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You may still be in the early phase of learning how to date. You’ve been
on a few dates with a few different girls, and maybe you’ve even taken
one or two girls home with you.

But you’re still getting your feet wet—crazy things still happen to you,
that leave you without a clue what you’re supposed to do. You still
freeze up and get nervous and stammer like crazy when things don’t go
exactly according to the textbook.

If that’s in fact the case, then you have yet to learn what it feels like to
look back on those days and smile at all the crazy things that happened.

I still remember back when I was the same way. I went through a lot of
crazy experiences. Some of them were triumphant successes, the kinds
of stories you brag to your friends about, while others were the most
embarrassing of failures. I remember all of it fondly—mostly the ones
that went horribly wrong, because those make the best stories.

And I’ll be completely honest with you: I was a bumbling loser when I
first got started. I had no skills, no good looks, no height advantage, and
I wasn’t wealthy by any means. I had just started learning how to talk to
women, so I was still awkward and stutter-y and completely unsure of
myself.

In short, I had none of the traditional tools for getting girls, and I knew it
better than anybody else.

Unsurprisingly, my results ended up coming back approximately the way

you’d expect. I had about zero success.

I definitely wasn’t writing any books or articles on rejection back in

those days—I was living it, day in and day out, in the hardest way

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possible. It started to get really rough, and I didn’t know if I could handle
it anymore, after it had gone on for a while.

There’s a certain feeling you get when you finally work up the nerve to
approach a random girl, but then you say something stupid and get
totally shut down. If you’re one of my braver readers, you probably
already know the feeling well.

If you’re a true greenhorn and you don’t know what that feels like, yet,
then get yourself out there as quickly as possible.

You will fail a few times before you ever experience any success, and the
only real way to learn is through trial and error. No matter how many
books you read by experts like me (wink). Once you’ve tried and failed a
few times, you’ll know the feeling I’m talking about. But especially at
first, it’s not an easy feeling to have to deal with.

I had to go through that phase myself, and I got very familiar with that
feeling as time went on. I often found myself feeling down and
depressed: I would approach random women, trying desperately to get
better at it, and get rejected over and over again. I found myself sighing
before getting up to approach a girl—I felt like I already knew the whole
script from beginning to end. She’d see me coming, and I’d do my best
not to break eye contact or look down.

When I got close to her, I’d spit out some line or other I’d memorized,
and I’d see her give a half-hearted smile and start trying to come up with
a way to let me down gently. It got to be so bad that I could tell when a
girl was about to reject me several minutes before it actually happened.

This actually turned out to be a huge asset in the end, and I’ll explain
why when we get to the steps themselves.

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Now, I know there are some guys who have really struggled with talking
to girls. It may seem hard to believe now that I’ve mastered the art of
creating desire in women, but once upon a time, I was the worst of
them.

Like I said, I didn’t have much going for me. Worse, I was scared to death
that the girls I was talking to would “find out” that I had nothing going
on, and reject me.

This fear was paralyzing, and it stopped me from making a lot of

approaches, and probably from meeting a lot of really cool women.
Worse yet, that state of mind does a real number on your confidence,
and it definitely had that effect on me. Consequently, I was walking
around with my knees knocking together and my teeth chattering in
fear.

If you don’t know it, you’ll soon learn it: being that afraid is deeply,
deeply unattractive. In fact, it might be the biggest turn-off of all to any
women who happens to be sizing you up. I fairly oozed fear and
trepidation, and I might as well have bathed in stink bombs for all the
girls that got me.

I got rejected so often, so many times in a row, and with so few

successes in between, that I started to become seriously depressed.

I became obsessive about all the things that I thought were turning off
the girls I was talking to—which was virtually everything about me, I
thought. I started working out twice as hard;I changed my haircut. I even
went to a tanning bed once. I don’t like admitting that in public, but in
those days, I was truly desperate.

And looking back on those days now, I can laugh at myself, sitting there
feeling horribly awkward in a Speedo-style swimsuit while a coffin lined
with UV lights baked my sin to a sexier hue. I felt like an idiot then, but I

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didn’t realize how much of an idiot I was, until I figured out what it was
that was really driving all the girls away.

It took me a long time to figure out what was really going on. In the
process, I completely transformed myself. I felt like a completely
different person by the end of it, tan and in great shape though still
without a girl to hang on my arm.

And with all that work and all that transformation, and still no change in
my results, I was starting to feel that there must be something
genetically wrong with me. No matter what I did, or what techniques I
used, or how much I practiced, I just couldn’t seem to get past the brick
wall I’d hit.

You know the feeling of getting rejected, and you know how you start to
feel when it happens over and over again: why are all these girls
rejecting me? They unanimously hate me. There must be something
deeply wrong with me. I must suck.

Having thoughts like those bouncing around in my head made my

confidence (and thus my results) even worse. And that, of course,
precipitated even bigger blows to my confidence, which made it even
harder for me to get up the courage to really talk to a girl and be
successful.

It was a vicious cycle, and I was stuck in the middle of it, ready to
despair. Imagine how you’d feel if even the dating books and seminars
were of no help?

But the truth is that the best learning takes place out in the field. It’s
real-life hard knocks that teach the lessons you remember.

Think back to the last time a girl said to you, “You know, there’s a girl out

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there who you’ll make very happy one day, but that girl isn’t me. How
about we just be friends?” It stung just a little bit, didn’t it? It doesn’t
matter how above-board or “nice” she is about it—getting dumped
pisses you off.

But that anger becomes a powerful teaching tool—it becomes the pinch
that makes you remember the lesson. If you can figure out what that
lesson is. This is what I failed to do for so long: I was never able to
understand why I was rejected, and so I never learned anything from it.
Eventually I figured out what was going on, and things got much better.

This is all of my experience, distilled. Follow these rules, and you can
learn exactly what to do when it seems like she’s rejected you
completely. Yes, I said seems. I’m going to show you what things that
sound like rejections are actually nothing of the kind, regardless of what
she might be telling you just then. Don’t listen to her: there is still hope,
even if she says there isn’t.

The human mind understands experiences far better than words. It

remembers experience better than instructions, in other words. This
means that you’ll definitely have to put these techniques into practice a
few times before they’ll work for you.

With that said, it’s important to note that I have developed these
techniques over years and hundreds of rejections. I learned how to
reverse rejection, and get any girl to feel a strong desire for me.

So I can cut down your learning time by a significant amount. In fact, if

you’re willing to practice even just enough to master this basic
technique, you can reap huge rewards and build powerful impulsive
desires in all kinds of different girls. Even if her first reaction was
“Ewww.”

The first and most important lesson I can teach you is that rejection is

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not a final verdict. It may seem like the girl has completely shut you
down, but in reality, something very different is going on.

It’s a complex web of games she’s playing when she rejects you outright,
and you have to understand what is happening before you can ever
hope to take the steps to change it. I personally believe, from my years
of experience, that in fact when a girl rejects you the first time, she’s
really just testing you.

She just wants to see what you’re going to do. She’s challenging you to
prove yourself; why should she talk to you, after all?

Many guys take this personally, when there is really no reason in the
world to do so. Now, I know there are no magic words that I could write
here that would take away all the pain of rejection, but I think if you
understood things from the female perspective, it might make all that
rejection just a tiny bit easier to bear.

If you were a hot girl, things would be very different for you than they
are now. For one thing, you’d have absolutely no trouble getting a date.
You could rest comfortably knowing that everywhere you went, people
would go out of their way to be nice to you.

And guys would hit on you, as well. You’d get a lot of guys trying to get
your number or get a date with you. Some would probably try and take
you home right there on the spot.

In fact, if you were truly an attractive girl, then let’s be honest with each
other: you’d probably be overwhelmed with requests, all the time. Most
of them would probably be long shots: guys would whistle at you in
public, hit on you in bars, and ask for your number while you stood in
line at the grocery store.

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You might start getting so many requests that it would begin to feel
overwhelming. You couldn’t possibly say ‘yes’ to all of them—or even a
fraction of them. So what can you do?

You have to reject the vast majority of the guys who try and talk to you.
And all these irate and jilted would-be lovers, of course, head back over
to their tables after getting shot down and talk about “what a bitch that
chick was.”

So eventually, as you can see, you’d end with a nasty reputation for
rejecting guys. And these guys all took that rejection personally, even
though it’s clear from your perspective as the hot girl, it wasn’t personal
at all.

In fact, most of the time, a truly attractive girl who gets propositions all
the time will make her default response a rejection. This makes a lot of
guys angry, but it doesn’t have to. Instead, you can use it as a tool.

Once you know that a hot girl is only going to not reject you if you give
her a good reason to, you can make sure that you’re sufficiently armed
for battle before you take the leap and make the Long Walk over to the
chick across the bar.

And that’s the truth: a really hot girl will reject you by default, because
she receives so many offers from so many guys. Unless, of course, you
give her a good reason to want to keep talking to you. So now that you
understand why it seems like attractive women are always out rejecting
somebody, it may be easier to keep from taking rejection personally.

In fact, think of it as practice.

Why does rejection hurt so much?

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For those of you who are starting to get impatient, I promise: I am going
to reveal my process for reversing rejection soon. But before we get into
the nitty-gritty of how all this works, I want to take a short detour.

I’d like to talk about why rejection hurts so much.

Books on dating often talk about the “primal brain,” though few of them
have much good psychology or human history in them. You can normally
find a lot of nonsense about tricking a girl’s primal brain into thinking
this or that. I don’t take much stock in most of what I’ve read. I do have
one qualifier for that, however.

The primal brain, in all honesty, does have everything in the world to do
with why we find attractive what we find attractive. It also has
everything in the world to do with a host of other things. You get hungry
because your primal brain knows you’ve gone too long without food;
your heart beats whether you’re asleep or awake, conscious or
unconscious.

There’s one more function of the primal brain, and it relates directly to
our topic: the primal brain hates getting rejected. And it lets us know
loud and clear in the form of negative feelings how much it absolutely
hates getting rejected.

You see, the primal brain is all about survival. It knows that there are
certain things we need in order to stay alive, and it’s in charge of making
sure we stay that way for as long as possible.

The primal brain uses powerful gut feelings to tell us what to do. Hunger
just comes out of nowhere, doesn’t it? Quit eating for long enough, and
eventually, your primal brain tells you it’s time to find some food.
Alternately, if you’re afraid for your life, your primal brain will fill you
with a desire to run away, even if you don’t want to.

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It’s a powerful thing, this primal brain. It actually drives many more of
our actions every day than we’d really feel comfortable admitting. And
this primal brain, for one reason or another, views getting rejected as
just the worst.

Now, why might this be, you ask? Well, there is a very good reason:

When you were a baby, you were completely incapable of taking care of
yourself. Unable to talk, much less provide for your own needs, you
relied on your mother for everything.

She was your entire world. If she died, or abandoned you—if for any
reason you no longer received her care—you would definitely die. And
you would die quickly, too.

So it was fundamentally important for you to make sure that Mom went
nowhere while you needed her. That meant that if Mom did decide to go
somewhere, you pitched a huge fit until everyone got so annoyed with
you that they gave you what you wanted, and brought your mother back
to you.

As frustrating as this was for your mother, it was a behavior that has
remained with you all your life. And this leads us directly to why
rejection is such a big deal to your primal brain.

Your primal brain was taking care of you in those days when you were a
helpless little baby. It knew that rejection by your mother meant certain
death, and so it filled you with a desire to never get rejected. You’d
scream and cry and make all the most horrible noises a person can
make, because you hated getting rejected by your mother so very much.

In short, to your primal brain, rejection means nothing less than death.
And of course, your primal brain wants you to survive. So when it senses

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that you might be in a situation where you could get rejected, it fills you
with fear and anxiety.

It also makes you feel bad when rejection really does happen. It’s
difficult to fight, but knowing why it happens can help to soften the
feelings you get from having to experience it. That makes it much easier
to deal with rejection—and, as I’ll reveal later on, it also makes it much
easier to turn it around on her.

You’re a lot more logical and rational than you were when you were a
baby. At least, I hope so. If not, then you have bigger problems than
women, and you bought the wrong book.

But for those of us who are, we tend to think that our logical brain is
what rules us. We think of ourselves as making conscious, logical
decisions, and knowing why we made those decisions. But the primal
brain often has different ideas.

And so that’s how a girl who rejects you becomes a massive dead bird
around your neck. The feeling you get from that rejection can really cut
huge holes in any confidence you might be trying to project. Your primal
brain desperately wants that girl to like you, and feels personally
affronted when she doesn’t.

In fact, your primal brain might even start to make you feel like a total
loser. In this case, it becomes your greatest enemy, as your primal brain
begins to undermine your efforts without you realizing what’s
happening or really being able to do much about it.

That’s also where those depressed feelings come from after a long string
of rejections. Your primal brain is telling you that something is very
wrong. It believes that rejection by girls means that your genes aren’t
going to get passed on, and that means the end of your genetic line;
getting the girl’s attention is suddenly a matter not of social status or of

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sex, but of your very survival. And nothing is more important to your
deep, primal brain than survival.

This may sound odd to you at first, but it explains why rejection hurts so
much. And hopefully, it can help soften the blow when you have to deal
with a situation where a girl appears (yes, appears) to be rejecting you.

Can you guess how I know that it’s only an appearance? Well, I’ve been
in that exact situation many, many times. In fact, I created this technique
from interactions with hundreds of different women, so I know it works.

I know that most of the time, getting rejected is not the end of the
conversation. You can actually turn that situation around and get the girl
chasing you harder than ever before, once you understand how this
technique works.

In fact, I’ve done this technique so often, and seen it work so well, that
for me today, rejection is just the beginning of a good interaction. Let’s
get to the good stuff…

The process for reversing rejection –

1- Agree with her (Interrupt her expectation loop).
2- Act completely casual.
3- Claim the power and pretend as if you are rejecting her.

1- Agree with her (Interrupt her expectation loop).

You’ve been rejected before, right? You probably wouldn’t be reading
this if you hadn’t.

The reason I ask is this: when you got rejected, you probably analyzed
the situation and tried to figure out why she rejected you, right? And
you came up with some reason—probably something that was wrong

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with you—that caused her to reject you.

It probably sounded like this: she only likes tall guys. Or, she only likes
guys who look wealthy—or only guys who are wealthy. Maybe you told
yourself that if you were just more physically attractive, in better shape,
or sporting a sharper jawline, then maybe she wouldn’t have rejected
you.

Then, you may have done what I did: you begin to obsess about those
parts of yourself, and to try and find ways to “fix” everything that’s
wrong with you. Suddenly, getting the girl becomes about everything
but: I have to get in shape, make more money, buy a better car, and
upgrade my apartment before I can even start talking to a chick.

Because obviously, if a girl rejects me, it’s because she has the magic
power to see in my soul that I’m a fraud, right?

But of course, I’m here to tell you why none of that has anything to do
with anything.

The bottom line is this, when it comes to attracting a girl, and it doesn’t
matter what you look like or how big your bank account is: if you can’t
trigger intense feelings in a girl’s mind, she will never feel that primal
level of attraction for you.

When I say “primal attraction,” I mean the kind of attraction that

originates down in the depths of the primal brain we talked about
above. This is attraction that takes place below the level of conscious
reasoning, and it makes a girl do things and feel things she may not fully
understand.

If you can trigger feelings in this part of her brain, then nothing else
about you matters: she will pursue a bum to the ends of the earth if he

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can just do this one thing effectively.

It sounds hard to believe, I know, but I’ve seen it happen a hundred

times if I’ve seen it once. Hang around enough girls, and you’ll run
across guys who have this kind of effect. It’s electric, and most of the
ones who are good at it are complete naturals, not practiced masters
like me (and eventually, if you play your cards right, you).

These guys have a natural knack for producing intense feelings in

women, and women respond by following them around and begging for
their attention. They get the women addicted, and it becomes
impossible for her to say no under those circumstances.

On the flip side, if you don’t trigger those feelings, then that primal
attraction level never kicks in. She never feels any strong desire for you,
and so by default you get rejected. That hot girl who got 243 different
guys’ phone numbers today (and that was a slow Tuesday) needs a good
reason to talk to you, not a good reason to reject you.

The rejection happens automatically. Especially since many women

respond to never feeling any primal feelings of attraction with a guy
after first talking to him by finding the guy less attractive. There must be
something wrong with him, if he couldn’t trigger any feelings in me, her
primal brain says to itself.

So that guy goes home alone.

This is the truth of why things work the way that they do: everything
else you’ve heard before about why girls reject guys is just surface-level
noise and excuses. None of it matters at all, or even has anything to do
with whether the attraction is there or not.

Especially risky is believing the reasons that girls give for why they reject
guys. Because so much of this process takes place below the level of
conscious awareness, girls actually don’t know why they reject the guys

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they do. Their primal brain is after its own goals, and they’re left making
up reasons why they do the things they do, without ever an inkling of
why.

I’m sure you’ve seen those girls who claim to like one thing, but always
seem to act like they like something completely different, right? The girl
who tells you during your third six-hour conversation at 2 in the morning
that she just wants a guy who will be nice to her, and then shows up the
next day to hang out with a total jerk in tow—yeah, her.

She thinks she knows what she wants, but in reality, a very different kind
of guy tends to push her primal buttons. She may not even be aware of
this. Most girls who are like this are not aware that they are that way at
all. It’s all happening in the primal brain, and they have no idea.

She’s just suddenly attracted to this guy, even though it’s obvious to
everyone else around here that he is a complete bum. She doesn’t even
know why, so she makes excuses.

A girl will defend a guy far beyond the limits of reason if he can make
her feel this way. She’s overwhelmed by her feelings, and can’t help but
act on them.

But let’s get back to the subject at hand: when a girl rejects you, in her
mind she has gotten rid of you. She has a set of expectations as to what
happens next.

She’s not wrong in having them, either, because 99%+ of guys will do the
exact same thing once a girl rejects them. These girls have the
expectations that they do because they’ve seen hundreds of guys do the
exact same thing. There’s no reason to believe (until you give her one)
that you’re going to do anything different.

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When in fact, that’s precisely what you’re going to do.

She says, “I’m not really interested.”

He seems physically to droop, and he slinks away with his tail between
his legs, glancing up from staring at his walking feet to make sure
nobody saw him strike out big-time just now.

He can’t bear to look his friends in the eye, and she notices him glancing
over at her now and again for the rest of the night. But she never hears
from that particular guy again. Chances are, she won’t even remember
his name a few minutes after he’s gone.

Chances also are that another guy is going to come up to her, and try
one approach or another, and he’s also going to strike out. He’ll slink
away like the first guy, but she’ll run into him again later, a few drinks
further into an obnoxious drunk, and he’ll follow her around the bar
trying to get her to accept him.

Other guys will rage, call the girl names, or make up excuses as they
storm away in a dark mood. But in virtually all of these cases, the guy
becomes the one trying to convince the girl to change her mind. They
are the one (bear with me, here) who got rejected in the situation,
rather than the other way around. You can spot these guys a mile away:

“Please, please un-reject me? Please!” You can practically hear their
primal brains screaming things like this as they grovel desperately in
front of a girl who looks like she’d rather be anywhere but here.

You want to respect a guy like that for his persistence, but his approach
is just so lame that it takes away from the value of the guts he probably
put into his performance. He’s put her on a pedestal and himself in a
ditch, and he’s trying to beg her to come down and do him the favor of

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joining him. This never, ever works.

But there is good news to be had here, though you may scratch your
head wondering where and what it is. Here it is: from now on, when a
girl rejects you, don’t do any of those things. Don’t walk away, and
certainly don’t chase her around groveling all night. Have a little more
self-respect than that, and do what I tell you, instead.

What I’m going to tell you to do right here is going to sound completely
counterproductive. But trust me; the results are amazing. I’ve tried
every approach out there, and this one, despite the fact that it seems to
be the very opposite of what you want to be saying to a girl who’s trying
to reject you, is the one that works the best. This is the technique that
will actually break that cycle and get you back on your feet after a
seeming rejection.

When a girl rejects you, just agree with her.

Yeah, yeah, I’m an idiot, I don’t know what I’m talking about—get it all
out. Done? Good. Now be quiet and listen while I teach you how this
works.

The moment you refuse to either slink away or grovel, and instead
confidently and wholeheartedly agree with her decision to reject you,
you change the situation. All of a sudden, you are not just some guy
who’s just going to walk away. You’re unexpected. You are an oddity.
That means that you’re suddenly interesting.

What you have done is violate her expectation loop, and it throws her
off her game completely when you do this. She might be used to getting
approached by guys, but she is definitely not used to a guy who gets
rejected and just takes it in his stride.

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Much less a guy who actively agrees with her. Most guys are visibly
caught off guard, and some may practically go sprinting away from the
girl having never said a word.

Girls are used to that, however much they might not like it. After all, she
does want you to pass her tests and prove yourself to her. Because if you
do, that makes you more attractive to her. And who wouldn’t want to be
talking to a more attractive version of the same person?

Now, doesn’t this put you in the position of now having to walk away?
You did just agree with her that you two are not right for each other,
after all. It would seem to any logical observer that you’re now obligated
to put your money where your mouth is and set those feet to walkin’.

However, the truth is that you’re now in a better position to keep talking
to her than you would have been had you done virtually anything else.
This I know, because I’ve tried virtually everything else. I’ll explain why
as we go over the next few steps. But for now, let’s stick with the
moment of the rejection itself.

So let’s say, for example, that a girl tells you that she sees you as a really
good friend, and nothing else.Your first reaction is to start to feel bad,
because you failed, and because you got rejected.

Your primal brain probably kicks into high gear at this moment, and
starts screaming all sorts of encouraging things like “Great job! You blew
it, you idiot!” and “You’ll never find love!” and “I told you you’d fail at
getting laid!”

Ignore all the yelling from your primal brain. Right now, it’s more
hindrance than help, so kindly tell it to shut up.
Rather here is what you say to the girl - “You know what? You’re right. I
totally agree. We would get along much better as friends. Actually, I was
feeling kind of weird in this setting, myself.”

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Her head might spin around a few times, because you’ve just done the
one thing no guy (or only the very rare guy) has ever had the guts to do:
agree with her. You’ve just disarmed the one “up” she had on you in the
situation. This just isn’t how most guys react.

Most guys are on the floor by this point, and their buddies are thinking
about calling an ambulance. Just getting this far alone is enough to win
you major points that can make the difference between “no” becoming
“yes” and “no” staying “no.”

The unexpected response has another, side benefit, however, and it’s a
big one: because she’s surprised, thrown off, she’s going to feel a little
disturbed. A little curious, perhaps. Mystified, hopefully. This is a major
advantage for you, but it’s not going to make any sense until we get to
the next step.

So let’s go ahead and move on. You’ve agreed with the girl that the two
of you are just not right for each other at all. Now what?

2- Act completely casual.

You’ve heard the story of the tortoise and the hare before, right? The
hare was able to run far faster than the tortoise ever could, and yet the
tortoise eventually won the race. He just kept going, and persevering,
and because of that, he was able to win, despite the hare’s
overwhelming speed advantage.

Yes, this does have something to do with picking up women. In this case,
I want you to think of the different ways that you can act after getting
rejected by a girl as different animals in a race. But in this case, the
winner neither the fastest, nor the one who perseveres the longest.

In this case, the winner is the one who can keep his emotional calm, no

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matter what happens. The guy who can keep himself under emotional
control no matter what’s going on around him is the strongest guy in the
room. He’s also the one that the girls tend to swoon over. Why? He has
emotional strength.

Now, what does emotional strength have to do with attractiveness?

Girls love a guy with emotional strength, and it goes all the way back to
that same primal brain we’ve been talking about this whole time. A girl’s
primal brain is highly concerned with finding her a mate, and it knows all
sorts of tips and tricks to find out whether a guy would make a suitable
partner and father.

Unfortunately, it evolved back when men were hunting mammoths for

food and for sport, and when women were weaving baskets and
collecting oysters on the seashore.

So a girl’s primal brain first and foremost looks for a guy with emotional
strength, because that’s the kind of guy who can keep his head in a hairy
situation and still bring home that mammoth meat for mom and their
little screaming cave children.

Then again, that emotional strength also has value in real life. Because it
describes the ability to act regardless of your emotional state in any
situation, if you’re well-versed in handling tough people or hairy
situations and remaining cool, you’ve already mastered this technique in
some other area of your life. And it has practical applications
everywhere: the guy who can develop that kind of internal self-
discipline will have major advantages wherever he puts that skill to use.

So how does this tie in with rejection, an overcoming it? Well, here’s a
hint: if you agree with a girl’s decision to reject you, but emotionally you
feel rejected, then you’re doing just that: agreeing with her.

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She’ll pick up on your feelings before she ever hears anything you’re
saying. When you let her know that you’re feeling dejected, you show
her loud and clear that you are not an emotionally strong man, and thus
you lose attractiveness points in her book.

You’ll soon be back at your dark corner table cursing women and the
biological imperative that makes you chase them, because you let her
know loud and clear that you were not actually an emotional rock, but
just a guy who tried memorizing some stuff out of a book.

And we all know how well that book-learnin’ does in real life, right,
gentlemen?

But suppose you did the opposite instead, and you were able to stay
completely calm and casual. Let’s say you agreed with her that she was
right in rejecting you, but you really seemed okay with it. Now, instead
of playing into the girl’s expectation loop, you’ve completely broken it.
She doesn’t know what to do because she doesn’t often run into guys
like you.

As little of an effect her rejection has on you, that’s how monumentally

huge the impact will be on her. So do your best to absolutely not care.
The more you can master this feeling internally, the more effective this
technique will be for you in the long run.

Her expectations will be thrown to the wind by this point, if you can
totally keep your cool. But this technique does more than just that.
You’ve sent a message to this girl loud and clear: not only are you
emotionally strong enough to withstand her rejection, but she’s really
not important enough to you to warrant any kind of emotional
response.

You’ve let her know that you’re a lot bigger than anything that could
happen between you and this girl.

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Her response to your approach is not going to determine what you think
of yourself in the slightest, and that kind of independence is actually
sexy. It has that “you can’t have this” cachet that’s virtually impossible
to mistake in someone who genuinely has it.

Now, you and I both know that people in general and women especially
always seem to want precisely what they cannot have. You just became
something she can’t have. Even though she already said she wasn’t
interested, the sudden revelation that she couldn’t have had you even if
she’d wanted to changes the situation into something completely new.

You’ve made yourself more important in her eyes, and let her know loud
and clear that you are not affected at all by her rejection.

The real clincher with this technique is that once you take the first two
steps, even before you do anything to turn that rejection around, you’ve
already done a ton to communicate to her that you are a man of high
value. Not minding getting rejected, and showing her that you don’t
mind getting rejected, are a big part of that.

You become, in this moment, the guy who weathers the storm. You
become an unshakable man-rock who can take life as it comes at him
and come up smelling like roses.

Forget money and muscles: that’s what drives a girl nuts. That kind of
strength beats physical strength every day. And the best part is that
most girls have no idea that that’s what’s really going on.

They think they like a guy because of his haircut or his eyes or that thing
he said to them when there were at that fondue restaurant last
Saturday. But really none of those things is actually true.

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And guess what? In this case, she just found out the hard way that she
rejected that guy a moment too soon: she just learned what kind of man
he really is. Suddenly, she might be starting to regret her decision to
reject you.
This is why I say rejection is never the end—instead, it’s a beginning.

3- Claim the power and pretend as if you are rejecting her.

You did the hard part already, so congratulations.

This is officially the fun part.

Once you’ve got the girl where you want her—i.e., she’s rejected you
once and you stayed calm, cool, and collected, and agreed with her that
the two of you probably wouldn’t have worked together well anyway—
you can start to make the real magic happen. And by the time you’re
already here, you’ve successfully shaken the power in the situation from
her.

Now, it’s time to grab that power for yourself and let her know that
you’re in charge of the situation. Not only has she relinquished control,
you’re now going to use that control to reject her in the situation.

Do this successfully, and you’ll have put her on her heels: suddenly she
has to prove to you why she’s worth talking to. Otherwise, she just let
the most emotionally-strong man in the crowd get away from her. And
she doesn’t want that.

And even though she may have completely rejected you at first, and
even been really rude to you, you can turn the situation around and
make her feel an unreasoning desire to chase you harder than ever
before.

So how does this actually work? How would you, for example, use this

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technique in the real world?

Well, you already understand that you have to accept her rejection, and
in fact agree with it. Not only that, but you also have to do with a
straight face. That means no disappointment or sadness. You have to
remain completely casual.

Next, it’s time to start making noises as if you knew things were never
going to work out anyway between the two of you. You pretend that
you’re rejecting her for some reason, rather than letting her reject you.

So let’s say you’re talking to a girl, and she says something heart-
stopping like “I don’t think we’re probably a very good match for each
other,” don’t respond with begging, pleading, or that horrible squealing,
“but whyyyyyyy?” You’d want to respond by saying something along
these lines, instead:

“You know what? You’re right. I’m a pretty hard guy to handle, anyway. I
wasn’t sure if you were the kind of girl who could handle a guy like me,
but now it looks like you aren’t.”

Now, what did I just do, here? See if you can guess before I tell you.

What I’ve done here is to indirectly communicate to the girl that I am

glad that she rejected me. Why am I glad she rejected me?

Because I’m just too much too handle. I’m that one-in-a-hundred-billion
guy who women just can’t keep up with—she’d have to be really
exceptional to ever handle me. She picks up on this vibe that I am
sending out, and suddenly she also feels like I’m that one-in-a-hundred-
million guy. She suddenly has to prove that she can handle me.

Is this all starting to make sense? If not, then peruse some more of the

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examples below until you get it. If it does make sense, then peruse some
more of the examples below because you can never learn too much
about this subject, or spend too much time practicing.

Let’s try some more examples.

You’re talking to a girl in a public place who you just met. It’s not the
time of day when girls usually get hit on the most, so you caught her a
little off guard. Still, she seems standoffish.

But you’re determined like a bulldog because you know that’s the only
way to truly succeed, so you keep trying to talk to her. Finally, you gather
the courage to ask for her number.

She says, “I don’t give out my number to strangers.”

Don’t cave in or get scared. Instead, just smile at her knowingly, and
start nodding your head.

You say, “That’s a good call, because I’m definitely that stranger your
mother warned you about. You’re best served by staying away from me,
for sure. In fact, let me do you a favor and just get away from you before
any trouble happens.”

Keep that emotional stability high, and walk away like you really don’t
care. No looking back over your shoulder or hesitating to give her a
chance to stop you. Any betrayal of your poker face, and the effect is
lost. You have to really not care. If you can do this, and keep your cool,
you’ll hear her laugh, or stop you from leaving to continue the
conversation further.

Oftentimes, you’ll find that rejection doesn’t just come as a flat “no.”
Instead, the girl might try and play some kind of game with you. If

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you’ve ever experienced it, then you’ll be familiar with what I’m talking
about. She might say something crazy, or set up some impossible hoop
to jump through. Or, she might just give a simple challenge, like this:

She says, “I’ll give you my number if you buy me a drink.”

A lot of guys freeze right here, and that’s exactly what this game is
designed to get you to do. The girl isn’t really rejecting you, or even
making things hard for you. She’s just playing a game. Once you figure
this out, coming up with a response is easy.

You say,“Wow, are you always this demanding? You sound like my bratty
little cousin. Ugh… I’d better stay away from you.”

Comparing her to your bratty cousin is not a good image. It’s one of the
unsexier things you could compare her to, and it helps accomplish our
goal of putting you in control of the situation and taking her out of it.
She then has to turn around and show you why she isn’t really like your
bratty cousin at all—in fact, she’ll want you to think that she’s quite nice
and very attractive.

But if you give her that power too soon, or relinquish it without ever
taking it back, she’ll decide you’re just another spineless guy trying to
get lucky, and she’ll crush any chances you might have had with her.

She might try and reject you a little further into things. You might have
gone on a date or two, but you can tell she’s starting to get cold feet and
wanting to break things off. You can let this happen to you passively,
which is what most guys do, or you can try and fight it, which is what the
rest of the guys do. Neither works, for reasons you’ve already seen.

Instead, roll with her punches and refuse to let her get to you, even if
she tries throwing curveballs.

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For example, let’s say that she says, “You know, I really don’t want to
rush anything here. You’re nice, and all, but I just really want to keep my
options open for right now.”

You say, “Cool. In fact, I think we should just be friends. We work great
together as friends and, you know, we’re actually pretty similar. Ha!
That’s so weird. Hey, now how about you be a good friend and introduce
me to some of your hot friends, huh?”

You’ve not only thrown her off her game here by refusing to get
emotionally involved or upset when she says something you don’t like.
You’ve also done far more than that. You have let her know loud and
clear that if she’s going to reject you, you’re right on to the next. In fact,
you’ve gone so far as to nearly insult her by suggesting that you’d jump
on one of her hot friends the minute she thought about changing her
mind about you.

At this point, I think you’re starting to get a clear picture of how this
works. It’s a general principle, so I can’t very well take you through
anything a girl might say that would reject you. I can, however, tell you
that if you take this principle and start practicing it, it will become
second nature eventually.

And these techniques work best when they are second nature. You
won’t remember what I said on the third page, the second line down
when the hot girl is looking you right in the eye and saying “No” and
your blood is freezing in your veins. If that’s as deep as your knowledge
goes, then you’ll start stammering and eventually find yourself slinking
away with your tail between your legs.

But if you’ve got a solid base of experience, you really can shrug when
she tries to reject you, take control of the situation, and let her know
how things are going to be. She can try and convince you otherwise, but
ultimately you’re the rock of a guy who just walked over and took charge

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of this situation without a second thought.

And that guy always gets pretty much whatever he wants. You can apply
this same formula to any situation and reverse the rejection any girl
throws your way.

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