Chatting Step
Chatting Step
lmehow l
onghaveyoubeenintoonl
i
nedati
ng,t
ellmeabouty
ourex
per
ienceswi
th
menonli
nehowmanymenhaveyouchatt
edwit
honl
i
nebeforenow?
Iam newtoonl
inedati
ng,regi
ster
edsomeweeksbackbutIhav
enotloggedi
nsincet
hen,
j
ustdeci
dedtogivei
tat r
yandIcontactedy
ou.
.Ir
eall
ydonothavesomanycluesonhow
onl
i
nedati
ngisdone.
Wit
htheExperi
enceyouhav
ehadsof
ardoy
our
eal
l
ybel
i
evet
haty
oucanf
indy
oursoul
mat
e
t
hroughonl
inedati
ng?
Asf ormeIbel i
eveandalsohav et
hecouragethatIwil
lfi
ndthewomanwhom Iwhi chto
spendt her estofmyl i
fewit
h.Idobeli
eveinsoulmates. Ihavefr
iendsthathav
efound
thei
rsandl iv
ev er
yhappil
ywi t
hthem,andIhav edeci
dedawhi l
eagot hatIwouldnev
er
"set
tle"foranyonelesst
hanmysoul mat
e.
Hav
eyouev
erbeenmar
ri
edwi
thki
dsbef
ore?
Wher
eor
igi
nal
l
yar
eyouf
rom?Andwher
edoy
oul
i
ve
Iam ori
ginall
yf r
om Crest-
wood,Washi ngt
onDC,justr
elocatedtomynew homel ocat
edat
Uni
onSt,Br ooklynNY,i
sagoodenv i
ronmentcomparetomyhousei nCali
for
nia,i
t'
saSi ngl
e
Famil
yduplext hathasfourroom anditisseat
edi
nan6acr esoflandithasalakethatruns
acr
ossitbutr ightnow am buil
dingaswi mmingpooli
nt herebutthewor kstoppedsincei
camebackt owor khereinU.SGulfofMex i
co
Doy
oubel
i
evei
ndi
stancer
elat
ionshi
p?
YesIdobeli
eveindist
ancer
elat
ionshi
p,becauseIdohav
ethef
ait
hIwi
l
lmeett
hewoman
whom wi
l
lloveandcheri
shmeasIdo.
Ar
eyouwi
l
li
ngt
orel
ocat
eify
ouf
indy
oursoul
mat
e?
Howhasy ourpr
esentmarit
alli
feaf
fect
edy ousofar?
Bei
ngl onelyhasreal
l
yaffectedmeal otbecauseashumansweal lneedsomeeonet olean
oninhar dtimesandsomeonet ot
alktoandshar ethosecheer
fulmoment swith..
.Andmy
sonalsohasnotbeenhappybecauseheal soneedsomeonet ol
oveandcallamot her.Ineed
awomanwhowoul dacceptmeandmysonandmakeushappyandIwi l
lbesohappyi fshe
gi
vesmet hechancetodothesamef orherasIwil
lloveherandl
ayagoodf oundationforher
ki
d(s)also
What'syourrel
igion?
Wellthi
sisav erydeepquest ion.
..Mymom hadbapt i
zedmei npent ecostalchurch,butshe
wasgoodchr i
stainandMyf at
herj ustbel
ievedinGod.Iam asear cherf orthetruthbetween
eart
handheav ensi nceveryyoungsoIhadt ost udyverydeepl yallthereli
gions.
Nowday sIsayt hatallthereli
gionsar egood,butwei nterpretedev eryonel i
kewewantandI
bel
ieveinsomesuper iorpower ,(y
oucancal l
edGod,Uni v erse,powerofmi nd,any t
hingyou
want)Ibeli
evethatwear enotalone,wear enott heonl
ypl anetthathav elif
e.
Ibeli
eveinCosmoet hi
c..
.t
hatmeani ngt obeethicandr espectev eryonei nthisearth,andt
hat
i
fyout
hinkwr
ongofsomeone,
youar
edoi
ngt
hewr
ongt
oyoursel
ffi
rst
.
AreyouaGodf ear
ingwoman?
Iam aGodfeari
ngman, IdohavemyChrist
ianfait
htocredi
tformyl
i
fe,
atti
tudeandsuccess;
however
,Idon'
tuset henameofGodt oat tr
actwomenf ormychar
acterspeaksf
oritsel
f.I
am nott
hetypeofmanwhoi sfocusedenti
relyonhimsel
f.
What
’sYourFavor
it
ecolor
?
Myf
av or
it
ecolor
sarebothwhi
teandred,becauset
hewhit
estandsforapur
eheartandthe
r
edstandsforl
ove,sowhenyouaddthebothofthem t
oget
heryouhaveapurehear
tedlove,
t
hati
smebecauseIdohav eapurehear
tforlove.
Doyouseekforapart
icularagebefor
ecomingintoonli
ne?Howoldar
eyou?
Idonotseekforaparti
cularage,
becauseIfeelageisnumber
s,youdonotknowwher
elove
canhityouupfrom.I
tcanbesomeoney oungerthanyouorper
hapsol
derthany
ou.I
'm 49
year
sold.
Howoftendoyouli
ketogoout;Imeangoi ngparty
ing?
Idonotgooutoft
enthatmuchev ersi
nceIl ostmylat
ewi
fe,
becausegoi
ngoutaloneseems
notenj
oyabl
etome,sot hefewti
met hatIgooutmustbewithmySonandIwillbelooki
ng
for
wardtogooutwit
hthatspeci
alladysomeday .
Whati
nspi
resy
oui
nli
fe?
God
Doyoubel
i
evei
ntr
uel
ove?
Yes
Howmanyr
elat
ionshi
pshav
eyoubeeni
ntobef
orey
oucamei
ntoonl
i
nedat
ing?
Ihadt hr
ee( 3)deepr el
at i
onshipsi nmyl i
fe;Thef ir
stIhadwaswhenIwasst il
lat eenager
wi t
hagi r
lnamedAmber ,wewer ebothat tendi ngt hesameschoolshewasf rom Chi cago
united states,t hen we used t o see each ot herev erydayhel pi
ng each ot herwi th our
assignment ,unfor tunatelyourf inalexam athi ghschool ,shet ol
dmet hatherpar entswi l
lbe
l
iv i
ngt hecount r
yf orCanadaandshewasgoi ngwi t
ht hem al so,IfeltlikeBAD! !
!,thatmeans
thaty ouaregoi ngt oliv
eme, shesai dshedoesnotknowwhatt odo, sot heyleftIwasr eally
unhappydur i
ngt hatper iod.
Thesecondwaswi thmyl atewi f
eandwasmyl ongest .Ifir
stmetherwhenicamef r
om
trai
ningf r
om mi l
itaryschool ,shej ustfi
nishedl awschoolt henandwegotal ongr eallywel l
,
aftermont hsofbeenf riendsir eali
zediwasi nlov ewi t
hher ,butwheniaskedheiwasduet o
gof ormyf ir
stmi ssi on,thenshewasscar edt hatsomet hingmi ghthappent ome, butaf ter
twomont hswesaweachot hersandt hatmadeusbot hv eryhappy ,wet hengotmar r i
edand
startedli
fehappyandweshar edalotofmemer i
ost ogether, wepl ay
edgames, shet aughtme
howt oswim andial sotaughtheral otofthings, y earslaterkel vi
ncameandbr oughtl ightint o
thehome, iwasi ncampatsy ri
awhenshet oldmeshewascar r
yingmybaby ,
ifeltv erygood
thenweeksl aterwhenmymi ssionwasov er,iwentst raighthomeandt ookgoodacr eofher
untilshegavebi r
th,shedi edaboutt wel
vey earsafterkel
vi
nwasbor nandiwasr eall
yhur t,i
couldnoteatordoany t
hing,ifel
taloneandr eject
edintheworld,ihat
edeverythingar ound
me. AfterherdeathIst ayed2y earsand5mont hsalonewereIhadav er
yspecialladyNamed
Ana;shewasf rom canada,It houghtIwasgonnagetmar r
iedtoher.West ayed3mont hs
togetherandIl at
erf oundt hatshewasl i
eingandhascheat i
ngonme,soIhadt obr eakup
withherandi thurtssomuchandsobadbutIguessshedoesn' tdeser
vemeorper hapswe
arenotmadet obe
SincethenIhav ebeensi ngleuntil
youcamei ntomyl if
e.
Whatar
eyourgoal
sordreamsinli
fe?
Mygoal
sanddreamsinlif
earetobewi t
hthewomanofmyl
i
fewhom Iwi
l
lcal
lmywi
fe,
who
Iwi
ll
lov
eandwewi l
lbot
hl i
vet
ogetherandhav
ealovi
ngf
ami
lyf
orev
er.
Doy ousmokecigaret
tesordr
inkalcohol
ordodrugs?
Ihadnev ersmokedinmyl i
feneit
heruseddrugs,andnev
erpr
etendtoo,i
tsnotf
orme.I
fI
dri
nkalcohol,WellIdrinksocial
l
y ,i
fIgo outwi t
hsomef r
iendsandt heyar
edri
nki
ng
somethingli
ghti
tsokay.
Doyouli
kesport
s?Andwhatar ey ourfavor
it
esports?
c
Doyouhaveanyfavori
tesportt
eam y ousupporti
nparti
cul
ar?
Manchest
erUnit
edf oot
ballcl
ubt hat
’smyt eam,Ilovethei
rpat
ter
nofpl
ayingwhenIam i
n
townIl
ovetr
avel
li
nggoingt owatchtheirmatchtoget
herwit
hmydaught
er.
Howdoy oufeelwhensomeoneupsety
ou?Andwhatwi
l
lyoudotocalmyour
sel
fdown?
Idofeelunhappyfort
hatmoment;gotoqui
tepl
aceandli
steni
ngtoacoolmusi
cthatwi
l
l
cal
m medown.
Whatt
urnsyouoff
?
Any
thi
ngfake,
li
es,decei
t,cheat
ing,
quar
rel
i
ngandar
gumentt
urnsmeof
f.
Whatisyourf
avor
it
ewor
d?
Smil
es!!
!
whatwoul
ditbe&why?I
fyoucoul
dchangesomet
hingabouty
our
sel
f,whatwoul
ditbe&why
?
I
fyoucoul
dchangesomethi
ngabouty
oursel
f,
What '
sthebestdr
eam y
ou'veeverhad?
Aftermyf at
herdi
edsuddenlyinsomey earsagoIdreamedhewasali
vesi
tti
nginmyl
ivi
ng
room play
ingwit
hmydaught erAngel
inaandhelookedupatmeandsmil
edandsai
dhel
oved
me.
Sot
ellmewhati
syourfavor
it
efood?
Myfav
ori
tef
oodisSpaghett
iandFri
edChi
ckenbot
hst
ewed.
What’
syourf
avor
it
edri
nk?
Myfavor
it
edri
nksRedWines,
butIpr
eferChampagnemor
eli
kel
y
Whatmoti
vatesy
ou?
I
'
m moti
vatedbyli
fei
tsel
f,becausel
i
fei
swhaty
oumadei
t.
Whatat tr
act
syoutoaman?
Trut
hf ul
nessandr
espect
.Itreal
l
ymakesmegetcl osertoaladyi
st heper
soninsi
de,Ido
considersthatmoreimport
antbecause beaut
yfades wi
thtime butthe per
son i
nsi
de
appreciat
eswit
hti
me.
Whatar ey ourl
ikesanddisli
kes?
Ili
kereal t
hings;Il
ikehonesty,t
ruthful
,caringandobedientpersonIdi
sli
kesdr
amas,cheati
ng,
l
ies,disrespectandr acist.
.Iwantsomeonet hatwilllovemef orme,regardl
essofage,
dist
ance,languagebar r
ier,cul
turaldif
ferencesandallthat.BecauseIdobeli
eveloveknows
nobarriersandi st
heconquer orofitallandallt
hings.
Areyoualef
torrighthandedper
son?
Iam ari
ghthandedperson
Doy ouanytat
toosandbodypi
erci
ngs?
Idon'thav
eanytatoo,
butIdohavemylef
tearpi
ecedandsomet
imesIdowearear
ings.
..
lol
Canyoudr
iveavehicl
e?Doyouhaveacar?
Ihav
e2carsthatIdri
vewhenIam backi
ntown..
Butlovet
ogetanewoneformysel
fandthe
l
adywhohappenstobetheappl
eofmyey esandthatIbel
i
eveIwi
l
laccompl
ishv
erysoon.
Sot el
lmewher ewer eyouborn,whatar esomeoft hepl acesy ouhav ev i
sit
ed?
Iam abor nandbr oughtupatCr estwood, Washi
ngtonDC.Ischool edthereandl i
v edwithmy
parentsthere.Ihav ebeenoutoft heSt atessever
alt i
mesondi fferentoccasion,may beona
workt r
ip,orvacationtri
p.Mywor khast ookmet oplacesl ike,I
taly,Spai
n,Mal aysia,Engl
and.
whileonv acationtripIandmydaught erhav ebeent o,AjaxofNet herl
ands, Swit
z erl
and,It
aly
,
Yugoslavia,Greece,DublinofIr
eland,Ber muda,Pari
sofFr ance,RioDeJanei r
oofBr azil
,and
Dubai,andIwoul dl ovemynextv acati
ont ri
ptobewi ththatspeci alsomeone.
Whatisyourbiggestf
ear?
Mybiggestfearisl
oosingany
oneandIdon’
twantt
olooseany
onecl
oset
omeagai
n.
Whathasbeent hebestdeci
si
onyou'
veevermade?
Sendingmydeardaught er
sawayforeducat
ionabroadhasbeenmybestdeci
sion!Inev
er
thoughtIwoul
dbeabletocopebutIr
eali
zedthei
rst
udycomesfir
st
Descri
betheper
fectv
acati
ony
ouhavehad?
Fl
yingtoPari
s,t
hentaki
ngatrai
nthr
oughFrance,Swi
tzer
land,I
tal
y,Yugosl
avi
a,andGr
eece.
Thenspendi
ng1monthonaGreekIsl
andtoget
herwit
hmydaught
er.Ihadt
het
imeofmyl
i
fe,
andthesear
emyfondestmemori
es.Iwi
l
ldoitagai
n.
What3phy si
calfeat
uresdoyougetcompl
i
ment
sonmost
?
MyEy es,Smiles,ski
n/compl
exi
on,andsomet
imesmyvoi
cet
oo.Peopl
eli
kei
tforsome
r
eason.
Whatlanguagescanyouspeak?Whichwoul
dyouliketol
ear
n?
IspeakEnglishf
luent
lyandunder
standl
i
ttl
eIt
ali
an,hopi
ngtol
ear
nmor
eIt
ali
anandspani
sh
i
fIdohav ethechanceto.
Whataret
hef i
vemostimpor tantthi
ngsi
nyourli
fe?
God,Fami
ly,healt
h,Li
vi
ngt ohel pother
swithoutaski
ngf
orany t
hingi
nret
urn.Fi
nal
lyl
i
ving
l
ongenoughtot el
lyouthatIthinkyouaregreat
.Rememberthi
s.Ili
vet
ohel
pandi fy
ouever
needmyhelp,i
t'
stherefortheaskingGoodluckandmuchwisdom.
Whatdoyouspendmostofy
ourmoneyon?
I
nvest
ingonbusi
ness,
goi
ngshoppi
ngandspendi
ngv
acat
ionabr
oadwi
thmydaught
er.
Whatwoul dyoucookforadateathome?
Smiles!
!!Thati
sgoingtobeasecretebecauseIwil
lbemakingherfav
orit
emeal
.
..Ev
enifIdo
notknowhowt o,bef
orethenImustgetinstr
ucti
onsf r
om goodqual
it
ychef
sandalsoread
cookingbooks,t
omeetupt operf
ecti
onthedayIwillcookt
hemeal.
Whatar eyourfav
orit
emov i
es?
TheAv engers,
patri
ot,
RomeoandJul i
et,
Pearl
Harbor
,Fl
yBoy
s,Ti
tani
c,Super
mansomanyof
them butthi
sfewIhav ej
ustli
stedar
emyt opl
ist
.
Whatareyourfav
orit
eTVShows?
Merl
in,
Smallvi
l
le,OneTri
l
lHi
ll
,Ever
ybodyHatesChri
s,El
l
enDeGener
es,
Opr
ah,
TSCC,
Her
oes,
Jer
rySpri
nger,
Keepingupwi
ththeKadershi
ans…et
c.
Whatbr
andofmusi
cdoy oulike?
Il
ovebl
ues,
80s,
90s,Rnb,Jazz,HipHop,
Gospel
Jams,
RocknRol
l
.
Doyouhaveafavor
it
emuci
siani
npart
icul
ar?
hmmm, Phi
lCol
li
nsisani
cewhoinspi
resmei nt
ermsofmusi
cfort
hathei
smynumberone
muci
sian
Whatabouty
ourf
avor
it
emusi
cband?
Mi
neisABBA
Doyouthinkyoucanbet r
ustedbyy
ourman?
YesIcanbet r
ust
ed,becauseIam r
eadyt
oopenupmymi
ndandmyhear
tandal
sol
aydown
myli
feforthewomanIl ove.
Whatposi t
ivelessonshav eyoul
ear
nedf
rom y
ourpastr
elat
ionshi
pst
hatwi
l
lhel
pyou
succeedinfut
urer el
ati
onshi
ps?
Love,Tr
ust,Understandi
ng.
Sotel
lmewhentr
avel
l
ingdoyoutr
avelal
oneoryoul
i
ketravel
l
ingwit
haCompani
on?
Il
ovetr
avel
l
ingwi
thmydaught
er,
becausesheismyonl
yf ami
lyt
hatIhav
enow
Marri
aget
heysay"I
sForBetter
,ForWorse"doyoubel
iev
einthi
spri
nci
ple?
YesIdobeli
eveinthat
,becausethati
swher eyouhavetoshow t
hatyoulov
eyourpar
tner
ver
ymuch.
Onaser i
ousnot e;haveyoueverthoughtofl
eavi
ngy ourcount
ryi
nsear
choft hemany ou
wanttobewi thi
nthefutur
e?
YesthatiswhyIam her eononli
nedatingsot
hatIcanf i
ndawomanfrom anot
hercount
ryI
l
earnfrom hercul
tureandal
soshelearnsfr
om mycult
ure.
Howdoy ounor
mallyspendy
ourlei
suret
ime?
Li
steni
ngtomusic,
Cuddli
ngupreadi
ngamagazi
neorwat
chi
ngTV,
Cooki
ng.
Howmuchdoy ouenjoywalki
nginthepark?
Ienj
oyi
tal
ot;
feelthefreshai
rofthenature,
viewi
ngt
hebeaut
if
ulgr
eent
rees.
Ify
ouareatal
ooseendwhataresomeoft
hef
oll
owi
ngt
hingsy
oudo?
Iwil
lhav
ehopeandnevert
ogiv
eup.
Whatdoyouthi
nkisthebi
ggestmist
aket
hatmen/womenmakeint
heirr
elat
ionshi
ps?
Nott
rust
ing,
under
standi
ngandtry
ingtof
indt
imeandshar
ethi
ngswit
heachot her
s.
Ify
oucoul
dwakeupt
omorr
owwithanysuperpower,whatwoul
ditbe?
Hmm, t
hatwoul
dbet
hepowerofcl
arkkentalsoknownassuperman,Iwannabet
heonet
o
savet
heday.
Descri
besomeoft hemostimpor
tantthi
ngsi
nyourli
fe?
Mydaughtershappinessandmehavingacomplet
efami l
yist
hemosti
mpor
tantt
hingIpr
ay
fori
nmylife.
DoYouliketore-
marr
yagain?
Icanremarr
yagainwhenshelov
emeandlov
emyDaught
ersomucht
hatshecar
eaboutt
he
famil
ybeentoget
herasonebigf
ami
l
ywit
hsomuch
I
fy ouaref
oundguil
tyofacri
me, wouldyouadmity
oursel
fandacceptyourmistakes?
Iwi l
ladmi
tmyself,acceptmymi stakes,andf
acetheconsequences,becauseIam aGod
feari
ngman,andIdoabidetothetr
uth.
I
fyouseesomebodyyoudon'tknowwhoneedshelp,
wouldyoubeofanysupport
?
YesIwoul
dhelpinanyway,becauseGodi
nheav ensay
si ti
sgoodtohelpthosethatar
ein
need,
andhelov
esacheerf
ul gi
ver.
Inarelat
ionshiphowdoy ouseeasi t
uati
onwher ebythewomanear nsmor emoneyt hanthe
man?
Agoodr elati
onshi
pwher etwoloversunderstandeachother
,they'
reconcer
nedforeachother
andtheyr espectoneanother,Idon’
tthi
nkt hatther
ewillbeprobl
em aboutthat
,tomei sno
probl
em asf arastheybothlovethei
rsel
ves.
Areyoufi
nanci
all
ystabl
e?
YesofcourseIam f
inanci
all
ystabl
e,Idor
ecei
veahi
ghi
ncomet
her
eisnoneedf
ormet
obe
afr
aidofanyfi
nanci
alsi
tuat
ion.
Whati
sYourbestMoment?
MybestmomentwasthedayIwenttot
hehospi
talwhenmywifewasgi
vi
ngbirt
handIhear
d
t
hevoiceofmydaught
ercr
yingandt
henIknewI
'
m af at
herwi
thsomuchjoyi
nmyheart.
Yourworsemomenti
nli
fe?
Waswhenmyl at
ewif
ehadanaccidentandr
ushedt
othehospi
talandbef
oreget
ti
ngt
heret
o
meethershewasdead. .
Andsi
ncet henIhavemademypr omi setotakegoodcar
eof
Angel
inaandt
oputsmil
eonherf
ace.
Doy
oul
i
kehol
dinghandsandexchangi
ngcasual
kisseswi
thy
ourpar
tner
?
Yes.
.Hol
dinghercl
oseandmakeherf
eel
thewar
mthofmybodywhi
l
eki
ssi
ngher
.
Whatposi t
ivelessonshav eyoul
ear
nedf
rom y
ourpastr
elat
ionshi
pst
hatwi
l
lhel
pyou
succeedinfut
urerelati
onshi
ps?
Love,t
rust,
understandi
ng..
Haveyoueverthoughtofleavingyourcountr
yinsear
chofthemany ouwantt
obewi t
hinthe
fut
ure?
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