down” mechanism is going on in the girl’s brain
when she’s approached by an attractive guy — i.e. you. And the higher your
status, the more panic she’s going to feel.
Which can manifest itself in her being “bitchy” to you. By not responding to
you. Looking away. Trying to act distant and cool.
But you just have to realize that’s all just her persona. And it’s a persona which is
trying to cover up the fact that internally she’s in chaos and she feels very self-
conscious.
And that’s because she’s highly feminine, and that’s how someone with a feminine
energy reacts to being approached by a stranger — particularly a stranger of high
value, and particularly when that high value stranger is a potential mate.
So your job in flirting is really to caaaalm her down.
Your job as a man is to RELAX her. That’s what massculine energy does to
feminine energy — it balances it out, it smooothes out the creases of neurosis and
nervous energy which femininity is naturally prone to.
And the way you’re going to do that is basically just by keeping your cool. Being
chill. Being normal.
Keep your eyes on her eyes — locked on. This has a calming effect on women.
Extended eye contact releases a hormone called oxytocin. What oxytocin does is it
relaxes people. It chills them out. It makes people feel bonded to each other.
And aside from that, you’re going to talk. You’re gonna just chat to her.
And what are you going to talk about?
Well, try this on for size. Why not talk about how attractive you find her? Why not
express your appreciation for her beauty and elegance and poise?

WHAT TO TALK ABOUT — IF IN DOUBT, EXPRESS WHY YOU’RE ATTRACTED

TO HER
After all, this is why you’re here talking to her at all. You love women. You love the
way you look, you love their personalities, you love their bodies, you love
their femininity.

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And if you approached this girl, there was obviously something about her
femininity that drew you towards her. Something about her attractiveness and
her youth and her energy as a woman.
So what you want to do is express that.
You can tell her things like:

• You’re absolutely stunning. I feel like I’m winning just by being around you.
• I don’t care if we have sex tonight. I just want to keep looking at your
gorgeous face. For me that’s better than sex.
• You’re so elegant and graceful and poised. I’m honestly just feel privileged
to stand here and look at you.
• You look so beautiful tonight. It’s an absolute pleasure to spend time with
you. I’ve been breaking my back in work all day, and just getting to look at
your face and be in your company is such a privilege to me right now
• My god you are fucking gorgeous. I’m in heaven right now just being with
you, to be honest

These are called expressions of appreciation. The key to making them work is
they have to honest, and they have to be sincere.
But if you’re talking to a woman you find really, really attractive — then they
are sincere. And trust me when I tell you, the girl is going to absolutely melt
when you express yourself in this way.
And you just watch. You say stuff like this to a girl — she could be the bitchiest ice
queen, and you use some of these expressions of appreciation and she’ll fucking
melt. She’ll just completely melt.
You’ll see her go red and blush, and she’ll just turn into an absolute sweetie.
It’s really, really good.

HOW EXPRESSING APPRECIATION PUMPS YOUR OWN STATE

The other thing that’s great about this frame of appreciating the girl’s beauty and
elegance and poise is that it’s actually going to energize you.

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You see, very often what happens is that approaching women can become
mechanical.
You lose touch with your deeper reasons for doing it, and you do it because you
feel like you have to, or you don’t want to pussy out, or things like this.
And when you express a deep aesthetic appreciation for that woman and for
what she embodies — the eternal spirit of the feminine and the sensuous — it
draws your own attention back to your deeper reasons for doing this.
And that puts you in a great state. It kind of awakens you to the joy of just getting to
spend time with this girl, and the subtle interplay of the masculine and feminine
energy which is going on in your conversation.
It’s the difference between approaching her in an unconscious mechanical way like
a social robot, and being fully awake and present.

BEING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

One of the greatest obstacles in learning to talk to girls is the tendency to
over-think things, become overwhelmed, try to figure out “what to do” to
impress the girl and make her like you.
All of this basically gives you a bad vibe. It makes you off putting. You seem
nervous and tense and like you’re trying too hard, and the girl loses interest.
The way to have a good vibe is to be in the present moment. Not thinking
ahead towards the future. Not thinking about what happened before. Just
staying nice and calm in the present.
And when you’re able to do this, you’ll find that talking to girls becomes a lot
easier. It’s natural. It flows.
So how do you achieved “present state awareness” while talking to girls?
Well, many guys try different meditation exercises. And meditation is great. I
meditate every day, and it definitely makes me calmer and more engaging with
girls.
However, meditation doesn’t really work while you’re talking to the girl —
because you can’t meditate while having a conversation.
So what I’ve found is a really great way to remain present while in set, is to
meditate “on the girl”.

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“MEDITATE ON THE GIRL”
Make the woman who’s standing in front of you the complete focus of your
awareness.
As she’s talking to you, just let your eyes rest on her face. Watch her lips
closely as they move. Watch her eyes. Don’t think.
Put 100% of your awareness on the sound of her voice, the color of her lips,
the way her eyes sparkle.
No thoughts.
Doing this for even as little as a minute will put you in a very interesting state. You’ll
find that you’re intensely calm and relaxed. But unlike in regular meditation, you’ll
find that you’re somewhat turned on.
It’s almost like the girl — just by being a healthy, fertile woman — has this energy.
She’s glowing with this sexual energy, this feminine essence. It’s coming out of
every pore in her body.
And when you’re going into your head and thinking about things, and trying to figure
out how to impress her, it blocks you from absorbing this femininity that is
emanating from her. Your thoughts and mental activity is like a BRICK WALL
separating you from the female influence of the girl.
When you stop thinking, and you focus your attention completely on the woman’s
eyes, on the color of her lips, and on the sound of her voice — that wall disappears.
And you start to receive the energy — the sexual, sensual energy — which
she is radiating off of her.
And you become aroused. You become deeply meditative, while also being in
touch with her sexuality, and with your own sexuality.
And that’s the state you want to be in when talking to girls. Present. Sexual.
Awake. Sensually engaged. All 5 senses activated.
And when you learn to get in that state — this semi meditative, spiritual, yet sensual
state — that’s how you wind up having experiences where you meet a girl and
you’re getting it on with her in the bathroom 5 minutes later.

CHANGE YOUR GOAL

There’s two different ways to think of the “goal” in talking to a girl.

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One is a future oriented goal — like, I want to have sex with this woman, or “I
want to make her my girlfriend”
The other is a present oriented goal — like, “I love looking at this girl’s face.
She’s so pretty. I’m turned on by being in her company.”
Always have a present oriented goal.
What this means is that you’ll never be needy. You’ll never be desperate when
talking to girls. You’ll never act like a chump.
Because all of those things are the result of DESIRING something that you don’t
yet have.
Example, you’re talking to a girl, and she’s really hot, and you just really want things
to work with her — you just really want to have sex with her and make her your
girlfriend. And as a result your vibe is off-putting. Your vibe kind of “stinks”.
It smells of wanting, and needing, and resistance to the present moment. And the
girl is turned off by it.
By contrast, when you have an APPRECIATION MINDSET, then when you’re
talking to the girl, and she’s really hot, all you’re thinking is “I am so fortunate
I get to stand in front of this beautiful woman and just enjoy her company. It’s
an absolute pleasure. She’s so gorgeous to look at it. She’s absolute eye
candy. This is the high point of my week.”
And do you notice the difference there?
The difference is that in the first scenario the girl has ALL THE POWER.
Because she can either decide to sleep with you or not. And if your GOAL is to
sleep with her, then by denying you sex, she inherently makes you feel bad.
In the second scenario, where your goal is simply to KEEP BEING IN THAT
PRETTY GIRL’S COMPANY, then she has almost no power over you. Because
it doesn’t matter how she’s reacting or responding, as long as she’s standing
there in front of you and not walking away — you’re ALREADY WINNING.
And that’s going to give you this great magnetic vibe. It’s going to make you come
across as happy and go-lucky and chill.
And paradoxically, this actually makes the girl much more likely to go home and
have sex with you. More likely to wind up being your girlfriend.
You don’t have to free yourself of desire. Desire can be good. But simply change
the goal of that desire — so that just by talking to that girl and getting to enjoy her
company and her aesthetic appearance, you’re already winning.

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And it’s completely honest as well. It’s totally sincere.

YOU’RE ALREADY “WINNING” JUST BY SPENDING TIME IN HER COMPANY

Because if you think about it, right… Just think about this for a second:
What is better, than getting to spend an evening with a beautiful girl — young,
pretty, intelligent, well-dressed, smooth skin, athletic body, well-educated, feminine,
just a delight to look at and be around?
Think about it? What would you rather be doing?
Because ultimately that’s why you’re in this, right?
Well, you may say, “I want to fuck her. I want to have sex with a girl like that.”
Well, sure. But what will you do after you fuck her? Assuming she’s a beautiful
girl, you’re going to want to keep her around — probably as a girlfriend.
Well, what is a girlfriend? What does that actually mean?
It’s a girl you spend time with. That’s all it is. You’re a man and she’s a woman
and you spend time together in each other’s company, and basically just sit
around looking at each other and talking to each other.
So guess what — if you’re talking to a beautiful girl in a bar, or in a cafe, or on
the street, you’re already DOING that!
You’re already getting what you fundamentally want — which is femininity,
being in the presence of feminine energy.
Which means you’re already WINNING just by getting to spend time with her.
And that frame — that is magnetic. The more you can internalize that frame, and
express it verbally to the girl, the more you’ll find that everything just WORKS.
And THAT is how you create a connection and build a relationship from scratch with
a “model tier” high status girl.
The appreciation frame. Absolutely key.

VENUE BOUNCING
Move girls around a lot. This is absolutely key .
The more different environments she’s in with you, the more she’s going to
feel like she “knows” you, and the more comfortable she’ll be sleeping with
you.

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It’s kind of a glitch in the human mind.
So move her around a lot. Both within the club or whatever venue you met
her. Or between venues.
This applies to both day game and night game. You meet the girl in a shop, you
want to take her to another shop, then maybe to a cafe, then maybe for a walk
in the park, then maybe for a drink. Keep moving through different
environments.
If you meet her in the club, then you want to be constantly taking her by the
hand, leading her over to the bar, getting her to come for a dance, leading her
outside for a cigaratte or some fresh air. And so on.
You also want to venue change as much as possible. So you meet the girl in
Bar A, and you take her to Club B, then you take her outside and go to a place
to get food, then you take her back to your place for a drink.
The more different locations you run her through, the less time you need to
spend with her for her to be comfortable enough to have sex with you.
A corollary to this, is that if you don’t want to have sex with her that night but
instead want to simply get her number — same rule applies: the more different
locations you run her through, the more solid that number will be.
Remember we said that comfort is basically just familiarity. Well, the more
different environments the girl is in with you, the more familiar you feel to her.

CREATING THE “BUBBLE”

The more you can make it about “us” as a couple rather than “me and you”
as individuals the better.
We sometimes call this the Bubble of Love.
You can do that by moving her around a lot, by venue changing.
And you can and should also do it by the language you use with her, and the way
you talk to her.
So, for example, I’ll often approach girls and say stuff like “So, aren’t you so
happy that we found each other and you’ve met the man of your dreams?
Doesn’t it feel great to finally be in a relationship where you’re 100% sure
you’ve found Mr. Right?”

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And obviously I’m saying that as a joke, in a tongue and cheek way, and the girl
finds it funny.
But, even if it’s phrased as a joke, talking in that way is still going to get the
girl’s subconscious thinking along that track of “us”, “me and you” as a
couple — rather than just two strangers talking.
So anytime you can put this idea in her head that the two of you are a couple, are in
a relationship, are boyfriend and girlfriend — that’s very very good.
Even if you do it as a joke, it’s still going to make her emotionally start to feel
like it’s true — and like the two of you actually are a couple.

60 SECOND GIRLFRIEND GAME

Another great way to do this which I learned from a product called the Flawless
Natural by RSD Tim…
And you can do this even to a girl you’ve just approached, even as the very
thing you say…
is to hug her, and then say, “for the next 60 seconds, you’re my girlfriend.”
And if you say something like that, it’s fun, because it’s kind of like a little fantasy
roleplay game — but it also puts her in that headspace.
And you’ll find that if you hug a girl, and say that to her, oftentimes you can just
keep holding her there in the hug, and flirting with her as you hold her there and
she’ll fully go along with it. And then obviously, because of the full body contact and
the closeness she’ll start to become aroused.
That definitely won’t happen with every girl — but just that little line “for the next 60
seconds you’re my girlfriend” — makes it much more likely to do that and for the girl
to be fully into it.
Because you’ve painted a picture in her mind and evoked those associations
of being a couple. And it’s funny and it’s sweet and it’s cute, and that makes
her drop her guard to a large extent.
It’s a really cool little trick.

Getting it through your head that the girl can and does actually like you
Probably the most important thing in this phase of seduction is self-trust. And
specifically, trust in your own value.

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And what I mean by that is that, as guys we tend to be very tangible results
driven.
And if we’re not getting tangible results — in the form of, saying, kissing the
girl, or having her tell us she likes us — we can start to doubt that she’s
interested, and this causes us to shut down and become insecure, and
ultimately leave set and leave the girl.
And this is big problem — particularly when you’re talking about 9s and 10s —
because one of the core characteristics of a “9 or 10” is that she will almost
never give you any clear feedback about whether she’s like you or not for a
long time.
And if you think that a girl has to make out with you, be all over you, tell you how
much she’s in love with you — if you have an unconscious “rule” in your head which
says that, “when a girl likes me, she gives me tangible validation”.
Well, that’s not going to serve you well when you’re dealing with higher status,
higher value, better personality girls.
Because that’s NOT how they act.

A PERFECT 10 WILL ALMOST NEVER GIVE YOU A TANGIBLE SIGNAL THAT

SHE LIKES YOU OR NOT — YOU MUST DEVELOP TRUST THAT SHE IS
ATTRACTED TO YOU WITHOUT NEEDING EXTERNAL FEEDBACK
This is a big paradigm shift.
And one of the reasons it can be hard to get your arms around is that when you
first learn about game, you’re not entirely convinced that it works.
So when you try it on girls, you’re constantly looking for feedback and
validation to see “Is it working? Does she like me? Are the techniques working?”
And sometimes girls will give you that clear feedback. And sometimes they
won’t.
And in particular, you will often get that positive feedback from more average —
shall we say — girls.
So say you’re new to game, and you approach a “5”, and you use a little neg, or
some push/pull, or you just approach her with good body language, good eye
contact, and she’s clearly into you, and she says to her friend something like “oh my
god, I love him”. And you get a little dopamine spike of validation.

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Well, it often happens that guys get hooked on this validation.
The problem is that 9s and 10s will almost NEVER give you such tangible
feedback about whether they like you or not.
Now don’t get me wrong. Later on, if you’re dating one of those 9s or 10s, then they
can be incredibly affectionate, cute, warm and feminine. And it’s really really nice.
But it’s very RARE that they’ll give you this kind of feedback during your first
interaction. And that can really throw guys off balance big time — especially if
you’re used to getting tangible positive clear feedback from less attractive girls.

So the antidote to this is 2 things:

#1: the only IOI is that the girl is “quiet and attentive.” So long as she’s quiet
and attentive, she’s attracted. You don’t need any other signs.
#2: you need to develop self-trust, and trust in your own value.
Meaning: you don’t trust in game. You don’t trust in your techniques.
Fundamentally, you have a deep trust in your own value as a man —
independent of what you do.
And you have trust that the more time a woman spends with you, the more
attracted to you she is inevitably going to become.
Men are attracted to women. Women are attracted to men.
You are a man. You are masculine. And therefore, the longer a woman spends in
your presence, the more she’s inevitably going to become attracted to you. It’s
simply inevitable.

DON’T SELF-REJECT
Where guys go wrong is that they LEAVE SET TOO EARLY. They reject
themselves before the girl has had a chance to become familiar with them, to
become comfortable and relaxed around them, and to become attracted to them.
The big problem in game is not rejection but self-rejection.
You approach a girl and she doesn’t immediately give you a clear signal that she
likes you and so you eject and you leave the set.
You have to be a bit more persistent. Women can only become attracted to you
over time.

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And all you have to do is approach the girl — and then just kind of spend time with
her. And nature does the rest. Nature makes her more and more attracted.
Assuming you stay in set and don’t reject yourself by walking away.

ACTION EXERCISE

1 Minute of Pain
I’m going to leave you with your action exercise for the month.
And this exercise is called 1 Minute of Pain.
So the point of this exercise is that it comes to down to what we said earlier, that in
seducing 9s and 10s, what’s really hard, or rather, what takes the most time
and the most practice is simply getting to the point that you’re
COMFORTABLE spending time with these girls.
Because beautiful girls are, or can be intimidating — particularly if you don’t have a
lot of experience talking to women, and even if you are used to talking to a lot of
girls but you’re just not accustomed to talking to beautiful women.
It can kind of be overwhelming, right?
It’s hard to just be present with them and be yourself without receding into your
mind and losing your cool.
So the exercise I’m going to get you to do this month is all about becoming
more COMFORTABLE with talking to hot women.
And it’s very, very simple, but very powerful.
So here’s what you’re going to do.
This weekend, I want you to go out to a club.
And I want you to cold approach ten girls. Could be more, could be less — the
exact number is not important.
But here’s the key thing — here’s the rule.
Every girl you approach, I want you to stay in set for ONE MINUTE LONGER
than feels comfortable.
What do I mean by that?

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Well, for example, let’s say that you go out tonight and you approach a girl. You say
hi how are you. She’s says I’m good how are you. And you small talk with her for a
while.
And then it reaches that point in the conversation — and you know this — where it
gets AWKWARD.
You run out of things to say.
And she runs out of things to say.
And now you’re both kind of just stuck there looking away awkwardly.
And normally, what you would do here is just to say, “well, it was nice to meet you”
and then you’d walk away, and be like “Wooooh” because you’re still pumped that
you did the approach at all.
Well, for this exercise, once it gets to that point of awkwardness — you need to
stay an extra ONE MINUTE.
Just one minute. That’s all.
And just say anything. It really doesn’t matter. Just talk about random shit like —
“wow, look at how nice the lighting is in here.” Or, “I’m really enjoying this beer, it’s
great.”
You can say anything at all, so long as you just stay with her for one minute
after it’s become awkward and you’ve run out of things to say.
And even if you can’t think of anything to say, literally just stand there with her. Just
stand there for one minute saying absolutely nothing.
And it will be awkward. If you’re doing this right it will be awkward. You’ll feel
awkward and you’ll want to leave. The girl will feel awkward, and she’ll want you to
leave.
But you’re going to stay anyway — for one minute more — because that’s the
exercise. It’s called one minute of pain. It’s not supposed to be fun. It’s
supposed to be pain.

Approach another girl and do the same thing.

When it starts getting awkward and you run out of things to say and you get
that urge to leave, just stay for one minute longer.
And if she asks why you’re still standing there just bullshit, and say something like
“I just love looking at your pretty face. It’s much better than looking at my friend’s
ugly face.”

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You can say anything. Doesn’t matter.

And here’s where this is fucking beautiful.

What you’re going to find if you do this — is that each girl you approach, you can
stay longer and longer and longer without feeling awkward.
AND you’ll find that you have a constant stream of new stuff to say — in other
words just by doing this exercise, you’re no longer going to “run out of things to
say” with girls.
Why? Because when you force yourself to stay in set even if you can’t of
anything to say, eventually your brain realizes — well, simply saying something
dumb is WAY less awkward than if I just stand here saying nothing. And so
your brain FINDS something to talk about.

And THIS is how you become the type of guy who can talk to a girl for HOURS
without running out of material.
This one simple exercise.
1 minute of pain. Next approach: 1 minute of pain. Next approach: 1 minute of
pain.
And each time you approach and do this you’re going to find you’re staying
longer and longer in each set without running out of things to talk about.
And your ability to talk to a girl without losing your nerve and being pushed out of
set will be greatly strengthened.

It’s exactly what Arnold Schwarznegger talked about when talked about this idea
of the “area of pain”… the area of pain.
And what meant by the area of pain was, in the context of lifting weights and
building muscle and becoming stronger…
Well, let’s say you’re doing bicep curls with a dumbbelll, right. And let’s say you
can do 10 repetitions before your arm becomes too tired to lift the dumbell.
Well, Arnold’s whole theory was basically that first 10 reps don’t build your muscle.
It’s that extra 2 or 3 reps that you just about squeeze after your normal limit —
those are where you get 90% of your gains.

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It’s that area of pain. Even though it’s only 2 or 3 reps — which is nothing — it’s the
fact that you squeezed them out after passing your normal limit where you’re
normally too tired to go on. And that’s how you grow.
It’s the exact same thing with the one minute of pain exercise.
What’s that exercise? Once again. Approach a girl. Chat to her normally. And when
the time comes that you run out of things to say and where you would normally
just ask for her number — I want you to spend just ONE more minute with her.
Do that a lot. And you’ll find that each approach you do, you don’t feel that
awkwardness as much. You can stay in set longer without running out of things to
say. Until pretty soon you’re able to keep a girl engaged and stimulated for
HOURS on end — and you’re wondering, “how the hell did I used to not know
what to say?”
Very simple exercise, and a very powerful one.
Ok — that’s for for this module. Lots of bonuses attached as usual which you can
enjoy. If you have any questions, email me.
And I’ll see you next month.

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