MODULE 1: ● Lack of alignment or

SELF-DEVELOPMENT INCONGRUENCE will cause

mental distress.
SELF-CONCEPT ○ The greater the level of
incongruence, the
● SELF-CONCEPT – refers to greater level of resulting
your awareness of yourself distress.

● IDEAL SELF
○ self that you aspire to be
○ how we want to be PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
○ idealized image
● PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
● ACTUAL SELF – using all the personal
○ the one that you actually resources (skills, talent, energy,
see time) to achieve life goals.
○ built on ○ PERSONAL
SELF-KNOWLEDGE EFFECTIVENESS
○ who we actually are depends on our INNATE
○ can be seen by others CHARACTERISTICS.
but we have no way of
truly knowing how others ● EXPERIENCE – includes
view us so ACTUAL knowledge and skills that we
SELF is our acquire in the process of
SELF-IMAGE cognitive and practical activities.

● SELF-KNOWLEDGE SKILLS THAT GREATLY INCREASE

○ derived from social EFFICIENCY OF A PERSON
interactions that provide
insight into how others 1. DETERMINATION – allows you
react to you to focus only on achieving a
specific goal without being
● There is NEGOTIATION distracted.
between the actual self and the
ideal self. 2. SELF-CONFIDENCE – appears
○ exemplified in social in the process of development;
roles result of getting aware of
○ ALIGNMENT is yourself.
important
○ The way I am is aligned 3. PERSISTENCE – makes you
with the way I want keep moving forward,
regardless of emerging
obstacles (problems, laziness)
 4. MANAGING STRESS – helps ● Realizes they control a
combat stress that arises in big part of their life
daily life ● Enjoy some level of
control
5. PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS ● They wish the movie will
– help cope with problems end but realize they have
encountered with a lack of no say in such things.
experience; adopt new ways to
achieve goals. 3. SCRIPTWRITER
● They actually CREATE
6. CREATIVITY – find the entire movie from her
extraordinary ways to carry out mind
a specific action that no one has ● They determine all of
tried to use. their actions throughout
the movie and how it will
7. GENERATING IDEAS – helps end
achieve goals using new, ● Has enormous control
original, unconventional ideas. over her life
a. IDEAS – a mental image ● Sees to it that the movie
of an object formed by of her life will turn out
the human mind beautiful
b. can use mind maps

POWER OF JOURNAL WRITING

THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THIS
WORLD: ● PURPOSE: to help you
become the SCRIPTWRITER of
1. MOVIEGOER your life
● Person watches the
movie of their life, ● 4 REASONS TO MAINTAIN A
admires some parts, and JOURNAL:
criticizes others
● They do nothing else 1. Cost-efficient &
● Feels like they have no available
control over their lives 2. Preventive & pro-active
● Most pathetic, miserable 3. Creative & Productive
people in the world 4. Personal & Private

2. ACTOR
● Does not only watch, but
realizes they are the
actor
MODULE 2: DEVELOPING THE GOOD – joy, peace, love, hope,
WHOLE PERSON serenity, humility, kindness,
benevolence, empathy, generosity,
ASPECTS OF THE SELF truth, compassion, faith

● Individuals are composed of 3

basic aspects of self:
MODULE 3: DEVELOPMENTAL
1. BODY - physical/tangible STAGES IN MIDDLE & LATE
aspects ADOLESCENCE
2. MIND - intellectual/conscious
aspects DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES
3. SPIRIT - emotional & intuitive
aspects ● HUMAN DEVELOPMENT -
Focuses on human growth and
● 8 ASPECTS OF changes across the lifespan
DEVELOPMENT
● Human being is either in a state
1. PHYSICAL SELF of growth or decline, but either
2. INTELLECTUAL condition imparts CHANGE
3. EMOTIONAL
4. SENSUAL DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES
5. INTERACTIONAL
6. NUTRITIONAL 1. Pre-natal (conception to birth)
7. CONTEXTUAL ● Hereditary endowments and
8. SPIRITUAL/LIFE FORCE sex are fixed
● All body features developed

2. Infancy (birth to 2 yrs)

STORY OF TWO WOLVES ● Foundation age, basic behavior
is organized
● Old Cherokee Indian story ● Ontogenetic mutation skills are
developed
● Two wolves are fighting inside
of us – evil and good 3. Early Childhood (2-6 yrs)
● Pre-gang age, exploratory,
● Which wolf will prevail depends questioning
on which you feed ● Language and elementary
reasoning is acquired
EVIL – anger, envy, sorrow, regret, ● Initial socialization
greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt,
resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, 4. Late Childhood (6-12 yrs)
superiority, and ego ● Gang and creativity age
 5. Adolescence (puberty to 18) ○ individual moves from
● Transition age from childhood to one stage by means of
adulthood successful resolution of
● Sex maturation & rapid physical problems encountered
development
● Individual is an active learner
6. Early adulthood (18 to 40)
● Age of adjustment to new T.H.I.N.K – guidelines for mindful
patterns (spouse, parent, speech
breadwinner, etc.)
Is what I want to say True?
7. Middle Age (40 to retirement) Is what I want to say Helpful?
● Transition age Am I the best one to say it?
● Physical and mental decline Is necessary to say it Now?
Is it Kind to this person and others?
8. Old Age (retirement to death)
● Rapid physical and mental
decline

HAVIGHURST’S DEVELOPMENTAL
TASKS

● Robert J. Havighurst:
DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS
THEORY

● Proposed a bio psychosocial

model of development wherein
at each stage are influenced by:
○ Biology ( physiological
maturation & genetic
makeup)
○ Psychology (personal
values & goals
○ Sociology (specific
culture)

● MAIN ASSERTION:
○ development is
continuous throughout
the entire lifespan
○ occurs in stages
LIVING MINDFULLY Tool 9: Foster Leadership. Engage
fully in life and in community. Share
Tool 1: Breathe Mindfully. Use your your unique talents and generosity so
breath as an anchor to still your mind that others can also be inspired.
and bring your focus back to the
present moment. Tool 10: Be Peace. Cultivate your own
inner peace, becoming an agent for
Tool 2: Listen Deeply. Listen with compassionate action and social good
intention; let others fully express
themselves and focus on
understanding how they think and feel.
MODULE 4: CHALLENGES OF
Tool 3: Cultivate Insight. See life as MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE
it is, allowing each experience to be
an Physical Development
opportunity for learning. ● Most girls have completed the
physical changes related to
Tool 4: Practice Compassion. puberty by age 15.
Consider the thoughts and feelings of ● Boys are still maturing and
others and let tenderness, kindness gaining strength, muscle mass,
and empathy be your guides. and height and are completing
the development of sexual
Tool 5: Limit Reactivity. Observe traits.
rather than be controlled by your
emotions. Pause, breathe, and choose Emotional Development
a skillful response based on thoughtful ● May stress over school and test
speech and nonviolence under every scores.
condition. ● Is self-involved (may have high
expectations and low
Tool 6: Express Gratitude. Practice self-concept).
gratitude daily and expand it outward, ● Seeks privacy and time alone.
appreciating everyone and everything ● Is concerned about physical
you encounter. and sexual attractiveness.
● May complain that parents
Tool 7: Nurture Mutual Respect. prevent him or her from doing
Appreciate our common humanity and things independently.
value different perspectives as well as ● Starts to want both physical and
your own. emotional intimacy in
relationships.
Tool 8: Build Integrity. Cultivate ● The experience of intimate
constructive values and consistently partnerships
act with respect, honesty, and
kindness.
Social Development ○ Develops a person’s
● shifts in relationship with psychological hardiness
parents from dependency and and social interest
subordination to one that ○ conveys the idea that all
reflects the adolescent’s human beings are
increasing maturity and worthwhile, simply
responsibilities in the family and because they exist
the community, ○ LIFEBLOOD OF A
● Is more and more aware of RELATIONSHIP
social behaviors of friends.
● Seeks friends that share the SPIRITUAL CONNOTATION OF
same beliefs, values, and ENCOURAGEMENT
interests. ● Hebrews 3:11 “Encourage
● Friends become more one another daily
important.
● Starts to have more intellectual PSYCHOLOGICAL IDEA
interests. ● Developed by psychologist
● Explores romantic and sexual ALFRED ADLER in the EARLY
behaviors with others. 20th CENTURY
● May be influenced by peers to ● Continued to evolve with
try risky behaviors (alcohol, RUDOLPH DREIKURS
tobacco, sex).
5 WAYS WE DISCOURAGE
Mental Development ● We set standards that are too
● Becomes better able to set high for others to meet because
goals and think in terms of the we are overly ambitious.
future. ● We focus on mistakes as a
● Has a better understanding of way to motivate change or
complex problems and issues. improved behavior.
● Starts to develop moral ideals ● We make constant
and to select role models. comparisons (self to others,
siblings to one another).
● We automatically give a
negative spin to the actions of
ENCOURAGEMENT 101: The others.
Courage to Be Imperfect ● We dominate others by being
overly helpful, implying that they
● ENCOURAGEMENT are unable to do it as well.
○ Key ingredient for
improving SOCIAL INTEREST - tendency for
relationships with people to unite themselves with
others other human beings and to
accomplish their tasks in
cooperation with others
TO BE AN ENCOURAGING PERSON, and in so doing, make
ASK YOURSELF: Whatever I say or do, meaningful contribution in
will it bring me closer together or making this world a better place
farther apart from this person? to live in.

● DEVELOPMENTAL
POWER OF PERSONAL
STAGES
DECLARATIONS
PERSONAL TIMELINE
● DECLARATIONS ● Portrays the INFLUENTIAL
○ Meant to encourage you EVENTS and happenings of a
to take control of the person’s life so that he can
influences in your life understand where he has gone
○ Suggestions as to what wrong and right in the past.
positive things you can ● IT HELPS TO PLAN THE
speak about your own life
FUTURE IN A
instead of accepting
CONSTRUCTIVE WAY
whatever has been said
about you in the past

ADDITIONAL (ACTIVITIES)

● ASPECTS OF THE SELF

A REAL WINNER is one who is able

to:
● win over his/her battles and
difficulties in life and turns them
into a learning and glorifying
experience;
● find meaning in pleasant and
unpleasant events in his life;
● live in peace with difficult people
and difficult situations;
● win the goodwill of others, their
respect and admiration;
● get what he wants using
win-win strategies; never at the
expense of others;
● discover and use opportunities
to his best advantage;
● develop and use his talents and
abilities to the best advantage